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Passionate. Loyal. Fierce. North Star. · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 1: Scrub dub dumb.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not in a very good mood today. Wow, Like
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  Speaker 2: I the period feels near.
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  Speaker 1: You still have gotten it?
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm always like, I'm not like right on the dot.
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  Speaker 2: We can't start every conversation about my period. But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's that's a little bit about me.
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  Speaker 1: So you're in a bad mood, a good mood.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not in a bad mood. I'm just kinda like, e.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm coming too.
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  Speaker 3: That's not good. You can't be when I'm and I
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  Speaker 3: already claimed.
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  Speaker 1: Eh, well, I amn't been a because I've been.
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  Speaker 4: Weeks.
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  Speaker 1: I know, no one week. It's been one week. It
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  Speaker 1: is weird.
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  Speaker 3: It's felt like a long time.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a long time for me too. But let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you Internally, I'm yeah, okay. Externally I'm that's fine.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I need the internal too.
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  Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you something. I if you're feeling black, eh, eh,
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  Speaker 1: you made my birthday so special?
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  Speaker 3: Really?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: Wow?
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  Speaker 1: Like you made my birthday wow? Yeah? How it was
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  Speaker 1: just you? It was all you?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there really wasn't in competition actually everyone else is
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  Speaker 2: out of town.
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  Speaker 1: No, but like, honestly, I really like and it was
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  Speaker 1: so sweet. At the end of the day when we
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  Speaker 1: got home and we're like getting ready for bed, Robbie
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  Speaker 1: like looks at me and he was just like that
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  Speaker 1: guys a really good friend. And I like started crying
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  Speaker 1: because I was reading your card and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: she really is, Like it was just like the perfect day.
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  Speaker 1: It was like exactly what I wanted to do. She
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  Speaker 1: took me to the spa, we got a massage, we
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  Speaker 1: spent quality time. We sat by the pool, we had lunch, and.
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  Speaker 5: We were just like gal pals and dinner and dinner
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  Speaker 5: all at one place, all at one place. We stayed
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  Speaker 5: in one spot, and I don't know, just you just
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  Speaker 5: really made my birthday.
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  Speaker 1: You made my birthday.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, I'm so happy to hear that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I sometimes feel like you're definitely a type
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  Speaker 2: of person who loves. I feel like a group of people,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like you love like friends and celebrating and stuff. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and it was just timing. A lot of your friends
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  Speaker 2: were out of town or you know, it was just
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  Speaker 2: a weekend where people weren't available. So I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I hope that I was. I was like, I hope
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  Speaker 2: this felt like enough for her.
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  Speaker 1: It was more than enough. It was so nice.
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  Speaker 3: It was really fun. I had a great day as well.
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  Speaker 1: Felt like quality time, which I loved.
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  Speaker 3: It was quality time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I had what I would say, also one of
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  Speaker 2: the best massages I've had. You know how sometimes you
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  Speaker 2: go to like if you you go with someone and
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  Speaker 2: you both get a massage, one person always comes out
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  Speaker 2: and they're like, that was the best massage I've ever had,
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  Speaker 2: And then the other person comes out and they're like
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  Speaker 2: that was terrible, Like I couldn't wait for it to
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  Speaker 2: be over.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like that's how it always goes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And the girl that did mine was actually the girl
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  Speaker 2: that when Tanya got engaged and she was getting a
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  Speaker 2: massage at that spa, she handed her.
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  Speaker 3: The note wow. So yeah, so she was my massage therapist.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. She was the first person I like cried to
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  Speaker 1: and was like.
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  Speaker 6: I'm getting engaged.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she had me right back.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I was like, you're you're a star for uh,
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  Speaker 2: like you're literally a story of the story.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I had a really good massage and then I
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  Speaker 2: got out and I was like, please let Tanya have
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  Speaker 2: had a massage and she also had one, and then
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  Speaker 2: we had lunch.
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  Speaker 3: I had the best beats I've ever had in her
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  Speaker 3: life at the moment, it was definitely the best beats
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  Speaker 3: I've ever had in my life. Did this last week
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  Speaker 3: for Marky?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, super setta however you say it.
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  Speaker 3: And so it was like the hot honey with.
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  Speaker 2: Like the salami, the spicy salami, but it was just
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  Speaker 2: cooked to perfection, was like so hot when it came out.
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  Speaker 3: We were by the pool. It was just like there
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  Speaker 3: was nothing that.
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  Speaker 1: There were no notes, no notes, she had no notes.
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  Speaker 3: It was incredible. What was the place called Dante Dante?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, shout out, shout out, and I gotta let
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  Speaker 1: us wrapped cheeseburger. Yeah, it was actually really good.
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  Speaker 3: Doesn't have the same Yeah it does.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. When you're on your period.
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  Speaker 3: It's like I put super food and the super food
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  Speaker 3: did that make No?
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  Speaker 1: I don't get the joke.
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  Speaker 3: It's not. The joke was that you didn't understand grammar.
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  Speaker 1: That there's superfoods and there are superfoods, right, that's it.
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  Speaker 1: You all made it like this big funny joke, and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, there's no funniness to this the funny joke.
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  Speaker 2: The funniest part about it was that you didn't get
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  Speaker 2: what we were saying.
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  Speaker 1: I still don't think I get it.
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  Speaker 3: You get it.
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  Speaker 2: You just described it, so you do get it, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 2: But there wasn't like an inside joke. It was just
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  Speaker 2: intelligent people, three intelligent people.
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  Speaker 6: Wow wow second.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what, I actually didn't do it
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  Speaker 1: over you know what I did it and do on
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  Speaker 1: my birthday that I do every year on my birthday,
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  Speaker 1: I always light the things on fire that I was
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  Speaker 1: and because I just wasn't feeling well, like I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: feeling my total self and I'm still not fully back
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  Speaker 1: and I want to be really present, so I've just
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  Speaker 1: like tabled that. But I'm still going to do it.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that intentions don't have to be on
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  Speaker 2: a certain day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much. You know, I use my
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  Speaker 1: birthday as like the marker because I want to do
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  Speaker 1: it every year. But it's like, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 1: forget to do it.
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  Speaker 6: I think you will forget to do it. I'm not
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  Speaker 6: going to I predict you won't do it.
