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Sisterhood, Seasons & Starting Over | FT Kendal Smith | EP134 · Jess Ask

• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Yo, it's your girl, Jessica as Smith, and you already
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  Speaker 1: know that you've entered the safe space for influencers to decompress,
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  Speaker 1: have fun and just ask God for another Do you
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  Speaker 1: already know what it is?
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  Speaker 2: And then you know it's about to get real, So
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  Speaker 2: be sure to show your girl the love and like,
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  Speaker 2: how many God for another day?
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  Speaker 3: Hey?
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  Speaker 4: Hey, I know we could be another way?
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  Speaker 2: Could you not give us a warning before you press record?
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  Speaker 2: I just said recording?
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  Speaker 5: Yo, yo, yo, it's your girl, Jessica as Smith, and
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  Speaker 5: you have entered the safe space where influencers decompress, have
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  Speaker 5: fun and guess what, just as y'all does a real
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  Speaker 5: little today?
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  Speaker 2: She's a little? Does that mean a little? But I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna still give you that song? Does a R? Does?
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  Speaker 2: Does all? Right? Does a right? Does? Already? Does a right? Does?
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  Speaker 2: Does a ray? Y'all? Does a Hey? Friend? Hi, friend, sister?
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  Speaker 2: Love you Jessica?
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  Speaker 6: Do you yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Because you be tripping?
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  Speaker 6: That's love?
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  Speaker 2: Can you tell people how you feel?
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  Speaker 6: Come come?
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  Speaker 2: That's love.
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  Speaker 5: I'm amazing, I'm feeling good today. Today's Today's a good day.
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  Speaker 5: Today's a I'm choosing, You're choosing us to be a
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  Speaker 5: What is a psmist right now, Yeah, you know, if
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  Speaker 5: you're gonna be a rapper, you gotta have a backup.
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  Speaker 2: Or something, right, y'all, let me tell y'all something.
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  Speaker 5: So we did forty days a focus shout out to
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  Speaker 5: the safe space community, be a Patreon, and we did
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  Speaker 5: four days of focus, and I challenged desil Ray to pray.
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  Speaker 5: She actually end up praying more than she agreed to.
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  Speaker 2: She did because you love the Lord and you love
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  Speaker 2: me too.
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  Speaker 5: Because the woman a God lost her voice during the
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  Speaker 5: forty days of focus, and so we're praying at for
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  Speaker 5: thirty in the morning. And one of the mornings she
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  Speaker 5: she said she wasn't gonna.
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  Speaker 2: Pray, she was gonna worship. She turned on the song.
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  Speaker 2: So she's been in a singing spirit for a minute. Child.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know what I'm gonna do, is y'all pray
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  Speaker 5: for Desiltray, catch me in the owner Stellers in the
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  Speaker 5: not the stellers, Jesus, not the stellers. Not getting not
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  Speaker 5: getting awards. I ain't mad at it. So if you're
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  Speaker 5: getting awards for singing, I can get awards for a rapping. Well,
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  Speaker 5: it's probably not gonna be for sing It's probably gonna
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  Speaker 5: be like Best Producer of the Year or something.
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  Speaker 2: Let's go, let's go.
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  Speaker 5: They need to do a best podcast for the Stello Awards.
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  Speaker 5: Go ahead and give me my money, b e t
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  Speaker 5: go ahead and give me my money. So best best podcast.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 5: Go and and and don't be, don't be you know
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  Speaker 5: you know sting you with the awards show, the show,
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  Speaker 5: the micro influences.
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  Speaker 2: I love. Okay, we're out here doing the work of
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  Speaker 2: the Lord.
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  Speaker 5: All right, y'all, speaking of the work of the Lord, ma'am,
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  Speaker 5: I got my ace.
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  Speaker 2: Con in the building, does alray? I don't think they're ready.
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  Speaker 5: I don't even know if I'm ready because I got
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  Speaker 5: my ace, I got my blood like I got my
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  Speaker 5: best screend y'all might know her as Kindle tried it,
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  Speaker 5: but I know her as.
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  Speaker 2: My sissy Pool.
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  Speaker 5: So I ain't welcoming again to the platform again, my
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  Speaker 5: real sister Kendall Smith.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all.
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  Speaker 5: Y'all, y'all, I'm happy I thought it from the bottom.
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  Speaker 2: Now were here, you are here.
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  Speaker 5: This is Kendle's first time baby b G TV Studios,
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  Speaker 5: beautiful brutalle for like the camera. Look, y'all, I see me. See,
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  Speaker 5: they don't believe it's two of us, and so they
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  Speaker 5: really get confused.
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  Speaker 2: So almost one those glasses.
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  Speaker 5: They really would have been missing it. They would have
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  Speaker 5: been messing, would havessed up. Speaking of glasses, come on, now,
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  Speaker 5: we we got these frames local here in Birmingham, Alabama,
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  Speaker 5: from Glamour for Eyes. Listen, the best experience my hands down,
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  Speaker 5: that I've been wearing glasses for at least five six years.
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  Speaker 2: Now, put on put mine on palls. I did.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Kenda was blind. Blind is bad, but now I
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  Speaker 5: can see amazing grace. Alright, but shout out to Glamour
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  Speaker 5: for Eyes. Y'all go ahead and check them. I will
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  Speaker 5: link them down below. Make sure it's a black on
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  Speaker 5: female on business. And when I tell you top tier excellence,
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  Speaker 5: get you something.
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  Speaker 2: Frames are really fashionable. Yeah, they're like just not basic
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  Speaker 2: at all, not basic at all.
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  Speaker 5: It's y'all see I've been wearing mind this is I
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  Speaker 5: think these are gonna be my every day with your
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  Speaker 5: every day where now that you can see, I see you,
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  Speaker 5: you kendle you. It's been a minute since you've been
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  Speaker 5: on the platform. So we got some ketching up to do.
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  Speaker 5: We got some ketching up to do.
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  Speaker 2: Because you you.
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  Speaker 5: We've been in seasons, We've had some some some trials,
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  Speaker 5: tribulations and triumphs. So if you don't know Kendall, Kendle
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  Speaker 5: is a loctician, she's a mother, she's a content creator.
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  Speaker 5: And I think I want to get into the content
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  Speaker 5: creation first because you You've gone from being known for
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  Speaker 5: being a loctician.
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  Speaker 2: This is who does my locks? Okay, everybody, well give
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  Speaker 2: me a.
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  Speaker 5: Second, and still known for the bus downs on the locks,
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  Speaker 5: but now you've entered the space where you are known
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  Speaker 5: as a food content creator.
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  Speaker 2: How in the world did we get to hear good?
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  Speaker 2: I have no idea.
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  Speaker 5: Seriously, I tell people this story because my clients come
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  Speaker 5: in because I transitioned my page from kendl'sdred Heads to
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  Speaker 5: Kendle tried it, and my clients come in there like Kindle,
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  Speaker 5: like what happened?
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  Speaker 2: Like you know, is this what you want to do? Seriously?
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, I had no I like having fun.
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  Speaker 5: I'm really having fun doing this and it's not it's
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  Speaker 5: not to be like.
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  Speaker 2: On Food Network at all.
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  Speaker 5: But you know, you don't know what God has and
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  Speaker 5: starting for you and the plants he has for you.
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  Speaker 2: But I will say.
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  Speaker 5: One day, I was coming from the gym and I
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  Speaker 5: called my baby. She had she had been on her
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  Speaker 5: best behavior, okay, my oldest, and I said, hey, what
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  Speaker 5: you want for breakfast? And she was like, I want
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  Speaker 5: pop donuts And I was like okay, And I was
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  Speaker 5: really irritated. I was really gonna call her and say,
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  Speaker 5: I don't feel like getting out. It was leg day,
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  Speaker 5: doesn't come on. I didn't feel like my knees were
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  Speaker 5: shaken and buckley, and I didn't fel like int that
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  Speaker 5: was something to say, get out. So I had got
• 7:18
  Speaker 5: into this space where I was tired of doing hair content,
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  Speaker 5: like y'all don't understand the things and the questions and
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  Speaker 5: the weird things that come with hair content. I just
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  Speaker 5: I got overwhelming with hair content. I was like, it's
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  Speaker 5: so much more to me than hair. Yeah, And I
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  Speaker 5: got like I would y'all. I would be like at
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  Speaker 5: the bar, like drinking, you know, having a good time vibe,
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  Speaker 5: and people be like, so how do I book or
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  Speaker 5: da da da da, and It's like, that's not my ideentity.
