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A SUBMISSIVE USER, FINDING A PRO DOMME AND KNOWING HOW NOT TO DISAPPOINT YOUR DOM · CALL ME MISTRESS

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Hi, welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
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I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and today I have with me Kinky
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Kylie. Hi.
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Hi, Kylie. Hi, Mia.
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I'm so glad you decided to come over today.
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Yeah, it's rare I'm off on Saturdays.
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Very rare. I was like, Kylie's got to have
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plans, maybe going to the. Beach.
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Nope, nothing. I was like, I'm going to sit at
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my house in my bed. Why change those plans for you
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today? So thank you for that.
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Thank you, give me something to do.
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Yeah, absolutely. I think we need to get you out
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in the sun. And I saw your legs last night.
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We need to get you tan. I don't tan Mia.
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I burn bad. OK, well, it's a gradual
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process, so we'll do something gradual for you, OK.
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And it's always hard to tan the legs, so.
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Especially when you don't wear shorts.
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Yeah, yeah, I saw those last night.
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We're going to get into last night, but on another episode.
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OK, For now, I will tell you this much.
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I had the slave. He wants to be a slave and he'd
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reached out to me a few weeks ago.
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We had talked for a good eight days on the phone.
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He tells me that he does contract work and that he wanted
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initially to have live kind of be his guide, his mistress, and
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because he is not going to be coming to the dungeon every
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week, etcetera, etcetera. He wanted a lot of phone
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conversations about everything. And Liv is just not a phone
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person. She's like, yeah, not into it,
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not going to do it. And I said, oh, I totally get
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that. However, I'm always on the phone
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and I thought, why not? I'll take it.
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I'll do a new assignment, a new person.
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A new. Project.
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A new project. I am sadly regretting it.
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I yeah, I really am. So I'm going to tell you.
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I'm going to tell you what happened, and then we're going
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to kind of go back on other doms and protocol and how you create
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this DS relationship. OK, so when I first start
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talking to him, he wants me to immediately give him orders.
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And I said, look, I don't know your life.
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I have to get to know you on some level.
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I don't know any triggers that you might have.
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I don't know your expectations. I don't know anything about you.
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He literally came to the dungeon twice before, and I've
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communicated with him over the years on fat, but never in a
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very personable or personal capacity, I should say.
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And so we began this relationship via phone.
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He says, you know, right now I'm over in Alabama an hour plus
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away. He's like, just ask me whatever
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it is you want to know and we can go from there.
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I said, all right, well, tell me about your life.
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Well, he's a man in his 50s, early 50s, and he told me how he
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had a college sweetheart. They were planning to get
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married. It fell apart because she
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cheated on him. And then she boasted later to
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people and he heard about it when she was telling other
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people, Oh, he'll forgive me. It was a simple slip up.
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We're still going to get married.
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It's no big deal. She's very cavalier about it.
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OK, right. What a great girl.
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Amazing. Amazing.
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So then he breaks up with her and then he pursues another
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woman that he meets right after college.
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They end up getting married and when they do, they're married
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for several years before they conceive a child.
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They're married at this point and together for almost 20
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years. When she says, hey, I'm going to
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go see my parents, I'll be back in a week.
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And when she leaves, she's gone for good, files for divorce,
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already has a new man. All of this happening now.
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I feel bad for him, Yeah, because he still never got over
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it. And it's been almost 10 years at
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this point that he's kind of been living single to some
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degree without a committed marriage.
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But he tells me days after we've been talking, I would say it's a
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good four or five days at this point that he has been living
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with this woman on and off because he has a place here
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locally and then she has a place in Alabama.
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But he'll go and mainly stay with her in Alabama.
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But yet they don't have a sexual relationship anymore.
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He's not interested in having a sexual relationship with her.
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But he finally tells me, well, she's kind of my sub and we have
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ADS relationship. I'm like, look, no judgement,
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but don't you think this could have been something you tell me
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at the very beginning, hey, by the way, I'm a acting Dom in ADS
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relationship and I have a sub. I would think that would be kind
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of critical. Feel like that would be very
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important to tell a perspective Dom yes.
