Latest / Cumberland Trace Church of Christ (Formerly Lehman Ave Church of Christ) / "Four Ways God Wants Women to Lead Today" by Neal Pollard
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- 0:00If you didn't have a worshipful mindset when you came in here, having Kaysen beaming that
- 0:07wonderful smile had to have engaged your heart with God in worship today.
- 0:12Appreciate Kaysen, not only the fine way in which he led singing, but that disposition
- 0:17that set the tone and example for us.
- 0:21There are a lot of women in the book of Judges, and when you begin to examine that, you find
- 0:26so many different personality traits, strengths and weaknesses among them.
- 0:31When you begin to think about them, maybe you'll first come across Aksa.
- 0:35Aksa is maybe not a name that comes off your mental faculties when you come to the book
- 0:41of Judges, but this was the daughter of Caleb, which was also the wife of Othniel.
- 0:47Caleb was the faithful spy, along with Joshua, who believed that they were well able to overcome.
- 0:54Othniel was the first judge in the period of the Judges.
- 0:59Aksa seemed to have such an influence on her father and on her brother.
- 1:05Then we read about a somewhat enigmatic or obscure woman by the name of J.L., and J.L.
- 1:11was living in Israel in the days in which the Canaanites were oppressing, and Sisera
- 1:16was the fearsome leader of the army, the general of the Canaanite army, who had put Israel
- 1:22to oppression and had had them frightened and intimidated for twenty years, and she
- 1:28killed him.
- 1:30We think of Jephthah's daughter.
- 1:32Jephthah's daughter is a somewhat enigmatic character herself.
- 1:37We know very little, but she seemed to have an unwavering trust and faith in God.
- 1:42She was the daughter of a man who led Israel as judge and who made a rash vow, and she
- 1:46paid the price, and yet she never seems to waver in her faith.
- 1:53Then there are the Philistine wives of Samson, and we could describe them as self-serving
- 1:57and manipulative women who were doing all that they could for their own survival, and
- 2:02they did not care how it affected their husband.
- 2:07There is the Levite's concubine.
- 2:10Near the end of the book of Judges, in Judges chapter 17 through 21, she's a morally ambiguous
- 2:15woman, and yet she is more abused than any other woman in Scripture, and her death was
- 2:21the cause of a civil war in Israel.
- 2:25When we think about the women that we read about in the book of Judges, not all of them
- 2:29are names that we have preserved for us.
- 2:32I don't know who the woman was who was there in that tower when Abimelech, who had stolen
- 2:39the role of deliverer and judge, was a wicked man.
- 2:42And as he stood at the wall, at the base of the wall, she drops a millstone and takes
- 2:49his life.
- 2:50And then we think about Manoah's wife, Samson's mother, and while we don't have her name,
- 2:57she is central to the success of the Nazarite vow, and the belief when the angel of the
- 3:01Lord comes, encourages her husband by her faith.
- 3:08There are those who are in the period of the Judges who do not have their lives recorded
- 3:12for us in that book, but are in that same time frame.
- 3:16I'm thinking about Ruth and Naomi and Hannah.
- 3:21Here are women who had an implicit trust and faith in God.
- 3:26When we step back and we survey that over 300 years of that period of history known
- 3:32as the period of the Judges, there were women who were good and bad, who were righteous
- 3:37and unrighteous, some who were passive and active, just like their male counterparts
- 3:43during that same period of time.
- 3:47When we read in Judges chapter 4 and verse 1, there is a very simple statement that reveals
- 3:53a lot more.
- 3:55Four words, when Ehud was dead, seem to spell the difference between faithfulness and idolatry
- 4:03in the nation.
- 4:04It's incredible that with the death of this man, there was such a monumental change in
- 4:09things.
- 4:10And it makes us ask, why are people faithful to God?
- 4:14Fear is not enough, and following a person is not enough.
- 4:19And so when we read in Judges chapter 4, the Canaanites are oppressing the people of God,
- 4:24and through the work of the Canaanites, they are fearfully oppressed and they cry out to
- 4:29God for deliverance.
- 4:30It takes them seemingly two decades to understand that this is a divine punishment, and they
- 4:35call out for God to help them.
