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ASPERGERS in adults 9 way for YOU to spot the symptoms · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So Asperger's in adults. In this video, we're going to be
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  covering nine ways that you can spot Asperger's and somebody
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  quickly coming up. Hey, I'm Dan.
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  I have Asperger's syndrome, ADHD, OCD and dyslexia.
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  In this video, I'll be covering some symptoms that have been
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  proven to help identify Asperger's and somebody.
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  Hey everyone, welcome back to the Asper world where we
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  understand autism from an autistic person's point of view.
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  And so before we get into the video, I just want to ask you
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  guys a quick question and I would love to know what your
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  background, if you're a parent or partner or loved one of
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  somebody who's on the spectrum or you're a healthcare
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  professional or industry professional in the field, let
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  me know in the comments below just because I'd love to start
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  that conversation with you. OK, so let's get started.
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  Number one, people with Asperger's syndrome will find
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  social situations very confusing and they won't really understand
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  a lot of the social cues where typically people understand body
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  language a lot more with social cues like whose turn is to talk
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  next, when to finish talking, how long to talk for what, the
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  boundaries and that conversation and things like that.
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  But people will Asperger's syndrome.
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  listen to this podcast. Just sometimes don't have that
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  ability and this is one way to identify it.
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  And it's super common within people with Asperger syndrome.
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  I myself suffer from this issue as well.
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  So social situations can be very confusing.
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  And because of that, I kind of tend to ignore and isolate
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  myself from social situations. I don't want to get involved and
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  I avoid them like the plague. This is all down to the fact
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  that autism affects the communication part of the brain
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  and This is why it's a neurological disorder.
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  And this is how you can really tell.
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  It's like the first steps of really telling if somebody has a
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  neurological issue where there may be something on the autism
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  spectrum there. So this is a really good one to
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  look out for. So number two, people with
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  Asperger's syndrome will find it quite difficult to make small
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  talk. Now, small talk is the
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  conversation that people have in social situations that just kind
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  of comes naturally to them and they have this natural ability
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  to just talk to somebody who they may have met in the bus
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  stop or in a shopping centre or whatever.
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  But people lost burger syndrome have a huge issue in engaging in
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  this talk. I mean, how do you start a
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  conversation? It's quite difficult.
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  I find it quite difficult to start a conversation with a
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  stranger or somebody I don't really know or somebody who I've
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  just encountered for a few seconds.
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  I mean, I'm not sure why there needs to be a conversation in
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  the 1st place. But this is something that I
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  found that I do differently to a lot of other people and that
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  I've always kind of like notice that this is a trait.
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  So when you're dealing with somebody who you think maybe on
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  the autumn spectrum, lookout for this fact that they more often
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  than not will have difficulties with small talk.
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  OK, so #3 the person with Asperger's syndrome may find it
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  difficult to have some imagination and, or just imagine
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  imaginative story writing or when someone telling the story,
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  they can't really imagine it. I have this massive issue,
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  right? So this is an example from me.
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  My girlfriend, she'll come in and she'll say like, I did this
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  and work today and this person's over here and they stood there
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  and they had this thing here and there was this position there.
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  And I'm just like, I have no idea what, I can't imagine how
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  the layout of her office looks or whatever.
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  I can't understand how you know the layout of, of the, the, the
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  school or whatever. It's really difficult.
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  I have to really see it with my own eyes to understand it.
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  And I find this really difficult.
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  And it actually kind of also effects my directions as well.
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  And I'm like, when we're driving someone, we're trying to find
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  someone, my directions are really poor because I can't
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  imagine what's next and stuff. So this is something to lookout
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  for because it's a huge, huge one that's, you know, definitely
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  effects people on the autumn spectrum with Asperger's
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  syndrome. Number four, people with
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  Asperger's syndrome are normally pretty good with picking up
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  details and facts about something that they may be
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  really into. So it's fine.
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  Details are quite often common. So for instance, when I, when I
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  first met a guy who I'm not friends with called Tom, he, I
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  noticed that he changed his trousers during the day.
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  And we were in, we were in a college course together and
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  halfway through the day he changed his trousers or his
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  hoodie. And I'd always noticed that he
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  changed his clothes. And I'd always say to him like,
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  hey, you know, you're changing your clothes.
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  Or like when somebody does something quite minor, like they
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  maybe change their hair halfway through the day, I'll notice
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  that the changes there. And so those small, small
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  details are really interesting because a lot of people just
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  ignore them and they don't really realize them.
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  But people with asparagus syndrome really find those fine
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  details. And I'm good with facts.
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  Like I love learning about facts and I always retain information
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  about facts. I don't know why, but I find
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  this fascinating. But people on the autism
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  spectrum definitely retain these facts, especially with asparagus
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  syndrome. It's a crucial 1 to look out for
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  Now #5 is social imagination or trying to understand what the
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  other person is thinking. So people with Asperger's
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  syndrome have an issue with figuring out how the other
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  person feels or how another person, you know, what they may
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  be thinking. So for instance, I was talking
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  to somebody about a topic and that topic upset them.
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  I wouldn't really notice that it upset them.
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  I'd have to wait for them to tell me, damn, this is upset me.
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  You shouldn't really talk about this topic.
