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Reinvention Starts With One Step (with guest Cris Vergel TNA7) · The Inner Beacon Podcast With Marisa

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_04: Welcome to the Inner Beacon.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_04: I am your host, Louisa.
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  SPEAKER_04: I'm a Canadian girl mama of two business owner, flight attendant, and a certified self-loved coach.
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  SPEAKER_04: You are in the right place if you are ready to lead your life from within, to reconnect with your intuition, trust yourself deeply, and reclaim your power.
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  SPEAKER_04: My goal and intention here is to inspire and empower you.
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  SPEAKER_03: And for fun, I might even add some flight attendant content and travel tips.
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  SPEAKER_04: And I'm so glad you're here.
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  SPEAKER_04: So let's dive into today's episode.
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  SPEAKER_04: So we initially were supposed to do this live like the beginning of summer, but it just didn't work out.
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  SPEAKER_04: And now here we are.
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  SPEAKER_04: And I really wanted to turn this around a little bit in that one.
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  SPEAKER_04: So I kind of like we talked about doing this.
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  SPEAKER_04: And because your audience is always listening to you speaking with other people as guests, but I want them to learn more about you.
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  SPEAKER_04: So I have compiled a pile of questions and then we'll get into a little bit of questions about me.
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  SPEAKER_04: I think that's what we discussed.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I just want to I just want to start by saying that happy Monday in TNA 7.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like like she said, this is gonna be a different one.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be asking the questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna hand the mic to Marissa.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's joining us from Vancouver, BC, and she's she's her work is beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: It centers around reinvention, trusting yourself, and helping people reconnect with the inner beacon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, she is the host of the inner podcast.
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  SPEAKER_04: I'm a mama, I'm a flight attendant, I'm an entrepreneur.
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  SPEAKER_04: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: This podcast is available now on most, if not all, the platforms available out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna hand you the mic, let's do this.
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  SPEAKER_04: For sure.
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  SPEAKER_04: This will be also shared on the inner beacon for those listening.
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  SPEAKER_04: So, first, I want to ask you a little bit about you.
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  SPEAKER_04: Tell us a little bit about who you are and what led you into fitness and coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love starting here because it's easy to get up in titles.
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  SPEAKER_00: At my at my core, I'm a family man, I'm a coach and a content creator, and someone who's really passionate about helping people realize they're not done yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that goes with mental as well as your physical health.
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  SPEAKER_00: The body shaping, bodybuilding story came from separating with with my wife back then.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is like 2008, and I wanted to I wanted to try and win her back.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I told myself, if I if I get fit, right, that's gonna be like the ultimate thing that to win her back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be thinking like it's all physical, but it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, obviously that didn't happen, and I just kept going.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's been like 15 years right now that I've been doing this health craze.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the last three years I've been I've been more serious about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, you know that I've competed a few times.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that has been the story of my my fitness and fitness coaching.
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  SPEAKER_04: So I guess the next question is uh kind of answered because like I guess you did you always know that this was a path, or it just kind of fell it, you fell into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, I didn't really know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's funny that you asked that because if you told my younger self I'd be sitting here hosting a podcast or coaching people on Dalmah's longevity, I would have laughed because that's I don't know all of those when I was younger.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know all of those.
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  SPEAKER_00: This this path, I'm gonna talk about both the podcast part and and the fitness path.
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  SPEAKER_00: I that was never part of the plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it just kind of fell on my lap, and I just ran with it.
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  SPEAKER_04: It's funny how that happens.
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  SPEAKER_04: Honestly, when you're meant to do something and when you follow, like I always talk about your inner compass, your inner pains, like you're when you follow that intuition and what's kind of like leading you in life, it just falls together perfectly, like alignment happens, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Definitely, definitely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before we before we continue, I just want to shout out to Brittany.
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  SPEAKER_00: She gave you a big heart and Jenna, as well as Eileen also in the chat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for coming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for enjoying us.
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  SPEAKER_04: Thank you for joining us and learning about us.
