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Couples Therapy: Rich & Stacey · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Is that frame thingy over there change?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it does. I'm glad you asked me A couple's podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, John Jane Rich, Oh you're asking about
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  Speaker 2: the Aura frame. The Aura frame, Yes, A proud sponsored
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  Speaker 2: the John Jane Rich radio program.
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  Speaker 1: Which is awesome. But I didn't realize we were taping,
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  Speaker 1: so that was a very unceremonious intro.
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  Speaker 2: Well, but it's it's what we call an authentic ask.
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  Speaker 2: So you can put as many pictures as you want
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  Speaker 2: in that frame. You look it from your phone, and
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  Speaker 2: then you can like decide do I want to change
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  Speaker 2: like every two minutes, every five minutes, every hour. I
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  Speaker 2: think this changes every like ten minutes.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I wanted to change more regularly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're never in my studio. Now why would
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  Speaker 2: you care?
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  Speaker 1: Now, I'm bored with this picture?
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  Speaker 2: So it was there.
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  Speaker 1: It's like us from Christmas last year.
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  Speaker 2: But I love Christmas.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Are you ready for Christmas?
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  Speaker 1: Stacy Braw No, because I'm going to celebrate Thanksgiving first.
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  Speaker 2: That's the way to do it. Yeah, Okay, so you
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  Speaker 2: have to pick favorite Thanksgiving side dish now, go so easy.
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  Speaker 2: The stuffing stuffing over green bean casserole.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I mean, nothing is better than stuffing.
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  Speaker 2: Do you prefer stuffing over the turkey itself?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Now you must choose pumpkin or apple pie or
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  Speaker 2: pecan pie.
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  Speaker 1: It's close, but I'm gonna say pecan.
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  Speaker 2: Pie from Costco.
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  Speaker 1: Unless you can get it from that little place you
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  Speaker 1: know on the.
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  Speaker 2: Way from oh, Rock Springs Pie.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, from Sedona.
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  Speaker 2: How do they do that Rock Springs?
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  Speaker 1: I know, but they will mail it to you if
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  Speaker 1: you want them to.
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  Speaker 2: Well, what's not cost like ninety bucks? I think it's
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  Speaker 2: like thirty because I was on this site speaking of sponsors.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if they sponsored to sort of that
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  Speaker 2: gold Belly site where it's like food from you can
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  Speaker 2: get like a Philly cheese steak from Philly or you know,
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  Speaker 2: Terry Black's barbecue ribs from Austin or something. We can
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  Speaker 2: get them get your food from anywhere in the country.
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  Speaker 1: But how much is that?
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  Speaker 2: Well? I was looking because I wanted to get a
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  Speaker 2: gooey buttercake from Saint Louis, which is like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like sugar and crack mixed together, I feel like, and
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  Speaker 2: it was going to cost like sixty bucks, Like we
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  Speaker 2: can make like thirty eight thirty of those cakes if
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  Speaker 2: we just go buy the ingredients.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to guess that. Back to Rocks Rings,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess they're not associated.
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  Speaker 2: With that the golden belly.
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  Speaker 1: With Golden belly, But I'm going to go direct to
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  Speaker 1: them and for like in the neighborhood of thirty ish,
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  Speaker 1: they will ship you a pie.
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  Speaker 2: Do you love the holiday that is Thanksgiving?
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  Speaker 1: I do? Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Do you love Valentine's Day? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: I wish you loved it more because I want you
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  Speaker 1: to shower me with gifts on Valentine's Day. But I
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  Speaker 1: always feel like, I'm like, don't forget it's Valentine's Day
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  Speaker 1: and I do celebrate it, So please get me something.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so bad.
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  Speaker 2: Have I ever not gotten you something?
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  Speaker 1: I think one year? Yes?
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  Speaker 2: I did.
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  Speaker 1: Huh.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, you should just be happy that we're together.
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  Speaker 2: I know I'm not like that.
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  Speaker 1: You're not like that, but you were like, oh, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't think Valentine's Day was an important one. It's not
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  Speaker 1: like it's your birthday. And you're right, it's not like
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  Speaker 1: it's my birthday, but it is the universally accepted holiday
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  Speaker 1: of celebrating love, and so I want you to celebrate.
