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The Breakfast Club REWIND (Humble The Poet, Druski, Childhood Obesity and More) · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Monny in the US saying yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, Charlemagne, paste up planning in this Monday, Martin
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  Speaker 1: Luther King Day. Now, listen, we have a scheduled set
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  Speaker 1: of vacation days. Martin Luther King Junior Day happened to
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  Speaker 1: be one of them. Yes, we're not here, and I
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  Speaker 1: know you're like, oh, y'all just took four weeks off.
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  Speaker 1: You know why we took four weeks off because we
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  Speaker 1: have vacation days that correct and we use them correct.
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  Speaker 1: And since today is a corporate holiday and a holiday
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  Speaker 1: all across the country, we're not here either. No, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: right now, I've probably just finished doing a party with
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  Speaker 1: me and Martin Luther King on a flyer together. That's
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  Speaker 1: so disrespectful and you're too old for that at this point.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And listen, I'm gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: you something else. Mind your business. And what I mean
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  Speaker 1: by that is, I know you upset that we've been
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  Speaker 1: going for four weeks and we're taking another vacation day off,
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  Speaker 1: But mind your business. Okay, do we come to your
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  Speaker 1: job and complain to you about you taking your vacation days.
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  Speaker 1: That's true, all right, all right, Well, Humble Pope will
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  Speaker 1: be joining us this morning. That's right. Humble got a
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  Speaker 1: new book out called how to be Loved? Okay, or
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  Speaker 1: how to be Loved? Because the D is in parentheses.
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  Speaker 1: You like the Dan parenthes No, I don't like the
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  Speaker 1: Dan parentesies. I like my D to be prominent, okay?
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  Speaker 1: But how to be loved and is curcious loved by
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  Speaker 1: Humble the pot. He'll be here to talk about love
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  Speaker 1: this morning. All right, we'll get into that anymore, so
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  Speaker 1: don't move. It's the breakfast Club. Good morning, wake up,
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  Speaker 1: wake up wall This is your time to get it
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  Speaker 1: off your chest. Whether you're a man or blessed, we
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  Speaker 1: want to hear from you on the refless club. What
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  Speaker 1: you sound like? You need an those job. I can't
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  Speaker 1: hear you clearly, shut up. I want you to be
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  Speaker 1: able to speak clearer. O. I can't. That was a
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  Speaker 1: quick nose job. What up, man? Get it off your chests. Bro,
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  Speaker 1: Rebel Jesus from Detroit, you mind doing from poetry? Your
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  Speaker 1: name is Rebel Jesus, and you want to do poetry. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: go ahead, go Lord a mercy. I'm called an adopted
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  Speaker 1: but a bird of a legend man that your prophet
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  Speaker 1: sized many mini mini mini meny years ago. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: even seib to colle But whatever it's true. Would you
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  Speaker 1: believe that a church said you got you blieve? God said?
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  Speaker 1: I can't. It's a funny youth, yo, b I can't. Yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you sound like silly bone. Listen to me, man Um,
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  Speaker 1: that wasn't poetry, that was wrapped sir? There virtually the
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  Speaker 1: same thing. Yeah, it rapp is poetry. I mean it
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  Speaker 1: is poetry, but the way poets delivered is a little
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  Speaker 1: bit different than you did. Just now, Okay I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't a fan do a different one. No, we
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  Speaker 1: would appreciate if you say thank you for the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: and you go figure out something else to do with
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  Speaker 1: your life. But you have a blessed day, brother, rebel Jesus,
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  Speaker 1: have a blessed day. Silly bone? Hello, who's this yo?
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say one thing what you want
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  Speaker 1: to say? Why you didn't give um? Why didn't give
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  Speaker 1: the girl? Who give um? Who hits the god with
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  Speaker 1: the bowling ball? Um? Don't the day. That's a good question.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't seen the video. I heard about it though, Yo,
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  Speaker 1: that was some you get um the white guy name?
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  Speaker 1: How would saying a song called freak like Me back
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  Speaker 1: in the day love with Dina House? Yeah, I know
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  Speaker 1: I love that SWNG too? Bro? Why are you give
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  Speaker 1: um Jesus don't get the day? I don't even know
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  Speaker 1: her name. I'm gonna look it up. I think I
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  Speaker 1: think she might be deserving of a donkey to day.
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  Speaker 1: I think you're right, sir, she gotta get two donkeys
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  Speaker 1: of this day. Okay? Why are you drinking that this
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  Speaker 1: time of morning? Bro? You're just leaving the club. Why
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  Speaker 1: are you ain't drinking? That's when you know somebody drunk? Why?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you ain't drinking? Why are you drunk? Why
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  Speaker 1: are you ain't drinking? Hello? Who's this Nick? The truck?
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  Speaker 1: And Nick? You and your truck? Now by, I don't
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  Speaker 1: tell this man to blow up? I got you right here.
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  Speaker 1: What in the hell was that type of horn you
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  Speaker 1: just ready to blow? That was not no horn, my
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: big horn. What's something that? Man? I just want to
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  Speaker 1: I just want to let everybody know. Man, it's a
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  Speaker 1: new year. Stop working so much, man, it's more important
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  Speaker 1: to spend time with your family and friends. Cut it out,
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  Speaker 1: all that all that extra stuff y'all working for. It's
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  Speaker 1: really not worth it to spend time with your family.
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  Speaker 1: I agree with you, But how are we gonna make money?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying stop working. I'm not. Let me rephrase it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying to stop working. Just stop like you're
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  Speaker 1: you're praying myself Charlemagne. Working to pay your bills. After that,
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  Speaker 1: all that over time, all that extra stuff to buys them,
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  Speaker 1: to buechi or whatever it is you spend your money off,
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  Speaker 1: it's not worth it. Oh yeah, ain't nobody you know what?
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  Speaker 1: I agree with that because you got some idiots out
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  Speaker 1: here who you know, who buy design the shirts and
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  Speaker 1: the act like they purchased some damn property. Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: I agree with you on that. Yeah, I agree with you.
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  Speaker 1: I agree to Nick. Spend spend the time with your family.
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  Speaker 1: Find the time to spend time with your family if
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  Speaker 1: you find time for everything else, make sure you're raised
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  Speaker 1: them babies, and make sure you spend time with you
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  Speaker 1: significant if you're working over time for absolutely, let me
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: shout out my wife for a quick brand anniversary is
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  Speaker 1: next month. Let me shout out then yellow, she said school.
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  Speaker 1: She just started to score yesterday to be a teacher.
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  Speaker 1: I want to wish you all the praise and happiness later.
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  Speaker 1: Our anniversary is make the year on our next month,
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  Speaker 1: on Valentine Day together we're I'm twenty nine and she's
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  Speaker 1: twenty and nine. We've been together for ten years and
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to see fifthy more. Hey, that's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of pressure, man, having an anniversary on Valentine's Day. Lord,
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  Speaker 1: have mercy now. I look at it as killing two
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  Speaker 1: birds with one stone. Well, I know one thing. You
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  Speaker 1: better get back to work so you have some money
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  Speaker 1: for Valentine's Day and the anniversary. You're gonna need that
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  Speaker 1: extra cat. Goodbye, nick, Oh see that's what That's what
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  Speaker 1: it is. And don't take that money though. She's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be happy. Just if we had the park. If you want,
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  Speaker 1: there's gonna be somebody else. Take it to the park.
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  Speaker 1: We'll blow the hall one more time for me, Nick, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: who is that? You can't even tell his voice no more?
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  Speaker 1: If I know jobs who that is? Who is? Goodbye?
• 6:06
  Speaker 1: Get it off your chests. Eight hundred five eight five
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  Speaker 1: one oh five one. If you need to vent, hit
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  Speaker 1: this up now. It was the Breakfast Club, Good morning,
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  Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Did your time to get it off
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  Speaker 1: your chests, whether you're mad or blast, so we better
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  Speaker 1: have the same any we want to hear from you
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  Speaker 1: on the Breakfast Club. I love who's that? Who's yeah?
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  Speaker 1: That's all I mean? Who those about the old pepe
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  Speaker 1: pe loans I tided to get through. I did a
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  Speaker 1: little sixteen bars one through the here. Okay, go all right,
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  Speaker 1: it's crazy, ill do me pushing that five some Bentley
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  Speaker 1: trucks from p P loans, I was pushing some vegetable twy.
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  Speaker 1: I got a loans from the thing. I started figuring
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  Speaker 1: the P loans man. You think I'm a vegy in that?
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  Speaker 1: Imagine miss Stephen a letter fun girls coming with your
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  Speaker 1: old fifty stacks, a polly with a a money stealing
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  Speaker 1: that one of the stee that eagles book outside. I
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  Speaker 1: never sold so many prizes arranged and master fu on
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  Speaker 1: my block. I'll put the song roll. There's up a
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  Speaker 1: selection I can't repeat. Some people teasing me about the
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  Speaker 1: cass you boyd or for p P and ps. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I think you need to get a job. Listen, I
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  Speaker 1: think you need to get a job. There's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of tim jobs available because it's the holiday season, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I'm glad. I'm glad you
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  Speaker 1: like now I was trash, like, yeah, was just garbage.
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  Speaker 1: But I like the content that you're saying. You're saying
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  Speaker 1: you gotta knee Sound road and you work for your
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  Speaker 1: knee Sound road. And then brothers on the block with
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  Speaker 1: the vet leads and roses, they're going to jail. That's right.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's what you were saying. You wasn't you
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  Speaker 1: wasn't co signing. People are stealing, right? You know? He
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  Speaker 1: was here against people, say I can't compete. He'll teasing
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  Speaker 1: me about the cass for pp P. I'm pun ross
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  Speaker 1: ranges and out there and all that stuff from my block.
