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What do narcissists hate about you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about what do narcissists hate, hate, hate
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  about you? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Code. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  I know. Y'all seen that.
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  The demonic voice come out. Hey, Lee, that was your.
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  I told you, Lee, narcissism is this is a spirit.
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  It's a demon. You need an exorcism.
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  You don't need therapy. You need an exorcist to come in
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  there. You know, the guy that was the
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  exorcist for the Pope. Get him on a phone call and come
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  get him to come to North Carolina and give you an
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  exorcism and that'll make you feel all better.
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  You know, I'm not picking anybody's religion.
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  Y'all because this, my journey is a God blessed journey.
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  I'm not here without God. So but yeah, what do narcissists
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  hate about you? Y'all what?
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  What do they hate about you? I think a lot of people get that
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  into that space where they try to figure out like, why the why
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  is it? Why does it feel like that
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  narcissistic person in your life has this hatred towards you?
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  And I was just say the main thing.
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  And there's a few different things that narcissists hate
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  about you. The main thing that a narcissist
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  hates about you is how you make them feel about themselves.
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  Yeah, I said it. Yeah, I said it.
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  The main thing that narcissists hate about you is how you make
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  them feel about yourself, How you make them feel about
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  themselves. That's the main thing that they
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  hate about you. Hate to the utmost power.
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  Like, I don't think that. Do.
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  Do some narcissists hate you as a person?
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  Yes, some of them hate you, like I'd be real.
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  Some of them do hate you. But a lot of narcissists don't
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  hate you. It feels like they do, but they
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  hate how you make them feel about themselves.
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  Yes, they censor themselves in their hatred of you.
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  Yes, it's how you make them feel about themselves.
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  They don't hate you. They hate what you represent,
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  you see, They hate what you represent in their life because
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  a lot of times you make them. You're like this is not me
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  trying to tell you that you have to change something about
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  yourself because sometimes just being you can get you hated.
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  You know sometimes just being you in that space with this
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  narcissist can't get you on their their hate, their hate,
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  their hate Dar hate radar. Like if your your success, if
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  they are not successful, they hate you for that because you
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  make them feel inadequate. You see what I'm saying?
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  And they would treat you like they hate you, but they don't
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  hate you. They hate what you represent.
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  What you represent is shame. You see y'all are coming back to
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  the shame like they hate the shame that you bring into their
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  life. You have a great friend, you
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  have great friends and family and they don't shame you have
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  you look better than them. You're in shape, shame.
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  You have a naturally bubbly personality and people just
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  gravitate towards you. Shame you see you bring it into
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  their life and they hate you for that narcissist yo.
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  And this is me speaking for this.
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  I'm. I think I can speak for most
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  narcissists on this. Y'all know I try not.
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  Y'all know I try not to speak in absolutes because I know.
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  No, I know that No2 narcissists are the same, but I think I can
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  say this. Would you know most narcissists
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  try to avoid shame? Do some narcissists have no
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  shame? And just those are the the
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  psychopaths up the up the up the up the ladder a little bit, down
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  the street a little bit. Yeah, those narcissists have no
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  shame, You know what I mean? But do some narcissists, like
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  most narcissists, want to avoid shame at all cost?
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  At all cost. And you, the person you are,
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  bring shame into their life every single day.
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  Like you literally bring shame into their life every single day
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  you do it. That's what you do, you know.
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  And this is not me trying to blame y'all, this is not me
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  trying to hold anything against you.
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  That's what just just what you do.
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  I'm not trying to, like I said, this is not me trying to be mean
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  like let you horrible you eat person.
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  It's just what you do. You know you're bringing shame
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  to them. You just are.
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  Because you're being a good person.
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  You're being you, You're being authentic, like you're doing all
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  of this stuff and you are bringing shame to them.
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  You really are like you might you might have went to college.
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  You, your education, bring shame to them and they hate you for
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  that. They hate what you represent and
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  do. Like I said again, do some
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  narcissists hate you as a person?
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  Yes, absolutely. Like if you've exposed them, if
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  you've exposed them overall, if you told the world your story
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  and they've lost their job, they lost their career, they've lost
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  something in their life, they lost you.
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  If they've lost you, they might hate you for leaving them.
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  You see again, in that situation, they still hate.
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  They might hate you as a person, but they also hate what you
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  represent in that situation as well.
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  You know they hate that you represent somebody who got free.
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  They hate that you represent that somebody that you know you
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  You represent rejection in their life.
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  You represent rejection like they hate what you represent.
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  And if you leave them, if you discard them, you represent
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  rejection. Oh God, I don't even chipmunks
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  doing this video. Like, I just wrote down the
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  title of this video and all this stuff is just coming to me off
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  the top of my head. Like, seriously, You know, it
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  really is, you know, and I hate, I hate it sometimes, you know?
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  But that's how it goes. Sometimes.
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  I remember just, I, I I don't know.
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  That's why some narcissists, like, they want to isolate you.
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  You ever say the narcissists want to isolate you for no, for,
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  like for seemingly no reason. Like nobody in your life is a
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  threat to them. People, people in your life
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  actually like them, like your friends, like them, your family
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  likes them and they still want to isolate you away from them.
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  You ask yourself that question, like what?
