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Jessica West - Manifesting with Purpose · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Caprio. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here's your host, Melissa Caprio.
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Hey guys, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the
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life you crave. How is everybody who's listening doing today. I hope you
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guys are doing well. It's Wednesday. I love doing my show, so
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thank you so much for joining me today. I have author and podcaster Jessica
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West as my guest, and she's going to join me in just a few
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minutes. I want to give a shout out to on my regulars. Thank
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you so much for listening to my show and sending me messages that you like
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it and you love my guests. I really appreciate that. And if you're
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just joining me for the first time, welcome. I hope you keep coming
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back. And just so you know, if you miss a live show,
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you can always catch one on the replay on Home Times Radio. They have
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a podcast, and I also put it on my page Postcards to the Universe
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as a podcast, so you can always catch the shows any time you like
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a little bit about me if you are new to listening to my show.
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I'm an artist, I'm a photographer, and I am also an author,
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and I have a book. It's titled same name as my show, Postcards
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to the Universe, but it's the added part is harness the Universe's power and
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manifest your dreams. And in my book, I have thirty manifesting stories along
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with photographs I took of the contributors, which I call manifesting postcards. And
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a manifesting postcard is kind of like a focused down vision board. People send
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them to me, and when their manifestation becomes the reality, I photograph them
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and there's thirty of those examples in the book. And also in my book,
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I have a bunch of writing exercises or journaling exercises, and it helps
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us get clear on those things that we want to manifest, you know,
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in the in the main areas of money, love, health, career,
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you know, we always want more abundance in those areas but there's so much
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more. I have a bunch of fun games and tools to play in manifesting
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more money and better health, and it's Yeah, it was so fun to
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put together. So if you're interested, I would love it and just go
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find the book on Barnes and Noble or Amazon and your local bookstores. If
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they don't have an in stock, they will order it for you. Each
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week I ask people to send me a manifesting postcard. I'm getting them in
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the mail. I love getting them. I'm like a kid in a candy
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store when they come. So if you want to know how to create one,
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you can find out all the information on postcards to the universe dot com.
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I tell you how to create one. There's an address listed on there
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where to send it. And also if you sign up for my Join My
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movement, you get a free manifesting eight step manifesting guide as a free gift,
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and also a postcard. How it's even more in depth about how to
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create a manifesting postcard. So yeah, I hope that you join me.
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Let's see. So each week I have been sharing because this is something I
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just started doing. It's basically new. I used to do them before COVID,
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but you know, COVID kind of threw a wrench into everything. But
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I started doing a workshop. It's an online workshop. It's called Manifesting through
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Gratitude, a Visual Journey, and it runs Thursday evenings six to eight pm
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Eastern Time, and it's a five week start to finish course. And it's
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about living a grateful and creative life, which is about following our hearts and
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embracing more of the things that light us up from the inside. It's about
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seeing all the wonderful things that we already have in our lives. Many times
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we forget I'm guilty of it too, to see what is right in front
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of us. And by finding the courage to prioritize, nurture, and express
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our creativity, we add more play and joy in our life and we get
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to experience that which we love and cherish in greater depth. And then what
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happens is the universe has a wonderful way of surprising us with even more magic.
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So in the workshop, we're going to be covered living in gratitude by
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using writing exercises and doing a daily visual gratitude practice by and I wanted to
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incorporate this being a photographer myself and I do this by using our camera phones
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because it'll help us get into alignment with the energy of abundance. So each
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section we're going to focus on a different area of our life to be grateful
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for. Week one focuses on worthiness and self love. Week two covers health
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and wellness. Week three looks at our money story and financial abundance. Week
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four we go into our personal relationships romantic family, friends, co workers.
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And the final week we're going to be dedicated to a personal check in,
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sharing our experiences, what comes up for us, and of course an open
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Q and A. And there's always going to be an open Q and A
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at the end of each each each section, so we can always talk about
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whatever's coming up. I have a lot of creative projects and fun photo prompts
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that will help us shift are thinking and start living in gratitude. And each
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week I'm going to give homework. I give homework, which is using our
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camera phones and also making a manifesting postcard for each section of the course.
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So it's going to be a lot of fun. It's a lot of hands
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on work, and at the end of it, you're going to have a
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beautiful visual Gratitude Journal and you can find out more about the workshop if you
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go to Postcards to the Universe, there's a link for workshop and it takes
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you to find uniquelyu dot Com, forward slash Melissacaprio and sign up. I'd
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love to see you there. So another thing that I do and I talk
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about each week is I share a magical message that I post on social media
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and it's an image of a manifesting postcard. So what I just started doing
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is I'm re photographing the postcards that are in my book because I decided to
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read my book. You just read the book from start to finish, and
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I'm posting videos. I'm trying to keep them. There's going to be a
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lot of them. I'm trying to keep them like five minutes so they're not
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too long, and I'm going to have them numbered and so people can follow
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along. And the first one I just did this week was Terry's story and
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her book. Her story is about love and it's we meet in the space
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and time we created lifetimes ago, our knowing reflected in our eyes. From
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that moment, we create a story of love and beauty. In Spain and
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Portugal, I'm here, I'm waiting. I'm ready for this chapter to begin.