- 4:38There's a phrase that appears in the book of Judges six times, that is, that the children
- 4:44of Israel did evil again in the sight of the Lord.
- 4:47And every time that this statement is made, we find them moving further and further away
- 4:52from God.
- 4:53Walk through the book of Judges, and you'll see that a departure is made that's worse.
- 4:57Go back to Judges chapter 2, and it says that God raises a deliverer, but then they
- 5:01go further away from God.
- 5:04God, in the midst of all of that, raises up a deliverer or a judge to help the people
- 5:10in His mercy and His grace.
- 5:11He wants them back to Him, and so He'll send these deliverers, and they are of a diverse
- 5:16nature and character, but none catch our attention more, given all that we know in the totality
- 5:24of Scripture, than the fourth judge of Israel.
- 5:28Revealed for us in Judges chapter 4, and we're talking about Deborah.
- 5:34Deborah had a husband.
- 5:35Did you know that?
- 5:36Do you know his name?
- 5:37Deborah's husband's name is Lapidoth, and all we know about Lapidoth is that he is Deborah's
- 5:44husband.
- 5:45Men, would you be satisfied if the only thing that history ever preserved about you was
- 5:51that you were the husband of your wife, whom history knew much better than you?
- 5:59It happens that, on occasion, that I'm out and about, and somebody comes up to me, and
- 6:03they say, hey, you're Kathy's husband.
- 6:05I don't know how that would hit you.
- 6:07I'm proud.
- 6:08Kathy's about the best thing about me that I have going on.
- 6:11When you think about the fact that God uses men and women in such powerful ways, we realize
- 6:18that God is at play in the life of Deborah to deliver them.
- 6:23Deborah, again, was the fourth judge, and she was a prophetess.
- 6:28When we think about how God uses women in the Old Testament, she joins the ranks of
- 6:32some who did great things.
- 6:35She joins Miriam, the sister of Moses, who led Israel's women in song after their victory
- 6:42in coming through the Red Sea in Exodus chapter 15, all the way to Huldah in 1 Kings chapter
- 6:4722 and verse 14, who the Bible also calls a prophetess.
- 6:52God is using the lives of these women for the better, for the good of the nation, for
- 6:57the world to see.
- 7:00And then later, when there is a king on the throne in Israel, an earthly king, and then
- 7:05in Judah, there are women who are preserved for us, who take a prominent and a leading
- 7:10role.
- 7:11I think of Jezebel, and Meacha, and Athaliah, and while these women used their power and
- 7:17their influence negatively, Deborah is one who uses the influence and the leadership
- 7:23that God gives to her in a way that blesses and preserves all the lives of those around
- 7:29her.
- 7:30She was already judging before the battle with the Canaanites.
- 7:35Judges chapter 4, verse 3 and 4, we find her sitting under the palm tree, and people came
- 7:40from all over Israel in order to receive judgment in the matters of their lives.
- 7:47Men, we have an important role to fill, and no one can fill that for us.
- 7:55The Bible makes it very clear that there's a delineation of roles within the body of
- 7:59Christ.
- 8:00That in the home, that the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head
- 8:04of the church, and he is the savior of the body.
- 8:07Within the body of Christ, we realize that women are to learn with entire submissiveness
- 8:12and are not to have authority over the man, 1 Timothy chapter 2, verse 11 and verse 12.
- 8:17And yet, woman is such a powerful influence in the course of human society, and all of
- 8:23us know that out of the background of our own experience.
- 8:26Think about the virtuous woman of Proverbs chapter 31.
- 8:30But when we focus back in on the woman that we have already introduced today, Deborah,
- 8:36she demonstrates how powerfully God uses women today.
- 8:41I thought as I prepared for this morning's lesson that we could talk about mothers, but
- 8:45there are so many women who are not mothers.
- 8:47There are so many women who are so much more than mothers.
- 8:51And the collective influence that you exert, ladies, whether you are or not, blesses those
- 8:55of us who are women or men who are present here today.
- 8:59None of us can look at our lives without its connection to the women who bless it so.
- 9:05Women, how can you be powerfully used by God today?
- 9:10Let's look at Deborah's life for just a couple of moments and find at least four answers.
- 9:15Number one, if a woman is going to be all that God wants her to be, she must use her
- 9:19tongue properly.