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Yes, because I want to know. He gave me the impression that
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there was no commitments, that he didn't have any obligations
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other than he explained to me that he was living with a friend
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just for convenience sake because his vehicle was getting
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fixed in that city, et cetera, et cetera.
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She has kids that he's grown fight quite fond of and that he
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feels a lot of compassion towards them.
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So he helps them out financially.
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And I said, OK, how much financially?
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Well, this is the thing that bothers me when you're not
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living paycheck to paycheck. And what he has is a job with a
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contract. He tells me that he's no longer
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employed with a contract currently, but that he's still
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spending a lot of money. And I'm like, OK, well, what is
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a lot of money to you? Well, he's like, well, I don't
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know how much I'm spending. I said, OK, so you have no job.
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You're living on your savings and whatever you now have in the
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bank and credit cards. How many credit cards do you
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have? I think you told me had like
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four or five credit cards. Jesus, that can get used into
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real trouble. Real.
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Fast. Real fast, right And I said OK
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and he's like, yeah, that's not the only thing.
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She's got one of my cards and her daughter has one of my cards
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and I'm like, now let's clarify something.
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So you're not having sex with her.
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Do you get any sexual gratification?
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He's like, no, I don't really have an interest in doing that
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with her. I said OK, what do you do with
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her that actually states that you have ADS relationship with
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her. If you don't play with her
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sexually, you don't really do anything for one another.
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He's like, well, she cooks for me every so often.
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I'm like, what? OK, I'm just taking all this in.
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I'm just wanting him to fill in the gap so I can understand
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better. I'm trying.
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To understand myself, you're. Trying to understand yourself,
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and this is really what I'm getting into, is that there's
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just so many levels of uncertainty at this point where
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I have no fucking clue really what's going on.
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But he finally explains it to me and I said, look, you're not a
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Dom and you're not a Dom to her. You're a fucking sugar daddy
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that's running out of money. OK, OK, now it's making.
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Sense it's making sense, right? So the previous month I told
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him, I said, look, I want you to go through all of your, your
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statements, your bank statements, your credit cards.
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I want to know the balances. I want to know every penny that
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is going out the door each month.
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So he tells me the previous month he spent well over
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$15,000. Holy shit, God.
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And get this, his house here is paid for and in the girlfriend,
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I'm going to call her the girlfriend.
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She owes him like almost 60 grand.
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Jesus. Yeah, because he put a big
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deposit on her department. He's done all these things for
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her, and he's still spending money on her children.
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Yeah, OK. Yeah, you're with me.
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I'm with you. OK, I'm confused but I'm with
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very. Confused.
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And I said, all right, so this is what I want you to do.
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And I told him I want him to document everything.
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I want him to go back on everything.
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And then I said, have you talked to her about what she spends
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each month? And he said, well, I mentioned
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it to her a few months ago, but it really hasn't stopped.
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Well, apparently there's only him, her daughter, and this
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woman staying in the apartment and he's over at her place 60%
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of the time. Majority, maybe even 70% of the
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time. And he said that when they go
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grocery shopping, she easily spends $400.00.
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And I'm like $400.00 for three people.
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That's insane. That's insane.
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Like what is she buying, right? I mean, I know the food's
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expensive, but it's not $400.00 for three people expensive.
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No, no, it was a lot to unpack. It really was.
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And so he then says, well, can you give me some rules?
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I said, OK, well here you go. The first day I told him that
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since he wasn't interested in her sexually and there's no
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reason at all to say hey abstain from sex because he hasn't had
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sex in literally years. You're with me.
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I wouldn't survive. You wouldn't survive.
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I know. Oh my God.
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Yeah, you and me. I mean, after 2-3 days it's like
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we want to hit up a fucking needle of drugs of sex.
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Exactly. Like, I'm just trying to find
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like oxytocin and sparingly, you know?
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Yes, yes. I couldn't do it.
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Crazy, crazy. Absolutely insane.
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Anyway, so he then proceeds so he then proceeds to tell me, you
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know, he wanted rules and I said OK, well go ahead and I want you
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to order these two cock cages inexpensive.
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I want you to start wearing them.
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I want you to go back to your house here locally so eventually
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we can see each other in a few days.
