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Content Creation: The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly | Featuring Kendal McWilliams | EP39 · Jess Ask

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Hey, it's your girl, Jess. You've just entered a safe space for
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Kingdom entrepreneurs and creatives to decompress, have fun, and yeah, you've guessed
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it a safe place to just ask. Before we get into it, be
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and questions so we can keep the conversation going. Now, let's get into
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this week's episode. We sound good to you. Yep, okay, yep,
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you ready? Oh we recorded. We just having a conversation about we
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love you? Are's okay? So fun fact a fall let's part. We're
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not Kendall this show that's supposed to look just so. Yes, so Kendall
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is new to the new team the upgrade because we upgraded, then we upgraded
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the upgrade. You know what I'm saying. So, but welcome everybody.
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It's your girl, Jessica As Smith and this is the safe space for influencers
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to decompress, half fun and just as and I am your host, but
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I am gathering myself today because you know, when my sister comes in the
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door, it's you're gonna get a healing, You're gonna get laughter, You're
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gonna have fun, yea. And so if you don't know who she is,
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her name is Kendall McWilliams. Everybody knows her as b as you say,
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the Jessica Smith, I am d She lock and loads them all the
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time. Right now, she's not taking clients. Not I'm a making the
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public announcements with my daddy. Think he got special privileges. Listen, because
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why he do that? Yesterday y'all, we was at a restaurant. Before
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we get to the restaurant to celebrate my sister birthday. Before we get to
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the restaurant, Daddy decides to message us to say, hurry up, I
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got a client for you. Kendle have clients already, sir. But Daddy
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Daddy proud, Daddy proud for one of his children. He got something to
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be proud of. I tell Nick, did you know he did that?
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However, Daddy also acts like my grandmother. He pulled out a Jesidale yesterday.
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That was a hole, that was a whole just but I ended up
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liking. I'm glad she is. She was first of first of all,
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this lady that came up to Kendle. First of all, she was boring,
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courageous because we didn't even know she worked at Shawnee's. We went to
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shawn we didn't even know she worked at Shawnee's. And the lady. The
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lady. The reason why we didn't know because she had like this meek on.
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She had heels on. Everybody else had the Shawney's shirt on and some
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regular pants and an apron. She wasn't wearing it. No, she didn't.
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She didn't wear that at all. She was she I thought she was
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the owner. She said, I'm just she's the hostess. I am the
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host I said. I was so confused. I was because my baby spilled
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her drink and that's when we found out. Just so the drink was spilled,
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and I was like, I was looking for somebody. She was like,
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what you need? I said, you working? All of us we
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were just staying at her. It was like and she was the old baby.
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It's just like this little you know. She said, I don't do
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this. I don't I got man, my man worked at the my man
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got two jobs. I don't need this. She was giving energy, like
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baby, they need me, I don't need them okay. I was like,
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oh I was I was confused. I was confused. So we had
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Yeah we did. They have a good time yesday. But let's go back
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to Usher, Usher, Baby, this is for you, you my number
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one. I really like Usher and I would like to see him live.
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Let's pray that he goes maybe on tour. He announces the tour after this
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super Bowl because they, I mean, everybody's on tour. First of all,
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COVID took a lot of money from these entertainments they did, and they
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traveling, they doing the most. It's outside. I think I saw the
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old jas of tour. What I don't know. I think I seen a
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fly with the old j's on it. I said, baby, y'all should
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be retired. I know that, I said, BROSI they had to take
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a break out of the water and passed away. I'm like, but y'all
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on this Yeah, but but they But what the what COVID did too was
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a pushed creativity. It did because we got into the norm of it had
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to look this way, you know what I'm saying. Like, and when
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we when we box creativity in like that, then we don't expand and expose
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ourselves. To what God is already planned, right, and so it benefited
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people who were willing to do something new. Definitely, like COVID the shut
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down, everything benefitted people, not only for people that were willing to do
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something new, but people that were willing to invest in the new thing.
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There go that part that is that right there. Because we can think,
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we can think, we can think all day. Thoughts are free. Yep,
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everybody got a thought, everybody, but does everybody have the willingness to
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invest? And so the artists, the creatives, the influencers that had the
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gut to say, Okay, my thought, I gotta put some money on
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this. I gotta put some time on this, because you know money,
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you know, money ain't just you can't just pay for things to happened.
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So it's sometimes a lot of times stuff takes time. Right. But yeah,
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that that era you know, did take I want to say, took
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some money. It challenged people to think outside of their their creative norm Oh
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yeah, it definitely. It definitely gave people the bag, like people's rent
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for the bag. I think twenty twenty was a lesson learned because especially let's
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just talk about people who are in the service industry, yeah, I was
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just gonna bring it up. Is that not when you decided to leave your
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full time? Well, it was played. So I used to be a
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preschool teacher and I was doing like here on the weekend side to make a
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little extra money. And then as my client clientele started to grow, I
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decided, Hey, I think I could see myself doing this full time.
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Because at first it was very scary to think that, and but COVID gave
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me the extra push because you know I am I'm very timid. I'm not
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the type this just gonna jump in the water. People think that because on
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the outside looking in they were like, oh, Kima just you know,
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started doing hair. It was like no, Like I had to build it
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up and I had to get my feet with before I decided I was just
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gonna quit. So that was the goal. And then I was like,
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okay, it's my last year teaching. It was my my brother, my
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little brother was at the school. Yeah. I got a little brother the
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same age as my daughters. This Yeah, so my my little brother was
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still at the school and I told them I was gonna still stay up there.
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I didn't think that the school's gonna do anything to him. But I
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was like, I'll just be up there to be his comfort, and this
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will be my last year, not knowing the pandemic was gonna happen, right,
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not knowing that I was gonna be pregnant. Yeah, what y'all?
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That year listen, twenty twenty was traumatizing, but it was also uh it
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made me stronger for sure, especially like family wise, but business wise too,
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So I had to have a lot of faith as far as like like
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I saying, during it, During that time, people in the service industry
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that had to figure something out. So it was ways that people figured out
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to make money outside of the physical right right, So people were that's when
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you saw more content. This is just my opinion. You saw more people
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pushing out content as far as in the beauty industry or food content or anything.
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Content was like boom boom boom, and everything blew up. That's just
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I think twenty twenty was a year of making money online. Like that's when
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people like I feel like, worked way harder. Now. It's like it
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looks different in my opinion, if I was in college during this time,
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it's no way I would be broken. That's good, No way I would
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be broke. When I hear broke people say broke college students, I laugh
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because, for one, a lot of people like they're fewer college students is
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going because growing up when our area is like they push, push, pushing
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on to college college college liked. Dad didn't give us an option. I
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don't think that. It was like you got you got to go. Yeah,
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I don't think we had an option. I tried to go to the
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military that it was like, no, you told me that you're gonna go
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to myles and you walk. Yeah, you're going somewhere. You're staying right
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around from college. So he was like, yeah, shout at the hbcut
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bands down. Yeah, yeah, I loved it. But but yeah,
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like it was no option. So now it's funny because my nine year daughter
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an option for her is, oh, I'm gonna be a content creator.
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That was that was not, that's not that's the whole career. That's the
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whole career now, And people don't understand how hard it is to It's not
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waking up and getting on the camera. It's a job. It's can you
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can you give? You know, the folks just a rundown of what that
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looks like. As far as like capturing to the edit to the posting man.
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So I want to start with planning, right, So I think what
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has what has helped me is putting together a workflow like Okay, it's good
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start with you know, I set this up like this, I put this
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here, I put that there, and this is even before like we hit
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record. Right. So the setup, whether you are breaking it down and
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taking it breaking it down each time or just leaving it is important to help
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with the flow of what you're creating right right. So then before before that,
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it's like, okay, well, what you're gonna record? Yeah,
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I mean some people can just jump out there and and and just create like
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that, but some people they have to like sit down and you know,
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get the thoughts out. Okay, what am I gonna be talking about?
