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It’s Officially Millie Bonnie Bongiovi Now….  Did You Change Your Last Name? · I Do, Part 2

• 0:02
  Speaker 1: Hey, that folks. It is Friday, December fifth, and should
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: a woman take her new husband's last name? Or should
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: I say it this way? It should the new husband
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  Speaker 1: give it to her? And with that, welcome to this
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: episode of Amy and TJ. Y'all should see her eyes
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: right now. That was just to be provocative. Let's get
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  Speaker 1: on track here. This is about Millie. Bobby Brown started
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: a conversation the actions from stranger things. Of course, she
• 0:32
  Speaker 1: has changed her name, A woman that famous changing her
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  Speaker 1: name at twenty one, and it got people talking. It's
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  Speaker 1: an age old debate, is it not?
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  Speaker 2: It has been in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, where has do you think, let's say, let's say
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  Speaker 1: your lifetime. Has the conversationation shifted and the mindset shifted
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  Speaker 1: because it used to be just an automatic. Yes, of
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  Speaker 1: course it's gonna take the man's last the man's last name.
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  Speaker 3: But what is it now in this country? I don't
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  Speaker 3: think so, and I don't think it's changed that much.
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  Speaker 3: I was shocked by today's as in twenty twenty five. Actually,
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  Speaker 3: the recent the most recent Pew Research survey is from
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  Speaker 3: twenty twenty three, and I was surprised. Now, I grew
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  Speaker 3: up in the Midwest and the South. I live in
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  Speaker 3: the Northeast. Yeah, I've had very different experiences based on
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  Speaker 3: where I have lived, not necessarily the years in which
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  Speaker 3: I made different decisions, but where I was living in
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  Speaker 3: the country definitely had an impact on how it was received.
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  Speaker 1: And nobody has to ask which was which right at
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  Speaker 1: this point, but this, this isn't interesting. I found this
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  Speaker 1: story interesting in the whole bunch of ways. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: Millie Bobby Brown just got married to John bon Jovi's son.
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  Speaker 1: What's his first name, Jake Bonjo Jake bon Jovi, And
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  Speaker 1: she just came out recently and incorrect An interviewer said, nope,
• 2:01
  Speaker 1: actually my name is not Millie Bobby Brown anymore, and
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  Speaker 1: she corrected and said what her name is? And tongues
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  Speaker 1: are wagging. Why should we be surprised by this or
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  Speaker 1: impressed by this, or intrigued by this, or applauding this
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  Speaker 1: or disagreeing with it? What is the big deal?
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  Speaker 3: Well, when it comes to Millie Bobby Brown, there are
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  Speaker 3: a couple of things. First of all, obviously she is
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  Speaker 3: an established actress who established her name early on. She
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  Speaker 3: is a child actor basically because now she is I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it's surprising. As long as we've known her and we've
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  Speaker 3: been watching her, she's only twenty one, and she's already
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  Speaker 3: a mom.
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  Speaker 2: She's married, she's a mom.
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  Speaker 3: This isn't something we are used to seeing in the Northeast.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be honest.
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  Speaker 3: In the New Jersey. His family's from New Jersey. They
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  Speaker 3: live in the Northeast. This is something you see in
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  Speaker 3: the Midwest.
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  Speaker 2: In the South.
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  Speaker 1: Twenty one married child, take my husband's last name. This
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  Speaker 1: is not a story unheard of from the places we're from.
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  Speaker 3: Correct, And I will go so far as to say,
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  Speaker 3: specifically my family, my brother got married at twenty two,
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  Speaker 3: His wife was twenty one. My parents got married at eighteen.
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  Speaker 3: I got married at twenty three, and that was all
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  Speaker 3: very common. Again from originally, my whole family is from Michigan.
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  Speaker 3: We lived in Missouri for a while, and then from Georgia,
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  Speaker 3: and none of that raised any eyebrows by anyone in
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  Speaker 3: any of those areas we lived in. I will say
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  Speaker 3: I was and remain the only person that I know
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  Speaker 3: from any of those areas, including my family, who did
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  Speaker 3: not change her last name.
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  Speaker 2: I am the black sheep, I'm the outlier.
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  Speaker 3: I am the person who did something different than everyone else.
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  Speaker 1: I know in love you're in a particular business and
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  Speaker 1: where that would not necessarily that that's normal.
