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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Don't Let Comparison Steal Your Joy · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily A Body here you are listening to
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  Speaker 1: five minute Friday from Hurdle. I can't believe I'm saying this,
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  Speaker 1: but this is the last episode in season seven. Geez,
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  Speaker 1: time time feels like it is moving at warp speed
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  Speaker 1: and also at times super super slow. And I say
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  Speaker 1: that sitting in my bedroom at my mom's house, which
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  Speaker 1: still has things on the shelves from when I graduated college.
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  Speaker 1: I see my high school yearbook on the shelf, my
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  Speaker 1: yukon your book. I didn't even know I got a
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  Speaker 1: yukon your book.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of crazy, right. The season itself packed with
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  Speaker 1: so much goodness, so grateful for so many of the
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  Speaker 1: awesome conversations. And I'd love it if you have a
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  Speaker 1: specific guest or topic that you want to hear from
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  Speaker 1: or about in season eight, which will kickstart a week
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  Speaker 1: from this Monday. I'm all years, so Fiel to reach
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  Speaker 1: out to us over on email or DM. Email is
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  Speaker 1: hello at Hurdle dot us and DM always over at
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle podcast, and I am over at Emily A Body.
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  Speaker 1: But on this note of recognizing where you are now,
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  Speaker 1: perhaps and maybe feeling a little bit sentimental, so this
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  Speaker 1: morning freshly recording this on Thanksgiving for all of you.
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  Speaker 1: I ran the Peaquot Runners Turkey Trot, which happens since
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  Speaker 1: South Work, Connecticut. I've been running this race. We figured
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  Speaker 1: out at our post race diner breakfast. This is my
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  Speaker 1: fourth time. I feel like I've been doing it for
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  Speaker 1: much longer than that. But again time it's fleeting, and
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  Speaker 1: I yesterday before this morning, took a look at my
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  Speaker 1: last three races, and I'll never forget how amped I
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  Speaker 1: was the first time I ran this race, because I
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  Speaker 1: ran it in sub eight minute splits, and for me,
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  Speaker 1: that was like I always think back when something like
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  Speaker 1: that happens, and it feels really landmark to the girl
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  Speaker 1: that could barely run a mile, in fact, she couldn't
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  Speaker 1: at that time, and the girl that was working her
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  Speaker 1: butt off to learn how to excel at this thing
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  Speaker 1: that she was told for so long that she just
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  Speaker 1: couldn't do. I was looking at these races in these
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  Speaker 1: times and feeling really proud of the progression each year
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  Speaker 1: back to back being faster than the last. The last
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  Speaker 1: time I ran this race two years ago because of
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  Speaker 1: the COVID hiatus, I did it in like something like
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  Speaker 1: seven to fifteen splits like just bizarre to me. And
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  Speaker 1: so yesterday I sat down and I kind of like
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  Speaker 1: gauged my expectations and set the bar at a realistic place,
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  Speaker 1: because I reckon is that right now I am not
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  Speaker 1: the Emily who ran that Turkey Trot two years ago.
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  Speaker 1: I am a different version of myself, and that's not
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  Speaker 1: for the worst, right It doesn't mean that I am
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  Speaker 1: in I don't know, doing not well or whatever, because
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  Speaker 1: I can't make this negative trend continue right now. But
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  Speaker 1: having come off of the New York Marathon, having not
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  Speaker 1: really been running for the last few weeks, it would
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  Speaker 1: have been a complete anomaly if I showed up in Southport,
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  Speaker 1: Connecticut today and went out there and ran five miles
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  Speaker 1: at a sub seven to fifteen pace. And this really
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  Speaker 1: has nothing to do with pace or the numbers, but
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  Speaker 1: rather me showing up there today and being good with that.
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  Speaker 1: I think that it's really easy for us to compare
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  Speaker 1: ourselves to a version of our former selves, but in
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  Speaker 1: doing that we could potentially rob ourselves of the joy
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  Speaker 1: of the living in right now. And so rather than
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  Speaker 1: get caught up in oh, well, people are going to
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  Speaker 1: see how fast I ran this, and blah, blah blah
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  Speaker 1: blah blah, like, no, you know what I want to remember.
