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Episode 166: AITA Part Two · Chucks Cantina

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  This is Chuck's canteena podcast where anything and everything is up for discussion. And
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  now here's your barman, Chuck O'Donnell. So I'll go ahead and launch into
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  the next one. And this one is a bit longer. There are a
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  few updates, but I I vetted this one. The first one I had
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  never read, but this one I read through to make sure. Okay,
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  this as long as fucking let me make sure it's worth it. And let
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  me tell you, if we weren't sipping, if I wasn't sipping Heineken,
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  I'd be sipping some tea because this one is a noozy, you know,
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  hangout for one second. Let me grab my let me grab my charger really
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  quick. Actually yeah, well he's gone a word from our non sponsors me
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  Chuscantina. Yeah, so just really quick while he's grabbing a charge of the
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  chargees thing. Again. Just want to thank you all for your patients this
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  last couple of months. It's been uh interesting. But yeah, like I
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  said, I canna have more stuff coming out. Do you want to give
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  out? Actually a quick little update while og patron is while og pat while
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  og Patron's getting his stuff. You remember a couple of months back for episode
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  one sixty one, I had a guest on where we essentially discussed upcoming production
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  stuff like that. Amelia Uh just from Just for a little hair of Mainery
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  just and where she was discussing her performance of all she cares about is the
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  Yankees. I don't remember the exact extent of what happened in the show or
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  all that stuff or how it went, but just look look update, and
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  I know she listens to millile congratulations. I know she received some type of
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  like I don't want to say grant or something like that, but essentially they're
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  gonna do another big show in New York by Yankee Stadium. So I just
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  want to give them congratulations and a toast. That's awesome, you know,
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  Mazzle to off. Uh, that's not right, congratulations. Yeah, it's
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  just stuff like stuff like that. It's cool because, like you know,
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  you talk about these stories on here and then or any other podcast or platform,
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  and then you find out like they lead to great success for those individuals.
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  And you know, I'm always down for like I said, I'm all
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  about spreading positivity. Yeah, we might have a few cuss words for in
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  general or towards each other here and there. But hey, like at the
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  end of the day, it's a positive place. Positive reinforcement is what makes
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  her. We'll go around. So not money. I mean that's around,
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  to be honest. But yeah, and now I'm just rambling while he's grabbing
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  his stuff to charge his computer. And he better have washed his hands this
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  canteen we wash our hands in here. I did wash my hands, did
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  you? I didn't hear you? Seen the happy birthday sounds? Shake it
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  in my head. Okay, I am so sorry. I didn't you myself.
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  I was I was just telling. I was just saying a little show
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  update while you were going that is all now gold, Come on, sorry,
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  you're fine. I uh should should have meeting myself. Okay, all
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  right, anyway, what were you telling the good people that you're not an
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  asshole? Continue? Okay? Were you plugging? You plugging the next episode
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  or whatever? No, I was plugging something from the past we were Okay,
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  I'll tell you later. Oh cool, cool, all right, So
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  I am going to get your feedback off the title alone and then I shall
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  read it. Oh hold on, sorry, I got some mail. Oh
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  what fucking sick? Go ahead, Sorry, it's my dead pool funk.
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  Okay, alright, Oh, I can't wait to see that July twenty fifth,
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  baby, So I have to make a trip over to your neck of
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  the woods so I can see it with my pros. Fair enough, that'd
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  be interesting to start review. We could do it at the on the spot.
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  So am I the asshole for forcing my fiance into cutting off his late
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  wife's family? Oh? So what's your take? Well on that title?
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  Really quick? Can you reread that again so I make sure I have the
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  full clarity? Am I the asshole for making my fiance for forcing yea for
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  forcing my fiance into cutting off his late wife's family. So a man and
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  a woman got engaged and the fiance wants her man to cut off with his
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  widow's family. Yes, he's a widowers and she wants him to have nothing
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  to do with that family. Right, I'm going to want to let me
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  hear it, say you're you're an asshole, because all right, that's one
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  of the things I say. Livelies jumping a lot, especially on here.
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  His context is key, but just based on that context, you're an asshole.
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  So let's see what you got. Well, the context is very key
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  here, Ah, so maybe she's not an asshole, right, So,
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  yes, you've read into my plan here. Ah yeah, so yes,
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  of course, I yes, I will continue to read this post in this
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  voice now. Yeah. I a twenty five year old female. I'm getting
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  married to my fiance, a twenty nine year old man in May. When
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  we first got together, he told me that he was married from twenty to
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  twenty two years old to his high school sweetheart. We met when he was
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  twenty five, but she passed of sepsis from a botched surgery. Jesus,
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  I know, right, that's fine, I said, that's all. Yeah,
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  it's horrible. He didn't cope. Well, I'm gonna stop the voice
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  now, because that was he didn't cope well and dayed in contact with her
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  family, namely father and two sisters nineteen and twenty four. It was a
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  soft spot for me for a while at the beginning because there was so much
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  history they had that we would not have, and it was tough knowing that
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  she was all around him. I never told him and decided to work through
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  it on my own, especially with the fact that he would often spend time
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  with her family during our relationship. Her birthday, their anniversary, and anniversary
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  of her death, he'd spend the day with her family. It was uncomfortable
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  at first knowing the man I loved was reminiscing about love he had with someone
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  else, but I kept trying to see it from his perspective. In the
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  last couple of years, I had completely secure in our relationship and it doesn't
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  bother me much anymore. No. Well, he proposed this time last year,
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  and I was over the moon. I loved this man with all my
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  heart, but I recently learned that he never told them that he got engaged.
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  I've been trying, you know, I know I've been trying. Sorry,
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  plot's going thick of some more, let me tell you with the thick
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  legs and cottage cheese. Yeah, I've been trying local coffee shops the past
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  few months rather than my usual run, and tried a new one. His
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  late wife's sister worked there, and other than being awkward, she did a
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  double take of my engagement ring and looked really unhappy, as would. I
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  didn't mention it and left. How are you feeling? I need more context,
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  but I'm taking back my comment that she's an asshole. Yeah, you
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  read so far? Murky kind of up in there. We don't know for
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  sure, the turning more towards the dude being an asshole, right right,
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  So that was kind of my thought. Now it's like, well, why
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  wouldn't you tell them? Why is it such a big fucking deal, right
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  right? Well, my fiance told me that she kept messaging him on social
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  media about it, and I wasn't happy that he kept it a secret.
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  He apologized and was very depleted by it all. He said that he didn't
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  want to hide me, but he didn't want to hurt them either, and
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  that both of us were a huge part of his life. I understand that
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  and let him off the hook slightly, just told him to be upfront with
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  them from now on. That was that, at least I thought so.
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  Oh boy, bum bum bum. A week ago, on Sunday, I
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  got a message from the twenty four year old sister asking if I was happy
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  with myself, that I would never replace his late wife and that if she
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  was still alive, he'd choose her over me every time. She even said
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  that he only kept me around for my money and something to stick his dick
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  into. Jesus, I know it's getting spicy. I ignored it, but
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  I can't say that it didn't affect me. When you're in my position.
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  All these points are ones you have to work through, and it's not easy
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  to get over those insecurities. It feels like a knock in the teeth when
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  they're used against you. Yikes, yikes, this is actually this is okay,
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  this is a good one. I know, I know. I was
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  me and me and Rogerter were looking at us like, man, this is
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  as long as fucking Then we read it and was like, oh god,
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  okay, this is right. I mentioned it to him and he comforted me
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  and reassured me. He said he sat balances with her and I never have
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  to hear from her again. Fine by me, now, Chuck, how
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  are you feeling? So? The guy to me is the ansel. But
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  I'm trying to figure out why is he being distant? Why is he being
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  distant from them, from his in laws technique, his it was older in
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  laws, right, Why is he trying to keep this from him right?
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  Because he he was He was pretty obvious evident. They were close right,
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  right, And it doesn't seem like he's really let them in on his life
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  as far as this relationship goes. But well, let me continue again,
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  mentioned it to him, fine by me, YadA YadA. That was until
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  I found my car with whorror and grave robber smeared in red paint. Oh
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  I had saved for the Yeah, I had saved for this car right now.
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  I'd saved for this car for a year. And it was expensive,
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  very expensive. The tires were slashed and the windows cracked. I asked,
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  no, right, can you imagine like going outside and finding your car with
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  that shit on it and being like, what the fuck? Like a right?
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  Look? I don't know. That's fucking insane. I asked the store
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  a few doors down for their CCTV camera footage of the night, and uh
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  sorry, uh cc camera footage of that night. But it was blurry and
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  it didn't catch much. It did manage to catch half a license plate,
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  the foe and the color and make of the car. It was his late
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  wife's youngest sisters are jesus. I told him I was filing a police report,
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  and he asked me to hold off until he talked to them. I
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  told him no, but no, dude, this is my fucking car right
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  here. Fuck. I told him no, but I would if they paid
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  for the damages and apologized to my face. That's kind of straight out,
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  you know. Again, like that first story, I read like I feel
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  like police and that story we're a little far fetched to go to. But
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  this is like some incredible vandalism and like destruction of property. But let's see
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  how that meeting went. He set up the meeting for last night, and
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  it didn't go well. To say, everyone was shouting, yeah, this
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  is my shocked face and this is my shocked voice. No, everyone was
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  shouting, whoa dude. The sisters told me they yes, both of them
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  had nothing to be sorry for, and that I should leave their family alone,
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  including my fiance and their family. He told them that it wasn't fair
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  to him to be lonely forever and that he'd hope they'd be supportive of him
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  finding love again. They told him he was betraying the late wife and that
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  he never loved her if he'd marry someone else, which is just bonkers,
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  Like these people really believe that. Everyone only saying this because I think it's
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  just emotions. It's just the fact that he kept it from them, that's
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  the thing, Like, we don't Yeah, he kept it from them.
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  They knew he was with this girl, they knew this, so it's not
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  like, oh, it's not like, oh, hey, James, or
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  the fuck his name is James, I met this girl named Haley, or
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  it's like, you know, it's not like they met Haley just named it
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  the random name. It's not like they met Haley after she got the rock
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  on the finger. They met her away before that. So I think just
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  those comments are just emotions running high. I mean, done again, it
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  could be most I mean, who knows what the emotional and you're fucking vantamizing
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  a car. It's a fucking and you think about it right right exactly,
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  and you think about it like this was his high school sweetheart, the late
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  wife, and then they were married from the ages of twenty to twenty two
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  before she passed, which is it's sad. It's fucking sad, and it's
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  I imagine it's hard for people to move on at all. And then you
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  think he's twenty nine now, and so they've been he's been in their lives
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  for a long fucking time, right, But the idea that he doesn't in
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  their mind, he doesn't get to move on, he doesn't get to try
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  and find love again. It's just it's just where's the logic anything of that
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  right? Right? And like it seems really controlling and really manipulative. Anyway,
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  let me yeah a little bit. They told him maybe it's pretty name,
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  but he never lived there, YadA, YadA. They didn't have a
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  problem with him having a new girlfriend because he'd realized she was the only one
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  for him and get tired of me. Now that hadn't happened. They were
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  putting their foot down. The youngest told him to tell me that they were
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  right and that he never loved anyone like late wife. My fiance broke down
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  at the table. Sounds stressful a little bit. I picked him up and
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  made us leave. I told him I'd be finding a report and suing for
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  damages and the next time they saw us would be in court. When we
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  got back and cal him down, I gave him an ultimatum, either he
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  cuts contact or we call off the wedding and go our separate ways. Oh
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  no, that's a bit of an asshole move that I see. Where tensions
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  were high, right, and like, you know, I don't know where
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  I would be in that situation. This is one of those where everyone's an
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  asshole a little bit. The fiance, the woman. She is not an
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  asshole in any of the situation other than the ultimatum that is a part of
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  his life that he is that close with. Now, if I'm her,
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  what they did to her is it shit? Is it shitty? Absolutely?
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  But the question that unless there's another edit, you can tell me and not
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  in a minute here, why did he not tell them, because because there
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  was plenty of time had passed, and like I said, it wasn't like
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  he kept her away and stuff like that, like it's you know he did
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  he clearly did you know, he did his time. You know nothing,
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  you don't ever overcome something like that like he did the time he did,
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  he did his grieving, his healing, all that stuff. He then went
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  out there he was right, and a new girl was like you know what,
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  okay, Like look, I can see myself doing this with her now,
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  YadA YadA YadA. Put her ring on it. But it didn't want
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  to tell those people because it's not gonna lie like like it's one thing to
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  bring again, I don't God forbid, you know the deal, you know,
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  don't want that to happen, But there's one thing to bring Like you're
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  the girl you want them, you know, what I mean, Like I
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  just remember the first time Caitlyn met my dad and my mom and Scott,
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  Like I remember like like like she met my mom Scott way before he started
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  dating, Like the first first time she met my dad, Like it might
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  be like a quick thing, the graduation party, Like the first time she
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  like really got to know him was like years that we were doing is he
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  was in Texas and stuff like that, And I think that's like that's like
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  a memory that's like lotted in my mind for the rest of my life.