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  Speaker 2: The love fair enough, Okay, I will adjust to court.
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  Speaker 2: I just don't want to do the typical thing. And
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  Speaker 2: I feel like if you don't do the typical thing,
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  Speaker 2: then you're not in the game, which is the cardon flowers.
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  Speaker 1: But what if I really like flowers? Because I do.
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  Speaker 1: I love everything I know pretty.
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  Speaker 2: I know that's true. All you have you are all
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  Speaker 2: about the aesthetics.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and if you just find here's how you can
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  Speaker 1: make it your own, find a creative floral arrangement, but
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  Speaker 1: still still keep it floral.
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  Speaker 2: Oh but not not pretty? Still pretty well, No, of.
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  Speaker 1: Course it's got to be pretty. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And you said creative. That could be anything but.
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  Speaker 1: Creative and beautiful and floral.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, your Doug Nigel has joined us in the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Always joins us for the podcast. He's got to be
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  Speaker 1: right in the middle of everything.
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  Speaker 2: What are you guys doing? Just could have sit right
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  Speaker 2: in the middle look up. Yeah, and occasionally, hey guys,
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  Speaker 2: when I'm in my studio working, he doesn't come in
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  Speaker 2: and hang out because mama's here. That's true, because mama's here, okay.
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  Speaker 2: And do you love Christmas?
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  Speaker 1: I do love Christmas. Christmas though feels like it's a
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  Speaker 1: little more pressure filled just because of the and it
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  Speaker 1: sounds so cliche, but the gift portion. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: mean that it's bad to give gifts. It just puts
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  Speaker 1: pressure on to find the right gift. And I'm so
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  Speaker 1: I feel that pressure a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel like you have my gift picked out?
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  Speaker 2: Or no?
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  Speaker 1: I already have your gift.
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  Speaker 2: It's like here at the house.
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  Speaker 1: Uh huh, it's hidden though, Well.
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  Speaker 2: I'll never find it in that mess that is your office.
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  Speaker 1: It's not in my office.
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  Speaker 2: Your office looks like moving day at the school.
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  Speaker 1: Well, my office looks like a storage unit.
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  Speaker 2: Nuts, I know, but but you can't even office your office.
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  Speaker 2: There's no room to sit.
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  Speaker 1: No, I sit at the desk. I just have to
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  Speaker 1: shimmy in and shim me out. But I can do it.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder if it changed to a picture I like
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  Speaker 1: even better?
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  Speaker 2: We're talking about the our frame again. Yes, Stacey, more
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  Speaker 2: ADHD than I am.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, sorry, but I like so it did change maybe
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  Speaker 1: every three to five minutes.
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  Speaker 2: It might be I forgot how I said it sor right,
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  Speaker 2: go on, but I did pick lovely pictures of us. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like you would like this frame somewhere other
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  Speaker 2: than my studio, but on account of the clutter, there's
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  Speaker 2: nowhere else to put it upstairs anywhere, There's nowhere.
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  Speaker 1: That's not true there. Oh my gosh, that changed within
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  Speaker 1: like one minute. And that's a really good one too.
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  Speaker 1: That was I think when we met Brian Granston. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: So sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Eighth Yeah remember radio podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it looks good on the shelf. You have it on,
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  Speaker 1: so let's just leave it.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you can come down and visit pictures anytime
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  Speaker 2: you like. Okay, you know Stacy does not enjoy coming
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  Speaker 2: down the stairs. No, she would like a ranch at house. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: all one level, one level. But you know why that
• 6:00
  Speaker 2: it's good is that all of my guitar things where
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  Speaker 2: it looks like a guitar center down here. It's not
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  Speaker 2: all in your pretty esthetic dining room. You know, it's
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  Speaker 2: down here kind.
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  Speaker 1: Of tucked away, right, which is why you get to
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  Speaker 1: decorate it any way you want. And I don't say anything.
