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When Direction Fully Rebuilds 🔴 FRIDAY (S5) S19:E7 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone, it is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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It's great to be with you on Inspirations
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for Your Life.
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All right, so let's get started.
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Okay, everyone?
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All right.
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So we've got a great show here and
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this wraps up another amazing week that I
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can't wait to share with you guys.
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So this is Inspirations Real Life.
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This is series five, means we're in our
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fifth year.
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We've completed four years and one, two, three,
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basically one, two, three, four, five, well not
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five, really four.
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So four years and four months have been
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completed to date and a little more.
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So this is series five, show 19, episode
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number seven.
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When direction fully rebuilds, that's what this whole
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thing is about here.
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When the direction fully rebuilds.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, when we hear that term, we
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don't really know what it means, but it
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means something pretty interesting.
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It means that there is potential in our
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lives to go further places.
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That's what it means.
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All right.
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I think a lot of people miss that
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point, but it's important to know that.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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I'm also a engineer, marketing specialist, video producer.
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Yes, ladies, gentlemen.
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And I am a podcast host and coach,
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a keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate lifelong learner,
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and now grateful to be a published author.
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And welcome everyone.
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Welcome.
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So besides welcoming you, it's important to know
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that the show is here to help you
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become a better version of yourself.
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This is the time, ladies, gentlemen, where life
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stops breaking and it starts stabilizing.
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And that can be scary for some people.
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Not temporary recovery, but permanent alignment to your
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core values.
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I found that when you align with your
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core values, life seems to be easier.
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I don't want to say easy, but easier.
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Direction becomes intentional, number one, and no longer
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reactive.
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You stop reacting to situations as they happen,
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and decisions begin coming from clarity instead of
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emotion.
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And this creates long-term stability in how
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you move forward.
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And I think a lot of people, when
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we hear this, it's like, I don't know,
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I don't really believe that.
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But when you believe something, guys, it actually
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starts to work.
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I think that's a thing that a lot
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of people don't realize.
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Number two, identity stabilizes through repetition.
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And you begin to see yourself through consistent
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action.
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Repetition removes confusion about who you are, becoming.
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Identity strengthens through daily behavior.
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And I think that's a very important thing
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to note.
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Discipline becomes automatic, and you no longer rely
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on motivation.
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Structure begins guiding your behavior naturally.
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Discipline becomes built into your routine.
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Number four, systems begin supporting structure again, and
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your routine stop breaking down, and systems begin
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reinforcing your progress.
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Instead of disrupting it, life becomes more predictable.
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Number five, focus becomes natural.
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You stop forcing attention.
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Clarity reduces distraction automatically.
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Focus begins holding itself in place.
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Execution becomes consistent, and you stop delaying the
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action that you've been wanting to take.
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You follow through, and that becomes your default
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response, and execution becomes stable and reliable.
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And guess what?
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You keep doing things over and over again,
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and you keep getting closer to your goals.
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I think when a lot of people hear
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the concept of this, they get a little
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bit scared.
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And it's not that they should get scared,
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it's that they get scared because they don't
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know what it means, right?
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What it means to them at the current
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juncture, what it means going forward.
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It's fear for a lot of people.
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It's false evidence appearing real.
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I said before that people love staying warm
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and comfortable or cold and comfortable, but they
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don't like things that are uncomfortable.
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They don't like things that are going to
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be uneasy for them.
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They just don't like that.
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Number seven, momentum becomes controlled, okay?
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And progress is no longer, ladies and gentlemen,
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random anymore.
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You have a set system.
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I think that's important.
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You begin building steady movement over time.
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And momentum stops collapsing under pressure.
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Pressure sometimes can cause hiccups in people's lives
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because they're not ready for what it's throwing
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at you.
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Number eight, growth becomes predictable, becomes predictable.
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And you start recognizing patterns in your results.
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Outcomes become repeatable instead of uncertain.
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Growth becomes structured, structured.
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Number nine, habits define outcomes.
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And what you repeat daily shapes your future.
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Small actions begin determining long-term results and
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habits begin to become the foundation of your
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known success.
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But many people along that pathway say, you
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know what, John?