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  Speaker 5: I wanted to be known more for just hair right
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  Speaker 5: because I think I'm funny. I think you know I
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  Speaker 5: love you know, celebrity gossip. You know, I've always loved it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: so I was just like, I'm just gonna be posting
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  Speaker 5: random stuff, like just random stuff and what they call
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  Speaker 5: a no niche content cript.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So I was posting some random stuff, you know, some
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  Speaker 5: stuff hit. I'll talk about celebrities. Some of that stuff
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  Speaker 5: a hit or whatever what they say go viral or whatever,
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  Speaker 5: but mainly just really I had it was on me
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  Speaker 5: to just post every day. So went to Pop Donuts
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  Speaker 5: got out y'all. If you know you're in the Creator fund, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: you have ten k followers on TikTok, you have to
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  Speaker 5: post at least one minute.
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  Speaker 2: Video, right, Yeah. So I was trying to do that
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  Speaker 2: on all my videos. So this man kind of interrupted me.
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  Speaker 5: When I go in, I literally go in and say, y'all,
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  Speaker 5: this is the best donuts. Da da da da, and
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  Speaker 5: I recorded and the man wes uh. This man is
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  Speaker 5: going off about some of them having the egg on
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  Speaker 5: the sounds or whatever. So I stopped the I stopped
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  Speaker 5: the camera and I'm like it stopped at fifty three seconds.
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  Speaker 5: So I was like, oh, this is not gonna do
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  Speaker 5: anything anyway, because I'm literally just posted and y'all.
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  Speaker 2: It blew up and I was like, what So instead.
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  Speaker 5: Of just like leaving it there the next day, I
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  Speaker 5: was like, let me go to another restaurant to see
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  Speaker 5: you and see if.
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  Speaker 2: It's actually working. Did it again? Did it again? And
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  Speaker 2: he and more people start watching me following me. Kendall,
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  Speaker 2: you so funny, you so natural that I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: so I guess this works for me and it's working.
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  Speaker 2: I love it, I really do.
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  Speaker 5: I UH being recognized is probably the most uncomfortable thing.
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  Speaker 5: I did a little bit get recognized as Kendall' Dredheads,
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  Speaker 5: but Kendall tried it has been a little bit more
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  Speaker 5: because you see more of my face. I guess who's
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  Speaker 5: recognized you that you're the most surprised that recognized you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know or who has?
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  Speaker 5: Who have you connected with me and Kendall tried it
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  Speaker 5: that you would have never been able to as Kendall
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  Speaker 5: dred the mayor of a Centerpoint buzz down like I mean,
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  Speaker 5: other people have. I have a lot of other uh
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  Speaker 5: creators that are here logo, they are being well known
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  Speaker 5: that follow me and interact with me.
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  Speaker 2: But I think that was the biggest thing back, I'm political, like,
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  Speaker 2: don't play with to Mayor Scott, Bob Scott. He found
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  Speaker 2: me though.
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  Speaker 5: It's funny because the first place I want, one of
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  Speaker 5: the first few places, of course, was around center point.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So I was putting center point it's two words, and
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  Speaker 5: his comments and his daughter coming on there and she
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  Speaker 5: was just saying, oh yeah, I love that place.
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  Speaker 2: To forget what she said. But he coming out of that,
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  Speaker 2: he said, center point is one word, I said, not.
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  Speaker 5: Getting you together, give me together, may Scott. And he's
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  Speaker 5: just so cool and interactive, and I think that's the
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  Speaker 5: most and it's more than just like following me.
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  Speaker 2: We interact with one another online.
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  Speaker 5: So I really I think that's the most. Like I
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  Speaker 5: don't know, it's surprised. I am, like you know who I.
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  Speaker 2: Am, Yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 5: So yeah, what has been like the most rewarding moment
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  Speaker 5: like that you've had since you've because I don't think
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  Speaker 5: you've I can't say you've changed. I feel like you've
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  Speaker 5: added it because people still, like you said, people still
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  Speaker 5: you still sell out on the bookings. Okay, you still
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  Speaker 5: you still get you still locking and twisting and all
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  Speaker 5: the other locked terms or whatever. But what has been
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  Speaker 5: the most rewarding opportunity that you feel like you've had
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  Speaker 5: been Kimba, not Kimba's your heads. But Kendall tried it
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  Speaker 5: because you've only been doing this with for four.
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  Speaker 2: Months since August.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I know this sound weird, but like I'm
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  Speaker 5: popping with my daughter. My daughter's in middle school, so
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  Speaker 5: her friends are on TikTok. I don't like how to
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  Speaker 5: be on TikTok. So I think, you know, I don't
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  Speaker 5: know if people think they mom's cool. You know what
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  Speaker 5: I'm saying, Like you don't realize your mama coolness. You
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  Speaker 5: get older sometimes, but most of the times, if your
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  Speaker 5: friends giving your mama or your day to day.
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  Speaker 2: Attention, you like, hold on that.
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  Speaker 5: That's that's see to her, I was just mama, but
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  Speaker 5: all her friends think I'm so cool.
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  Speaker 2: So I think I ain't gonna lie like like I
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  Speaker 2: walked up in school, mad oh, they gonna Ki tried it.
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  Speaker 5: And she'll FaceTime my friends. Is like, y'all want to
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  Speaker 5: talk to Kendall tried. I'm like girl, I me and
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  Speaker 5: my bunny like like she Kddie will FaceTime her friends
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  Speaker 5: and be like this my mam or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: But I love it.
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  Speaker 5: The kids love it. I love it, like I think
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  Speaker 5: that's the most rewarding. And also j small businesses don't
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  Speaker 5: get a lot of attention yeah in Birmingham. And I
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  Speaker 5: always say Birmingham is like a popularity CD. They like
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  Speaker 5: to roll off of who popping.
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  Speaker 2: And who did this and who got this? Who got that.
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  Speaker 5: I ain't never been no go off of popularity nothing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I will sit back and watch. And a lot of
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  Speaker 5: these restaurants don't get an attention because when they don't
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  Speaker 5: have these big budget to pay, these content creators come
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  Speaker 5: in yeah and pay you know whatever they pay or
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  Speaker 5: whatever their fees. I don't charge anything and I'm a
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  Speaker 5: c like I've told people I want to be the
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  Speaker 5: Keith Lear Bernerham. I won't charge nothing, like like I
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  Speaker 5: wanna get my money from bigger platforms if I you know,
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  Speaker 5: if if God allows it. And I'm you know, walking
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  Speaker 5: to their space. But I know a lot of people
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  Speaker 5: be like, no, you know your worth. I do know
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  Speaker 5: my worth. Like I know that I care so much
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  Speaker 5: about Birmingham. It's around the ears. I know I care
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  Speaker 5: so much about uh small businesses that I will promote
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  Speaker 5: them if I believe in them. And what they're doing
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  Speaker 5: and customer service, food all that. If I believe in you,
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  Speaker 5: I mean, the reward to me, honestly is just see
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  Speaker 5: your business grow, you know what I mean. And some
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  Speaker 5: people don't want to be big congratuated. They want to
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  Speaker 5: stay small. They like they' and that's okay. So I
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  Speaker 5: think that's why I want to connect with smaller businesses here.
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  Speaker 5: I don't care about the glitz, the glamour all that.
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  Speaker 5: And so many of these owners have personally thanked me.
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  Speaker 5: They didn't even know I worked a boxing their restaurant.
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  Speaker 5: It was like, thank you for not asking for nothing
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  Speaker 5: for free, thank you for tipping me, thank you for
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  Speaker 5: being polite and kind, like I ain't looking for nothing.