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  Speaker 2: Even though you pretty much decorated the whole thing.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I did the curtains and the pillows on the cows,
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  Speaker 1: which is lovely. Yes, both of those are my favorite
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  Speaker 1: points of this.
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  Speaker 2: Mine's the cool microphones and cool guitars. Don't care about
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  Speaker 2: anything else in here now, Stacy, we have a thing
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  Speaker 2: to unpack. It's heavy. Oh no, I'm coming after you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh what, because I feel like this is a an
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  Speaker 2: alarming chasm in our relationship. And I'm not even being
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  Speaker 2: super dramatic. I want to unpack this because I think
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  Speaker 2: it's intriguing. Okay, and it's in the past. Oh no,
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  Speaker 2: you kept a secret from me. What that you ran
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  Speaker 2: out of gas on the middle of the road in
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  Speaker 2: the middle of the day, and you did not call
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  Speaker 2: me for help.
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  Speaker 1: Correct?
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  Speaker 2: And you did not tell me that you called for help.
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  Speaker 1: Correct.
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  Speaker 2: And you didn't tell me that stranger danger stopped buying,
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  Speaker 2: tried to put chains.
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  Speaker 1: On your house, take me prisoner.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, didn't this stranger say I'm just gonna put
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  Speaker 2: chains on the front of your car and tow you
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  Speaker 2: to my house and you can hang out there until
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  Speaker 2: gas comes.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly what happened. And I said, but I said, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: Triple A will be here in mere moments.
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  Speaker 2: But you did not tell me that you ran out
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  Speaker 2: of gas for like six months?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Why am I in the dark about such a big thing?
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  Speaker 2: Because I feel bad that you feel like you can't
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  Speaker 2: tell me that because you.
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  Speaker 1: Would have not been happy with me, and you would
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  Speaker 1: have probably given me a lecture about that I need
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  Speaker 1: to get gas sooner than when I have ten miles left.
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  Speaker 2: You had ten miles left, Yeah, you had plenty of gas.
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  Speaker 2: I thought I did, and it just ran out.
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  Speaker 1: Well, okay, so once it see my car does something
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  Speaker 1: I don't appreciate, which is, once you get to ten,
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  Speaker 1: if you get to nine, it won't show you the nine.
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  Speaker 1: It goes blank. So technically I knew that I had
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  Speaker 1: just gone under ten because it went blank, and then
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  Speaker 1: I went probably one mile more. Well, in my head,
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  Speaker 1: that means I have eight.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah I get that. Yeah, I'll back you up on that.
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  Speaker 1: But then I ran out.
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  Speaker 2: But why did you Why did you not tell me
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  Speaker 2: in the moment, because I would have helped you.
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  Speaker 1: Well there, I mean, there's lots of reasons. One is
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  Speaker 1: because that's why I have triple A is because they
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  Speaker 1: they're around the corner and you weren't around the corner.
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  Speaker 2: How do you know?
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  Speaker 1: Because I know where you were. You were like in
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  Speaker 1: Phoenix and I was in Chandler, and it.
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  Speaker 2: Was there's another thing, you know, where I am all
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  Speaker 2: the time. I never know where you were.
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  Speaker 1: That's not true. You know where.
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  Speaker 2: I I don't. You don't tell me.
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  Speaker 1: Anything, but I have gotten better about that.
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  Speaker 2: But you do like to keep your little secrets.
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  Speaker 1: I know. But see that makes it sound like I'm secretive.
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  Speaker 2: You are not forthcoming.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just not an oversharer.
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  Speaker 2: You're not a sharer of anything. Like all my stuff,
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  Speaker 2: everywhere I am is always in the calendar. You can
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  Speaker 2: see like, oh, he's at the chiropractor, he's training with
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  Speaker 2: this friend Eric, or he's at a luncheon at you know,
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  Speaker 2: culinary dropout. I just basically talk to you. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: are you going to be home tonight? And you'll be like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: I'll be home between two pm and six thirty pm.
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  Speaker 1: No, you're making it sound worse than it is.