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  It's also the first time of my dad I had a beer together. That
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  was awesome. But it's like it's one thing to do that, but another
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  thing to be like, look like I'm going to introduce you to essentially the
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  family I married into before I met you, Like that's that's a big fucking
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  deal. And this guy did that. But then it's like, Okay,
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  why didn't you so clearly like there's something like like he didn't tell her or
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  me, Like the family is like you know, we don't like her,
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  or like look you like, look we love her, but you can never
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  marry. I don't know. I don't know, but yeah, everyone,
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  I mean it speaks to me like this instant, everyone in this vaull Sorry,
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  everyone involved with this story is an asshole, But the person the bottom
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  pull, the person who's the least amount of asshole is the author. Absolutely
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  and like it. See it speaks to me like these this other family,
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  or at least the two daughters, feel like they have some entitlement over how
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  this guy lives the rest of his life, right, because they have that
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  interpersonal connection, right, And it's like, I feel like that could have
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  gone so many different ways. It's like, we're so happy for you that
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  you found someone you care about, and like we like, again, let
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  this guy ditch his grieving. He's probably had those same internal struggles of like,
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  well if I move on, does that like mean that I don't love
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  her, that I won't remember her? And like, clearly he's come to
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  a conclusion where it's like I still love her and have kept this her family
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  in my life because I still love her, but like I have made peace
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  with that and am able to move on. And it's like it's not like
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  they were married for years and got divorced or it's not like there was some
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  terrible thing, like terrible breakup that happened no, like she passed away,
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  Like that wasn't something he had ever wanted, right, and like to have
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  this all thrown back in his face must have hurt so much. And I'm
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  not shocked that he broke down at the table, Like having these people that
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  you thought you trusted because they had they given, have they approved of it,
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  they would have been probably not even on the front of the second row.
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  That's like, that's like his family, Like that's his sisters in laws,
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  his father in law. You go by, yeah, like my like
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  my in laws, Like I get a lot of them fantastically, and I
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  have two sister in laws because of it. Like sure, like any brother
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  and sister, they drop me fucking crazy. Yeah, and I'm sure I
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  drive them crazy, but I love them to death. Sorry all right,
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  No they're they're they're really cool action right, No, yeah, no,
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  You've got great people, and so okay, So ultimatum, separate ways.
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  And then she she says, I wasn't going to live my life with this
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  harassment and someday subject my children to their bullying. He said they would never
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  bully a child, but I shut him down and said he didn't expect any
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  of this either. He called their father, who was fairly chill about it
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  all but still defending his daughters. They say I shouldn't control him and that
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  I'm horrible or for cutting them off. I don't know what to do.
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  I can't live like this, and I don't think I should have to just
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  because we're getting married. Sorry, Okay, here's the the father being chill
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  doesn't surprise me at all. But here's the thing. It's like, look,
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  yeah, you're gonna back your family, But it's like, dude,
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  your daughter literally vandialize a car, right, And it's like it's not like
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  she was gonna cut them off before this, No, it was when it's
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  when she goes look. I just when she goes look, I want an
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  apology, face to face, like she she's what she has, and the
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  pay the dam to look, pay for my car and apologize and we're good.
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  At the beginning of his post, she even says, like I made
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  my peace with the fact that he still spends time with them, like they're
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  in like the late wife and his anniversary, her birthday stuff like that.
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  Like she made peace with that. She did that on her own internally,
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  right right, because she realized it was fucking important. To him, Oh
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  my god, we'll see. That's it's any any especially like you know,
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  that's in any marriage. You compromise, you you you do what you can
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  for your part, but sometimes you have to compromise, Like okay, perfect
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  example. I mean it's not a grey example. Okay, for example,
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  Caitlin goes to wrestling guys, I know she has a good time. Does
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  she want to go? No? Well again, that was literally a whim
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  where I'm like, hey, do you want to? And I did not
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  tell her and it was there. That's the best part about that. It
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  wasn't advertised. It was a legitimate surprise. It started off based on our
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  room because some guy in Chicago who has a decent follow and he's like,
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  I heard that he wanted to run a truck hindsight, didn't even run a
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  truck. It just it just happened, so that the guy that was gonna
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  run a truck to him end up canceling. But told the dude it's off.
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  No, not not, you know, not they fell far or any
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  of them fucking fucking twat nuggets. Guy reported that none of her more and
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  guess what happened took her there? Okay, She's like ohh I're going on
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  to wrestling and shows like, oh, at least see in Punk's here,
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  And of course Cardy Roads comes out. She's she hates Cardy Rose, so
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  caroling Cody Roads. And then what happens and then she's like, oh yeah,
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  yeah right, but yeah Rock, well yeah, Rock's not coming out,
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  but anyway, he'll just talking shit. And then I said this one
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  when the episode happened, that episode we did after that show. There are
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  moments in your life where you wish you had a camera. I wish I
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  had a camera on her face. I think I think about that a lot,
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  like because and I said, oh yeahcause, as I said, literally
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  on the snapchat love I mean she, I mean I said the show,
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  babe. Sorry, like the snapchat, it was why it was a tire
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  shot. They all see all the people inside. Why am I here?
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  Five minutes later, Dwayne Johnson in the rain, have my babies please?
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  That's funny. Can't blame her. I mean the guy. The guy is
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  a baby making machine man so liked, and he's got a haircare product now
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  doesn't to work on him. But I digress. I use it. It's
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  nice, It's most good. It would be fucking weird. It would be
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  fucking weird if he grew his hair back. At this point, I'm just
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  saying, anyway, don't look up. Don't look up the his movie he's
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  working right now, where you got a wig on it? It'd I wish
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  him the best, I really do. We got some No, you're fine,
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  you find these digressions are what make the show anyway. So before the
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  first update, we've got some relevant comments. If I'm going to read a
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  few of them, because there are a couple, and then I'm just pulling
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  from the ones that I think are important and relevant to the story. A
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  question somebody asked, is the ring he gave you the same one he gave
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  her? Ooh, that's a question that she says, No, the ring
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  is actually my late grandmother's engagement ring. He asked my father if he could
• 22:34
  give it to me when he asked for his blessing. As gross as it
• 22:37
  sounds, I think the quote grave robber bit was about me stealing him from
• 22:41
  her grave. At least that's all I can get from it, right,
• 22:47
  And so another question, where are his parents in this? They were old
• 22:52
  parents, she says, in their late forties when they had my fiance,
• 22:55
  so they've retired, and he never wants to bother them with anything. I
• 22:57
  doubt they even know about any of this. I might bring up that he
• 23:00
  needs to get their input because the way they're treating him is gross and wrong.
• 23:04
  That's going to be important later. So okay. Oh, and I
• 23:10
  didn't read the date, but this is from March of this year. Jesus,
• 23:15
  I know, right, I love the newer ones. So this is
• 23:18
  This update is from the next day. Hey, everyone, just a mini
• 23:22
  update to clear some things up before I have a discussion with my fiance either
• 23:25
  later today or tomorrow about my ultimatum. I didn't sleep it all yesterday or
• 23:29
  the night before for obvious reasons. There's a ding on my phone at least
• 23:32
  once an hour from them saying one thing or another, mainly the nineteen year
• 23:36
  old. And I don't know what they've told people, but I've got a
• 23:37
  message from one of their uncles and grandparents calling me horrible stuff too. So
• 23:41
  obviously they've been spreading what's happened this week and twisting it, which is always
• 23:45
  always healthy. They say they're gathering a mob for this. Carlos great.
• 23:51
  I haven't blocked them because I want to gain as much evidence as I can
• 23:53
  for the inevitable case. Regardless of any outcome with my fiance, I will
• 23:56
  be suing and finding a criminal case for harassment in vandalism and looking for a
• 24:00
  restraining order. I just haven't had the mental fortitwo to do so yet.
• 24:04
  I'm helping my fiance will help me. I haven't spoken to my fiance since
• 24:10
  the argument at the table, other than to tell him they go or I
• 24:12
  do. It was my choice to give him a couple days space to come
• 24:15
  to terms with everything, and I will contact him when I'm ready. All
• 24:19
  of this from the first message till now has been a week. It's a
• 24:22
  huge way to contemplate leaving people you've known for fifteen years and who you grew
• 24:26
  up with. But you know, she's admitting that, like, yeah,
• 24:30
  these people have been in his lives for a long fucking time and that must
• 24:33
  be a big fucking weight. But this forced her hand and ultimatum. Yeah
• 24:38
  it might be an asshole move, but after something like this, like fuck
• 24:42
  that is that the last update? No? No, no, this,
• 24:47
  I'm even I'm halfway through that first update and there are truck I'm just gonna
• 24:52
  let you know there are two more updates, so this one is fucking long,
• 24:56
  and I don't know if we're gonna have to do a two parter.
• 25:00
  Okay, yeah, but I'll try to speak through it. You're fine,
• 25:06
  No after that one, I have no comment. Yeah, okay. He
• 25:11
  did set boundaries with the sister from the coffee shop. As I've seen the
• 25:15
  message, he said, paraphrasing, you have no right talking to ope at
• 25:19
  all like this. If this is how you're going to behave she doesn't deserve
• 25:25
  this, and you've gone too far. Why are you being like this?
• 25:26
  And she responded with more name calling and back and forth. He ended by
• 25:30
  saying not to message me again and to make sure everyone else does the same.
• 25:34
  I was happy with that. At this point, only one person in
• 25:37
  the family had an issue to my knowledge, so it was silly to have
• 25:41
  him cut all of them off. It may not be enough for some,
• 25:45
  but it was enough for me to feel safe and comfortable. For those saying
• 25:48
  he needs therapy and counseling, he's already getting it. He's been getting it
• 25:52
  since before we even started. He doesn't know he doesn't need anymore. It's
• 25:55
  the other ones I need it. Well, I mean yeah, fair enough
• 25:57
  at this moment. Yeah, it's kind of we're going, We're going to
• 26:00
  that fucking extent, right, But I still had there's that one grippy question,
• 26:06
  but please continue. It doesn't make it makes no sense to me why
• 26:10
  they're this close. He was bringing her around, and he did not tell
• 26:12
  him about the right that there's gotta be something. So for a starting day
• 26:21
  after an incident of work, he started therapy. I don't know about any
• 26:23
  of their family though. The first time I had a conversation with any of
• 26:26
  them was that night, So that was the first time she talked to any
• 26:29
  of them really, which is interesting to say the least. Some people are
• 26:34
  wondering what late wife died of, and it was a botched weight loss surgery
• 26:37
  where she died of sepsis. People were wondering if he was somehow the reason
• 26:41
  behind the surgery, hence the family's insane reaction. But he was not in
• 26:45
  the slightest. He likes bigger women and would pressure someone into something like that
• 26:49
  onto her speaking from experience, so I mean they got a little bit of
• 26:55
  information I'm from that which it's just sad, like weight loss surgery. And
• 27:00
  then could you clarify. So that night she talked with it. That was
• 27:03
  the first time she talked with them, That's what she's saying. That's the
• 27:07
  first conversation earlier that she knew them. I mean, it seems like she
• 27:12
  knows of them, but it's been like, Okay, that's the wall is
• 27:18
  starting to come down a little bit. I'm I'm starting to see where the
• 27:22
  problem is here. Okay, cot, I'm sorry. There are definitely steps
• 27:26
  that could have been made to avoid a situation like such as this. Right.
• 27:33
  I also want to clear up the not calling the police about the car
• 27:37
  thing. It was entirely my idea to not fail charges in exchange for her
• 27:40
  face to phase apology and damage payment. He only wanted me to wait so
• 27:42
  that he could talk to her to see if she regretted it, and then
• 27:45
  have her father pay the damage. At the time, we thought it was
• 27:48
  just a nineteen year old that smashed in my car, not both daughters.
• 27:52
  Neither of us wanted to ruin her life. When I found out it was
• 27:53
  both of them, it was full steam ahead. Thank you all for your
• 27:56
  messages and hopefully I'll have a positive update for you tomorrow. At it,
• 28:00
  I chose for him to take the space apart. It's not him being indecisive.
• 28:03
  I said to take time, that I'd reach out so that his decision
• 28:06
  is thought out. It's for me. I don't want to be chosen only
• 28:08
  to be three kids down the line and stuck in a resentful, resentment filled
• 28:12
  marriage. It's for me. Please understand that. So last update, no,
• 28:18
  that was just update one. Bro, Oh my god, all right,
• 28:22
  continue more. That's good man. Like I said, we vetted this.
• 28:27
  We were like, okay, this as long as hell, but a
• 28:30
  really good one. Okay, Oh the tea is hot. Let me tell
• 28:33
  you you're only ship Update number two this is two days from the original post.