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  Speaker 3: But I did and made those decisions before any of that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, one thing I'm going to ask you about that,
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  Speaker 1: But one thing about Millie Bobby Brown. Do we know
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  Speaker 1: for sure she might still use it? Didn't seem like
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  Speaker 1: it to me. Still use Millie Bobby Brown professionally or
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  Speaker 1: quite frankly, does it matter. She's a big enough name.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody knows who the hell she is and who she's
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  Speaker 1: married to.
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  Speaker 3: Now we don't know what's going to happen going forward,
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  Speaker 3: but I can tell you exactly what happened on that
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  Speaker 3: red carpet.
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  Speaker 2: This is really interesting.
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  Speaker 3: So she was on a red carpet for the fifth
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  Speaker 3: season of the Netflix series of course this. You know,
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  Speaker 3: we all know what she's famous for, the up what
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  Speaker 3: is it? The upside down world, the stranger things that
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  Speaker 3: I know. But she's she was eleven l in this series.
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  Speaker 3: It's a piece the start, yes, from the very beginning.
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  Speaker 3: And so when she was called out on the red carpet,
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  Speaker 3: her co star Noah Schnapp you know who that is.
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  Speaker 3: So he actually made a joke to the person who
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  Speaker 3: was interviewing her, saying, hey, by the way, you should
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  Speaker 3: call her by her full name. I'm up to date
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  Speaker 3: on it. And he said, it's Milly Bonnie Bobby Brown,
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  Speaker 3: bon Jovi. He was joking, right, So she had some
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  Speaker 3: fun with him and said, actually, drop the Bobby, drop
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  Speaker 3: the Brown, and she said, it's just Milli Bonnie bon Jovi.
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  Speaker 3: And then she said, you can actually call me Milli
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  Speaker 3: bonbon which I thought was pretty cute because.
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  Speaker 2: What I didn't work. Yeah, it's Millie Bonbon.
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  Speaker 3: What I didn't realize, and I don't know a lot
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  Speaker 3: of people were aware of this, but her middle name
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  Speaker 3: actually isn't Bobby, It's Bonnie.
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  Speaker 1: She said.
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  Speaker 3: She just decided when she walked into this, and a
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  Speaker 3: lot of actresses do this, a lot of folks, and
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  Speaker 3: a lot of women specifically, but even men, when they
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  Speaker 3: go into a public place or of public prominence, they
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  Speaker 3: what if their name is complic You went for TJ
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  Speaker 3: instead of Lutelius, right, so you know a little bit
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  Speaker 3: about changing your name for public ease. So instead of
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  Speaker 3: being Millie Bonnie Brown, she thought, she just said, she
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  Speaker 3: thought it'd be fun to call herself Millie Bobby Brown.
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  Speaker 3: So she changed her name for whatever reason when she
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  Speaker 3: went into showbiz, but her actual name is Millie Bonnie,
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  Speaker 3: and so now she wants to beilt Millie Bonnie bon Jovi,
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  Speaker 3: Millie Bonbon.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that works for me. I got no problem.
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  Speaker 3: So what is.
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  Speaker 1: The This is always a debate and always make the
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  Speaker 1: same joke. I think you hate it. You heard me
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  Speaker 1: say it like a hundred times. When people asks ask
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  Speaker 1: if somebody's going to take their husband's last name, say no,
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  Speaker 1: we give it to you. You don't take it. This
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  Speaker 1: is a joke. It never lands. Usually most women usually
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  Speaker 1: have the same.
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  Speaker 2: Look on the Oh god, no, I actually swallowed you
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  Speaker 2: have that you That was uncomfortable for me.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't like that at all.
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  Speaker 2: I've said this twenty times and I've never liked it.
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  Speaker 1: Like twenty times you've said it. It doesn't to it,
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't work. It goes in the same vein of
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  Speaker 1: this ridiculous debate. Knock yourself out. If you want to
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  Speaker 1: be called by your husband's last name, do it. If
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  Speaker 1: you don't, don't, Why is that not the end of
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  Speaker 1: the debate. I'm not offended about you or anybody else.
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  Speaker 1: You don't want you? Is a guy offended?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, some men are. The answer is yes, go and
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  Speaker 2: I can tell you that.
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  Speaker 3: Look, I cannot explain why I felt the way I did,
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  Speaker 3: but I think it was around eleven. I was living
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  Speaker 3: in Saint Louis, and I think that's when it first
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  Speaker 3: dawned on me that women typically in this country specifically,
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  Speaker 3: And we'll get into that because it's very interesting globally
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  Speaker 3: how different cultures in different countries address this issue. But
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  Speaker 3: I think it first dawned on me that, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: And I was a young girl who was so excited
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  Speaker 3: and swept up in romance, wanted to get married, but
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  Speaker 3: suddenly the idea of changing my last.