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  Speaker 2: What I did, I make it it sound like what
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  Speaker 2: it is.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't tend to use a calendar because I'm
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  Speaker 1: too busy to enter things into the calendar. So that's first,
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  Speaker 1: and then second, I just don't tend to like overshare
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  Speaker 1: about me to anyone. So this podcast is kind of
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  Speaker 1: where I share the most.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, well would have happened if you'd have gotten kidnapped
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  Speaker 2: and didn't contact me just because you were afraid. Did
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  Speaker 2: you not watch it? Sentia that lady did watch? Do
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  Speaker 2: you want to be living in a an aquarium?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 2: I do not.
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  Speaker 1: With the dude with the change, very scary. But that's
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  Speaker 1: why I told this stranger no. It's why I said, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to go.
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  Speaker 2: To your Where were you by the way? What what
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  Speaker 2: part of town?
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  Speaker 1: Chandler like right off? Thankfully, I think the Lord was
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  Speaker 1: watching over me in that I had just exited the freeway.
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  Speaker 1: If that had happened on the freeway, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what would have happened. So I had like ten miles
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  Speaker 1: on the freeway. I exited the freeway. I was heading
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  Speaker 1: to a gas station and right there is where I
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  Speaker 1: ran out. But I was at least on a normal street,
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  Speaker 1: not the freeway.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's do. Let's have a deal now on the
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  Speaker 2: podcast in front of everybody. Okay, I promise to hold
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  Speaker 2: my judgment if you're in trouble until after we're very,
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  Speaker 2: very safe, and then I will probably do a half
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  Speaker 2: a lecture, okay, of why you need to be more
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  Speaker 2: responsible and pay attention.
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  Speaker 1: That's I didn't want was that part where you're like,
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  Speaker 1: why do you not fill your tank when you have
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  Speaker 1: one hundred miles left? Why do you wait till time?
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  Speaker 2: No? No, I know that you're there's there's some people
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  Speaker 2: like me that like, right now we are going to
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  Speaker 2: go on a big mission to your your thing, and
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  Speaker 2: I know only have half a tank of gas, and
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  Speaker 2: to me like, oh, I'm gona have to fill up
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  Speaker 2: before I go to work next week because half a
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  Speaker 2: tank is not enough to start your week that to
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  Speaker 2: you would be plenty. Oh yeah, And I know there
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  Speaker 2: are people that are like that. I'm the same way
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  Speaker 2: with my battery. You talk until the battery runs out right,
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  Speaker 2: and then you're like, oh, my battery is said, better
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  Speaker 2: charge it where I see like seventy percent too low?
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  Speaker 2: Better amp this baby up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I know that we're different like that, but I
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  Speaker 2: just don't want you to put yourself in a place
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  Speaker 2: where you feel like you can't talk to me, especially
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  Speaker 2: if it's kind of sort of dangerous.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not gonna come out after that, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm more concerned that I didn't know about this big
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  Speaker 2: potential disaster till six months later. We're casually having dinner
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  Speaker 2: on Friday night. Yeah, and enjoin some Louisiana gumbo at
• 12:02
  Speaker 2: High Tide, which was delicious.
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  Speaker 1: It was, it was very good.
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  Speaker 2: And you're like, oh, by the way, I ran out
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  Speaker 2: of gas six months ago, six months ago, never told
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  Speaker 2: you about it because I thought you'd be a jerk
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  Speaker 2: to me.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I didn't say jerk, but I did think i'd
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  Speaker 1: get a lecture, and I didn't want to be like,
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  Speaker 1: I know I should not push it so much. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm already aware of that, and I just didn't want
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  Speaker 1: you to scold me.
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  Speaker 2: Mostly what I do is I encourage you to take
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  Speaker 2: care of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: That's true. You're actually wonderful and very loving and a
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  Speaker 1: wonderful husband. It's just I think sometimes I know that
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  Speaker 1: i'm a little what's the word scattered and.
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  Speaker 2: A little scattered.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and well, because I just have so many irons
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  Speaker 1: in the fire, and to harken back to I don't
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  Speaker 1: even have time to put things in the calendar. That's
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  Speaker 1: how busy I am. And so when I'm pressed for time,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes something like getting gas.
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  Speaker 2: Is going to go just in the last few days.