• 28:41
  Well, what a wild morning. This isn't March of this year,
• 28:47
  absolutely holy fresh, this is fresh man. I mean, I have one
• 28:51
  that's literally pulls it today. But it's not as crazy. Okay, I
• 28:53
  can't wait to hear it's not as good as yeh. Cheat code is looking
• 29:02
  up best of redditor updates. It's got some good ship on that anyway.
• 29:07
  Number two ready strapped the fucking all right, Well, what a wild morning
• 29:11
  I've had. My fiance came over bright ne early this morning, and I've
• 29:12
  never been so damn tired. You may want to take a seat because this
• 29:15
  will be long. Sorry in advance. First of all, I want yeah.
• 29:21
  First of all, I want to set the record straight here. A
• 29:22
  lot of people are coming from my fiance over not cutting them off from the
• 29:25
  get go, which I don't think is fair. He's a very mild mannered,
• 29:27
  call him and calculating person, and that's who I always knew he was.
• 29:32
  Nothing has changed. If he had been Rocky Balbo and flipped the cafe
• 29:34
  table shouting ubscenities, we he would not be the man I fell in love
• 29:38
  with. Rocky Balbo is just gonna start swinging. We ate you. You
• 29:49
  show he did exactly what I expected him to do and exactly what I was
• 29:52
  comfortable with. You may be attracted to other things than men and expect other
• 29:56
  things, and that's awesome, but not me, which kudo to her.
• 30:00
  She knows what she likes, she wants. Here's the update. I texted
• 30:04
  him saying I thought it was time to discuss this, and he was back
• 30:07
  at home not a half hour later. He'd been staying with a friend a
• 30:10
  couple of nights. He had no contact. We sat on our bed to
• 30:11
  talk because my back is sore from all the packing, and I wasn't going
• 30:15
  to force myself to sit at the table. Before we even got to talking,
• 30:18
  he asked if we could cut for a minute. It definitely took some
• 30:22
  of the weight off and we were able to talk like a couple and not
• 30:26
  awkward strangers, because, regardless of some people's belief, we do love each
• 30:30
  other. And it took me a very long time to feel confident in that
• 30:33
  fact before anyone calls me a doormat again. No, I was still sure
• 30:37
  I would stick to my ultimatum the first thing. The first thing I asked
• 30:42
  was if he felt he had enough time to make his decision, and he
• 30:45
  said he didn't need time. He was very shocked and bewildered at how so
• 30:49
  much could change in just a week, and how everything he knew was shook
• 30:53
  up that he couldn't think and went numb. He did apologize that he didn't
• 30:57
  take a more defensive stance at the cafe, and he doesn't want to make
• 31:02
  excuses for it. An explanation was that he genuinely didn't expect such a vitriolic
• 31:06
  response. He did the engagement, Yeah right, I mean after they smashed
• 31:11
  the fuck out of your car. I don't know. Maybe I would have
• 31:14
  expect something like that, but who knows. He did the engagement. He
• 31:18
  hid the engagement. Here we go answer your question. He hid the engagement
• 31:22
  question. Let's see if it holds up to all this bullshit. He hid
• 31:26
  the engagement because he knew they weren't overlate wife's death and would be upset at
• 31:30
  the news. It wasn't like I would feel upset by them not knowing,
• 31:34
  which I wasn't. Really. He's known these girls since before they were in
• 31:38
  double digits, and he would never have thought them capable of it. It
• 31:41
  came so far out of the field that he froze, which kind of sounds
• 31:48
  like some bullshit. I mean, if you were worried about this, then
• 31:52
  he might want to cut it off before it gets not cut it off.
• 31:56
  But like me, I'm not saying. Here's the thing is, like you
• 32:00
  thought they act like this, and like and forgive me. I can think
• 32:04
  what was the timeline between his wife's passing and the engagement was like five years?
• 32:10
  I think it was closer to seven. Okay, so even more or
• 32:14
  six, but yeah, okay, even more so you can't tell me.
• 32:17
  And all that time there were not multiple conversations or you know what I mean.
• 32:22
  So it just sounds like this, Like again, it sounds like his
• 32:25
  closeness to this family is not as close as it made. It's made to
• 32:30
  be right. So, I mean, they've been engaged for a year before
• 32:34
  the sister saw that that I want to hear about the days now. The
• 32:37
  girl that's writing the ship, she's not the asshole. I know, like
• 32:43
  we're doing asshole. She could change it in a minute, like well yeah,
• 32:47
  but uh well, I won't spoil anything, but okay. I asked
• 32:52
  him if there was any possibility that either of them had a thing for him,
• 32:55
  and he looked very confused, and I did not think that was coming
• 33:00
  right, I said, how I've had people tell me it's not uncommon for
• 33:05
  siblings to do this after loss, and he thought, on it turns out
• 33:07
  you were right, he said, The twenty four year old about eight months
• 33:10
  after late wife's death made him right. So this is the twenty four year
• 33:15
  old now, But so the middle sister right, so she was not eighteen
• 33:19
  at the time of this, So he said, the twenty four year old,
• 33:22
  about eight months after late wife's death, made a move and tried to
• 33:24
  kiss him. He immediately left and told her mother about it. Mother and
• 33:28
  father are divorced now, but weren't then. She's okay, that's another little
• 33:34
  rinkle. WHOA, you're fucking worried to the parents, all right, dude?
• 33:37
  Right? So well, no, no, no, no, no
• 33:38
  no. She He left the twenty four year old sister and then told the
• 33:44
  mother that the sister had tried to kis him. I'm saying the parents,
• 33:47
  man, right, I mean, like, what would you do? Right?
• 33:50
  That's fucking crazy thought. I mean, I mean, I didn't know
• 33:52
  what the fuck to do. I mean, definitely believe that she was a
• 33:55
  miner at the time and message him saying she would be eighteen soon, so
• 33:59
  it wasn't a big deal. Her mother made her see the school counselor and
• 34:02
  didn't allow her to be alone with him for a while. It was years
• 34:05
  ago, so we'd forgotten it even happened. He said he was sure that
• 34:08
  wasn't the case now because it had been so long. But I'm not so
• 34:13
  convinced, not that it matters anymore. So there's another little Lincoln. It's
• 34:21
  good, right, you can write a book about this. This is like
• 34:23
  a fucking movie or not a TV show. Yeah, God damn, I
• 34:28
  said the name. He opened up his Facebook and gave it to me to
• 34:31
  read. Twenty four year old had been messaging him, which he ignored.
• 34:35
  She ranged from telling him off to crying and saying how portrayed the family was
• 34:37
  to try to manipulate him against me. He said he was sure that he
• 34:40
  needed to put them behind him and had been thinking on and off since he
• 34:45
  proposed, but couldn't bring himself to do it. After this week, the
• 34:49
  fire was lit and he knew what he had to do. It was all
• 34:52
  just abstract until suddenly it was very real. So this is something he'd been
• 34:54
  like mulling over and like obviously very a while, right, he it must
• 35:00
  have been a very hard choice, and then it was the choice was made
• 35:02
  for him. Basically, he asked me how I've been coping, and I
• 35:07
  told him I felt like I'd done everything right, but somehow things turned out
• 35:09
  worse than that if I'd been the jealous type and stopped their contact at the
• 35:13
  beginning. I tried to be understanding and put in so much effort to be
• 35:16
  secure in myself in a relationship, only for everything I worked on to be
• 35:20
  thrown in my face, like I was a mistress that was cheating with him.
• 35:22
  He is Christ and you know he didn't blink the entire time and just
• 35:27
  listened. He said he should have been more observant and realized I was struggling
• 35:30
  with this so that he could help me. But I've always been the quote
• 35:32
  unquote strong one. So he neglect them too, and he'll do better.
• 35:37
  As I've said a few comments now, his parents had him in their late
• 35:40
  forties and I retired. He hates involving them in activity negativity. But I
• 35:45
  was stunned when he said he'd been talking to them about this since the first
• 35:47
  Facebook message. Very vera understanding. But his father took a tough love approach.
• 35:52
  He said the best quote I think I've ever heard, get your act
• 35:54
  together before the jig is up, which is just such a baller thing to
• 35:59
  say. He sounds like he's a ship captain. Sounds like it sounds like
• 36:02
  he's a script riunner from the nineteen seventies, right, just like you get
• 36:07
  your reactor, got me fall that shit guys up right exactly. They offered
• 36:12
  to come stick to run yere, I'm gonna solve this case. It sounds
• 36:15
  like a nineteen fifties detectives. So sure this case what open coming on there?
• 36:22
  I'm coming on there. I'm bringing justice with me. They offered to
• 36:28
  come stay for a while and help a smooth I don't think that's necessary,
• 36:30
  but I really appreciate the thought on the subject. Oh man, I forgot
• 36:34
  how long this was? Okay, on the subject of moving. Sorry,
• 36:39
  I don't know why every last word continue on the subject. No, it's
• 36:45
  a fucking gun right, Oh my god, I feel like a boy year
• 36:51
  just like watching people's lives small apart. I made it clear, and again
• 36:53
  my my final story your Dave Matthews and my final story for the day.
• 36:59
  If we're still going to stick to three. It's one of my favorites.
• 37:00
  But it's very short compared to this much shorter, Like page is shorter anyway.
• 37:07
  On the subject of moving, I made it clear that I would not
• 37:08
  be living in this house any longer than I had to, and he completely
• 37:13
  agreed. His parents offered to find us a place in their state if we
• 37:15
  wanted to have more of a support network, and I'm honestly considering it after
• 37:19
  this earlier stayed away from my own family, so we'd be a lot better
• 37:22
  off. His job is remote and I should be able to find work there
• 37:24
  easily enough. I've been in contact with a friend who's a mechanic and they've
• 37:29
  putted me between one to two K for the damage. But that's an at
• 37:32
  cost estimate as a discount, Al buddy, just strap the fucking yeah,
• 37:37
  that's yeah. A few people have said to get a real, real estimate
• 37:45
  and to shop around. The real cost is between four to five K,
• 37:49
  and that's just for the noticeable damage. My friend thinks they've done something to
• 37:52
  the engine, so thank god I couldn't drive it anywhere. He thinks I
• 37:55
  may be entitled to replacement car altogether. If so, I will be sure
• 37:59
  to sue for it, and that's not going to be cheap at After all
• 38:04
  the emotional things we were discussed. He mentioned when might not be comfortable enough
• 38:08
  to go to the police. I made it clear he was okay with it
• 38:12
  with that, or I'd go on my own. He said the surest I've
• 38:15
  ever seen him that this is what needed to be done, and he wasn't
• 38:19
  going to let them continue. He done enough to try and shield them,
• 38:22
  but he wasn't going to let it come at my expense. I'm currently in
• 38:25
  the bath frothing and bath bombs. I don't know why we need to know
• 38:29
  that, but we'll be going because, dude, she is typing away and
• 38:34
  that wine is flowing. You know what, she mentioned, the bath bombs
• 38:40
  in the glass right exactly. I ain't stupid works, but we'll be going
• 38:49
  to the station as soon as I'm done. He's downstairs right now printing out
• 38:51
  the new quotes from the mechanic and the messages twenty four year old sent him
• 38:53
  over the past couple of days, so we can go prepared. People have
• 38:58
  said that nothing will come of it, and you may be right, but
• 39:00
  I have to try, hoping my local police don't have anything better to do.
• 39:02
  It's a small town, which fair enough to finish. I made a
• 39:07
  point of asking again if he would cut them off or I had to go.
• 39:09
  He didn't miss a beat and said they're no longer going to be part
• 39:12
  of his life, even if I decided to leave. He did ask for
• 39:15
  one last meeting to say goodbye to their parents and to put a clothes on
• 39:19
  that part of his life, and to explain to the girls that this is
• 39:21
  not my fault, but his decision. After seeing how cruel they were capable
• 39:24
  of being. After that, he would block them on everything and move forward.
• 39:28
  I was completely fine with that, So there we have it. Writing
• 39:30
  all this out and being able to talk to people about everything has been both
• 39:34
  hopeful and a good distraction from the dumpster fire that was my life. And
• 39:37
  everything worked out as well as it could have hoped, as well as I
• 39:40
  could have hoped. We'll see how his meeting goes with them. I'm sure
• 39:44
  they won't be very happy about it, but that's not my problem. Thank
• 39:46
  you all, and I'll update after they've met up, so shut before oh
• 39:51
  the fuck up? Oh I guess there's two more updates. The third one
• 40:01
  is kind of short, but it's really quickly. It's they were banned for
• 40:07
  three days because somebody in chat started calling her fucking every dirogatory accessus that she's
• 40:13
  been imaginable and she got banned because of her response, which, yeah,
• 40:16
  I hope the other person got fucking band two police station. They said,
• 40:22
  it takes YadA, YadA, that's not really important. They're finally acclaim with
• 40:25
  the insurance and you know, uh, and so the fiance is going to
• 40:32
  try to meet with the family. The car is total, the guy,
• 40:39
  And okay, the car is totaled, the mechanic friend. Yeah, so
• 40:47
  this is the damages. They found a shattered windshield for slash tires, two
• 40:52
  broken windows, the paint which was obvious, unknown substance in the engine oil,
• 40:59
  and the battered body work. Did it say where this takes place?