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And I said for what he does, he can come over and help me with
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one task and that was to look at my computer.
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In the meantime, I also told him what other things would you like
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to wear or do and he said that cissification on some levels of
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healing, he really just wants to wear panties on occasion.
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I said So what I want you to do is go and purchase 7 pairs of
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panties, one for each day for the week, and I want you to
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ultimately start wearing those. You don't have to start yet.
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And then I told him I sent him a link for this series of butt
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plugs. There's like 3 butt plugs.
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He can start small and go up. He said when you want me to
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start all of this. And I said you know he brought
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sent me pictures once he got everything in the mail and I
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told him I said well you don't have to start with the chastity
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or the panties yet because I want you to come over.
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No, let me rephrase this. I told him he needs to get waxed
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or completely shave himself and he's like I don't know how to do
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that so he was too afraid to shave his shit.
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OK. Interesting.
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And out of the blue, he decides to send me chassis pics that I
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didn't ask for. Mind you, if I'm not mistaken, I
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did not ask for those chassis pics because I know he wasn't
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shaved. So I can only imagine a man in
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his 50s, yeah, who's not vigilant on actual grooming, how
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bad it's going to look. I it was so gross.
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Look, I don't like Gray hair on someone's head, let alone on
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their pubes. And he had a cascade of hair
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coming out of the chastity. There's nothing appealing about
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that. No, there's not.
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It's awful. It's so awful and disgusting.
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I I went through my phone just to make sure that all the
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pictures were gone. I was like, God, I don't want to
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see that again. It's like burning my retinas.
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It's awful. It's awful.
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Sounds bad. It does.
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It is horrible. That's why women turn gay is
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seeing pictures like that. You see what I'm saying?
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You know, You know. Kylie I don't think that's what
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the cause is. But it doesn't help their case.
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You know? It doesn't.
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It doesn't. It doesn't.
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It does not. All right, so I'm telling you
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I'm like, Oh my God. All right.
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Swami and thinks lesbians exist. I'm telling you, it's bad.
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It's so bad. So he sent me these pictures.
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I was like, Oh my God, you really need to groom yourself.
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And I said, look, there's, there's places by you, you can
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just go and get waxed. And no, no, no, no.
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He's like, I'm just going to go and I'm going to get this
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pedicure today. And I was like, they do waxing
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at a fucking salon. You can get waxed there even.
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This was the thing he was always trying to top from the bottom
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regardless, because he always thought he knew more and better
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than I did. And that was the other thing
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that it was more or less like, I want to punch this man because
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he thinks that he was more knowledgeable on things than me
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about BDSM, right? Or chassis, for that matter.
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So then I told him, I said, OK, look, come over on Tuesday.
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At this point, he hadn't masturbated.
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And it was like day seven or eight.
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I said, listen, come over Tuesday.
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I have Abby. She'll help you out.
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She'll broom you, she'll shave everything.
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She'll narrow some special spots and she'll even do your asshole
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because quite truthfully, you need a clean asshole if you're
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going to do plugs or anything or any kind of play.
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And so he was like, OK, well, he writes me the next night.
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He writes me this letter and it's this e-mail.
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And he addresses me in the third person.
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He's like, well, whatever mistress wants or whatever she
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feels is best. And it was as if I wasn't a real
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person because it was so impersonal and I already knew
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that he had his guard up. Kind of like talking to like are
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talking about someone. Like when I get this person,
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this is what I want her to do rather than acknowledging you as
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someone who's already doing it. Yes, exactly, exactly.
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And I said, look, I said, you know, there's there's really
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things you have to understand. I don't just jump into ADS
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relationship. That's not how it works.
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I said we need to be friends on some level.
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And so my thing of it is we have to be friends on some level and
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we have to develop this trust, this understanding.
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Again, I try to be very transparent with people.
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And I said, look, you know, I only have so much time in my
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day, but I'm going to make time for you.
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And this was something I did. And I thought, man, you know,
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I'm really doing this out of the kindness of my heart because I
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said to him, you're spending so much money right now in your
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bills and her debt and the accumulation of trying to keep
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up with your credit cards that you're going to be running out
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of money in the next three months if you don't attain a
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contract with a new company. He's like, yeah, you're right.
