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Why Do Narcissists Love To Brag So Much? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're answering the question, why do narcissistic
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  people brag so Dang go much like why do they feel the need to
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  brag and talk about all their accomplishments and all the
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  things that they have and all the things that they have done?
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  That's what happened in today. Y'all, If you're new here, my
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  name is Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  Oh, haven't put, hadn't did the intro in a minute.
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  I needed to bring it back for the day.
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  Y'all. What is going on, folks?
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  Hope you're having a very beautiful day today on this.
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  What's today? Wednesday.
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  Yeah, so we're talking about the braggadocious narcissistic
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  person. And let's just let y'all know
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  the narcissist that brag and don't brag can the brag can both
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  be overt and covert narcissistic people.
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  Overt and covert, it doesn't matter.
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  Overt narcissist brag out loud, covert narcissist brag quietly.
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  They just show you. They show up with the they show
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  up with the Louie on and just make sure that you know, it's
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  Louie. You know what I mean?
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  What's going on? Listen, the intro, I got to
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  bring it back here every once in a while.
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  I'll bring it back every once in a while.
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  But yeah, there are going to be a lot of braggadocious
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  narcissistic people. And yes, let me say this.
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  Let me get this out the way first.
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  Just because someone brags does not make them a narcissist.
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  Come on, y'all. I think everybody can.
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  I think everybody knows that, right?
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  Just because somebody brags does not make them a narcissist.
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  Is it going to be narcissistic? Yeah, possibly, but it's not a
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  narcissist. What's going on, girl?
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  This is what happens. So a lot of narcissists brag
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  because they can. There you have it.
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  Because we can. Yeah, there you have it.
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  They get. They brag because they have it.
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  They want you to know that they are the best or that they have
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  the best. And a lot of times, I think a
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  lot of people understand this. It sometimes, a lot of times it
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  comes from the internal insecurities.
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  It comes from feeling like we are not enough.
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  Like if I don't feel like I am enough, I need to brag to let
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  you know that I am right. I thought I need to brag to let
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  you know that I am enough. So I'm the greatest, so that I'm
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  the best again. It's just like, well, I don't
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  have whatever I have again. I don't know what to do with
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  this situation, right, Right, Am I right?
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  Am I right? That's the mentality that a lot
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  of narcissistic people have. Like they feel like they have to
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  let everybody know that they are the best or that they have the
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  best in order to bump themselves up in order to feel less shame,
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  in order to kind of counteract what's going on internally,
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  literally, like really. And yes, who's that is?
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  Elaine says. They like to brag about things
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  they don't really have. Yes, sometimes they brag about
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  stuff that other people have done.
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  Good one. Sometimes they brag about stuff
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  they, they, they don't have, or they brag on other people's
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  accomplishments, like because they meant to make themselves
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  feel better. Just like, well, I'm bragging
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  like, well, my wife, she's a, a astrophysicist.
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  You know, I helped her get a degree.
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  I took her to school and dropped her off at school and colleges
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  and stuff like that supported her, did all that good stuff.
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  So I got an astrophysicist baddie.
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  What do you have? Whole time behind the scenes
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  they tried to hold, they tried to hold their partner back.
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  The astrophysicist wife in that scenario, the narcissist was
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  trying to hold them back. Didn't they told told them every
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  day that they were stupid and that nobody really nobody smart
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  does Astro becomes an astrophysicist right.
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  They held them back, but now they're clapping.
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  They're happy and whatnot. Shout out to you, Brett.
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  She said Brett fit says I'm so proud of how far you've come and
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  consistently you've been. It's been years.
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  Ain't a girl. It's been years.
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  You're rocking me for a long time.
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  I appreciate you. But yeah, they'll brag on other
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  people's accomplishments. Other they brag on their kids
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  accomplishments even though they're jealous of their kids
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  and try to hold those children back.
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  Just because they brag on something does not mean that
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  they fully support it or that they're or that they're actually
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  behind it. Lisa says my ex used to brag
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  that his kids love him more than their mother.