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My deepest gratitude. So her story is the first story in the book.
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And each week I'm going to be doing each person's postcard over again,
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photographing them again, and I'm going to be reading their stories. So you
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can find that on Instagram, TikTok and LinkedIn. I'm posting the videos there
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and YouTube. So okay, I just wanted to share all that with you
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guys, And now to bring out my guest, Jessica West. Jessica West
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was involved in a serious motor vehicle accident and had sustained several fractures, lacerations,
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and a traumatic brain injury. The paramedics and doctors did not expect her
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to survive. However, one by one, she had defied the limitations placed
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upon her. Despite being filled with the physical, emotional, and cognitive challenges,
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her healing journey offered great insight and perspective, leading her on a path
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of self discovery, personal development, and mindset work. Through it all,
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she learned to harness the power of the spirit, mind body connection, which
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empowered her to keep moving forward. And this is a quote from Jessica,
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I have a burning desire to share what I've learned through my journey with the
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world and to offer others the avenues to empower themselves to have a life worth
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living on their terms. I do this through sharing inspirational messages on my podcast
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and Hour from Within, with empowering interviews, and my coaching program. I
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share parts of my journey in my collaborative book, Manifesting with Purpose. I
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am passionate about helping others overcome their limitations, improve their self image, and
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begin living their most fulfilled life now. I was a guest on Jessica Show
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and Power from Within, and you can find that on all the podcasting platforms.
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It dropped on July twenty six, so for more about her, if
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you visit her website. I'm just gonna spell it for you while say it
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and then spell it. It's tress or tress or House dot ca. So
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that's www dot t r E s O R h O U s E dot
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c. A. Welcome, Jessica, thanks so much for being here with
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me today. Thanks so much for having me. Melissaiel great to be on
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this side of the interview chair. I know, right, That's how I
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felt when you did mine. See Jessica pre records her podcast and she also
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has video, which is cool. But since my show's live, we're you
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know, we're just doing the radio part. Yeah, so you can't see
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us. But I'm glad that you said. Yes, your story is pretty
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actually incredible. So in your own words, I'm just gonna let you share
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your story and how you ended up doing the work that you're doing today.
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Sure, thank you. It's quite a long story, so buckle up or
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feel free to interrupt my Melissa any, okay, pratherification, Well, I
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think I'll start my story like back in, which is young adulthood and growing
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up and just because I feel like it's so important and so many of us
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probably feel this way, where somewhere along the way we lost our sense of
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self worth, we lost our confidence, you know, in middle school year,
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in high school years, we just want to fit in and we can
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take some of the comments personally. And no matter how we grew up,
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you know, like we just keep we're being programmed. Basically as a child,
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our suponscious mind is being programmed, and so sometimes we adopted beliefs that
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are very hurtful, but we cantinue to kind of internalize them, and it
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was according absolutely, and so for much of my life that's how I felt.
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I did not feel confident, I did not feel worthy. I felt
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like I was wasting people's time. That I just thought that was the way
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it is, because it was a deep belief, and I thought, well,
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this is just life, this is what the experience is all about.
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Right. So anyways, I carried on with my life, and then in
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twenty fifteen, I ended up being in a severe car accident. I don't
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remember the accident itself. All I remember is being in a parking lot and
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about to turn home. And then the next thing I know, I woke
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up in the hospital to nurse squeezing my hand saying Jessica, Jessica, can
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you hear me. D're in the hospital. You're in a car accident.
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And then they told me all of the injuries that I had sustained. And
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so, like you said in Melissa, I had the several cuts in my
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face due to the shattered glass. I had broken my neck my provisy three
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areas, and it had a traumatic brain injury. And now with that injury,
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I was advised of a whole lot of limitations on my life, and
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so I was advised that I probably would never be able to live independently again,
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and so that I should consider putting my dog up for adoption because I
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was back independent at that point and I didn't have the mental function to be
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able to care for something else. That I probably wouldn't be able to go
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back to school to finish my post secondary education because I was been my third
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year of my Bachelor of Administration at that time, that I would never be
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able to go back to work. And then with all of that, I
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mean, of course, it's kind of like good luck with the social life,
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because I mean, with all of that, who would really want to
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stick around and maintain any sort of friendship. And so that's what I was
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faced with. But one day I remember and just sitting there in my hospital
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bed. Now I stayed in the hospital for a month and a half to
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be able to be on the recovery floor, and one day I was just
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looking at the window and I'm having that moment that we hear so often that
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people have when they're facing death. You know, that moment when they start
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thinking back because their life and regrets, wondering why the positionalances or why they
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didn't do that a way, he just didn't smile more, or eat the
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popboard or eat the cake. Whatever it was. Well, I was having
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that moment. It's not because my life was in a physical danger anymore,
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but because I says, I knew it seemed to be ending for me because
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I was back independent, and so I was reflecting back on my life,
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wondering, why did I take that chance? Why did you think I do
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that? Why didn't I say yes to this? But then something else happened.