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  Speaker 5: I'm just really I'm when I say, I'm really having
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  Speaker 5: a good time, I'm having a good time doing this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm glad you are.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm and I'm not gonna get too much into
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  Speaker 5: like businesses that don't appreciate And I don't like saying
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  Speaker 5: micro influencers, but in what the world the times as
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  Speaker 5: micro influencers, you can tell the businesses that because they've
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  Speaker 5: had clout or they have they have macro influencers. They
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  Speaker 5: are promoting them or whatnot. They don't have respect for
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  Speaker 5: micro influencers. And we're not gonna say any names because
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  Speaker 5: I'm I mean, it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 2: People know who they are.
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  Speaker 5: But like, I think that for you to experience some
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  Speaker 5: of the things that you've experienced and still remain like
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  Speaker 5: desiring to go on this field because this is still
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  Speaker 5: new for you, Like this happened like overnight. So you
• 14:38
  Speaker 5: brought up Katie right shout out to my that's my
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  Speaker 5: that's my baby, that's my baby. Keda said that I
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  Speaker 5: was her baby daddy when she was pretty net different
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  Speaker 5: I was. I was, It's okay, it's all right. I
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  Speaker 5: earned that probably when we were younger, because I don't
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  Speaker 5: I think I was a little. But you brought up Katie,
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  Speaker 5: And I'm curious to know because Katie, Katie picks up
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  Speaker 5: fast on things. What has that dynamic been license she's
• 15:08
  Speaker 5: seen your success, especially her friends acknowledging you and stuff
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  Speaker 5: like that, Like is she curious what does she want
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  Speaker 5: to like grow in entrepreneurship?
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  Speaker 2: Like what is the conversation like with her? Because Katie is.
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  Speaker 5: Eleven, yes, right, yep, she's eleven going on twenty five.
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  Speaker 5: She is Kaden's is such a star. When I say star,
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  Speaker 5: like she was born into this like bright world, like
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  Speaker 5: she she's going to get attention no matter where she is.
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  Speaker 5: She don't even have to now. I tell people she
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  Speaker 5: was born with an attitude. But with that attitude comes
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  Speaker 5: so much confidence. And I encourage that a lot. And
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  Speaker 5: I think her watching me develop and be bold on
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  Speaker 5: the Internet, and I'm to y'a, this is I'm way
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  Speaker 5: mobile on the internet that I am in person.
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  Speaker 2: I'm very shy. People don't believe it.
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  Speaker 5: I am very shy in person unless I get a
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  Speaker 5: little courage. Not the courage, but I'm very shy in
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  Speaker 5: person for real. I struggle a lot with social anxiety.
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  Speaker 5: I'm getting through that though, thank God. But Kadence, she
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  Speaker 5: has watched me step in so many different roles, so
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  Speaker 5: she knows that she isn't limited. I already already know
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  Speaker 5: that with her talents like she she she she'll be
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  Speaker 5: known for more than just being Katie the daughter or
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  Speaker 5: you know, Katie the friend. Like she already started her
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  Speaker 5: own business, like she had phone cases and she was like, mam,
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  Speaker 5: we got started to run that back up. This little
• 16:56
  Speaker 5: girl is a fashionista at this point, I don't touch
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  Speaker 5: her clothes, like she telling me what she's buying. She
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  Speaker 5: his own cash, so she buys stuff and stuff come packages,
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  Speaker 5: comes to the.
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  Speaker 2: House all the time.
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  Speaker 5: I just found out she I mean, I knew she
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  Speaker 5: can cook, but humbirl made some in the kitchen the
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  Speaker 5: other day and it was really good. That was like,
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: so we cook now, like she just I think her
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  Speaker 5: watching me be able to step in so many different
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  Speaker 5: areas that she's not.
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  Speaker 2: Afraid to do that. How do you balance like nurturing
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: someone like Katie with knowing because I grew up with you,
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: how we were nurtured and developed because there were I'm
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: trying to find a language for it.
• 17:38
  Speaker 5: There wasn't a lot of freedom in creativity or the
• 17:43
  Speaker 5: development piece or.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: Which is crazy how we turned out.
• 17:46
  Speaker 5: Yeah, like it It is baffling. How do you manage that?
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: Like do you feel like sometimes you like struggle with
• 17:54
  Speaker 5: Oh I wasn't raised like this, but I know it's
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: like how do you navigate those at that?
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: As a mother?
• 18:01
  Speaker 5: I still I struggle. I like, I'm glad you brought
• 18:04
  Speaker 5: that up. It's times where her her confidence brings out
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: my insecurity.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Y'all.
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: I look, I ain't had no, I had no plan
• 18:21
  Speaker 5: on doing it, so please excuse me.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is very safe.
• 18:28
  Speaker 5: Yeah, her confidence brings out my insecurity, so I find myself.
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: I don't do it as much, but especially when she
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: was younger, almost dimming her light. So it's like, you know,
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: I don't want you to get in trouble or I
• 18:43
  Speaker 5: want I don't want people to looking at you funny,
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: or I don't want people talking about you or talking
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: about me as a parent because you know you are
• 18:49
  Speaker 5: sassy and you did and you that because Cadus has
• 18:52
  Speaker 5: a lot of personality and we we bump heads sometimes
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: because of their personality. But I think it took I
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: think last year I realized that it was just like
• 19:04
  Speaker 5: I think it's an insecurity that I couldn't be like that,
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: or I felt like I couldn't be like that.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: That makes me sometimes like.
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: Get on to her by stuff, and that's just her,
• 19:14
  Speaker 5: that's her personality. And I'm learning to communicate with her
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: because now she's a teen. She's preteen. It's not talking.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: It's not like talking to her brother and sister like
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: baby da da da. She don't want to hit it.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: So I gotta be real with her.
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: It's a lot of balancing of like I want, I
• 19:34
  Speaker 5: want to be her friend, you know, not just like
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: I'm not your little friend.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: I want to be her little friend like I do.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: But I also have to know I had her young,
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: and and because you were nineteen when the girl was
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: twenty one, I'm sorry, sorry, sorry.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: Mom, I'm sorry teen moms. Shout out to y'all because
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: it's hard out here.
• 19:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but but yeah, I had her at twenty turn two,
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: only one two months later, was in college, and.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: So I'm figuring stuff out. But one thing about it.
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: I always tell her, even when we have our ooh,
• 20:14
  Speaker 5: we have our blow ups, I have to tell myself
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: it's okay, and tell her that I'm still learning. I
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: tell her that all the time. You my first one,
• 20:23
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna miss up the most with you. How does
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: she receive that when you tell her that, I think
• 20:29
  Speaker 5: she's more forgiving because I am apologizing. And I'll say
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: this about the gen X generation and above baby Booma's parents,
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: apologies were not a thing. And you know, like I said,
• 20:45
  Speaker 5: we're now in a in a in a generation to
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: where we have so much information, so grace is given.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: So don't come for me, but apologies were not think
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: as an adult.
• 20:58
  Speaker 5: I think I would have not been so hard on
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: myself if I knew that it's okay to miss up. Mmm,
• 21:11
  Speaker 5: it's okay, Like my daughter brought home or see on
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: her progress support she's a AB student.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: I was like, all right, this is your grace. You're
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: gonna miss up.
• 21:21
  Speaker 5: I'm not gonna I'm not gonna tear you down on this,
• 21:24
  Speaker 5: but we're gonna fix this. So you can go on
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: there and talk to your science teacher and see how
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: you're gonna fix it. I'm not doing it. I don't
• 21:31
  Speaker 5: take these classes. So I still give her. I give
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: her a lot of freedom. I give her a lot
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: of resp I said responsibility because we're still in the
• 21:38
  Speaker 5: real world. Yeah you know what I mean, She's still
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: a little black girl in the real world. Yeah, so
• 21:42
  Speaker 5: I have to be real with her. But also I
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: give her the space to miss up every single day
• 21:49
  Speaker 5: until I miss up every single.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: Day if whether it's little or be Yeah. So so yeah,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I know that was long.