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  Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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  Speaker 6: You're still not fully back.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but just just bite you. I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: do it today.
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  Speaker 2: I was actually looking through all of our birthdays, your
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  Speaker 2: birthdays that we've celebrated together, and there was one in
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  Speaker 2: like twenty eighteen or something where we were at the
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  Speaker 2: Maybourne Spa, but it was the montage.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I.
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  Speaker 1: Always I go back on because I go into my
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  Speaker 1: memories and I can see, like, uh, there was a
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  Speaker 1: birthday where we went to the beach.
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  Speaker 2: Now up on fire yeah yea, yeah yeah yeah yeah,
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  Speaker 2: yeah that was illegal.
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  Speaker 3: We were lighting snuff on fire on the beach, which felt.
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  Speaker 1: That's what they do, they like have bmpfires on the
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  Speaker 1: beach and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we weren't in one of those areas anyhow, but
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  Speaker 2: we set the intentions that night. Yeah, and then I
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  Speaker 2: got home. We got home at the end of the night.
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  Speaker 1: And Robbie was like, Beca's a really great friend, I know.
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  Speaker 1: And then she posts this reel that she made sends
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  Speaker 1: me down another crying spiral. So you really turned it out.
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  Speaker 1: I just to say wow, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: All day. She was like, I'm just waiting for my reel.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I like you, I'm literally wait you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to be present with you for your birthday.
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  Speaker 1: I was, actually, you know what's so.
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  Speaker 6: Crazy, it's not special if you asked it for the
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  Speaker 6: reel all day and then you gave you.
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  Speaker 1: A I knew it was coming. I was just waiting
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  Speaker 1: for it. But the thing that was really interesting about
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  Speaker 1: that day is like, I know that we're always like
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  Speaker 1: on our phone, in our phones, posting and stuff like that,
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  Speaker 1: and I on my birthday, like you get a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of text messages, so you're responding to people and stuff
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  Speaker 1: like that. I was so present that day, Like I
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  Speaker 1: was super super present the whole day.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, me too. And so that's when you
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  Speaker 2: were asking about your reel. I was like, I'm torn here.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't been that president at I haven't been that
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  Speaker 1: present in a long time, which is like weird.
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  Speaker 2: It's nice, huh, Yeah, it was nice. I went to
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  Speaker 2: the beach on Saturday and I was there. It was
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  Speaker 2: my friends Caroline and Arden had introduced me to them
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  Speaker 2: and they just got engaged and so they had like
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  Speaker 2: a big engagement party on the beach and I was
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  Speaker 2: present all day. I literally didn't have my phone, it
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  Speaker 2: was in my bag, and Robbie and Tanya had texted
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  Speaker 2: me asking for recommendations for my Orca and I hadn't
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  Speaker 2: responded because I mean that was like something that I
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  Speaker 2: would take time and like respond to. It wasn't just
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  Speaker 2: like a yes or no question. And I was driving
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  Speaker 2: when I when they first texted me, and so I
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  Speaker 2: put my phone down and just like was present all day.
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  Speaker 2: And then Tanya is like, hello, is this thing on?
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  Speaker 1: We texted her at like nine am and I hadn't
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  Speaker 1: hear back three or four pm.
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  Speaker 6: So I was like, hello, We're good for becr.
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  Speaker 2: That's when you like look at the gift of find
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  Speaker 2: my friends that I have given you, and you.
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  Speaker 3: Go, oh, she's at the beach. She's probably being present.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's weird. I didn't even look at your
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  Speaker 1: look at this weekend.
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  Speaker 3: I don't use it for good. You don't use it
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  Speaker 3: for good, just for me.
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  Speaker 2: The Yeah, So yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 3: So nice being present both those days.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah I didn't have that after Thursday. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was just back on.
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  Speaker 2: I hate like sometimes I just want to like toss
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  Speaker 2: my phone and get a jitterbug.
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  Speaker 1: It's a jitterbug.
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  Speaker 3: It's funny. You should ask.
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  Speaker 2: It's a flip phone with large numbers. It's for elderly
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  Speaker 2: and it just basically is for like calling and it
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  Speaker 2: has big numbers.
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  Speaker 1: Because okay, so what is it You don't like to
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  Speaker 1: engage with people or you want to do it on
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  Speaker 1: your own.
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  Speaker 2: Time being engaged with people, Like if I get to
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  Speaker 2: meet people in person, like my dream would be to
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  Speaker 2: do a scrubbing and meetup where like we go to
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  Speaker 2: the beach and I can, like in person engage with people,
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  Speaker 2: Like I love that, But.
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  Speaker 1: You don't like when people text you when you don't
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  Speaker 1: want it.
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  Speaker 3: I hate that. I literally hate that that we are.
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  Speaker 2: At everyone's bacon call back in call with our phones,
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  Speaker 2: like it bugs me a lot. So I love one
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  Speaker 2: on one time, but I don't like that that you
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  Speaker 2: feel like you have access to me anytime that you want.
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  Speaker 3: To have access to me.
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  Speaker 1: It feels personal.
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  Speaker 2: No no, no, I'm saying in like general, yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: guess generally and you specifically, But like that people have
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  Speaker 2: feel like they have access to us at all time
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  Speaker 2: because it wasn't like that before smartphones.
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  Speaker 7: The thing I think about a lot is I saw
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  Speaker 7: a picture of an old like computer desk and they
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  Speaker 7: were like the person who read it was like you
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  Speaker 7: used to sign off. You would walk away from this
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  Speaker 7: and the internet stayed there, and now then it's with
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  Speaker 7: you all that. Like it would feel so necessary to
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  Speaker 7: be like texting someone like all right bye, like that.
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  Speaker 8: It feels weird to do in a text right right by?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, you just keep talking forever, always run on sentences.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, forever.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna try this.
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  Speaker 3: What are you trying the jitterbug?
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be off next week and I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to try to be off. Yeah, Let's see how long
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  Speaker 1: I can.
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  Speaker 2: What does this mean, like not texting people, or not
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  Speaker 2: being on social media, all of it. I think I
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  Speaker 2: think you will feel so good doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see.
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  Speaker 2: When I went on The Bachelor, they took our phones
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  Speaker 2: and I thought I was gonna hate it.
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  Speaker 3: I loved it.
