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(55) Harness Your Feminine Energy to Manifest Your Purpose ✨ Dream Business & Wealth · Alignment With Jenn

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Hello and welcome to this episode of the alignment with
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Jen podcast. I am your host Jen Dizzy and
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today we are going to be talking all about how the feminine
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creates success differently than the masculine.
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So this is really going to be a very eye opening episode.
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This is something that has taken me a long time to be able to
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actually teach and verbalize these concepts.
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It's something that I have intuitively lived and I have
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seen it in the world and with my clients, but it wasn't until the
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the last few months that I've been able to verbalize it and
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I've really understood the spirituality and the energetics
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behind it. So I'm really excited to share
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this with you because the feminine creates success in a
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different way than the masculine creates success.
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And society has been set up to really support and encourage the
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masculine model of success. And it's typically success in
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business or in career. That's going to be what I'm
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speaking to today. But you can apply this in any
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area of your life. It will work in any area.
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What I believe is happening is that the masculine model of
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success is being overvalued and the feminine gifts are being
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kind of pushed to the side and seen as valuable.
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And I believe that as feminine beings, right?
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90% of my podcast listeners are women.
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So that's really who I, I'm speaking to.
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It's women and or people who identify as having more female
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energy. That energy is extremely
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powerful and extremely valuable. And my hope is that through this
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episode, you will really learn to connect to that energy more
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and understand how you can become more successful
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financially in your business, in your career by using your
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feminine gifts. Because I believe that they have
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been so undervalued. And I think we're in a turning
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point in history where we really want to start to value these to
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create a better society overall. So I'm so excited to give this
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to you. I really want to give you
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basically a tool kit of how can you run your business or your
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career in a more feminine way that's going to allow you to
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feel less burned out. It's going to allow you to feel
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more fulfilled, more successful, to create higher levels of
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income and growth for yourself. So I hope you're really excited
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about this. I'm so excited to share this
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with you. So the modern working structure
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is built around the masculine model.
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It's literally built for a man's hormonal cycle.
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A man's hormonal cycle doesn't really change from day-to-day.
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A little bit from the morning, a little bit to the night, but
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very small amounts of change. A woman's drastically changes
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from the beginning of the month to the end of the month.
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We cycle on a month. Men cycle on a 24 hour period,
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the 9:00 to 5:00, where every single day is the same amount of
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work, the same amount of things that you're going to be doing is
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built for that masculine hormonal cycle.
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And in this episode, I'm going to say masculine and feminine,
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and I'm going to talk about men and women as well.
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But what I want to preface this with is know that masculine is a
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type of energy and feminine is a type of energy, OK?
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And typically it tracks to women have more feminine energy and
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men have more masculine energy, but it's a spectrum, right?
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Some women are going to have more masculine energy and that's
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beautiful, right? Some men are going to have more
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feminine energy and that's beautiful.
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And so as you listen to this, don't say like, oh, I should be
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one way or I should be another way.
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Say, OK, what resonates with me about what Jen is saying?
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What seems like it applies to me?
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Where do I think I fall on this spectrum?
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And it honestly might vary from life stage to life stage.
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There's been periods in my life where I feel like I've really
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been in my masculine and it didn't work for me because I
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naturally am far more feminine. And so learning to operate more,
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following the feminine energy principles has been really
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helpful for me. So for you, I want you to listen
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to this and take what you want from it and recognize that
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whatever composition you are is literally perfect.
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You were designed to be exactly who you are, exactly as you are.
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There's nothing wrong with that, but I want you to open up to
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see, you know, could me leaning more into my feminine gifts be
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helpful in certain areas and me leaning more into my mask and
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gifts be more helpful because right, society is very focused
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on how the masculine does things and I want us to understand the
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gifts of the feminine and use those more.
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So what I believe happens is if you are a more feminine energy
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woman, being too much in your masculine leads to burn out.
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It leads to feeling unfulfilled, It can lead to health problems
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because we simply are not designed to operate in that way.
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And so I want to start off by explaining the difference
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between what masculine energy is and what feminine energy is.
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And so masculine energy is really like the giver, the
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initiator. It is the force that drives
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things forward. It's outward, it's structured,
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it's logical, it's disciplined, right?
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It's more focused on the outcome than on the journey.
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It's very direct, it's linear, it's focused on the goal, right?
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The goal is a big deal. It's action based, OK, And it
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moves towards an outcome. And it might look, some of the
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qualities of this might look like managing or directing or
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solving problems. The masculine energy loves to
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solve a problem versus the feminine energy doesn't
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necessarily need to solve a problem.
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Maybe she just wants to talk about it and share it and feel
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seen and heard. And the masculine energy
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initiates, it builds, it's this type of energy and we'll get
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more into that versus the feminine energy is more of the
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receiving energy. So spiritually this is talked
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about of the feminine being more of the vessel to basically
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receive. This is not passive.