• 41:02
  By chance? No? I feel like this whole time, even renations should
• 41:06
  be had this on in the background. We'll go this mon tell me what
• 41:13
  I'm telling why dude? Shit? So the car was a brand new Volvo
• 41:19
  or Je, so brand new, and it's like this is from this year,
• 41:22
  so it's twenty twenty four either. And because it's total, the amount
• 41:28
  for the car goes up to sixty k, right, so the family is
• 41:30
  liable for sixty km and the amount classifies the vandalism as a felony, so
• 41:37
  they could be looking at jail time. This is when it gets pretty damn
• 41:42
  good. All right, here we go my fiance because the story has been
• 41:45
  so boring prior right Oh, by bro, oh bro, I just can't
• 41:51
  wait to hear your spons My fiance met with the family on Saturday and Tom,
• 41:54
  the mechanic friend who she just named Tom because she didn't want to keep
• 41:58
  writing out mechanic friend and Tom sat by the window. I currently live in
• 42:01
  a one party state, so as long as my fiance con sense, the
• 42:05
  recording can be used in my case, which is fucking baller in some contexts.
• 42:10
  Yes, but when you're I guess, it's a state by state basis.
• 42:15
  It's a state by state basis. But when you're in someone's residence,
• 42:16
  second vary just based on media line. I don't I think this was a
• 42:20
  public place. I don't know if it's the ladies and gentlemen's favorite host.
• 42:29
  That's why I'm opening up another heine Kan extual. Next case, I'm gonna
• 42:31
  open another Waterloo because I already drink mine. Do I have any more Waterloo?
• 42:37
  I hope I do. Are you come on? Oh yes, I
• 42:44
  found one. Here we go, Here we go. It's actually good.
• 42:52
  Okay, yeah, you've you've been you've been talking about it for a while.
• 42:58
  Okay, okay, okay, so one party state, Okay, Well,
• 43:02
  it may not be as drama filled as some of you may want,
• 43:06
  it was still pretty stressful to see. They met at the same cafe that
• 43:09
  we did before, and Tom sat at a few tables away. Fiance arrived
• 43:14
  after their father and before the daughters for the best because they managed to have
• 43:20
  a calm conversation for once. Fiance told him how he was feeling, and
• 43:23
  father in law was very understanding but still trying to minimize. He was saying
• 43:27
  things like, you know, they missed late wife, and they'll come around
• 43:30
  and just need time to come to terms with you moving on. He kept
• 43:34
  trying to initiate paying for the damages, but Fiance wouldn't talk about it until
• 43:37
  the sisters had arrived. It was like Butter wouldn't melt with the twenty four
• 43:43
  year old, which I love that expression. She couldn't care less. But
• 43:46
  the nineteen year old came in like the Tasmanian double. Oh boy, I'm
• 43:52
  gonna I'm gonna use that like Butter wouldn't melt. I don't know where,
• 43:55
  what context, but that's a life that kind of tells me that this might
• 44:00
  be like more Southern state, because I feel like people in the South have
• 44:02
  expressions like man, that's like a raccoon and a dumpster. He's just pulling
• 44:07
  out all kinds of shit. Well down, damn if I'm a country fright
• 44:09
  steak on a fucking Tuesday. Man, he's so cool. It's like butter
• 44:13
  one milk. All right, old damn it. Who put the football game
• 44:16
  on a Tuesday night? Sir As strapped the fucking because this is my fiance.
• 44:27
  Didn't acknowledge anyone until it had all settled down. Where then he said
• 44:31
  this would be his last time meeting with all of them, and they'd be
• 44:35
  going their separate ways. He turned to the girls and said that he would
• 44:37
  miss who he thought they were. By the way they could treat people horrified
• 44:42
  him, especially me. He said this was all him and they needed to
• 44:45
  accept that, and I was not to blame. He even said it was
• 44:50
  me who offered the apology in exchange for not finally charges. The nineteen year
• 44:53
  old then interrupted, asking what charges, and that no one was going to
• 44:58
  charge them for quote unquote barely touched a car. Yeah good, okay,
• 45:02
  Well that boys, I'm like everyone, thank you? Yeah right. She
• 45:08
  was a deer in the headlights when he asked what they'd done to the engine
• 45:12
  oil, and the two looked at each other. Seems they didn't expect me
• 45:15
  to find that out. Queue up. The groveling twenty four year old actually
• 45:19
  tried to touch his hand and told him he had to stop me pressing charges
• 45:22
  because this would ruin her and interfere with the nineteen year old's college. He
• 45:25
  said it was too late and the cops should be issuing a warrant soon.
• 45:30
  In parenthesy in parentheses, it can take a few days. I thought it
• 45:32
  was an instant thing, but apparently not. This is when their dad got
• 45:37
  involved again and said for everyone to calm down and fix this quote unquote like
• 45:40
  adults. Now. He wants his girls to be adults. I say,
• 45:45
  no, no, he is. He is doing an adult he went to
• 45:47
  the cops. It's called being a fucking adult someone. Yeah, that's the
• 45:54
  that's the actual ramification. Yeah right, Oh, it's the consequences my own
• 46:00
  actions. He asked if fiance would convince me to drop the charges in exchange
• 46:07
  for that apology, and he'd pay the damages. When my fiance said it
• 46:09
  was sixty K. The ice he gave to those women would shave the hair
• 46:15
  off of a cat. Nice. Another great line. I've heard that before,
• 46:19
  but I can't remember where, but that's I had. I hadn't heard
• 46:21
  it before. But yeah, the video wasn't the best, but I swear
• 46:23
  I could see the color drain from their faces. I may sound awful,
• 46:28
  but I enjoyed it. Call what you were, I would enjoy the shit
• 46:31
  out of it too. I probably would do. This happened to me.
• 46:34
  They kept going on about apologies, apologizing and that they'd pay, but he
• 46:37
  just said it was too late and he was done. He tried to be
• 46:39
  civil, but they were the ones that wouldn't let it go. Twenty four
• 46:43
  year old actually asked him to set up a meeting with me so they could
• 46:46
  get to know me and put it all behind us. Can you imagine the
• 46:51
  goal, like, just like fine, I'd like to shit, yeah,
• 46:53
  you had it. I don't know you had a chance. I don't.
• 46:55
  You couldn't have gotten to know me before you destroyed my car. I'm not
• 46:59
  going to say in their defense, but in their defense like he never brought
• 47:02
  her around, which is just mind boggling to me, devon time he spent
• 47:07
  with them, so right, Charlie, I get that. But at the
• 47:09
  same time, but this is they committed felony. Like, right, you
• 47:15
  don't know a person, so does that make it easier for you to destroy
• 47:19
  the fucking car? It doesn't exactly. I mean, I guess it does
• 47:22
  on some level if you could argue that. But still it's like, come
• 47:24
  on, that's a little too late, all right. I know I destroyed
• 47:29
  your car, but like I don't even know you, So like, let's
• 47:31
  get coffee and get to know each other and like figure it out, all
• 47:35
  right. He didn't reply, and after the silence, they piped up again,
• 47:38
  like, so she won't even meet us, So she's behind all this
• 47:43
  because she doesn't want us around. We'll see about that in parentheses, not
• 47:46
  using exact quotes because I don't know if I'm allowed, so not risking it
• 47:50
  quote in parenthes, things like that. They went on and on, and
• 47:53
  frankly, it was funny more than hurtful, but they did incriminate themselves more
• 47:58
  and more for my harassment case. And the nail in the coffin was when
• 48:00
  the nineteen year old said, if we can do that to a car,
• 48:02
  imagine what else we could do. That, my friends, is both a
• 48:07
  confession and a threat of bodily harm. Yeah, so just keep digging that
• 48:10
  grave, buddy, my fiance said one loud stop before wishing father in law
• 48:15
  well and telling the girls to not to come near me. He then got
• 48:17
  up and left. That's where the recording ends because we wouldn't be allowed to
• 48:22
  use anything afterwards. Anyway. As for moving, we're pretty much all packed
• 48:24
  up and have a truck coming you Friday. We'll be staying with his parents
• 48:28
  until we find a place. We're looking at buying this house, but we
• 48:30
  might get an RV in the meantime, so we're not all stepping on each
• 48:32
  other. I doubt Experience would mind it all. But this is the last
• 48:36
  update for a while. I think I have a wedding to finish, a
• 48:37
  venue to change, new invites, et cetera, in less than two months
• 48:39
  to do it. Send help, but thank you for all for being years
• 48:44
  and yeah, send help. Willing to dishack me for remuminating and dinging a
• 48:49
  huge mental hole. Little comment, where's the mom? And all this?
• 48:54
  OP says, I've never met her. I think she moved after the divorce.
• 48:58
  But that's about it, all right, So how are you feeling?
• 49:05
  We're about to get to the last update now? I will say this again,
• 49:08
  she is on asshole. This A lot of is could have been avoided
• 49:12
  had he just introduced again. It just it just again, like look,
• 49:15
  it's hard, like I can't even say that, Like it's hard because like
• 49:19
  obviously you and I don't know what that's like, but like you clearly care
• 49:23
  enough for this family still to keep hanging out with him and stuff like that,
• 49:27
  but you never bring her around. And like again, like like could
• 49:29
  be pretty like again, it'd be pretty shitty if it's like, hey,
• 49:31
  like someone really close to you, like they got engaged. You don't find
• 49:35
  out so you know they like you haven't me working one day and you bump
• 49:37
  into that said person in a coffee shop, Yeah, that'd be pretty fucking
• 49:39
  shitty. But at the same time, it's like like again, you put
• 49:44
  someone in her engine that could have that could have killed her. She could
• 49:46
  have fuck you don't know what that could have done car, right, Like
• 49:50
  slashing tires is one thing, not that I know what that's like, but
• 49:52
  fucking put it down a fucking engine either, But slashing tires it's almost I
• 49:59
  mean, it's it's very dangerous. I mean, but you see his last
• 50:01
  tire, It's like, oh, I'm not gonna dry with a slash fucking
• 50:05
  tire. But the engine you don't fucking know, right, okay, right
• 50:12
  right, And like you can't you can't imagine that guy would have Sorry,
• 50:17
  you can't imagine the guy would have known that they would fucking deal with this
• 50:22
  or like go this far right right. Okay, so let's get to the
• 50:25
  final update. I know this is a long one, but it's been good.
• 50:28
  It's good. There's a few more nuggets in here, a lot of
• 50:31
  So this is actually from God like ten days ago, this final update almost
• 50:39
  three months from the original post. That's not funny. I've turned into a
• 50:44
  bat. I am Dracula. I know no, so calling the past.
• 50:52
  Calling in the past three months roller coaster wouldn't quite do it justice. A
• 50:55
  lot has happened. I don't leave anything out here goes. So, first
• 50:59
  off, we moved away. We're only a couple of towns over from my
• 51:00
  husband's parents legally, but we kind of just live in their backyard, which
• 51:05
  is probably just some some you know, uh, you know there's like towns
• 51:08
  right next to each other. Yeah, yeah, it's like oh three times
• 51:10
  over, but really it's just like a mile away, and her own parents
• 51:15
  are only a stayed over. Hallelujah. It's been really great living in our
• 51:17
  new RV, and we've been able to take a small trip now and then
• 51:22
  two which has been great for a breather. Took a chunk out of our
• 51:23
  house savings, but we're not too worried about it, which is good.
• 51:25
  Like after all that bullshit like go see some sights, like get the fuck
• 51:29
  out of there, I feel like trips like that are really cleansing. I'm
• 51:32
  planning one in the near future, the next few months probably, And yeah,
• 51:37
  I can't wait. Okay, that was me, that was me reading.
• 51:39
  I know it's the same voice. Oh. I was like, what,
• 51:44
  I can't speak to what might have happened. But by a strickle luck,
• 51:46
  the warrants came through the day before a moving day, and the sisters
• 51:50
  spent the whole move in police custody, which is a great time, great
• 51:55
  time. I'm sure it was not as formal as cuss an interview, but
• 52:00
  I like to imagine it that way. So we didn't have to deal with
• 52:01
  any drama that for sure would have happened otherwise. As I said before,
• 52:06
  we didn't block them because we wanted to keep the line open for more evidence.
• 52:09
  And boy was that a good idea, right she I thought, you
• 52:15
  want to learn, they never do. Nineteen year old has only now stopped
• 52:20
  sending me messages started off pleading and hoping for a meetup, then went on
• 52:23
  to calling me names and such for trying to ruin her life. But the
• 52:27
  past few weeks have been pure rage, which has been draining. If entertaining
• 52:30
  your rage, She says she'll find me and I'd better watch my back.