- 9:22When you see Deborah, you hear Deborah, and you hear her early on, and her voice must
- 9:27have been powerful because in Judges 4, 3 through 4, from all over the nation, they
- 9:32come and they sit at her feet in order to learn from her wisdom.
- 9:36And we see that she is speaking the things that they needed to hear in Judges 4 in verse
- 9:416.
- 9:42Her words were the commands of God.
- 9:45In Judges 4 in verse 14, the words that she used are words of encouragement, words that
- 9:50spur on those who are facing insurmountable odds.
- 9:55And so as Deborah is given this stewardship of opportunity to use her life, she uses her
- 10:02tongue properly.
- 10:04It's interesting that God speaks to all of us and has special statements to make to both
- 10:08male and female with regard to the tongue.
- 10:11God speaks to women about the importance of her using her speech in a way that honors
- 10:16and pleases God.
- 10:18In 1 Timothy chapter 3 in verse 11, there's this group of women, and among the things
- 10:23that said about her that she is to be temperate in her nature, not to be also a malicious
- 10:28gossip, but faithful in all things.
- 10:32He is focusing in on her speech.
- 10:35And then in 1 Timothy chapter 5, there was the question of what to do with widows who
- 10:38made up the congregation, and there were younger widows and older widows, and Paul urged against
- 10:43having younger widows on the roll because there was so much more maturing in life left
- 10:48for her and that she might want to get married and to give away that pledge that she had
- 10:52made before.
- 10:53And one of the things that Paul said is that she had to guard against using a word that
- 10:57would be a busybody and to engage in gossip and to say those things that ought not to
- 11:04be said.
- 11:05If I were talking about men this morning, it would be the same thing.
- 11:08But when we think about the women that we know in our lives, they are known for their
- 11:14speech, aren't they?
- 11:16Can you think about a woman that you know who you do not know or associate with the
- 11:20things that she says?
- 11:23There are some women that have the struggles that Paul is talking about in 1 Timothy 3,
- 11:28in 1 Timothy chapter 5.
- 11:30They use their tongues to complain, to criticize, to gossip, to say words that are suggestive.
- 11:38Perhaps you have known even those who are Christian women who use their tongue in that
- 11:42way.
- 11:43And yet there are women, some of the most godly, temperate, and encouraging words that
- 11:49have ever been heard have come off the lips of a Christian woman.
- 11:54Women think about the power that you have with your tongue to encourage your husband.
- 12:00His demeanor and attitude is so often impacted by what it is that you say.
- 12:06Have you ever heard the saying, if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy?
- 12:10How much of that's known from the tongue?
- 12:12And your children are listening to your words and so often we're either horrified or quietly
- 12:17pleased when we hear them saying the very things they've heard us say privately.
- 12:23When we think about the Apostle Paul and the church at Philippi, he is encouraging Euodia
- 12:29and Syntyche to live in harmony in the Lord, but how did the church at Philippi know that
- 12:34they weren't living in harmony except for the words that they used?
- 12:38When you examine Deborah and her speech and her tongue, she is using her words properly.
- 12:45After the battle is won, for which we normally think of Deborah, she's also a song leader
- 12:50and she leads a song of faith in Israel and in that song she speaks in praise to God as
- 12:57we saw as Dale read to us so well a moment ago in Judges chapter 5 and verse 3.
- 13:02And she's saying of the presence of God, chapter 5 and verse 5.
- 13:06She's saying of the power of God, chapter 5 and verse 11, and of the purpose of God,
- 13:11chapter 5 and verse 23, and of the preeminence of God, chapter 5 and verse 31.
- 13:17Ladies, she shows the power of a tongue that's used to give glory to God and to do so not
- 13:23just in public worship, but in the things that are said privately.
- 13:28Deborah first of all shows us that God's woman, to exert the kind of influence that God wants
- 13:33her to have, must use her tongue properly.
- 13:37Then second, to be a woman who God uses to impact others for good, she must be a good
- 13:44influence.
- 13:46There's no way to escape this, but that Deborah was a good influence.
- 13:50She was a source of encouragement and strength to those who were around her.
- 13:54In chapter 4, verse 8 and verse 9, she encourages Barak.