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The none of this is passive. It's the feminine is more
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intuitive, it's more grounding, it's more emotive, connected to
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emotions, connected to feelings. It's more deeply understanding.
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So the feminine has this insane quality to be able to really
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deeply understand things in a way that the masculine doesn't
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always understand them. The masculine has amazing gifts
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and strengths. One of them for the feminine is
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this deep ability to understand. I say understanding this, I
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think for a lot of women is going to be something that you
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just innately know and you innately know exactly what I'm
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talking about. It's basically where you can
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have a conversation with someone and there isn't necessarily much
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said, but you know a lot more of what's going on for that person,
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right? Maybe it's their emotions, Maybe
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you're just into it, something that's going on.
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It is this natural capacity to take this raw sight and turn it
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into something really, really meaningful.
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So an example that's often talked about is the man might
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purchase the home or buy the home or have the home, but the
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feminine comes into it and she or the house and she turns it
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into a home, right? She brings light, she brings
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color, she brings beauty into it.
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It's this ability to take something and turn it into
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something more than it once was. And it's this ability to really
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deeply understand the emotion and the connectivity.
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This is why a lot of research is showing that women make really
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great leaders, because women have this natural ability or
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feminine energy has this natural ability to really connect and to
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really understand on a deep level what's going on.
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I'm sure this is true for you. We're all have you in a
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conversation with somebody and I'll just know things and they
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won't have said those things, but I'll just know it, right?
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Or you might just know, oh, this is how things are going to work
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out, right? I just kind of know it, right?
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It's just this knowing that I have, I can't fully explain it.
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That's that intuitive, deep understanding that the feminine
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has. And it's a massive asset.
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It's a massive gift. I think sometimes what can
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happen, especially the women that I work with or the the
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women that I see who are deeply intuitive, who are deeply
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insightful, who are high achieving, who want to create a
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lot, have a lot of purpose in the world, is they can feel like
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they are not doing enough or they are not good enough because
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they are not the masculine model of success, right?
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They're not working from 5:00 AM to 10:00 PM and going, going,
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going and pushing themselves hard because that's a different
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model of success. And that's really what I want to
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communicate here, is that there's another way to do
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things. And the feminine is naturally
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very magnetic, right? She's receptive.
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She draws things to her. She's very emotionally alive.
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She's very expressive, right? It's, it's fun, it's enjoyable.
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She's a force that brings a lot of this spiritual potential into
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the physical reality. That's a big part of what the
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feminine does. And when you literally think
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about it, right, the feminine is able to take a soul and take it
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from the spiritual into the physical into the physical
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reality. That is the same thing that the
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feminine can do with ideas in business or in career.
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She can take a raw idea from the spiritual realm and bring it
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into the physical, and that is incredibly powerful.
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And she can and turn it into something magnificent.
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Something I want to also point out is oftentimes there's a few
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caveats that can happen within this, and I'll get into those a
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little bit later, where I think the feminine can get stuck on
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creating because she believes it has to be a certain way and she
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gets too stuck in one of these energies.
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The same can happen for the masculine, but I'm going to
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speak more to the feminine today. 1 is that believing that
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receiving is passive. So I received this e-mail from a
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client last week and she's like, you know, I keep leaning back
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and waiting and just allowing things to happen, but nothing's
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happening. That's because receiving is not
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passive. There's two different pieces to
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it. Part of it is, yes, receiving
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the idea, percolating the idea, creating the vessel to receive
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that idea, but part of it is actually taking the actions and
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the uncomfortable actions and moving into what feels
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uncomfortable. And those are a couple of the
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points where I think people can get stuck is 1 is they can not
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do this receiving piece where they're just going, going, going
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and they're not actually allowing themselves to receive
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that idea. That's a big gift that the
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feminine has is to receive clarity and to receive this
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knowing and this idea of what to create, what to manifest,
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whether that's a business idea or a next step to take.
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But sometimes what can happen is that can lean into just
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literally always leaning back and never actually taking enough
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action. You want to have both the
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masculine and the feminine energy to manifest and to create
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in the physical world. So understanding that there is a
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balance and you're going to need to use both.
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And that can look like, like what I see with a lot of women
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is they will do a lot of the energy work, right?
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The healing work that feels so good and feels so fun.
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And they will barely do any of the actual business creation or
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the work around their careers, right?
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I know someone, I had a, a friend who she was starting her
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coaching business, right? And she was doing so much of
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this, receiving so much of this inner work, but she wasn't doing
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a lot of the actual mechanics of what it takes to build a
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business, right? The the masculine of the posting
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content, the putting her offers out there, the sales element of
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selling what you have to offer, those are also important.
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And that's that balance of the masculine and the feminine.