• 52:36
  Blah blah blah. Yeah, such, keep that shit coming, dumb assed.
• 52:39
  My parents has been working over time. As you can imagine, so
• 52:42
  many receipts to get my lawyer twenty four year old is still working on my
• 52:45
  husband, but it reached ahead a few dates before the wedding. We should
• 52:50
  have changed the dates, but it just wasn't feasible. We had family from
• 52:53
  all over and that had taken time off of work, and we really wanted
• 52:58
  everyone there. After all that happened, she tried to call my husband over
• 53:00
  a dozen times and actually left two voicemails. She was crying and hyperventilating,
• 53:05
  saying how she didn't want to lose him. Excuse me, your excuse for
• 53:10
  those of you who said she still had a thing for him, Ding dong.
• 53:15
  My husband listened to the voice. Now, yeah, I know right,
• 53:20
  we have a winner. My husband listened to the voicemails with me,
• 53:22
  and she just rambled. It was actually quite sad. She said that she
• 53:27
  always thought they would be together because they'd been through so much and if quote
• 53:30
  unquote felt right. She blamed him for leading She blamed yeah, she blamed
• 53:37
  him for leading her on and making her fall for him, only to choose
• 53:39
  someone else that he hardly knew. Right, he hardly knew her even though
• 53:44
  they were together how many years? Right? Right? She even said she
• 53:49
  felt replaced, which made me uncomfortable. All this was, all of this,
• 53:52
  all the while degrading him for betraying his late wife by moving on at
• 53:57
  all. I genuinely do not understand her logic. Where do I? Yeah?
• 54:02
  Right, it doesn't make any sense. As for my car, Well,
• 54:06
  you can't move on unless it's with me, because that's what my sister
• 54:08
  would have wanted. I guess no sense asked for my car, we found
• 54:13
  out what the unknown substance was. It was anti freeze. The entire engine
• 54:15
  was written off and with everything else. My insurance launched a case against them
• 54:20
  for the cost of a new car. I was expecting sixty K or so.
• 54:22
  But Tom, my mechanic friend, I love how she said I'm gonna
• 54:24
  call him Tom because I don't want to type out my mecase and then she
• 54:29
  tips out, yeah right, Tom, my mechanic friend. Just for Clarity's
• 54:34
  sake, said Tom said to ask for more based on current market value and
• 54:37
  such. They came back with a new offer of seventy five K. At
• 54:40
  this point, when I first read it, I was like, man,
• 54:42
  I want so many to fuck up my car. Jesus. It took over
• 54:46
  a month for the money, Like I just want to do it myself and
• 54:49
  be like I don't know how. Wow. Yeah, it took over a
• 54:53
  month for the money to hit my account, but I got it. As
• 54:57
  for the case, I'm no longer going after them for the repayment my insurance
• 55:00
  is, so that's one last thing I have to worry about. As far
• 55:01
  as I know, their father is paying for their legal fees, but I
• 55:05
  doubt he'll pay back the insurance company for them. There's still a case against
• 55:08
  them for harassment and threatening behavior, and I'm ssuming for the money it took
• 55:12
  me to move away and emotional distress. My Lory says they'll be liable and
• 55:15
  it's looking like they want to settle. I don't feel great about going for
• 55:17
  emotional distress, but after everything they've done, it sure was emotionally distressing.
• 55:22
  Waka haha. I love bet she should be an author. The courts are
• 55:28
  moving slowly, so I don't have anything new case yet, right, No,
• 55:31
  yeah, yeah, oh they're backed up. Other than that they are
• 55:36
  going to plead guilty. Shouldn't be long now, and it's looking like they're
• 55:39
  getting probation and mandatory anger management. Not a stitch in jail. But oh
• 55:43
  well, which is like, I mean, like good, right, Like
• 55:45
  yeah, at the end of the day, they fucked up a car,
• 55:51
  right, and they threatened and did all this, but like, clearly this
• 55:53
  is a family that's had a hard time grieving, has a hard time letting
• 55:58
  go, and like clearly it was like you know what deaf in their family
• 56:01
  that like was unexpected And yeah, I mean I I think that's a good
• 56:07
  If you were the judge, would you have ruled for a different kind of
• 56:10
  outcome? No, I think, like I said, I think the one
• 56:15
  they got was just fine. Like I mean, I hate to say he's
• 56:16
  like slap on the wrist, but it's like it's one of those things where
• 56:20
  it's like hey, like it was evidence somebody happened in my car. Like
• 56:22
  again, thankfully nothing worse happened, And there's probably one of the things where
• 56:28
  it's like, look like, plead guilty of this if you don't, because
• 56:30
  like I said, they had the record and THEYD all this shit. They
• 56:30
  tried to fight it. It probably would have been worse for them. But
• 56:34
  again it sounds like, again, it sounds like the father was the one
• 56:37
  who was like the one, like you said, the chill guy, like
• 56:38
  the one, the one person that family that actually was like wee should think
• 56:43
  about this, you know what I mean? Right? Uh, you know,
• 56:46
  yeah, probably he probably wasn't in on the whole thing, and probably
• 56:50
  no, absolutely not. And but thankfully it sounds like, you know,
• 56:52
  he was the voice of reason and probably like, look, let's just take
• 56:54
  this deal, be done with it, and then we gotta move on.
• 56:57
  Because I mean, I think the bigger problem for them is going to have
• 57:00
  to report that they have a felony on their record going forward for like any
• 57:05
  jobs or anything. Because of that. Unfortunately, in the country you live
• 57:07
  in, like felons as reformed as they are can potentially be, they still
• 57:14
  have to report. Yeah, you know, still keeps them from a lot
• 57:16
  of opportunities, you know. But lastly husband was down for a while,
• 57:22
  but he's hasn't wavered in supporting me. He's getting back to his old self,
• 57:27
  settling into work, and he's enjoying being close to his parents. Has
• 57:29
  been great for our relationship too, because we all get on so well.
• 57:31
  As of the twenty first, I'm a married woman. Hooray. It was
• 57:35
  very heap, very stressful. Good. Yeah, I was gonna say that
• 57:37
  right. It's very hectic and stressful change basically our entire wedding in two months,
• 57:40
  but we did it, and our guests were so understanding. We have
• 57:44
  to settle for a few things like our cake and catering, but everything else
• 57:46
  worked out amazing. Now, we couldn't imagine it any other way. It
• 57:50
  happened as it was supposed to. I don't know about all that, but
• 57:52
  the wedding, Yeah, it's great. Old shots how I imagined it.
• 57:58
  Having to flee movie, She's shattering windows, shields and waveshields and back.
• 58:07
  Sister got it. She got a fella on her. Yeah. That went
• 58:13
  on to Texas State University. I had five more cases in the court.
• 58:17
  She is now in a psych ward for being crazy on the scene around the
• 58:23
  screen at the end of the movie. Yeah, there's still there's still the
• 58:27
  freeze frames and the text talking up. I love it. I love that
• 58:30
  visually. This is the end of the movie. All right, It's been
• 58:34
  a tough journey. I'm just glad to have them out of my life and
• 58:37
  scene now, Chuck, that is it. When I when I suggested this
• 58:45
  idea to you, did I think I'd be reading a story for like an
• 58:47
  hour? Is this Is this the one that made you want to talk about
• 58:52
  it? No, dude, I found this today. I'm oh god,
• 58:58
  I just like the idea, but then I found this one was like,
• 59:00
  this is a gold mine. So yeah, it really is right. But
• 59:05
  that's it. That's it. And I finished a Heineken and opened another one
• 59:08
  and halfway through from that. So yeah, probably the biggest assholes of the
• 59:12
  day, the two sisters, minor asshole male fiance. You know, in
• 59:20
  retrospect and hindsight, could have handled things differently, could have been more proactive,
• 59:23
  but again, wow, you have expected this, and op it's kind
• 59:28
  of a bait and switch because it's like, why would you be the asshole
• 59:30
  after any of this? But uh, I thought it was a good story.
• 59:35
  Now, that was a great one. As I rest my voice,
• 59:37
  and I don't know if I can follow that one. It's good as one.
• 59:42
  It's okay, it's okay. I wanted to get that one out of
• 59:45
  the way because my last one is one of my favorites and it's very short.
• 59:47
  But feel free take the floor, the floor, it's yours. All
• 59:52
  right. Well, I feel like, oh god, I feel like a
• 59:58
  comedian coming on or after, like you know, like we're trying to follow
• 1:00:00
  like Robin fucking Williams. Okay, no, please, I feel bad though,
• 1:00:07
  No, no, no, no, you're fire fight. I wont
• 1:00:08
  could have been a whole damn episode, like literally, okay, no,
• 1:00:12
  it was good though. All right, let me pull this up. Sorry,
• 1:00:21
  we get my redit open as uh as he does that, folks you
• 1:00:29
  have I was just gonna say, I'm just gonna fish for engagement, uh
• 1:00:34
  like, subscribe, thank you, comment, do whatever, do your things,
• 1:00:38
  share the podcast. You can find this anywhere Spotify. You have ideas
• 1:00:44
  for other types of episodes, retouch to check at Chuck Scantina and your sholcials,
• 1:00:50
  your scials and if you are fiending for a video format or something,
• 1:00:55
  like that. We will figure it out, all right. This one is
• 1:01:01
  one page. Okay, okay, I hear you, I hear you,
• 1:01:07
  all right, Am I the asshole for trying to save my mom's house?
• 1:01:10
  Probably not, but let's let's see. So twenty years ago my brother will
• 1:01:15
  call him Steve scoop of Steve. This is posted, by the way,
• 1:01:17
  eight hours ago. Well for real, So, twenty years ago, my
• 1:01:22
  brother Steve bought out my mom's house to save her from get going back to
• 1:01:27
  the bank. How thoughtful. I understand that it would be Steve's house after
• 1:01:31
  that. That's what she's been under I understood that it would be Steve's house
• 1:01:36
  after that. By the way, the grandfarther, this one's awful, fucking
• 1:01:37
  terrible too, so I apologize. I understood that it would be Steve's house
• 1:01:43
  after that purchase. My mom lived there until the day she passed away.
• 1:01:47
  After Steve's oldest daughter moved in rent Free and has lived there since. Steve
• 1:01:54
  unfortunately passed away about two weeks ago, and his two children have now been
• 1:02:00
  arguing about my mom's home. They discussed it with Steve's state lawyers, and
• 1:02:05
  the spoiled girls agreed to sell it and split the money. I wanted to
• 1:02:12
  preserve our family home and buy it from them, but I was sticker shocked
• 1:02:17
  at the one point five million dollar price. Jesus. I asked my niece
• 1:02:22
  about it, and she sent me to the estate lawyer, which was smart.
• 1:02:28
  I was going to do a rent to own agreement and made it up.
• 1:02:32
  I thought it was a Steve price tag, but he showed me the
• 1:02:36
  market rates for houses in the area and told me and told me the plan
• 1:02:40
  that I had shown him doesn't work. This is a really bad graver.
• 1:02:46
  Sorry. My brother wanted his daughters taken care of. I told the lawyer
• 1:02:52
  that my mom would be disgusted by this and that this is happening. He
• 1:02:57
  told me the probated period of my mom's estate ended years ago, and I
• 1:03:00
  can make a request against my brother's estate. But my brother's will is set
• 1:03:05
  at fifty to fifty with his daughters and they have entered an agreement to sell
• 1:03:09
  the house. What do you think of so far? Hey, okay,
• 1:03:15
  okay, let me get this straight because this is a little we'll convolve it
• 1:03:19
  here. So Steve, wait, no, Steve is the poster. What's
• 1:03:24
  that? Steve? Steve is the uncle who Steve thing like this, the
• 1:03:29
  author is Steve's sister, and then Steve is her brother, and this is
• 1:03:36
  a house from their parents, or this is the house from their mother their
• 1:03:39
  mother and okay, so so the mother died, the mother died twenty years
• 1:03:46
  ago, and Steve bought the house, and so Steve's looking to sell the
• 1:03:50
  house, but the sister wants no. Steve passed, he passed away and
• 1:03:57
  the house went to his two kids. Okay, so Steve's got the house
• 1:04:00
  in the will. Uh is that right? Hold on, let me see
• 1:04:04
  it. No, Steve bought the house because or what was it? Steve
• 1:04:09
  bought out my mom's house to see it from going to the bank. Okay,
• 1:04:12
  okay, okay, so essentially Steve owned this. Essentially it was the
• 1:04:15
  mom's house and then Steve bought it to save the house, right, and
• 1:04:17
  so law, it's my law, it's Steve's house. And so the sister,
• 1:04:23
  the op the poster or whatever author, she wants to keep it in
• 1:04:26
  the family. But then the nieces want to sell it. Correct because the
• 1:04:30
  house is valued at one point five million dollars, which like fucking take the
• 1:04:34
  mill I mean, especially looking it was supposedly eight hours ago. That's kind
• 1:04:38
  of normal for today's house at Margaret, that's is crazy and it must be
• 1:04:41
  a nice house too. Like literally, I get wanting to keep it in
• 1:04:44
  the family, which is like obviously homes are like almost like a family mover
• 1:04:48
  in themselves. So many memories are like happened in the home and everything.