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I didn't have any contradicting thoughts, and so those thoughts of well,
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you're not worth it, you're not good enough, but who do you think
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you are? You would never do that, those thoughts weren't even there anymore.
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And that left me feeling two ways. First, a little bit abandoned
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because there I was not knowing who I was anymore, feeling like I had
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lost my identity and the things that I had used to quotify myself, the
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things that I thought like I thought me and my thoughts who were one,
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you know, I thought the behind my back, And so I was just
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craving comfort, crazy to find myself, and those thoughts were like nowhere to
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be seen or heard and so then I felt angry. I felt angry because
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I could not believe that I had let so much of my life go,
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and I had let so much of those thoughts control the way that I responded
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to circumstances in my life and the chances that I took. Thanks so I
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made a promise to myself that no matter how I was going to recover,
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I was not going to let them hold so much weight in my life anymore.
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And that was my first AHA moment in my accident, that your thoughts
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are only as real as you make them. How long the pro I thinking
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that, I'm just yeah, that's true, that's true. How long after
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the accent were you starting to have these realizations like did you go through a
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long period of depression or anger or the like? Why mes you know that
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we do when something terrible happens, we do that? Why did this happen
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to me? Kind of thing? Were you sitting in that for a long
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time before you started to have these realizations or was it pretty quickly coming to
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you? Right? You know, this realization that I had in my hospital,
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in my hospital bed was quite early on. It was probably three weeks
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in. But to say that I had that mindset the whole time. No,
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that would be a lie, because yes, of course I had moments
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of being like, why me, why did this happen? I'm not supposed
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to be here like. There were ups and downs, like absolutely, and
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there were times that I felt, you know, almost about to give up
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and hopeless, but that thought put me true. I do have some memories
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of when I was in the coma. Now it's not like beautiful pictures or
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seeing anything really, but it was a significant enough memory for me that made
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me believe that, Wow, if that is what is waiting for me after
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this life, after this physical life, then I really don't have anything to
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leave. And so if I go out and want to chase my wildest dream
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and end up failing, that's okay. I cannot fail bad enough in this
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life to not return there. And it was a beautiful experience for me,
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and so I feel like it kind of granted me a freedom in this life,
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and I operated for the rest of my recovering. Any time I faced
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myself even to this day, with hard situations, I just remind myself that
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this is an experience and that in itself helps me, you know, overcome
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whatever kind of challenge that I'm facing and open up to other possibilities knowing that
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I can step away from them and I can look at what's going on objectively,
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realizing that it's an experience, but then I can make a better decision
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on how to move forward. Yeah, that was actually very powerful for experience
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for you to have to realize. And I can see how that could give
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you a sense of freedom, right, because we get so trapped in in
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our own brains and about our own thought process. And you said something early
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on. You're like, it starts to happen about you know when we're in
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middle school, you know, around that age is when we start to have
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all these self doubts and you know, we want to fit in and we
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take what everybody says so personally. And I know it's crazy because that is,
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like I think, exactly when it really happens. And I witness it
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with my niece who is now in eighth grade. But I noticed the change
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in her in sixth grade when she first entered middle school about her peers that
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she didn't have about She had so much self confidence about herself before that,
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and it was like I was witnessing it because now being on the other end
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of it and being aware of it as we are. You, me and
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the people like us who do this kind of in our work. We can
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see it right right away. We could see it in other people, and
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so it was like wild to see her go through this, which I know
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is normal. I was a young teenager trying to fit in about having all
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these worthiness issues, like am I good enough as my peers? It's crazy
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that that happens to us. Yeah, So when you said that, I
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was like, oh, yeah, I totally get it well absolutely, and
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especially like in those you know, all your friends they're comparing grades and then
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oh my gosh, you have to do gym class. Like gym class is
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the worst if you weren't an athlete, serious way. And so there's just
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so many things that were pinned up against our peers, and so we feel
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like we're not good enough. We feel like and we carry it into it
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time. We just keep seeing exactly on a repeat, Yeah, yeah,
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yeah, exactly. So we start to become aware of it, right,
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because it's all it's all awareness, Yeah, it's all awareness. And then
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once we become aware of it, then we can look at because you talk
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about manifesting also you're all big on the manifesting abundance also, so then we're
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aware of how we are self creating the situations, experiences, the things that
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are showing up in our life because of our own feelings of worthlessness. We
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feel we don't feel worthy of those things that we say we want, and
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God, I would say the majority of people have experienced that at least at
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some point in their life, right, I mean, so, do you
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feel like the accident, like I want to ask it the right way,
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Not that you're happy that it happened, obviously because you suffered a trauma,
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but do you feel like the accident was a catalyst for you shifting and changing
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everything about your mindset and who you were before it? I think so for
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sure. And yeah, so like I don't want to you know, it
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was a very difficult time, but I do believe in retrospect it was like
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a blessing in disguise because it did send me on a path of you know
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that I would have never imagined for myself before. Yeah, because we don't
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want to say, like, yeah, let's hope for an accident, because
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that's not what we want, Like you want to get all this before the
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accident happens to you, right, because I mean I can't even imagine,
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especially with the amount of physical trauma that you had to recover from, how
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long was the physical recovery for you from the date of the accident. So
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I was in like full time recovery for three years after the accident. And
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so by when I mean by full time, like I was back living with
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my mom, I was not working, and I was doing daily therapy for
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three years. Wow. Yeah, wow, that must have been So it
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wasn't a long time. Definitely, Well that must have been taken down.
