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How Do Narcissists Act When You RECORD THEM? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Why do so many narcissists lose their minds when you simply show
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  them a video of how they've been acting?
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  How showing a narcissist a video?
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  Like you recorded them, showing them a video.
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  Like look, look how you've been treating me.
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  Look how you're acting. Look what you've done.
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  Showing them that can make them blow their damn top, can make
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  them explode and lose their minds for good.
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  That's what we talked about. Yeah, that's what we talked
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  about today. That's what we're hopping on
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  today. Of course, if you're new here,
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  I'm Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
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  myself, and welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code,
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  y'all. We're going to be shifting to
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  the mental illness podcast here pretty soon, y'all, But the
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  Narcissist Code is still here to stay right now for the time
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  being. But yes, y'all First off, as you
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  Bob Lee, already know, narcissistic people hate it when
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  you hold a mirror to them when you show when they when you show
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  a mirror to them of how they've been treating you of how they've
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  been behaving. They can't stand it.
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  It makes them feel like a bad person.
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  Like the damn near y'all seen those movies.
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  What a reflection takes over and is evil and replaces the good
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  person. That's how it that's this will
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  be going on in the mind of a narcissist of that it's got like
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  you're showing me a reflection of myself that brings so much
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  shame to me. I feel like a horrible human
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  being. It maybe I am.
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  I know leave. I know I know y'all like leave.
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  Well, damn it if the if the if the cleft boot fits, you wear
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  that cleft boot. If that high heeled lug boot
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  fits you wear that high heeled lug boot to the heels were off
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  that thing. Lee if the boot fits where it
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  which I agree, right, If they're bad people, then they are bad
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  people. So but they don't want to see
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  it, right? They don't want to see it.
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  It's not just let me say this as well.
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  It's not just videos that narcissists hate.
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  It's not just videos of them being abusive or manipulative or
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  horrible. It's text messages too.
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  Something. If you show them a screenshot of
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  something that they've sent you, will you say something evil to
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  them? Seriously, they hate that too,
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  because you're holding up that mirror and you're showing them a
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  version of themselves that they don't think exists or they don't
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  want to see. They don't want, they don't want
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  to admit that this evil version of themselves actually, actually
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  exists. So what they're doing instead is
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  all this manipulative BS. They're showing you exactly who
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  they are, but they don't want to see it.
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  They want to hide it. They want to run from it.
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  So when you show it to them, there's proof.
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  It's proof. It's right there in front of
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  their faces and they cannot stand it.
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  They hate it so damn much, right?
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  Y'all know it, You know what I'm talking about.
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  They hate they can't stand it. And the fact that they can't
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  stand it is why they get so damn angry.
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  You have your shame in your, you have their their shame in the
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  palm of your hands and they hate that they really cannot look
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  because you you're showing me that I'm a bad person and I
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  don't want to admit to it, but you have the proof right there.
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  Like the other day, and this is based on the real life thing as
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  well. Y'all, the other day my wife
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  said she showed me a screenshot. It was like September.
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  What's the date? She's it was like September the
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  14th, the right and she's like it was like 11 years ago.
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  It was September 14th of 2014, eleven years ago, and she had
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  wrote me a letter. It was just saying, yeah, I'm,
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  I'm going to do a video with that letter.
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  I told her I apologize for 11 years later, right.
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  It's pretty much the letter was saying that like you so
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  emotionally shut off. I can't do anything right.
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  You made me feel in love. It was so bad.
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  Yeah, it was so bad. I had been treating her so bad.
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  So I'm so embarrassed. I'm so ashamed of like I've seen
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  it and I was reading. I'm like, did I write?
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  Did she write this to me about how I was treating her?
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  I was so embarrassed. It made me feel like this big.
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  But because I've done 8 years of therapy, I was able to look at
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  that, realized what I had done wrong, go upstairs and apologize
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  to my wife for something I did 11 years ago.
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  Like I'm so sorry I treated you that way.
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  You didn't deserve that. I, you absolutely did not
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  deserve that. I was in a completely different
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  space than it back back then. I hated myself for that, right?
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  I hate my, I hate the new me. The me right now hates the old
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  version of me. But if she has showed me that
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  letter, I mean, I probably read the letter 11 years ago and
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  probably say something mess up to her what you've done.
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  You don't support me. You don't do this.
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  You don't do that. She held up a mirror to my
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  behaviors and I was angry as hell when I read it.
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  Probably I don't remember it because I blocked stuff like
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  that out right. But that type of stuff is
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  embarrassing to me. Old videos, old messages that
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  you showed me look at you, you remember you caught me fat.
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  I hate it makes me feel this big.
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  So that's why a lot of times you're narcissistic person loses
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  their minds because they feel this big because you have to
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  you, you have to shame your hands and another reason they
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  lose their minds y'all because guess what, you have this, you
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  have this evidence. So guess what you can show other
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  people. Make sure one thing ain't
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  cracked. You have this evidence so you
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  can show other people. Oh somebody requested a cameo
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  y'all, I do, y'all don't know. I do cameoscameo.com/mental
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  illness I do cameos. Birthdays, shout outs, questions
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  and answers. I do cameos, but yeah, yeah, you
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  see how that goes? Like that's realistically the
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  point of it. You see, you now have the proof,
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  you showing me how I'm enacting and how I've been treating you.
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  So guess what? Not only are you showing me, you
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  could show other people, right? Yes.
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  So now that's another reason I lose my mind.