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I don't know what I'm going to do.
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I said, you need to fucking figure this out.
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So you need to make it a high priority.
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I said, so for the next three days, you're not going to
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masturbate. We're not going to talk a bunch.
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I want you to focus on your work.
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I want you to try to find a contract, solicit other
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companies and see what happens because you've got to get a job.
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He's like, you're right, you're right.
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I've been procrastinating. You know, I said, well, look,
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I'm trying to get you on the right track, but in the
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meantime, I don't want a cent from you.
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I don't want you to pay me because you don't have a job, I
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said. So I want you to go ahead and
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think about paying me later when you get a contract and we'll
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make out some type of payment arrangement on a weekly basis.
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If I'm speaking with you every day.
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I said, because the way I look at our relationship is going to
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be I'm your guide. I want to help you.
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I am your your consult, I'm your your confidant.
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I want you to come to me, ask my opinion and I will help you.
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I'm going to be your right hand guide on all of this, I said.
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And when the time comes, we'll branch into more of the BDSM
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aspect of things, right? OK, so in this e-mail that he
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writes me after I said all of that, he writes me this e-mail
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completely impersonal, completely emotional disconnect.
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Didn't talk to me as if I'm a friend, talk to me.
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And it was just like, I was just cringe.
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It was like, really, am I? Am I just your person on the
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side that you can talk to? Like, we don't, we're not
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forming a connection, right? The thing of it is, it's like he
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does nothing for me, even sexually, he does nothing for
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me. He's not attractive to me.
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I'm not into older men who look older than what they are.
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He's just not. But I was willing to look past
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that. I didn't really care because
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it's not about my attraction. It's about forming a connection
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that we can be friends and that I could help him with his life
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because he's still stuck in the past.
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And what we continue to talk about.
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I asked him questions. He was telling me that for his
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ex-wife, for example, she had top of the line VIP tickets to
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an amusement park that even the employees did not even know
17:40
anything about. Like everything he did, it was
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always VIP. It was always buying her
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excessive things, everything in excess.
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And ultimately when they got a divorce, he let her have 95% of
17:53
everything, money included. Jesus.
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Yeah. And he still makes child support
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payments that are not even in his financial budget right now
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and he still hasn't seen his child in years because the
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ex-wife doesn't comply with even giving a shit to let him see
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her. So now we're at this point that
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after the e-mail and everything else, I talked to him the next
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day and I said, hey, look, I got your e-mail this morning.
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And I told him pretty much what I just said.
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There's an emotional disconnect. He was talking about me like I'm
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in the third person, like things weren't active.
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And he tells me in this e-mail that he wants to be able to
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satisfy me sexually and basically give me oral sex.
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And I said, well, I don't do that.
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And I said, and even if there is any type of exchange in payment,
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I'm still not doing anything to what you're wanting in that
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aspect. I said I'm in a monogamous
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relationship and then I have my play toy on the side that I play
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with. But you're not in either of
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those dynamics, so I don't want any of that.
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Right, and also not a prostitute.
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So we don't do sex. So we don't do sex exactly.
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So I told him, I said you're not paying me.
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And so even this arrangement right now, I'm not interested in
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you, period. So I don't think that's what he
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wanted to hear. Clearly he, like so many other
19:21
men, think that Oh yeah, if I can satisfy her orally and eat
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her pussy, it's going to make everything.
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Great. Yeah.
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That's what did it for him. All right, So then after that,
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it is the morning of Tuesday. He messages me out of the blue
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first thing he says, hey, I want to pause and not come today.
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I want to cancel. I said, OK, what's up?
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He said. Well, after our conversation and
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just everything, I just kind of want to pause.
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I said, OK, well, that's your prerogative.
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No big deal. I said, go about your life, do
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what you want to do. I'll talk to you another time.
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No big deal, right? All right, so I'm at this point,
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it's, I think it's day 9 for him.
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He still hasn't had actual orgasm.
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OK, so another day process is another day.
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And I out of the blue, two days later, I hear from him.
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Quote, UN quote. I'm going to say this verbatim.
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Oh my God, I came last night. It was glorious.
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It went everywhere. I hope you have a great day.