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What is this gonna look like? You know? From there? Then it's
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like, okay, now I'm gonna record it. Great, Well, what
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does the sound sound like? What does the light look like? What am
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I recording it on? Am I putting this on my phone? Or am
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I doing with a camera or we going with the audio from the from the
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camera the phone, We putting mics in, We got ring lights, got
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box lights, we got round lights, Like what does that look like?
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What is that? Okay, now now that I've recorded it? What am
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I doing with this? How am I editing this? Do I am?
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I have to? Am I gonna have to learn like editing software, Premiere
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Pro Final Cut Da Vinci or am I gonna do it on my phone?
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The phone of I mean, how do you? How do you get that?
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Then? Where to put it? It's just like YouTube is this like
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TikTok? Is this like you know Vimeo, Vimeo? Like where is it
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going? But the overall thing is like what's the purpose and what's the why
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that? Because all of that other stuff will be figured out if you just
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go just go go back and go ahead. I'm just I'm listen. I
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just talked to my assistant and I told her we're gonna bring so. She's
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so good. She reminds me so much of you. Her name is Dane.
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Oh come on and shout out to you Dan your book. So I
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was just talking to her. She is a pusher. Like if she was
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in Birmingham, I probably will be so much further along. Like she doesn't
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live in Birmingham, Yeah, but I don't know. She she might be
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ready for a move, you think so, might you hear that? Yeah?
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Yeah, you might be ready to come home. Girl. I told
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her, listen, when I make I'm gonna get to my point of me.
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But I told her, I said, when I make some money,
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some real money, you coming with me? Yeah you're not. You are
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not a pr Come and she's with me now, you know, because it's
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a whole testimony, like Juffica, I'm like, she do that now,
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because the editing of alone, I'm like, Godly, that's not easy,
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y'all. It's not easy. It's not And I did it for myself before
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Desiree was coming, like the Desiree was a whole upgrade, like it was
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a whole upgrade or not even just just as before my life, you know
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what I'm saying. And so one thing I told the young ladies this yesterday
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is that sometimes we think that we can do stuff by faith. But doing
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stuff by faith does not give you the right to do it alone. Doing
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stuff by faith does not give you permission to say I have to hide this
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and keep this to myself. Doing it by faith and say I'm going to
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go by any means necessary. Any means necessary does not mean you need to
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do it by yourself, you know. I had I had a conversation with
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my pastor today and we were talking about the ministry. Yeah, unboxed storship,
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right, and so she would just giving me wisdom on you know,
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some of the things I've shared with her and she and that's exactly what she
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said. She said that first, you have to write the vision right because
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you know, you know it because it's it's it's what's been put on the
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inside of you, right, so I know from the back of your hand.
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But the faith party is actually writing it down. And then the scripture
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says, write it so that they can run rightday. It don't say write
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it down so that you can do all the things because that's what you're comfortable
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when you don't trust nobody. It says, write it down so that they
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can run with it. So once you write it down, saying hey,
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I got the faith to whatever it's supposed to look like, whoever's supposed to
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come, I know that the vision is clear enough for them to be able
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to run. But you have to be open and willing enough to allow them
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to run with it. Open and willing enough for them to run with it.
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Go ahead, I'm sorry. I think that day party is so it's
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so good too, because not only okay, after you write that that vision,
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now to make it plain, when you include they, that's accountability because
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you can say something all day and as me, I love, I have
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some of the best ideals, but if I just say it to myself,
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then who's gonna push me. Who's gonna help me push to get to that
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Yeah, to that level that I need seeing. But also they can witness
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the the hard work because a lot of times on the outside looking in,
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like I was telling you about my business, my business seemed like it grew
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fast, but it was a process. I've been doing this for a way
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longer than even blows my mind, the process. But having a they watching
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the hard work, watching the zero view, watching the times where nobody shared,
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nobody liked, and then you get to that point to where you're on
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a certain platform or making a certain amount of money or doing a certain thing.
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They saw it because they were a part of it, so they can
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appreciate it more because everybody else might have some difference to say, but they
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are with you. I had to it's you know, I know it's real,
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come on now, but the day is important. And one of the
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things the Lord was showing me the other days how important the day is in
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every as spend. And so it's not just within business, but it's personal
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to you said the word accountability, right, and so what account of accountability
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is scary? Like I'll say for me personally, is been scary because for
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one, let's start with here, allow the Lord to send you accountability.
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Everybody does. Can't manage what to hold you in because in my account when
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you when you hold me account that's what the first part of it. You
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have to hold me, and then the accountability comes after that. You can't
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manage the weight. Ain't no holding. I'm heavy baby like you. But
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if you can't maintain or manage the weight of me, it's nothing for you
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to hold me account because it's a way, it's a way. It's waiting
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because I don't need you, because I'm not gonna Holding me accountable don't always
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look good. Holding me accountable is not always favorable to you. Holding me
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accountable is not always gonna make you happy. But can't can you stand the
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rain? My God? Can you stand the rain? Can you stand the
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storm? Can you stand the testing? Because my good gonna be great,
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My good gonna be great. But can you can you manage the ugly side
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of me and still understand and see me? And that's and I've told there's
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a ray before it is that that I appreciate you so much because you've seen
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some really really really ugly signs of Jessica Esthmith. But even in those ugly
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moments of you having to call me out and hold me accountable, you still
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didn't unsee the anointing. You still didn't unsee the purpose. You still come
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and say, Justic, we still got an episode too. She didn't quit
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on me because Justin didn't get it right. And so now I know that
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I can allow her to hold me accountable. So there is a two way
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street. So now I have to accept the accountability and then I have to
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allow her to hold me accountable. I can't. I might book. I'll
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be booking, y'all. I book if you book that me? Okay,
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killdle being killed? Had it out? Greg? I don't know you're watching
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this, Greg. This is like literally my brother, y'all. Like this,
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this dude holds me accountable. He's always stretching me. And so if
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you can't stand me bucking at you or if you can't, and it's not
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in a bad way. It's just your flesh gotta die. My flesh is
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still dying. My flesh, my pride is still dying. Right And so
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for me to say, okay, you know the day and we talk talk
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about accountability, this is God's accountability. God is not going to send people
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that can't manage, manage who you are in full and you and when I
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think about this, range, man, I think I gotcha. Can you
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keep talking about this? Right? Because like the fact that what has been
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like a year since y'all have had this connection, right, just by a
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year a year we've been knowing each other, I know, knowing each other,
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but i'd probably so maybe I say, maybe, like yeah, at
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the end of twenty twenty two, okay, when we kind of started kind
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of connecting, connecting and so short term like to be able to y'all's chemistry.
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Now here's the thing, and it's this is the perfect part about it,
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Like you're and I know Joessica feels this way because it's how I feel
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about Danielle, my assistant. The fact that what I lack she yeah,
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she's like I got it. Yeah, I don't even have the ax.
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She is so organized. I am not. I'm trying to get to the
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point where I just can do a little bit at the time. But she
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that's the part of somebody holding accountable. And it is not so much where
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it's like, oh, it's an hour row. It's like I fit in.
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It's like a puzzle piece, right. I feel in right there where
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it's missing, where it's the whole. I fit in. And that's how
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I feel about you and Jessica, because I don't Jessica's doing a podcast by
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herself. But until you came along with the team, even though she's the
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face of her podcast, y'all are team and you make her podcast what it
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is, and you could. She couldn't do it at you. You couldn't
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do it without her period. So that's how I feel about my business too
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right now, because a lot of the stuff I'm like rolling my eyes and
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I'm overwhelmed by by She's not. Then you're like, oh the things.
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I'd be like, oh my gosh, thank you so much. She's like,
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huh, what are you talking about? This is my natural ability.