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Have been a lot of courage for you and and and to talk to yourself
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to to recover. Like how did you talk to yourself and talk yourself through
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it? Because that's a long time, especially for a young person to be
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going through that. Mm. Yeah, you know, I I was.
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I was already a ray Key practitioner or level one prior to the accident,
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So I was kind of interested in energy work. I knew the power of
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you know, spirituality and like meditation and all of that journaling, and so
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I kept doing that throughout my recovery, and I started like youtubing mindset material
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and joining other like mindset. My launches were like whatever kind of master class,
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but I can get my hands on it. So I was like always
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educated myself. I was always journaling, I was always meditating. I spent
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a lot of time in nature because I was able to keep my dog and
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so I would take her out for like three hour walks and like, yes,
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I was recovering. So there was so pain involved, but it was
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like, you know, I really practiced mind over body, and I just
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kept going and made sure that I went out every day. I mean obviously
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because I needed to take the dog out, and even that, I feel
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like that was itself. I mean, animals are such a blessing in our
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life, but I'm like, oh my gosh, that was like a guardian
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angel for you know, to get me out of the house all the time.
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And so yeah, so I felt like those activities kind of helped me
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get through and helped me connect with who I knew I was. Who I
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felt like I had gotten a glimpse of who I was, like the bigger
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picture. And then she's holding the thought in my mind that like, your
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thoughts are only as real as you make them. And so when I would
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have like the negative thoughts or the doubts that I'd kind of just remind myself
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being like very mindful of what you're thinking. You're creating that and so think
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twice about it. M Yeah, animals are very very helpful and in your
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healing. So I'm glad you got to keep I'm glad you got to keep
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your dog. I'm sure that helps in your healing a lot, a lot,
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you know, just having a boy or girl or her it was a
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girl. I'm glad I'm having her because she could also fill your energy and
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probably wanted to help keep your spirits up right. They know when we're sad,
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they know when we're frustrated or angry or upset, So having her was
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probably such a gift when you were going through this. Did you have a
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a lot of outside support, because you said at one point when you were
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describing what happened, like, oh my god, thinking of your future,
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like who's gonna want to stick around for me now? You know, for
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friends and relationships and stuff. Did you have a lot of support on the
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outside. Yeah, you know what, I actually ended up having a lot
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of support, and I ended up keeping I mean, I moved back to
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my hometown until a lot of my friends from high school had moved away,
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but the ones that were still here we kept in contact, and so I
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was still able to hold the social life. I actually started my own group
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because I was vegan, and so I started my Ugly community year, and
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so I started hosting events myself. I mean had a great support team,
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like for my rehabilitation, I had and one in a small community, and
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so it was like everybody knew each other, everybody connected well together, and
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so I do feel like I had a really strong community support and that makes
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all of the difference. Oh my god, Yeah it does, it really
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does. That's good that you had that community support. We need it.
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We need it. That's why so many suffer, because if they feel and
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isolated and they don't have anybody, it makes it harder. Especially when you
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have something like you had to recover from. You need you need your people
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to surround you and help lift you up. Okay, So I'm looking at
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the clock and I just realized that we're almost coming to the halftime mark,
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and I want to talk about your book and your podcast and all the amazing
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things you're doing. So let's take our break here and then when we come
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back, we'll talk all about that. So guys stay tuned and we'll be
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I have author and podcaster Jessica West with me. So, Jessica, I
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was thinking you were talking about before the break your recovery process and how long
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it took and all the work that you were doing. So from when your
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body was healed enough, what was your next step? You did you move
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back into independent living and then and then I want to segue into like what
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inspired your podcast and what inspired your book? Yeah? Absolutely, yeah,
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So after the tree your recovery period, I did move on my own independently,
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brought my dog with me, and then I started full time work.