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  What my friends and family, you know, they're they're trying to
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  isolate me away from my friends and family, but my friends and
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  family actually like them. You know, my friends and family
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  actually like this person, but they're still trying to, they
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  still don't want me to go see this.
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  They still don't want me to go see my friends and family.
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  It it it's, it's a very unique, different space to be in when
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  you're dealing with a narcissistic person who like I
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  say, they don't, they don't like it.
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  Y'all your friends and family could like them, but they might
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  have a tumultuous relationship with their friends and family,
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  so they feel the need to isolate you before your friends before
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  their relationship gets tumultuous.
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  Oh my mic, my little mic. The time I had to upgrade my
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  camera by the end of the year. Y'all I'm scared.
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  I've been using this camera for two years, but this mic is kind
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  of getting scratchy on me now. But yeah, that's how it goes
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  though. Y'all.
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  Now I know y'all understand. I know you get it.
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  But like, they hate what you represent for them.
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  They just do. And like some of them hate you
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  and want to put you in the ground and they just because you
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  brought so much shame into their life.
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  But like overall, regardless of regardless of what they hate or
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  what you represent, they hate the fact that you brought shame
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  into their life. So that's why you see sometimes
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  a narcissistic person gets that's what you see.
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  Sometimes a narcissistic person gets like come out, like a
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  narcissistic person will literally just lose their mind
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  on you. Y'all like that's why they hate
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  this shame. They they really do hate it.
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  Like they don't want shame to be brought into their life under
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  any means necessary and you bring shame into their life.
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  Man, I remember. I remember what I was going to
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  say. Yeah, my mind went blank.
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  The narcissistic person hates when you become successful.
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  Like, even if they are already. Independently successful.
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  Now you represent competition in in their life.
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  I didn't want to compare. I didn't want to compete.
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  I wanted a partner. You see, now you represent
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  competition in their life. Now you represent like people
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  want to celebrate you. That's why they don't celebrate
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  you. That's why a lot of narcissists,
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  if they can't take credit for your success, they don't
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  celebrate your success. You know?
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  If they take, if they can't take credit for it, they don't
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  celebrate it. Do you know that's how it goes
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  and it sucks. I know it sucks though.
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  Y'all. And it's just a wild ride to be
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  on. You know It's a wild ride to be
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  on when you're dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  Because it seems like you can't do enough.
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  You really can't do enough. Like nothing you do is enough.
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  Like you can quit. Like you can quit that
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  successful job that made them feel uncomfortable.
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  They made them start hating what you represent and now they will
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  hate that you are that you stay at home.
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  You see, it happens sometimes. Now you now you don't do enough
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  around the house. Now you don't contribute to the
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  relationship anymore. Now you don't contribute to the
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  household no more. If you're a narcissist.
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  If your parent is a narcissist in your life, like sometimes if
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  you the child of a narcissist, they hate that you represent the
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  goodness in them. Like like they you.
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  You reflect back their their like, their their imperfections.
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  You reflect back their flaws. You know, especially if you're
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  doing bad stuff, you reflect back their flaws and things like
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  that. You just do y'all.
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  That's part of the dynamic, that's part of the the situation
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  that a lot of people fall into and whatnot.
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  So if you're dealing with a narcissist or tax person,
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  whoever that this is the part. This is like some of them do
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  hate you y'all by being realistic, but some of them just
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  hate what you represent. So figure out what you represent
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  and what you what. What do you represent in that
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  narcissist's life? Put in the conversation.
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  Matter of fact, just drop in the conversation.
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  What do you feel like you represent in that narcissist's
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  life? You know, what do you feel like
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  you represent for them that brings shame into their life?
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  Could it be your personality? Could it be your looks?
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  Could it be your your ambition? Could it be your like, whatever
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  it is, just put it in the comment section.
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  I'm just curious to see what people think.
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  Put in the comment section on YouTube.
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  There's no comment section on the podcast, sadly.
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  Sadly. But yeah, Narcissus.
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  So as a Narcissus I can speak. Like I said, I can speak to
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  hating shame because I've hated people around me.
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  This is like this is just not an intimate relationship.
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  Y'all the narcissist in your life could be your friend, your
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  Co worker, your associate, your employee, your employer.
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  You see they can hate what you represent as well because like
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  you can be younger than them and be above them in a company.
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  You can be your best friend. Y'all can be the same exact age
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  group in the same exact area and you can be doing better than
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  them now that you they hate that you represent somebody that got
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  out of that same area and there's they might still be
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  stuck there. They happen sometimes especially
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  in certain demographics like the the the hate is real you know
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  the hate is real. And God's that's that's actually
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  in the Bible. That's I think that's one of my
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  favorite Bible verses. When God said everybody,
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  everybody that celebrates you except for people in your
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  hometown. You know you're here you you're
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  pretty much a hero to everybody to every except to the people in
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  your hometown who know you. That's that was one of our
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  favorite Bible verses. You know what did, what did God
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  say about hometowns? What did he say?
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  Yeah. A prophet is without, is not
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  without honour except in his hometown and amongst his
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  relatives in his own household. There was a mark 6/4 that was
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  right there. I was like ah, it hit me hard.
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  Y'all what I did nothing in the Bible verses.
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  That's when I was reading the Bible that that that struck me
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  right there like. That's that's why my people hate
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  me. That's why I hate people who got
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