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What? What the fuck?
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Yes, thank you, I said. What the fuckity fuck.
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So let me tell you. So I tried calling him and he
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didn't answer the phone right away.
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So then he goes and texts me and he says oh I'm sorry.
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I was, I was watching something and I had my ringer down.
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OK, so then he texts me again and I was like OK, he didn't say
20:35
anything other than yeah, I'm sorry I missed your call.
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So anyway, I called him back and I said I'm going to explain
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something to you. I said First off, and I told him
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about the, the whole e-mail, I told him, I said, you know, I'm
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going to tell you you're a fucking idiot.
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This is why you don't understand women.
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This is why you're single. This is why every relationship
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you have been in three counting 3 and you're already in your
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early 50s. You've only been in three actual
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relationships. You've been with nothing but
21:03
women who have taken advantage of financially.
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And I'm the one person who asks for nothing, No money, no
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nothing. And yet you pretty much slapped
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me in the face with no regard. And he's, he didn't know what to
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say. And I said, I said, you come to
21:21
me, asked me if I could do and be a Dom for you.
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And even with hesitance, I thought, I thought, I'm going to
21:29
give this guy a shot because he's come to the dungeon.
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I feel compassion for him. And I thought, you know, I'm
21:34
going to help this guy. I want him to get his life under
21:37
control and that was the initial plan that we were going to go
21:40
through his finances. We were going to set him a
21:42
budget. Then ultimately I told him that
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after he got his clean shave on Tuesday that he could put on the
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chastity. He could have it his Dick oiled
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up so the chastity will feel nice and won't feel aggressive
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rubbing on fucking body hair. And then he could wear his
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panties and he could feel the silkiness of the panties and
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start feeling a little more feminine.
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But what the fuck did he do? He cancelled on me instead of
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saying hey mistress, let's go get a pedicure.
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The first couple of days after we started talking he went and
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just got himself this very expensive pedicure.
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But yet he couldn't even ask me to go.
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He couldn't even gift me something nice because I was the
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one taking time out of my day. And it wasn't just a 15 minute
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phone call, it was an hour, hour and a half that we would talk on
22:29
the phone and I was nothing but but kind to him to help him out.
22:34
And what did he do? Betrayed my trust, slapped me in
22:37
the face and acted so nonchalant like I wanted to know about his
22:42
fucking orgasm. After he said, let's put it on a
22:44
pause. You know, he's messaging me two
22:46
days. Oh, it was glorious.
22:48
I fucking came all over the place.
22:50
I'm like, I don't want to fucking know about your fucking
22:52
orgasm. Yeah, no one cares.
22:55
It's. Classless.
22:56
It is like the next worst thing is an unsolicited Dick pic.
22:59
Yes, you know, it's just so fucking cheesy and I just didn't
23:05
even know what to say to that. I was like, I gave myself before
23:09
I called him. I gave myself like a 10 minute
23:11
pause. I took a breath.
23:13
I was like, I'm driving. I, I'm going to come unglued
23:18
with this because I thought, how dare he?
23:20
I mean, I just, I was literally speechless with no fucking
23:25
regard. He just said, Oh yeah, you know,
23:28
on day 11, I'm going to fucking come.
23:30
I'm going to tell Mia all about it.
23:32
And I want her to know that I came.
23:35
Fuck her. That's what it felt like.
23:37
Yeah, that's insane. It is.
23:39
And I told him. I said This is why you're a
23:41
fucking loser. This is why you don't have a lot
23:45
of friends. You don't have a fucking woman
23:47
who loves and supports you. You don't have these things.
23:50
You have a a woman who you're not even sexually attracted to
23:54
and you're paying her over 10 grand a month for nothing but
23:58
supporting her and her kids. Like that's fucking loser level.
24:02
That's bad. That's bad.
24:03
That's really bad, like. You feel comfortable being taken
24:06
advantage of, and then you have a dominatrix and people call me
24:10
from fucking all over the world, and I'm going to brag about
24:14
that. Yeah.
24:15
I mean I I have this one guy and he is coming in from Europe that
24:18
he wants to see me next month. He calls me, he sends me little
24:22
gifts and yet I get this fucking Joe schmo fuck that tells me he
24:27
couldn't even hold off day 11. And oh this was the other thing.