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  Speaker 2: I loved that I only was focused on what was
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  Speaker 2: happening right in front of me.
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  Speaker 1: Well, let's see, let's see how it goes.
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  Speaker 3: All right, stay tuned for the date.
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  Speaker 1: I lasted one day on my birthday. It was great.
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  Speaker 1: It was a great day and I just I wanted
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  Speaker 1: again say thank you. And I had the best day
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  Speaker 1: and I love you and you made it so special.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy to hear that, and I had such
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  Speaker 2: a great day with you, and it was so fun
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  Speaker 2: to spend a full, full day with you. I would
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  Speaker 2: have slumber partied if Robbie hadn't been there, and I
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  Speaker 2: could have.
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  Speaker 3: Where would I have slept?
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  Speaker 1: That's true. We could have put Robbie on the couch
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  Speaker 1: and then we slept in the bed.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, Well next time, yeah, next time. We
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  Speaker 2: filmed a video last week of us doing the Charlie
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  Speaker 2: XCX Apple brat Summer Dance, and I would say as
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  Speaker 2: a collective unit, we all crushed it. But there was
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  Speaker 2: one person in the absolute star of the show. According
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  Speaker 2: to the comments.
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  Speaker 6: I got a lot of comments it was I was
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  Speaker 6: shocked by.
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  Speaker 2: This, your daughter finally commented, because oh she did.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: We have been try asking Mark, like, what do your
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: daughters think of this? When we post videos, and Mark
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  Speaker 2: people are always like Mark, Mark, Mark, and You've always
• 12:29
  Speaker 2: said like they could care less.
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  Speaker 6: They could care less. But this one, for some reason,
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  Speaker 6: because we was in a handful of these, this one
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  Speaker 6: reached my family. My wife and kids both found this
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  Speaker 6: without me having anything to do with it. Jach was
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  Speaker 6: sent to them by their friend Viral I don't know,
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  Speaker 6: there was no viral. I don't know, but my wife
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  Speaker 6: had sent to her by one of her friends, and
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  Speaker 6: my kids saw it and that's when she, Yeah, she
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  Speaker 6: decided I'm going to get in on this because so many,
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  Speaker 6: so many people were saying, what do his daughters think
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  Speaker 6: on this?
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  Speaker 1: Please? So what does she say?
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  Speaker 3: My dad is iconic?
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, it had six hundred and sixty five thousand
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  Speaker 2: views on Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: Is that viral?
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  Speaker 6: I think that's viral.
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  Speaker 3: It's not. It's not super viral, but that's a lot
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  Speaker 3: of Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But then on and on TikTok it has one hundred
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  Speaker 2: and eighteen thousand, but it Yeah, it definitely had a
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: good moment and it was hilarious. So I feel like
• 13:24
  Speaker 2: we should maybe start doing more choreography team.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if I'm gonna be honest, it wasn't as
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  Speaker 1: hard as I thought it was gonna be.
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  Speaker 2: Most things that you are scared to do aren't as
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  Speaker 2: hard as you think.
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  Speaker 3: They're gonna be.
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  Speaker 1: Let's dip into that. Beacka.
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  Speaker 2: I think we set ourselves up with fear of thinking
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  Speaker 2: I'm not a dancer, So how am I supposed to
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  Speaker 2: learn to dance this fast? Before going let's see if
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  Speaker 2: I can do it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe what you're saying is I should write down
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  Speaker 1: on the piece of paper that I'm gonna get rid
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  Speaker 1: of doubt with a mass of paper my to burn. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that's a good one. I'm gonna make it.
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  Speaker 3: And like fear of trying new things.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have fear of trying new things. I try
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  Speaker 1: new things all the time. I'm tving my mouth shut.
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  Speaker 2: Dread, dread of trying new things that aren't your things.
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  Speaker 1: Nah huh.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if it's what you want to do, you have
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  Speaker 2: no issue trying to start sleeping with a chance. If
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: there's any other suggestion from people, then you're pretty pooh
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: poo it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true right off the bat.
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  Speaker 6: Facts.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Also, I wanted to talk to you about what modern
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  Speaker 2: woman is, what a modern woman is, because I've been
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: thinking about this thinking and I wanted to ask what
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: the actual definition is.
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad you asked.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but first we're going to take a break.
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  Speaker 4: Sorry, all right, we're back.
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  Speaker 2: So your brand is modern Woman's modern woman energy.
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  Speaker 3: You are a modern woman. Yeah, everyone should be a
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  Speaker 3: modern woman, louder for.
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: The people on the back.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: But if people were like, what is the definition of
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: modern woman? What?
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  Speaker 3: What do you tell them?
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  Speaker 1: I'm so glad you asked yeah, because the truth is,
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: you don't define a modern woman. You just are one.
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: So there's no definition.
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: There's no because it's a woman that is following the
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: desires of her own heart. So that's going to look
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: different from me to you, to Mark to Easton, it's
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: gonna look different.
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: So there's no boundaries for the monetary, no parameters, and
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: no parameters.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: You fly, you march the beat of your own drum.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: You listen to the desires of your own heart. You
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: go after what you want. If you want to be
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: a stay at home mom, you be the best stay
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: at home mom of your life. If you want to
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: be a CEO of that job, you be a CEO
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: of that. If you want to start your company, you
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: start your company.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: What makes that different than being a woman, Like, what's
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: the fiction.
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: The full conviction, the doing it unapologetically, not having to
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: ask for permission, not being ashamed or embarrassed.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: But what if it's something that's like not what if
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: it's something that's problematic for another woman? Like what I mean,
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: he's following your heart?
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, like I want to marry.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: Uh.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Tom Cruise, he's not married, who's
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: married John Legend? But he's already married, So i'd have
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: to break up a marriage, right right, that's not modern woman.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: So there are parameters.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: Well, just a moral compass, if you will.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, a moral compass, yeah, okay. So it's just
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: basically being a strong, independent woman.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just and unapologetic is a big word right there. Unapologetic, unashamed, passionate, loyal,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: fears strong, yeah, north star.
• 17:06
  Speaker 6: But Becca makes a good point, like what if you're
• 17:08
  Speaker 6: going for that job and I want that job, I'm
• 17:10
  Speaker 6: gonna get that job. But a woman already has that job,
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: you're gonna you're gonna get her, get her.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Fired, Maybe she'll move on to a better job, maybe
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: she'll start her own company.