• 21:56
  Speaker 5: Sorry, No, that was that was so good and so needed,
• 21:59
  Speaker 5: And I think that it's important because I I just
• 22:03
  Speaker 5: think watching you be a mother Jesus, watching you be
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: a mother. It's very rewarding.
• 22:21
  Speaker 6: You go, girl, Jesus cry, It's very rewarding because.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: I know it.
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: It's nothing that I heard, it's nothing that I'm unaware of.
• 22:40
  Speaker 5: I know the things we didn't learn. It's nobody's fault.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: And no, I ain't blaming nobody. And that's that's the
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: with country creation and doing podcasts and stuff. Don't get.
• 23:00
  Speaker 5: Content creation and doing podcasts. It's hard because you try
• 23:05
  Speaker 5: not to quote unquote exposed.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: The people that you love.
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: Because people gave us the best that they could give
• 23:15
  Speaker 5: us at the time that they could give us. The
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: reality of the best that people could give us is
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: that we miss something in giving our best, and there
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: are certain things that were missed that you are embodying
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: so well. And it's like, if I can be half
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: the more that you are, like, I would be good.
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: Like I'm gonna be a great mom because it's the patience,
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: the patience that you have with three kids, the awareness.
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: I know you get tired, I really do. But for
• 24:02
  Speaker 5: you to be able to say I'm I want my
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: I don't want her courage to be dealed by my insecurities,
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: that's huge. I still deal with fears now.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: I love you, Daddy.
• 24:19
  Speaker 5: I still deal with fears now, just off the fact
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: that Daddy was scared about something. I might not have
• 24:25
  Speaker 5: been afraid of it, but because I can hear Dad's voice.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: On certain things, I'm scared to do it. You know
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying.
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: I'm quote unquote like struggling in my mind on like
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: certain levels of success and you know, maneuvering through certain things.
• 24:42
  Speaker 5: But Katie and Corey and Creed are gonna experience different things.
• 24:47
  Speaker 5: And I'm curious to know how did you come to
• 24:50
  Speaker 5: that conclusion of the your insecurence insecurities dimming her light.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Couch, y'all.
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: If I don't promoted, I might promote it to I
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: ain't gonna say too much. I feel I feel like
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: everybody's going through some type of trauma. Some people might
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: need more therapy than others, but it's help out here.
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: And that lady love her down has helped me realize,
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: first of all, my strength as a mother. And thank
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: you for affirming me, because sometimes I don't get that
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: affirmation of the moment and I need it. I need
• 25:31
  Speaker 5: it boost So thank you so much for affirming me
• 25:33
  Speaker 5: in that moment.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: But thank you girl. I'm just I just because it's true.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: It's it's true.
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: It's it's a different and I can guarantee you there's
• 25:47
  Speaker 5: gonna be people, your audience, your your clients that get
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: to see you like these are people that get to
• 25:54
  Speaker 5: see you walk through through life with navigating your sister.
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: Because can we can we open the door in transparency.
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: You're in a new season. You're not just the mom,
• 26:04
  Speaker 5: but you used to be a wife or the mom,
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: and now you are a single parent.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: How are we navigating through that? Because this is this
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: is more fresh than anything.
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: And I know you didn't plan on it because I
• 26:17
  Speaker 5: know we come from divorced parents and that's something that
• 26:22
  Speaker 5: hurt us.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: You know, that was challenging. Not having mom in the house.
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: That was challenging, you know, for dad to be the
• 26:29
  Speaker 5: one that was handling everything. It's challenging for everybody involved. However,
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: we're talking about us right now, Like I just want
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: to be very clear, I'm not gonna apologize for talking
• 26:38
  Speaker 5: about this, So handle yourselves accordingly. I mean, I mean
• 26:42
  Speaker 5: that in the most loving way possible. Right now, we're
• 26:44
  Speaker 5: talking about our point of view, and so from our
• 26:48
  Speaker 5: point of view, and then shifting to being the parent
• 26:53
  Speaker 5: in the situation. How are you navigating that space? So Daddy,
• 27:02
  Speaker 5: first of all, one thing I wanted to believe wholeheartedly
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: that he's always my family, always my family. I thought
• 27:13
  Speaker 5: about it like this, and it's I put it in
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: my mindset. When I got with him and we had
• 27:22
  Speaker 5: three children, we became family. You get mad at your children,
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: you get mad at your sister. Ain't some people I'm
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: talking about me. I get mad at my sister. Get
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: made my dad and mama? Whoever, I have not exiled
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: them out my life. How dare I excel a man
• 27:41
  Speaker 5: that I shared d n A with.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: We gotta look.
• 27:51
  Speaker 5: Was we got tree, They got the same Mama and daddy.
• 27:58
  Speaker 5: We have three together. So I though it was it is.
• 28:03
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna say, well was. It is a struggle. Some
• 28:05
  Speaker 5: things I am struggling with, as far as separating the
• 28:12
  Speaker 5: wife from him and learning to be the mother of
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: his children, even though I was already. It's a different
• 28:20
  Speaker 5: space now.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: I'm learning two keep him in.
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: The I want to keep him in the family, except
• 28:35
  Speaker 5: him in my family, because he's always my family.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: I want my.
• 28:38
  Speaker 5: Children to know that mommy and Daddy might not be together.
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: But my me and Daddy love each other. You were
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: creating in love, and that's one thing I'll bring up.
• 28:47
  Speaker 5: I told me something, told me something to win, and
• 28:51
  Speaker 5: we were a family winding. She said, because our parents divorced.
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: I don't know if you have a memory because with
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: twenty women's apart. But that's that's that's a big difference. Yeah,
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: it's a big.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: Jump in zero to five, for sure.
• 29:03
  Speaker 5: But I think when the divorce was finalized, I was
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: five or six. I don't ever remember Mama and Daddy
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: being together happy. My earliest memory is the memory of
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: them is arguing, and I remember, like I want to say,
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: that was one of my earliest memories. I don't remember
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: my ma and Daddy having a good time. So my
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: idea of marriage was this brokenness, right. And our aunt
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: likes to take a lot of pictures, so she would
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: have pictures of us on vacation and holidays and all
• 29:38
  Speaker 5: of that. And I remember she sat up me down
• 29:40
  Speaker 5: at that at that table and she said, this was
• 29:42
  Speaker 5: before my divorce. She said, you were creating in love.
• 29:48
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna remind you of it. She was like, look
• 29:50
  Speaker 5: at these pictures, Look at these pictures. And it was
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: a picture of me. I don't think you were in
• 29:55
  Speaker 5: a picture. It was me just in Mamma and daddy
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: and that picture when I say, you otherod that picture
• 30:01
  Speaker 5: and I just boohooed and cry because I was holding
• 30:03
  Speaker 5: both of their legs, like ooh, they were together. I
• 30:05
  Speaker 5: don't remember that. Yeah, but her reminded me that though
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: they're not together, you are loved. You were created in love.
• 30:14
  Speaker 5: Your parents loved you, They loved each other. This wasn't
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: the dysfunction. He ain't pick up nobody on the side
• 30:20
  Speaker 5: of the road.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, pregnant. You know what I mean.
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: That that right there gave me so much hope, so
• 30:28
  Speaker 5: much love, you know what I mean. So I want
• 30:30
  Speaker 5: my children to know that. You know, my oldest has
• 30:32
  Speaker 5: seen me and her dad transition like we. She's seen arguing.
• 30:36
  Speaker 5: She's seen this, but she knows that we love each other.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:41
  Speaker 5: My youngest two have seen little They hadn't even seen now,
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: the youngest who hadn't even seen me invant argue like
• 30:47
  Speaker 5: at all.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: They have not seen us argue at all.
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: So it's interesting because they're confused because we get along somewhere.
• 30:55
  Speaker 5: But I keep reminding them, like mammy and daddy are
• 30:57
  Speaker 5: not together. Mami and daddy are not together, but they're like,
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: oh you look.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: My middle baby's like, uh, you better hum.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You love love my mama,
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: you know she They gonna see that, you know what
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: I mean?