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Actually, no, sorry, I completed my bachelor So I finished that online.
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It's so thankful for technology that we can do that nowadays. Yeah,
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I feel I had completed it's great that we have. But once I completed
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my degree exactly, yeah, I was able to go back to work full
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time. It was a year contract, and so I thought to myself,
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you know what, if I can't handle it, that's fine. It's only
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one year. And so that's what I did. But my boyfriend was very
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much an entrepreneur at heart, and so I started brewing my own kombucha because
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you know, it's an ancient elixir, its fermented suits. I mean,
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I loved kombucha. I didn't find the flavors that I wanted locally, so
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I started brewing my own. And then my boyfriend was like, well,
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you know, you should just make a business out of it and start selling
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those. And eventually, you know, after hearing that for a little bit,
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I was, you know what, I mean, I could and so
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I started making my own I started selling at the farmer's market and so when
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my contract ended, I ended up going full time into my kombucha business.
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That in two years, I grew it to twenty four stores around as Ontario.
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Yeah, and it was amazing. And when during that time I was
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still I started enrolling in different mindset programs and really started falling in love with
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mindset material and just the thoughts that we think. Again relating to the Aha
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moment that I had in the hospitals, but I really want to be able
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to share this information with people. I came across information about self image,
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and this is when I want to go back to some of those beliefs that
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we hold of ourselves that are on repeat, but they make us feel unworthy.
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But the self image is the belief that we hold of ourselves, and
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we can't achieve anything greater than the belief that we hold of ourselves. And
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when I learned that, that was huge for me because I was like,
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WHOA, you know, we are creating our life based on the self image
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that we hold, and if we want to manifest anything, we need to
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start looking within first to figure out what do I believe to be true for
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myself? And so I kind of started going backwards. Yeah, so you
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have to. I think we all have to do that. I think when
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you start finding and start doing the art, you know, the digging,
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the internal digging, you're like, oh, I see, okay, now
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I need to go back. I need to see where this came from,
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why this belief is I hold this belief is what has shown up in my
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life because I've held this belief. I mean, that's why when I'm doing
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the Gratitude Workshop, the first week is worthiness and self because we have to
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build on that. You have to build on your worthiness, right, because
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like you said, you can only manifest at the level that you feel deserving
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of what it is you want. And if you feel like you don't deserve
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anything or you feel worthless inside, what is your life going to look like
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on the outside. So I totally get why you went back. Go ahead,
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So now sorry to interrupt, but I had to share that. Go
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ahead, No, absolutely, yeah, it's so it's on my favorite topic.
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So I went back looking at everything, looking at Okay, why was
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this happen in my life? Like where was it originating from? Realizing that,
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you know, it was myself, and and then I just wanted to
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do more. I wanted to know more, I wanted to share more with
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people, and so then I felt like naturally the business started to share.
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I no longer wanted to put as much effort in distributing the kombucha that I
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wanted to pull that so that I can share what I'm really passionate about which
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is sharing this information with others, and so I turned to an online model.
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So I now teach others to make kombucha themselves at home if they want
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to make the ancient elixtor themselves. And I'm a mindset coach, and so
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I enrolled in a coaching certification program and that is where I met my three
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amazing co authors and we decided to collaborate on our book, Manifesting Its Purpose.
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Yeah. Yeah, I saw your I saw your videot when I was
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going through, you know, preparing for the show, and I was looking
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at your website. I saw that you had a course for those who would
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be interested in making their own kombucha, and I thought, Oh, that's
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really cool for people that would like instead of just going out to purchase it,
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you can learn how to make it for yourself at home. And I
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thought, oh, what a really really good idea. But so I just
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wanted to mention that before we talk about the Manifesting with Purpose. So you
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met your co authors and you the four there's four of you, correct,
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four women who wrote it together, who sat down and wrote this together.
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Yes, yeah, So what like what did you guys like? How did
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you brainstorm the idea like where did you say, oh, we need to
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share our own life experiences? Like how did it? How did that come
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about? Yeah? It was Actually it was so easy to work together.
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It was great. So we were part of a Mastermind community to you guys,
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if we were all going to be coaches and sail we were all supporting
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each other through that. And then one day, as we were wrapping up
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the call, I just said, hey, ladies, would you ever like
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to write a book together? Because we each of us had a book within
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ourselves, like we started, you know, taking notes, we knew what
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it is that we wanted to say, but coming together to do it like
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for the first time, so we can really you know, get our toes
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into you know, the publishing industry, you know what it's all about,
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and we can learn it together and support one another through it. Like it
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was so perfect, and so we hopped on it right away. We said
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yes because in a week we had you know, booked appointment with different publishers
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to figure out who we wanted to go for. And so because we were
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all coaching a similar program, we all wanted to empower women using the power
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of their mind. And it was very easy to just ask one another,
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Okay, you know, what do you want to speak about? It was
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all parts of the program, everything that we've been through, but we each
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latched on to something different, which makes it so beautiful. And so our
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book is really like a mindset program in it, but each of us share
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what really hit home for us, and we did it in a way that
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when the reader read it, they're actually going through the process of manifestation.