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  That's another reason. Your narcissistic partner or
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  parent or friend, whoever it is, that's why they lose their minds
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  too. Because now the you might not do
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  it, but you have the ability to do it.
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  You could expose me. You could show people who I
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  really am. You have the power in the palm
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  of your hands Look just like you.
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  It's not like a old, an old animated cartoon, right?
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  They have the power in a palm of my hands.
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  I could not think of. I know it's a if you know a
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  movie I'm talking about, drop it in the comment section.
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  The power in the palm of your hand, like drop in the comment
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  section. I can't think about it, but I
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  know y'all know y'all be on the movie references.
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  I worked the Blockbuster for a long.
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  I worked the Blockbuster Video for a long time.
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  So I watched a ton of movie. I worked the Blockbuster Video
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  on Farmington Drive in Greensboro, NC back and what was
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  it, 0708? Yeah, right.
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  When my son was born, 07/08/09, about 3-4, five years, whatever,
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  you know, but that's what happened.
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  Y'all like, no, you have that power in the palm of your hands.
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  You could literally ruin my life.
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  You could literally expose me. You could literally shatter the
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  image that I have been portraying to people.
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  Let's just say, for instance, I'm a pastor in a church, right?
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  I'm a church pastor and I've been treating you horribly
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  behind the scenes. Now I go to church every Sunday.
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  I'm like, praise God, praise him.
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  Yeah, yeah, I'm leading the I'm leading the choir and pray.
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  I'm like we jamming in church, right?
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  We jamming in there, we bopping and we look, we bopping and we
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  bouncing, We doing all we doing all little dance, right?
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  We doing all our little dance that we want to do, right?
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  So at home, I'm treating you horribly.
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  I didn't cheated on you. I had babies outside the way
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  outside the marriage. I got to put my hands on you.
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  I got to do some horrible stuff. Now you show me if you have this
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  footage you going to you going to share with the congregation,
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  right? So this image that I have of
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  being this good pastor, this great pastor, this great man,
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  guess what? You have the power to shatter
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  that image now. And I don't like that.
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  I actually hate it with a raw seething passion.
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  I cannot stand it. It is the bane of my existence.
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  It absolutely is. This is what goes on.
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  This is what be happening. So this is as we trans as you
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  transitioning into the next stages of relationship.
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  Understand if you are recording your narcissistic partner or you
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  have evidence, you have documentation of how they've
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  been treating you, y'all, you need to protect that
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  documentation. You need to put it in a drop
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  box. You need to put in a Tara box,
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  iCloud. It needs to go somewhere where
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  they can't get a hold to it because what's happened before
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  is they will find it and they will delete it because guess
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  what? Once it's deleted, prove that I
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  did it to you, right? Prove it.
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  Prove that I hit you. You don't have those pictures
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  anymore of your bruises, right? Prove that I lied to and cheated
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  on you. You don't have those pictures or
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  their evidence. What is the stuff that my affair
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  partner sent you? Prove it.
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  If you have recorded them, if you have documentation that
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  they've been doing horrible stuff to you, you need to
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  protect that documentation. You need to put it somewhere
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  where they cannot get a hold to it, because if they get a hold
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  to it, guess what's going to happen?
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  They're going to delete it and they're going to act like
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  nothing happened. Sometimes they'll hurt you if
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  they know you've been recording them.
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  Sometimes they could get physically dangerous, Not just
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  the, not just the emotional stuff.
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  They can become physically dangerous because damn near a
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  good reputation is almost as good as breathing to a
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  narcissist, right? As long as I have a good
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  reputation, I feel like I'm alive.
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  I feel like I can breathe. So that's something you need to
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  think about when you're dealing with a possibly narcissistic,
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  toxic, abusive, manipulative, horrible ass person.
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  Because the more they feel like they can get away with, the more
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  that they can delete, the more the behind, the more they can do
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  behind the scenes, the less likely you are to have proof of
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  it like they feel like. The more I do behind the scenes
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  without evidence, without proof, I'm good.
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  And the longer you stay, the more in my mind, I think you're
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  OK with this behavior. I think you're OK with how I'm
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  treating you. I think you're OK with what I'm
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  putting you through. Because if you're if you were
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  not OK, what are you still doing here?
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  Why haven't you left just yet? If you're not OK, you need to
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  leave me then, because the evidence points to the contrary.
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  The evidence says you are OK because you haven't left.
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  The evidence says that you are. Everything is smooth because
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  you're still here with me. If you are documenting these
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  narcissistic people or documenting what they have been
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  doing to you, put this diary, this journal, this Manila
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  envelope. Put it somewhere where they
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  cannot get a hold to it. Put it somewhere where they
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  cannot find it. Put it somewhere where they
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  don't know exists. But I'm just telling you because
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  there's so many people I talk to that are heartbroken that their
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  stuff got deleted and that narcissistic partner or parent
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  or whoever it is is gallivanting around like nothing has
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  happened. That breaks so many people's
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  hearts because they feel like now their story would never be
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  told and now it's going to be a he said or she said or they said
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  type of battle. I didn't do this.
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  Prove it. You had to prove or they deleted
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  it because they found out exactly where it was.
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  So that's literally why you have to protect yourself in these
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  situation, y'all. That's literally why it's so
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  important for you to protect the evidence, protect yourself,
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  protect your peace at all costs in these situations.
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  They go crazy because they don't want to face themselves and they
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  go crazy because you could expose them as well.
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  Hammock and I am out. Peace.