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  Speaker 1: I've never seen no cars in my life, That's what
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  Speaker 1: and that's why we gotta. You gotta contact the problem
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  Speaker 1: authorities when you see people that have participated in these
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  Speaker 1: pp peace games, No, you should. You should contract the
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  Speaker 1: proper authorities. Man, you see something, say something day, Hello,
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  Speaker 1: who's this? Hey? Good morning? Ain't what's up? Brother? Get
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  Speaker 1: you up your chest? All first things I want to
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  Speaker 1: just say I called last year around the actually one
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  Speaker 1: year ago to this day, and yeah, last year cold
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  Speaker 1: and I told you guys, I have forgotten my mother's birthday.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to wash your happy birthday again yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm don't get this calm. I want to washyt happy birthday.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to ask y'all something about the economy, man, Like,
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  Speaker 1: what do you think about what you think is gonna
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  Speaker 1: go on with the economy for the next year. I'm
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  Speaker 1: in a truck and I'm gonna truck drive my home
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  Speaker 1: own truck. I'm trying to figure out you. I'll even
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  Speaker 1: want to stay in this at on, want to gett
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  Speaker 1: out of you. I think it's gonna get tight. I
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  Speaker 1: think I think inflation is gonna raise a lot when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to interest rates on homes, interest rates on cars.
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  Speaker 1: I think grocery prices are gonna go even higher. I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of people are gonna lose their homes.
• 8:56
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people are gonna lose their
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  Speaker 1: high end things. And I think we need to rebound
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  Speaker 1: and get things back to normal. I think it's crazy
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  Speaker 1: that we can send billions and billions of dollars to
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  Speaker 1: all these other countries, but we can't help our own
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  Speaker 1: and make sure things level out here. We think it's
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: gonna be tight. So if you got money, hold to
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  Speaker 1: it right and nay about the economy. If they don't
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  Speaker 1: figure out this, that's the only thing we're gonna really
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  Speaker 1: be in trouble. I'm telling you. I'm telling you. And
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  Speaker 1: we know another thing too, is like these people, these
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  Speaker 1: people don't understand how Hey, the American trucks, the American
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  Speaker 1: trunk and industry is like it seems like it's a fall.
• 9:32
  Speaker 1: It's all fall. And if it's gonna do yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: how we're gonna get good. It's gonna be hard getting
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: good in the services already, it already takes a long
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  Speaker 1: time to you. Yeah, nobody's gonna be doing work for
• 9:43
  Speaker 1: free out here. But they're trying to box you guys
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  Speaker 1: out all away because they're trying to create electric trucks.
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  Speaker 1: That electric eighteen wheel is that they won't actually need drivers.
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  Speaker 1: So I mean, that's that's gonna be really tough on
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  Speaker 1: your industry. Let me ask you something, you trust the
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  Speaker 1: Trump Trump going down a road eighty thousand pounds with
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  Speaker 1: no driving it. I don't, I don't, But but if
• 10:03
  Speaker 1: you see what they're doing on the bridges and tolls,
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: you know, I mean, there's no more people anymore now,
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  Speaker 1: which all electric, So all those people lost their jobs.
• 10:09
  Speaker 1: If you look at what they're doing in the trains
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  Speaker 1: and the buses, a lot of those people have lost
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  Speaker 1: their jobs. So it's gonna be real difficult out there. Robots.
• 10:16
  Speaker 1: Take vy. I got I got an idea for you,
• 10:20
  Speaker 1: though I know you're still doing the arm the uh
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  Speaker 1: the car shoot stuff right, yes, sir, all right, I
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: know I got I got a crazy idea and not
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: a crazy idea, but they ain't even trademarking to Breakfast
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: Club Good Morning, the Breakfast Club sty with the Georgia's
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  Speaker 1: Southern University. Yes. Now, and you wanted to be in
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  Speaker 1: sports broadcasting? Yeah, and what happened? Um? I think I
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: just wanted to be on TV. Man. It wasn't really
• 10:52
  Speaker 1: about doing sports broadcasting. It was just like something I
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: knew I could go to school for it to like,
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: you know, entertain I just I didn't know. I knew
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  Speaker 1: my parents wanted me to go to school, So I'm like, God,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna figure out the way to stay at school
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  Speaker 1: and do some cool you know, so yeah, that was
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  Speaker 1: like to go to just for just to do that though,
• 11:09
  Speaker 1: but I ended up doing what I really wanted to it. Now,
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  Speaker 1: you know, did you make that pivot? Um? Dropping at
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  Speaker 1: high school? I mean dropping dropping high school, dropping out
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  Speaker 1: of college. So what year did you drop out? I
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: think I did one year at uh GGC, which is
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  Speaker 1: like a closed school to where I'm from. UM. Then
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: I went to Georgia Southern and I did like half
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: a semester Jesus, and just stopped going to classes. Just
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: all all in. Let's talk about that mindset. Like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I never went to college period. But so what made
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: you realize that, you know, you know what college isn't
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  Speaker 1: the move from me? UM? I think bro just going
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: up Those classes are so big you don't even have
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  Speaker 1: like a real like like connection with none of the teachers.
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  Speaker 1: I think when I started at the smaller school, I
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  Speaker 1: was cool because I still knew people where I was from.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's still cool with each other. You know, it felt
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  Speaker 1: like high school again. You know that's another year high school.
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: You get up to those big colleges. I thought it
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: was about to be like party. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: You watched movies like atl or drum line and stuff,
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: and you see like kind of like the college talk
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  Speaker 1: about you huh. And I thought it was gonna be
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  Speaker 1: like that, but nah, man, I went all the way
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  Speaker 1: out there to that party school and I ended up
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  Speaker 1: hating it. Broa, it just wasn't I went out there
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  Speaker 1: for other reasons. I went out there thinking this is
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: like the lifestyle I could live, like, yeah, this is
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  Speaker 1: the real college lifestyle, and ended up just heading me
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: in the mouth for it. Like partying and women with you. Yeah,
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: I wanted that, man. I wanted a real college experience
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: because when you go to those small colleges, you don't
• 12:40
  Speaker 1: get that. Like I said, like it's a high school again.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, I'm a step out here.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to I'm trying to get my my deal on,
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: you know. But yeah, I needed that though, because I
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: ended up figuring out that I wanted to be a
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: comedian when I didn't go to class at other semester.
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: So basically you went to college and was like, damn,
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: we still got to do work. Yeah. Yeah, it's actually
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: worse because the teachers don't they don't they don't give
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: a crap about you. You gotta show up, you gotta
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: do your work. Yeah, you don't walk in It's a lectures.
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  Speaker 1: A thousand people sitting in here. They don't care who
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: you are. You walking man, listen, man, it ain't it.
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  Speaker 1: Let's go back to Okay, we're going back. I was
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: gonna say, let's go back before college, let's go back
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: before high school, because it just don't just start. You
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: just don't start being funny. Like I can watch you
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: and tell this guy is naturally funny. It's not performative.
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: You had to be the class clown and just rupt
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: here in school something. Um, yeah I was. I was
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: always a class clown man since I was like an
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  Speaker 1: elementary school. But I didn't know that's what I wanted.
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: I actually I wanted to do that, but I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know it was like a real profession that could like
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: be my career. You know. So, Like I'm young, and
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: I used to go to the second third grade and
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: I used to ask kids be like, who do you
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  Speaker 1: think the funniest in our classes? And they'd be like, oh,
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: you're so funny man, Like you know, I thought that
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: was like the cool thing. So every year, like my
• 13:57
  Speaker 1: goal was like, yeah, I'm gonna I'm the funny in
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: this whole grade, Like I want everybody to agree that
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: I'm the funniest. So it's just something my small I
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: was put in the back of my head. But I
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: never thought I would really end up making it a career. Honestly,
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: I just didn't think too deep into it. But I
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: definitely have always been a class comment what you do
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: back in the day that you realize, like when you
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: think about it now, that I went too far back then? Um,
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: all the ass whoppers? Man, my dad was whooping my ass?
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: What did I go too far on? What? In elementary school? Yeah,
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: like frank wise, let me give me but the trauma
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: I'd rather hear about the trauma from the asshood used
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: to make fun of this kid that was mentally challenged.
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: Oh man, right, and he would make fun of this
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: kid all all the time until one day the kid
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: turned around. As he didn't beat my ass, he choked me,
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: so difference to put me in the doughfee. He put
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: me in this. You know they strong though, what hey,
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you they strong. You have no idea. You
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: got to see how they built. They stature built. They
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: always got big booties, so you should know not. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I never see That's why I never did.
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  Speaker 1: That is going to the bathroom. You know, when they're
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: going to the back, they pull their pants all the
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  Speaker 1: way down, and I could tell from stature. Okay, dude
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  Speaker 1: built up, he got some strong kind legs on. You know.
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  Speaker 1: You know I'm telling you right now post up to
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: post you up in the paint real way. Yeah. I
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: just always knew not to message them. I canna tell
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: all right, we got more with Drew Sky when we
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: come back, don't move. It's the Breakfast Club the morning
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club born, and everybody is TJ and Vin Charlemagne,
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: the guy we are the Breakfast Club was still kicking
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: it with Drew Sky. Charlemagne. Do you feel the need
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: to prove yourself to I guess the OG comics there
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: was this thing one time OG comics would be like
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: old people from the Internet aren't real comics. Yeah, well
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: do you think I bring this tea up here? Though?