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It might be a different chapter written by a different author, but it still
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follows each other in order. And I think that's so unique for a collaborative
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book. Yeah, no, that sounds really really interesting, And I know
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you have it laid out where people can follow along because you know, people
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here, oh, I've heard manifest You know, it's kind of a buzzword
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and law of attraction and all that stuff, and they don't really get it,
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like they don't really understand what it means. Like you think, oh,
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I say I want something and it magically just shows up. And yeah,
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if only it were that simple, right, you need like it's like
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a formula like anything else rights that you have to kind of start doing.
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It's like I compare it to when you work your body out right. You
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can't just say I want to be in shape and have tone muscles and not
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work out. You have to work out. You have to practice, and
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manifesting is a practice and the more you do it, the better you get
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at it. And people like you, for example, and your co authors
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who are coaches, and this is the work that you do. You have
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guide your readers on step by step how to implement a process that will work
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for them in their lives. Right, Yeah, absolutely, And Melissa,
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I'm so glad you talked about manifesting because and when I speak to others,
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I really love saying this point that you will only find the word of manifesting
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in our book on the title page and in the introduction. It is not
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written anywhere in our chapters. And that's because when we came to the point
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of writing our title and we all wanted to have man infestation in it,
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I you know, we needed to put the brakes on. I said,
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We'll hang on a second. None of us mentioned manifestation within our chapters.
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Yes, we're talking about it, but if we're going to call it title
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it manifestation, then we need to define it. So we define manifestation as
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bringing an idea intotysical reality. That's what it is on a simple term.
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And so I like to tell people all those are levels to manifestation. We
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are doing it already every day. People can think about making dinner, for
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example, you have an idea of what you want to eat on the screen
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of your mind, and then you perform the actions to cook dinner, and
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then dinner is served, and so that you manifested dinner. How many times
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do you do that in your life already? And so can you accept that
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you are already a manifestor? And if you accept that belief, then maybe
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you can manifest something bigger, not much easier by knowing that you're already doing
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it. Maybe it takes a little more effort, but it's possible for you,
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like everything else that you've manifested in your life. Right, yes,
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And we're doing it on the regular, whether we're aware of it or not.
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And that's why when I started with the postcards, I didn't know I
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wanted a book at first, Like I just like to have the postcards and
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I like to take pictures of them and share the stories. Like that's all
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I knew I wanted to do, right, I didn't know anything else beyond
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that, and then of course the seed was planted and things happen and no
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coincidences. Right as I'm actively doing this, what's happening. I'm meeting the
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right people, I'm finding the right information, So everything is taking me to
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my next step in what I'm doing now. Because I'm actively creating and you
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talk about the same thing. We're doing it on the regular, most of
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us in an unconscious way. And that's why a lot of the things that
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come into our life are things that we don't want. Because what happens when
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we're hit with something that's stressful, we obsess, we think about it,
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we go over it, we talk about it a million times. So what
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do you think we're doing. We're putting more of that out down so more
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of it comes back to us. So we're just saying, you're saying,
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I'm saying, let's shift that. Let's shift it focus changing your thoughts.
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Don't become so attached to your thoughts, which is what you originally started saying
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when we were first talking about how you became so aware of I am not
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my thoughts. And that's huge to get. I think that you got that
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so quickly after your accident. M Absolutely yeah. I mean that's one of
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the ways why I believe it's such a blessing. But let's talk about the
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brain for a moment too, because whatever we program in the brain, the
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brain just wants to prove itself right, right, But it's really thinking negative,
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negative, negative all the time. The brain's like, oh, okay,
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let me prove me right. Let me look for more are negatives in
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any environment around me? And then you're going to see that negative and be
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like, see the world negative. But it originates with the thought. And
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so knowing that we can program our brain, that subconscious mind to start looking
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for the things that we want, and it's already here, it's just that
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we aren't aware of it. And so once you tell your brain, you
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give your brain a command that you want something, it won't speak out opportunities
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and so nothing in your environment directly have to change. So there's no magic
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about this. But you will start to maybe listen to something, be like,
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hmm, I wonder if that can be an opportunity. Maybe I'll find
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out more about it, and then you just start going into areas that you
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would have never done before. Had to continued to think negatively and so you're
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just opening yourself up to other opportunities. I mean, that's why I love
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it. In manifestation, you know, we say you don't need to know
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how to tell us, just say what you want and allow yourself to be
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led. Yeah. I love that you said that. Your brain loves to
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be proven right, So once you have something in your mind, you look
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for it. And that was one of the reasons that I something that I
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discovered through photography, right, And that's why I wanted to use it in
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the Gratitude Workshop, is because I'm forcing people, forcing in a fun way,
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forcing people to use what we have in our hand every day to look
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for those things in your life that you're already grateful for. So what happens
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is you know that you're doing this, you know that you want you started
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this project, so during your day and whatever you're doing, you're going to
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start unconsciously looking for those things, and you're going to become more aware of
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those things already in your environment or where you see when you're out and about,
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and it shifts that energy of lack to abundance. So I love that
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you said that because that was one of the big has that I got that
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I wanted to include a visual component in the gratitude work that I'm doing.