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  Speaker 2: Name really jarred me.
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  Speaker 3: And it was right around eleven years old, and I
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  Speaker 3: remember I walked downstairs and I said, just so you
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  Speaker 3: guys know, I'm never changing my last name, and they
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  Speaker 3: laughed at me and they're like okay, and I just
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I felt impassioned by it. I was like,
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  Speaker 3: this is who I am, this is how I'm regarded,
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  Speaker 3: this is how I think of myself. And it seemed
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  Speaker 3: strange to me to lose a part of who I was,
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  Speaker 3: to take on something that I wasn't yet and didn't
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  Speaker 3: know that I wanted to become.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. It's weird.
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  Speaker 3: I can't really explain it. But I felt strongly about it,
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  Speaker 3: and I was the outlier.
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  Speaker 1: But that's fine. You do you everybody else.
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  Speaker 2: It's not fine with everybody.
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  Speaker 1: Though, but it's fine, of course it is. Why does
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  Speaker 1: anybody have a problem with what your individual choice is?
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  Speaker 1: Why do you have a problem with anybody else's You
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  Speaker 1: don't knock yourselves out? Who cares do it or don't
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  Speaker 1: do it? I just I don't know why criticism of
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  Speaker 1: anyone for doing it or not doing it. A guy
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  Speaker 1: being upset at a woman not wanting to call She's
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  Speaker 1: had a name for thirty two years of her life,
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  Speaker 1: and now she's gonna marry you, and you're upset she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want it now. I like the idea of it.
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  Speaker 1: I like the idea of a family unit. I that part. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm all for it. I wow, we're gonna get mad.
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  Speaker 1: Who's mad on either side?
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  Speaker 2: You're a progressive man? God upset?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, there are certain.
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  Speaker 3: Expectations I think, especially in this country, that a woman
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  Speaker 3: would take her husband's name. Now, let me ask you this.
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  Speaker 3: You've been married before, has any woman not taken your
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  Speaker 3: last name? No? Okay, so when we get married, if
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  Speaker 3: I do not take your last name. It sounds like
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  Speaker 3: you're not going to be upset.
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  Speaker 1: Now and the least. But what am I supposed say?
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  Speaker 2: Do you have any expectation? Would you like it? I
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  Speaker 2: would you like it? If I changed my last name?
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  Speaker 1: It would be fun. Oh it would be a blast.
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  Speaker 1: Oh god, it would be fucking incredible. Oh yes, god, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: why would you like it? I'm curious because of what
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  Speaker 1: I just described. You're a home. You're a unit, right.
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  Speaker 1: We we buy houses, we buy cars, all right, these
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  Speaker 1: things we purchased, now I have two different last names
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  Speaker 1: on them. Okay, that's fine, people do it. But yes,
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  Speaker 1: there's something about that that feels like a unit.
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  Speaker 2: I like the idea of it too, like one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 1: I am with you.
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  Speaker 2: I get it. We're a unit.
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  Speaker 3: And there are countries who actually demand it. Among them Japan,
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  Speaker 3: where you have to if you are married, you have
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  Speaker 3: to have the same last name. Now, it doesn't have
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  Speaker 3: to be the man's last name. It almost always is.
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  Speaker 3: But you could take yep, you could take the females Last.
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  Speaker 1: Week would you want me to do that? Uh huh,
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  Speaker 1: here we go.
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  Speaker 3: I would never ask you to, you know I would
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  Speaker 3: want me to. If I know, I wouldn't why you
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't what I wouldn't want you to?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, if I said, I just want to make this gesture,
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  Speaker 1: I think it would be nice we have the same.
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  Speaker 3: You would you know, so I can actually tell you
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  Speaker 3: what my idea would be. Let's hyphenate or let's drop
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  Speaker 3: our middle names. You don't even have a middle name,
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  Speaker 3: so let's figure out something that's us together. I would
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  Speaker 3: be willing to do that. I like the idea of that.
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  Speaker 3: I know it's complicated. I know it's much simpler for
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  Speaker 3: one person to say, fine, let's just take your last name.
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  Speaker 3: I get it.
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  Speaker 1: But you, little miss, I don't want to change my
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  Speaker 1: last name since I was eleven. The guy is coming
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  Speaker 1: to you and saying, hey, I will change my last name.
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  Speaker 1: I would like to, and your response to me is what.
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  Speaker 3: I for the same reasons that I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: change my last name, I wouldn't want to place that
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  Speaker 3: expectation on you. But you're not.
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  Speaker 1: You're not okay.