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  Weird AF. That's a that is a little weird.
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  I ain't gonna lie to you. I ain't gonna lie to you.
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  That is weird, you know, but that's, again, that's internal
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  insecurities. Hey guys, just so you know, my
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  kids love me more than they love their mom.
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  Messy. Ain't that, ain't that, ain't
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  that super messy? Ain't it seem like a super mess
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  That's just to me out. That's just for me right there.
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  It seem like it's super messy to say something like that, but
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  this is right here. If a narcissist can't brag on
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  you, if they can't brag on you, they make, they make it seem
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  like you make their life harder. They'll discard you.
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  Cat memes. Cat's memes says my father only
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  valued my sister for her beauty and athletic accomplishments and
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  me for my academic accomplishment.
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  Accomplishments. Yeah.
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  They value you. What you can bring to their life
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  right there. You doing good even though they
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  might not have helped you with your academics, or it might not
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  have helped her with her beauty and athletic accomplishments.
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  Might not. They might not have anything to
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  do with that, but they can brag on that.
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  You know what I mean you know what I'm saying they can brag on
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  it even though they don't know what it actually is what's going
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  on. They they can brag on that type
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  of stuff right there yes since day one I'm here till the world
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  ends. I appreciate you girl,
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  seriously, but it's part of it right here.
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  Y'all they think this is how the mind of a narcissist works.
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  I feel like I need to have something to brag on.
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  If I can't brag on you, if I can't tell people I've done
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  something, if if I can't get some type of narcissistic supply
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  or validation, then yeah, I have to discard you.
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  And that includes the children. That includes the kids in this
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  situation right here, right? That includes the kids.
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  And go watch the movie in. So just to let y'all know, I'm
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  starting a new series here pretty soon while I'm breaking
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  down Disney movies. I'm writing the first script
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  tomorrow. It's going to be on the movie
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  Frozen. And then Encanto is coming next.
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  Like, watch the movie Encanto. The grandma in that movie right
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  there, it's highly narcissistic. Yeah, I'm not saying she's a
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  narcissist, but she's highly narcissistic because she only
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  values the family members for what they can do for the house,
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  right, Is Isabelle. But Mirabelle, she doesn't value
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  her at all because she doesn't have any powers.
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  Remember, the door disappeared. Her door disappeared right
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  before she opened it. Everybody else had the beauty.
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  They could do a lot of different things.
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  But Isabelle, well, Mirabelle couldn't do anything.
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  Isabel had to get ready to marry a stranger to have five kids
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  because her grandma wanted her to go watch for Encanto.
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  That's a very good movie. But that's how it is.
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  They brag on the things that you can do.
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  They brag on your accomplishments.
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  They brag on what you bring to the table.
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  And sometimes they don't bring anything to the table
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  themselves. So there are a lot of
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  braggadocious, toxic, narcissistic people that don't
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  have anything to offer, right? They really don't have anything
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  to offer anybody else. So they do have to take other
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  people's accomplishments and brag on them, right?
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  Like narcissists love to brag on themselves because it makes them
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  feel better, makes them feel bigger, makes them feel
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  stronger. It just makes them feel they,
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  they get narcissistic supply. This is why you see a lot of
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  narcissists who have to dress the best, who have to drive the
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  best car, who have to do all this type of stuff.
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  They need something to brag on overtly and covertly.
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  They have to get the best degrees to go to the best
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  colleges, the best schools. They have to have the best
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  looking girlfriend or boyfriend or husband, wife, whatever.
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  They have to have this type of stuff.
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  You know what I mean? What's going on girl?
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  I always appreciate the support. Cinderella is full of
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  narcissists. I'm going to do a lot of Disney
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  movies here coming soon. Y'all, it's going to be y'all,
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  y'all going to love this series, I promise you.
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  I enjoy doing I've been doing it forever.
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  Look at my cute grandson. Doesn't he look just like me?
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  Oh yeah right there that right there is a big one.