• 17:18
  Speaker 7: I like the compass thing because the modern women and
• 17:20
  Speaker 7: that's it tells you where to go.
• 17:22
  Speaker 8: Exactly, there's no limit, that's right.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: The modern woman energy is that compass, that that north
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: star that points you where you should go. Why do
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: you bring this up?
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: I was just asking because someone I've seen I've meant
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: to bring it up, like it was actually weeks ago
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: when there was something I posted with another friend of mine,
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: or I went maybe when I went to dinner with
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Keana or Hungo Valley, and you.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Got a lot of time with Ka lately, a lot
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: of time with her friend Keana lately.
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: Thank Keana is terrified of you. She should should be.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: So I think it was someone said, how was this
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: modern woman energy?
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: Like they responded to you or something.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Well, I like to claim my friends and I like
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: to do it passionately and aggressively, and that's modern north Star.
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, I still don't have full clarity, but as long
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: as you do, I think.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: That's what matters.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Love Island finale.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: Did you watch?
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: No?
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how can I do this podcast?
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: But I know enough. I've seen enough that we can discuss.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: You don't care about a spoiler alert?
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: I know everything.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's fine. It was a boring episode the finale. Yeah,
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: it's always boring.
• 18:40
  Speaker 6: The thing that's the thing, always boring.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: So there's like, it's fun in the beginning, in my opinion,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: it's fun in the beginning when they're like getting to
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: know each other, blah blah blah. When some bombshells come in.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Then there's like then cosa more is like very dramatic entertaining,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: and then once they'll settle into their couples, it's like, okay,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: let's wrap it up.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so once the once they find love, yeah, it's like, man,
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: but that's.
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: What you watch it for us, for love.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: Correct. But once I settle into the love, I don't
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: need to see I don't you know, to.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: See it unfold.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Take that to a reality show, you know what I mean?
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Another another reality show where I can follow your love,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: your life.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: So were you happy with the winners?
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: Uh?
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Wait, do you vote?
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: No?
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: Because I've never I've never watched in real time? Does
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: that make sense?
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: I thought you watched this whole season a real time.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: This is the first season I've ever watched in real time.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: The whole thing, k was that you were upset because
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: they were so far ahead and you couldn't vote, or
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: you're watching old season.
• 19:35
  Speaker 6: I know.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: And then I got here and I'm just like not
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: used to voting.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: It's just too much. It was too much, too much, okay, Okay,
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: So to the modern woman.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: The modern woman votes when she wants to vot, or
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: doesn't vote when she doesn't want to.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Know and To be honest, I wasn't like rooting for
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: any of them, Like, there wasn't one couple that I
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: was like, they have to win. To be honest, who
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: would you did it?
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: Did who?
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Like? I wasn't compelled to vote, like I wasn't like
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: like when I'm watching the UK, I'm like, ah, can't
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: can't shance two years ago?
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: Okay, So the couple who won were you happy with it?
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: Were they who you were ready for the most? Should
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: we give a spoiler alert?
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Spoiler alert?
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: So if you have not watched those us in finale
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: Love ISLANDA and.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Have someone else stayed off social media to avoid spoilers.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Skip the next thirty seconds.
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: Okay, So the winners were.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Cordell and Serena.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: I'm actually happy.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm like, I liked it because in the
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: very first episode they coupled up together and they were
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: wearing the exact same color. So to me, it just
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: felt very meant to be.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, do you think the invisible.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: String, you know, like there was an invisible string tying
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: them together the whole way.
• 21:00
  Speaker 6: Seconds by the way, okay.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: So you you were good with them, and then do
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: you think any of these couples lost outside of this show.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: No, I think they might. I think they they have
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: the best chance out of any of them.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: What's your prediction for length of time they stay together?
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: A year?
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: Oh my god? Wow?
• 21:21
  Speaker 6: Okay, but I like your idea of a different reality
• 21:24
  Speaker 6: show afterwards. You could call it Love Mainland.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Yes, Love on the Mainland Yes. But I will say
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: the best little treat that we got last night was
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: ari Aanomatics confirming that they will have a reunion, which
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I'm very looking forward to.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: Is that not normal?
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: No, I've never had reunions. Oh and I also was
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: watching Chicks in Office Fran and Rhea on Aftersun, which
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: was so cool. Do you know that they got there?
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: It was all like their listeners, like rallied to get
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: them there. That's so cool because they talked about it
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: so much.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: That's so cool. I know it's giving scrubber energy.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: It's giving scrubber energy. But I was like such a
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: fan watching. I've never I don't really like After Sun. Yeah,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: but I was watching to support our.
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: Girls, love the Chicks thee.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: In the Office. Yeah, but I did message. I think
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: I messaged Fran because I want to know in real time,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: like when was this filmed? Do you know what I mean?
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: When did they film after Sun? Because it airs on Saturday,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: So like, did they film it on Friday? Is it
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: like twenty four hours ahead? Because it's all happening in
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: real time? But how much is real time? Real time?
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Is I should text them?
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: I did? I mean, I I DMed her, but she's
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: probably inundated with all these dms.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: So the interesting part to me, what y'all can actually
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: contribute to this, even not watching Love Island, is that
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: they get off the show and they they haven't had
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: their phones. They don't know what's going on, and so
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: they have no idea if people like them or not.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: You know, they don't know if they're going to be
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: liked or if they're going to be like the villain
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: or whatever.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: They just have no idea. So one of the girls,
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: her name is Leah, she I don't know.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: I felt like just the recent episodes people became like
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: obsessed with her.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because in the beginning I did not like her.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: She's just outspoken, she kind of spoke her mind, but
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: I didn't really I didn't know to.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Vote Andrea out. I was like, that's dirty, that is
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: not how you play Love Island. Yeah that's wrong.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, But anyways, she all of a sudden popped off
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: and she's like so popular, and she gets out and
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: by the time the.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: Last episode aired, which I get, I guess they get.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: They don't get their phone till their final episode is aired.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: She has a million followers.
• 23:34
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: For reference, the rest of them have like one hundred
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: to two hundred thousand.