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Yeah, and I love gratitude. There is actually a chapter in our book
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just about gratitude because it is so powerful when benefesting. I mean, it
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allows you to get into that high vibration, you know, and you attract
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what you're vibrating on, and so it just allows you know, almost like
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bypass everything if we just look for gratitude in our life. And I like
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to say, you know, one of the best things that I heard of
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gratitude before with the definition and they said, you know, gratitude is like
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realizing that everything that you have today you can just as easily not have tomorrow.
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And I just love it because how can we cannot find something then not
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to be grateful for, right And it could be like the simplest thing,
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like you know, a bottle of hand cream or something, but like what
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if you didn't have that moral When we start thinking about that, then we
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can tap into that frequency that much quicker. Yeah, And that's really what
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it is. We're all made up of energy and we're just looking for the
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ways to raise our energy so that we can live a more joyful and fulfilling
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life because that's recently what everybody wants, right, everybody wants joy and love
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in their life and validation. I mean that's really it's not that hard what
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we want. We make it a lot harder than it has to be,
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which brings me to you mentioned it earlier. You're talking about your worthiness.
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You have something that I saw on your website which I thought was really cool,
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and you call it a facelift, and it's that your self image is
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the belief you hold of you and that belief dictates your life experience. So
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you want to talk a little bit about your facelift that you put together because
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I thought, oh, what a good title for that. I really like
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that. Go ahead, I'll let you share about it. Yeah, absolutely,
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thank you. I'm glad you love the title. I thought it's so
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cheeky and fun. It is exactly. Yeah, So it's really about uplifting
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your self image. Like like just like you said, you know, we
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can only experience according to our self image, and so it's a program where
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I really allow people to hone into their current self image. And so we
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do a lot of self awareness practices. We start to uncover some of those
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limiting beliefs that we have on repeat, and we start challenging them because a
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lot of the limiting beliefs, if we actually take it down, like write
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it down pen to paper, we can probably ask like, well, is
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this true? But this sounds like a whole lot of nonsense, and then
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we can almost prove it faults ourselves and get ourselves out of that situation.
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No, it's not to say that the limiting beliefs is not going to be
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there anymore. It's just that we get better and better and better at being
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able to push past, you know, like those thoughts and the self doubts
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that we have. I don't think the goal is to ever get rid of
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them completely, because we can't because we're all human. But as you continue
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to push past them, to kind of tell that part of your brain like
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hush, hush, I'm taking it from here, then we can get better
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and better at just pushing past and continue to go to greater heights. And
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so that's really what the program is about. And we do a lot of
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like cultivating self acceptance because I really believe that, you know, we need
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to be able to accept where we're at, because if we don't accept it,
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we're holding resistance. And if we're holding a resistance that's a really like
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tough energy, nothing could really get through. We're closing ourselves off to other
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opportunities. And so we're leasing all of that. And so I really loved
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to play on word like face us with the spaw, presenting like it's really
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learning to relax into yourself like we all do at a slaw. Right,
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we're just relaxing, We're letting our worries go. Well, that's what we're
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doing. We're cultivating that relationship with ourselves, gaining that self awareness, and
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then we're starting to look at our self image and who we need to be
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to accomplish our desires. And so there is a manifestation component because we're creating
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our desires or the end version of ourselves that we need to be, and
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we're going to build the self image of that end version. Because if we're
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not that end version and we're continuing to be our current version with our current
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self image, well we're going to continue to get the results that we're getting
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right now. And so no chools above to happen. And so I help
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you create bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to
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go and it all happens with you and the inner works. Yeah, and
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it does. It does get easier the more you do it in the sense
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that, like you know, you'll see you'll yourself a lot quicker with the
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thoughts coming and you're like, oh, look there it is again. Oh
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yeah, that's interesting. You know that self doubt that comes up, or
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whatever negative thing you're telling yourself. You know, you catch yourself so much
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faster, which is really nice. So that does make it easier to move
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through it. And it's interesting to what you said about resistance. I learned
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the hard way, which most of us do, that when you resist something
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that is and whatever you're going through, whether it's a painful experience, and
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you know, resisting whatever happened or is happening, you're adding so much more
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stress and pain on yourself because you can't change certain things that have already happened
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that are painful, right, but we resist them. But if you can
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go into it and accept it, that helps you so much better on your
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healing journey, whatever you're healing, whether it's physical or emotional. So it's