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  Speaker 2: You told me you want to Yes, for.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever reason, I don't like it because now it feels
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  Speaker 4: like I'm responsible. It's funny like I've never thought about that.
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  Speaker 4: I've never even asked, And I'm just being honest. It
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  Speaker 4: feels what strange? Okay, why it feels strange?
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  Speaker 1: Man?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, because I would. My question would be why would
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  Speaker 2: you want?
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  Speaker 1: Because I want our family to be one name unit.
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  Speaker 2: We're not having kids together, so that's even stranger to me.
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  Speaker 1: We don't know that.
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  Speaker 3: I can pretty much assure you. Other than adoption. I
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  Speaker 3: can't imagine how it would be possible. But the point
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  Speaker 3: being is I fine, that's my own.
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  Speaker 2: Sciat all.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know imprinting where I somehow think that feels
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  Speaker 3: strange and I would never not only I would never
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  Speaker 3: expect it, but I wouldn't ask it, and I don't
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  Speaker 3: think I would want it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm being honest. I don't think I would want it.
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  Speaker 2: To change names, that is my preference.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, how about this, then, sweetheart, would you change your
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: last name once we get married.
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  Speaker 3: I would be open to the idea of hyphenating my name,
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  Speaker 3: but I would not lose Roeboch.
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  Speaker 2: I would not.
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  Speaker 3: It's just been with me. It's part of who I am.
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  Speaker 3: It's part of my family, and I understand that's on
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  Speaker 3: my dad's side. I understand my mom's maiden name of
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  Speaker 3: Stoffel is not a part of my name at all,
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  Speaker 3: and I do think that's sad too. But at the
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  Speaker 3: end of the day, I wouldn't lose roboch. No.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't be willing.
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  Speaker 3: I would be willing to lose my middle name, mostly
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  Speaker 3: because I just don't really like it that much, but
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't be willing to lose my last name.
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  Speaker 2: Would you be willing to give up your last.
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  Speaker 1: Name already just established?
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  Speaker 3: But you were saying it in a hypothetical scenario, like
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  Speaker 3: genuinely you would say, Okay, I will drop.
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  Speaker 2: Holmes from my name.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my goodness, Why haven't you then if it
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  Speaker 3: wasn't drop name and changed what to whoever your wife's
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  Speaker 3: last name?
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  Speaker 1: Was it up?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: This first time I've had such a discussion.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously, it's not typical or normal.
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  Speaker 3: In fact, I do believe I have the percentages on that,
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  Speaker 3: and it was actually more than I thought. I want
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  Speaker 3: to get it right, Okay, this is so funny. I
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  Speaker 3: believe it is five percent of men, which was more.
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  Speaker 2: Than I thought.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, I want to make sure I could this right,
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  Speaker 3: and like one percent hyphenate, but less than five percent
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  Speaker 3: have actually changed their name.
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  Speaker 2: And that was a higher percentage than I thought.
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  Speaker 1: I thought there'd be a higher percentage of hyphenation.
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  Speaker 3: It was only one percent hyphenated men only like women. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: much higher. Well, actually, this is kind of insane. Only
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  Speaker 3: fourteen percent of women in this latest Pew Research Center
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  Speaker 3: survey kept their maiden name in the United States, so
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  Speaker 3: I am in the vast minority. And five percent chose
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  Speaker 3: to hyphenate. So we're going to go with about twenty
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  Speaker 3: percent of women in this country currently kept either their
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: own last name or hyphenated their last name. But eighty
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  Speaker 3: percent of women have changed their name to their husband's name,
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  Speaker 3: so it is a huge majority of women in this
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  Speaker 3: country have chosen to do it. I didn't realize that
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  Speaker 3: I was in such a minority. I knew I was
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  Speaker 3: in a minority. I didn't realize it was that significant. No,
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't trying to be actually not even at all.
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  Speaker 3: The only thing I will say is, given my history
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  Speaker 3: in marriage, it actually created a lot less headaches. I
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: didn't have to go to the DMV as often, but
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  Speaker 3: for me was more of a It was just something
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  Speaker 3: that was inside of me. It wasn't something I read
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  Speaker 3: or something I wanted to some thing I wanted to
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: like put out there, or some line in the sand
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to draw.
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  Speaker 2: It was just a personal preference. So that is interesting.