- 13:58Do you remember?
- 13:59Barak is told by God that he was the one who was to lead the people of God out of Kadesh
- 14:05to go in and to fight the Canaanites.
- 14:08Deborah comes up and she conveys this message, but do you remember what Barak says?
- 14:12He says, if you go with me, I will go.
- 14:15But if you do not go with me, then I will not go.
- 14:19And Deborah says that you'll go out into battle this day, but the honor shall not be yours,
- 14:23but will be given to a woman.
- 14:25And so he went with her to Kadesh.
- 14:29You see her influence.
- 14:30Her influence was used to encourage the men who were fighting in the battle.
- 14:36Here she is serving as a general and the soldiers who press heavy and they destroy the Canaanites
- 14:41in chapter 4, verse 24.
- 14:44Ladies, I'm sure you know this, but you are such an influence.
- 14:50We're guided by, we are influenced by what it is that you do.
- 14:56And if you want to be the kind of influence that God wants you to have, maybe there's
- 14:59two questions that you can ask.
- 15:01The first question is, does my life deserve the respect of others?
- 15:07I believe that every one of us would want the respect of others, but that's not just
- 15:11something that we can desire.
- 15:13Our actions must lead us in that direction.
- 15:15We must dedicate our lives to this end.
- 15:18Peter says that you can do that no matter what your circumstances are.
- 15:22And in 1 Peter chapter 3, verse 1 and verse 2, he is speaking to a woman who was married
- 15:27to a non-Christian husband, and he says that through your submissive behavior, you may
- 15:32win him who is disobedient to the word without a word, by your submissive behavior as they
- 15:38observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
- 15:43It's not your words, it's not your wardrobe, it's your walk with God that will cause others
- 15:48to see that.
- 15:50And so the question we ask is, in this situation, is does my life deserve the respect of others?
- 15:56And the second question is, does my life change things for the better in society, in the church,
- 16:03and in the home?
- 16:05On an English hillside, there is a grave.
- 16:08A little girl died prematurely in childhood, and on that grave marker, her parents engraved
- 16:14these simple words, it was easy to be good when she was around.
- 16:20Ladies, when you think about and examine your life, and the way that you're conducting yourself
- 16:26by way of your influence, does your life lead others closer to Christ, or does it lead them
- 16:32away from Christ?
- 16:34As you think about how God wants to use you, you are an influence.
- 16:39The Bible says in Judges chapter 5 and verse 31, that as the result of the actions of Deborah
- 16:45over the nation, the land had rest for 40 years.
- 16:49They went from struggling and suffering to being spiritual and strong and serene.
- 16:55And while she was but one, she was certainly a leading influence in that being the case.
- 17:01Maybe you don't have charge of an entire nation, but in the nucleus of the influence that you
- 17:06exert, are you influencing others to be better because you were around?
- 17:11Can they say, it's easier to be good when she's around?
- 17:17Then third, if you want to be a woman that God can use, you need to demonstrate the right
- 17:22attitude.
- 17:24The attitude that she demonstrates on this occasion is a can-do attitude like Caleb did
- 17:30that said that we're able to do this, that God will give us the victory.
- 17:34And so Deborah never seems to have a moment of wavering.
- 17:38Her attitude is a demonstration of the spirit that we read in the New Testament.
- 17:44Just know in Philippians chapter 2 and verse 5, the Bible says to have this attitude in
- 17:48you which was also in Christ Jesus.
- 17:52And then it goes on to show us what that attitude is to look like.
- 17:55In Philippians chapter 2 and verse 14, scripture says, do all things without grumbling and
- 18:00disputing that you may be blameless and harmless as children of God in the midst of a crooked
- 18:04and perverse generation among whom you shine as lights in this world.
- 18:08And while Philippians 2, 14 and 15 is not just said to women, remember whose dispute
- 18:13was the occasion for the letter altogether.
- 18:16In James chapter 3, verse 13 through 18, if we are to demonstrate ourselves as wise and
- 18:22respectable people, then we're going to show it through the gentleness of wisdom.
- 18:26From the wisdom that is not from above is earthly and sensual and demonic.
- 18:31And where there is arrogance and self-serving, there is disorder in every evil thing.