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  SPEAKER_04: So uh, what was life like before fitness became such a big part of your identity?
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  SPEAKER_04: I know you kind of touched on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think a lot of people will relate to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was doing what most of us do working, raising a family, and checking boxes, being busy, but somewhere along the way I realized I was taking care of everyone else, but not myself, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: As a flight tenant, you know that you gotta put your mask on first before you give it to somebody, before you help somebody else with their mask.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fitness eventually became less about looking good and more about becoming the best version of myself physically and emotionally.
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  SPEAKER_04: And how did aviation actually influence who you are?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, tremendously.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: Aviation taught me adaptability because every day looked different when we worked at the airport, right?
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: We never we never know what we're gonna what we're walking into when when when we work there, right?
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, uh, especially those those uh Laguarias, those Ottawa's where they had uh irregular operations with their cancellations.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: That is always the worst for that.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_00: You work on my autumn sky?
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, it taught me how to connect with people from every background imaginable, right?
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: You know, those Ottawa people are just a different breed.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: Those Montreal people are just Montreal guests are just a different breed.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: Same with the LaGuardians, you know.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: If you're not thick skin, you're not gonna last a day of like 12 cancellations for New York or 12 cancellations for Ottawa in Montreal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are the tough, tough cities with people that will really give it to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, but more than anything, it reminds me that the life is very important, life is very precious.
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  SPEAKER_00: You meet thousands of people and realize everything everybody is carrying something, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You like you never know why why they they are the way they are at that time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe they were having a rough day or something, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that that's chip how I I show up for people today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oops.
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  SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_04: I honestly that's one of the parts I love so much about my job, though, is like learning about people's backgrounds.
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  SPEAKER_04: Like you meet someone and you get conversating with them and learn like you things that you would never have guessed that people go through.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_04: And like that's the thing, people react from that place, like you said.
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  SPEAKER_04: And we all want to be healthier, we want, we all want success, we all want everything to go accordingly, but at the end of the day, like we're you know, like it's all the same goal.
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  SPEAKER_04: And and the the the fact that you are so personable and so like empathetic, and like you're so good at dealing with people in that sense, I think that makes you really good at what you do too, and you're passionate about what you do, and I think that's important.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_04: It's important to love what you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: It helps, it helps, especially like if you're working with people that you like working with.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: These are the people you go to war with every day, right?
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: If if you're if you're if you have a good bond with people that you're working with, exactly.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it just helps you more to enhance yourself, yeah.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_04: What was it like for you to transition from aviation to into building your own thing?
• 7:39
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so first of all, I just want to acknowledge everyone that's going through an identity shift right now, because it's not easy, right?
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: Reinvention sounds exciting on social media, but in real life, it's scary.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're grieving an old version of yourself while trying to build a new one.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I know you know this from experience too, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, it was exciting and terrifying at the same time because I had to learn to trust myself before anyone else.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_04: That's the key.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_04: Trusting yourself and like really putting yourself out there, doing something, unknowing of like what's gonna come out of it is the scariest thing in life, but you did it.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_04: You you were you're, you know, like you're doing the dang thing, and you should be very proud of that.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_04: Were there any moments where you doubted yourself in that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, all the time.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: All the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And truthfully, there are still some days.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't think confidence means doubt disappears.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you're confident, sometimes the doubt will still be there.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just learning how to keep moving despite the doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, that's that's that's the biggest thing.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: And the older I get, the more I've learned that discomfort is usually a sign that that growth is happening.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: When you're uncomfortable in something, there's growth happening there, right?
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  SPEAKER_04: So hundred percent.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_04: That's exactly what's happening.
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  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_04: Uh were there more, yeah.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_04: What but what helped you like keep going when doubt comes?
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_04: Like, how do you deal with that?
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_04: I guess in our world, like that's like self or ah, what's the word?
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_04: Since that that that like self-this the self-doubt, but imposter syndrome.
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_04: That's the word I want to do.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, right, right, right.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that's a good point.
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  SPEAKER_04: How do you keep going for and move forward, even though that shows up, that child self-type thing?