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  Speaker 2: The scatteredness is kind of interesting because I'll be like, hey, Stacy,
• 13:02
  Speaker 2: did you mean to leave a root beer by the
• 13:04
  Speaker 2: front door.
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  Speaker 1: No, that one was weird.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah, I got that that. I put it down.
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  Speaker 2: Then I grab this. I did that, and then we
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  Speaker 2: found peanut brittle where your hair ties.
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  Speaker 1: Are, But that was simply to keep it away from Nigel.
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  Speaker 2: We've found rollos in a Walgreens bag in the bed.
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  Speaker 3: Well that's because I don't know why the Walgreens bag
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  Speaker 3: itself was in the bed, but the rollos were not fresh,
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  Speaker 3: so I put them in the bag to throw them away,
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  Speaker 3: and then it just stayed in the bed.
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  Speaker 2: We found all. I'd even tell you about this. Oh no,
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  Speaker 2: I found you know how you always borrow phone chargers
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  Speaker 2: for me, like the portable chargers. John j does that too.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, whenever we travel, I'll bring like one
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  Speaker 2: for you and one for John Jay, because both.
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  Speaker 1: Of you don't remember our course.
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  Speaker 2: And don't know how to charge their phone, and then
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  Speaker 2: you're both on your phone all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I found three chargers of mine in your bird, three
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: of them, I know, and I bought one and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep this in my backpack and it's but
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: I let you borrow it. And then you take it,
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  Speaker 2: and then I buy another one because I assume you
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: lost it somewhere in what Atlantic city or wherever you are.
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  Speaker 2: So now we've got one, two, three? Who got four
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  Speaker 2: of those block phone chargers?
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  Speaker 1: Well, at least we have a lot of them now,
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  Speaker 1: I mean that's the bright side.
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  Speaker 2: The surplus the phone chargers is palpable. I think that's
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  Speaker 2: kind of good. Yes, So you for sure are gonna
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  Speaker 2: for sure gonna like not not tell me when you're
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: in trouble, because of course I will help you.
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  Speaker 1: I will tell. And again I knew that you would
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  Speaker 1: help me. I just knew Triple A would get to
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  Speaker 1: me faster. So I just I just skipped over the
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  Speaker 1: lecture and got the gas the quickest way I could.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: And now that I know, a lot of people are asking.
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: Now you have another business venture, which you call the Hazley,
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: which is a custom event center. And I'm very proud
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: of you, and you guys are very busy. And I
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: was thinking about Peyton and her wedding because I was
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: talking to her last sweet In fact, we talked about
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: it on the air Peyton on her show. I was
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: asking her beyond the date that you want to get married.
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: Do you have anything done for this upcoming October wedding?
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: Anything at all? And she said no, not one thing. So,
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: as a person who puts on events and organizes stuff
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: like that, is she losing daylight? Does she need to
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: do something now?
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: Yes, she's behind the eight ball at this point because
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: at people and places and vendors and venues and all
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: the people that provide everything from your flowers to your catering,
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: all of that, they book up months and months and months, but.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: Like a year, so she's she's just past a year,
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: it seems like.
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: So she's she's eleven months. She is. She's not in
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: trouble for say, flowers, but she's in trouble for she
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: does need to lock down where she's doing this.
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: Is that the first thing you would do locked down
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: a venue because I guess the date doesn't matter if
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: you don't have a place to directly.
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: And that's why she needs to that needs to be first.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: Then she needs to get the major things like the.