• 31:10
  Speaker 5: And I want them and even if we get in
• 31:12
  Speaker 5: future relationships, when we get in future relationships, I want
• 31:15
  Speaker 5: them to understand.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: I'm a I'm a love them. Yeah.
• 31:18
  Speaker 5: You can't nothing you can do about it. He might
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: get on my last nerve, but he my family. Yeah,
• 31:23
  Speaker 5: it ain't nothing. That's my baby. Daddy ain't next. I
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: wouldn't do for him. So I am appreciative of the space.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 31:35
  Speaker 5: You know, you either run towards the thing that you
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: went through or you run away from it. Yeah, and
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: I've been doing a lot of run away from my trauma.
• 31:43
  Speaker 5: Like I'm like, I don't want that for my family.
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: I don't want that for my my children. I don't
• 31:46
  Speaker 5: want that or whatever. And I'm letting them know, like
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: you are so loved. We you know, we that's what
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: we still have family dinals, We still you know, birthday parties,
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: we do it.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: I ain't know she if you want to do something separate.
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: That's on you shopping, But these coins, I could say, yeah,
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: and we can go together, you know what I'm saying.
• 32:02
  Speaker 5: So I want to be like them other people, you know, Yeah,
• 32:08
  Speaker 5: having the whole family, they really do that.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: I think that it can go.
• 32:18
  Speaker 5: It can go the way you wanted to go. Like
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: I thought divorce meant anger. I thought divorce meant separation
• 32:25
  Speaker 5: from the whole family. I thought divorce meant you had
• 32:28
  Speaker 5: to pick a side that part.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: You know what divorce means to me? What does the
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: vorce mean to you? Now? It means peace? Talk about it.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: It means peace. I don't have to lay at night.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Not ain't to be in wonder what you're doing, who
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: you're doing to week. I ain't gotta the moment.
• 32:47
  Speaker 5: I gotta worry about how you treating me and how
• 32:49
  Speaker 5: would I deserve it. I don't worry about me and
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: this season.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah don't.
• 32:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, love my kids down. Yeah, but this this is
• 32:56
  Speaker 5: the woman killed. You have to understand. I was when
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: he turned in twenty one, when I had my first child.
• 33:02
  Speaker 5: It was twenty two when I got married.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: I was a baby. Yeah.
• 33:06
  Speaker 5: I've literally never been single from high school I dated,
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: and I was at seventeen when I vowed, and I said,
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: next man, I'm with it's gonna be, It's gonna be
• 33:16
  Speaker 5: my husband. I said that at seventeen. I marry him
• 33:18
  Speaker 5: at twenty two. Now, mind you, I'm not gonna say.
• 33:21
  Speaker 5: I'm not gonna add like you know what I'm saying.
• 33:22
  Speaker 5: All the times was bad, We had good times. That's
• 33:24
  Speaker 5: my best friends, my homeboy, definitely my homeboy. But as
• 33:29
  Speaker 5: far as was he ready to be a husband? Was
• 33:34
  Speaker 5: he prepared to be a husband? Did he know what
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: that looked like? Did he understand that role? Did he
• 33:40
  Speaker 5: understand what he was supposed to do as a provider,
• 33:43
  Speaker 5: as a as a confidante, as no and things I
• 33:49
  Speaker 5: did not understand until I got into it.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: I thought. I was like you, Oh, we had a baby.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: That's the hardest thing you could do, right, put a
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: ring on your fingersigned paperwork. All that. I thought that.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: I thought it was gonna.
• 33:59
  Speaker 6: Be a break.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: Please, It was not. It was not.
• 34:03
  Speaker 5: So you have to have in a marriage. You have
• 34:06
  Speaker 5: to have two kinter parts who are willing to fight
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: for each other.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, regardless of if you mad at him, they made
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: a mistake. All of that.
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: Your your marriage is your marriage, so what works for
• 34:17
  Speaker 5: you works for you. But it got to a point
• 34:20
  Speaker 5: where things weren't working for me, and it kept not
• 34:23
  Speaker 5: working for me, and I kept forgiving, and I kept crying,
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: and I kept pleading, and I kept praying, and God
• 34:28
  Speaker 5: kept showing me I'm trying to show you this. This
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: ain't your season. This all right, the Mayor season over
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: for you.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: That was hard.
• 34:37
  Speaker 5: I felt like a failure. I felt like I wasn't enough.
• 34:40
  Speaker 5: I felt like, dang, I did exactly what I said
• 34:43
  Speaker 5: I wasn't gonna do. This is embarrassing. I thought I
• 34:46
  Speaker 5: was gonna fix that man. I was gonna come and
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: sprinkle my fear dust on him and fix them. No,
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: because you kimble, I'm kindled. So I'm thankful to God
• 34:58
  Speaker 5: that I'm over.
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: The hurdle.
• 35:01
  Speaker 5: I ain't gonna say over it. But the last last
• 35:06
  Speaker 5: year was extremely hard for me. Yeah, extremely hard transition
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: for me, not being able to staying ten told down
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: about my man, my.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: Man, my man. He wasn't my man. I work, Yeah,
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: he want my man.
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: And then I went through a whole nother grieving process
• 35:22
  Speaker 5: when the divorce was final because I didn't think.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: I didn't think it was gonna happen.
• 35:25
  Speaker 5: Honestly, when it first I was like, oh, yeah, we
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: gonna have I seen he's gonna get it together. It
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: didn't happen. It didn't happen. I had to be okay
• 35:32
  Speaker 5: with that, and so now it's I'm focused on loving me.
• 35:38
  Speaker 5: Loving me has been the most rewarding thing.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: That has happened during this process. What does loving Kendall
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: look like? Choosing me?
• 35:51
  Speaker 5: I never chose myself. I'm what you call the people pleaed.
• 35:55
  Speaker 5: I wanted to be everybody else be pleased around me,
• 35:56
  Speaker 5: but I ain't been pleased. I didn't know how to
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: say no. I except the things, especially in my marriage,
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: that I would have never accepted before, just to keep
• 36:03
  Speaker 5: a man around, just to keep them, standing up for myself,
• 36:07
  Speaker 5: saying you deserve more, not settling because at the end
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: of the day, I know me right now I do.
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: But before it used to be like a question.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: Mark Am I good? Am I nice?
• 36:24
  Speaker 6: Am I kind?
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: And people said be like, Okay, do you find yourself
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: defending that? Yeah? I do. I did for sure in
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: situations I definitely like I did this and I did that.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: I don't have to prove myself. I know who I am.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Do you think that's what kept you in the marriage?
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: For sure?
• 36:48
  Speaker 5: For sure, I didn't feel like a good wife. I
• 36:50
  Speaker 5: didn't feel like a good mother. So it's more like
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: proving myself a lot, not even just to him as family,
• 36:58
  Speaker 5: that's a whole nother's whole another subject for another day.
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: But yeah that yeah, even just proven myself that I'm
• 37:05
  Speaker 5: this and I'm that, and you know, I already knew
• 37:08
  Speaker 5: I was those things. I don't know why I felt
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: the need to prove myself, but that that that comes
• 37:12
  Speaker 5: in security as a child that I didn't have. Yeah,
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: you know, so I say that in confidence, I'm building
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: the woman kindle. Yeah, I've never experienced a woman kindle.
• 37:26
  Speaker 5: Like what do I like? What do I want to
• 37:28
  Speaker 5: eat today?
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah? I like being by myself.
• 37:32
  Speaker 5: I want to watch this on TV like that part
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: right there, Oh my gosh, and just enjoying just me.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: Like I said, that's why this food content is.
• 37:46
  Speaker 5: Severe rewarding, because like I'm getting to meet new people. Yeah,
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: I'm getting to be in new spaces and going to
• 37:51
  Speaker 5: new restaurants and trying things I probably wouldn't try before
• 37:54
  Speaker 5: or didn't like. Experience the things I wouldn't have probably
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: experienced as a wife, just being honest, Like, you know,
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: being single with kids is different. Yeah, sure, but I'm
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: just experiencing like a whole other side of Kendle. You know,
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: I still have my struggles. Yeah, it's almost like Kendle
• 38:11
  Speaker 5: tried it. Because Kendall's trying, Kendle, I am.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: I'm trying myself every day, every single day. I'm trying.