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interesting that you said that about resistance because we are blocking the other things from
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coming in when we're being resistant, which I really, I really believe and
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I know you do too. Oh my lord, I can't believe how fastest
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time is going by. I didn't even get a chance to talk about your
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podcasts, which I was on. Thank you so much for having me so
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share a little bit about your empower from within podcasts and what made you want
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to continue with your work through the podcasting. Yes, thank you, Yes,
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Oh my gosh. I love the podcast. I'm having so much fun
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with it. So I just launched it on January fourth of this year,
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and every Wednesday, I come out with another episode where I interviewed an amazing
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person such as yourself. Well, let's say, to share their stories,
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their personal story and what they're doing in their life because they're inspiring people and
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really encouraging people to live the life that they want. And it's just really
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to share inspiring messages. I interviewed all three of my co authors in their
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earlier episodes two if you're curious about hearing more of the book as well,
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and I recently introduced a series of inner Work because I really want to share
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more inner work practices and so this is topics of like body code, energy
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work, you know, breathing breathwork techniques. There. We also talked about
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the seventy five Hard Challenge, because that is really it's a spiritual challenge.
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It's just not only physical. There's a big spiritual component, which is pretty
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awesome. And so I'd like to share ways that people could start doing the
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inner work because everything begins within and then we can really start empowering ourselves.
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And I think by hearing people's stories, I mean, we relate so much
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more to stories, and you know, I'm hoping that whoever listens, because
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no matter where they're at, you know, they can hear someone and be
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like, well, if it's possible for them, maybe it's possible for me.
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And that's really the be intense with it, just to help people start
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empowering themselves so that they can live the life that they want, because I
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mean, I really believe we're all here to live that life. We're all
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deserving of that life, and you need to achieve it. Yeah, I
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agree with you one hundred percent. And that's the reason that I wanted to
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do my show. Our shows are similarizes that we interview people doing this kind
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of work because I like to introduce people to people like you and some of
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the other guests that I have on, because there's always going to be somebody
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that's going to resonate with the message from a certain guest. We may all
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be saying the same things, but we're saying them from our different you know,
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experiences, and our different backgrounds and our different perspectives. So somebody may
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resonate with me on one way, but somebody else may not. They'll resonate
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with what you're doing, you know. So that's why I love doing my
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show and having people like you on talking about what you're doing, and I
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know that's you do a similar a similar style. You interview your guests who
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are doing different things. So it's really cool. And the more of it
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the better, right, I believe the more good stuff we put out there,
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the better. Yeah, until I totally agree, everything's going to resonate
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with people differently you and even if you keep hearing the same thing. That's
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what I felt like getting into personal development work. A lot of it is
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the same thing, but it's told in a different way, and so one
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of those are going to click for you, but maybe all of them.
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You know. I experienced that where I'm like Oh, I've been told this
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for my past three mentors, but it never actually clicked untill now. And
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so sometimes it's just the way that someone says something or you feel that they
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can really relate to your story, like they really get me, and then
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it really starts thinking in I mean, I see it's all as like you
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know, all light workers just working towards healing the world. Yeah, and
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it's an inside job, right, You just got to start from within.
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You can't you can't heal anything on the outside if you're if you're all sick
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and sad and you know, negative inside, because you're going to bleed all
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over everybody else. That's why I don't know who originally said it, but
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that's saying hurt people. Hurt people because they're hurting inside and right, so
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we want healthy people. We want to be healthy inside so that we can
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help facilitate whatever message we're saying to other others, so that they can heal
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themselves, so the world will be a better place for everybody. I think
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so absolutely. And that's why you're like ahead, that's why you feel like
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the power of self image is so important, because just like they're saying,
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hurt people will hurt people. And so when we keep that concept of like,
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everybody's operating within their own self image, so we don't necessarily have to
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take things so personally, right, like if someone dies it's wrong, then
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we could just be like, but that is really an internal struggle, struggle
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of person and I don't really need to let that affect I don't need to
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take it so personally if someone makes like a rude comment or something, because
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often it's not about us, it's about something internal going on within them exactly.
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So Jessica, tell people the best way to find you to connect with
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YouTube. Thank you so much, it was such a pleasure having you and
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speaking with you today. Thank you. Okay, everybody please check her out
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that dropped. All right, everybody, I'll see you next week and thank
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you for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the life you crave,
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and I'm wishing everyone a wonderful week filled with joy, abundance and love. Peace,