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: It look like yeah, so look like I know what
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about. I've seen the OG's coming up here
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: doing that. I've seen like Kevin Harden them, you know,
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I've seen them bring tea I'm like, all right, let me,
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: let me, let me make a statement. Yeah, let me
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: bring that hot. That's true. That's true. That is true.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: And you know the guy's one of my you know,
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: that's one of my things. I knew I was gonna
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: do when I came up here drink. Yeah, I was
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: just gonna bring something just to look like I'm noble,
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: just to look now when you're going to a little
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: bit with drama and uh whis Khalifa and all those
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: I was doing that because you're a comedian. Amongst all
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: these artists, that's difficult because they want to see people before. Um,
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: you're saying, like when we're just chilling hanging out. Oh,
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: when I'm on tour na, that's not hard man. You
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: know those are those are the ones that show loved
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: the most. Um. Yeah, I like when people come out
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: and come to shows and stuff. That's but you never
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: answered the question about do you feel you know you
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: gotta get these ogs respect a comedian? Um, yeah, I
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: think that's that's that always happens man, And uh, I
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: think you just gotta you gotta go through the hardwark.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: The first thing Kevin Hart told me when I I
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: went to his show, and I went backstage and I
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: was like I was just watching him, you know, everybody congratulating, like,
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: oh my god, it's a great show, Oh my god.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: And I was just look at him from across the
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: room because they invited me to the green room, and
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, I, alright, when's my moment to say
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: what's up? You know, like I was kind of nervous,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: you know, and I'm expecting just to be like, yo,
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: you did, you had a great show. Dude breezes past
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: me and he looks at me and said, stop being
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: a bitch. I was like, what the hell is he
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: talking about? Man? And I had had my hand and
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: standing out like for hey, what's up? Man? Like, hey,
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: you're killing this show man. He walked past me again
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: he said, I'm telling he stop being a bitch. And
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I'm like, what the so I'm asking his boys. I'm like, yo,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: what Yo, what's Kevin talking about? Real? Yeah? And he
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: walked up to me and yeah, he said, get on
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: that stage. He said, stop acting like you're too good
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: to do stand up. He was like, you're doing all
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: the little holes in the tours, he said, but you
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: you ain't doing what you're supposed to be doing. He said,
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: he say, see y'all scared, man, he said, he's new cats.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Y'all scared y'all. Y'all think y'all got all the thing.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Y'all think y'all just stop being a bitch. I'm like that.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: That hit my soul. Man. I started going to these
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: open mics working on my set, you know, and uh, yeah,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: you gotta fail before you as your show your worship.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: M what was the worst ship? Let's go. Um, I
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: had a really really terrible, terrible experience. More recently, Um,
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: I tried to say a joke. This is in Atlanta.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: I was just going on an open mic, and um, yeah,
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: it just felt very flat or the joke about I'm
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: trying to remember I think I told a story. Yeah, yeah,
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: that I just wanted to race that from my mind.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I can't think of the joke I said, but it
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: was something about like my past. Yeah, it fell flat, dumb,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: like I think somebody somebody clapped like in an an
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: agreement with me, and I knew. I said, Okay, that
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: wasn't what I wanted. I'm not I'm not I'm not
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: up here, man. Somebody somebody start you know, They're like okay,
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: and I'm like expecting the laugh here. So now this
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: is recent, So this is Drew Sky. Drew, Yeah, millions
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: of following your old toy. You go on stage. They
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: cheering because they're excited to see you. You tell her.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: I said it straight. I tell them as soon as
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I get out that said, hey man, I'm working on stuff. Yeah,
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: I don't expect nothing because they you know, people try
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: to stand up standing ova show. But you know, when
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: you're working on your set for like a big show
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: that's coming up, you gott I just walked up there
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: and say, hey, y'all know, hey, I am Drew Sky. Yes,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: but I'm working on stuff. Don't expect no big you
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: know my best jokes right now, you know. But that's
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: how you get better though, That's that's the best way stage.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: When they after they did that just right there, I
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: think I tried to say something else and uh, yeah,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I follow I said, that's my time. You know, just
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: try to say you try to do something and just yeah,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: that's my time, y'all think, Uh, I want to go
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: back to what you said about the best show. We
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: came about the worst show, like a stuff? What was
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: the best that you remember your best show yet. Um,
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I think my best show I did I did a
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: piece of could have been when I was on the
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Little Baby and Chris Brown tour and uh, I had
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: this dude come out who was previously on my Instagram
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: live and he came out and dance and like the crowd,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: it was hilarious, Like I was just reacting to everything
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: he did and it was that was really good. So
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: you wasn't telling no jokes. It was it was, yeah,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: it was. It was. It was like improv, you know.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: It was like I was just out there just wilding
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: out like I was with the crowd and you know
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: all that. Sorry for customs look ahead. But to that point,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I knew exactly when you when Kevin said stopped being
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: a bitch, I knew exactly what he was saying to you,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: because that's what all ogs do. But do you have
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: to hit the stage that might not be your thing. Yeah,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, but he's saying stop being a bitch, as
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: in like, go out there and try it before you
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: act like you're too good to be doing or don't
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: be out here acting like you you know, don't be
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: acting like you too and you ain't even tried something
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: that you know it could be potentially huge for you.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: So you're not necessarily saying I have to be a
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: stand up community. He's just saying, like, yo, try it.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: What do you Because on the flip side, they stand
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: up comedians that can't do what you do. One they
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: can't do they're not good in sketch like you might
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: be a great sketch performer. Not saying that you can't
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: be both. I'm just saying you might be. That might
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: be your lane. Right. Only time will tell. Only time,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: we'll see if I get booed off another state or
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: not even boot another clap like that, Yeah, clap like man,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: I might wrap it up or Drews, can we appreciate
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: you for joining us? Brother? It was give me instagrams
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: so we can wrap this up. Jesus Christ, only one time?
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Last time? Man, you you on your way like drink kids.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Absolutely positively gonna be a big star in this industry.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Everybody sees it, everybody knows it. All you gotta do
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: is keep your head on scraping skies the limit and
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: we might need you for a couple of days too. Yeah,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: we're gonna have some celebrity hosts with us and some
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: guess and stuff like that, So we might need you
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: for a couple of days in tail, let's do it.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: No for real? There were serious what what's the when
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: we're no? No, when we're moving, when we when we're
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: booking that we're moving to a new studio. Angelie has
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: her own show down, So we're not we're not rushing
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: to get a new co hold. So we're gonna rotate
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: guest holds for for a long long time. Yeah. Yeah,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: so you know when you're in town, you got something
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: you want to promote, Just pull up the radio, all right,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: but through give me Instagram. Yeah, tickets for the Cutter
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• 22:29
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  Speaker 1: oh five wanted to join it to the discussion with
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club, talk about it, Envy Charlemagne, the guy
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: we all the breakfast club. Now, if you're talking about
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: what we're not doing anymore in twenty twenty three, what
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: are we leaving in twenty twenty three, I mean twenty
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: twenty two. I'm gonna tell you something else, man. I
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: told you going into twenty twenty three. I really want
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: to see people grow up. And it's crazy to be
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: forty four years old and be telling other forty four
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: year olds that they need to grow up. But I
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: do really want to see men grow up. I want
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: us to be able to, you know, have conversations with
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: each other without the conflict. That's why I'm trying expressing
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: brothers to go to therapy to deal with that hurt,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: that pain that they haven't signed them. But I'm gonna
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: tell you something else more. I've been hearing a lot
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: of forty somethings have conversations about like money and wealth
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: and things of that nature, and they're talking about it
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: from the perspective of what they're wearing. That sounds so crazy.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: They're like, oh, such and such, you ain't getting no
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: money because you know, it doesn't have to be forty,
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: could be thirty or twenty or even basis in their
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: wealth off of jewelry, of cars, they having cash that
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: they could hold up today. Oh my god, Yeah, I
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: think we need to do well. Flew to my good
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: brother John Hope Brian Man. John Hope Brian says, if
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: the only asset you have is on your ass, you're
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: doing something wrong. Absolutely so please can we leave that
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two for all ages, but especially I
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: cannot believe it's for talking like that. That's crazy to me. Hello,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: who's this? My name is Lisa. Hi, Lisa, Come on
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: and Lisa Mining. I'm calling because I'm leaving behind now
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: people and cheat and guys. Oh boy, we'll stop dating
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: everybody except for black men because black men don't cheat.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: Blast men are the cheater? Could you stop? Why are
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: you like this? We should leave lying in twenty twenty two.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: I tell such a tale. I'm sorry you got cheated
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: on mama. Yeah, and you're right, you should. We should
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: leave cheating as women and men in twenty twenty two,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: and the ain't no black men cheating. No young young
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: black boys are cheating. But what black men are not cheating?
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: How what do you consider t J. Holmes huh okay
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: age to cheat? What do you mean I think that,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: I think that we shouldn't. I don't know what you're
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: talking about. No, you just said how old? How old
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: are you? How old are you? Howld you? Mama? How
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: old are you? And how old was? How old was
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: the last white man that cheats on you? The white man?
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: How old? He's still a little boy, That's what I'm
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: telling you. He's still a young man. Like how old
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: was taken? Let me think. Let me see, I got
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: there around thirty six, thirty six. It took you to
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: be a grown man. It took me. I got there.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: I got there around thirty six. But I'm not saying
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: that you should. I'm not saying you should wait that long.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Huh you married ever? I've been with my my wife
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: took him some time, my money four years. We've been
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: married since two thousand. For team, take up some time, Bud.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you the difference. Man. All jokes aside. Seriously,
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: it's all about being intentional about doing the work on themselves.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: If you're intentional about growth, if you're intentional about being
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: a good man, you will go do the work on yourself.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: So you know, you don't have women calling up to
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: the radio station sad like how she sounds this morning?
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: She sounds very sad like this club, good morning, who
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: breakfast club? Already everybody's d n V. Charlemagne the guy.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: We all the breakfast club. We got a special guest
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: in the building. And how to be loved ladies and gentlemen,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: humble the public, flok you sorry, thank you so much
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: for having me. What's up, my guy? What inspired this book? Man?
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: Trying to figure out where I kept going wrong and
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: love so pretty much it's been like, how come I'm
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: not feeling love? How come I'm not receiving love even
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: being in beautiful relationships? And then going down this journey
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: and trying to figure out what to do, and started
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: reading every love coach of the philosopher, all the religious
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: tes psychologist, everything and being at the front of the class,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: taking as many notes as possible. And the first thing
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: I realized is like, I have so much love in
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: my life, I'm not receiving it that built up all
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: these walls. I thought all these walls were protecting me,
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: but really they were just serving as a prison, keeping
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: me out. Because now it's because you don't love yourself.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I think I didn't know how to love myself. I
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: didn't understand even though it's extremely simple, not easy but simple.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: I didn't understand how important it is if you don't
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: have love for yourself or you don't cultivate that relationship,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: it doesn't matter what your relationship with anybody else is.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: Did you find love? Did you actually find it all?
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: Is it still a mission? Still looking? So what I
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: realized is you can't find love. Love is always there
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: and it's about realizing love. So the analogy I like
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: uses like love is like a breeze and you have
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: to open your sales to love. It's not about looking
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: for the breeze, is about doing the work to open
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: the sales. Do you know the definition of love? Because
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: in my relationship, I didn't necessarily know the definition of
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: love to me, like, you know what people tell you
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: what love is, and I didn't know the actual death
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: nition of what love is. Just so do you know
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: the definition or do you break that down. Yeah. So
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: there's a beautiful quote by Naval cont that says love
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: is what's left when all other emotions are gone. So
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: and I think what that is in got peace. So
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: love isn't something that you have to find the choir
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: earn or when did you clean up the clutter, get
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: rid of everything else? And then what's less is love?