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: I'm trying to be a better, better me to me
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: because Babe, I was so mean to myself. I used
• 38:27
  Speaker 5: to be so mean to myself. I was so harsh
• 38:29
  Speaker 5: on myself growing up, hearing you tall, you skinny, you,
• 38:34
  Speaker 5: You're not enough, You're not your hair, I ain't long enough,
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: your heir. You know you bay all headed, you ain't pretty,
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: got big ays, big nose, big look. I heard that
• 38:45
  Speaker 5: all my life. Heard it wasn't enough, you know. So
• 38:49
  Speaker 5: I struggled with confidence. I always heard Kendle like, people
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: like to be around Kendle or whatever.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: So that's what the people pleasing King with.
• 38:57
  Speaker 5: It's like, Okay, y'all like to be around me, So
• 38:58
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna do this to make you want be around me.
• 39:00
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna do this to make you stay.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna be it. So I'm
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: gonna lay down with you. I'm gonna do it. Yeah.
• 39:06
  Speaker 5: But it's interesting that both of us have the have
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: an experience, you know, the struggle with people pleasing. But
• 39:13
  Speaker 5: you say you wanted you wanted to make sure that
• 39:17
  Speaker 5: people stay. I just wanted people to come like So
• 39:21
  Speaker 5: that's that's where my people pleasing came from. I just
• 39:24
  Speaker 5: I wanted people to like me, you know what I'm saying,
• 39:26
  Speaker 5: Because people just saw the residue of my experiences at
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: the home, like responsibility and you know, not having the
• 39:38
  Speaker 5: room to be validated like I probably needed to be validated,
• 39:43
  Speaker 5: not having the room to just be outside. All I
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: knew was the doer Jessica, you know what I'm saying.
• 39:50
  Speaker 5: So it was like, Okay, if I do this, maybe
• 39:52
  Speaker 5: that makes them like me. And in most cases it
• 39:55
  Speaker 5: still wasn't enough, you know. And so I think that's interesting.
• 39:59
  Speaker 5: And so with you being in a single space, I
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: love the fact that I don't Okay, let me maybe
• 40:06
  Speaker 5: let me preferent it. I don't love the fact that
• 40:08
  Speaker 5: you divorced. I'm not I'm not saying that what I am. Yeah,
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: but one thing I thought about that today, Kendle, is
• 40:18
  Speaker 5: that we've never been single at the same time we haven't.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: We've never been single.
• 40:24
  Speaker 5: So can you talk about people always are they're curious
• 40:28
  Speaker 5: about our relationship and they was like, oh my gosh,
• 40:30
  Speaker 5: y'all sounded like y'all look like y'all like y'all have fun.
• 40:34
  Speaker 5: Can we talk about, you know, how we've had to
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: work to this point and what that looks like for
• 40:39
  Speaker 5: us now, Like what's your perspective on how we've developed
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: as not just sisters.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: But friends, Like you're my friend. Like I almost said
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: something you said the other thing, But yeah, I remember
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: the tears you cried at my wedding. Buh. My sister
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: thought she was gonna lose me, And.
• 41:15
  Speaker 5: I remember being confused because even it's not just you
• 41:20
  Speaker 5: and my best friend Jasmine. We have gotten a lot
• 41:24
  Speaker 5: closer during this process too, even though look, you couldn't
• 41:26
  Speaker 5: even make us know what closer because that's my that's
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: my girl.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I didn't realize.
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: The distance that it can naturally have because I would
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: try to if y'all knew, like my my ex husband
• 41:43
  Speaker 5: was the third wheel a lot.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: He would be with the like what were going to
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: da da or whatever?
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: They be looking up like I remember once I me
• 41:49
  Speaker 5: and my friend went to the casino and.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: He was there. She was just looking like why he here?
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: And I'm just like, I'm like, I'm trying to include
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: everybody in my life.
• 41:58
  Speaker 5: It's just different. Yeah, y'all didn't. I started at twenty two,
• 42:02
  Speaker 5: so y'all didn't get to get the youthful like we're grown,
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: we can go have drinks and da da da dah,
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: and I got to run back and be with my
• 42:07
  Speaker 5: husband Da da da da. So I think the transition
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: was easy because you walked it with me the entire time.
• 42:16
  Speaker 5: You were there at the wedding, You were there when
• 42:19
  Speaker 5: I was happy, you were there when I was building
• 42:20
  Speaker 5: a family, you was there when I was.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: Building a career.
• 42:22
  Speaker 5: And you also walked me through the separation and divorced,
• 42:26
  Speaker 5: the fights, the all of that. So I think that's
• 42:28
  Speaker 5: what made the transition easier because you understood where I was.
• 42:32
  Speaker 5: And I think you understand the genuineness of the friendship,
• 42:38
  Speaker 5: the genuineness of our relationship, our sisterhood, because though.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: We went through.
• 42:47
  Speaker 5: Different phases, me and him, me and you went through
• 42:52
  Speaker 5: different phases as well, and I think me honestly, I'm
• 42:57
  Speaker 5: not taking trying to take credit for for me allowing
• 43:00
  Speaker 5: you to be in this space because a lot of
• 43:02
  Speaker 5: people shut down.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: And you saw me ugly. Yeah, it was hard seeing
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: you ugly.
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: It was I'm gonna have to buy it was hard
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: seeing you ugly and experiencing that because this is the
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: part about being.
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: In relationship with God.
• 43:32
  Speaker 5: That's the struggle for me, because when you say I
• 43:36
  Speaker 5: believe in God and I trust in God, that means
• 43:39
  Speaker 5: every part of my being has to be submissive or
• 43:43
  Speaker 5: submitted to what God wants me to do. And seeing
• 43:48
  Speaker 5: my seeing you hurt does something to my inside that
• 43:57
  Speaker 5: it's unexplainable. And so while people are thinking that I'm
• 44:03
  Speaker 5: calm or I have the right language, you'll tell I
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: hear you tell me that the West side of Birmingham
• 44:14
  Speaker 5: is being suppressed. I mean, I don't think I have
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: language for what I'm experiencing internally, and so I'm fighting
• 44:23
  Speaker 5: and I'm also hearing the Holy Spirit say wait. And
• 44:28
  Speaker 5: the time that we're talking about when things exploded. Rights
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: supposed we don't have to get into it, but things
• 44:34
  Speaker 5: exploded one day while I was, you know, in my bag,
• 44:39
  Speaker 5: I was in my opportunity.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: And thank God for desil Ray because.
• 44:48
  Speaker 5: Because desil Ray was in the moment, she was, she
• 44:52
  Speaker 5: was there and she was contacted. So because we know
• 44:58
  Speaker 5: that I still have to to manage the suppressing of
• 45:02
  Speaker 5: the of where I come from and what's naturally embedded
• 45:06
  Speaker 5: in me. I thank God that she was level headed enough.
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: And then I'm listening to what's going on.
• 45:15
  Speaker 6: Let's go.
• 45:15
  Speaker 5: I don't ask what am I asking questions for? I
• 45:18
  Speaker 5: don't have not one question what's going on with my sister.
• 45:23
  Speaker 5: I need to find her. I need to get to her.
• 45:25
  Speaker 5: But releasing trusting God enough that he has you is
• 45:29
  Speaker 5: the is the hardest part because you whoa stop crying.
• 45:36
  Speaker 5: You have been the most consistent thing, the most consistent
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: person in my life, good, bad, ugly, And to have
• 45:47
  Speaker 5: something try to or adjusting my consistency like I take
• 45:56
  Speaker 5: it personally because I am you and you are me
• 45:59
  Speaker 5: like that, that's I don't know. I don't want you
• 46:03
  Speaker 5: not to be okay, I don't. I wish I could
• 46:05
  Speaker 5: put myself in the positions like I want to go
• 46:07
  Speaker 5: through this for you, And so.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: The being being that I had to release control.
