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Late Night Internet Users Are Struggling to Explain What's Happening to Them · Off The Kirb Ministries

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  This is Charlie Sheen and his number is 5000.
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  This is Janice Dickinson and her number is 1000.
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  This is Gene Simmons, and his number is 5000.
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  This is Lamar Odom and his number is 2000.
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  And this is Dan Bilzeron, and his number is 5000.
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  What is this number I'm talking about?
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  It's the number of people these celebrities have had.
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  Well, I'm not going to say any more than that, but I do have a
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  question for you. So here's my big question.
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  When you think of those five famous people, how happy would
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  you say they are on a scale of one to 10?
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  In fact, think of any person who has lived a similar kind of
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  lifestyle to those guys and tell me, would you describe them as a
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  stable, peaceful individual, or has their life been marked by
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  trouble and unhappiness? Yeah, you say that that was one
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  of your biggest regrets, that you lost Chloe.
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  Yeah, I lost my. Angel.
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  Wow, yeah, do. You recognize that, man?
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  Do you know what was going on in Charlie Sheen's head back then?
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  I. Recognize him by.
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  Name not by character. So it's possible that she's done
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  with you, Jane. How do you feel about it?
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  Well, I hope not. You hope not.
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  Please come back, Shannon. You want to come back?
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  She doesn't. She's she's, she's mad.
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  Listen to me, even the people who wear a poker face and are
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  good at pretending that they have it all together, they are
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  also likely having inward struggles.
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  Take for instance, Dan Bilzeron, who we just saw on this list
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  before. You see, on the surface, it
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  would appear that he is calm, he's cool, he's living his best
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  life now. But when he admitted this in
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  some recent interviews, people could not believe what they were
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  hearing. I, I had this in my mind when I
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  was growing up of like how awesome this would be.
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  I don't know what I kind of landed on was I think it's like
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  better to have a monogamous relationship, strange as that is
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  going for me. Because I think if you've got
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  two choices, you can just like do whatever you want and you
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  know, be free and like allow the women to be free.
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  Or I think you can find a girl that you enjoy spending time
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  with and that you actually trust each other.
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  This kind of reminds me of what a friend once said to me when I
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  wanted to party at university instead of living a life of
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  holiness, he said. The problem with everyone on
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  this university campus is they think that everyone else around
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  them is having more fun than them.
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  But actually, everyone is dealing with the same emptiness
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  inside. I'm going to let you into a
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  secret. If there was one thing I believe
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  that God has called me to do after winning souls for the Lord
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  Jesus Christ, it would be this. I believe that God wants me to
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  help men and women walk in victory over this sin that I'm
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  talking about because for some reason God has shown me just how
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  big of a problem this is. When young men, old men, women
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  and men alike all say to me, I cannot get this thing out of my
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  life. And you'd be surprised how many
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  people sitting around you in your neighbourhood, at your
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  church are all struggling but this exact same problem.
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  Many of you I know have read 100 Pure Thoughts and you will know
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  exactly why. I have a particular desire to
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  help people who struggle with this sin because I myself
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  struggled with this sin for many years.
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  My story was this, I'd have victory for a few weeks,
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  sometimes a few months, and then I'd return again.
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  A few weeks went by, a few months, and then I'd go back.
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  And this pattern continued and continued.
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  And I could never get free until I started doing these three
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  things that I'm going to share with you.
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  And by the way, the last one is by far the most powerful, but
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  it's also the one I wouldn't advise everyone to do.
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  But hey, just before I share these three tips with you, I
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  really want you all to know this as I share my story.
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  Just know I'm not boasting in any way.
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  I am no better a Christian than you.
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  I make big mistakes. You just have to ask my wife to
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  know what kind of a guy I am. I really do mess up still with
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  many different sins. So please, I'm just sharing my
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  story now in hopes that it might help someone else out there.
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  OK, so #1 you've probably already guessed is exactly what
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  we've just been talking about. The first thing I had to
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  realise, the first thing is I had to truly believe is this.
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  The enemy had been lying to me. He was whispering in my ear.
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  If I had this sin in all of its fullness, you see, at the time I
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  was only watching it. But if I experienced all the
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  things that those people we've named before, if I experienced
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  what they had experienced, I would be happy.
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  But the reality was it was the complete opposite.
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  You see, if we live in this sin, there is a price to pay.