- 18:35But the wisdom that's from above is first pure, peaceable and easy to entreat without
- 18:40partiality and full of good fruits.
- 18:44For the seeds of peace are sown in them who make for peace.
- 18:47James 3, verse 13 through 18, James is saying that if we're looking to others and we're
- 18:54reflecting that wisdom which is from above, then it's going to demonstrate itself in our
- 18:59attitude.
- 19:00A few years ago, I read about a surveyor who came upon a very interesting sight.
- 19:07He saw in a shallow pool of water three bucks that were dead.
- 19:11They were locked in horns, an 11-pointer, a 10-pointer and an 8-pointer.
- 19:17And the landowner had his game cam out and was watching all of these and was surprised
- 19:23he didn't see that this happened, but he surmised knowing how aggressive these bucks were, what
- 19:28probably happened.
- 19:30That two of the bucks were engaged in fighting one another and a third one came from a different
- 19:34direction and locked horns.
- 19:37And they locked horns and they wouldn't back down and they fought and they were so aggressive
- 19:42that ultimately all three of them lost their lives.
- 19:46How tragic that such beautiful and majestic creatures locked horns, literally, and it
- 19:52cost them their lives.
- 19:55James is contrasting two attitudes.
- 19:57One is the gentleness of wisdom and that wisdom that causes one to be easy to be entreated,
- 20:03full of mercy and good fruits.
- 20:06James says that there's an attitude opposite of that, an attitude that should not exist,
- 20:12that leads to locking horns and that causes one to be an influence that hurts others and
- 20:19gets hurt themselves.
- 20:20You know, they say that in social media that women lead men in engagement in every single
- 20:26platform.
- 20:27Not only that, but they use it more and they use it more actively and more often.
- 20:33It's because of this that those who do the marketing trends say that women influence
- 20:37fashion and they influence other marketing trends way more than men do.
- 20:41And so who do you think that they're targeting?
- 20:43They're looking at women, but women have this ability that we don't.
- 20:47Sometimes men were very single-minded, but women can do a lot of things well at once.
- 20:52They invented multitasking.
- 20:54And so women do more with social media than just use its services.
- 20:58They also nurture and cultivate relationships through that.
- 21:03They do that through private messaging, but also do so as they post on one another's wall.
- 21:09Ladies, as you use social media or in person in your interactions, does your attitude lead
- 21:15to the encouragement of others?
- 21:18Or are you one who's known for locking horns?
- 21:21Deborah was one whom God used because she had the right kind of attitude.
- 21:27And then fourth, I want you to notice that Deborah was used by God and shows us that
- 21:32God uses women who are active.
- 21:35To me, if you think about Deborah, that's what we think about the most with regard to
- 21:40her.
- 21:41That from the very beginning when she is sitting there and judging the nation all the way through
- 21:45to when they end that song that she is leading, we find her to be actively involved.
- 21:51She was an encourager of the brethren.
- 21:54It was Deborah who took a man who was too intimidated and scared to do the work and
- 21:58she encouraged him to go into the battle.
- 22:01She was actively involved in the work of the Lord as she leads the troops up on Mount Tabor
- 22:08in battle.
- 22:09And she was also an example through her activity as what she did led others to go and do the
- 22:18work of the Lord.
- 22:19Ladies, I think about this with regard to you.
- 22:23First of all, you are in a place where you can encourage the brethren.
- 22:26Ladies, you encourage the brethren.
- 22:30Every time you go into the Bible class and you teach small children, you're an encourager
- 22:35of the brethren.
- 22:37Every time you go up to a Bible class teacher after the class and you thank him or if you're
- 22:41in a ladies' class, you thank her for the good work that she's done.
- 22:45Or you come up to the preacher or the others who lead in public worship and you encourage.
- 22:51Ladies, you are an encourager of the brethren.
- 22:53Every time you open up your home, every time you send a card or you in some other way say
- 22:59some word of thanks for something that's been done, you are an encourager.
- 23:04Your words of encouragement rest and remain on the hearts of those whom you encourage
- 23:08long after you think that it's been forgotten by you.
- 23:13Furthermore, you, like Deborah, can be involved in the works with the brethren.
- 23:18She led the troops up on Mount Tabor and yet you have the opportunity to serve.