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  like if I feel like my son look like me and like you look just
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  like your dad and like do it, do it now.
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  They love they love to brag or stuff like that.
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  Seriously. Seriously.
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  Why are female narcissists get away Scott free when they are
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  the most dangerous? I don't think every female
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  narcissist gets away Scott free Are they can.
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  Can female narcissists be harder to detect?
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  Yeah, they can be harder to detect because I would say most
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  female narcissists are covert. They're very hard to detect and
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  they play the victim very, very well.
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  They're covert, vulnerable, narcissist.
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  They use their emotions as a weapon.
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  They'll they'll cry after cheating on you and having
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  somebody else's baby. I sorry I busted it open for
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  this man. I got pregnant by him but I
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  loved you the whole time. I'll name his baby after you if
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  that's what it takes. Yeah, they'll do some horrible
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  stuff. Female narcissist can be
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  horrible to y'all. That's what y'all do on this
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  channel. I'm trying to let y'all know
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  that just like not only men can be narcissists there, there are
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  definitely some women narcissists out here.
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  There are definitely some female narcissists out here.
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  The university is a good one. Cats Sydney, University of
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  Sydney. Yeah, I paid for her whole way.
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  You see what I'm saying? This is the mindset, the
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  mentality. They need something to brag on.
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  Bragging gives them narcissistic supply, especially if you if
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  they have a bunch of you get a let's say you get a not a not
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  even a rich famous narcissist. Let's say you get a narcissist
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  of means, like MEANS means they have like money or success.
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  If they're bragging and then you have a like a cult of flying
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  monkeys, a flying monkey weirdos around you.
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  No matter what, no matter what you brag on, they're hyping you
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  up. Why wouldn't I do that?
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  You know, if I can say anything and you if I can say anything
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  about myself, I can brag on this little this necklace.
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  Now y'all say this little necklace my wife got me.
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  Oh, that's amazing necklace. Just because you want to be
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  around me, that just hikes me up.
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  That's just enables of the behaviors.
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  Flying narcissists. Flying monkeys.
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  Are the worst people on the planet y'all can be worse.
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  Can be worse than the narcissist and knobs.
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  They're always the victims. They can twist the truth and
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  never be a yeah, absolutely, absolutely.
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  There it goes right there, y'all.
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  So I got a few minutes for to answer some questions, y'all.
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  Then I got to hop off this thing.
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  Hello. The narc I dated bragged about
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  all the food he got and all this money he got at the same time.
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  Get food stamps, drives cars giving to him.
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  Oh, he brags about all the food he got.
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  Yeah, he just got the food stamp.
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  We got the food stamp plug right there.
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  They'll brag on anything, anything that makes them, that
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  gives them narcissistic supply or makes them feel holier than
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  thou or almighty. Yeah, it goes like that.
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  You know it can go exactly like that right there.
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  They'll brag on getting food stamps, they'll brag on scamming
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  the government, they'll brag on anything like y'all look y'all
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  should see this, this scam I got away with.
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  They'll never figure it out When the narcissist got exposed for
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  us having she discarded me and now she wants to take my kids
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  from me. You got to protect your peace,
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  protect yourself. You ready to go to court to
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  fight? They're always going to try to
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  play the victim. They they could twist the truth
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  and never be accountable. Absolutely.
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  Wizard of Oz is the good one. Oh yeah, The Wizard of Oz is a
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  great one because they have the, that's where the term flying
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  monkeys came from. So absolutely the Wizard of Oz
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  can be a very good one because that's literally where the term
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  flying monkeys came from. That's where it goes.
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  Why do they stalk? Even when moved on, some of them
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  become obsessive and some of them are just literally out of
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  their mind crazy. They think you belong to them.
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  They they they, they get they own you anyways, y'all I got to
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  Hammock again, my coaching, my courses, my one O ones,
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  everything is there at mentalillness.net and I will I
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  got to hop off this thing really quick out.
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  I will see y'all later. Peace, goodness gracious damn.