• 23:39
  Speaker 6: That's millions more people than watched our video last week. Yeah. Yeah,
• 23:42
  Speaker 6: it's viral.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: That's viral, and and people don't really get that type
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: of following anymore. Like when I feel like when I
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: was on The Bachelor, that kind of era, you would
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: get that type of following coming off of a reality show,
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: but a lot of people now with TikTok and stuff,
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: they don't have that same People just don't do the
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: follow like that anymore.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: For reference, with a Bachelorette this season, let's see, I
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: don't know how many.
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: Followers she has, but her season's airing.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, then who was the last bachelorette besides her? Who
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: is before her?
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: Uh? Who was before her?
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: Charity lawsome charity lawson two hundred ninety four thousand.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: Followers and people love charity, so just for reference.
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's pretty crazy.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I was thinking about that, like coming off and not
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: knowing if you were gonna like we had anxiety every
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: week watching The Bachelor, being like, you know, what are
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: people going to say? Well, how what's this going to
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: look like? How this episode come together? And I can't
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: imagine the whole time thinking like I saw someone's uh
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: this TikToker say like she's gonna get out and she's
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: probably like, yeah, I might have a little bit of
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: a platform, but you go in so blind, you know, Yeah,
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: how crazy that must be.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: She's from La, Like, she lives just she lives just
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: up the freeway. So maybe we could try and get
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: her on the podcast. Yes, I would love to Sam.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: Well, it was the most watched I think in the
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: whole series of Love Island. It was I want to
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: say it was or maybe just USA Okay, one of
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: the most stream shows of the summer over the last
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: few months.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: Your bestie keeps winning? Are automatics?
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: Are you happy that it's over?
• 25:27
  Speaker 6: You are with Sheila Burkhartzmeyer on Facebook and the Facebook
• 25:34
  Speaker 6: grouper posted my thoughts after listening this week's pod Love
• 25:38
  Speaker 6: Island is the New Station nineteen. You can't make me
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: watch Principle.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Well, I have a little bit of
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: like emptiness today, like I don't know what I'm going
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: to watch tonight. I'm like sad about it. I don't
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: have my sims to like check up on later.
• 25:55
  Speaker 6: Nice sims.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I never played a SIM, but I saw meme that
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: it felt very accurate.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: I think the meme you're talking about was Arianna posted
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: like me watching like saying, oh, was it looking after
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: my sims or something.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm gonna do. I might I
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: might watch old seasons.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe into Nature.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: I had a full day with Phoebe yesterday speaking of nature,
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: because like Tanya's Birthday, I left her for all day
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: and then the beach day on Saturday, I left her
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: all day and I was having so much guilt. And
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: also she's not like I don't know what's going on
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: in your grass, she's digressing in her cough.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: I haven't slept through the night in like a week
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: and a half, and we're both upset with each other
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: during those moments. Anyways, I was like I'm gonna take
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: her to the beach or take her to the park.
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: And then we went to the beach and it was
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: so fun. She just like kept staring at me all day.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: And I saw this thing that was like taking your
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: dogs everywhere will slow you down.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: But like maybe that's the point emotional.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: I know. I like read this thing about like just
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: taking a dog on a ten minute drive does something
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: like stimulates them beyond whatever. And I'm like, I I
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: want to take her everywhere, Like I want to take
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: her everywhere.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: Maybe hates the car though, so I.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: St sunny, but I think internally they love it. I
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: don't know. She likes to put her head out the
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: window and have the wind blows. She doesn't like like
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: she hates getting in the car, like she will stick
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: her paws on the ground.
• 27:31
  Speaker 6: Like I think you should listen to her.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: No, So she has to go places like take her places.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: But when she's in the car, she loves to have
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: her head out in the in the wind. She loves
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: it tails wagging her head's in the wind like free willy.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: But aside from those few moments where her head sticking
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: out the window, Phoebe is like a nervous wreck, anxious wreck, anxious,
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: very anxious.
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but anyways, it was it was a nice day
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: with chicken.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: So I'm taking her just to the vet today because
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: now i think maybe she has a parasite and that's
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: what's causing the cough.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just like
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: googling everything I can.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: No and she can't tell you what's wrong.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: No, she she'll let out the worst sounding cough you've
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: ever heard. It'll be like it's two am. Every single night.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: It's like write at two am, and we just stare
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: at each other, like she does this loud, like goose
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: honking cough and then she like stares at me, and
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: I like I'm sat.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: Up like staring at her. We just look at each
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: other and I'm like, are you okay? We just lay
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: back down. Yeah, it's tough.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: It's tough.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: You got an or a ring? Speaking of sleep, I.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: Did get an ring. Yeah, nobody is Like I've been
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: like waiting for somebody to be like, hey, cool or
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: a ring, and like nobody's said it.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: Kind of like it's not as like fresh and new
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: as it once was.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: What like I think people would have expected you to
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: already have one.
• 28:55
  Speaker 6: Yeah, that was very twenty twenty three.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Well okay, so what took so long? It's new and
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: I'm doing it to to monitor my temperature with my ovulation.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: Oh I see, that's right.
• 29:11
  Speaker 6: It begins my advance. What begins the process?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: Yes, my hyper fixation of my ovulation if I am ovulating. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: early it does.
• 29:23
  Speaker 6: But that's okay.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Early on time is on time. However, I've been hyper
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: focused on my sleep pat patterns and I'm like so
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: hyper aware of my sleep patterns it's like crazy, and
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I get so excited when I wake up and I
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: have like optimal sleep, and I got into like the
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: good rem numbers and stuff like I feel like I'm
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: like a student at school.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: But if you do bad, do you overthink it?
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Or are you just like, oh, I had a bad
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: night of sleep or you like what did I do different?
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: Well, because I've been like six so it's been hard
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: because I'm like I could tell I had a bad
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: night's sleep, you know, like I was coughing all nights,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: Like that makes sense. I didn't get to ram or whatever.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm like super.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: Fixated on my or ring I surround myself with people
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: who have fixations, and I don't know how this happened
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: because I don't.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: I don't do it really and maybe I do and
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: it's not I need to think about this because I'm like,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: do I have fixations?
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: But I don't know.
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: I don't recognize them as fixations. But Tanya specifically and.
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: Ali specifically, well, it'll be all of.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: A sudden, it's like I can't eat anything out of
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: plastic containers.