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Yeah, And it's the same thing with me when it comes to certain things.
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So when it you like, you hit it on the nail yesterday you
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said when we were just talking about having your day or whatever. And I
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think, like even when I went into the beauty industry, I knew I
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was like, I want to do this alone. Like I don't want to
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I don't want to deal with nobody else. I'm not a people person.
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I don't want to buy this. And then third, but how am I
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gonna elevate? How How am I gonna elevate without having a day? Yeah,
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you know what I mean. It's no way that I can elevate without
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having a day. There's no way that I can't have a team. I
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can't do this alone. I don't care that I'm the face in the brain
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of Kenml's dread heads. I cannot do this alone, Kendall. The gag
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is Jesus didn't even do it alone. He had he had a whole discile,
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the gangsters, and it was twelve of them. Twelve, Like he's
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gonna get to. The gag is is that Jesus had all power and still
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chose to have community. He had picked his community. Like that's the gag.
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Like the gag is that we and I think I'm saying it for me
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because I tried so hard to do it by myself. Like I'm like,
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oh, I works to it, but I work will by myself. Blah
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blah blah blah. Even me being a leader, Me and Greg talk about
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this like this is something I'm working on at work, and he said,
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he said, justin you get stuff done when you're by yourself, Like when
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you run the break on yourself, you do x y and z la lahl
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lah lah. Okay, Bet, I just need you to learn how to
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do this with a team. Coach d has told me the same thing,
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and so I'm just like, okay, how do I include people? And
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that's a trust issue, you know what I'm saying, That's a trust It's
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like if it's got my name on it, it's gotta go right x y
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Z. When I and I try to, you know, let people do
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what they gonna do. Why do I have to keep following up you begging
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you to do something that you committed to doing? Like it gives me an
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attitude, Okay, I get a straight attitude of having a follow up with
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people when they committed to something. But that's a whole nother podcast. Not
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even I'm not going on that way. However, however, when you realize
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the power of day right, you would be so much further along. And
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then when you when you try to isolate yourself, not only are you hindering
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you, you're blocking everybody else that's supposed to be connected to your growth to
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bring them up, to bring up like you saying, oh, I'm this
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influencer, I'm this, I'm a business owner, but you're doing everything by
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yourself. Another thing that I wanted to bring up, Kendall, when you
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said something about the content creative creation, and it brought content creation on all
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spectrums right, So it wasn't just people in their lifestyles. It was people
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teaching stuff and opening up about their expertise and not charging for everything. They
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start to oh my god. They had to start giving the pandemic force a
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giving out of people that blessed them beyond message. It was like, oh,
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so if I get on Instagram and I just start talking to people and
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saying, hey, this is how I twist the lock. If I get
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on TikTok and act like y'all my family and say hey this is how you
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do this, or girl, you saw that I did yes, said like
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they were building communities which built wealth. This is so good. So if
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I don't have wealth, I might not have community. If I have if
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I don't have wealth, I might be missing out on my community. It's
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not that you're not smart enough. It's not that you're not you're not welling
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down. It's not that you don't spend time with the Lord. It's not
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that you don't meditate. It's not that you don't have a plan. You
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do not have community. Community is what's pushing this brand forward. I ain't
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a millionaire doing alone, man, And then the ones that do probably they
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died. They died for real. I ain't never seen it. So,
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I mean, and you talked about the beauty industry. That was hilarious.
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I remember putting my stuff out of me, like during the pandemic, nobody
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was. I ain't gonna say, couldn't because you know, some people are
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still sneaking getting their hair done. But with y'all, y'alls to be doing
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hair and service and people during their time, right. So a lot of
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people went in and started teaching online, and I know that was something I
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would do, and it was really specifically for my clients because They were like,
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you're not getting your hair up for months at the time. This is
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crazy, like something I went out and taught people and a lot of people
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were like, oh, thank you so much. You know kiindle this and
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the third. But I had people who were marketing from it. But in
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the in in the beginning, they were making money from classes and all of
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this. Those people were upset at the outpour of people teaching online. They
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can I mean, I get it to a certain extent, but what's yours
26:12
is yours. I'm not stopping anybody if you want to put a whole free
26:15
class online. What some people went to college for free, some people didn't
26:22
have to pay a dime, and then some people had to pay for it.
26:26
But does that make the listening Let's know. I'm sorry, but what's
26:32
for you is for you. That's your opportunity. So we have to stop
26:36
looking at well other people are marketing off of as far as their country.
26:41
I remember being on TikTok Live, y'all, and I see I'm trying to
26:45
get back in the floor of things. I like putting out natural energy.
26:48
I don't like forcing energy because people don't know. Again, content creator is
26:53
being a content creator or talking to online users. It is draining. It's
27:00
not just getting up and talking. It's not like you literally have to be
27:03
mentally prepared. One. When I get online, I'm gonna make sure that
27:07
my clients are good. Yeah, I'm gonna make sure that the people that
27:14
are watching are entertaining good and I'll make sure I'm doing my job. If
27:18
I can't do all three, I'm not getting online. I'm not doing it.
27:21
If I have a client who they came in and they're not having their
27:23
bedsday, I dare not put them online. That's so good. So if
27:27
I'm having a good day, my client's having a good day or whatever,
27:30
and I'm focused, I can get online do that. But anyway, during
27:33
that time twenty twenty one, that's when I started getting on live and a
27:40
white woman got on and she was asking all these questions, and people in
27:44
the comments were getting upset with her because she was asking questions about what I
27:47
was doing with black hair, and I said, it's okay. She had
27:49
questions. She wasn't gonna be ignorant and assume I appreciated her getting on there
27:53
and saying, hey, what does that mean or what are you doing?
27:56
She had no connection with black hair, had nothing. I think she lived
28:00
in like the whitest state of America. But she saw my live and I
28:04
was entertaining her, and I also was answering her questions. The lady asked
28:08
me what my cash hat was and she sent me one hundred dollars. Come
28:11
on, And I was like what because you took time with her. I
28:15
took time. I talked to her, entertained her, entertained my clients,
28:21
and I still did my job and she was so And that's where you're talking
28:23
about people. We had the giving people like it's more than y'all. I
28:27
can give it. Thousands of people can see that, but maybe maybe ten
28:33
people out of the thousands might give me a gift. I still was blessed
28:36
from being able to put that out there. Yes, I can market off
28:40
of other classes outside and stuff like that, but it's ways to it's ways
28:45
to benefit from your business where you feel like you put it out and it's
28:49
free, and it's not free because you getting on live and teaching and you
28:53
teaching so well that person might not tip you for saying what you're saying,
28:56
but you put a class for a couple months of a couple of months later
29:00
they gonna sign up for their class. It happened. It happened. You
29:03
saw it. People came from floor. I didn't know this lady from from
29:07
half a class. I didn't know that was like, yeah, I caught
29:10
one of your lives, Ladro from Florida. Hey, I wanted to learn
29:14
how to do my son's here. I wanted to learn how to do I'm
29:15
like, huh, because people need help. Yeah, that's like content creation
29:22
and the one thing I if I could get out my own way with this
29:26
one thing I appreciate about content creation is what's missing is found through country,
29:32
country and creation and because everybody's trying to do it perfectly. And and this
29:38
is what I did want to say towards you know, or after to add
29:42
on what desil Ray was presenting. Is that is that you may not have
29:52
all the tools that she named, but you have something something like every day
30:00
every day in our hand we have like before before we even started recording,
30:06
I recorded myself on my on my Instagram, on your on your phone,
30:11
and the sunlight and the sunlight. That's it. That's all I did.
30:15
Start somewhere and you got to I stood before before desilt Ray. I went
30:21
on Facebook, uh not Messer marketplace, and I found a cannon cameras was
30:27
our R seven rebel something I just thought it was. It looked like the
30:34
camera she used about it. I got it for one hundred dollars and I
30:44
got started with what I did. Y'all can go back on YouTube. Y'all
30:47
can even go back on you know, to listen to not a quality of
30:49
the ear. The sound was pretty decent, you know, I got it.