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: Food and okay, because Kyle in our show is saying
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: she should get registered first, so it starts seeming real. No,
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: because that doesn't matter, right, you could know that you
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: could do it three weeks.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Do that at any time. Yeah, once, As long as
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: you do it like before your invitations go out, you're fine,
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: but people will book and then let's say you even
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: have a venue, but all the catering is booked. You know.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: That's why you have to do it kind of methodically
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: in a row. The things that book up the quickest,
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: do them in that order.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: What's the prettiest thing or neatest thing you've seen in
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: a wedding that was unique that you're like, Oh, that's
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: a great thing to do at a wedding, Like, for example,
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: we went to your niece's wedding and they did a
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: selfie at every table, and they did it like when
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: three minutes they played a song, or like in three minutes,
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: we're gonna hit every table and we're going to run
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: an we're gonna selfie with every table, which I thought
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: was really good and really fun and very interactive. Like,
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: what's something you've seen at a wedding either a color
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: or a tradition or a reception thing that you're like,
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: that's a great thing to do at a wedding.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, well, normally I have answers to everything, but I'm
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: not sure I have one for that because I tend
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: to be where weddings are concerned, I tend to be
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: a little more traditional in terms of I don't feel
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: creativity is necessarily what you have to do. What you
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: have to do is think through every.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Detail and write your own speech, right, don't.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: Oh well that's the big AI. You know that. And
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: it's not that I want to be clear because I
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: know everyone knows I have or not everyone, but people
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: who have listened to this podcast would know that I
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: have an issue with AI. My issue is not using
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: it strategically. If you say, write something important and then
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: you want to put it in AI and say, can
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: you make sure my punk situation was right? Or can
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: you polish this for me? There's a place for that.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: I get that. The problem is when you are using
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: it to come up with the course sentiment because AI
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: just doesn't know, you know, and so it's going to
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: put generic information in and then it's going to lose
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: all heart and souls. But it's my issue with that.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Do you think everybody should write their own vows or
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: go traditional with vows too? You could do that as well.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I don't necessarily think you have to write
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: your own. I think you could use some people. It
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: works better to use the you know, for richer, poor vows.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: You know, you don't have to write your own there.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: Could you just say for richer?
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just for richer Yeah, which is kind of the name.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Uncle Billy used to call you, yea Richard.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, my uncle couldn't pronounce his last consonant of every
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: word for some reason. Richard, you're not much of a drinker,
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: are you. Okay, what about what's the best color for
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: bridesmaids to wear?
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: Ooh, okay, that's such a good question. I like when
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: it's a little more on a neutrally.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: Side, So okay, so give me with that.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Okay. So in other words, the thing I don't love
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: is when there's a unless it's like, some people can
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: do a really cool in a winter wedding. They could
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: do like black bride maid's dresses. That's cool in that
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: there's a contrast between the white and the black. But
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: normally I'm not a fan of a huge color contrast
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: between the bride and white. And then let's say I'm
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: making this up, but the bridesmaids in a deep green
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: that just feels too contrasty. So I like where it's
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: sort of a like a bit of a more of
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: a muted palette, so kind of a soft hue is
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: what I appreciate.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: What color would that be.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Well, peachy pink blush, which is what we used.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: It are, and that looks good on people's skin if
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: they have light hair.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: It looks good on most people. Yeah, because what it does,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: the peachy quality actually adds color to your skin.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Let's go.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why people look really good in pinks and corals.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: And if you're getting married now, do you encourage the
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: bridesmaids to get a spray tan?
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: A one hundred percent yes, because.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: The pictures a killer huh oh yeah.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: No one should ever do any event without a spray tan.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Honestly, there you go.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: I mean really, because people's skin just looks better when
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: they have a little golden hue to it, because you
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: look more like you're full of life and bigger.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: You're Nicki Glazer talking about that on SNL.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: You told me about it, I tell people what she said.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: She says something like, whenever you go on stage, whatever
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: you do, you should go get a spray tan because
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: you just are going to look less terrible.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Exactly.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: It makes everything better.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: It does and percent correct. And it's just because having
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: that look of color and life photographs better. You look
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: better from a distance, wardrobe looks better on you.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: All of that, all the peachy blast here looks goods.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: Are you guys booked up pretty much? Now that you've
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: got this thing going? Are you? Are you? Is it
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: a success? It seems like you're busy all the time?