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, my my family for sure, my purpose, and realizing that somebody out there is waiting for the version of me that refuses to quit.
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_00: On days when I don't feel motivated, I remind myself that showing up might inspire somebody else, might inspire somebody to show up too.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I have to be okay with falling, with failing.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's what we do after that we fail that is important, right?
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: Something I wish my children or anyone listening will take away from it.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, yes, that's really good advice.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's I appreciate this.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I I'm loving this.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_04: This is flowing, this is great.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_04: This is we're learning about even for once.
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  SPEAKER_00: Definitely.
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  SPEAKER_04: So, what advice would you give someone who's feeling called forward towards something bigger but feels scared to take that leap of faith?
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: I think many people need to hear this, right?
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to see the entire staircase, just take the next step, right?
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's so Christianity, but it's so true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just take the next step.
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  SPEAKER_00: We often wait to feel ready, but confidence isn't built before action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Confidence is built because of action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you guys are following my carousels, this is all I talk about.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_04: You gotta be ready before you're even ready.
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  SPEAKER_04: Like you just have to take that leap and follow that.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_04: Like if it I really I'm a true believer if like there's something planted in your heart that you need to pull forward and and and follow that.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_04: And sometimes it makes sense to absolutely nobody else but you, but that's more of the reason to keep going because someone, like you said, someone listening might need exactly what you're trying to give to the world.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_04: Now, let's switch gears a little bit.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_04: You mentioned your son and you're very family-oriented, you're a single father.
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  SPEAKER_04: How has becoming a parent changed you?
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to shout out Eileen, who's actually has helped me raise Perseus.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: I want to shout her out because she she's done so much for for myself and for Perseus.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: I don't wanna I don't want to take her out of the equation because she's a huge part of this equation.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: So everything changed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if there are parents watching, they'll understand this immediately.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: Father God made me less selfish.
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  SPEAKER_00: My son wouldn't think that.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: My son, who is 15 years old now, he's he's starting to be, he thinks mature, but he's starting to be mature.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: He does he won't he doesn't think that that I have been selfless about things as far as he's concerned.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: I have two other children that that's older in Winnipeg, yeah.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: And more intentional and more aware that that someone is always watching how I live, and that's my children, not just what I say, it completely changed my priorities.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_04: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_04: Perspectives, everything.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_04: I also I I love to hear like a father's perspective too.
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  SPEAKER_04: How has fatherhood taught you, or what has fatherhood taught you about yourself?
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  SPEAKER_04: Just like a mirror.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, definitely.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_00: And and sometimes I I I doubt this, but most of the time I just remind myself that I'm I'm I'm stronger than I thought I was, and softer than I thought I needed to be.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: I used to think strength was always being tough.
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: Now I realize that you know I have to adjust to this is like close to my heart.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: I had to adjust to how much all my children, but the three of them, they're different personalities.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: Not all of them are the same.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I was spoiled by the other two, but the the last one, the third one, is more tough on me, just teaching me how to be a better father for sure.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: And and and and I love that.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope that one day he watches this and he hears everything.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I wish I one day I hope that he watches this and he he knows how much I love him.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's for some reason this, I don't know, I think they're Jen Alpha.
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: They they have this doubt that their parents don't love them.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, one day he'll watch this, and I hope that he, you know, it's that he knows that I love him.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, no, I get you.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_04: I get what you're saying.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: And strength also means being being vulnerable sometimes, right?
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: And patient and present.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Those are all work in progress for me.
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: And as long as I keep working and progressing, that's that's the only thing that matters.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_04: And I think we even as with our parents growing up, like I'm we put our parents on a pedestal, and I'm sure they do too.
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  SPEAKER_04: Like we could never do any wrong.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_04: But at the end of the day, we're all human.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_04: We're learning as parents, just as they're learning as kids.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_04: I I like and like when I say a mirror too, like for me, like my daughter sometimes will put me in my place.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_04: I'm like, you little bugger.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_04: But it's cool to see because they're learning how to be human from us, and that like when they start to like stand up for themselves, like you want to be proud, but like you're also like, why me?