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I don't know if I can do this.
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And they play this game of questioning.
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And then they basically talk themselves out of
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what they were doing.
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I think that's an important thing to realize
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is not to talk yourself out because, you
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know, you're already on the path, right?
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The path to basically being victorious.
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But then somebody said something, or maybe you
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had a doubt, and now that doubt starts
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to unravel the little bit of good that
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you've done.
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And then it gets worse.
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Number 10, structure defines life.
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Your day becomes organized through systems.
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You stop relying on urgency or emotion.
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And structure takes on a whole new decision
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-making process.
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I think that's important to know.
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Number 11, guys, confidence stabilizes through clarity.
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Clarity removes hesitation in your thinking, okay?
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You begin trusting your decisions more.
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Confidence becomes steady instead of emotional, okay?
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Number 12, awareness becomes constant.
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You begin noticing patterns in your behavior.
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You stop reacting blindly to situations.
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Awareness becomes active, and it's ongoing.
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It's ongoing.
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So now what was hidden is no longer
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hidden anymore, okay?
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It's no longer hidden anymore.
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I think that's an important thing to realize.
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It's no longer hidden anymore.
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Number 13, guys, behavior becomes aligned, and your
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actions start matching your intentions.
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Internal conflict begins to disappear, and behavior becomes
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consistent with goals.
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We achieve a goal.
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It's like, oh my gosh.
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It's like, it's amazing.
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And we feel so good inside.
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And then it's like, it happens again, like,
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oh, this is great, right?
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And then you start realizing things are a
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little bit easier.
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They're a little bit lighter.
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I don't want to say they're completely effortless,
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but they require a lot less effort.
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And you start to believe that you can
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do things.
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You start to understand patterns.
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You start to understand life.
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You start to realize this game that we're
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playing here, you can actually win at.
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I don't know about you, but when you
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can win at something, you want to keep
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playing.
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Most of the time, people in life are
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playing, but they don't know if they're going
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to win.
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They don't know if they're going to lose.
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So they're not enjoying the game very much.
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But when you stack the odds and know
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that you can win, oh my gosh, that
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changes the whole meaning.
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It changes the whole mood.
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Number 14, guys, thinking becomes clear and mental
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noise fades out.
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Your thoughts become structured and simplified.
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You begin thinking with direction.
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With direction.
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You don't just think for today, but you
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think, I'm going to say in a way
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called intentional.
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Intentional thinking means that you're aligned with your
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core values.
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You're aligned with your core values.
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You're aligned with your core values.
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I think that's an important piece to understand.
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They're aligned with core values.
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And the values allow you to move forward.
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But when you first hear it, or see
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it, or get a comprehension of it, you're
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like, wait a minute.
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Is this going to work?
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Is this going to help me?
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Is this going to hurt me?
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And that's the ego of yours trying to
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say that this isn't possible.
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Trying to be, let's say, a cynist, unfortunately.
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Number 15, guys, decisions become stronger.
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You stop second-guessing yourself, and clarity speeds
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up decision-making.
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Choices become more confident, and they become more
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stable.
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Energy becomes balanced, and you stop operating in
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extremes.
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Energy becomes steady and sustainable.
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Output becomes more controlled.
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Number 17, stability becomes lifestyle.
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Structure is no longer temporary.
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It becomes your normal way of operating, your
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way of life.
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It's second nature to you.
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Stability becomes part of your identity, and you
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wonder why you never had it before.
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So somebody who doesn't have structure will operate
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from one premise, but then when they get
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structure, it's like, oh my gosh, how did
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I ever live without structure?
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Some people are resistant to structure in the
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beginning, because they think structure's going to harm
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them, but structure's actually going to help them,
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and structure's going to give you more freedom.
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You heard me right.
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You structure a certain part of your life,
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you get freedom in others, and you get
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a lot of freedom.
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Number 18, progress becomes permanent, and you stop
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resetting after the setbacks.
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After the setbacks, you stop resetting.
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Movement continues forward consistently.
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Progress becomes ongoing.
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I think the reason why some people don't
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want to start, they're not sure if they
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can keep it going.
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They're not sure if they can handle it.