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: Everything must be glass, and they get rid of every.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: Plastic container in their house or then it's like I
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: need to take I should be eating. Ali went through
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: the space where it was like two she had to
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: eat two dates for her gut health, and I'm like,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: how oh no, that.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: Is so funny.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: But isn't that interesting that you attract Like maybe what.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Is your opposite?
• 31:03
  Speaker 6: Yeah, like opposites attract.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: I suppose kind of something.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: No, Honestly, it is weird, like how much Ali and
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I hyper fixate on things and like it'll be that
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: thing of the moment, right.
• 31:18
  Speaker 6: It's the episode of your sitcom like we've talked about
• 31:20
  Speaker 6: in the past.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it is like that is like I am
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: so hyper focused on that right now.
• 31:25
  Speaker 6: Right this week time to gets an orr ring. That's
• 31:27
  Speaker 6: a show, right, yep?
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: And and Ali will go, oh yeah, I was talking
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: to Tony about this, and I'm like, y'all aren't allowed
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: to talk. It's too much like fixation in one space.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: But what I really appreciate is that for a minute
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: they were talking in a group chat that I was
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: involved in, and I was like, I don't want to
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: be here, like y'all please take this side, you know.
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: So I have to be grateful.
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: I have to be grateful that they have continued their
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: own conversation. But it's just interesting that you like attract
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: the opposite even in friendships, you know, because like Haley
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: and I are very opposite.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: But it's interesting to me because I do feel like
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: you just don't have It's not that you don't care,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: but like you really you embody care free energy.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: Because it's just a lot of effort to try and
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: control everything.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: It's like you don't care about anything. And that comes
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: off like in a negative way, but it's not.
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: I don't take it that way.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: It's not. It's like it's she's so cool, calm and
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: collected about everything, Like I don't know how to explain it.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: It's so interesting to me. I wish I had that.
• 32:35
  Speaker 8: Do you seem very balanced? That's what I thout.
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: I just don't feel like I have as much control.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: I think.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: I think there's this Okay, I started thinking about this
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden, and maybe it's because we have
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: social media, so people have an outlet to get their
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: information out and it has potential to go viral and
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: reach people. But all of a sudden, there's experts on everything.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: It's like, all of a sudden, your cortisol levels, Hi,
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: this is what you need to do.
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: And it's like I had never even heard about my
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: cortisol levels.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: So it's like, why, all of a sudden are there
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: are all these experts and why in the ancient times.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: We didn't have any of this stuff and everyone.
• 33:12
  Speaker 6: Was fine living longer.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: Really, I thought they lived way longer back in the day.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: No, So it's funny that you say that, because I
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: feel like ever since my hashimotoves diagnosis, people will like
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: come to me asking me for like medical advice, and
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not a doctor, nor do I ever
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: claim to be. And I try to like say that
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: as so much because I'm like I don't. I'm very
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: much an advocate for like be your own biggest advocate,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: because everything isn't a one size fits all, right, So
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I think that's like my mentality is like really dig in, like,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: don't take one person's word for it, get several opinions,
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: and like do your research.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: But I appreciate that because you've had you had your experience,
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: and that's what you share.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: But you're not trying to be like, this is what
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: you have to do. You're just like, this is what
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: I did.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can try it if you want, right, But anyways,
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: it's like tracking our sleep. It's just like there's all
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: these things where I'm like, but are they kind of
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: come out ten years later or five years from and
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: be like that was so bad for you to wear
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: that electronic thing on your finger and sleep in it.
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: I think about that too. I think about that with
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: electric cars too. Are you sitting on a cell phone
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: all day?
• 34:24
  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's possibility. I think about that with AirPods. Everyone's
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: got air pods. Yeah, And I resisted because I think
• 34:29
  Speaker 6: you're just beaming cancer into your head. I don't think
• 34:31
  Speaker 6: it's great, I know, but we'll never know until it's
• 34:33
  Speaker 6: too late for everybody.
• 34:34
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: Shoot that that ORR rings reminds me of the promise
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: ring that Robbi.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: It does, it does give. It has similar similar qualities,
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: except that this is smaller. The or A ring is
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: smaller bea.
• 34:49
  Speaker 6: The life expectancy in eighteen sixty was thirty nine years old.
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: I'm talking like ancient. I'm talking a full time.
• 34:56
  Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'm not really well. I don't know.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: I didn't realize that. Okay, then I take it back.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Maybe there's knowledge with knowledge is health.
• 35:10
  Speaker 6: And power, technology and medical.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: But no, it's like so true because I look at
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: you and I'm like, I wish I had some of
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: your energy just in general. But sometimes I think it
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: swings like too far because you're like the last person
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: to walk on a plane.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: I was about to talk about but because you brought
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: up gate and anxiety at the airport, which what exactly
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: how would you define gate anxiety?
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: So let's say I have to pee so bad, like
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: I'm about to pee. I've been holding it through the
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: TSA line. I am through TSA and there is a
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: bathroom right there. I cannot go to that bathroom that's
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: right there. I have to go to my gate first,
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: make sure that the gate is there, make sure that
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: it's going to my destination, make sure that everything is fine,
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: and then I can relieve myself. I have to get
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: to the gate before I can do anything.
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: Just because it may have changed.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: It may have changed, it may be it may not exist.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: I might have seen something weird. I don't know.
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: But if you're at the airport, how early do you
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: get to the airport?
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: Two hours depends if it's like quick flight or if
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: it's like international.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: I'll go.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: I'll try to be there an hour before.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Oh, an hour before international.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: Like make sure that I'm like at my gate an
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: hour before.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: Okay, so you have enough. You have plenty of time
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: to go pee and then go see your gate.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Correct, But I can't do it. No, I have to
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: see the gate.
• 36:37
  Speaker 6: Yes, I have to make sure my gate exists. Yeah,
• 36:39
  Speaker 6: and then I can go do other things.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, get a sandwich and get a salad.
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: You can get a sandwich too, that's fine, right whatever, Yeah,
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: not everyone's gluten free.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like, I can't do any of that until
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: I see my gate.
• 36:52
  Speaker 6: Yes, you have to prove it exists and that it's
• 36:55
  Speaker 6: going to the right place. And everything's fine.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all on the same time.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: Why couldn't it change after you look at it?