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And you want to have both. You don't want to just always be
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doing action. That's what I think gets
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overvalued. And that's what can lead to
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burnout for women, is we still want to have this period where
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we're understanding where we're just stating an idea and
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receiving an idea and growing it.
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And we also want to take the action on that idea as well.
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We want to do both. And it is your own internal
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journey that helps you understand what that balance
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might be for you. One thing I want to also touch
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on is why I think the feminine has been a little undervalued.
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It's often been referred to as the soft skills, right?
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I remember in college it was like the majors that matter the
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most were engineering and science majors and like
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communication and psychology and those more soft sciences or soft
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majors. Soft skill majors were not as
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valued as much. And I think that leans in into
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society as well. When in fact, I believe that you
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can create massive success leaning into more of these soft
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scale as these soft gifts. They're extremely, extremely,
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extremely important. Empathy, understanding,
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receiving right intuition. When you can empathize with
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someone, you can really understand what your customer
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wants in a way without someone with less empathy isn't able to.
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And you can create a product that really matches what they
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need. That's powerful.
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Same with being able to tap into your intuition.
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I believe intuition is how we collapse timelines and we move
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from A to B significantly faster when we are able to listen to
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our intuition and connect to that.
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And that's a feminine gift and a feminine skill.
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So I want to ground this in more of a tangible example.
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And I want to give you kind of the masculine way of creating
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and how it's traditionally been done.
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And then I want to explain to you how that differs and how the
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feminine creates. So the masculine creates in a
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more sequential away. So let me give you an example of
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how a man might launch a business versus how a woman or a
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feminine energy being might launch a business.
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So the man, what the man might do or a masculine energy is map
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out the offer, right? Set the launch date, build the
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funnel, run the ads, do all of the doing, right?
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Step by step, doing, doing, doing, doing, doing.
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He moves fast, he creates quickly and then he'll make
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mistakes and he'll adjust from those mistakes and his feminine
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energy shows up. And on average it's like a 7030.
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So somebody that's really masculine on average would be
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like maybe 70% masculine, 30% feminine.
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And but that's obviously going to vary from person to person,
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but that's sort of an average. You can think of someone that's
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more feminine. It might be about 70% feminine,
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30% masculine. When that imbalance happens,
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when we be we're feminine energy and we spend 70% of our time in
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our masculine, that doesn't feel good.
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It doesn't feel aligned. So for this man building his
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business, his feminine shows up when he slows down.
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He listens to his clients, he listens to his employees.
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When he breathes, when he takes a moment to kind of sit back and
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reflect and say, OK, is this how I wanted to operate?
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It's more of that leaning back energy rather than that doing
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energy, right? And we want to have a balance of
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both. Because if he's just doing,
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doing, doing, he can burn a lot of money.
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He can make a lot of mistakes. We want to have that ability to
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lean back. What the feminine might do for
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that same business, say she's launching the same exact type of
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business, is maybe, and maybe it's a coaching business.
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Maybe she'll bring on a few clients and she'll go really
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deep with those clients. She'll deeply understand them.
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She'll build relationships with them.
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She'll let the offer shape itself based off of those
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conversations, right? She's going to feel into what
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feels right for her about the structure of the business, of
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how to flow it, of how to to create it.
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And her content is often going to feel more personal.
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It's going to feel more magnetic, right?
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It's going to evoke more emotion typically because it comes from
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this place of this genuine connection, not just positioning
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and logicing the way through of how to build a business.
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Her masculine though, is also important.
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She needs to actually do the things right.
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Create the posts, price her offer, sell it and share it with
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people, which can be very feminine too.
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She needs to send the invoice. She needs to follow up when
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someone goes quiet. She's actually do the things.
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And this is where I see a challenge for a lot of women's.
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They don't they don't feel comfortable with this part.
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Like they love the ideas, they love the creating, but they
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don't feel comfortable when it actually comes to the rubber
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meeting the road and asking for the sale and putting their
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desires out there where they can actually be rejected in some
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way. So we need both.
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And I think what happens is there's really kind of two key
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ways that women get confused in this process.
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Oh, and actually before I go into that, I sort of want to go
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into sort of the ideation process that the female may go
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through and she's creating something.
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So this can work for you if you are creating a business or you
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are even creating a special project in your life.
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A book, a podcast, anything really.
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First, what typically happens is there's a longer phase of where
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she's kind of receiving the vision and she's receiving the
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insight and she's gathering kind of her own internal clarity.
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That phase is typically going to be longer.
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And I think about it for myself of when I launched my business,
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I was like, you know, I kind of just launched it and I didn't do
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that. And then I look back and I was
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like, no, I actually did. I spent like a long, like many
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years studying and understanding everything that I teach, right?
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That was me doing that process. And so people ask me how I
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started my business so fast and how I got clients so fast.