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They're not sure of what tomorrow will be
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like, and so what people tend to do
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when there's going to be change like this,
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they push back.
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They make excuses.
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It's too hard.
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I don't understand it.
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Our old way is much better.
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They make excuses to try to justify why
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they don't want to change, which is all
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baloney.
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The reason they don't want to change is
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because they're afraid that it could be different.
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They're afraid that it might be, well, a
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little uncomfortable, and I said before, success breeds
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in uncomfortability, so we have to practice getting
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comfortable being uncomfortable.
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Let me say that again.
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We have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable,
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and when we practice that enough times, getting
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comfortable being uncomfortable, we start to realize that
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it's a shift.
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It's a pivot in our life.
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It's a big pivot, and it becomes subtle
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at first, but then we're like, wait a
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minute.
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This has changed me quite a bit.
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It's changed me quite a bit, and that
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change starts to, let's say, percolate through.
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The group, the community, and when this happens,
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people ask questions.
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Why are we changing?
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This change isn't good, and people are trying
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to fight it like day one.
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They don't even give it a try.
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You ever had somebody, you say, I want
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to share something.
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Oh, I have my way.
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I'll listen to you, but I have my
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way, so you start explaining to them, and
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then they're immediately like, well, this is how
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we do it, and they're already trying to
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give you a hard time, and really, they've
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told you they want to change, but they're
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not going to change.
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They're thick-headed, thick-skulled.
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Number 19, guys, control becomes internal.
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External chaos no longer drives your emotion.
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Let me say that again.
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Control becomes internal, and external chaos no longer
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drives your emotions, so we can get two
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kinds of chaos.
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We can get chaos in our mind, and
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we can get chaos in our life externally.
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The chaos that's externally, we can't control, but
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what we can do is choose whether we
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associate or disassociate with it.
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John, what does that mean?
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Great question.
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When we choose to associate with somebody, person,
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place, thing, we're going to find that it
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controls us.
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When we disassociate with something, we notice immediately
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that it's lost any bit of control for
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us.
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That scares people, but did you know you
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had that power?
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If you just were able to just concentrate
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on something that you like, it gets easier.
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If you concentrate on something, or you focus
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on something, and you become part of it,
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like a friend, or somebody you're with, a
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relationship, but maybe that relationship is going south,
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you need to disassociate with it.
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By you doing that, your emotional bonds are
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released, and now your body's not controlled like
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a puppet or a marionette.
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You're free as a bird.
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But a lot of those people don't want
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to become free, because now they're on their
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own, and they're afraid.
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You remain steady, guys, regardless of the conditions.
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Control becomes self-based, and when control becomes
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self-based, we self-regulate.
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You know, a lot of people in business
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don't like being in business with themselves.
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You know why?
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Because they don't know how to regulate themselves.
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They don't know how to regulate.
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And although that can be confusing, it's absolutely
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the darn truth.
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Somebody who's been with a company for many
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years is probably not going to run their
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own business unless they are very disciplined.
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If they're not, every time they start, they're
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going to falter.
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They're going to fail.
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Not that I want them to, but they're
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going to fail.
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And by them failing, they're going to believe
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that they're worthless.
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They're going to believe that they can't contribute
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to themselves or to society, and so they
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figure the best thing to do is to
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just give up.
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But ladies and gentlemen, that's frustration talking.
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That's not your true potential.
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When the direction fully rebuilds, we get a
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second wave of hope, a second wave of
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hope, hope to be able to grow, to
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understand.
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Number 20, guys, fear becomes minimal.
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Uncertainty loses influence.
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Clarity replaces doubt, we've said that before, and
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hesitation.
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So clarity replaces doubt and hesitation.
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Fear no longer controls decisions anymore.
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How do you do that?
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You disassociate with something.
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Number 21, clarity becomes identity.
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How you think becomes consistent across all situations.
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Clarity becomes who you are.
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Identity stabilizes through understanding.
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So the more that we understand something, the
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more that we learn about something, that's why
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I always tell people, if you can't learn
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something, maybe you need to overlearn.
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If you overlearn, you'll appreciate, but then you'll
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learn what you need to learn.
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Number 22, action becomes automatic and you stop
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overthinking before you execute.