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question one moment. So, if
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: you love somebody right and you know how people say
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: you know you might be. You might see a couple
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: and the man cheat to a woman or the woman
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: cheats on a man. Can they possibly love that person
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: if they would cheat on them or if they get
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: into an altercation or is it domestic violence? Could you
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: love that person and fight them? You know? I mean,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: could you love that person and knowingly hurt them? It's
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: that love. So the better way to frame it, and
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: this is a Peter Crone idea, is instead of saying
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I love you, you say you show me where love is,
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: because again, the love is constant. What you're doing is
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: you develop a relationship with somebody and you create a
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: pathway of love. So then the problem is what we
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: do to mess up that pathways? We start focusing on
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: things like control, power, attention, validation, all these things that
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: kind of feel like love, but they're not actually loved,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: because if they were actually loved, love is like I
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: don't need anything else, all these other things I need
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: more and more and more and more. It's not having everything,
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: it's not needing anything. So we're talking about stuff like this,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: you're talking about unhealthy relationship dynamics and not have them
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: to do with love. And what that's actually doing is
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: closing the pathways of love between you and somebody else
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: like me and you. Over the years we've chatted, we
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: are creating a bond over time. Now if I do
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: something disrespectful, I'm closing that bond. I'm closing that pathway.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: So does that mean you don't necessarily love them the
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: way that you say you do? Right? Because if I
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: love something, or I'm in love with something or not
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: in love, but if I love something right, I'm gonna
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: do everything. Oh, I should do everything not to hurt
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: that person or not to show or not to close
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: that pathway, like you said, because if I close that pathway,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: that means I'm not showing them love. That means I
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: actually don't love him. Like I say, I do. Yeah,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: So part of loving yourself is going easy on yourself
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: because none of us are perfect, so we're all gonna
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: make mistakes. So it's looking at it from that perspective
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: as well, not like what I should do when I
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: love somebody's a lot of that's going to be cultured.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: Depends on where you are in the world. The definition
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: of marriage is different, the definition of monogamy is different,
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: definition all these definitions are different. When you have love
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: for somebody, you are you are doing your best to
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: serve them. And what you realize is trying to serve
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: one person is completely different than trying to serve somebody else,
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: And depending on where they're at, you know, and it's
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: not something I gotta win. I don't have to deserve it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to be worthy of love. I don't
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: have to be enough for love. Everybody we know in
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: our lives that we love, we know all their imperfections.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: None of that just qualifies them from love. None of
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: that means they don't deserve to be loved. And then also,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: you know, you guys are both parents. You would have
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: held your children and loved them immediately. You know, love
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: doesn't requires to do or be anything. You know, when
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: you say a person who said person can show me love?
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: What the quote? You show me where love is? You
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: show me what love is. I don't know if that
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: can be received if you don't, if you don't know
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: what love is like you know, I'm talking to humble
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  Speaker 1: like I didn't have humble long bery needs to me
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: and humble talk. But like your first, last, and best
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: love should be self love. If you don't know what
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: love feels like, you won't even know what you're being showed.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: And it's the same, the exact same recipe for me
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: and you to develop a stronger bond, it's got to
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: be vulnerability for you and you to develop a stronger bond.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: It's got to be vulnerability, you know, for you and
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: your wife to develop a stronger bonds, gotta be vulnerability.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: You guys have to go out on dates. You guys
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: have to be sharies things which you have to be.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: You have to be willing to take a risk of
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: getting hurt. And the same thing with yourself. Journaline being
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: honest with yourself. Prayer, irrespective of what your religious beliefs are.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: When people pray, that is the time they are the
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: most honest about what they want and the most honest
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: about what they're grateful for. So it's not performative. When
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: you do that, you become much more vulnerable with yourself
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: instead of looking at this on some surface level stuff
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: where people are literally just outsourcing the antidote to their
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: loneliness by having another person around. But the antidote to
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: loneliness isn't having people around you, it's being connected. Now,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: what do you think we get to the point where,
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: like you know, one of your Instagram phase, we know
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: you would come in, you know, looked upon the book
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: and you posted a picture of yourself and no shirt on. Right,
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: where do we change where people would make fun of
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: or talk about people that weren't in shape? Right? Where
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: people talking about dad bods? And I just remember a
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: time growing up as a kid, everybody in the beach
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: was all sides, shapes, big, small, people in shape, people
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: not in shape. But where do we get to that
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: place in society where it's like people only love a
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: certain type of body, where they feel like if anything
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: is not that chiseled and eight pack or six pack. Now,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: why you go to those job, bro? It's a personal bro,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: What's the next man you're gonna get on the steroid.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: It's a personal bro like you shard of when do
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: we get to that place as a society where it
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: almost feels like we don't love ourselves, that we want
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: to be somebody else and shut up? I think, you know,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: damn those jobs. I think the first thing iss trying
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: to figure out where these ideas come from. So, from
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: a science perspective, healthy body right from manage between eighteen
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: and twenty two percent, right for a woman it's even higher.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: So the doctors out there saying a woman should never
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: have a six pack, and for men, you know that
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: should not be a long term man, shouldn't have a
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: six pack, should not actually like that purpose. But however,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: you know, so for example, like I've you know, I've
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: been hired to model in situations before. They didn't hire
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: me in a model because I'm beautiful, It's because I
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: was sample sized. I'm the size and the shoulder length,
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: you know, and depending on what I eat, the belly
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: goes down. But at the same time as the question
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: is who defines all of this, where do we get
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: these ideas from? Well, these ideas come from businesses that
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: want to sell your stuff for money. So it's realizing that, look,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: we're being taught there. You watch a Disney movie that's
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: teaching you about love. You watch porn that's teaching you
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: about love. You watch a wrong calm that's teaching you
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: about love, You watch a reality here. All these things
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: are suddenly teaching us about love. And we have to
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: realize these ideas aren't artists. And I think that's the
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: big thing. A lot of times we think we own
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: our thoughts, but they're just put into us and then
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: they start sounding like us, our parents, we grew up,
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: our parents, who ever raised us. That's the first model
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: of love we have out of how functional, dysfunctional, and
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: then that becomes comfort. So this type of love we
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: saw growing up becomes our comfort food. And if it's dysfunctional,
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: then we lean into that. And what I'm because people
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: would be like, you wrote a book, you won't married
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: you and this you went that. I'm like, that's not
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: what this book is about. This book is not about
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: finding a partner. This book is about not worrying either way,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: being happy with how your life is. And this book
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: is about loving yourself as you are. So the purpose
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: of that was because an activity you're having the book
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: is look at yourself in the mirror and not be
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: judgmental and be grateful. So I'm like, all right, I'm
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: gonna do that. That video has two million views. Too
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: many people see me in my underwear, and it's like
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: that scared the crap allowed me to do it. What
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: the print looked like? Though? Nothing? You know, you gotta
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: put the factor in everything. You know what I'm saying.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: But you because you should look. You should look and say, okay,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: what does your print look like? Because if you got
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: a big print, people you're looking like, damn, you don't
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: look like he packing all that too. If you look
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: like you're packing too, man, people to watch it, how
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: do we get here? So question? Do you believe in
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: love languages? You know this, It's been the big versation
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: in the last year, people talking about the love language.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: What your love language? I think there's only one love
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: language that's to be seen and understood. And then you know,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: they just took that and made it more detail to
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: be seen and understood. The physical touch through gifts through
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what the other ones are feel like,
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: they just made it specific. I look at it like horoscopes.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Everyone just wants to be a part of a certain
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: team and they want to be like unique to that.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: But as I said love to me, we should focus
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: on love as the verb, like love is service. Start
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: focusing on what you require as much as giving it
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: out if you want to realize That's what I'm saying
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: that instead of finding love, it's more like realizing love.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: You want to realize love. The easiest way to do
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: that is by loving people and love them because it's
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: a gift that you have, not because it's a loan
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: that you want paid back. We got more of one
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: of my favorite young minds on the planet, Humble the Poet,
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: on the Breakfast Club wanting everybody is DJ Envy. John Amaine,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: the guy we are to Breakfast Club was still kicking
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: it with Humble the Poet. Now, they said that you
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: haven't spoke to your mother in a while because of
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: a comment she made about XPRS. Is that true? Well,
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: when I wrote it, so what happens happened? Because you
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: love your mom, but you can't speak to your mom. Yeah,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: so it's it's it's again, it's understanding. So I was
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: in an extremely serious relationship and then it ended. It
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: ended over the pandemic and my mom, you know, it
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: was crazy over her. So what would happen is, uh,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: I moved. I moved to la after the pandemic, so
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: I'd call I call him with my mom every day,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: and every day she would just from my shield. You know,
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: it would have been a year now that you guys
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: would have been together. It would have been this. And
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: I was like, look, Mom, like you're you're making me
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: feel bad. I understand how you feel. You're doing this.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: So the way, the way, that was the last chapter
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: of the book. So what it was. I finished this book,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: let's say January twenty twenty two. Finished, you know, I
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: gotta go through it like a nine month process editing
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: the day before the book was due for print, which
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: was this September, I was like, okay, it's been nine months.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: I gotta write something. So I wrote that last chapter.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: So in that last chapter, in that September, I had
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: spent like a month avoiding talking to my mom. Had
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: a job men that I mean immigrant families. Man's pretending
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: didn't exist. It cut you off. Well, it's not even
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: a cut. You just like, look Mom, like you're not
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: I understand you're upset over this breakup and and it sucks,
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: and it breaks my heart that it's breaking your heart.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: But I can't do nothing. And this has been a
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: constant theme of my I think a lot of immigrant
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: kids in general, a lot of kids in general. It's like,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: your dreams can include other people's names. Your dreams and
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: your goals have to be your dreams and goals. Your
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: dreams can't be for my son to get married and
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: for me to have grandkids. That can't be your dream.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: You're just putting pressure on somebody else to be something
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: that they're not where they are right now. We can't
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: fall in love with other people's potential. You can only
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: fall in love with your potential. So that's what the
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: challenge was. So there was just a time where it
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: just got so much where it's like, you know, I
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: could feel tension every time I saw her call, because
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: the questions are always the same, are you eating, what
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: did you learn how to cook? How's your puppy? And
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: then you know what, you would have been better had
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: you just stayed here, had you went and just got
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: it searching for love? Boy, it was through this journey,
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: as I said, like I was in a great relationship
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: with a great person, but I wasn't able to receive,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: you know, because I did not have a healthy relationship
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: with myself. I had this, as I said, I had
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: all these walls up. I had this idea that I
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: need to be independent. I had all this idea that
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm on the grind. I had to do
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: all these different things now and then and then also
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: realizing ideas like codependency. So what ends up happening is
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: when you when you break up with somebody, what you're
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: really breaking up? What's the version of you in that relationship.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: You're not breaking up with the person, you're breaking up
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: with who you are in that relationship, realizing that what's
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: required for you to keep that relationship up. There there
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: was a tension there because it's like, you know, family expectations,
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: all these different things. And that wasn't me living my
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: authentic life. And it wasn't for any other reason than
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: me not doing the work internally to be authentic about
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: that and be honest with me, like, wait a minute,
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: what is this? And a lot of that's trial and error,
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: you know. And I'm in therapy now, and one of
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: the big things my therapist says, is your goal is
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: to quickly realize somebody isn't good for you. That's your goal.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: How quickly can you realize there's an incompatibility? And you know,
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: though you know, some days are more successful than than others.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: And that goes back to another idea, which is love.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: A big idea that people I think have misunderstood about love.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: If they think it's glue. I love my partner enough
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: that's enough to keep us together. Love is not glue.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: Love is fuel relationships. All relationships, romantic friendships, business, everything
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: require work. The love that you have is the fuel
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: to make you work at it. Your chance just be like,
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: I love you, so that's enough to keep us together.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: The work that the unsexy work, the day to day
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: unsexy work, is was going to keep a relationship together. Man,
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: everything you're saying is so true. And you know when
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: you talk about sometimes we say, oh we've we've outgrown somebody, right,
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: And I'm not even talking about like inter relationships. I'm
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: talking about with friends. It's not even that you just
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: outgrew that person. You actually did break up with that person.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: And the reason you broke up with them is because
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: you broke up you broke off the unhealthy versions of
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: yourself and y'all might have been trauma bonding. So sometimes
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: when we say we are grown people, because oh, that
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: person is still on the same thing that we used
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: to be on. That person hasn't dealt with their trauma
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: yet I've dealt with mine. We had a trauma bond.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Now that I broke those parts in me off, me
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: and that person ended up breaking up. Yeah, yeah, completely.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: And that's a really good way of putting it where
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: it's realizing that, look, it's not about the other person,
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: it's about you. So instead of having expectations of other people,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: just have standards for yourself and blade these are my standards.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: The people who live up live up to it, I
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: will invest in them, and the people that don't, you know,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: best of luck to you. I can still love you
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: from afar. And I think the important thing with that
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: is you're allowed to change and evolve your standards because
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: we don't know what we don't know, you know, so
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, you know when you you know,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: I know you're big on investing, But the idea behind
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: that really is thinking long term. You're deferring gratification, You're
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: buying the thing that will let you buy the thing. Right.