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  There is a price to pay for all those people who go against
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  God's design for marriage, because if you go against the
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  grain of God's laws, you will get splinters.
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  So over to you. Do you agree with this?
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  Do you agree that if everyone just listened to a very old book
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  called the Bible and listen to an old king who lived many years
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  ago called Solomon, if we listen to what he had to say, suddenly
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  we doubt what this world has conditioned us to believe, that
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  if we are a man, if we're a woman, we need these things and
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  we will be happy? Suddenly we doubt it.
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  You see, Solomon had thousands of partners.
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  He had gold power. And what did he say?
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  After experiencing everything that we could ever imagine we
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  might want, he said this. Whatever my eyes desired, I did
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  not keep from them, and I did not withhold my heart from any
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  pleasure. And indeed, all was vanity and a
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  grasping for the wind. There was number prophets under
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  the sun. OK #2 The next piece of advice
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  that I would suggest to you is that you join an accountability
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  group. I can't explain this fully, but
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  when you decide to bring this sin out into the open, the day
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  you confess this sin to not only God, but to a brother or sister
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  in Christ, that is also the day when this sin grows weaker and
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  weaker in your life. The seed of unholiness grows in
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  the dark, but the seed of holiness grows when you bring it
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  out into the light. Now please don't misunderstand
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  me. I don't recommend that you go
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  around telling everyone about this.
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  In fact, the Bible shows us that one of the worst things, one of
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  the strongest men, well I actually believe he was the
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  strongest man who ever lived, a man called Samson.
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  The stupidest thing he did was he told someone all that was in
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  his heart and this person wasn't trustworthy and as soon as they
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  found out, they told his secrets to the world.
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  We too ought to be very careful that we don't tell everything to
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  everyone. We only tell the people we can
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  trust. However, I do recommend that you
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  do share this with a few close friends who you can pray with,
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  who you can discuss what kind of week you've had and you can just
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  share. You can just carry each other's
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  struggles with one another. I almost hesitate to say this
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  because it does sound very immature and even a little
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  worldly, and I think some of you might see me differently after I
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  share this. But something that helped me
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  gain the momentum I needed to get to the place where I am now
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  is coincidentally two other friends of mine who were in my
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  accountability group. We all fell on the exact same
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  day. So all three of us fell on the
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  same date. So we decided to do something.
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  I know it sounds silly, but we decided to start a pact.
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  And in our pact, we sort of set ourselves a little competition.
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  I can't believe I'm telling you this right now, but we decided
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  to say, right, let's see which of us will fall 1st.
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  And as wrong and as foolish as this sounds, because of our egos
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  and because we started checking in with one another every few
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  days and asking each other, what have you watched this week?
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  Suddenly we didn't want to be the one to break the pack.
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  We didn't want to ruin it for the other guys in the group.
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  So we did everything we could to stop ourselves.
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  And as time went on, we stacked up the days, the weeks, the
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  months, and we became men that we never thought we would ever
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  become because of this silly little pact.
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  Now, this is all obviously in the Lord's grace.
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  And it wasn't us just, you know, being all in the ego, being all
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  trying to be the man and all of that.
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  It was obviously all the Lord's grace.
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  But it's all I can say is this was actually a very powerful
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  method that helped me stop watching things that I
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  shouldn't. And yes, I know it does sound a
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  little off the wall, or should I say a little off the curb.
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  But if you yourself have tried everything else, maybe, just
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  maybe, me and my friends, silly little method that might just
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  work for you and your friends too.
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  Now everyone, please listen to me.
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  What I'm about to say next is potentially the most serious
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  thing I've ever shared in all 400 videos I've made on this
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  channel over a period of eight years.
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  So if you are an impulsive person, or if you lack the fear
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  of God, would you do a favour for me?
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  Would you leave this video right now?
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  Because I don't want to be held responsible for what might
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  happen to you if you rush into doing what I did.
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  So if you're still here, very briefly, I'm going to share with
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  you three things you should do before you resort to this final
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  option. Firstly, I want you to wait at
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  least three months before you try this final option.
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  And we need to try every other possibility like prayer,
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  fasting, accountability groups. Get rid of all the devices you
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  have before you finally go to this final last resort.