• 1:04:53
  But like, fucking I don't know, man, this is kind of tough.
• 1:04:58
  I don't I don't think she's the poster. Let me finish this because
• 1:05:00
  of this might swear your pin a little bit. Okay. I broke their
• 1:05:04
  car windshields. I put a slashed all four of their tires. I then
• 1:05:12
  took them hostage. Okay, now, maybe me throw finger clippings. Okay,
• 1:05:17
  I'm watching our Criminal Minds. Sorry, watching Criminal Minds is a great
• 1:05:21
  fucking show. I'm disgusted at my niece's for profiting so much off their grandmother's
• 1:05:29
  and father's deaths. I didn't realize when Steve bought out my mom's house twenty
• 1:05:33
  years ago it would go down like this, and I feel like me and
• 1:05:38
  the rest of my family are squeezed out. I told their lawyer I will
• 1:05:43
  get one as soon as I save up enough money and he said sorry,
• 1:05:47
  but that's not how this works. He works for my brother's estate aka hit
• 1:05:53
  my brother's daughters, and he cannot wait around for me to afford a lawyer
• 1:05:57
  to make a claim on the estate. He was a smug asshole, and
• 1:06:01
  since then my one of my nieces has blocked me. My husband, my
• 1:06:08
  husband and children think I'm right and I want to fight this sale. I
• 1:06:12
  put it on Facebook, but no one has any advice other than to get
• 1:06:15
  a lawyer. And the ones I have talked to act like it's beneath them
• 1:06:20
  to help me, and my nieces refuse to speak with me and tell me
• 1:06:24
  to go through their estate lawyer. Oh wow, Can I give you my
• 1:06:30
  opinion? Absolutely the op You're an asshole. Look, this is how it
• 1:06:38
  goes. This is how it goes. Okay, it's a family, it's
• 1:06:41
  it's it's a house has been the family. Yes, However, when you're
• 1:06:45
  unfortunately your mother, well here and here's the thing. It doesn't say so.
• 1:06:51
  It mentions that he bought the house before she died, So I'm assuming
• 1:06:56
  she lived there until she passed away. That's what I'm going to assume here.
• 1:06:59
  That makes sense, So I'm assuming she could probably probably because of medical
• 1:07:01
  bills wherever she couldnt afford to pay the bills, and then the sun bottle,
• 1:07:03
  maybe she had to go into like assisted living something like that. But
• 1:07:06
  essentially, in order in order to keep the house in the family, Steve
• 1:07:11
  bought the house. So in this case, we'll say op's name is Joanne,
• 1:07:15
  call her Joanne. Okay. Joanne is mad because, unfortunately Steve,
• 1:07:20
  according to this, a couple of weeks literally two weeks ago, so in
• 1:07:24
  May or actually no June passed away, sorry for your loss, passed away
• 1:07:30
  in June. Okay. She is pissed because, as his well dictated,
• 1:07:34
  the house goes to his daughters, these two daughters, and they're in herself.
• 1:07:43
  Joanne, Joanne's husband, and Joanne's kids are pissed that they are profiting
• 1:07:48
  quote unquote off of the deaths. But that's yeah, okay, and here
• 1:07:56
  before you go, here's my here's my point. Here's my take. Okay,
• 1:08:00
  this is how it works. It's in his will. If you had
• 1:08:05
  an issue with it, you should have contested. I don't know, twenty
• 1:08:10
  years ago, you should have bought the house. Even if you could have
• 1:08:13
  bought contestation was there even like he bought the house. Right, he bought
• 1:08:17
  the house and he gave it to his daughters. It's clear, cutting,
• 1:08:24
  concise, right, it's here's the thing, and for who knows. It
• 1:08:29
  doesn't mention Let me double check. I don't see anything here. It doesn't
• 1:08:32
  mention at all anything about if she received anything else or for the first comment,
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  the top comment, this was Steve's house. Do you think Steve bought
• 1:08:45
  this house for shits and giggles? Like if Steve could, if Steve could
• 1:08:51
  be here and say like, okay, yeah, one million, oh,
• 1:08:56
  sell the house, Sell the fucking house, sol the fucking house, you
• 1:08:59
  guys will be fine. It's not even that Steve made a point to go,
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  hey, when I pass away, my house goes to my daughters.
• 1:09:06
  It is or or specify this house maybe a different house. I don't know.
• 1:09:11
  This house goes to my two children for them to do with it what
• 1:09:15
  they want. Joanne can fuck off, like okay, And here's the worst
• 1:09:20
  part. Her husband and the kids agree with her. What kind of people
• 1:09:25
  are you? Like, here's the thing. It's I'm sorry for you.
• 1:09:27
  I'm sorry for everyone involved their loss. It sucks, but it's like,
• 1:09:29
  yeah, what kind of fucking people are you when you're going, oh,
• 1:09:31
  this should be our house. No, no, no, you have no
• 1:09:35
  claim to it doesn't. It doesn't. And here's here's where I'll play Devil's
• 1:09:39
  like. It doesn't specify how Joanne was, doesn't specify what her age was
• 1:09:42
  when her mom passed and all this stuff went down. The bottom line is,
• 1:09:45
  oh, here's the way you had twenty years to not saying wiggle,
• 1:09:48
  find a way to get into the house, or into the ownership of the
• 1:09:53
  house, or to get on the will. You had all this time of
• 1:09:56
  the communication, but you didn't. Instead, the I did what any father
• 1:10:00
  would do. Gee, I'm going I'm gonna pass away, or I have
• 1:10:03
  all these assets, what should I do? Okay, I'm going to limit
• 1:10:06
  to my kids. Right, And that's exactly what the house is. It's
• 1:10:10
  an asset, right, It's an investment, like, yeah, one point
• 1:10:14
  five million dollar investment, right, which is obviously that house is appreciated in
• 1:10:20
  value, right, right, I mean, at least from my perspective.
• 1:10:25
  Again, I have no history in any of this. He bought twenty years
• 1:10:29
  ago, so I've been to assume yeah, I mean obviously right, right,
• 1:10:32
  And even even if they didn't touch a fingle a single speck on the
• 1:10:35
  house, which is which of course didn't happen. But they just anything the
• 1:10:39
  house. But if all the other house, like I said, the market
• 1:10:41
  around the around that house, if all the o their houses are going up
• 1:10:43
  in value, then that house has to go up just right. So and
• 1:10:45
  so like imagine they will split the commission from the house, not commission,
• 1:10:50
  but you know what I mean, yeah, split the rate from the house.
• 1:10:54
  That's half a million, half a million dollars, you know, more
• 1:10:57
  than half a million dollars. But like through there's a million dollars for each
• 1:11:00
  of the daughters. They're set up for a while. They can put that
• 1:11:03
  away, they can buy a home in their own house. They can each
• 1:11:08
  buy a house right especially today, and like they get paid with cash.
• 1:11:14
  I mean, she has a sentimental value attached to the house. But you
• 1:11:17
  know what doesn't buy houses or buy anything in this world is sentiment. And
• 1:11:24
  like it's I know that's kind of a cold way to look at it,
• 1:11:27
  but like realistically, it's like they are their own individual people and the father.
• 1:11:32
  You know, I get it, I get it, I get it,
• 1:11:35
  Like you know, thinking of my grandparents' home, you know, my
• 1:11:40
  parents' house. Like, you know, if I could, you know,
• 1:11:45
  if I could hold onto those those places and like you know, renovate them
• 1:11:51
  or do whatever and live happily in them, like that'd be one thing.
• 1:11:55
  But like if if somebody's waving a million dollars in your face, like I
• 1:12:00
  think I'm thinking of like bills and ship Like I don't want to come off
• 1:12:03
  as an old assholes, y'all right, but like, let let somebody else
• 1:12:11
  have that house, right, And it's like, Joe Anne, Joanne,
• 1:12:14
  what are you gonna do with the hose? What are you gonna do with
• 1:12:16
  the house? I have a house over? You're gonna sell it. You're
• 1:12:20
  gonna sell it's so fucking fast. I feel like there's a lot that Joeanne,
• 1:12:29
  as we've named her, is leaving out of her intent, right,
• 1:12:31
  because what are you gonna do with the house when you pass on? What
• 1:12:35
  are you are you gonna keep it? You know? I mean I get
• 1:12:39
  it. I get where she's coming from to a point, but that's honestly,
• 1:12:42
  it's like she has no claim to what happens with this property at all,
• 1:12:46
  and she, you know, go get a lawyer, Joanne, go
• 1:12:49
  get a lawyer. It seems like they're having a hard time finding one because
• 1:12:53
  lawyer talking to you. Here's what you're saying, and it's like, well
• 1:12:55
  no, actually, it's like, well, can you wait till I get
• 1:12:57
  my own lawyer? No, you have no reason, you know what.
• 1:13:00
  Yeah, let's let's just give her some time. Hey guys, Hey guys,
• 1:13:03
  she's gonna take us the court. I think she actually has a case,
• 1:13:06
  but we should wait for her to get her in order. You're a
• 1:13:11
  soft asshole, Joanne, but you're definitely an asshole. All right, all
• 1:13:16
  right? Shall I move on to the final story of the evening? I
• 1:13:21
  have one more, but yeah, go ahead. Well I thought maybe you
• 1:13:25
  could finish your you could have the you can read your last one? Okay,
• 1:13:30
  yes, please, guys. I mean it's Chucks canteen and everything.
• 1:13:33
  Well, thank you. How nice of you. This one short, but
• 1:13:38
  it's one of my faves and I hope you enjoyed it. The title is
• 1:13:42
  a little bit uh, it's a little rough, but I'll read it to
• 1:13:45
  you. Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend's mother she raised a fucking
• 1:13:50
  sociopath who needs to be in a facility. Jesus Christ a mouthful. Yeah,
• 1:13:59
  so off the bat, off the bat, off the bat from the
• 1:14:02
  title, what do you think? No, just for just for, just
• 1:14:08
  for the clarity, can you please read that one more time? Am I
• 1:14:13
  the asshole for telling my boyfriend's mother she raised a fucking sociopath who needs to
• 1:14:18
  be in a facility? Just of that? Yeah, because you're saying that
• 1:14:27
  you're dating a socio? Is she an asshole for telling the mom that though
• 1:14:33
  no context, shallow as fuck impression, no context, I'm gonna have to
• 1:14:39
  go Yeah, Yeah, I got an asshole. So I'll read this to
• 1:14:44
  you. It's one of my favorites and I can't wait to read it.
• 1:14:47
  So I a female twenty six, have a boyfriend male twenty four, and
• 1:14:53
  recently he got into a dispute with the neighbor's kids. They accidentally kicked their
• 1:14:58
  football into our yard and they came into the garden to get it back.
• 1:15:01
  T BH, I didn't care, but my boyfriend started screaming at these like
• 1:15:06
  eleven year old uh, these eleven year olds about how they are poorly raised
• 1:15:12
  and their parents should be ashamed. Oh God, here we go. I
• 1:15:15
  was fucking mortified. I sent the kids some chocolate and sweets and apologized profusely
• 1:15:21
  to his behavior. For his behavior chocolates. Yeah, I imagine eleven year
• 1:15:30
  old comes in and this twenty four year old dude is like, oh,
• 1:15:32
  I was playing fucking Xbox and you get on here an your parents should have
• 1:15:38
  raised your butt. Then what to go? Get a football? I was
• 1:15:42
  trying to watch him one see the basicads dig did little how many times I
• 1:15:49
  burned this vhs. It's called a fucking DVD. It's called fucking streaming.
• 1:15:57
  That's hilarious. Really, I was seeing rewatched scene on the VHS for a
• 1:16:04
  good reason, but let's carry I was seeing red flags and told him this
• 1:16:13
  behavior was not normal. Oh that's when you finally saw the red flag.