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: That's a mindset, you know. That's that's the marshmallow test
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: that they give kids. You know, wait five minutes, here's
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: a marshmallow. If you don't eat it in five minutes,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: then we'll give you too much meadows. It's teaching them
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: to defer gratification. Now, you got to be around people
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: who share that mindset, even if they're not investing, you know,
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: And so now that could be your standard of who
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: you're going to devote your time. And because your time
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: is one of the most valuable things you have. So
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: we have to continually instead of having expectations of anybody,
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: just to find our standards. But like these are my standards,
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: you live up to the standards, you know. I can
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: invest in you if you don't, no disrespect. I accept
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: you as you are, but I can't invest time, energy,
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: attention and work to create a pathway of love with you. Absolutely.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: You know what else too, Man, I like it that
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: you keep talking about vulnerability because I think that sometimes
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: in relationships, I don't even know what we think. Vulnerability
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: is what I'd be thinking sometimes, Vulnerability, man, is letting
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: people see that dark side, like like letting people see
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: that that shadow side, you know what I mean, that
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: side that we try to keep to ourselves. I'm not talking,
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: I'm just talking about like like sometimes you might be
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: thinking some real epped up stuff. You know, can you
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: tell your significant other that? Or can you tell somebody
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: you love that or somebody that loves you and they
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: still love you. Yeah, So that's really good because I
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: think the other thing is we always think about zero
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: to one hundred. It's like either you're not vulnerable with somebody,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: you're completely vulnerable, and there's a lot in between. So
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: what I learned in therapy is had two vulnerable stories
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: in your pocket that you could tell a stranger that
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: won't scare them away, and that's the way to establish
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: a bond. So one of mine, for example, is speaking
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: about dogs. I had a dog growing up. He lived
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: out his life for eleven years. Broke my heart to
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: put him to sleep. He was eleven years old. His
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: hips went, broke my heart to put him to sleep,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: avoided getting another dog, became everybody's backseat dog owner, telling
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: them how to raise their dogs, and then eventually somebody said, hey,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: there's this puppy available. Do you want it, and I'm like, no, no, no,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: I'm over dogs. They got to move to America and
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: do with all this. Eventually Snap got the dog and
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: it may be super happy. This vulnerability in the story
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: not enough vulnerability is scare stranger away. And what happens
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: is when you're vulnerable with somebody. The reason we fear
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: being vulnerable is we fear judgment, we fear a shame.
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: But what I've realized is when I'm vulnerable with people,
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: it invites them to be vulnerable with me. That may
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: allow someone to tell me a story about a loss
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: that they had. The other one is losing my grandmother,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: talking about you know, being a little kid and sleeping
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: in the bed with her, and and and and tracing
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: all the veins or the wrinkles in her hands, and
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: you know, just hearing your stories, not understanding what she
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: said because she didn't have any teeth, and just this
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: beautiful story and how much I miss her. Again, that
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: allows someone to connect with you on a deeper level.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: You got to tell them all the shadow stuff where
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: you can work your way up, you know, And I
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: think that's a really important thing. Vulnerable and again, be
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: vulnerable with yourself being like, well, why did that thing
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: that you know, Charlotte, many say to me, why did
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: that bother me? And write it out, you know, and
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: and the easiest way to journal. Here's a step by
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: step with the journal. Step one, just write about the event.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: Step two, write about your feelings about how that situation
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: made you feel. Just write them all out, however made
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: you feel, made you feel upset, jealous, angry, happy, excited, whatever.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: You realize the majority of emotions we have are on
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: the negative side, because that's how we learn to survive.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: Step three, look at those feelings that you wrote out
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: and write your thoughts about it and be like, okay,
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: I understand. Okay, the reason I felt insecure about that
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: because the way he said it sounded like that kid
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: in the seventh grade, but the way you know. And
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, you start building this thing
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: called self awareness. You're picking up on your patterns, and
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: now you realize you don't own your emotion. I am
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: not happy, I'm feeling happiness. I'm not anxious, I'm feeling anxious.
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: You separate yourself from it because every single emotion everybody
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: has ever felt was impermanent. They all go away good
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: ones and a bad one. So this journaling will allow
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  Speaker 1: you to be vulnerable with yourself and be honest with yourself,
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: and you'll build a deeper connection with yourself, and then
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: you'll be able to better articulate to other people. You
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: know how they can be around you and you're just
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: setting boundaries, and your boundaries are about you, not about them.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: We got more with Humble a Poet when we come back,
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: don't move. It's the Breakfast Club the morning, don't want
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: to get everybody is DJ guy. We are to Breakfast Club.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Was still kicking it with Humble a Poet. You know,
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: the last chapter in the book is called the last
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: book I'll ever right now, you've written four super successful books.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: You don't really mean that, right. So the way I
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: try to write so again, First I think to myself,
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: like what more important than love? What else? Is it? All? Right?
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: And as I said, I wrote that last chapter the
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: day the book was to hit print, so they didn't
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: even get edited. And you know that that didn't go
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: to the editing process, and it was like what else
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: is left for me to say? And I was looking
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: at it, squeezing out, you know, my sponge to hit
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: it and I try to write books with that idea,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: so you know, going into that and then also with
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: just other opportunities coming my way. It's something that I've
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: been exploring. I think recently helping out a couple of
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: friends in the world of anxiety has made me thinking
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: about anxiety a lot. And the idea of moving in
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: New York. I was like, oh, there's a beautiful book there.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Moved to New York and write about anxiety like that fits.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: So there's a lot of ideas there and then maybe
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: in the form of an audiobook or something like that,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: just watching how the industry changes and stuff. But I
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: wrote this book with the idea this is gonna be
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: a last book, and I also talked about it being
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: the most expensive book because it's just you know, writing
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: this book, man, I had to let go of layers
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: of myself and it's cool to be vulnerable, but it
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: also it does make you vulnerable, you know. And I'm
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: way more emotional than I used to be because I
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: I shed a lot of walls and then that was
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: cool for writing and creating art, but that ain't cool
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: when you're out reaching out to people, trying to do stuff,
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: trying to get you know, get on people's shows, do
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: whatever hearing knows all of that that made me super
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: mindful of it. I'm getting to do it. And as
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: I said, I'm thinking a lot about anxiety and I'll
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: do some research for the next couple of months on that,
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: and this is something good that I want to write
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: about it. I'm heavily inspired by Kendrick, and I feel
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: like he speaks when there's something we're saying. I mean,
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of great books on anxiety. There's one
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: called Shook One Anxiety one. Guys, guy, it looks like
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Marris Chestnut. What is a good one? Chesnut? That guy
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: does not look nothing like Marris Chestnu. What you said
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: about Kendrick is interesting too, because Kendrick explored a lot
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: of conversations about love that men don't have. And I
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: think one of those relationships is definitely the relationship between
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: a father and a son, because that is the first
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: man that you love and the first man that as
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: supposed to love you. But if you grew up in
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: a certain era, like bebe forty four years old, my
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: dad grew up in the time in the nineteen hundreds
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: when they definitely didn't know how to love theirselves. They
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: definitely didn't have the tools in any way, shape or
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: form today and still that in us. And then we're
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: kind of like the first generation that has the luxury
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: of healing. And so now we're looking at them like, oh, goddamn,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: why do you still like it? Mean so, but you
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: still I don't know if you want to call it toxic.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: It's toxic into word, but it's it's like a dysfunctional
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: thing because I love you, yeah, but you kind of
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: asked me up. And then that goes back to this
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: idea of going easy on yourself. When you go easy
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: on yourself and go easy on other people, and it's
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: like you knew what you knew, Like they came from
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: a world like that, you know, and it's you know,
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: maybe in forty years, you know, when your children are adults,
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: they're gonna be dramatically more evolved as an individual than
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: you are. They're gonna look at you that's prehistoric with
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: your mindsets and whatever, and we don't even know what
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: those things are. You know, Like back then, people who
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: have lead pain, you know, I think it was in
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: the seventies. People before the seventies, people were driving without
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: seat belts, there are things that we think are common sense,
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: and you realize that there was a time that people
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: didn't even think about bags. We don't know what twenty
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: twenty three's ignorance is, Like, oh my, we were carrying
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: these devices in our pockets the whole time, and now
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: we all wonder like why we got certain diseases or
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: what have you, or we were eating all this food,
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: and so they're gonna look at us the same win.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: It's just you're gonna be like, look, I knew what
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: I knew. And I always think about that with my
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: parents because I definitely grew up in a world it
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: was like my family to this day is the subtle
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: signal they always had my back, but I only went
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: to them in emergencies. You know. I knew if she
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: hit the fan, I can go to my family and
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: they will have my back. But what if I was
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: like fifteen and I had a crush and needed advice
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: for my sister, I wouldn't go to her, you know,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: And then you start thinking that you're a burden to
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: other people. I don't want to bother them. And it
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: took somebody advice, but I mean just the vulnerability of it.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: You value through the vulnerability. I think, yeah, you should
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: not just go to one person for advice ever, you
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: should always triangulate your advice and get as many people
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: who know what they're talking about. But the idea of
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: even asking somebody, Yeah, So, what I realized in my
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: house was like we only went to each other for emergencies,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: the little things we did, and we became overly self regulated.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: I don't need nobody. I don't need nobody. And this
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: is a conversation of having somebody yesterday, Like there's no
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: such things self made. We all need each other. We're
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: all interdependent. You know, even if you did the grind
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: and it felt like you did it by yourself, you
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: still lived in a part of the world that maybe
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: wasn't at war, so you were able to do it.