30:52
I learned a little something in church about the sound. Okay, but
30:57
as far as the video quality, camera wasn't camera like this camera now,
31:02
Okay, drastic difference. But I did something. Yeah, I did something,
31:07
and I did what I could. I put it. I sold the
31:10
seed into the atmosphere. And when we I'm speaking to those of you who
31:15
might identify where I've been to where I kept allowing tools that I didn't have,
31:21
and I saw everybody else have stopped me from what God was doing.
31:26
Right at one point, let's even take it back, before I even started
31:29
calling calling this a podcast, we had I think it was still called just
31:33
Ass. Like it was still called just Ass. And if you go back
31:37
and look at it, I was doing interviews then didn't know didn't even know
31:41
what I was doing. See baby, y'all, let's let's let yes.
31:45
Katie was the first guest and we did our nails. We did our why
31:49
she's still talking about she was on your TV show. She was my baby,
31:53
was my my niece, was my first give she was. We did
31:56
our nails together and I used the phone. I used the phone, put
32:01
it on and a little bitty and I still got that ring. I need
32:06
to upgrade the ring light, but I still have that ring light. I
32:08
just started because well, I started with what I had, and I stay
32:15
committed to what I could commit to. Right, I committed to what I
32:20
could commit to. And what y'all see now and what you're experiencing now,
32:28
it's just the seed that I saw with Katie, my niece, my baby,
32:35
that's my baby out, that's my baby. She came and spend some
32:38
time with me. She spent the night with me. I want to say
32:40
she spent that week with you. She spent a lot of I think,
32:44
and we was like, I said, you want to us record doing nails,
32:47
and that's it. We was doing our nails together and didn't get a
32:52
lot of traction now. It probably will now because that's my baby, It
32:57
probably will now. But you know that gave her something that we can bond
33:02
over. You know, I just took the first step. You can't go
33:07
a million miles an hour before you take the first mind, you know what
33:12
I'm saying, Like, you can't just hit the gas. It's still gotta
33:15
go go from zero, and it's still gotta itch up a little bit before
33:19
you like, it still has to hit that first number, you know what
33:22
I'm saying, And that first number. Some people start at a three,
33:24
some people start at a tea. Some some people do start at on it,
33:28
yeah, because they put in investments. So technically, technically everybody ain't
33:35
got it all together, all right, And so I think that as a
33:37
content creative, I'm learning that not to overthink. It's so hard. I
33:50
think this is even the first time I'm considering myself as a content creator.
33:52
You are out loud, like, I don't even I don't I just been
33:57
doing this. I'm say, Oh, I just do podcasts. Oh I
33:59
did this? You are content? You know what I'm saying. I think
34:01
this is the first time I said content creator out loud. For Jessica and
34:07
I think the responsibility of that has scared me. It's scary the responsibility because
34:15
the X people started expecting them thoughts on TikTok be man. When you don't
34:20
go live, can listen where you being? The last time I went live,
34:22
I had so many people on there and I was like, whoa,
34:24
where are you being killed? Where you been with? Girl? So what
34:30
do you think? What do you think a healthy balance for you and content
34:36
creation looks like with you? You? Because let's listen, I gotta make
34:39
it plain for the people. Yeah, you're married, you have a business,
34:45
you have three kids, don't forget the dogs, and fifteen dollars yeah
34:50
literally right now, right now. Please if y'all need a dog, please
34:53
DM her, please searing me please. So, like I told y'all earlier
35:01
in the conversation, I was saying that I think it is very important to
35:09
be in a good mental space, and I think I've been seen it with
35:13
other content creators. If you're not in a good mental space, you're not
35:17
I don't feel like you're going to be creating the best content. Some people
35:24
still push it, but I've seen so many content creators like just disappear and
35:28
then come back like nothing ever happened. But they'll say, hey, I
35:30
needed a break. It's overwhelming when when people have, like you said,
35:36
this expectation of you every day pushing this stuff out, and sometimes it's just
35:43
posting the video, but you, like I said, it's so much behind
35:45
posting the video. What is my caption going to be? What is the
35:49
lighting? What's the song I'm gonna use? I'm I use this trending song?
35:52
Am I gonna talk over this? They like me talking on the video
35:54
more. I sound like a horse this morning. I cannot post this.
35:58
Oh, it's better to post during this time. This time is when I
36:00
do well. I'm working, so I have to schedule this or I have
36:07
to do It's a lot that goes into it. And I got into a
36:09
season of life. Y'all know that I was working in the salon, decided
36:15
to leave the salon and go home, and it was all I ain't gonna
36:16
say it was on a whim. It was just a lot of build up
36:21
during that time. There was a lot of stuff going on personally too,
36:23
not just with work, it was personally too, So I was like,
36:27
I have to breathe. It was so much going on. I couldn't breathe.
36:31
And during that transition, I'm, you know, paying people to building
36:39
my basement from the ground up right, and all of that happened, and
36:43
that was overwhelming. It was like a good thing that was happening, but
36:45
it was so overwhelming, and I felt pressure to look a certain way with
36:53
my content, like I wanted content to look a certain way, especially with
36:59
me TRANSI I didn't want to be. I was low key embarrassed, especially
37:01
when I was upstairs. Y'all was shampooing back in my saint and I was
37:05
like, I heard so much if you're on the internet to every I don't
37:08
want no kitchen and betation. My clients still came, they didn't care,
37:12
but I was so embarrassed, and they keep reminding me, like kildall,
37:15
like we know you was going through a transition phase. So shampoot in my
37:20
in my kitchen sink upstairs, and then really that was my main area,
37:28
everybody's main area. So I couldn't tell my kids, Hey, don't come
37:31
through this day house. My husband, don't don't come through this. This
37:35
is their house. So I was it was literally chaos. I said,
37:38
I can't create no content like this. My mind is clutter, so I
37:43
know I'm not gonna push out the best content. And when I was pushing
37:45
out content then it was it was mediocre. It was just like I'm just
37:50
gonna do it because I know everybody looking for me to do it. So
37:52
I finally got into the space now, like so we set, we settled
37:58
what we finished building, and and then I still wasn't okay. I still
38:01
went't like settled in the salon. I still had a lot of personal stuff
38:06
going on from May on to the end of the year. So I'm like,
38:10
nah, because when people get online, they feel my energy and literally
38:15
I didn't even know this. People get on there and they're like, oh
38:19
my gosh, you're so nice and I feel you da da da da versus
38:23
you know some of the like some of these people were not even had they
38:28
didn't have any connection with dread Locks. They had, you know, like
38:31
they just on their because you're so entertaining, Kent, You're funny, You're
38:35
this. I love how you talk the same way I'm talking now, bew
38:38
I talk to them. So I'm like, I'm not being fake, but
38:40
I want to be in my best mood because I don't want to be like
38:44
somebody said the wrong thing on the wrong day, right, So that's huh.
38:50
That was interrogo though, to be mindful of what you could manage and
38:53
release because some people just do it and be burnt out. Yeah, like
39:00
experiencing burnout as a content creator. Come on now, like when you got
39:05
to show you really have to be present. You really have to be present.