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: It certainly can, and it has. It definitely has.
• 37:04
  Speaker 6: That's what the app is for. But I still need
• 37:05
  Speaker 6: to see it with my own eyes first.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, okay.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: Check the people out. How many people are there.
• 37:12
  Speaker 7: I'm also afraid that if I go to like the bathroom,
• 37:14
  Speaker 7: I go to a restaurant, I'm not gonna be able
• 37:15
  Speaker 7: to find, like, I'm gonna get lost. But if I
• 37:18
  Speaker 7: look at the gate first, it's done.
• 37:20
  Speaker 8: I know where that is. Then I can go off
• 37:22
  Speaker 8: check check.
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: Wow, okay, great, you don't have that.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: I just trust that my updated texts that are coming
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: through or are accurate, and I get there right when
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: it's time to get on the plane. That's my dream.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: When I walk up and they're boarding, I'm like, this
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: is perfect.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: I've timed it, honestly, saying that would give me so
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: much anxiety if you were already and I when I
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: arrive and people are standing, like.
• 37:52
  Speaker 6: Oh no. If people are standing and I walk around
• 37:55
  Speaker 6: the corner, I'm like, oh my god, oh my god.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: Stands for no just standing around in the way for
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: no reason.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: Its like if everyone sat down until their group was called,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: that group stands up, lines up. We are animals. When
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: when I get off the plane, when I'm.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: Waiting for bad any of y'all do this.
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: When I get off the plane and I'm at baggage
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: claim and there is a row of men with their
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: knees up against the luggage belt your suitcase, just stand
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: back because as soon as I go and someone's to
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: my way, I'm so aggressive with it, like I will.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: I don't mind if I hit them in the elbow
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: or in the hip because I'm like, get out of
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: my way, scoop back like a normal person and wait
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: for the bag to get there.
• 38:44
  Speaker 7: With THEO drives me crazy because I always have that
• 38:46
  Speaker 7: big case of gear when I'm having somewhere and like
• 38:49
  Speaker 7: I have to knock an old lady.
• 38:50
  Speaker 8: Down to get it. It's a bummer. I don't want
• 38:53
  Speaker 8: to assault anybody.
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm fine.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: I don't have any issue like elbowing a man, but
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: like I'll be gentle if it's an old lad.
• 39:00
  Speaker 6: You know what I do hate we're talking about plane
• 39:02
  Speaker 6: behavior is when the plane stops, you're on the plane
• 39:05
  Speaker 6: and the clap nope, And that's kind of nice stop
• 39:09
  Speaker 6: lights come on. Everyone stands up. So that's together thing
• 39:12
  Speaker 6: that the people in the back decide, I'm getting off
• 39:14
  Speaker 6: this plane first, and they walk down the aisle as
• 39:16
  Speaker 6: far as they can, right past you, like there's a
• 39:19
  Speaker 6: way to get off the plane. It goes, it goes,
• 39:22
  Speaker 6: it goes. People just said no, I'm going and then
• 39:24
  Speaker 6: there's the You look up and there's just somebody standing
• 39:26
  Speaker 6: in the aisle next to your seat. Drives me nuts.
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: That also drives me nuts, and I just have to
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: hope that maybe they're rushing to catch another flight, And
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: that's just what I have to think, because otherwise there's
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: just no excuse for that behavior. You really, the airport
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: brings out the absolute worst qualities in every single person.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: I don't think so, No, it does. It does agree.
• 39:50
  Speaker 6: We were getting our luggage once at LAX and it
• 39:53
  Speaker 6: was delayed, like the luggage were taking forever to come off,
• 39:55
  Speaker 6: and because there were so many flights landing at the
• 39:57
  Speaker 6: same time, and because of that, there were so many
• 39:59
  Speaker 6: hundreds of people and baggae claim all at the same time.
• 40:01
  Speaker 6: And on top of that, for some reason, an alarm
• 40:04
  Speaker 6: was going off and it was a high pitch alarm
• 40:09
  Speaker 6: and it was like, this is a social experiment. This
• 40:11
  Speaker 6: is like how long before these people start to murder
• 40:13
  Speaker 6: each other? It's like the Hunger Games in here. This
• 40:16
  Speaker 6: is insane. So yes, I agree with you.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: Not the worst, Yeah, but I love watching people reunite
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: and stuff.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: That's a good part. Oh my gosh, I like this
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: Hailey so much.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: I'm like done, Like it's I get to see her
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: this weekend. So I'm like, I think, because I know
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: it's close, there's this feeling of like the I think
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: I've had to be strong for two weeks where I'm like,
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: I'm good, we'll get there, the time will come. But
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: this week, and maybe because of my period, I'm like, I'm.
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: Done, I'm done waiting. When are you leaving Thursday?
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: Wow?
• 40:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah?
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Is she gonna pick you u from the airport?
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Probably not, She's probably working, But it's okay.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Airports always get me emotional because I always think about that.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: I'm like someone's leaving and saying goodbye and someone's greeting
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: them on the other side, or someone's waiting, yeah he
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: sounds waiting to see them.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: But also there's been like this power outage or power outage.
• 41:13
  Speaker 7: I set that to my phone background to fit in
• 41:15
  Speaker 7: with everybody, the blue screen and the little sad face
• 41:19
  Speaker 7: that CrowdStrike. It was a cybersecurity company uploaded a bad
• 41:23
  Speaker 7: update took down the computers.
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: I think, dang well.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: I also had this thing because we always think of
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: people leaving and then going to see each other, but
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: it's also thinking about the people that are traveling for
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: like every occasion, like going to celebrate someone or going
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: to grieve someone. And like people were like saying they
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: were missing weddings and funerals because of this outage, and
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, like beyond just the
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: frustration of trying to go somewhere, even if work or whatever,
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: it's like big events that people, you know. Yeah, anyways,
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: we have a anonymous Dear bonya request, but we're gonna
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: take a break and we'll be up.
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: We are back, So we have Dear Bonnie help from
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: anonymous Mark.
• 42:25
  Speaker 6: Thank you so much loving the weekly segment. Dear Bonia,
• 42:27
  Speaker 6: and I would love your advice from my own situation.
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: Please.