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: Somebody paved the roads for you to get around. Somebody
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: kept the subway going for you to move around. We
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: need each other. That's why folks are so anxious now
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: because I can't rely on anybody to keep me secure.
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: Like when you walk in a room and it's mad people.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: I know red, I know envy, I know nick, I
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: know humble, but I still got to make sure all
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: of y'all are good because all it takes is one
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: person to go I'm using the word crazy, to go crazy,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: one person to flip and ruin everybody's day. You don't
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: know where that could come from, nowaday, you know, And
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: that's a beautiful way to look at it. It's surface here.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: Love is serving people. Love is a verb, and that's
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: why the book is called How to Be Loved, but
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: the dea is in parentheses because it's really about how
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: to be loved, how to realize you're a source of love.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: And if you want to realize love is looking inwards.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: You can't solve internal issues with external solutions. It's never
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: it's never gonna work. So instead it's like cultivate a
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: healthier relationship with yourself, which means learning how to be
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: by yourself. And spending time by yourself isn't being in
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: your room on your phone, it's literally being by yourself.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: And then you'll start to realize the difference between loneliness
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: and solitude. Solitude is the reward for being by yourself.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Loneliness is the punishment, and the difference is just getting
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: to know yourself, spending time with yourself understanding, Okay, this
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: is I'm full of anxiety. Why, oh well, I'm so
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: used to having a device or something giving me some
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: dopamine and a reward. Okay, I'm going through withdrawal. That's cool,
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: I gotta do it. Most of the mental health issues
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: we have aren't coming from unpleasant emotions. They're coming from
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: suppressing unpleasant emotions. I feel anxiety, Let me, let me,
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: let me take a shot. I feel anxiety. Let me
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: let me smoke some I feel anxiety. Let me distract
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: myself all of that. The anxiety is your friend. It's
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: a message telling you something. Pain is always a message,
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: whether the pain is take your hand off that hot stove,
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: whether that pain is hey, you heard you know. A
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: good example I heard recently is names. Somebody can mention
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: the name today, and if it's one of our exes,
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: it's going to trigger us in a different way. We
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: feel it. Pay attention to that. Why did that do something? Oh?
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: Because it reminded me of so and so. Okay, let
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: me let me go journal about that. You know what
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: psychologies do is they make you take your most traumatic
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: experiences and speak about them over and over and over
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: and over again until the weight reduces. I'm not going
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: to say it completely goes away, but you're disinfecting it
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: by letting it out. Yeah, you know what you said
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: is so real man, And I told you this the
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: other day. My therapist said that anxiety and faith can't coexist.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: So whenever you start feeling anxious about something, that anxiety
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: starts kicking in. Tell yourself your own hero story. Literally,
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: like tell yourself your hero story, like gash yourself up,
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: but you're gassing yourself up with the truth. Like tell
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: yourself about the things that you succeeded. You know, I mean,
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: tell yourself how you succeeded about, tell yourself where you've
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: come from, you know, talk about to tell yourself the
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: good that you do for other people, you know what
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: I mean? Like, you'll tell yourself your own hero story.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: And it works. It definitely works. And again and the idea,
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: you know, the subtitle of the book is going easier
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: on yourself. The reason we have anxieties because we're thinking
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: about the future. Regrets are about yesterday, anxiety is about tomorrow.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: And the reason we have to actively tell our hero
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: story is because our brains are designed to ignore everything
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: that works and focus on what's out of place. That's
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: why we're always noticing what's out of place in our life.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: Everything could be lined up, you know, and then we're like,
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: well that one thing. That's how our brains are designed.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with us that kept us alive in
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: nature forever, and that software isn't going to be That
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: software is built into us. Recognize it and and do
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: activities like this. So I have to actively express gratitude
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: to telling my story and even the idea of gratude.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: I love this from j If not say what you're
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: grateful for, it's close your eyes, remember a time you
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: felt gratitude and relive its book on love You'll ever
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• 53:07
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  Speaker 1: Wow donkey to Dave goes to an Arizona priest named
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  Speaker 1: Andrea Arrango. Okay, here's a priest, a Catholic priest, who
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: quite possibly has bought a whole bunch of you a
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: first class ticket to Hell. There's thousands of y'all walking
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: around right now with illegitimate baptisms. What is Uncle Charlotte
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: talking about this morning. What is the good Brotherlannards saying
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: in regards the illegitimate baptisms, exactly what I say, all right,
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: some of your baptisms are nulling, boy, fraudulent, unauthorized, unsanctioned, unofficial, unlicensed,
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: un whatever. Okay, okay, whatever you had happened under the
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: water don't count because Priest Andre's arrange didn't say it right.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: He didn't say to baptism right. It's like a spell.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: You know how your iPhone has ten Harry Potter spells
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: that work, would Siri, But they don't work if you
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: don't pronounce it right. That's kind of what happened which
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: your baptism. One word, one word kept you from being
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: cleansed of all your things. I can't make this kind
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: of foolsness up. Let's go to Fox ten Phoenix for
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: the report. Police. One word has made a divine difference
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: when it comes to the first sacrament in the Catholic faith. Baptisms.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: Phoenix priest Father Andres Arango resigned and apologized after he
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: had changed a pivotal word in the baptismal right. The
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: priest had been saying, we baptize you in the name
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: of the Father and of the Son and of the
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: Holy Spirit. The correct version starts with I baptize you.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: Orango had been part of the Catholic Diocese in Phoenix
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: since two thousand and five. He posted an apology letter
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: through the diocese saying, in part he would dedicate his
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: energy to remedy the situation. Other sacraments taken after, like confirmation,
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: marriage and Holy Orders could also will be invalid if
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: the baptism itself is invalidated. I can't keep up at
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: this level of perfection y'all got going on in two
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: twenty two. This kind of perfection you have to have. Now,
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: I can't deal with it. You know, if just the
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: kind of perfection you have to have, I'm screwed. Okay,
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: I'm confused by this. Instead of saying I baptize you
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: in the name of the Father and of the Son
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: and of the Holy Spirit. During baptism, Priest Andre said we.
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: And the issue with using we is that it is
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: not the community that baptizes a person. Rather it is
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: Christ and him alone who presides at all of the baptisms.
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: And so it is Christ Jesus who baptizes God. You know,
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: my heart and I try to only say what it
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: is that you want me to say. And in this moment,
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: the spirit is telling me to scream. Cap cap cap
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: trap cap cap. Where is Bresident Joe Biden when I
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: need him? Huh, let me hear it. Oh, we'll pull
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: it up when you can't. Okay, there's a cap. That's
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: say it again. President, there's a cap that's right. Priests, arrango,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: it is I, it is I. When you're getting baptized,
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: as in you, you are baptizing people in the name
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: of the Holy Spirit. Even if you say we to
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: me means you, God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit. That's the collective.
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: That's we. That's a group, that's to me goes, that's
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: Destiny's child, that's woutan clan, It's a collective. Okay. The
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: lie the cap is that it is Christ and him
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: alone who presides at all of the sacraments, and it
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: is Christ Jesus who baptizes. Jesus might be there in spirit,
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: but Jesus didn't dunk you under that water. Jesus not
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: physically there with you, but that priest Andreas standing there. Okay,
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: he's there, and him dunking you in the name of God,
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: Jesus and the Holy Spirit. That sounds about right to me.
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: So why is Priest Arrango getting dunkey here today? I'll
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: tell you why for stepping down, for resigning, for causing
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: all of this fuss for no damn reason. Do you
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: really think God, okay, g O D the Almighty who
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: forgives us for all our sins if we repent, is
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: tripping because you said we and not I? Seriously? Does
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: intention not matter? Baptism represents the forgiveness in cleansing from
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: sin that comes through faith in Jesus Christ. Okay. Baptism
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: publicly acknowledges one's confession of faith and belief in the
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: Gospel message. It also symbolizes the sinner's entrance into the
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: community of believers. You think all of that changed because
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: the priest said we and not I. Huh? When if
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: you ask me, I is the right thing to say?
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: Because like I said, I, as in you, Priest Andreas,
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: are the person doing the baptism and doing it in
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: the name of God, Jesus and the Holy goalst. That
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: sounds like the right thing to do to me. It's
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: like when you accept an award at an award show
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: for someone who is not there. You say, I accept
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: this award on their behalf. You could even say, we
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: accept this award on their behalf. You could even say,
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: I accept this award in the name of God, in
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: the Holy Ghost. All that is all good to me.