- 23:23I hear the announcements and I realize that an announcement to everybody is an announcement
- 23:27to nobody, but think about all that we have coming up, all the activities, all the events.
- 23:32When you're solicited for help, do you more often say yes or do you say no?
- 23:38And ladies, as you grow older, you're in a position to help those who are younger who
- 23:42are looking up to you and they're going to be encouraged by your influence and your godly
- 23:48example, Titus chapter 2 verse 3 through verse 5.
- 23:52Furthermore, you find yourself where you can be an example to the brethren.
- 23:58There are ladies in several groups that I want to briefly address here for the next
- 24:02moment or two.
- 24:04Young mothers, you're an encouragement to us.
- 24:09I know that there are Sundays where it's very difficult for you to pay attention and maybe
- 24:14you leave the assemblies thinking, I didn't get anything out of this, I had to go out
- 24:19of the auditorium and back in several times and I feel like that my children are a distraction
- 24:24to others.
- 24:25May I tell you that you're encouraging us.
- 24:28You are telling us as you're telling them that the most important thing, even with its
- 24:33challenges, is to be here and to show your children what's the most important thing.
- 24:40You're encouraging us.
- 24:42Please know that's how we're seeing things.
- 24:47And maybe you're a single woman.
- 24:49Do you realize that you're encouraging us?
- 24:52You are showing us that you have faith that's not tied to a husband or to children, that
- 24:59you love the Lord like Anna, who is exalted for us and preserved in scripture in Luke
- 25:03chapter 2, who spent her life in the temple serving the Lord.
- 25:09If you are a divorced woman or if you are a woman who has desired but has not been able
- 25:14to have children, do you realize how you're encouraging us?
- 25:19Because what you see as trials and difficulties that you're bearing with a Christ-like spirit
- 25:24is influencing us by the example that you show.
- 25:30Widowed women, you're such an example for us.
- 25:34Women who have lost children, because we know the ache and the pain that's in your heart
- 25:39and yet despite that, here you are still faithfully serving the Lord.
- 25:45Oh, how God is using you as an example.
- 25:51And we benefit.
- 25:52No, you may not be remembered as a judge who sat under the tree and all the nation came
- 25:56to you.
- 25:57But oh, how important you are to God and how important you are to us.
- 26:03We're watching and we thank you.
- 26:07There are 74.6 million women who are in the American civilian workforce.
- 26:15Women own 10 million businesses in the U.S. and account for $1.5 trillion in revenue.
- 26:23Did you know that women are 10% more likely to have their college degree by the age of
- 26:2829?
- 26:29And so in this, we see the growing and the spreading influence of women in our society
- 26:34today.
- 26:36And yet God wants women's influence to grow in the church and in the home.
- 26:41And through that, society will be impacted.
- 26:43Proverbs chapter 14 and verse 34.
- 26:46Ladies, like Deborah, you can be such a force in God's kingdom as you use your tongue properly.
- 26:56As you recognize the powerful influence that you exert.
- 27:01As you exude the attitude of Christ and have the mind of Jesus.
- 27:06And as you find yourself actively serving for the Lord, only heaven will show the great
- 27:11good and the population that exists in that eternal home because of what God did through
- 27:18righteous and faithful women through the ages.
- 27:22Perhaps this morning there is someone, male or female, who finds themselves in a place
- 27:26in which you realize that you're not using those resources and assets that God has given
- 27:32to you in the way that he desires because you've not yet been obedient to the gospel.
- 27:36Cason is going to lead us in a song to encourage us to trust and obey.
- 27:42Trusting in the sacrifice of Christ that leads us in faith to repent and be baptized to have
- 27:47our sins washed away.
- 27:48The invitation call that we share every Sunday, every time that we preach, is for those who
- 27:55need to respond, who need to become his children.
- 27:58Perhaps also for those who are children of God and yet perhaps are living in such a way
- 28:03that changes need to be made.
- 28:04Maybe they need to be made publicly.
- 28:07We want to afford you that opportunity.
- 28:09Need to make a public response this morning.
- 28:11We wait for you.
- 28:12In fact, all heaven waits.
- 28:14You need to respond.
- 28:15Won't you come right now as we stand and sing.