39:07
And so I think that even when the art of content creation and using
39:13
like being okay with the multi purposing of content and so what do I mean
39:20
by that is taking at one thing and having multiple fashions of them, so
39:24
not always happening to show up and show up as yourself in the videos or
39:29
not. I'm learning that right now, just like okay, Jessica, how
39:31
can you make this work? This one thing work, or this one video,
39:39
this one you know clip, like how can you make this work for
39:44
you? And then I had to just start being okay, well, this
39:45
is what I can give right now, me and doesn't really doing the best
39:49
that we can and when God sends us somebody else to as the team God,
39:52
this is what we need. And we're being very clear about this because
39:55
we got everything else. Yeah, we're doing good with what we can do
39:59
good with right now. Yeah, and it's in this industry I learned,
40:04
and I'm teaching myself this to y'all. I'm saying this out loud. I
40:07
said it too. I said it to Vun. I rebuked the spirit of
40:10
laziness. M. I cannot expect to be have these things. I have
40:16
dreams, Like I told you, I dream and and think about things and
40:20
have the best ideas. I'm telling y'all like some ideas. I'm like,
40:22
bro, I don't tell nobody because I'm like, let me get let me
40:25
get on to it, because you know this, this is mine and it's
40:29
gonna blow up. I have been rebuking that since about to say, December,
40:35
because I didn't realize a lot of times, I'm tired and tiredness and
40:40
laziness is two different things, right, So can you can you explain the
40:46
difference that you learned? What's the difference between you? So I'm tired,
40:52
I ain't going some tired. I say, I can lay down right now.
40:54
But it was my choice to get up, drive be here, that's
41:00
and create right me deciding to go home and lay down even though I had
41:05
the ability to do so in my opinion, that is being lazy because I
41:12
could have been I could have used that time and managed that time to do
41:16
what I need to do in order to progress. So if I'm taking time,
41:27
if I, like I said, you choose what you want to do,
41:29
it's even getting up and making a sandwich. Right, So you can
41:31
be tired and it's okay. I think that's a part of like you you
41:35
get your wrists. But I'm not managing the time. Well, the same
41:38
time I say I'm tired, I'm laying down, I'm spelling on Facebook.
41:42
And I could have been posting a video or something on Kendall's Redheads. I
41:46
could have done that's but instead I decided to lazily scroll because it ain't tired.
41:53
But you on face but I'm on Facebook. That's so, that's that's
41:58
good. It sounds like as a mindset, mindset shift, and you be
42:01
saying, okay, I'm gonna overcome a feeling. Yeah, that's how you
42:05
know if you if you really can't get out of bed or really you know
42:09
your brain like it's been now. The depression. Yeah, depression is real.
42:13
Listen, if I can't function, it ain't even depressing. Like if
42:16
I can't function on see straight. I don't need to be on no social
42:20
media. I need to calm my brain down. Yeah, there's because people
42:25
that are creative influencers. Your brain is going like a thousand miles per minute
42:30
and you're trying to catch up with yourself, and especially if you're in leadership
42:37
and you have a lot of responsibility, you need a break. Yeah you
42:40
have. It's a musk. You gotta plan that break too. That's good.
42:45
I don't play lunch breaks. I work through. I work all day
42:47
through and people are like, okay when you take a lunch. I was
42:51
like, what's that like? If I have if I finish this client fast
42:54
because they they ain't got as mini lost, I can run upstairs and make
42:57
me a sandwich of comebay. Damn. No, when is your break?
43:00
This is another thing I'm talking my Danny Danielle Holsman accountable. She gives me
43:02
one random off day every month. Just why I don't do anything. No
43:07
doctor's appointments, No if I decided, like last my last one, I
43:09
decided to go get a pedicure because I needed one real bad. And then
43:14
I took my daughter go out of school early, and I took her buffalo
43:16
wild wings and we had one on one time. So that was a calm
43:22
day where I didn't do I didn't do anything or whatever. But lazy it
43:27
is a lady. I can I forget her name, content creatit. She
43:29
said she literally got all these follows just from starting to show herself, like
43:35
clean up her house. She has three small kids, three or four,
43:37
married, her husband work, come home. He like he's just not not
43:42
involved. She says that not involved as far as making sure things are in
43:45
order, and she let her life like literally crash her house look a miss.
43:50
I couldn't even say my house looking missed anymore because I was like,
43:52
lem me hush, like cause my kids are disgusting. My kids aren't discussing,
43:57
and I'd be like, dang, I feel like every day and I
44:00
I'm gonna say this, but I want you guys to say. I want
44:02
you all to know I'm not beating you up because I'm in a space some
44:07
days I don't feel like picking it up off the floor and it stay on
44:08
the floor. You got kids. I understand your house ain't gonna be cleaned
44:12
out time. Don't bust your head while open trying to But you were in
44:15
a season where it was trash. Oh yes, but it's imagine that times
44:21
three, like this lady house and she recorded it and show herself, y'all.
44:25
I'm trying to get up out of she out of this mindset because one
44:29
thing too, if your environment is pure chaos, your mind's gonna My mom
44:35
My mom always told me how you expect your mind to be cleaning your house,
44:37
Saint. So this lady is recording like picking up stuff like literally,
44:45
y'all. It was doodoo on the floor. Her baby head took the type
44:47
up and booboo on the floor. She didn't know it was in there.
44:50
And she's cleaning her children room. It was doodo on the floor. So
44:52
all these parents, oh, all these people are on their just judging her,
44:57
and you don't know what she was mentally to do it. But for
45:00
her to get up and say, I know I worked two hours she showed.
45:02
I mean not two hours, two jobs, got these kids. But
45:07
if I want something, I gotta go. I can't be lazy. I
45:10
can't have the blame game. I can't she when I say I was convicted
45:15
after watching and I started following her after that, and I coming on the
45:20
any video I see pop up and I was like, girl, you are
45:22
helping me so much. And I even did stuff like an artists. I
45:27
ain't gonna say his name because he in trouble. He said that if you
45:32
want something bad enough, work hard and pay somebody else to do it.
45:37
So I'm working. I work a little extra. I do a couple more
45:40
heads so I can have some cleaners come out once a month to clean my
45:46
house so some of the stuff me and Vun don't feel like doing, it's
45:52
not all on us. I pay one hundred and eighty dollars a month.
45:54
I can afford that most of us go get that in food in two days.
45:59
I can affoid somebody to come and clean my house, right, that's
46:00
their job they want to do. I don't want to do it all the
46:04
time. So that's what I'm gonna do. So, like I said,
46:06
we have to invest in ourselves. We'll stop being lazy. And if you
46:09
if you can't do it, work harder so you can pay somebody else to
46:12
do it. Yeah, So I'm no longer like I talked to I talked
46:15
the fun about it, and he because that's another thing. It was a
46:21
insecurity of mine because I always been kind of chill, like I do when
46:24
I can. But I realized that was lazy. I also like I struggled
46:30
in school from being lazy. I struggled. I could have been so much
46:34
better in other areas of my life if I decided to not be lazy.
46:42
And that lady, it was watching her video, it was convicting. I
46:46
was like, I do not want my life to end up like this.
46:49
If I continue doing what I'm doing, my life is gonna look exactly like
46:52
this. So so her creation, her country creation, gave you wisdom.
46:58
Yeah, that's literally have you cleared it on what you could do? Yeah?
47:00
So you were inspired by it versus intimid intimidated. Yeah, I've used
47:10
witness people do stuff, and I'm getting I've gotten intimidated by thinking that I
47:15
couldn't do the same thing or even better. I mean, not to shoot
47:22
up out in the foot or anything like that. But the level of the
47:27
level of boldness encouraged that she had to have to expose herself on that level.
47:30
Yeah, and the people were dogging her out so bad, but she
47:34
keep going, she keeps posting. But she you are the type of person
47:37
that she's called to, And so we have to right there, we have
47:43
to decide that no matter what the comments look like, no matter what people
47:46
got to say, no matter what's going on, we have to make the
47:51
decision not to be intimidated, yep, just to keep doing what we're doing.
47:57
And land I'm a fine. I don't know. I'm proud of you
47:59
girls. I am so proud of you. I don't remember your name right
48:02
now. I don't remember nobody's name, but I am proud. But you
48:06
said something so good, And that was another point I was going. You
48:08
brought a make up point. I was thinking about your content and my content
48:13
are different. It's gonna reach different people, but y'all know it is.