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for real, that's true.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's so tough for you because you have two girls, right?
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, one day the three of you will clash.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: We all bring it together.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, they're they're very much like me, and that's that's the it is what it is.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_04: I I create mistakes.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_04: But for you, what are some of the biggest lessons you've learned raising children while building your business?
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Well, one thing I I'm still proud of is my resilience.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: And that's that's a whole part of my personality.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: There were times I put myself forward for a position at work and heard no more than once.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: In fact, there's one instance when I applied for a position in YYZ for 10 times.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: I kept going.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's so like it's so disheartening.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: I, you know, you you you feel weak because you're like, what am I doing wrong or what is wrong with me?
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: But I I just kept going.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: I I I there were times when I questioned myself and just took a breath and kept going.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I hope my children will take from me.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: I want them to know they can feel disappointed without letting disappointment decide what they're capable of.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, it and if they see me get back up after I sat back, that's I hope they believe that they can do that too.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: And one more thing, it's never too late to reinvent yourself, then life will change, and that's okay.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_04: Absolutely, exactly, exactly.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_04: All right, let's uh okay.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_04: I guess before we go into uh fitness and health, what uh like last one kind of similar, but like what do you hope your children learn from watching you in all things?
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_04: I know you just kind of touched a little bit on that, but do you have anything else?
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: No, definitely that the reinvention is huge for me because I have reinvented myself so many times.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: And this is this is the part that I'm starting to get comfortable in what I'm doing right now.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: I know that comfortable is not a good thing.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: So I I I'm trying to think of ways to get outside that comfort zone because I never want to be comfortable with things because you know that there's no growth in comfort, right?
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_04: 100%.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, oh like look, you're you're doing it today, right?
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_04: In your corner this time.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_04: Do you think people underestimate the connection between movement and mental wellness?
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: Movement isn't punishment.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: People think it's punishment.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: I I've done that too.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I've I've eaten something I shouldn't have eaten.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, you know what?
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna walk it off, I'm gonna work out twice as hard, but it's not a punishment.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know, movement is something you do for for your mental health, for your physical health.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: And difficult seasons happen to everyone, and winning may not always look like 100%, but sometimes winning simply means that not disappearing and showing up for for you, the people you love for yourself, especially.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_04: And and and in in this space, sometimes we have to show up even when it's dark, even when it's ugly.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_04: Because you know what, that's real and that's relatable.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_04: It's so good for you for putting yourself out there.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_04: Has I think I know the answer to this, but has fitness helped you through challenging times?
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: Fitness has given me stability when when life felt uncertain, right?
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: When there was a time, and I don't know why this keeps popping up whenever somebody asks me about this.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_00: There was a time last year, I think it's December, and I didn't want to get out of my bedroom.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't want to get out of my bedroom, I didn't want to get out of my bed, I just want to stay there for for I don't know, December is like a big month and a tough month for others.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's it's it's it's good and it's bad.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_03: You know.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes December is good for people, but sometimes December makes them think of the things that they don't have, right?
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I went through that.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: It has given me a stability, especially working out.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_00: The gym became a place where I could always keep one promise to myself, and that one promise eventually is filled over into every other area of my life.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_04: That's good, and like you're very disciplined, so like that's it's a great, great thing.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_04: If you're gonna be addicted to anything, be addicted to self-improvement.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: Not not just physically, you know, not just physically.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like I admire what you and Brittany are doing for the world, for for everybody, and I hope that people will take advantage of that and help themselves, you know.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: If I had a lot of money, I'd be you both of you will be my coaches.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_04: Oh you're so sweet.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: But we're working towards that, we're working towards that.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_04: I I think for for I think what we do is very similar in a way because you work on the physical, which is also connected to the mental state, like you said.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_04: They go hand in hand, yeah.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_04: Right?