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I would say, Yet it was a much quicker success
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: out of the gate than I ever anticipated. We actually
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: have events because we do everything from weddings to showers,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: to receptions to anniversary parties, you know, baby christenings, like
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: we do anything that you need a space for. And
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: we are booked, not solid in that we have naturally
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: we have dates available, but we are our furthest out
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: booking is April of twenty twenty seven.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, so we're booked.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Good job, most like a year and a half out.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Well, it's a pretty it's a very special place. I
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: think it's really pretty near and you know what it's
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: neat is I think it feels comfortable in there.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: So now what I don't get yet, and I guess
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: we'll experience this because we're doing our big Black Friday
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: sore there. I've been working on the music as we
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: speak for the playlist Friday. It seems fancy, But can
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: it be cool? That's what my thing is. Can it
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: be a cool hang?
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: Well? Why would something fancy and pretty? Necessarily? Why would
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: because it's cool be mutually exclusive with that?
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: Because fancy like a fancy wedding. To me is you're
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: dressed up and you stand up in your proper But
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: can I hang in a couch? Can I? Can I slitter?
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: That?
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: Can I Can I slouch and have a hang with
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: my friends like I would in a craft bar?
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: Well, okay, yes you can slouch. Will I be comfortable
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: then yes, because we're bringing in all the lounge furniture
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: where you have copious amounts of lounge.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: Furniture, copious lounge.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Furniture, copious lounge furniture and barrel chairs and coffee tables,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: and because we can revamp the place and make it
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: look more like a speakeasy. But note what I just said,
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: A speak easy versus like a.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: Like a sports bars a sports bar.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: That's the difference. It's gonna be elevated and pretty, but
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: it'll still be comfortable.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: What are you most excited about about twenty twenty six
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: as we wrap the year, as we work in the
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: holiday season, what's most exciting for Stacy?
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Oh Man, that's a that's a big question. I mean,
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: definitely still getting this this event venue off the ground,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: running on all cylinder, firing on all cylinders, so that
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: all the processes are in place, and booking really fun, special,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: cool events there. That's something I'm excited about. I'm excited
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: that my son is graduating. Lots of our kids are
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: graduating from with different degrees, you know, like Joe will
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: graduate in May, Audrey will get her two year degree
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: in like May ish, and then Colin will graduate a
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: half or one semester early with his degree next December.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: So all that's twenty twenty six, so we're technically having
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: lots of graduations and and yeah in twenty six.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: And what about when we put you on spot? Do
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: you think you're gonna get your book written in twenty
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: twenty six.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good idea. Yeah, maybe I will because
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: if the venue project is you know, kind of working,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: the world needs your book, then I'll start working on
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: the book. That's a good twenty twenty six goal. Okay,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I'll take it.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: I know you're an empathetic lady who likes to help people,
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: and now's the time people need help. Okay, are you down?
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I'm down.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I'm going to hold you to it all right next
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: year when we're doing this podcast and be like, well
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: you got you better cram it better.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Go yeah chat No, I am not chat gpty.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: I need to help people. Which would I write my
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: book chat chept go.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Oh and I will tell you what Chad GBT will say.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: It will say you need to tell people they should
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: be loving yet firm, nice yet authoritative. Like it's like
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: it just walks through.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: It reads like a fortune cookie.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: There. If you want your dreams to come true, start
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: with the dream.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I never thought of that, but you're right. It
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: is kind of like a fortune cookie. It's very It
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: gives that sort of generic, nice sounding advice that really
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: means nothing.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Well. Yeah, this has been fun. This has been the
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Couple's podcast. Thank you for joining me. I know you're
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: a busy lady. I know. In fact, we're off to
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: your venue right now to unload Christmas.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Sticky that is, for the holiday away.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I'm ready to go.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Thanks for helping me with it. See we do the podcast,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: now we go hush.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: I mean it's how I get to hang out with you,
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: So I'll take it.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Oh you're the sweetest. I love you.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: Are you driving or am I?
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Oh? I would like you to drive because I get
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: scared on the day after it rains too, you know,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: and it's it's been I know, what if? What if?
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: I What if I hydroplane and then a stranger comes
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: and tries to take me to their house. That would
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: be terrible.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Please, you have to just tell me the next time
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: you want to kick it. I think that's a fair that's.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: A fairly your agreement.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: If I almost get kidnapped, I'm telling everybody, Yeah, well
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: I know, I know
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: You would definitely do that.