48:16
I don't know how many people. Let's say, three billion people in the
48:19
world. I just made that number up. I might be wrong. I'm
48:22
three billion people right. We were talking about these last night, me and
48:24
you and Stacey, all of us was bringing up content creators, and none
48:28
of us know you're the same people people had millions of followers. Your audience
48:34
might not look like somebody else audience, but you're still reaching somebody. So
48:39
you know that's a testimony right there too. We can talk about that another
48:44
day, another day. That's good. I think that's just that's just confirmation.
48:49
I was sitting here thinking, and it's funny because the things that are
48:52
coming up y'all saying. So I think it's just important to realize that we
48:58
all have something, right, something on the inside that's for somebody. Right.
49:02
And so as you're talking about content creation, everybody may not know what
49:06
that is. I'm gonna tell you what content creation. So content creation.
49:13
A content creator is someone who creates entertaining or educational material to be expressed through
49:19
a medium. Right. So right now, our content creation that we are
49:22
working on right now is through video. Right. Everybody may not that may
49:27
not be their lane. Right. Some people are writers, right, some
49:30
people are are crafty, or some people are artists, you know what I'm
49:36
saying. They may actually like paint or draw you know what I'm saying,
49:38
that's content. Right. So now you have to take this thing that you
49:42
have because you are answered. You are you are the solution to somebody's problem,
49:46
and you have to figure out what is the best way that you're going
49:50
to to share this content for whoever this this is for, right, but
49:53
some people it may be video. Right now, everybody comfortable with video.
49:58
Well, guess what, there's different ways that you don't necessarily have to show
50:00
your face in order to share your your thing on video. Right. For
50:05
some people, that may be a blog. If you're a writer, that's
50:07
still content, that's still creating content. It may be an email, right.
50:10
You may you may share your thoughts in your in your in your in
50:14
your ideas through an email list. You know what I'm saying. So don't
50:17
discount. And my pastor said this today. You know, we look at
50:20
people who are doing the things, who are sharing right, and we'll be
50:23
like, oh man, I want my stuff to look like that, or
50:27
I want to be like that. But the truth of the matter is you
50:29
don't know. You don't know the process. You don't know the weight of
50:31
what they have. We don't know what somebody else has. We just know
50:36
that they've taken the step to share, to share it, right. So
50:39
our job is to figure out what it is that we have that we can
50:43
share and how we can share it, and just start somewhere and start sharing
50:45
it, because there's somebody out of these how many billion people you said,
50:49
Kimbell, we gonna out of these three billion people, somebody if it ain't
50:54
but once somebody is looking for you, somebody is looking for you, even
51:00
if it's one hundred people, even if it's fifty people, you gotta start.
51:04
You have to start. You have to start somewhere where Yeah, start
51:06
somewhere. So we have to we have to be in the mindset that everybody
51:08
matters. Listen, but somebody somebody, like everybody matters, and the people
51:15
that matter to your community are being disserviced because you can't get out your own
51:20
way. I'm talking to me, you're talking to me. You can't get
51:27
out of your own way enough to to do that. Like, I've had
51:31
so many people reach out to me because my nine to five y'all ain't never
51:35
said it on here, but nine to five. You know, I'll get
51:38
on TikTok and people are like, they'll see me in the street and it's
51:43
like, oh, well we ain't see you, we see you on TikTok
51:45
or how many next dancing video coming out? Well I started that because my
51:52
community inside of my my job needed that. And now I got a community
51:58
that don't care if we do that or that. You're right, you know
52:00
what I'm saying, Like my people, so I ooh, this is so
52:01
good. So now I am I willing enough and open enough to adjust with
52:09
the community, and I have to meet the reason why I even started doing
52:14
in the first place. So yeah, I can still cont to create and
52:17
do all this stuff like that, but I'm gonna be mismanaging my inside assignment
52:25
by forcing them to do something that was only a season. So now,
52:30
you, as a country creator, you gotta know what works for you in
52:34
the timing it works for you, you'll have a consistent cord. Like my
52:36
consistent cord is like creating a safe space anywhere anywhere I go. Anything I
52:42
do, whether I'm dancing, whether I'm talking, whether I'm preaching, praying,
52:45
profit sign whether I'm podcasting, whether I'm having fellowship, whatever I'm doing,
52:50
my core is creating a safe space and I can build off that.
52:54
So that's why if you saw me one day get on Live and start cooking
53:00
and I'm just cooking and talking, I'm creating the safe space. That's my
53:02
space right there, because I'm trying to figure out how to season some chicken.
53:07
By the way, thank you TikTok, because y'all y'all been on y'all
53:10
been on point. I made some fried chicken the other day, mad listen,
53:15
I learn how to make corn bread on TikTok. Listen. Definitely Google,
53:21
I'm a bit. I'm definitely a visual learner. Yeah, and I
53:23
appreciate TikTok for teaching me how to cook come on fried chicken. Yes,
53:28
if they did not have that the content creation, I don't think my fried
53:32
chicken would taste as good as it does now. I like, quit me
53:39
a freak a cute little minute. Mabe that corn bread. The girl made
53:45
this corn bread. It was so good. I was like, and it
53:46
was a minute fifty second. Yeah, it don't take long. And that's
53:50
why you see everybody else. And when TikTok blew up everybody else. I
53:53
forget the other one that's similar to TikTok that was before tiktokh bevo. No,
54:00
I can't think of it. But anyway, vine vine that went viol
54:04
The vine was vine was just more like it wasn't like learning videos. But
54:10
I can't think of the other one before the it was before the pandemic.
54:15
But TikTok blew up as far as like Facebook and Instagram follow up behind with
54:20
reels because of TikTok. Yeah, because everybody was supposing these long videos,
54:23
and I tend to spend so little now because of these these phones. But
54:29
if I see somehow, I'd be like, how long is that? My
54:37
videos that do the best are a mini and thirty seconds or less, like
54:42
if I'm I cannot talk longer than that. If I talk longer than that,
54:45
then hey. But YouTube is the best for people who want to sit
54:51
down because now we can put YouTube on our TV and all that you guys
54:53
said the computer to do it. They're posturing themselves and then when you're on
54:58
when you're on your phone, you're not trying to really watch anything. But
55:00
if I, IF I That's why YouTube is a special another level of content
55:07
creation, because people postured, Like if I'm trying to find out how to
55:12
do something, I'm not trying to watch. It depends on what it is.
55:15
But I'm not trying to watch a whole bunch of things, you know
55:15
what I'm saying, like a whole bunch of time because I'm trying to figure
55:17
out obviously straight to the point, what I'm trying to do. But if
55:22
i'm you know, that's why a lot of these churches are doing very well
55:25
with their online Ministry's example, because it's giving people an option to gather in
55:37
a different in a different way, and then they can expose themselves on this
55:40
platform that's free to sign up. Hey, you guys, it's free to
55:44
sign up to you too. It is free to sign up. And it's
55:49
not just blessing the church, but it's blessing the global, the the world.
55:55
Demand Tom. Yesterday they gave me a word. Yeah, I'm gonna
56:00
I'm gonna shout out to Tom. And man, he did a number on
56:07
me. Y'all. I am going to post my my experience with my my
56:15
my folks this weekend. But and y'all gonna see this probably Yeah, y'all
56:20
gonna see this soon. But y'all this, this man said, asked about
56:25
what I did, and I told him I brought up the podcast as well,
56:29
and he was like, do you know even if you just reach one
56:31
person, that that that makes you great because you put it on the world
56:37
wide Will. Like he was just like, you know, you position yourself
56:43
to put people to see you on the world Wide Will. So when people
56:47
people like I want to be global, post it on YouTube. You go
56:52
global when you post, you go global. When you do things do things
56:58
out of your comfort zone. You go global when you make the decision that
57:01
fear is not my future. You're talking to me right now, you go
57:07
global because and it's and whose definition of success? Who's the definition of the
57:13
six? Are you trying to answer? Right? And it's something like so,
57:16
now you got to ask yourself. Why am I holding myself back?