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  Speaker 1: I want to remember having fun in the moments as
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  Speaker 1: they pass, instead of stressing out about these unrealistic expectations,
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  Speaker 1: I want to enjoy the things that are happening. And
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  Speaker 1: that's exactly what I did this morning. Although it definitely
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  Speaker 1: felt like an effort, but I had a great time,
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  Speaker 1: and I was just so grateful to be in this place,
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  Speaker 1: back at a Turkey trot after everything that was last
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  Speaker 1: year and not having these things, being surrounded by people
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  Speaker 1: and happiness and family and having my mom there. It
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  Speaker 1: was a really beautiful morning. And if I had been
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  Speaker 1: focused on that time and what was and comparing myself, well,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I would have the same experience. I
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  Speaker 1: also will say this that while I was running this morning,
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  Speaker 1: I thought a lot of about the run that I
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  Speaker 1: had a few weeks ago with the New York Marathon,
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  Speaker 1: and how I was a little bit wrapped up in
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  Speaker 1: the previous version of me. Right and again, comparison is
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  Speaker 1: the thief of joy. So I recognize that that New
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  Speaker 1: York City Marathon experience, and I'll throw the show the
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  Speaker 1: episode recap, excuse me from the marathon in the show
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  Speaker 1: notes today. But I recognize now and I learned a
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  Speaker 1: really important lesson that day, and that I owe it
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  Speaker 1: to myself to just be more in the moment and
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  Speaker 1: stop worrying so much about what other people may think
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  Speaker 1: or feel or whatever about whatever it is that I'm doing,
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  Speaker 1: because I know that as long as my heart's in
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  Speaker 1: the right place and I'm pushing forward and I'm following
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  Speaker 1: my ethics and my morals and I'm just trying to
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  Speaker 1: be a good person and treating myself with the kindness
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  Speaker 1: that I hope that other people treat me well, then
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing something right. Prompter you this week, when was
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  Speaker 1: the last time that you let comparison steal your joy?
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  Speaker 1: And what is one thing that you can do to
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  Speaker 1: spark joy over the next twenty four hours? Again a
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  Speaker 1: little reflection moment. When was the last time you let
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  Speaker 1: comparison steal your joy? And how can you spark joy
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  Speaker 1: over the next twenty four hours? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, Sarah and upstate New York here. Now, I
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  Speaker 2: held off on sending you a voicemail question because I
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  Speaker 2: wanted it to be something profound, But you want a
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  Speaker 2: question So your hat collection has been awful inspiring, and
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  Speaker 2: I've finally purchased my first hat, but now I have
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  Speaker 2: no idea how to sile it. It looks so cute.
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  Speaker 2: But am I allowed to wear it inside? Do I
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  Speaker 2: wear it when I'm driving my car? I'm a little confused.
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  Speaker 2: Little helps, Sarah.
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  Speaker 1: I love this question, and to be honest, I wish
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  Speaker 1: more questions came in my way that we're in, you know, activity, fitness,
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  Speaker 1: running related. So if you are listening to this right now,
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  Speaker 1: whether or not you are, Sarah, please feel free to
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  Speaker 1: leave me a voice message and ask me about anything
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  Speaker 1: from hats to relationships to New York City. You get
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  Speaker 1: the vibes anyway, man, I have really over the last
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  Speaker 1: few years, as you may know if you follow me
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  Speaker 1: or on Instagram, because I've become a hat person. And
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  Speaker 1: the answer to your questions, yes you can wear it inside,
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  Speaker 1: Yes you can wear it driving your car. You can
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  Speaker 1: wear it with your hair down, you can wear it
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  Speaker 1: with your hair up. The most important thing to wearing
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  Speaker 1: a hat is that you feel confident in your hat.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that this is I mean, as with
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  Speaker 1: any piece of clothing or style, right like you all
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  Speaker 1: that matters is that you feel good in it.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: I like to wear mine most often with my hair
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  Speaker 1: down and like wavy or in a low bun. And
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  Speaker 1: if I'm wearing a hat, I try to keep like
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  Speaker 1: other elements of my outfit, like maybe a little bit muted,
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  Speaker 1: because I recognize that the hat is a statement piece.
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  Speaker 1: I think, I don't know. Those would be my top tips. Also,
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  Speaker 1: if you have dark hair, I always opt for like
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  Speaker 1: lighter colored hats, Like I don't own a black felt hat,
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  Speaker 1: but I have a slew of other colors like sage
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  Speaker 1: green and maroon and tan and mustard, so you get
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying here. Other hat tip, you can definitely
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  Speaker 1: wear it in all weather, but I would be a
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  Speaker 1: little bit wary of wearing it in the rain just
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  Speaker 1: because it can get a little funky in the shape situation.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's it. But if you have more
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  Speaker 1: hat questions and you got specifics, I'm here to help Gigpip,
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  Speaker 1: where I get a lot of my hats. They're not
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  Speaker 1: a sponsor, but I'm a huge fan of theirs, and
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  Speaker 1: they are having a ten percent off sale. If you
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  Speaker 1: are listening to this Black Friday to Cyber Monday, I
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  Speaker 1: will link to them in the show notes so that
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  Speaker 1: you can go and snack one for yourself. My favorite
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  Speaker 1: style from them, it's called the Zephyr Rancher. I think
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  Speaker 1: I have at least three. That's it, y'all. I hope
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  Speaker 1: you had a great Thanksgiving. I hope that you're finding
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  Speaker 1: some time for yourself and relaxing a little bit and
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  Speaker 1: just finding the gratitude and also the giving in this
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  Speaker 1: season over at Hurdle Podcast and at Emily a Body,
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  Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.