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_04: They do go hand in hand.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_04: What I do more is I I think that the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_04: And it's more about the shadow work, it's more about being open to questioning things instead of being stuck in old patterns of your beliefs and wanting to expand.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_04: And it's all about personal development, it's all about mindset, energetics, and like who we are, our greater potential outside of the physical, on top of that.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_04: Like, this is our vessel, this is your sanctuary.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_04: And just like your phone, don't let your battery die.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_04: I like I'm a multidimensional person, woman.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_04: I'm I wear many hats and I refuse to be put in one box.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_04: And for that alone, I feel like I need to speak that because everyone, I think we all have so much potential to be so much greater than we are.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_04: And we are on our devices all the time, watching screens, watching this, being out in the world and getting distracted by all these things, and we don't quiet our minds, we don't quiet ourselves to have those internal conversations and really know what the answers are from within, instead of having to ask everyone else for what they think and get it going, right?
• 21:10
  SPEAKER_04: And so that's why that's why I do what I do.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_00: Also, Marissa, yeah.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: When you said don't let your battery die, that's like you know, you didn't have to keep going.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's a my drop moment.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_04: Exactly.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_04: Everyone's so like, oh my god, my phone's gonna die, my phone's gonna die.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_04: Like, recharge yourself.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_04: You know, okay, one last question.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, what happens internally when someone starts keeping promises to themselves?
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_04: This is so on key to it.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_04: We just fucked up.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I like this question because it's bigger than fitness, and you know that they they start trusting themselves again.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, Marissa, I think that's where our inner inner inner beacon said to me.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: That is such a tough.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_04: Dick of ELT on the plane.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you know, be can begin to activate.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: You know, self-trust changes everything.
• 22:07
  SPEAKER_00: So you good?
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: Is it my turn?
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_04: It's your turn.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: So we've known each other since I watched this, and you've joined me here on TNA 7 more than once.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: But today I get to talk to you as a published author.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Your book is called Still Becoming, and I think a lot of people will recognize themselves.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I love that.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Let's start there.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: Why still becoming?
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_00: What made those the right words for this book and for the entire for this point in your life?
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_04: For this whole series.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_04: Well, it's funny because when I chose the title, I didn't even remember that my word for the year was becoming.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_04: And becoming is such a broad big word because I don't think there's a final destination because we are always becoming our best version of ourselves.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_04: That's the goal.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_04: We're constantly expanding.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_04: And a lot of people, so when I first wanted to write this, this actually came from affirmations that I had created.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_04: They were e-versions that you can purchase and download.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_04: And I wanted to create the actual affirmations card, but like this is like the purpose and how everything turns the way it's meant to be done.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_04: Because I've also always wanted to write a book.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_04: So when I started to learn through CDN how to create a book on Amazon, I'm like, well, why don't I actually?
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_04: Because the math wasn't math when it was to become cards, because they were not never meant to be cards.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_04: And I also believe that like working with affirmations is one thing.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_04: You can write them on your mirror, you can talk yourself in the mirror as many times as you want.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_04: But what we don't talk about enough is the resistance that comes with that.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_04: And that's again having those internal conversations and learning to listen to yourself.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_04: So the way I created it is I rebuilt the cards in here, and you can either go through one at a time and use this as a sidekick to your journal, or literally open it up to any.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_04: And it has a little reminder for me to you, just me being real about what the what this brings up.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_04: It has a little sit with this journal prompt for your journaling, and then it has an embody it today so that you're taking action to embody that affirmation as well.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_00: I and I just want to shout you out too, because back in our day when we worked at the airport, like I never this is there's this is a lot of talent that you're you're sharing with the world right now.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like even the the podcast, I I have like you're more advanced in my opinion with the podcast because you know how to you know how to do the the sound only and upload it to Spotify or Apple, you know, and and this the book is is is huge.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like you have two small kids.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: How did you find the time to to create this book to make this book, right?