57:20
Why can't I do the content creation? Why can I expose myself on this
57:23
level? Okay, if you need some uh, you need time be compression.
57:27
I get that. But every season is not a season of healing whol
57:37
You don't even want every season to be you don't because healing is hard,
57:39
it is, healing is a whole process. Every season is not a season
57:44
of healing. Okay, Once I'm heal from that, and now I got
57:47
the regulation, Now I help. How do I help? You're talking to
57:53
me? That's why I yeah, like how do I help? And so
57:58
now what's important in it? And poured into me? And now that I'm
58:00
in a stable ground, you know what I'm saying. Now God has covered
58:04
me. Now it's time for me to uncover where he's you know, unveil
58:07
what he's doing, you know, to rip me out the plastic because new
58:14
y'all, and it was DESI face. She said, I mean, I
58:22
mean I am praying heaven down. I asked the Lord. I said,
58:25
Lord, please, even things moments like that, you take moments that are
58:30
funny, you know, funny like that like if y'all haven't seen y'all gotta
58:34
watch it. Oh my god, my Instagram. Maybe I'm praying hiven down
58:37
and the Lord gives me rip me out the plastic because I'm acting brand new
58:43
to prophesy while I'm praying. I'm like, I can see your mind shift.
58:47
That's the funny part, because you know it like it's like you weren't
58:51
trying to be funny. You ain't trying to put put a popular song out
58:53
put a popular song during he said please please, I said, are you
59:04
the Lord say rip me out the plastic because I'm acting brand new? That's
59:08
where you goes. I'm like, I'm like so far. I was like,
59:16
even if the Lord say I'm ripping you into your I was like,
59:22
I said, please, you have to. And then Mary Anne bless God
59:25
from marya me save me. Oh she is she saves me? She said,
59:31
she said, I got, I got what you were saying. She
59:34
was just calm, but that des a way. She said, I know
59:36
you just said what I was so embarrassed. I was like, that's why
59:40
you gotta just do the phrase, because you gotta do what you got meet
59:44
people where you are. You want to make people comfortable. Yeah, you
59:46
know what I'm saying, Like, that's why I love you, just because
59:50
I'm always timid. You just don't know what she's gonna say. It's the
59:53
same way. Katie's better because Katie sometimes I tell her kids you're talking about
59:58
Oh yeah, sorry, my children. Katie is my oldest and I called
1:00:00
shady Katy because Katy she will throw shade a little bit. She she gonna
1:00:05
ask you a question, but like she's intentional with everything she says. I
1:00:09
don't care what nobody to say, y'all. Don't let her fool y'all.
1:00:12
They keep a little sweet face a little for y'all because she asked your question.
1:00:15
It's intention But Jessica and Core are so similar because when they say stuff,
1:00:21
it's really a question, you know what I mean, Like you have
1:00:23
to when they say stuff, I ain't gonna say there's no intention behind it,
1:00:29
but they not trying to be shady, or they're not trying to put
1:00:31
you down. It's a real question, or what they're saying is really how
1:00:35
they feel. It's not you. They're not trying to shift the move.
1:00:38
But you have to be timid because it's like it's out there. It's gonna
1:00:43
punch you in the face. She embarrass me on on one of these holidays.
1:00:47
But we're not gonna go there. She that that little girl embarras me
1:00:52
so bad. I was Jesus of the Lord, the Jesus of the Lord.
1:00:55
Oh she prays for me, She said, the Jesus of the Lord,
1:00:59
the Jesus the Lord, Jesus of the Lord. I said, well,
1:01:01
hallelujah, my baby love you know, she just love you. She
1:01:07
said t J. She called my children call her t J. And she
1:01:10
said that t J was her godmother because she praised for her, even though
1:01:15
my sister's not her god. I don't believe in making family members of god
1:01:16
parents and like their family members already. But she just was like, I'll
1:01:22
take that. But she said, no, teacher, she said t J
1:01:23
is my godmother. She praised for me. I said, well, she
1:01:25
can be your god. And we learned how to shout she how obsessed with
1:01:30
you. She's gonna be my praying child. Train up a child so they
1:01:37
can what gud stop doing that, I'll be missing up the words I thought
1:01:40
desiert was the way they can go. Yeah, that's it. Having I'm
1:01:50
not differend she be around so many church people. I'm not their friends.
1:01:52
But you know what, what I'm coming into, even like even in the
1:01:57
last week or so, it's just trying to girl, please, I'm coming
1:02:12
to the realization that a lot of things. Reason is why I've held myself
1:02:15
back is because the imagination that I had of people, how people would receive
1:02:19
me. Mm hmm. That's real. Like I I had some experiences that
1:02:30
I've forgiven in, but I haven't over I hadn't overcome them because I can
1:02:35
see. I can see that I had to overcome them because of what I
1:02:37
don't do. So now, so a lack of response is still a response.
1:02:43
This is so good to me. A lack of a response is still
1:02:46
a response. And so what I mean by that is if there is something
1:02:51
that I'm supposed to be doing and I don't do it, I'm responding.
1:02:54
I'm responding with lack Yeah, my response is black girl, And so now
1:03:02
I have to which is a seed? Right, So now I gotta uproot
1:03:07
this thing because it's not that I don't want to content create. It's not
1:03:12
that I don't want to Like I have messages in my head every day.
1:03:15
I think every day I gotta miss kill gonna get it, Killna gonna get
1:03:20
it or desiraate gonna I. I told them both of y'all every day.
1:03:27
I have so much in me and just go back with your lazy thing.
1:03:31
Sometimes I overthink about how the how it's gonna be, you know, perceived
1:03:37
and all that stuff like that, and I'm like, you know, I
1:03:40
gotta get out of my own way by releasing the thoughts of people that won't
1:03:46
even support me in the first place. In the oh, I did pause
1:03:53
on that, like why does that matter? Am my showing up? First
1:03:58
of all? I'm showing up for me? Right? So now we got
1:04:00
that part over it. I've called to what a community so that the day
1:04:05
how can they run when I'm not When I'm not I'm not showing up.
1:04:11
They can't go nowhere because the person the people that I'm called to are still
1:04:17
like what is this? Like what is it? Why why why can't I
1:04:24
Yeah, why is there no consistency here? You know what I'm saying?
1:04:28
Oh, it's because the folks that's not supporting anyway got something to say that
1:04:30
part. You're not even supporting anyway. You need like e shit follow up.
1:04:36
But you watch me, don't You'll have to get them people. This
1:04:40
is so weird to me because I am a when I say I am a
1:04:44
supporter of people like I might. I might not physically buy from you,
1:04:48
I might not sit in your chair. I might. But when I say
1:04:51
if I see something, especially people whom small business owners, if I see
1:04:55
something, I'm gonna share it, I'm gonna love it, I'm a comment.
1:04:58
That's just me. Everybody's not like that. I get it. Some
1:05:00
people are watchers. But to watch it come up to me and say,
1:05:02
yeah, I saw such and such, you did this, and then third
1:05:05
and you didn't even click it. You ain't say him, he goes a
1:05:10
little, he gonna shall this in the third. I think it's weird to
1:05:14
just watch people. It's weird, Like that's the right, you'll be having
1:05:16
some pretty pictures pretty and for me to just come up through you to that
1:05:20
girl you posting pictures. But you even like kend your friends with me.
1:05:23
Only had to go check you cause you're watching me. You ain't even interact.
1:05:29
That's so weird, just unfollowing me to me like, I don't know.