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: It's fine. The award will get to who it belongs to,
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: just like the meaning of being baptized will get to
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: the person being baptized, regardless of if a priest miss
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: is a word. We're in a teachable moments people, instead
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: of stepping down, Can this priest not talk about how
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: he just made a mistake? Is this even considered a mistake?
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: Is this something that even has to be acknowledged? Would
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: anyone even notice if he didn't say anything? Like? What
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: are we doing? Man? We are holding people to a
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: standard of perfection that Jesus couldn't even reach. And this
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: is why Jesus not coming back. It's why Jesus sends
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: all your prayers to his fan folder. Why would he
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: come back? Jesus is like, no, no, no, y'all holding
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: people to a standard of perfection that I'm not even
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: familiar with. Okay, Jesus even thinks y'all taking this perfection
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: of Christ thing way too far, and that is why
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: God put it on my spirit to give priests Andreas
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  Speaker 1: Zarrango a holy he hat. This is ridiculous. I'm missing
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  Speaker 1: a word. You know how many words I miss, how
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  Speaker 1: many words I mispronounced? But God knows my heart. You
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  Speaker 1: know my intention. You know what I'm trying to say.
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  Speaker 1: That's why even if I say something and I miss
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  Speaker 1: a word or mispronounced it, you still feel it. You
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  Speaker 1: still know what I was trying to say. You can
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  Speaker 1: still respond because it's about intention. I don't know, I
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  Speaker 1: ain't know. God. Just don't call you a jerk. You
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  Speaker 1: know I'm call me God love me, he or she
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  Speaker 1: loved me? Okay, touch me when I tell you I
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  Speaker 1: am blessed, Black and Dolly favors. You see me, Look
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: at me. That's a globe. Do you see me? That's
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: a globe. Okay, but act like you know right? All right? Well,
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  Speaker 1: thank you for that dunk in to day? Yes, indeed,
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  Speaker 1: a right, don't move. It's the breakfast club. Good morning,
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  Speaker 1: the breakfast club. Yeah, I gotta pack the kids lunch
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  Speaker 1: and snacks. And I've been packing donuts and uh popems,
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  Speaker 1: you know, fruit snacks and you know, ham and cheese
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  Speaker 1: or salami and cheese sandwiches. And that's just because you're
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  Speaker 1: a lazy ass dad who don't know how to cook.
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  Speaker 1: That's all it is. If you knew how to cook,
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  Speaker 1: you'd be feeding your kids. Uh you know better, better
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  Speaker 1: meals than that. And you want to run. You want
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: to run just as much as your kids too. But
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: people were like, envy, where's the whe's the fruit with
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: the carriage with the vegetable? So I agree with them.
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  Speaker 1: This morning, you know, I went there and I got
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  Speaker 1: some strawberries, I got some grapes, I got some of
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  Speaker 1: their favorite fruit, and I put it in their bags
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  Speaker 1: as well. But on the way in, I was reading
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  Speaker 1: this thing about fat kids, and I guess I can't
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  Speaker 1: use fat man. Why do you who says you can't
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  Speaker 1: use fat? All right? Well, children struggling with being fat
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  Speaker 1: and obesity should be evaluated and treat worse than fat.
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  Speaker 1: Obesity sounds crazy. I'd rather be fat than obese. They're
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  Speaker 1: saying the weight sounds dangerous. Soon as they tell you
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  Speaker 1: the playing over with, you don't want to get on it, right,
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: You're right, okay, you right. So they're saying the practice
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  Speaker 1: of watchful waiting. That's where you just you know, wait
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  Speaker 1: and saying, hey, my kid is gonna outgrow it. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't usually happen. They said, if your kid is
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  Speaker 1: as fat as a kid, they're gonna be fat as
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  Speaker 1: a team. So they're saying, fourteen point four million young
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  Speaker 1: people in the US are pretty big, and they said
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  Speaker 1: it leads to long health problems, high blood pressure, diabetes,
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  Speaker 1: and depression. Well, we're not talking about poverty, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Let me see the demographics of those kids. Let me
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  Speaker 1: see the locations where those kids live at. And I
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  Speaker 1: bet you, I bet you that they live in food deserts.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, there's plenty of studies that show, you know,
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  Speaker 1: people who live in food deserts are at an elevated
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  Speaker 1: risk for obesity. You know what I mean. If you
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  Speaker 1: got inadequate access to food, then you're more than likely
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  Speaker 1: gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. You're gonna eat snacks,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna eat all the fast foods. You're gonna eat
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: from the Chinese restaurant in the hood. You're gonna do
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  Speaker 1: that constantly, you know what I mean, And that will
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  Speaker 1: lead to obesity when you're young. I think that the
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  Speaker 1: reason a lot of those kids probably do grow out
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  Speaker 1: of it, you know, because hopefully as they get older,
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  Speaker 1: they're getting better financial situations and they pick up more
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  Speaker 1: healthier habits. Some people majority don't end up in better
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  Speaker 1: financial situations, so they keep those same piss poor habits
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  Speaker 1: with them throughout their whole life, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 1: and then they spend their whole life trying to survive
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  Speaker 1: off snats. But I do agree, I do agree that
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  Speaker 1: we have to attack this problem at a younger age
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  Speaker 1: because you teach habits right and one of those things.
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  Speaker 1: If you're teaching kids about eating right and exercising and
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  Speaker 1: working out, they're going to continue to do that when
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  Speaker 1: they get older, when their teens, and I think we
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  Speaker 1: have to create these habits and not just say you
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  Speaker 1: know what, we'll see what happens. Or you know, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times parents, even myself, we give our kids
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  Speaker 1: foods that are not bad because, like you said, where
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: we're running, we're doing this, we're doing that, but we
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  Speaker 1: have to make sure we watch what our kids eat
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  Speaker 1: as well. You're not wrong in me, but you're speaking
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  Speaker 1: from a place of of having something, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean. You can't do any of that you just
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  Speaker 1: said with no money. Like these folks are literally just
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: out here trying to survive. It's not even a thing
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  Speaker 1: of them practicing bad habits because they want to. They're
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: doing they're eating like this because they have to survive.
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  Speaker 1: Their literal foods. Had to access to good food, right,
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  Speaker 1: but you know, or to go to whole foods and
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  Speaker 1: buy the fresh fruits and vegetables and all that kind
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  Speaker 1: of credit. As a kid, I didn't, you know, we
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  Speaker 1: didn't have whole food and things like that, but my
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: mom made sure I didn't have McDonald's. Every day she cooked,
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  Speaker 1: whether it was we had some wild stuff. As a kid,
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: cook a lot. Well, we did have writing beans, but
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: we had you know, of course you did. You know
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: what forget it, get it princess right being hello, Hey, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: y'a family matters, Good morning. I wasn't thinking of family
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  Speaker 1: matter you talking about it anyway? The TV theme songs
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  Speaker 1: we play, yes, good morning, yeah, good morning to you all.
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  Speaker 1: So listen, guys, it's super multifacted it right. I think
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  Speaker 1: the best politically correct word will be overweight, just because
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: people take side and run with it any other kind
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  Speaker 1: of way. So just stay overweight kids. That a man,
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  Speaker 1: because you can flip overweight to your overweight as Oh man,
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  Speaker 1: we've anna let every stay overweight kids. That just sounds different.
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  Speaker 1: You've got too many simple minded people that's gonna go
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  Speaker 1: hard on him. You're right man to say overweight, right,
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  Speaker 1: you're right. So listen in regards to what you was saying,
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  Speaker 1: we are depreciated, right. Um. In regards to community, we
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  Speaker 1: know that it's easier for some communities that have five
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  Speaker 1: dollars and get that little season pizza and know that
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: we'll have to not worry about tonight and we'll figure
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: it out tomorrow. Right. And then we have the other
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 1: families who are letting their kids in and out the pantry.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: We buy in everything ding dongs wing want gets ahoy
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  Speaker 1: everything right, and we're really not caring because we don't
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 1: want to hit them talk or whatever. The reason is.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe we didn't have healthy eating habits growing up. So
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: when it comes to the surgery portion, now there is
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: lap in, there is gastric keep, and then there's gastric
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: five pass. Now that has to go with your PCP
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: having history, bnobes having It's just a lot of different
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  Speaker 1: factors that go into that that are tied at a
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  Speaker 1: young age. We'll be able to have that, right. Can
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  Speaker 1: I ask you something real quick, though, If you can't
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  Speaker 1: even afford healthy food, how are you going to afford surgery?
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  Speaker 1: Medicare Medicare Medicare, we'll pay, We'll pay for that, right,
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  Speaker 1: No Medicaid part of me. Medicare is for older so
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: Medicaid bill pay for that. Giving your doctor as saying
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  Speaker 1: this person needs that, this is medically necessary, they will
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  Speaker 1: be able to get in one hundred percent paid for.
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  Speaker 1: If you're a worker and you have insurance, you're insurance
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  Speaker 1: will pay for it. You pay your deductible out of pocket.
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  Speaker 1: If you out here and you got money, you can
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  Speaker 1: pay for whatever you want. You can get your kids
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  Speaker 1: to get whatever they want at whatever age, when you
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: got whatever type of farms. Are we clear? Yes, But
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  Speaker 1: that's the problem most of us don't. Like we're talking
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: like the majority of people out here aren't financially struggling, struggling,
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  Speaker 1: and that surgery to me sounds like a temporary solution
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: to a permanent problem. With those pills. You have to
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: go give these communities the resources they need to not
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  Speaker 1: just survive, but to thrive. You're getting surgery for a
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: kid at six and then they still can't afford proper food.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: And we just talk about earlier. When you get these surgeries,
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: you gotta work out and it right. How can you
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: do that if you in a impoverished neighborhood. But we'll
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: take your call some more eight hundred five five five one.
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  Speaker 1: But I agree with you. I think those the medication
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  Speaker 1: and those surgeries are temporary fixes because you don't want
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: your child on, you know, on pills for the rest
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: of their life. To just stay a little bit, you know.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: Then let's talk about it when we come back. It's
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  Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Good morning, e n G. Charlemagne, the
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: guy we are the Breakfast Club, naptew just joining us.