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_04: No, honestly, how I do have the things.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you just knew how to master my shit 24 hours, so that's pretty cool.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_04: I just follow, I like this has been something that I've wanted to create, or like I've been wanting to write a book, and I'm actually rewriting a book that I tried to write in in 2020 right now because I feel like it's a way to get your message out in a different experience through it.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_04: It it in and I like I said before, when something's planted in your heart, there's purpose and there's reason.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_04: But also everything that I had to go through the last six years from 2020 till now was things I needed to experience and learn before it could be published.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_04: Like there's that's what that's what when you do all like I did a lot of different network marketing, I did a lot of these different things I tried online, but in every bit of those things, even if it wasn't the final end, I learned things that I can bring into what I'm creating now.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely, and that's amazing.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: And you created a book while life was still happening because you were still living through it.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_04: And no.
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_04: But that's the same with any tool that I teach in my coaching world.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_04: There's, for example, EFT tapping.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_04: I talk a lot about that in in my school community.
• 26:28
  SPEAKER_04: There are things that I've created in there that I still use today.
• 26:31
  SPEAKER_04: I will go and re-watch my own stuff because they're tools that I've used personally.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_04: There's and they're tools that can be used.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_04: It's it's a tool belt.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_04: It's a tool belt.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, absolutely.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_04: And so, and to go back to the title, is you are we're always evolving, we're always still becoming, but there's also things that come up when you think that you've fixed something or like a limiting belief or something, a shadow exploration that you've explored before, and it's it's still in the surface somewhere, like there's still more to explore there.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_04: And like we are multidimensional beings, like that's what we're meant to do.
• 27:08
  SPEAKER_04: It's it's not easy, but it's worth it.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: And last question for this one for someone who picks up the book during a difficult season, how do you hope they'll use it on an ordinary messy day?
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_04: I hope that the affirmation that they're meant to finds them.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_04: I hope that they're able to literally just pick it up and find and hear from my little reminder from me to you something that they need to hear in that moment.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: It's beautiful.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: And and where can we find this?
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: Where can we get this?
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_04: It can be found on Amazon and it's international, so you can get it in the UK, you can get it in the States, you can get it in Europe, you can get it in Canada.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_04: Hardcover is also available as the paper code.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: And the book gives people something to sit with privately.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Your podcast, I don't want to mention it because it's just on Twitter for me right now.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_04: The inner beacon podcast?
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 28:09
  SPEAKER_00: Let us hear your work through this idea as in conversation.
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_00: What's a conversation on the inner beacon podcast?
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_00: Let's change your own thinking after you recorded it.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_04: I had I had a really good conversation with my husband recently on there.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_04: And it was actually kind of really nice to be.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_04: I love reflecting.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_04: Like one of my favorite things to do.
• 28:32
  SPEAKER_04: I always ponder and reflect.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_04: But to be able to sit down with my husband and kind of do that and like really think about what we've built as a business and like with our like from where we started till now, that was really cool.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: And the name suggests there's a voice inside us worth listening to.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_00: When you're overwhelmed by everyone else's needs or opinions, how do you recognize your own?
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_04: That's when it that's when you know it's time to like kind of put the blindfolds down and sit with yourself.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_04: That's when you know that you need to create that space and sit with your like journaling's a great one.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_04: Have a bath, anything that's just gonna quiet the noise, because that's when you know that you need to focus and listening to what's going on inside.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_04: And that gets easier with practice.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_04: But I think that's that's the main message.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_04: Like, we have an inner compass, we have a knowing within.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_04: So it's learning to trust yourself, and that also you build trust, like you said before, right?
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_04: Like you make a commitment to do it, and that maybe sitting down with a journal and not knowing what you're gonna write, but just writing something until something comes up, like the message will come.
• 29:52
  SPEAKER_04: You'll notice, even for me, there was a point in my life when I was still trying to figure out what my voice was online, and then I started to go through old posts of captions that I had written, and the message is always the same.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_04: It's all about self-love.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_04: And so I knew like that's my message.
• 30:10
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome, awesome.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_00: And and now we're done with the serious part.
• 30:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think we're gonna go through our our lighter side of the podcast.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: I think I'll have my questions and you'll have yours.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: Is that how do you how do you like that?
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: Would that be cool?