• 1:16:16
  Holy shit. He kind of brushed me off, and I told him if
• 1:16:20
  he pulled anything like that again, he was gone. So this guy's living
• 1:16:24
  in her house right. Yes. The next week, the ball came into
• 1:16:29
  our garden and I was about to throw it back to the kids when my
• 1:16:31
  boyfriend stormed outside and took the ball inside. I told the kids that I
• 1:16:36
  would bring it back in a minute. He went into the bathroom and emerged
• 1:16:42
  like ten minutes later, wearing gloves and a football covered in shit? What
• 1:16:47
  his own shit? What the fuck? All right? Really quick? I
• 1:16:51
  feel like you're an asshole because you're so with this dude, Right, can
• 1:16:57
  you imagine like, can you imagine somebody get off? That? Is this
• 1:17:02
  riz? Over nine thousand? Right? I don't care what level of riz
• 1:17:09
  you have. If you're smearing your own ship on anything, time to put
• 1:17:13
  fucking gloves on? All right? Please continue? Holy you would put that's
• 1:17:16
  probably the that's probably the most sane thing this guy has done. It's like,
• 1:17:20
  you know, and of football, but like you're reaching into the toilet
• 1:17:28
  to get your It's like, at what point? At one point? At
• 1:17:31
  what point? Like at that point at least, it's like maybe I maybe
• 1:17:34
  I need to know, maybe I shouldn't be reaching toilet. My question is,
• 1:17:42
  did he ship first into the bowl and then reach into the into his
• 1:17:45
  hands or did he put the football in the toilet and shipped on that?
• 1:17:50
  I don't know, but carry on. That's the case, then we gotta
• 1:17:55
  get I gotta a really kind of football. Be talking about it, you
• 1:17:58
  know what I'm saying. We're talking like a kid's foot, were talking,
• 1:18:00
  We're talking like a girl like a Walmart football you buy from the that would
• 1:18:06
  inform the amount of ship that this guy's well. But also like if we're
• 1:18:09
  talking like an actual size football, that ship's not fitting. That's not gonna
• 1:18:13
  fit the toilet, right, so you're gonna have to do a toilet then
• 1:18:16
  to glove. Then I guess what kind of toilet guy. We got a
• 1:18:19
  colder, We got a toilet brist we got a dice. I don't know
• 1:18:25
  toilet brins. I just my toilets, a coler, That's all I know.
• 1:18:28
  So I asked him if he was out of his fucking mind and threw
• 1:18:33
  it over. He threw it over the fence, screaming, take that,
• 1:18:36
  you bitches. Imagine calling eleven year old children bitches. I screamed, and
• 1:18:42
  girl, I mean screamed at him. Okay, give this man a medal
• 1:18:45
  of honor. I screamed and girl, I mean screamed at him about how
• 1:18:49
  he was a fucking douche and I wanted him out of my house and he
• 1:18:53
  is disgusting, fucking monster, and that they were just kids. I screamed
• 1:18:57
  and screamed, and eventually he left. I deleted all his games off of
• 1:19:00
  his PS four. It and gave it to the whoa whoa, whoa whoa.
• 1:19:03
  You're the asshole. I just beat the witcher three and you it's like
• 1:19:10
  years of just I just got halfway through a fucking blood board. Read good
• 1:19:15
  redemption too. I was so embarrassed. My xbf's mom messaged, well,
• 1:19:23
  so this is when we get to the am I the asshole territory? My
• 1:19:26
  xbf mom messaged me asking what happened? And I responded with, what happened?
• 1:19:30
  What happened? You are a pathetic excuse of a woman who raised a
• 1:19:33
  fucking sociopath who covered a football on his own ship and threw it at some
• 1:19:36
  kids, and he needs to be in a facility because something is wrong with
• 1:19:39
  him, and god knows how I hadn't seen any red flags about the fucking
• 1:19:42
  monster he raised during the seven months we dated. That was all one sentence.
• 1:19:46
  I know I am in the right for what I did to my BF,
• 1:19:47
  But am I in the wrong for snapping of the mother for something she
• 1:19:50
  had no direct involvement in. What's your take, bud? What's your take?
• 1:19:55
  What's your take? So all the mother said was what happened? Yeah,
• 1:20:02
  so we don't know what the friend was telling the mom, you are
• 1:20:05
  not the asshole for kicking that douche bag out of your house. Probably the
• 1:20:12
  mom, though I'm not gonna lie, are your The way you respond to
• 1:20:21
  the mother is very assholesh. Now, I want to say if that is
• 1:20:26
  all she said, didn't? Yes, you act like an asshole. But
• 1:20:29
  here's a question too. Okay, here are two questions I have one is
• 1:20:33
  that really all she wrote? The mother wrote? Secondly, how stoon was
• 1:20:38
  this after? That? Was my question because if it's like, if it's
• 1:20:42
  like a week day, okay, if it's late the day or the day
• 1:20:45
  after, it's like, what do you raise a fucking asshole? Yeah?
• 1:20:48
  Yeah, I get it. Motions are high. Emotions are very high.
• 1:20:54
  Motions are very his own ship onto it, just like he took the I
• 1:21:00
  am it, took the time to put where the fuck is the neighbor's kids
• 1:21:04
  like parents like what the f oh? Dude? Yeah, Like he's lucky
• 1:21:09
  that. I wish we had updates on this one, because like I want
• 1:21:13
  to know what the fuck happened as a result of that. Yeah, that's
• 1:21:15
  that's a fucking crime. That's gotta be some kind of a crime. I
• 1:21:20
  don't know what kind of crime. It is, no no ship. I
• 1:21:26
  just said that. Oh God, well done. Yeah, I think I
• 1:21:30
  think she's she made the remove getting out of the house. We don't know
• 1:21:35
  where that could have led. Maybe this guy's having a bit of like a
• 1:21:39
  mental breakdown and this just set off bigger again my children accidentally hitting a football
• 1:21:46
  in your your yard, Like, come the fuck on right, Like what
• 1:21:51
  year is it? How old are you deal with it? Like there's like
• 1:21:56
  like there's so much like there's so much other reasons to like not that you
• 1:21:59
  should at the expert was like there's so many other like worst things in this
• 1:22:01
  world. It's like, yeah, like somebody break in the windshield and slice
• 1:22:04
  and all you're tired or putting any freezing your fucking engine. Holy sh I
• 1:22:12
  goess, I'm saying someone trying to kill you with shellfish went a little strong
• 1:22:17
  of the mom who knows what their life has been like. And that guy's
• 1:22:21
  brother is the guy who's in the corner at that weddy watching money in the
• 1:22:24
  back. I can't believe Pross just gonna win the ship. God damn,
• 1:22:30
  what did you white have a football? Anyway? But yeah, that's one
• 1:22:33
  of my favorites. Just complete that ship behavior and uh top state ship.
• 1:22:40
  Oh god, I didn't even realize it. My bad. Alright, all
• 1:22:45
  right, you know what, in hindsight, I should have put that at
• 1:22:47
  story number two. Anyway, would you like to take us home on the
• 1:22:58
  last one? Here? Oh god? One second? Oh man, I'm
• 1:23:03
  trying to like, I'm like trying to comprehend what what you just told me?
• 1:23:08
  Okay? This one's only a stra page long. This one, I
• 1:23:11
  feel like it might be famous because it's got quite a lot of like traffic
• 1:23:16
  on it. I can't find the exact date. I couldn't find the data
• 1:23:27
  on this last one right there. Oh that last one was like four years
• 1:23:30
  ago. Yeah, this one I cannot find a data on. Okay,
• 1:23:32
  so me, me, me, me, me me, alright, this
• 1:23:43
  has been a fun podcast, but I forget this. It's been a long
• 1:23:45
  one too, man, Yeah, sorry, put it in the two A
• 1:23:47
  big deal, all right, it's been a while. Am I the asshole?
• 1:23:53
  I feel like I've heard this one? I don't remember, though?
• 1:23:55
  Am I the asshole for not having catering at my wedding? Not? No,
• 1:24:05
  I don't, I don't think so. I mean like it's gonna it's
• 1:24:11
  gonna depend on if you had a reception. If you have a reception,
• 1:24:15
  oh god, I'm sorry. Reception. You have a wedding and there's a
• 1:24:18
  reception and there's no food, Yes, I'm saying. That's what I'm saying.
• 1:24:23
  If there's a reception and you're just what just drinks, then I don't
• 1:24:27
  know, just like did you? I don't know. It's just it's it's
• 1:24:30
  it's just, it's just a private dinner between the bride and groom. Everyone's
• 1:24:33
  gonna watch a meat everybody, all right? Am I the answer for that?
• 1:24:39
  I have a catery in my wedding. Me female twenty eight and my
• 1:24:43
  fiance male thirty just got married two months ago? But can you hear me
• 1:24:46
  o kid by the way here? Okay? Sorry, all right, Uh,
• 1:24:50
  myself female twenty eight or fiance male thirty just got married two months ago
• 1:24:55
  and we had our dream wedding. All right, right, what you're in
• 1:24:59
  an asshole? Because dream wedding with no kid, no food? Okay?
• 1:25:03
  Everything? We hate eating. We're believing everything was perfect, and I mean
• 1:25:13
  everything. My parents already hate this fucking person. My parents and his parents
• 1:25:19
  helped us pay for a great chunk of the wedding, so we would be
• 1:25:24
  debt free and we are so eternally grateful for that. All right. Alrightyre,
• 1:25:29
  that's the first paragraph. You're an asshole. You didn't pay for the
• 1:25:31
  wedding, all right. The issue arose about a month and a half ago
• 1:25:40
  when my aunt started posting on Facebook how disappointed she was with the whole ord
• 1:25:45
  deal, and a few guests sided with her. Background. My fiance and
• 1:25:49
  I you ready for this? Oh God? Are huge Disney fans? No?
• 1:25:57
  And we traveled to Disney World as much as we we can throughout the
• 1:26:00
  year. Disney is such an important part not only to us but also our
• 1:26:04
  marriage. I think Patrick's understanding why I picked this one issue was with our
• 1:26:13
  decision to not offer catering services and bar services at our wedding due to routing
• 1:26:20
  the money towards having a wedding. Are you ready for this? Let me
• 1:26:28
  repeat what I'm about to. Let me repeat that first part, because I
• 1:26:30
  was about to tell you why there was no food or drinks at the wedding.
• 1:26:33
  I can already guess. But yeah, the issue, what is your
• 1:26:36
  guess? I guess it was just because it was too fucking expensive. Nope,
• 1:26:42
  The issue was with our decision to not offer either catering services or bar
• 1:26:46
  services at our wedding was due to routing them that money towards having a wedding
• 1:26:54
  Minnie and Mickey Mouse make appearances at our special day. You've gotta be fucking
• 1:27:00
  you've gotta be oh Disney adults. So instead of food susteness and is it
• 1:27:19
  a feeding your families, we need to grown adults in giant mouse costumes is
• 1:27:28
  perfect. Also, dress up in wedding attire just because al right pictures.
• 1:27:34
  God. The cost to have both Mini and Mickey Mouse for a good chunk
• 1:27:41
  of time thirty minutes, to be exact, was almost exactly what our parents
• 1:27:48
  allotted for our catering budgets. You have got to be kidding me, sidebar.
• 1:27:56
  I can attest having characters is not fucking cheap. I did not do
• 1:28:01
  it, but it was offered to which I said, fuck no, like
• 1:28:08
  a rational human being, like like, oh my god, yeah, so
• 1:28:19
  I didn't read this. I going out to the foe. I just read
• 1:28:23
  it, okay, because they have both Many and Mickey Mouse for a good
• 1:28:27
  chunk of time thirty minutes, to be exactly, was almost exactly what our
• 1:28:30
  parents allotted for our catering budget. So before you continue, I was gonna
• 1:28:36
  say the aunt who posted on Facebook about being disappointed. At first, I
• 1:28:41
  was gonna be like, well, that's petty as hell, she's an asshole.
• 1:28:44
  But then after reading the rest of it, I was like, no,
• 1:28:45
  she's fully justified. I would I would, I would, I would.
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  Oh my god, all right, like they're fucking bullshit. Okay,
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  so sorry, we scheduled all right. So you know, like I said,
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  thirty minutes was almost exactly what our parents alloted. So you might like,
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  that's what into like, what three four hours? So that's with food
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  drinks like we usual, it's pretty much drink for at least three hours.
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  So for thirty minutes to have Mickey Mini appear, that's what That's what a
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  bar cost. Sybar, by the way, that's by the way, sidebar.
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  This information you can't find our line and sidebar. This is all fucking
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  true because came and I. We have a book where it tells you how
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  this ship, how this ship is broken down. My cost having talked to
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  you about like what the cost was for the bar, and shit, that's
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  insane to just have two giant lice to to to to college interns and fucking
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  costumes. Alright, ready, all right? So uh so we scheduled their
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  appearance during our first dance and our wedding for photos forging serve food. However,
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  though there were plenty of facilities at the venue where people could go eat.
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  Oh so yeah, go take go, go, my parents were still
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  very sup I what the fuck are you doing? I know I'm talking Disney.
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  Sorry, my parents were very supportive and yeah, my parents were very
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  supportive of us, but everyone else is being very passive aggressive about it on
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  Facebook? Am I the asshole? There are two edits which I will read
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  in a minute. One hundred percent yes, either one hundred percent yes actually
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  correction, it doesn't mention the fiance's parents, so yourself the poster, your
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  your now husband, and then your parents so your mom and dad. Yea,
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  the four of you. You're all assholes. We have a four hundred
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  percent asshole fuck face you damn Hi. Yeah. I cannot express enough how
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  frustrated I would be if you did this at your wedding just before today.