• 42:29
  Speaker 6: I'm a female. I've been a relationship with my girlfriend
• 42:32
  Speaker 6: for six years now. She's always said that part of
• 42:34
  Speaker 6: the reason she felt for me was my positive outlook
• 42:36
  Speaker 6: on life, including when things go wrong. Well, the last
• 42:39
  Speaker 6: year or so, she's become such a negative person. It
• 42:42
  Speaker 6: truly affects my energy being a female myself. I try
• 42:45
  Speaker 6: to understand mood shifts, hormones, but it's a daily thing.
• 42:48
  Speaker 6: At this point, within the first hour of being awake,
• 42:51
  Speaker 6: it's complaints and it's going to take it home. It's
• 42:53
  Speaker 6: how bad everything throughout the day has gone. When I
• 42:56
  Speaker 6: try to spin things around, look at the positive, it's
• 42:58
  Speaker 6: now taken that I'm not seeing her feelings. How do
• 43:00
  Speaker 6: I approach this without a completely hurting her. I want
• 43:03
  Speaker 6: to be a supportive partner, but it's truly draining. Thank
• 43:06
  Speaker 6: you for the weekly laughs. I definitely need them.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: This sucks because it's so valid to have bad days.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: And like want your partner to just be like, I'm sorry,
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: Like that sucks, but a daily occurrence would be so
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: drain exhausting.
• 43:27
  Speaker 6: Sorry, we have no advice for your.
• 43:30
  Speaker 8: Good luck.
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: Well, I think here's the thing.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: Is she like going through something like is she depressed?
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: Or like maybe there's something that we're missing, some information
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: that we're missing.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that when you are in a highly
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: defensive state, there's no.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: Like, there's no win for the other person.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: Because if you're in a negative headspace and you can't
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: get out of it, whether you're in a depressed or
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: there's something going on hormonally or mentally, and someone tries
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: to be like, look at the positive, it can be
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: so infuriating.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: And it's also like I was thinking, if you maybe
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: try to like say, hey, you've been a little negative lately,
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: I feel like you've been complaining a lot, that might
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: set her off even worse. Or if you suggest going
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: to therapy, that might set her off even worse.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think at least with therapy you can
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: be like, hey, I really want to be there for you,
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: and I feel like I'm not doing it the right
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: way because I want to be like a positive spot
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: in your day, but I'm having a hard time reaching.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: You in that way.
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: So I think that maybe going to a therapist and
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: having a third party can help me understand how to
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: be there to support you because if you're feeling down
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: or everything feels dark, you know, I don't want you
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: to have a life like that, And it's also hard
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: for me.
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: As a partner.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I want to be able to be there
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: for you. So I know that every time there's couples
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: like issues, we're always like. But I just think it
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: adds an outside perspective and gives her a safe place
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: to talk about maybe what's causing it and get the
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: questions to be like what can you do to be
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: there for her? Because I don't think that it's fair
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: that you have to go through life walking on eggshells, yeah,
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: and having to just take the negativity without having a
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: response to it.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: And we also don't know. She didn't say how long
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: this has been going on.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: She said the last year.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: That's a long time.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: It's a long time. It does affect you.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: Because like maybe I'm thinking, like hormones, things like that
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: happen in life. We all have seasons mm hmmm.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: But they've been together for six years, so I think
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: it's a safe space that you can be like, Hey,
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: I love you, I want to be here for you.
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on, but I'm not I'm
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: obviously not saying what you need to hear. But it's
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: also affecting me, So what can we do?
• 45:58
  Speaker 7: Yeah, I learned way too late that when people are
• 46:03
  Speaker 7: in that mindset, they do not want to be told
• 46:05
  Speaker 7: about the bright side of things, because I always felt
• 46:08
  Speaker 7: that when I was like complaining or like seeing something
• 46:11
  Speaker 7: seeing something negatively, I wanted to be told Like I
• 46:14
  Speaker 7: was like looking for someone to say what you're feeling, like,
• 46:17
  Speaker 7: you know, you're blowing it out of proportion in your mind,
• 46:18
  Speaker 7: it's not actually that bad, but like that doesn't feel
• 46:21
  Speaker 7: the same as when you're telling it to somebody else.
• 46:23
  Speaker 7: And also, this person just wants to have their feelings validated.
• 46:26
  Speaker 7: When it's constantly like that it's been going on for
• 46:27
  Speaker 7: a year, I think this woman's depressed.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, something complaining and constant negativity. That's like a headspace, Yeah,
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: I do have.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: I think there was a time when Haley was going
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: through stuff and she was really down and I would
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: try to be like, you know, see the bright side,
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: and she would get upset and be like, I just don't,
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: like that's not helping me. And I I think I
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: literally said, can you tell me what you need to
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: hear from me in these moments, because I want to
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: be helpful for you, and I feel like I'm trying
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: to show like a differ perspective to be like, you know,
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: excited about this.
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: That's what I've.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Always been able to do, like even for myself, like
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: house to shift your perspective. But if you can't get
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: out of the depression or the darkness, then that's horrible
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: advice for that person. So I think that that's probably
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: about the time that we went to a couple's therapy
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: and that help, and it did.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: But some people like it, like I like, sometimes I
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: can go dark and I can spiral about stuff, usually
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: like it's about like age or whatever, and Robbie can
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: like really give me the like positive on it, you
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: know what I mean. Then he'll spin it. I'm not
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: spin it, but like really make me see the other side.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like I needed that.
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: So you either need a lawyer as a partner or
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: a therapist.
• 47:45
  Speaker 8: Someone with a confidentiality and greement exactly.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: But good luck.
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: I know this is hard, and I think that you
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: just being there for her but also suggesting you know
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: what you can do to help.
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: But also I don't think that it's it's fair for
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: you to.
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: Have your days and energy brought down because you're scared
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: to speak up.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: I agree, and we love you and we love you,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: and that's it for now.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: It is for now, but we'll be back on Thursday.
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: We have Gigi Caruso in studio in studio, so we
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: got to be talking to her all about her. She
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: has a foundation for it's called Here with You, which
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: is about her hearing loss journey, and she has a
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: brand that she's had for a long time.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: Actually she's a entrepreneur.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: So we're gonna be talking to her about all the
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: things and we'll be back on Thursday.