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_04: What are we doing?
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like back and forth.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: I think we're gonna go back and forth.
• 30:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna ask my questions because I like this one, because we're both gonna answer the questions.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, okay.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and you're ready for yours, right?
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_00: So when I when I pass the mic back to you, you're gonna ask me that question.
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_04: You didn't have any of the questions.
• 30:42
  SPEAKER_04: I think I went through them all, but no, no, but I mean the fun segment part.
• 30:46
  SPEAKER_04: So the fun segment I was gonna read out of here, I think that's what we had.
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, full of affirmations to somebody with prompts.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_04: So they get to explain.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, all right.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: A voice note to your younger self or a letter from your future self and explain your answer.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_04: Letter from my future self, yes.
• 31:07
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: Why would you do that?
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_04: Because it would it, I feel like it's more it's inspiring to see like what can what what is there for me.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I don't know.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_04: And I think as humans, we're just always curious about what's coming more because it's the unknown.
• 31:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: I was gonna pick the voice note because I felt like I could have like given him a head shake because there, you know, I made a lot of mistakes in the past, and and I realized no, you cannot, because all those mistakes have made you the way you are right now.
• 31:45
  SPEAKER_00: Don't care, don't care if exactly this is a big one.
• 31:49
  SPEAKER_00: I have three kids, three different moms.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: Don't care.
• 31:52
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I I learned from that.
• 31:54
  SPEAKER_00: It made me the person that I am today.
• 31:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't regret anything from that.
• 31:59
  SPEAKER_03: Nice.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so so I'm picking the other one, the letter for from for my future self, and just letting me know, letting myself know that you know what, you did what you had to do, you did a great job.
• 32:10
  SPEAKER_04: There you go.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_00: Let's hear um affirmation from you.
• 32:14
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, so let's just pull one random.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, this is cute.
• 32:20
  SPEAKER_04: The affirmation is a proud journey one.
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_04: So I am proud of how far I come.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_04: That's it there, and then I'll read the a little reminder from me to you.
• 32:31
  SPEAKER_04: Take a second and actually look back, not to criticize who you were, not to replay everything you wish you'd done differently.
• 32:40
  SPEAKER_04: Look back so you can see her.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_04: The version of who you didn't know everything you know now, the woman who kept going, the choices you were brave enough to make, the things you survived, the ways you've softened, the boundaries you've learned, the dreams you've pursued.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_04: You may not be exactly where you want to be yet, but please don't let that stop you from being proud of the distance that you've already traveled, which is so fitting to what we just talked about.
• 33:09
  SPEAKER_04: That's crazy.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's so crazy.
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
• 33:13
  SPEAKER_04: So the prompt for that is what would a past version of me be incredibly proud to know who I am today?
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_04: This is so fitting.
• 33:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 33:25
  SPEAKER_04: How would the past version of me be incredibly proud about who you are today?
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_04: Like what would that be for you?
• 33:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, isn't that weird?
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because we just like everything just lined up to this, to all our questions.
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_00: And we didn't talk about the questions or anything.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_04: At all.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_04: So if you're in here, if you're re-watching this, the embody it today is write down five ways that you've grown.
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_04: Don't minimize them.
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_04: Let yourself see yourself, let yourself be proud of those things that you have achieved because they're already a part of your destination.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: There's no destination, so they're always moving.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: But, anyways, that's enough topic.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's let's let's throw a question back at you.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_00: Would you rather hear what your old WhatsApp coworkers remember most about you or what your podcast listeners have learned from you?
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_04: I guess my podcast, because that's present.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_04: Let's not hope it's in the past.
• 35:09
  SPEAKER_00: It does mess it up mess it up sometimes.
• 35:11
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, that's uh pass the mic back to you.
• 35:16
  SPEAKER_00: Should we do another one?
• 35:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's another one.
• 35:19
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, we'll finish up.
• 35:21
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 35:23
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, what story are you currently telling yourself?
• 35:26
  SPEAKER_04: And is it helping you move forward or keeping you stuck?
