33. The Comparison Spiral: Why Other Women's Wins Feel Like Your Loss
You're happy for her… and you're devastated. Both at the same time. Her engagement, her promotion, her success—it feels like your loss. And then the spiral begins: "Why her and not me? What's wrong with me?"
This isn't jealousy. It's neuroscience. Social comparison theory shows we compare ourselves to people similar to us—and their wins activate the same brain regions as physical pain. When she achieves what you want, your brain interprets it as injury.
This episode unpacks why women are conditioned into competitive scarcity, how the comparison spiral traps you (trigger → counterfactual…
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