24:31
After I told him that I was going to get him shaved because
24:33
he didn't know how to fucking man shave himself and be a
24:36
fucking man, I said what? 52 year old plus man doesn't
24:41
know how to shave his own shit? You don't know how to manage a
24:44
razor. Yeah.
24:45
So I want to know a man who doesn't know how to shave his
24:47
own shit. And the fact that he would
24:48
rather go get a fucking pedicure than go get his shit waxed and
24:52
cleaned up. I I was shocked.
24:53
I was really shocked. And I had this conversation.
24:56
I know I I'm just, I'm still, I'm still dumbfounded.
25:01
Yeah. By how he can be so fucking
25:03
stupid and so ignorant that, you know, not even to say, hey, Mia,
25:07
you know, I sent you something on Amazon just as an
25:10
appreciation for all of your help.
25:13
I mean, I helped him try to maintain a budget.
25:15
I helped him actually confront. And I told him to confront this
25:18
woman about her excessive spending his money.
25:22
And I'm trying to help him guide his life.
25:24
And I told him I, you know, I want you to have a functional
25:26
relationship. I want to see maybe one day
25:28
you'll get married again. I want you to have all of these
25:31
things and find happiness within yourself.
25:34
Oh, I even got him to schedule a doctor's appointment because I
25:37
said, first and foremost, you need to go to the doctor.
25:40
You need to get your testosterone checked.
25:42
You need a full blood panel done because there's a reason why he
25:45
doesn't have a big sex drive. There's a reason behind, you
25:48
know, certain issues that he's had.
25:50
So why not get checked out? He said he hadn't been to a
25:52
doctor in over 30 years. Jesus.
25:55
Yes, since college. Jesus.
25:57
Christ, yes. And some men are like that.
26:01
I get it. They're like that.
26:02
They're control freaks. And that's hence why he was
26:05
always trying to top from the bottom.
26:07
But I'm just, I was really, it really hurt my feelings.
26:11
And that's where I go with this. I think it really hurt my
26:14
feelings because I stepped out of my comfort zone to help
26:18
somebody that I felt compassion for all because all because I
26:21
was trying to help him and nothing like total disregard.
26:25
He doesn't even see anything wrong with his behavior.
26:28
That's what pisses me off. So in all of this as to what I I
26:32
understand over the years, I've always had different people,
26:36
slaves, Subs, I even have women that are wannabe doms that want
26:39
me to train them and I'm happy to do that.
26:42
But I think people really need to understand that there's a lot
26:45
of con artists out there. There's a lot of women that
26:47
pretend to be doms and they just want you for your money and
26:51
that's how it is. But I wasn't one of those people
26:54
to him. And I made that very clear at
26:56
the very beginning of all of it, right?
26:58
And I think that is where so many doms, they give other
27:02
dominatrixes bad reps for taking advantage of people for wanting
27:06
gift cards. And then they never do any type
27:09
of service or anything to help those Subs or slaves, right?
27:13
I had this one guy and he wrote me and he's, he's NI think he's
27:18
in Canada. And he wrote me last week and
27:20
he's like, please, do you know any legit Doms here?
27:24
And I said, well, look, you can go on fat life.
27:26
You can go on through other avenues.
27:28
There's other ways you can find real dominatrixes or just Doms.
27:32
Why don't you look for an actual relationship, right?
27:34
That's where we're at. That's where we're at.
27:35
And I told you I was going to save this story just so I can
27:37
get your initial reaction on all of it.
27:39
Yeah. You know, there was something in
27:41
me that didn't like him from the beginning.
27:43
Even the way he interacted with us, I didn't have that great
27:47
feeling. I felt like he was a little
27:49
weasel. I felt like he was gonna run,
27:50
yeah. We both kind of felt like it was
27:52
gonna run. It's just too much.
27:54
But he would run because he is a self absorbed, selfish little
27:59
man who obviously wants to talk from the bottom and he pretends
28:03
to be a Dom to this woman. He's not.
28:05
And then he's a submissive in actuality, but he can't give
28:08
control. He can't give it up.