1:05:31
That's why I got my new Facebook page. Most of the people on
1:05:34
there, I have some people and I don't see from but I think they're
1:05:38
just not active on Facebook. But I created my new Facebook page because if
1:05:44
I'm not interacting with you, and you're not interacting, it's different from my
1:05:46
business page. But I'm not interacting with you, what's the point of following
1:05:50
me. That's weird. Yeah, and them folks was reaching out to you
1:05:55
on that page about your business, and you told them five times y'all on
1:05:58
that part. I gonna say, look, I'm looking at dead at you
1:06:01
start listening. Mm hmm. They're gonna get mad at me this time.
1:06:04
If I am somewhere mm hm, just like last night we went to the
1:06:13
perfect No, we had an amazing time. Amazing. If I'm somewhere enjoying
1:06:17
my time and you asked me by hair, it's all right, I'm gonna
1:06:24
stop you where you are and I'm gonna give you my my website I'm gonna
1:06:28
give you my Facebook Instagram. That should be the end of the conversation.
1:06:33
The end. That should be the end of the conversation. I'm telling y'all
1:06:40
this because I used to be and I'm getting I'm still getting over this to
1:06:45
create boundaries with people. Yeah, because even though I love doing hair,
1:06:49
even though I love doing content to a certain extent, that's not what I'm
1:06:54
all about. That's not what I want to talk about, y'all. Look
1:06:57
at what especially people in the service industry, I will say that are people
1:07:00
who work for themselves, have their own businesses. All that, y'all don't
1:07:03
look at it as a job. Right. So if y'all see people you
1:07:10
work for for for a cable company, or you work for Social Security,
1:07:14
you work for, are you gonna communicate with them? When you clocked out?
1:07:20
People you ain't answered the phone on Sunday at two pm. I wasn't
1:07:25
working, ma'am. I'm not my hours. I will return them calls on
1:07:28
Monday. I sat. When I tell you, I started setting bounds with
1:07:31
myself. I'm so free even online. Danyelle's good with message. I don't
1:07:35
want to see my phone. I don't look at kiml' dredheads. Half of
1:07:39
the time. If I'm off work, stuff, no catches pop up.
1:07:44
I don't look at it. But you just gotta try and learn that.
1:07:46
You gotta train people. The reason why folks don't go to Chick fil A
1:07:49
on Sundays because they close if you don't set them boundaries. I wanted the
1:07:57
grill. I was craving Chick fil Man. I was like, I'm not
1:08:01
tomorrow now, I'm not have to plan for it. Planning for it,
1:08:05
so you create this space. I can't be mad that people blowing up my
1:08:08
phone during this time if I didn't tell them, don't call me during this
1:08:11
time. And it's not that I don't that I dislike my business or I'm
1:08:15
not trying to pull my business or put myself out there. It's the time
1:08:18
and a place for everything. Cause don't come to me while I'm enjoying a
1:08:26
drink at the bar about Kendill Dread. I've been the family functions, y'all.
1:08:30
I have been to family functions random people that I don't even know,
1:08:35
And hey, so my hell, you see this, rm ma'am. I'm
1:08:40
eating a rib. I got a whole rib in my mouth and you asking
1:08:45
me about your hair right now, and you know you can reach out to
1:08:47
me online. I ain't hurt nothing, nothing. But you think that's a
1:08:51
conversation. Start Just don't say no to men at all. Just say hey,
1:08:55
I see what you're doing. I'm gonna reach out to you on social
1:08:58
media. But these same people don't watch It's disarray, they don't book.
1:09:02
But these same the same people before Kim's dred Heads got the platform that it
1:09:06
did, these people would not share my stuff. These people would not uh
1:09:14
uh sit in my chair. They didn't see the dream. They didn't see
1:09:17
the vision until I started getting popular. And it wasn't even from the people
1:09:23
in my own city. It wasn't even from the people. These folks that
1:09:27
made me Kimda's dread Heads. And I'll say popular because some people don't know
1:09:30
who I am, but popular amongst my community because I reached I reached over
1:09:34
a million people from my counting and that's when they was like, oh girl,
1:09:40
yeah girl, you got a million followers. Everybody. I'm like,
1:09:42
huh, I didn't even know you like kindl Dreadheads page that I want to
1:09:46
tell y'all, that's that's that's gonna be my that's my battle right there,
1:09:49
because you see what's going on. And I told you what was going on.
1:09:53
That the way I feel because when I was doing what I was doing,
1:09:57
then you wasn't stunning me. But now that's all you want to talk
1:10:00
about, ma'am. I do not care about your hair right now, sir.
1:10:04
So to putting those boundaries protect everybody put and you just gotta be okay
1:10:10
with having those boundariesh and I don't think that both of us can share this
1:10:14
moment. Both of us had to learn how to create boundaries and what boundaries
1:10:18
were. It wasn't saying no, it was just saying, hey, this
1:10:21
is how I operate him. Yeah, all right, That's why I say
1:10:25
it's hours of operation. This is this is what makes my life successful.
1:10:30
Hours operation where I can be where I can have the mom had ours operation
1:10:34
where I can be an entrepreneur. Ours operation where I can preach, heave
1:10:39
and down. Hours operation where I can intercede for you. Ours operation where
1:10:43
I can be doing hair, doing nails, with makeup, taking a picture.
1:10:46
I got hours of operations for that. And when you don't understand the
1:10:50
time, whoa come on, my god, When you don't understand the time.
1:10:57
You end up frustrating yourself because you're out of time when I've told you
1:11:02
my hours of operation. And so now you're making me jeopardize something I said
1:11:09
I wasn't gonna do for myself and so now and I don't think this is
1:11:14
a rent for anybody to think this rent. May hear this or whatever.
1:11:16
Go talk to your mama, please, you said what, Yeah, like
1:11:23
I lose, Go talk to please, Go talk to somebody else about it.
1:11:26
It's just we can't. As coach j C. Coach j D said
1:11:31
the other day on the podcast, is that he's learning the positive and the
1:11:36
negative and how they work together. That makes the battery that makes a full
1:11:43
a full charge that makes things go right. And so you're not gonna have
1:11:47
all the positives with content creation. It's not literally gold. That's why I
1:11:51
don't follow nobody. They only have sunrises in their pictures and stuff like.
1:11:55
I don't like that. I want to see the good. You know what
1:11:58
I'm saying, Give me some mixture. You gonna see me crying, You're
1:12:00
gonna see you gonna You know what I'm saying, y'all seen me cry,
1:12:03
y'all you know what I'm saying, y'all heard some things, but then in
1:12:08
the same podcast, y'all gonna hear a word like no, I'm struggling with
1:12:13
my body struggling with I'm struggling y'all were a word. And so I think
1:12:15
balance is important, and so this conversation was so good. Yeah. I
1:12:21
didn't even think we were gonna talk about content creation today, but it's right
1:12:25
on time. Yeah, we did start with usher. Usher. Mister Raymond,
1:12:31
this is for you, if you see it in your heart to come
1:12:36
sit on just as the podcast I see next to you, I create a
1:12:44
safe space for your brother because you were like literally the first secular artist that
1:12:48
be and my sister were introduced to and able to listen to. So it
1:12:51
was like, yeah, oh, funny story, and I'm in this.
1:13:03
So Karen remember she had went to the mall that day and we spent the
1:13:09
night house and she was like, Oh, I saw Usher. This is
1:13:12
how churchy I am. I thought she was talking about like an usher like
1:13:16
at church. I really did, jenuinely. I was like, why she's
1:13:23
so excited about seeing ushers? I see ushers awareness creation church. I'm so
1:13:33
church church her whole life. I meant that, and then like when I
1:13:38
got older, I realized I was like, oh, she was talking about
1:13:41
usher Rain. I think I comprehended that I need I was in the church.
1:13:47
That's why that's why coach told me to say Jesus she just y'all,
1:13:54
We're probably gonna continue to have fun after this. Thank you so much for
1:13:58
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