• 46:15
  Speaker 5: That's been my my biggest lesson in this new season
• 46:19
  Speaker 5: of our, our sisterhood, our friendship. And I feel like
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: not only when when I released control, I also allowed
• 46:29
  Speaker 5: you into the most inner courts of my being because
• 46:32
  Speaker 5: I was being a big sister. I thought being a
• 46:36
  Speaker 5: big sister was being being perfect, being the example being
• 46:42
  Speaker 5: not allowing you to see me miss up and in
• 46:45
  Speaker 5: the more I'm not.
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: I'm out of this season. Thank you, Lord Desiree. You
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: gotta you got a hoot in a hollow. Jesus, this
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: season was trash, but mam not saying season with trash,
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: it was very developmental de Jesus.
• 47:08
  Speaker 5: But allowing you to not only see me in that,
• 47:14
  Speaker 5: but really walk me through that. I feel like that
• 47:18
  Speaker 5: was my change because the way you it was about
• 47:23
  Speaker 5: a man, y'all, it was about a man. So it
• 47:27
  Speaker 5: was you know, you allowing me to be naked and
• 47:33
  Speaker 5: I say, hey, you got a damp on your booty.
• 47:35
  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. I know I got a
• 47:37
  Speaker 5: dimp on my booty. They don't need you to keep
• 47:39
  Speaker 5: pointing it out. You just like loved me through it.
• 47:42
  Speaker 5: And so I feel like we're in this. You're not
• 47:47
  Speaker 5: seeing me as a protector anymore. I'm not seeing you
• 47:50
  Speaker 5: as my little sister. It's like a woman to woman
• 47:53
  Speaker 5: things like I call you like hey, good, like what's up?
• 47:57
  Speaker 7: Good?
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: Like I know you my sister. That's I thank god.
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: I would not trade that.
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: For the world. But seeing you as a woman has
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: been the most rewarded. And I had to.
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: Remove myself outter, like remove myself and say, hey, we're
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: not in that era of you having to fix and
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: groom and do all the things. You're not in that
• 48:20
  Speaker 5: era no more. You can really be her sister. You
• 48:24
  Speaker 5: can be her friend, you can be her confidant, and
• 48:27
  Speaker 5: it still be okay.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: She's not gonna look down upon you.
• 48:30
  Speaker 5: And I think that I was afraid of that. I
• 48:33
  Speaker 5: thought that you were gonna look down upon me for
• 48:37
  Speaker 5: not being perfect.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: So here's the thing.
• 48:39
  Speaker 5: You said something, and I think I already I think
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: I knew it, but I didn't speak on it about
• 48:46
  Speaker 5: you wanting to be perfect, And I think that was
• 48:49
  Speaker 5: the disconnect, because I wanted to be in your business yeah,
• 48:53
  Speaker 5: and you'd be like yeah, like no, I want to
• 48:56
  Speaker 5: know what's going on. Like I feel like I would
• 48:59
  Speaker 5: see you more as a human. So it made me
• 49:00
  Speaker 5: be more judgmental of certain relationships you had because you
• 49:04
  Speaker 5: thought you're supposed to be perfect.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: I'm like, look at them, look at him just going
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: through it like everybody else, you know what I mean.
• 49:09
  Speaker 5: So that's how I felt about when you allowed me
• 49:14
  Speaker 5: into a space, and it was just like surface level.
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah when it when that surface broke by b it
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: broke you. It was how it was very deep take
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: me through that, Okay.
• 49:30
  Speaker 5: So yeah, I appreciate you being vulnerable to allow me
• 49:37
  Speaker 5: in this space because I remember we was talking.
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: I was talking. We was at uh I think one
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: of I think this is the first time maybe we recorded.
• 49:45
  Speaker 5: Yeah, we went to the Mexican Respirats and you were
• 49:47
  Speaker 5: just talking so freely in front of the desert ray
• 49:49
  Speaker 5: and I was like, I ain't never heard that. And
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: I was like feeling some type of way and I
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: was just like, well, I was on it one day.
• 49:57
  Speaker 5: I don't be there, I guess.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 49:58
  Speaker 5: But I she ain't knowing the woman just because not
• 50:03
  Speaker 5: big Sul. Yeah, Big Sul, Big sister don't play by me. Okay,
• 50:07
  Speaker 5: she will run up on you will. My sister does
• 50:10
  Speaker 5: not play. But you ever want to see that side
• 50:12
  Speaker 5: mess with her sisters. Okay, I'm telling you it's difficult.
• 50:16
  Speaker 5: It's I don't I don't even want to call it
• 50:18
  Speaker 5: mama bear. But the level of suppression I have to
• 50:21
  Speaker 5: go through because I really don't play about the people
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: I love, and I really love y'all.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: On a whole different level.
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: We have another sister, Kirsten, and I think also with
• 50:31
  Speaker 5: her seeing my vulnerability and her seeing certain things, I
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: think that that broke.
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: Me as well.
• 50:39
  Speaker 5: Because Kirsten was never supposed to see me in the
• 50:41
  Speaker 5: way she saw me this past year. She was in
• 50:44
  Speaker 5: my mind right in my mind, she was never supposed
• 50:47
  Speaker 5: to see me in my most naked place. She was
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: never supposed to see me, miss up. I was supposed
• 50:51
  Speaker 5: to be her safe space. I'm supposed to spoil her.
• 50:53
  Speaker 5: I'm supposed to you know, I'm supposed to be her
• 50:56
  Speaker 5: the one she go to the ride or die. She's
• 51:00
  Speaker 5: was supposed to be mad at me, baby. This year,
• 51:02
  Speaker 5: the Courson seeing me naked, she'd have been mad at me.
• 51:04
  Speaker 5: She almost cut me off, like like baby, We've been
• 51:09
  Speaker 5: I've been through it with both of y'all.
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: But to be able to say, like no, my sisters
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: rock with me, Like, damn, no, they rock with me.
• 51:17
  Speaker 5: I can call them right now. It ain't it ain't nothing,
• 51:20
  Speaker 5: you know, and not because I'm y'all. Y'all really like me,
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: And I think that was the biggest thing for me
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: to comprehend, like will they like me outside of me
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: not being needed? Will they appreciate or value me beyond
• 51:39
  Speaker 5: justa what can you do for me?
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: I didn't. I didn't trust it. I see, I didn't
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: trust it. Also been.
• 51:49
  Speaker 5: People have crossed you in ways where and I can
• 51:52
  Speaker 5: get this. Yeah, I can get where you.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: Feel like.
• 51:56
  Speaker 5: As soon as I open up somebody they crossed me
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: and that you know, so my sisters do it?
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: Dean with who am I have? Yeah? So I get that. Yeah,
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: I get that.
• 52:04
  Speaker 5: Well, I'm glad we're not there anymore. I'm really grateful
• 52:10
  Speaker 5: for you, kill and I'm very very proud of you.
• 52:12
  Speaker 5: Like you've been transparent about you know, like your divorce online,
• 52:18
  Speaker 5: you've been transparent about with your kids. You've been transparent
• 52:21
  Speaker 5: about Creed having autism. You've been transparent about so much
• 52:24
  Speaker 5: that you.
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: Would have never done, like two three years ago, you
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: would have never done that. And so the woman that you.
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: You're becoming. It's just so rewarding to see.
• 52:36
  Speaker 5: And I'm just looking forward to, you know, just developing
• 52:40
  Speaker 5: with you in this single season, us holding each other,
• 52:43
  Speaker 5: like we get to hold each other.
• 52:44
  Speaker 7: Accountable with us, you know, you be like, that's a ray.
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: What's up? Man?