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  Try everything. Because for me personally, I
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  actually spent a few years at least dwelling on whether I
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  should go to this next big step. Secondly, please speak to a
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  pastor. Speak to someone at your church
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  who is an old and mature Christian in the faith or a
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  local group of believers that you know.
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  Pick out a few people that you respect, you love, and they care
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  about you and tell them that you are considering doing this.
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  And just make sure after talking with these other people that
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  this really is right for you in your particular situation.
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  And thirdly, and by far most importantly, do not, and I
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  repeat do not make this decision straight after you've fallen
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  into sin. If you make this decision in the
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  heat of the moment, you might spend the rest of your life
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  regretting it. No, this decision has to be made
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  when you're really thinking straight, you're thinking
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  clearly, and you've prayed about it for a long period of time.
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  So what is the final thing I did to ensure that I will never
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  return to this sin again? I made a vow to God.
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  I hope you can see my sincerity and I hope you can hear from the
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  advice that I've just given you that this is not a decision to
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  be taken lightly. And at some point, I really do
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  hope I've got the chance to to do a deeper Bible study with you
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  on the seriousness of taking a vow.
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  But it's all I can say right now, just in this moment, is if
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  you break this vow, something very, very bad might happen to
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  you. And that is why I am determined
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  in the Lord's grace to never break this vow.
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  Going back to this sin. For me right now, it's not an
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  option because if I break this vow, I honestly don't know what
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  would happen to me. And I knew that when I made the
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  vow. And that is what I believe God
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  was calling me to do in that moment.
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  So I really would recommend, don't make a vow without much
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  prayer, without much consideration, without knowing
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  that the Lord is also calling you to do this, because the
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  Bible says in Ecclesiastes 5 verse five, it is better not to
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  make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.
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  In other words, it's not a sin not to make a vow, and a vow
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  should only be made if you are absolutely certain you can
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  fulfill it. And if you have made a vow in
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  the past and you've broken it, well, friends, do not play games
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  with the living Gods. Keep your vows because you might
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  have forgotten you made a vow, but the Lord hasn't forgotten
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  and He will require it from you. He wants you to keep it.
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  He wants you to keep your word. So take all of that into your
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  mind and then please never forget.
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  The most important lesson, the most important lesson when we're
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  trying to overcome sin is this. We cannot do it without Jesus.
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  All of what I've just said is totally pointless unless you've
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  come to the cross, unless you've come to the Lord Jesus Christ
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  and had your sins washed away. So can I ask you, have you met
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  the risen Lord? Have you come to Him no matter
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  who you are, no matter what you've done, no matter how many
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  times you fail the living God? Did you know we have an advocate
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  with the Father, the Lord Jesus Christ, who in our place died so
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  that we can be forgiven. And if we come to him, he'll
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  wash away all of our sins, past, present, and future.
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  Perhaps you're watching this video right now and you're not
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  yet a Christian, but you do want this thing out of your life.
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  What would I say to you? I'd say you need to come to
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  Jesus Christ 1st and know that 2000 years ago, your debt, your
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  sin was laid on him and he died there so that sin can be removed
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  from your account and so that you can start to walk in victory
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  if you want it, if you want it. Because the Lord Jesus Christ
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  has risen from the dead. The Bible says that we are dead
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  to sin. And that means we have a power
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  to say no to sin. We have a power to choose to
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  walk in righteousness because Christ's righteousness has been
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  given to us as a gift. That doesn't mean we're perfect,
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  as I've said many times before and make a mess often, but it
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  does mean in God's eyes we're perfect because we've been
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  covered with a cloak of righteousness, the Lord Jesus
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  Christ righteousness, and all of our sins been dealt with and
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  been buried at the bottom of the ocean.
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  I wonder now for those of you tune in regularly, did you know
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  that I actually wrote a book on this exact theme?
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  I don't talk about it too much because I know many of you are
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  tired of Christian preachers always trying to sell you
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  things. But if you would like a copy of
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  my book called 100 Pure Thoughts, you can actually get
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  it totally free on the Bible app you version if you search purify
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  your mind series by Joe Kirby, you'll get basically 75% of it
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  totally free. But if you are a little old
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  school like me and you want a paper copy where you can also
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  find them on my website on off the curb.co.uk.
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  And if you're not much of A reader, which I'm guessing see
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  many of you aren't because you're on YouTube, well, you
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  probably need to check this video out right now.
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  I think that will help you too.