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  Let's just say this, and I know where we're going a little lot.
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  It's fine. I'm bring this into two parts I appreciate everyone who's stayed a
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  land this far. Hope you enjoyed this content. We'll definitely do this again
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  because I'm I'm literally tears of my face of a criands. I'm laughing so
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  hard. Patrick, You're the best man in my wedding. Loved having you.
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  There was a great fucking time. Oh yeah, best time in my
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  life. That's my point where I was going. Okay, I have said
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  on this podcast before, kids don't know what that don't know what the future
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  holds with me and kids. I've said that before. However, I have
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  said it when it comes to kids, I will never name a kid.
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  Fucking the call because tropical storm the call. Yeah, dude, made that
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  week very interesting because we came out of nowhere. Because I'm never I'll never
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  get Sunday or Saturday afternoon, Saturday, Saturday night, had dinner with Kaylen,
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  checking the weather. Weather looks perfect. Obviously, you can't see a
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  week ahead. You can't predict that is what it is. Sunday, okay,
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  Wednesday, Tuesday be a little bit cloudy. Monday, huh, okay,
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  I got a little rain, no problem. Tuesday fucking nights. I
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  leave Wednesday morning Oh, there's a fucking hurricane. Guess what happened. I
• 1:32:18
  contact the whole wedding party. Some of them, like my good friend here,
• 1:32:24
  changed their flight schedule. Everyone made it. Everyone got there. Day
• 1:32:29
  of the wedding. Look out the window. There's a giant fucking fog.
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  Get asked, do we want to move the wedding inside? No, we
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  want to do it outside because that's what we paid for, because we got
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  We got married on at the or the Grand floating hotel at the boat dock.
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  We're gonna see the castle in the background because thank you, because our
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  original venue, they decided to build a hotel right on fucking top of But
• 1:32:58
  despiteal vet we get married. The fog clears, as the wedding coordinator said,
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  we got the damn shot. Hell yes, hotter than ship out though,
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  because you couldn't plan it better, I'm gonna plan it better in terms
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  of the view the weather, though he could have been better. This this
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  what all that? Did I not feed you nor provide you drinks? Dude,
• 1:33:23
  I was gonna say if you had pulled some track that statesman question?
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  Well another question, did we not drink fucking heavily? The whole fucking weekend,
• 1:33:34
  we drink enough. I thought I saw Mickey most like, dude,
• 1:33:42
  if you had pulled, you would not be not be Oh my god,
• 1:33:46
  I'd be like every time you'd asked me, I was like, yeah,
• 1:33:48
  I'd love to do the podcast. You remember that time at your wedding when
• 1:33:51
  when you had Mickey Mouse show up and photos and my beautiful, my god,
• 1:33:57
  god, my gorgeous bride, and I took of all the photos took
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  that weekend. One of my absolute favorite photos. What is it? It's
• 1:34:03
  me behind my best man and my now wife. He is being a gentleman
• 1:34:09
  holding open the bust gate door. Great fucking whatever the thing for her so
• 1:34:13
  she could walk through, and he's got her arm in, arm locked,
• 1:34:15
  and he's looking back at you, not looking back, he's kind of looking
• 1:34:17
  back in my direction, and how does my best man look fucking hammered?
• 1:34:26
  And it's great, fucking one of my favorite pictures from the weekend. Despite
• 1:34:30
  all that still fed, you still gave you drinks. Actually, let me
• 1:34:34
  retract that too. We had a rehearsal, you had drinks and food there
• 1:34:40
  also because I didn't order enough pizzas, you were so kind of to order
• 1:34:44
  more pizzas. Then we had our wedding and there was food and drinks there.
• 1:34:49
  Then at the end of the night, we rented on a spot to
• 1:34:53
  have a fireworks show. Well not we didn't do the fun We didn't fucking
• 1:34:56
  purchase the fireworks, just right down on the spot so we can watch the
• 1:34:58
  fireworks at fucking Disney. But we also provided more drinks and more nourishments.
• 1:35:04
  And guess what, everyone had a good fucking time. So hammerd from the
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  reception that I showed up late to the you you, But then we went
• 1:35:15
  up to the top of the World Bar and had a good time up there.
• 1:35:18
  I was sick, as that's a great place. By the way,
• 1:35:21
  if you're ever there, you get up and get up there. It's very
• 1:35:24
  hard to get up. It's not hard to get there. You gotta have
• 1:35:26
  a certain way to get up there. Thankfully my father in law mother in
• 1:35:29
  law have that sure able to do that. Thank you both for that.
• 1:35:30
  But yes, okay, lunch, let me get to these edits really quick.
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  Okay, oh god, I can't wait. Oh. By the way,
• 1:35:39
  this is how they listened. Edit number one. JESU info to those
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  asking if to those asking if the guests were warned. We clearly outlined in
• 1:35:53
  the invitations that there was food available at the venue. We didn't exactly they'll
• 1:35:58
  spell out every restaurant menu, but this was certainly mentioned. There was also
• 1:36:02
  vending machines available throughout. Now, let me just say this, I don't
• 1:36:08
  know exactly where they got married at Disney World. That doesn't specify. I
• 1:36:12
  can tell you I'm pretty well, I'm pretty much have the entire landscape of
• 1:36:17
  that place now by the back of my hand. There's some places I don't
• 1:36:19
  know enough about, but I have a pretty good understanding. No like what
• 1:36:26
  like a fucking prison break, and I put the entire fucking landscape of Disney
• 1:36:29
  World in my body so I can break it and out. Anyway, Great,
• 1:36:31
  that's a good show, by the way, got weird towards the end.
• 1:36:33
  Anyway, I can tell you this right now. Yes, there are
• 1:36:38
  a lot of food venue places. There are a lot of places you get
• 1:36:41
  a drink, but they cost a fucking arm and a leg. Plus when
• 1:36:45
  you go to a wedding, the last thing I want to do, especially
• 1:36:46
  I have a kid. Go hey, Timmy, I'm gonna grab you.
• 1:36:50
  Now, let's walk all the way over here to get some fucking chicken fingers.
• 1:36:56
  By the way, I am in a suit and it's fucking ninety four
• 1:36:58
  degrees. Jesus Christ. All right. Edit number two, and I haven't.
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  I didn't read past the part other than like the whole uh mickey and
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  mini thing. So the part where I started dying laughing, that was a
• 1:37:11
  live act. That was a live actual reaction lab because I did not know
• 1:37:15
  that was coming. Edit number two. For everyone saying that it's too much
• 1:37:19
  for thirty minutes, I want to clarify it was actually two to thirty minute
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  sessions on different days. Oh my god, would you like to know the
• 1:37:30
  cost of one session? They posted? Oh they did. And again,
• 1:37:38
  I don't know how old this story is, but I can tell you.
• 1:37:41
  I don't remember the exact amount, but I can tell you I think this
• 1:37:43
  is kind of close. Oh my god, twenty seven to fifty oh by
• 1:37:49
  the way, by the way, by the way, Regimond nearly two thousand,
• 1:37:53
  seven hundred and fifty dollars plus also like you know you what the fuck?
• 1:38:01
  God damn. Even Oliver is like, what the fuck are you?
• 1:38:08
  Oh my god? Oh man, So, ladies and gentlemen, we have
• 1:38:16
  discussed a decent amount on these two episodes, and I appreciate this is not
• 1:38:21
  my sign up, but I appreciate your time you spend, not just with
• 1:38:27
  this podcast or with any other episodes of Texan Tina, especially these last two.
• 1:38:30
  But when you come to the conclusion this bride's an asshole, oh my
• 1:38:38
  god. Again, there are very basic rules of a wedding. Okay,
• 1:38:43
  as Patrick said, if you have a reception, you have some type of
• 1:38:46
  food, you have some type of drink. You don't have to Okay,
• 1:38:50
  Look, I'm a guy that goes like, look, I'm always thinking you're
• 1:38:53
  doing what you should have help you should the one thing you should at least
• 1:38:56
  do it or what is as have an open bar. That's just how I
• 1:38:59
  was ring. But I've been to weddings where that's not the case because it's
• 1:39:01
  just like, look like it just doesn't feel it's like, hey, you
• 1:39:04
  know what, at least you got food because imagine because again here's the thing,
• 1:39:09
  perfect example, Patrick Conn attest to this. Okay, everyone in our
• 1:39:12
  weddy could attest to this. They had known, we had made everyone aware
• 1:39:16
  for that, we were for years. This is what we were doing.
• 1:39:23
  Why so they can have time to plan, save, do all that stuff,
• 1:39:29
  because we understand traveling for a wedding is not exactly easy. Like,
• 1:39:32
  for example, I have friends of mine who I don't I don't know who
• 1:39:36
  they went to. They went to a wedding similar in Florida. They had
• 1:39:41
  a four month notice, and of course the four of them were very pissed
• 1:39:46
  off. O man, oh jinks. No, it's it's insane. And
• 1:39:59
  now Oliver is knocking down one of my phone goes, what the fuck?
• 1:40:01
  Well, maybe that's a cue if you or anybody else you know, is
• 1:40:09
  an asshole to make sure, yeah, make sure you post about it.
• 1:40:15
  It's great content for podcasts, just like this. Yes, I'm saying like
• 1:40:18
  this did not feel like two hours. Well we almost got two and a
• 1:40:21
  half hours here. Yeah. Yeah, so I think it was great.
• 1:40:26
  I think we should do it again. I agree we should try to find
• 1:40:29
  some themes or maybe we should try to find some other uh you know,
• 1:40:32
  threads online to uh pull from, because there's a lot there's a lot of
• 1:40:36
  subreddit's not your thing about the asshole relationship advice? You can do a relationship
• 1:40:43
  you know, here's the Here's the one thing I can say though about all
• 1:40:45
  of these assholes. Communication for all these apparently was lacking. Absolutely had they
• 1:40:53
  disapprove their communication, because here's the thing, like if I like, I'm
• 1:40:56
  not gonna lie like if I do, like, hey, we're getting married
• 1:40:57
  at Disney. By the way, we're not having food or drinks unless it's
• 1:41:00
  like obviously like something like really close like yourself, like a family member.
• 1:41:02
  It's you know what I mind, gottness, I'm past on it all.
• 1:41:09
  It's doesn't work for me. Brother, This has been great. I hope
• 1:41:16
  you had a good time to check. I had a blast so from not
• 1:41:23
  to as well. I could be an asshole, uh, from guys who
• 1:41:28
  can be assholes occasionally. I can think you join us this week. Thank
• 1:41:32
  you for all And I don't know, I might just keep this guy that
• 1:41:34
  don't We'll see what happens. Thank you for all your support so far,
• 1:41:39
  episode one sixty five. It's crazy to say that. As always, you
• 1:41:42
  can find us at Chuck's Cantina on your socials chuckscanteena gmail dot com. You
• 1:41:47
  can find this podcast where we get your podcast. As I always mentioned again
• 1:41:50
  on you know, oh I should probably know. The actual platform is good
• 1:41:57
  sir, Spotify not Google Radio because that's not a thing anymore. YouTube.
• 1:42:01
  I don't know about Pandora. There's Javin, there's other ones. There's iTunes.
• 1:42:05
  How can I forget? How could I? How could I ever ever
• 1:42:09
  ever forget about iTunes? But yeah, you can get your podcasts. We're
• 1:42:15
  listening to where we get your podcasts. You can listen to it there.
• 1:42:17
  Do something like this, Alexa play Chuck's cantina. Literally, you can do
• 1:42:21
  that too. Please something you're gonna start for posted Bounty by Chuck Sereno from
• 1:42:27
  geos Shut up, Who the fuck is that guy? Don't work that time,
• 1:42:34
  but I guess it works sometimes. But yes, you could ask Amazon,
• 1:42:38
  you could ask our help. You can ask you go listen to the
• 1:42:41
  podcast on the distributor speaker. Thank you for all supports the first speaker.
• 1:42:44
  They're a great resources. Whether they're not paying me to say this, I
• 1:42:45
  don't get paid by them at all. But you know what, anytime I
• 1:42:47
  have an issue, I reach out to be like, mmmm, that's a
• 1:42:49
  weird one. Let's take a look at that. Do do do do do
• 1:42:51
  doo? But anyway, yes, thank you for alice support. And then
• 1:42:56
  a little message for this week, don't be an asshole or, better yet,
• 1:43:02
  don't slash tires. Don't fucking put any freeze in a god freaking engine.
• 1:43:08
  Don't poison somebody with something you know they're allergic to because you think they
• 1:43:12
  might be faking it. Communicate with your relatives when it comes to wills.
• 1:43:17
  Oh, and last, but not least, feed your fucking wedding guests.
• 1:43:20
  Take care, guys,