• 52:59
  Speaker 5: This has been it's been beautiful. Like I love you know,
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: I'm in spaces. I love the spaces that the Lord
• 53:06
  Speaker 5: allows me to be in. Most of the times, I'm
• 53:09
  Speaker 5: quiet in those spaces because I just liked I like
• 53:11
  Speaker 5: to watch and observe. And I can say that these
• 53:14
  Speaker 5: last couple of years, watching you guys develop your relationship
• 53:18
  Speaker 5: has been really beautiful. And it's just because I think
• 53:22
  Speaker 5: you both have gotten to a point where you realize, like,
• 53:25
  Speaker 5: I'm not perfect and I can't do this thing on
• 53:27
  Speaker 5: my own, and it comes with a level of surrender.
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 53:30
  Speaker 5: What better place to be in than surrendering and falling
• 53:34
  Speaker 5: in the hands of the person that made you, which
• 53:36
  Speaker 5: is the Lord. Right, And so what I but I
• 53:39
  Speaker 5: just kept hearing as you guys are talking about man,
• 53:41
  Speaker 5: I actually like you as my friend. Yes, you guys
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: are sisters, but even if you think about our relationship
• 53:46
  Speaker 5: with the Lord, one of the most intimate places that
• 53:49
  Speaker 5: we can be with him is friend.
• 53:51
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 53:51
  Speaker 5: You know, that's a whole nother level of intimacy when
• 53:55
  Speaker 5: you can go from you know, being these different titles
• 53:58
  Speaker 5: for each other till you can be like a friend
• 54:01
  Speaker 5: like Lauren, like you, like a true friend. You really
• 54:03
  Speaker 5: allowed to see you naked, in vulnerable and things like that.
• 54:06
  Speaker 5: And so it's really been beautiful as you both have
• 54:10
  Speaker 5: begun to come into your womandom.
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, to be able to you know, peel.
• 54:14
  Speaker 5: Back some of those some of those layers of you know,
• 54:17
  Speaker 5: hurt and trauma and things like that that you have
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: had to put this wall up, you know. But the
• 54:21
  Speaker 5: Lord has you in the space now where you can
• 54:23
  Speaker 5: walk in your soft lady era and be okay with
• 54:27
  Speaker 5: with who you are naturally designed to be. And I
• 54:29
  Speaker 5: heard Kendle you said that I'm surprised that to see
• 54:32
  Speaker 5: us where we are now creatively what the truth is
• 54:35
  Speaker 5: both of you, that's.
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: Who That's who you are.
• 54:37
  Speaker 5: You know, it is parents. I know our parents do
• 54:41
  Speaker 5: the best that that they can, you know, with what
• 54:43
  Speaker 5: they have, but we also have when we come into
• 54:46
  Speaker 5: a knowledge of a thing, we have a responsibility to
• 54:49
  Speaker 5: now be able to stowar it and cultivate what we
• 54:51
  Speaker 5: know has been put in there. And so it's really
• 54:53
  Speaker 5: beautiful that you recognize that. And you're doing that with
• 54:56
  Speaker 5: your kids too, and you have to do it differently
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  Speaker 5: with each one of them because they're all different. And
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  Speaker 5: so what you're doing is breaking generational curses. Both of you, guys,
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  Speaker 5: are breaking generational curses from your bloodline in just different ways,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, And so that your children
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  Speaker 5: and your children's children and your children's children don't have
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  Speaker 5: to deal with these same things kids. So as your responsibility,
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  Speaker 5: your responsibility to have to go through these processes of
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  Speaker 5: breaking and trials and tribulations so that you know the
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  Speaker 5: blood line is good, because the blood line is good, right,
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  Speaker 5: And that's why it feels so hard, because you're breaking
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  Speaker 5: literally something that's not traditional. And so even when we
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  Speaker 5: consider like generational curses or generational blessings, something different is happening.
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  Speaker 5: There's a shift that's happening. And when you understand the
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  Speaker 5: shifts requires sacrifice. Child who want to do something different,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. We say that we want
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  Speaker 5: to do something different, but the requirement of doing something
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  Speaker 5: different it's first being submitted, it to be a sacrificial being,
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  Speaker 5: like a living up.
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  Speaker 2: How am I living and still being cut? That's crazy,
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  Speaker 2: that's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: You feel me like and so being able to do
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  Speaker 5: it with you, kindle. When you were talking about how
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  Speaker 5: we were talking about friends the scripture and I think
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  Speaker 5: this is scription correct me if I'm wrong where it says,
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  Speaker 5: you know, a friend steaks closer to you than the
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  Speaker 5: brother and the fact that we're blood and we found
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  Speaker 5: the friend line. Yeah, oh we're dangerous and we talk
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  Speaker 5: about it all the time. Yeah, folks ain't got it.
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  Speaker 2: No, people real deal hate their siblings out here. And
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  Speaker 2: it's said, and like I said, not that we don't
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  Speaker 2: go through it. No, we go through it. We get
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  Speaker 2: through it. You better come like that.
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  Speaker 8: You like youacher And we had a little on that.
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  Speaker 2: Clori girl, I have thoroughly enjoyed you.
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  Speaker 5: But you already know what time it is. It's time, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: She's still she's still killed. Though, if you want to
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  Speaker 2: think about it with me.
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  Speaker 5: What time is it is time for you to leave
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  Speaker 5: your your closing remarks so as a traditional, just as
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  Speaker 5: the podcast, if they didn't hear anything that we said today,
• 57:28
  Speaker 5: what would you like to leave the people, whether you
• 57:31
  Speaker 5: came only with your heart or or not, how would
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  Speaker 5: you like to close us out?
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  Speaker 2: Ah?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I want to say, specifically to that woman who
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  Speaker 5: you think that you're not seeing.
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  Speaker 2: You're always doing.
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  Speaker 5: You're doing for your kids, you're doing for whoever you.
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  Speaker 2: Work for, work with. Stop and look at yourself in
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  Speaker 2: the mirror. Stop right now. I know, I know you
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  Speaker 2: watch it on your phone.
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  Speaker 5: Stop and look at yourself in the mirror and tell
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  Speaker 5: yourself you're enough. Tell yourself that you're bigger than your problem.
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  Speaker 5: Tell yourself that you're beautiful, Tell yourself that you're worthy.
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  Speaker 5: Tell yourself that can't no man, frog, dog hog, tell
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  Speaker 5: you that you ain't where you supposed to be. Okay,
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  Speaker 5: I have to tell myself that every day I look
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  Speaker 5: in the mirror and I say, hey, Ken Doe, you
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  Speaker 5: are so beautiful. Sounds very very vain, but no, I
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  Speaker 5: mean it on the inside and the outside, because the
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  Speaker 5: world will break us down until we can't breathe, until
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  Speaker 5: we cannot breathe.
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  Speaker 2: But I want you to feel it, like.
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  Speaker 5: When I tell you to tell yourself that don't no
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  Speaker 5: matter what what's going on between your kids, your ex husband, husband, husband,
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  Speaker 5: look like I'm telling you because I know right it's
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  Speaker 5: gonna be okay.
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  Speaker 2: You're beautiful, you're loved, and you're a woman. You that girl.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sorry I had to say it to the ladies.
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  Speaker 5: I ain't here for the men. I'm here for the
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  Speaker 5: lady today.
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  Speaker 2: Right, girl. I love you. I love you too. Sisters,
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  Speaker 2: your sisters. We stay together.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, we make up one big family, but we don't
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  Speaker 5: look the same as we do different y'all, different.
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  Speaker 2: Color girl with Cheetah girls, Cheetah sisters. And on that note,
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  Speaker 2: until next time, until next week, remember life could be
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  Speaker 2: more much more simple if you just asked, see y'all later.
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  Speaker 1: If you're after that, thank thank you for tuning in
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  Speaker 9: I know I won't see you back until next week,
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  Speaker 9: but until then, remember to love always yourself and always
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  Speaker 9: say thank God.
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  Speaker 2: For one another day.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey,
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  Speaker 4: pray thank God for another day. Hey Hey, I'm just
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  Speaker 4: thankful for another day. Hey Hey another day? Oh another day? Wise,
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  Speaker 4: another day to get it right, another day to rise up,
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  Speaker 4: another day living another day. We love ones I always
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  Speaker 4: remember hold it down for a ball one, yeh,