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  Speaker 3: And anyway, it turns out that yes, in this country,
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: most women keep their last names. But do you know
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: who is most likely to keep their last names? We
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  Speaker 3: have that information for you. Pretty interesting and the history
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  Speaker 3: behind taking your husband's name. Welcome back everyone. We are,
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  Speaker 3: of course talking about Millie Bobby Brown. I guess now
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  Speaker 3: she will be known as Millie Bonnie bon Jovi. And
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  Speaker 3: she's at twenty one, married to Jake bon Jovi, of
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: course John bon Jovi's son. They just welcome to child
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  Speaker 3: into their lives. And she made it known to everyone
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  Speaker 3: that she is changing her last name. Actually maybe uncommon
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  Speaker 3: when we think about Hollywood starlet's or women who have
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  Speaker 3: made a name for themselves in entertainment, but she joins
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  Speaker 3: the vast majority of American women eighty percent of women
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  Speaker 3: who take their husband's last name after marriage. Now can
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: you imagine I'm just curious, babe, because you didn't look
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  Speaker 3: at these statistics, who is most likely to keep their
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  Speaker 3: last name in this country? Can you think of like
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: if you were to describe a woman, who would be
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  Speaker 3: the woman who would keep her last name? Younger versus yes,
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  Speaker 3: all of that age younger versus older younger Obviously, twenty
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  Speaker 3: percent of married women ages eighteen to forty nine say
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  Speaker 3: they kept their last name, compared with just nine percent
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  Speaker 3: of women who are ages fifty and older.
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  Speaker 2: That makes sense. How about education? What would you think.
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  Speaker 1: Higher percentage of lower educated?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so twenty six percent of women with a postgraduate
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: degree kept their last name. Thirteen percent of those with
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: a bachelor's degree or less took their husband's last name.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: So, yes, you are correct. How about Republicans versus Democrats?
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: This is Republican.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Yes, a pretty big distinction.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Yes, Democratic women are the most likely to say twenty
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: five percent of them say they kept their last name.
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: Just seven percent of Republican women said they kept their
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: last wame.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Why are they so obvious about us?
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: I don't know, it is obvious.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not so smart or anything, but.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: It was obvious.
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: How about this? Among can you? Can you get this?
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: One might throw you?
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: What and well, any of the above, any race that
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: you can think of, Hispanic, Asian, white, Black, Yes.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, my goodness, the highest percent, My goodness, what was
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: the black as.
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: The highest Hispanic women.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Thirty percent of Hispanic women say they kept their last name, oh,
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: compared to just ten percent of white women and nine
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: percent of Black women. So Hispanic women are far more likely.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: And by the way, black women are more likely than
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: any other race to hyphenate their name with their spouse's name.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I thought that was.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: Interesting as well, and I think most of us know
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: the history behind taking a man's name, and I don't
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: even think this played into any of my decisions. But obviously,
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: at some point in our lives, English common law women
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: didn't have rights. We couldn't vote, we couldn't own property,
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: and so yes, we had to join one family from
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: the other. So we left our father and we had
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: to then join our husband, and that is how we
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: had any right.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: It was through our husbands.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: That was who we had authority through, and therefore we
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: took their last name to have some sort of legal
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: standing or some sort of legal right.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: And so that was the history behind it.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Although that's not necessarily why women make the decisions they make.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: But I thought this was interesting.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: Did you know that in Spain and in Latin America,
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: women traditionally keep their maiden names and children are given
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: both of their parents' surnames.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: I did not know that. H that reads that works okay.
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: Also, interestingly, in China and Korea, women typically keep their
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: last names even after marriage. But in all this idea
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: of like, oh, women aren't property and we aren't owned
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: by our husbands, I thought this was one of the
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: most interesting facts that I found just researching this Middle
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: Eastern and Muslim countries. It is the custom for women
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: to keep their names after marriage. They are not taking
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: their husband's name, and so in these cultures that we
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: might assign this idea that somehow women are the property
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: of men, they don't have rights. Those are actually the
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: countries where women keep their last names, so obviously to
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: each his own. I've never ever felt any way about
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: a woman who chooses to change their last name. I
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: think that's awesome. I think I kind of wished I
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: wanted to and leaned into it. I just I've never
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: not only have I not felt the desire, I just
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: I don't know I felt vocal about it. Maybe that
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: was off putting. I'm not sure, but I appreciate the
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: fact that you're cool either way. And I actually haven't
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: even made a decision about what we will do when
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: we get married, but I'm kind of open to at
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: this point in my life. I do like the idea
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: of unity. I do think that's cool.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: All right, got to rethink this thing now, so funks.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: As always, we appreciate you spending some time with us
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: on behalf of my dear amy always Robock, I'm Lutilius Robock. Potentially,
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: we'll talk to y'all soon.