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  And this happens all the time, especially with their feelings
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  as well. I don't understand other
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  people's feelings. I don't know if they're happy or
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  sad. They have to really kind of tell
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  me. I mean, at very extreme levels,
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  I know someone's happy or sad, but generally it's difficult to
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  judge that. I'll gauge that.
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  So this is something to look out for when you're trying to spot
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  if Asperger's is the condition that a certain person has.
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  If you guys are interested, I did a video on unusual
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  Asperger's symptoms, which are more unusual types and I'll
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  leave that in a CAD above here. So you can check that out after
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  this video if you're interested in seeing some unusual traits of
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  Asperger's syndrome. OK, so number six, people with
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  Asperger's syndrome can usually focus on certain things for long
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  periods of times. Now a lot of people call this
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  zoning out, but I like to call it zoning in.
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  So a lot of people say, oh, the zoning out of kind of reality,
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  but it's more like zoning in. And it's kind of like like, for
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  instance, sometimes I'll be somewhere I'll see something on
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  the floor, maybe it'll be a bit of electronic equipment.
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  And then I'll just look at it and I just zone it right into
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  it. And I'll start thinking about
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  the complexities of it, how it got there, what it's made of,
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  what its purpose was, what I could really use it for, how it
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  could take it apart, use it for something else, what it looks
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  like, what it kind of resembles, and all this kind of stuff.
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  You know, it may take moments and moments out of the day for
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  me in my mind, but it'll be like minutes and minutes for
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  everybody else. So this is something to
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  remember. If you see somebody zoning into
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  something and zoning out of what you'd call a typical
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  environment, then this could be another causing factor of the
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  Aspergillus syndrome. So #7 is being rude
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  unintentionally. Now, I have this a lot, a lot of
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  people find me arrogant or rude, but it's not like my intentions.
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  I've never intended to do that. So people with asparagus
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  syndrome never intend to be rude or arrogant, it just may come
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  across like that because again, it's all down to that social
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  communication and the social imagination and understanding
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  what is going on in that conversation and where your
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  boundaries are. So I may say something, which is
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  an obvious fact, but something to be aware of is being tactful
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  in your approach to conversations.
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  So one thing I'm not is I'm not very tactful in conversations
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  and may say the wrong thing at the wrong time.
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  And it's really difficult to gauge that.
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  So somebody with Asperger's syndrome will definitely have
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  those issues. Trying to really pinpoint the
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  the right things to say at the right times.
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  OK #8 is strong narrow interests.
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  Now, people with Asperger's syndrome, everybody I know on
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  the spectrum, and I know loads of loads of people now thanks to
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  YouTube, we all have the narrow specific interest.
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  Like my specific interest is like UFO conspiracy theories and
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  I know like as much as I can get my hands on it, buy books on it,
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  and then I just like overindulge in it and I just, I just love
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  learning about it And it's like, I just love focusing on it.
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  It's almost like my relaxation in a way.
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  But people with asparagus syndrome may have a specific
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  topic that they're really, really into.
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  And it could be anything. It could just be, you know, it
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  could be a movie star, it could be learning about movies, it
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  could be anime, it could be Pokémon, it could be absolutely
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  anything. But if you notice that they have
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  an obsessive, unusual or typical but obsessive focus on an
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  interest and know a lot about it, like a hyper hyper focus,
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  then this could be a causing factor.
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  Again due to Asperger's syndrome #9 is routine.
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  So people with Asperger's syndrome like to do things in a
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  certain way that inflexible and very repetitive.
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  So like, I like to get up the same way every single day.
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  I like to do the same thing. I like to wear the same clothes.
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  I like to have my morning routine exactly the same.
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  I like to have my day routine the same.
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  Or when we go anyway, I like to plan out what we're doing and
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  have that routine in place because those things make me
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  feel calmer, make me feel more secure and safe.
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  And without them, it would cause a meltdown or an outburst or,
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  and it would just seriously upset me.
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  And so people on the autism spectrum, especially Asperger's
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  syndrome, love routine and certain rigid, inflexible
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  patterns. It's just comfortable to live
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  your life like that. I find it chaos outside of these
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  patterns. My brain can't cope with it and
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  my mind can't cope with it. It's difficult to explain, but
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  it's something that is there and it's a huge, huge factor in
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  Asperger's syndrome. OK, so I know I said I was only
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  going to give you 9, but I'm just going to give you an extra
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  bonus one. This is number 10 now #10 I hear
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  this a lot from people who I know people with Asperger's
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  syndrome may find it really difficult to make new friends or
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  just make friends in general. I remember in primary school
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  this was really difficult for me to make friends.
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  I didn't really have many friends in primary school and
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  then a secondary school it was even more difficult to make
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  friends. But I found that by playing
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  music, because I'm a multi musician as well and I taught
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  myself to play instruments by playing music, I found other
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  people who played music and I then made friends with those
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  people and they've been my friends.
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  They're my only friends really that I've had my entire life.
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  So it's difficult to make friends because you have to find
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  some way of relating to them and often the world can be very
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  isolating. So if you see somebody who's got
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  a huge difficulty in making friends, this could be down to
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  the fact that they have Asperger syndrome.
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