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Being A Nonjudgemental Observer · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the Chicken Coop.
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  Today, we are talking about being a non-judgmental Observer.
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  Wow, doesn't that like sound? So great in theory, anyway,
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  being a non-judgmental Observer of all the things that I may ask
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  you to do. Over the time we spend together,
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  here, this may be the most difficult one being The
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  non-judgmental Observer. Probably the hardest thing I've
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  ever had to work on in my life. Don't say, I never will come out
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  and say that I've got it conquered because I don't,
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  because I do have those moments where I lose my cool.
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  And it is always the me jumping to an emotional conclusion and
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  making a judgment. And then of course, having a
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  reaction to it, I can tell you right now.
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  If you a, my husband will listen to this later and we will laugh
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  about it, but it's true. The stove is One of my places
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  where I have a very hard time being a non-judgmental Observer
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  or love when my husband Cooks. But watching him flip eggs and
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  add spices. He is like a French chef in the
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  kitchen and there's always stuff flying and for me the
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  obsessively clean girl it is like uh oh no the stove and I
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  instantaneously have a reaction. And to this day I have to work
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  on it and I laugh about it because I think it's like it's
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  just God's joke with me about how It reminds me that this is
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  all work. We have to do constantly.
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  If I had it mastered and I didn't bother me then clearly, I
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  would not remember that I was human and I might get a little
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  full of myself, but he reminds me every day and I love that.
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  So non-judgmental observers, what does this mean?
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  It means you can see something happen.
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  And you can instead of coming to a conclusion instantaneously,
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  you can pause and you can pull yourself out of it and just say,
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  this is interesting. Let me Stop.
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  Let me think about this now, I'm excellent at this.
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  With my clients, my clients can call and they can tell me
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  anything and believe me. They tell me some very
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  interesting things, but I can't judge it.
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  I have to just meet them where they are and I have to hear them
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  out so that I can help them. Because if I decide to go
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  emotional, I'm not going to get them anywhere.
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  I'm going to end up messing things up because in my emotion,
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  I'm not going to think clearly because when remember, I will
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  say this often when emotions go up and tell, Agents goes down.
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  Yes, here, that when emotions go up, intelligence goes down and
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  that works positively and negatively.
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  So, it's important to remember, being the nausea under
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  non-judgmental Observer is critically important to your
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  success in anything. Because if you are not in a
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  state of already coming to a conclusion, you can actually
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  formulate a much better vision of the entire situation.
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  You get Clearer picture of the situation before you can give
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  ideas or have a way to solve it. So you have to think of this, in
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  terms of the value is in. You being able to one, not get
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  your buttons push but to just telling yourself I'm a
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  non-judgmental Observer right now.
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  Adding an extra seat on your bus.
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  So to speak in our emotional bus.
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  When we have that, I have my non-judgmental Observer and
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  she's just doesn't have opinions Clerk.
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  Clearly, she's just there to see what it's all about.
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  Take it all in. Think it through, I once
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  remember, General Schwarzkopf, for those of you who remember
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  who he was had a comment, During the speaking engagement and he
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  said the smartest person in the room is often the person who
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  speaks last and I always thought about that because he was such a
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  powerful person, so many Realms of the world, but he was also
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  someone that so many people liked.
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  And, you know, again, that's because he would observe
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  everybody else. And then he would come to
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  conclusions again, back to that non-judgmental Observer mode.
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  And I think that when we go to that place, And we say okay, I'm
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  going to formulate my opinions. Yes, I will have an opinion but
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  if I do it from the place of already having the opinion going
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  into it, I'm at a disadvantage. If I pause myself, if I pull
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  myself out, if I can get into that place of neutral
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  non-judgmental Observer, then I can come to a conclusion that is
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  much more likely to serve me because I can see all the
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  Avenues around it. I can't stress to you guys
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  enough. How important this aspect is?
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  Cuz one of the things that it does for you, is it gives you
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  the ability to see around you, what's really happening.
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  Instead of just from your point of view, you know?
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  Let's go back to my kitchen example, my husband loves to
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  cook for us for the family. I mean, that's one of his things
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  that he actually gets so much joy out of his cooking.
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  And so, when he's doing it, he's not thinking about the mess,
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  he's making. I think about the mess.
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  He thinks about the fact that he's lucky, he's able to cook
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  For his family, he loves doing that, he loves to have people,
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  try the food and say, wow, this is amazing.
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  So he's pouring love into this and I'm looking at it from a
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  different point of view. Now, when I am not managing my
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  state, when I'm not managing my insane, cleaning girl, and she's
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  sitting at the front of the bus freaking out, that's what I see.
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  But when I am in my non-judgmental Observer, I can
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  see how much fun he's having and I don't want to Rob him of the
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  fun. So I'm going to tell you today,
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  I want you guys to to go out and try to cultivate your
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  non-judgmental observers and see how that takes.
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  You see where that takes you and I hope you have a very, very
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  blessed day.