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It's because I had had this almost like the being pregnant
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phase with the idea of my business and what I wanted to
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create for a while. So think of it as like the being
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pregnant phase, right? The ideation, the creation of
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the idea and this process is going to be different.
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But what happens is when she's ready to birth that idea into
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the world, it's going to be more informed, it's going to be
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further along than it might be for a masculine energy where
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he's like, OK, I got an idea, I'm going to act on it.
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And then I'm going to adjust and I'm going to improve it as I go.
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She will also do that. But typically the idea is going
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to be further along. And it looks like she's done
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less work in the physical. But that I mean, yes, actually,
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she might have done less work in the physical because she's
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already done a lot of the work with her intuition, with her
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deep knowing, with her creative abilities, with this powerful
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energy that she has access to, knowing that that might be part
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of the process for you and not undervaluing that.
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Not saying I should be further along.
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Gosh, I have this amazing client and we've been working together
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for about a year and a big part of this journey, I've been
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telling her I was like, you need to sit back and slow down.
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She has an extremely busy life. And I said, you need to create
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more silence for yourself. You need to create more space
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because she kept asking how she's going to achieve her goal,
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how she's going to achieve her goal.
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And I kept saying, you know, we kept, I kept wanting her to pull
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it back. And she did pull it back.
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She created space. She took some time off work.
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She created space for herself. And she had the biggest
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breakthrough I've ever seen her have.
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She has total clarity on what it is she wants to create, the
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vision that she wants to create. She's verbalizing it.
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She's clear on what is getting in her way and what she needs to
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resolve. She has so much clarity than if
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she had just this whole time been trying to, you know, figure
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it out, figure it out, figure it out.
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She gave herself that space. And that's something I want to
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encourage you to do. If you are feeling stuck, if you
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are feeling unclear on what your next steps are, maybe part of it
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is that you need to actually just sit back and allow space to
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receive clarity from the universe, clarity on your next
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steps, clarity from your soul. Women get confused.
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They kind of get into basically 2 traps. 1 is over masculinizing
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is saying OK, I've seen all of these people be successful,
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building their business, creating their success in this
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very masculine model. So that's what I need to do.
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I need to override that. It doesn't feel right for me
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that it's burning me out. I just need to grind and push
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and hustle. That is not the way that it has
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to happen. It can, you can create success
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that way if that feels right for you.
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But there's another way and it's through deeper internal
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connection. It's through receiving of ideas.
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It's through tapping into your your feminine energy gifts.
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The other trap that can happen is over feminizing, right?
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It's like, oh, I'm just going to sit back and lean back and
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receive and I just attract. I don't have to do anything.
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That is BS. You still have to do things.
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You still have to show up. You have to clear those internal
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blocks. You have to overcome your fears.
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You have to put yourself out there.
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But part of it is maybe you slow down and give yourself space to
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actually receive rather than just doing, doing, doing, doing.
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Do it. The real mastery is in the
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integration of these energies. That's why the most successful
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relationships have a beautiful balance, a beautiful dance of
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these different energies where and it can be from either
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partner, right? It's going to be dynamic, but
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the same is true within you. You're going to have the most
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successful life that you can have when you learn how to
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create the right ratio for you of feminine to masculine.
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For me, I know I need a big period of thinking and not even
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thinking of like receiving and being in illness and connecting.
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And then I'll be able to create something and I'm like, yes,
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it's done and I just, I can put it out there, right?
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That's how it operates for me. It hasn't always operated that
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way. I've had to do a lot of internal
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work for it to operate that way. But how does it operate for you?
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Where can you create more space in your life to receive more?
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So I want to share briefly just some of the things that can get
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in the way of creating success in this way, because I believe
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that it can speed up success for you as you begin to lean into
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whichever energy feels more right for you and learn how to
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create in that way. And something that can really
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get in the way is our fears and our limiting beliefs, right?
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If I believe I'm not worthy of it, if I believe that I can't do
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it, if I believe that I have to struggle in order to create
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success, Those are all like little clogs that sort of gunk
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up your vessel and your ability to receive that clarity and that
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insight and really channel through and allow life to move
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through you to create what it is that you want.
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That is something that I help all of my clients with every
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thing that we've described here. And if that's something that
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resonates with you, if you're interested in going deeper into
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this, this is basically 4 pages of notes out of about 25 pages
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of writing that I wrote on this topic.
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So there's a lot more to this topic.
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We're just scratching the surface comment on this episode.
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If this is something that you want me to create more episodes
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about, I'd love to. I love this topic and we can get
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a lot deeper into it. And if you want to go deeper
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into this for yourself, send me the Word Podcast on Instagram
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my community, where I really help women to create that next
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level of success in a way that feels aligned.
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Helping you overcome those fears, overcome those doubts
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that get in the way so you can really create life in a way
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I can go deeper with you. And I hope you've loved this.
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I'll see you in the next episode.
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Bye.