28:09
I think more for him in his past relationships it's all been
28:12
money oriented, yes. So giving loads of money, doing
28:16
loads of things that are financially dependent, makes me
28:19
wonder if he has the ability to do anything other than control
28:23
money itself. Maybe, maybe not.
28:25
Because his attitude, the way he acts, the way he talks, none of
28:28
that is really a man who's in control of himself, much less
28:33
anybody else. Which makes me wonder if money
28:35
is the only thing he has to control and that's why he gives
28:38
it out so much and why he's in the situation he's in.
28:41
Very much so, yeah. He just couldn't give it out
28:43
emotionally. Right.
28:44
He didn't have the emotional or mental capacity capacity.
28:47
Sounds like he doesn't have much of physical capacity anymore.
28:50
Either No, no, I mean he talked about having a connection with
28:54
like nieces and nephews and how they had a great, great
28:57
relationship, but then he hadn't gone to his his one siblings
29:01
house to see his nieces and nephews.
29:03
And so of course I was like, you're going to go over there
29:05
every week. I said, how long has it been?
29:07
He's like, oh, I haven't seen him in most a year.
29:09
I said get up off your ass. You're not doing anything,
29:11
you're not even working and go see them every weekend.
29:14
They're in town. Makes no sense.
29:15
He made no sense. And yeah, you're right.
29:19
I just don't think if I maybe came on to the fact of, hey,
29:23
you're going to pay me, you're going to be this, this and this
29:25
and maybe that could have just been more.
29:26
He would have understood. Some people only understand
29:29
money. Yeah, that's sad.
29:30
That's the only thing they have to control, both the people
29:34
receiving money from people and people who hand it out and some
29:37
people. It's their only language.
29:39
So I'm going to give the reason why I want to do this episode
29:42
because it was about giving men advice.
29:44
Men or women who really want a Dom and they want to find
29:47
someone legitimate. You need to ask yourself, do you
29:49
want to deal with someone professionally and have a
29:52
professional relationship? Or do you want to meet someone,
29:55
form a friendship and or want an actual relationship in your life
30:00
To have someone on every level be your Dom in real life?
30:04
Someone you could potentially have an actual relationship with
30:07
you could do. Professional, you can do
30:08
relationships and you can also do similar like friends with
30:12
benefits, types of DS relationships.
30:15
They're not necessarily professional and you're not
30:16
necessarily in a relationship with them, but there's a strong
30:19
DS relationship. So you have 3 avenues sure for a
30:22
DS relationship. Absolutely.
30:24
And so when I tell people and they reach out to me, they'll
30:27
say, oh, well, you know, I gave this woman my gift card number
30:30
and blah, blah, blah. She's already taking money.
30:33
And it's like you need to be smart because there's con
30:36
artists, so you need to do your research on anyone you come in
30:40
contact with. You need to run their name, you
30:42
need to run their phone number, you need to run any type of
30:45
information they have on potential websites.
30:49
Go on Fetlife, go anywhere where they have some type of digital
30:52
print and see what people said about them.
30:54
Yeah, vet them. Vet them exactly.
30:56
Vet the people you're playing with.
30:58
Exactly. Or not playing because a lot of
31:00
these Doms, they'll trick them into saying go ahead and prepay
31:04
and then I'll have a conversation with you on the
31:06
phone or I'll meet and there's so many men that fall for that
31:10
trick yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's why I said I think a
31:13
small deposit is sufficient 2550 dollars.
31:16
I think those are just those are absolutely fine to ask hey, I'm
31:19
going to meet you for a session. But that's after they grew
31:22
through that the person has a website or they have actual
31:25
reviews or information about them, right?
31:28
So it's really about just being smart, I think about being.
31:31
Smart. It's about being vigilant.
31:32
Yes. Also about knowing people like
31:35
the people I play with, I don't meet them online.
31:37
They're not that real. To you, Right, right.
31:39
Well, I meet them in person, Yeah.
31:41
You know, if I'm going to play with them, like on an actual
31:45
friend level, I meet them in person.
31:47
I learn who they are before I ever play with them.
31:50
And that's top or bottom. Usually.
31:52
It's easier that way. You don't run as too many as you
31:55
know there's events all all the time.