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It's kind of like, you know, you're making,
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let's say you're making a flan or you're
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making, let's say a type of saute, and
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you beat the eggs too much.
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Well, it's a disaster, right?
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They're either under beaten or they're overbeaten, and
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if you don't have the right consistency, the
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right texture, it just is terrible.
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Action, ladies and gentlemen, becomes your natural response,
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and execution becomes immediate.
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Your system develops this response system.
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It's very similar to if you've ever been
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by the stove, and maybe it was very
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hot, and you almost burned yourself, and you're
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like, you know, like you quick pull the
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hand away like that, right?
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That's a reflex, because you know it's hot,
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and you know that by you pulling away,
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you're going to protect yourself.
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Number 23, guys, results reinforce success, and outcomes
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begin confirming your system works.
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Success patterns strengthen over time, and feedback becomes
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positive reinforcement.
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The more that we get positive reinforcement, the
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more it goes into a loop, the more
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it gets stronger.
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You know, the best way to think about
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this, so I don't know if any of
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you have a pool, so we have a
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pool, and I like to go in the
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spa a lot.
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So the water starts in the spa at
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one temperature, okay?
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Then the water circulates, goes through the heating
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pipes, again, the exchanging pipes, gets warmer again,
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and it goes up a few degrees, right?
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So that's what's happening.
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It's coming back into a cycle, and then
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it's getting boosted.
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That's what's happening to you.
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You're doing it with energy.
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We're doing it with temperature, but you're doing
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it with actual energy in your body.
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How about you, but when your body gets
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this dose, it's like, oh my gosh, I
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can do anything.
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Number 24, discipline defines the character.
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Consistency becomes who you are, not something you
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try, but something you are.
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When I believe I am, I am that.
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Character becomes structure.
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When character becomes structure, it's like, oh, I
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think I can make this work.
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Number 25, guys, direction locks in.
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You stop drifting between choices.
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Can't make that decision.
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Your path becomes stable, and it's very clear.
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Direction becomes fixed and intentional.
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Number 26, growth compounds naturally.
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Each action builds on the last.
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Progress begins accelerating over time.
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Growth becomes exponential in structure.
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It doesn't happen if there's no structure.
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If you have a spa or a pool
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and you're trying to heat the water, and
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suddenly the burner goes out, well, there's no
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way of getting the water hot anymore.
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It passes through the pipes, and maybe it
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stays a little warm, but what happens is
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that temperature eventually will deplete, will drop, because
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the pipes are going to get cold.
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Not right away, but the pipes will get
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cold eventually.
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And when they do, the water will start
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to get cold.
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So systems, ladies and gentlemen, number 27, hold
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everything together, and the structure becomes the foundation
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of stability.
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The more that we're stable, the more confident
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we're going to become.
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And when we're confident and we get through
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something easily, it's like, oh, I can do
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this.
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Yes, you can.
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Chaos gets reduced, guys.
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So when we have this integrity, when we
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have this structure, the chaos just sort of
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disappears.
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When there is confusion, you need to have
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a resolution.
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Otherwise, you're either going to stay where you
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are or you're going to go backwards.
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Number 28, identity fully stabilizes, and you are
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no longer shifting versions of yourself.
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You become consistent and aligned.
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Identity becomes steady.
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Life becomes structured.
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Chaos is replaced with predictable systems, number 29.
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Daily life becomes organized.
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And here's the word, guys, my favorite word,
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intentional.
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And guess what?
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When you become intentional, when you become direct,
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when you operate on your core values, stability
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inevitably becomes the default.
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Stability inevitably becomes the default.
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Number 30, guys, rebuild, and it becomes complete.
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You're no longer recovering from disruption.
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You're operating in full alignment.
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Transformation becomes permanent.
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It becomes permanent.
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I think that's important to know.
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I think when we can have these kind
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of moments, we can really change things.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is not motivation.
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This is alignment.
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Motivation is part of it, but we have
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to be aligned so we can stay on
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the track.
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When structure returns, only then will life return.
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Only then.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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Have a great one, and I will catch
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you guys tomorrow on another brand-new master
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Take care, everyone.
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