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Something Special: MEDIA+ · The Trauma Therapist

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  Or welcome back to the Trauma Therapist Podcast. My name is Gaming Person.
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  My mission is to help trauma therapist be their incredible cells, to be human,
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  to be real, not just a clinician. I'm a big believer in
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  who we are is more important than what we know, and this requires cultivating
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  authenticity, genuineness, and vulnerability, and that requires intention. Can learn more
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  about my courses and workshops by going to the Trauma Therapist Project dot com.
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  That's the Trauma Therapist Project dot com. Let's get started, all right.
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  Want to thank you so much for being here. I hope you having a
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  great week. I'm really super excited to be with you today and to share
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  with you that we created a new division in the within the Trauma Therapist Project
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  that it's called Media Plus. And with Media plus us, we are helping
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  to promote therapists of all kinds, coaches of all kinds, get their incredible
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  work out there, get it in front of people who need to see it,
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  who want to see it, who should see it. And I'll tell
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  you something. How this came about is really something that I also want to
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  share with you. When I first started this podcast, my goal, as
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  I've talked about before was to interview quote unquote master trauma therapist, seasoned trauma
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  therapists, you know, the pat Ogdens, the gene m Fishers and the
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  boost Perrys of the world. And I thought that was going to be it.
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  My goal was to raise awareness of trauma. My goal was to help
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  other newer therapists like myself at that time, to become more educated, to
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  become more courageous and stepping forward and getting into the field, and to inspire
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  them. And as I started interviewing more and more people, more and more
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  kinds of therapists, interviewing yogis, which I never thought I would do.
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  I just they weren't in my vision in a sense. But learning more and
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  more about not just the seasoned professionals, but the lesser, less seasoned people,
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  the people who are passionate about what they're doing, the people who are
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  passionate about helping others who've been impacted by trauma. That is what lights me
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  up. And as I started interviewing people, and if you've been listening to
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  the podcast for a length of time, you know that one of the questions
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  I would ask, and I don't ask it now so much, but one
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  of the questions I started asking was can you share an early clinical error and
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  what you learned from that? And a lot of people really like that question
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  because it basically put these therapists on the spot to share something that kind of
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  a quote unquote mistake they made, maybe a trip up they had and I
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  was expecting to hear kind of ruptures in interventions or modalities that had gone awry,
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  and instead, what I began to hear again and again and over and
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  over and over were these therapists talking about their maybe fear slash inability to be
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  themselves, to disclose appropriately ethically in that moment, to be fearful of not
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  knowing the right answer right. And as these therapists share this, inevitably they
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  would go on and say that it was that rupture in a sense, that
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  quote unquote mistake that allowed them to kind of solidify or concretize that therapeutic relationship
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  and even for that therapeutic relationship to unfold and to blossom. And what this
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  did was really make me look at myself, because when I first started,
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  when I got to graduate school, I was all about just you know,
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  what do I need to know? What do I need to read? What
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  professor who specializes in trauma do I need to talk to to find out everything
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  they can teach me so that I can be the best trauma therapist I can
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  become. And at that time I had thought that I knew about or realize
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  the importance of being genuine and authentic, and of course I did to a
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  certain extent, but I didn't realize how vital that was. And again,
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  as I have said on and on and on, both of these aspects are
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  crucial, right You've got to have the knowledge and the information and be well
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  versed in a lot of different modalities and certainly the neurobiology of trauma and so
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  forth. They're going to be working in this field. But what I think
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  gets short shrift here is the incredible importance of being a human being, of
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  being genuine, and we talk about that, We talk about the word authenticity
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  and those like just fall off of our tongues, but we don't I feel,
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  in my opinion, really explore that and what those things mean. And
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  what happened was, as I continue to do this podcast, I started reflecting
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  on my own self hearing these other therapists talk and share their ruptures. In
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  a sense, their quote unquote clinical errors and what they learned from. It
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  really made me think about and reflect upon myself and the degree to which I
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  feel I wasn't being let me correct that the degree to which I wasn't honoring
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  who I was, I wasn't honoring my complete story, the ups and downs
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  of my story, the intricacies of my stories. Then the blemish is quote
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  unquote again of my story, that I wasn't bringing those in and honoring the
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  degree to which they made me me and therefore honoring my the totality of me,
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  of my being, my uniqueness. And so as I started interviewing,
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  I started not being not so much interested in these really super whole, high
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  profile therapists who've written books and who are traveling all over the world, but
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  simply therapists who are just dedicated to helping people who have been impacted by trauma,
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  people who are passionate about that. You know, when we meet someone
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  who is just genuine, they're they're confident about who they are. They're okay,
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  not just okay with who they are, They're in the moment with who
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  they are. They're more than content, they're they're just themselves. They're genuine.
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  We feel it. We're we're we're attracted to it. There's an ease
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  about them. There's no pushing or pulling. They're they're They're just comfortable with
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  their unique qualities, maybe even their eccentricities. There's that's all you know that,
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  that's that's authenticity. Uh, that's genuineness. We can feel it.
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  And and that's what I love uncovering in this podcast. That's kind of what
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  I zero in on, not so much what my my my guest is doing
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  and how they're doing it, but how they got their story of how things
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  unfolded. And as a result, I started talking to these guests who certainly
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  maybe weren't that well known, but thinking to myself, thinking to myself as
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  I'm interviewing them, why the hell don't people more people know about you?