31:57
Fence all the time, all the time.
31:59
City. There's something there's.
32:01
Something so you can meet them in person like, but a lot of
32:04
people it's easier to do the online route and that's where
32:06
you get stuck with a lot of these con artists.
32:08
I agree. So yeah.
32:10
So Needless to say, him and I have come to an impasse.
32:14
I. Can't imagine.
32:15
I told him don't ever fucking contact me again.
32:17
Don't waste my time. Yeah, I don't have time for that
32:21
bullshit. No, I was trying to be nice.
32:23
I was trying. And what do I get in return?
32:26
Nothing. Disrespect.
32:27
That's what you get in total. Disrespect, you know, I also
32:31
feel that for men who listen to this, if you're a sever a slave
32:35
and I get this all the time and it's.
32:37
So This is why there's dominatrixes that are fucking
32:41
bitches because they deal with insolence and total disrespect.
32:46
Yeah, I have men who call me all the time jacking their Dick.
32:48
I have men call me all the time and tell me, hey, I want to set
32:52
up a session and they contact me phone call after phone call or
32:56
text messages and I'll go through and waste a good hour of
33:00
time at some point in all of this spread out with the
33:04
anticipated thought that they're going to schedule and they don't
33:07
right. And then they they do something
33:09
to sabotage it to be disrespectful.
33:11
And then of course, I've wasted my time yet again when all I'm
33:14
trying to do is help them explore in the BDSM world.
33:17
Right. Every pure intention of being
33:20
honest and transparent with them and trying to help them.
33:22
And that's why I told him at the very beginning, no, you're not
33:24
going to sexually satisfy me. No, you're not going to do this.
33:27
No, you're not going to do that. So sad.
33:28
I met a woman last night and she said to me, she's like, Mia, I
33:32
just want to have good sex. I've never had an orgasm with a
33:35
man. I just want to have good sex.
33:37
I, you know, I'm just tired of wasting my time with people that
33:41
want to waste my time pretending to be someone they're not.
33:43
Yeah. And that's why I think that
33:45
people lack so much lack of integrity that they can't be
33:50
honest with themselves and other people.
33:53
And that's why I said I I do not stay friends with a liar.
33:56
If you can easily lie to me about something, it just shows
34:00
you your lack of integrity. And I just don't have time for
34:03
that in my life. Understandable.
34:05
Right, so here we are. I know you didn't do too much
34:07
talking this this episode. I know I monopolized it.
34:11
That's OK. OK, but I was just, I had to
34:14
vent to you because I held this in for the last couple days and
34:17
I haven't been able to talk to you about it, but I was pissed.
34:20
I was so mad. I would be too.
34:22
Because I thought, yeah, I just, I don't.
34:24
Get it? Inexcusable.
34:25
It is, and I just don't get it from a cell's perspective.
34:27
Like I would never do that to anyone, especially someone that
34:31
I'm looking forward to being as my Dom.
34:34
Like there's no way I would do something like that.
34:37
Like that's just. Insensitive and gross.
34:40
Cowardice. I mean, it's just shitty.
34:42
It is. It's just so shitty.
34:45
It's awful. He's a.
34:46
Coward. He's a fucking pussy, a little
34:48
fucking cunt who thinks he's so deserving of something he's not.
34:52
So that's just my two cents. All right, guys, it's been fun.
34:54
Thank you. You're welcome.
34:56
Glad I could be support. Support.
34:58
Yeah. There you go.
34:59
I'm trying to think of a word. Yes, my confidant.
35:03
Unpaid therapist. Unpaid therapist.
35:06
Oh, right. I like that.
35:09
All right, listeners, and thank you.
35:10
I really appreciate, you know, all the numbers are going up.
35:14
There's more people that are reaching out.
35:16
I always get lovely fan mail and lovely, lovely reviews and
35:20
comments from people. I think it's really great.
35:22
Spectacular. Yes, someone commented on on
35:25
you, Kylie and said that you were just awesome.
35:27
They really like listening to you.
35:29
Hey, yeah. I thought it was great.
35:32
I love it, right? Perfect.
35:33
So until then, this has been the latest episode of Call Me
35:38
Mistress.