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  Speaker 1: We were talking about a new study that came out
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: and they were saying children struggling struggling with obesity should
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: be evaluated and treated early and aggressively, including medications for
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: kid as young at twelve and surgery for those that
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: are thirteen. They're saying the old practice of watching, watchful
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: waiting or delaying treatment to see if the kids outgrow
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: it is stupid and don't do it. They're saying fourteen
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  Speaker 1: point four million young people in the US are left untreated,
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: and obesity can cause health problems high blood pressure, diabetes, depression,
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 1: and security. I hate how that study is not talking
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: about poverty. I hate how that study is not talking
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: about you know, food deserts, you know. I hate how
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: that study is not talking about individuals who love living
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: food deserts are had an elevated risk for obesity. I
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: hate that that study isn't talking about how inadequate access
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: to food, you know, is gonna lead, you know, to
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: obesity because folks gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. You
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: know how fast food restaurant's got better deals in the
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: healthy places. You can peach six people with five dollars
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 1: that most of these damned fast food places. But you know,
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 1: an apple, apple casts six dollars one apple. Yeah, now
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: you're right. I want to I want to shout out
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  Speaker 1: to uh. I believe it's called Fittitian. It's a restaurant
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: that's in the New York area. They branching and I
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: went there the other day and I bought a fruit bowl,
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: a big size fruit bowl, and it was it was
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: five dollars, and I was surprised. I'm like it's really
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  Speaker 1: five dollars and they had you know, I had a
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: granola had all the food in it. So let me
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: let me it's fittian, fittitian shout out to them. All right,
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: let me let's go to the phone lines. Hello, who's
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: this hey going around the store to how you guys
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: doing this morning? I'm doing well? How are you guys?
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 1: Blessed Black and Holly Favor? What's your what's your opinion?
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  Speaker 1: What's your thoughts? Mama? So my thought is, especially from
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  Speaker 1: a medical perspective. I'm a medical professional of working cardiology. UM,
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: I definitely think we should allow these kids to have
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: access to weight loss medication. One thing you mentioned was
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: something about lifeul suction. That's not the that's not what
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: they said. That says the kids can have weight loss
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: surgery such as bypass, gaster bypass or sleeve something like
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: that to help them lose the way. But we do
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: know that we see down the line of these kids
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: end up with heart disease and other problems. And you'll
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: be surprised, or maybe you won't be surprised, but I
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: used to do football physicals. You'll be surprised when they
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: those guys come in young kids only thirteen years old,
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: what high blood pressure already you know, and want to
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: play football. And so then we talk about things happening
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: like you know, collapsing on the field, right um and
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. So um, definitely I think we should,
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: you know, give these kids a shot at, you know,
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: having a healthier weight and living a healthier life. And
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: I agree with you, M. Charlemagne on the you know,
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: making access to healthier food. And you know, right now,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: the food prices are incredible, you know, ropery store prices
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 1: are crazy, and that is definitely your problem. But also
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: it is that our kids just don't exercise and you know,
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: do the things that they used to do. We used
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: to play outside, you know, down the kids are in
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: front of the TV all day or playing video games
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: all day, right, that is true, I think, I think,
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: I think it's a combination of the lack of physical activity,
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 1: but more importantly, man, the poverty, the food desert these
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: folks live in. Man Like, when you live in these
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: food deserts, you don't have access to good, high chuality food.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: You're gonna eat cheap, high calorie stuff. But even as parents,
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: even if if that is the case, we have to
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: get our kids out more. And I know a lot
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: of times it's easy to you know, to have our
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: you know, I phones and iPads and video games and
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: TV babysit our kids. But we have to get back
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: out there with those kids. Make them go play basketball,
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: make them go jump rope and make them dance, make
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: them go to chair. There's so many free events and
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: free activities that these kids could do that keep them exercising.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 1: This week. Like I said, my wife is away and
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: my kids have so many damn activities, and I would
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: be mad at my wife, like couldn't this gracious? But
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: now I get it. I understand it. They're out and
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: about the exercise and they're running around and they're doing
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: a lot. Well, I'll tell you this, and I agree
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: with you, and I'm not making excuses, but man, do
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: you feel safe just letting your kids go out? You
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: feel safe just letting your kids go run around? I
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: think about growing up to South Carolina. Man, We used
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: to be out all day, no cell phones, on the bikes,
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: from dirt road to dirt road, running through cornfields, running
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: through the woods. Parents knew what we were at our
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: guess they knew we were around, but nowadays, I would
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: never feel comfortable. Yeah right, just letting my kids just
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: go wrong for a few hours by theirselfs Hell no, yeah,
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: I guess right. Hello, who's this Leo? Leo? Good morning thoughts, brom.
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: I basically think that it all starts with the parents.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: We need to encourage more healthy or eating habits, you know,
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: so that our kids follow through my parents. My family
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: has a history of work, very overweight, and I've done
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: a lot of things to get a healthy weed. And
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to encourage my daughter now he's about four,
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: to start eating you know, pretty good. And like that, man,
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: all they're almost been doing great in life. Because even
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: if it starts with the parents, which is true, the
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: parents poor too, like like like poverty. Poverty is just
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 1: as generational. It's poor eating habits because if the parents
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: couldn't afford to eat, well, you think they can afford
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: to feed their kids, well, come on, man, Like I
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: don't know, man, I just feel like poverty is the
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 1: root of the issue, man, because you know, a lot
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: of these people that we're talking about, they live in
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: food deserts. And everybody knows that if you live in
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: a food desert, you're at an elevated risk for obesity
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 1: because you don't have, you know, adequate access to good
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 1: food to you eating all the cheap, high calorie nonsense.
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 1: All right, well, it's the Breakfast Club. Come on the
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Call me you opinion to the breakfast Club top.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: I get five five one five one morning. Everybody is
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: DJ Envy Charlemagne, the guy. We all the breakfast club. Naphew,
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 1: you're talking about what we're not doing anymore in twenty
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 1: twenty three. What are we leaving in twenty twenty three,
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: I mean twenty twenty two. I'm gonna tell you something else, man,
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: I told you going into twenty twenty three. I really
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: want to see people grow up. And it's crazy to
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: be forty four years old and be telling other forty
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 1: four year olds that they need to grow up. But
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 1: I do really want to see men grow up. I
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 1: want us to be able to, you know, have conversations
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 1: with each other without the conflict. That's why I'm trying
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: expressing brothers to go to therapy to deal with that hurt,
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 1: that pain that they haven't sided in. But I'm gonna
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 1: tell you something else. But I've been hearing a lot
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 1: of forty somethings have conversations about like money and wealth
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 1: and things of that nature, and they're talking about it
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 1: from the perspective of what they're wearing. That sounds so crazy.
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 1: They're like, oh, such, such, you ain't getting no money
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 1: because you know they not wearing design are They just
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 1: started wearing designer. That is like the silliest, most foolish
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: thing I've ever heard of forty something. You old human
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: being said, Oh, it doesn't have to be forty, could
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 1: be thirty or twenty or even basically their wealth off
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: of jewelry, of cars, they having cash that they could
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  Speaker 1: hold up to that. Oh my god, Yeah, I think
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  Speaker 1: we need to We flew to my good brother John
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  Speaker 1: Hope Brian Man. John Hope Brian says, if the only
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  Speaker 1: asset you have is on your ass, you're doing something wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely so please can we leave that in twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: two for all ages, but especially I cannot believe it's
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  Speaker 1: talking like that. That's crazy to me. Hello, who's this
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  Speaker 1: My name is Lisa. Hi, Lisa, Come on a Lisa.
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  Speaker 1: I'm calling because I'm leaving behind no people and and guys.
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  Speaker 1: Some guys don't know how to be comed. Oh boy,
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  Speaker 1: we'll stop dating, uh, everybody except for black men because
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  Speaker 1: black men don't cheat. Blast men are the cheaters. Could
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  Speaker 1: you stop? Why are you telling lives like the we
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  Speaker 1: should leave lying in twenty twenty two? Tell such a tale.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry you got cheated on, mama. Yeah, and you're right,
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  Speaker 1: you should. We should leave cheating as women and men
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  Speaker 1: in twenty twenty two. And the ain't no black men cheating?
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  Speaker 1: No young young black boys are cheating. But what black
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  Speaker 1: men are not cheating? How? What? What do you consider
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  Speaker 1: t J? Holmes? Huh okay age bracket for them not
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  Speaker 1: to cheat? What do you mean I think that I
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  Speaker 1: think that we shouldn't. I don't know what you're talking about. No,
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  Speaker 1: you just said how old? How old are you? How
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  Speaker 1: old are you? Howld you? Mama? How old are you?
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  Speaker 1: And how old was how old was the last white
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  Speaker 1: man that cheatings on you? For white man? Black? How old?
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  Speaker 1: He's still a little boy, That's what I'm telling you.
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  Speaker 1: He's still a young man. Like does how old it
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  Speaker 1: takes uman? Let me think. Let me see, I got
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  Speaker 1: there around thirty six, thirty six, it took me up.
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  Speaker 1: I got there. I got there around thirty six. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you should. I'm not saying you
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  Speaker 1: should wait that long. Huh you married, I've been with
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  Speaker 1: my wife. Took him some time, my money four years,
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  Speaker 1: we've been married since two thousand and forteen, took up
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  Speaker 1: some time my mind. I'm gonna tell you the difference. Man.
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  Speaker 1: All jokes aside. Seriously, it's all about being intentional about
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  Speaker 1: doing the work on themselves. If you're intentional about growth,
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  Speaker 1: if you're intentional about being a good man, you will
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  Speaker 1: go do the work on yourself. So you know, you
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  Speaker 1: don't have women calling up to the radio stations sad
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  Speaker 1: like how she sounds this morning. She sounds very sad
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 1: like this club. God morning morning. Everybody is DJ n
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  Speaker 1: V Charlemagne the guy. We are the breakfast club, and
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  Speaker 1: I was time to get up out of here. You
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  Speaker 1: got a positive note, bro, positive note, since today is
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: MLK day. Man is a quote from Martin Luther King Junior.
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: Man Luther King Junior once said people fail to get
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  Speaker 1: along because they fear each other. They fear each other
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  Speaker 1: because they don't know each other. They don't know each
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  Speaker 1: other because they have not communicated with each other. Express
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  Speaker 1: some communication with somebody today, Breakfast Club. You don't finish
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  Speaker 1: for y'all,