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  Why not? And there's a lot of different answers to this question, but
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  I think, generally speaking, a lot of therapists, and I'm not saying
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  everyone, all of you, but a lot of therapists have a hard time
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  putting their work out there, advertising themselves, promoting themselves quote unquote why because
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  in a sense, it kind of goes antithetical to what this profession is.
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  This profession being you know, being a therapist and being a coach in the
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  field. It's wait, wait, you're you're you're a therapist or you're a
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  coach and you're advertising. It's just it feels maybe kind of shady or slimy.
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  And granted, when I first started doing this podcast, it was really
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  difficult for me to put myself out there and what you're gonna promote yourself.
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  You're getting a website, You're you know, you're going on Instagram or Facebook,
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  and it just didn't feel congruent. It didn't feel I wasn't comfortable with
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  it. And I think the more I am comfortable with myself and what I'm
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  doing, and the more confidence I have and what I'm doing, I want
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  to help as many people as I had. Of course I do, and
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  so we created Media Plus to help therapists get the word out. You know,
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  we're working with incredible therapists who are putting events on who have these incredible
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  podcasts. Man, I was talking to one the other day and I was
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  just thinking to myself, you are amazing. How people need to hear this,
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  they need to know about you, and that's what this is about.
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  I mean, you know, helping therapists get out there, get the word
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  out there. So what do we do. We invite therapists with our media
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  plus platform. We invite them to utilize our platform. So over the course
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  of the past several years right here with the Trauma Therapist podcast Trauma Therest project,
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  we've developed somewhat of a sizeable social presence and we invite these therapists to
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  utilize that. We help them promote u there whatever it is. If they
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  have a workshop they want to promote, or a book they want to promote.
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  One we're working with now who she's got a podcast she wants to get
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  out there. Now the person we were working with had an event they were
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  putting out on. We help help these individuals craft can be a graphic or
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  an image or a post, and also and get it out there across social
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  media. But also what we're doing is we're doing I'll do a mini interview
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  with you. Let's say you've got your in private practice, right, I'll
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  do an mini interview with you and say fifteen minutes twenty minutes, and I'll
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  ask you about your private practice. I'll ask you about you and your story
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  and what's driven you, what's inspired you, how you got to this incredible
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  place, who you're helping, how are you working with them, who your
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  your clients are, or your target audiences if that applies, And from that
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  mini interview, will create video clips that will then post out across all our
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  social platform right to help you get the word out, to help your perspective,
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  clients learn about you and see what you're doing. And I think a
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  lot of therapists out there make the mistake of thinking that it's all about knowledge.
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  It's all about modalities and interventions and an accumulation of those items. And
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  again, hear me clearly, I'm saying those things are important, They're crucial,
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  of course they are, but there's not enough I feel, in my
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  opinion, value placed on the unique qualities of the therapists themselves, right,
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  their individuality and a cultivation of one's genuineness and authenticity. We and why is
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  that important? Because we connect with that. We are humans. We need
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  that. Listen. I'm gonna tell you a personal story here. About year
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  and a half ago, I got a divorce and it was crazy for me,
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  and I sought out a therapist, immediately sought out my previous therapist,
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  and she shot me back an email saying, guy, I'm the longer seeing
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  therapist. And I was like, oh my god, this sucks. And
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  I asked her if she could recommend some people, and she did, and
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  she interviewed and she recommended a few people. I contacted one and it wasn't
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  good fit and all nice people, you know, adequately competent, and I
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  contact contact did the second person, and I met with this person and again
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  completely competent. But this person like led with their modality, they led with
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  how they were going to help me via this particular modality, and it just
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  was kind of a turn off to me because in that moment, right,
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  I needed a human being. I didn't need a modality. I didn't care
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  how much you knew or how much you learned, or how many workshops you've
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  been to or books you read. I needed a person to connect with and
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  this is what This is how I want to work, This is what I
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  want to bring out through our media. Plus, so if you're interested,
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  right, if you're a therapist out there, you're a coach out there,
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  and you're working in the field, and you want to get your workout and
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  you want to do it by kind of sharing not only the work you do,
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  but who you are, and allowing people to see that you're a human
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  being and you can connect with because this is what people connect with, and
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  this is what especially people who are looking for a therapist need. Right of
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  course, they want someone who is going to help them and guide them and
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  get them better, but they also we all need a human being, a
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  genuine human being. So we can't help everybody, right, We just don't
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  have the capacity to do that at this time. And hopefully we're going to
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  put systems in place so that we can do more certainly. But if this
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  is something you're interested in, if you're feeling like you're you're I mean,
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  you're passionate about what you do, and yet you want to reach more people
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  or get some more exposure, I invite you to check out media plus by
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  going to Trauma Mediaplus dot com. We'll go to my website at the Trauma
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  Therapist Project dot com and you can find out information there. But once again
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  it's Trauma Media Plus plus dot com and we'll help you, we'll guide you.
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  I want incredible things. I mean, this is what I love to
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  do. I love to connect people and I love to open the doors and
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  get in there, and and and hopefully inspire people to trust that their unique
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  qualities are what's going to do inguish and differentiate them from everyone else out there.
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  Listen, Thank you so much for being here again if you're interested,
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  handing over to Trauma mediaplus dot com. Have an awesome day.