• 35:32
  SPEAKER_04: These are pro see, these are like intentionally meant to go deep.
• 35:36
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 35:38
  SPEAKER_04: So what story are you currently telling yourself?
• 35:41
  SPEAKER_04: And is it helping you move forward or keeping so basically is there something that's like getting in your way of doing something be a little bit scared of?
• 35:50
  SPEAKER_04: You said you were comfortable.
• 35:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 35:53
  unknown: Yeah.
• 35:53
  SPEAKER_00: Are you asking me this question or is this just for everyone?
• 35:57
  SPEAKER_04: I mean, it could be for everyone too.
• 35:59
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 35:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um that's what I that's that's the biggest part for me, is just don't be comfortable with with with where you're at.
• 36:08
  unknown: Yeah.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 36:09
  SPEAKER_00: Because you know, getting comfortable with something means you're you're okay with things, and you shouldn't be okay with things.
• 36:15
  SPEAKER_00: You should be constantly trying to improve yourself mentally and physically.
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_00: So that's where I'm at with that.
• 36:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna ask you a question, yeah.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: And then we're probably gonna we're probably gonna finish up after that.
• 36:29
  SPEAKER_02: Sounds good.
• 36:31
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, fact of fiction.
• 36:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna ask two questions on fact of fiction.
• 36:34
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 36:35
  SPEAKER_00: I practice a question out loud before asking it on a podcast.
• 36:40
  SPEAKER_00: What you practice a question out loud before asking it on a podcast.
• 36:46
  SPEAKER_00: Fact of fiction.
• 36:48
  unknown: Fact.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_04: I like to be prepared.
• 36:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, me too.
• 36:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like I I I do, and I I kind of imagine like how how the flow would go when whatever happens from there happens.
• 37:03
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 37:04
  SPEAKER_00: There's a story from my flying days I still haven't told publicly.
• 37:09
  SPEAKER_00: And could this be the time that you actually tell everybody?
• 37:14
  SPEAKER_04: Haven't told publicly like that happened on my flights.
• 37:22
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, there's one, but it's inappropriate, and it's not really my story to tell.
• 37:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, that's okay.
• 37:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's okay.
• 37:29
  SPEAKER_00: But that's that's interesting, though.
• 37:31
  SPEAKER_00: That's interesting because I I too have one inappropriate one.
• 37:35
  SPEAKER_04: It's probably related to similar things because humans.
• 37:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 37:38
  SPEAKER_00: People are crazy.
• 37:39
  SPEAKER_00: People are crazy.
• 37:40
  SPEAKER_00: I think cabin pressure really messes your brain.
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: Literally, literally.
• 37:46
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_00: Marisa, before we wrap things up, I just want to say thank you.
• 37:51
  SPEAKER_00: First, thank you for taking the time to step into a different role tonight and and for creating a space that felt less like an interview and more like two people simply having a meaningful conversation.
• 38:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's been a busy day, and I'm sure you're tired and you need to get some sleep tonight before you fly back to Toronto.
• 38:09
  SPEAKER_00: So I appreciate you for doing that.
• 38:11
  SPEAKER_00: This and all your authenticity and your your warmth and your willingness to share your own journey is is what makes people gravitate toward you.
• 38:21
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you turn off the light?
• 38:23
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 38:23
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay.
• 38:25
  SPEAKER_00: It looked dimmer.
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I just want to thank you for everything.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_00: And um, do you want the live edition of this or the the edited version?
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna pull from the live afterwards, like from the post.
• 38:41
  SPEAKER_04: Like if you we'll talk.
• 38:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 38:43
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, and I want to say thank you too for having me and for letting me also reshare this from my podcast.
• 38:49
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 38:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope we can do this again.
• 38:51
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of collaboration.
• 38:52
  SPEAKER_00: Of course.
• 38:53
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_00: From Marissa and me, spread love.
• 38:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's the TNA7 Way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spread love like you would Nutella.
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  SPEAKER_03: Thank you for spending this time with me here on the Inner Pick.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'll meet you on the next episode.