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Pride VS Confidence · The Living Freed Podcast

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Hey there, I'm Hannah Liz, a coastal living,
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Jesus loving, NC native, and you're listening
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to the Living Freed Podcast. This podcast is
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for the girlies, the girlies who feel weighed
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down by the chains of the world or the chains
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of the legalism in their church, who want to
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walk free in the life they know God created for
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them, who want to heal their heart and heartbreak
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as into self -growth, wants to deepen her relationship
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with Jesus and build community. Today, we're
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going to be talking about pride versus confidence.
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gosh guys pride has been such an issue in my
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heart literally since I was a little kid when
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I was younger it physically hurt me to apologize
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like pulling teeth to admit that I was wrong
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I would do pretty much anything to appear as
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my best and I'd avoid not looking good any chance
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I could just like everybody else but genuinely
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like if it hurt my pride or how I appeared I
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just want to do it like if I wasn't gonna win
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the race I wasn't gonna run the race you know
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what I mean um I just I really yeah it no it
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wasn't for me that's all I'm gonna say apologizing
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anything that made me look bad any correction
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it wasn't for me as a kid Now, I will say though,
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even though I wouldn't do anything I knew I would
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lose at or I would avoid apologizing at all costs,
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I did love to be the center of attention. I love
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to put on a show and be at the front. I remember
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one time we lived in a house that had a basement
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and I locked one of my - I locked - my siblings
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in a closet in the basement while I stood in
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front of the door holding it closed with my body
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because it was my turn to perform for my for
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my parents. There's actually a whole video of
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me like i think i had to be like five or six
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shoving my body against the store while my two
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younger siblings are doing their best to fight
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to get out of it and i'm just standing there
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like singing a song about jesus but hey listen
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they had had their turn they were the opening
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act i was the closing act i waited my turn and
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now it was my time to shine and end the show
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with a bang okay so did i really need to keep
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them locked in the closet no But I had waited
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in the closet. So it was their turn to wait in
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the closet. Well, I, you know, gave the performance
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of my life. I really did love being the center
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of attention, though, like anything like it could
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be a play. I could it could be for my dance team.
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I wanted all the eyes on me. You put me at the
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front row. I was there. I was ready to lead.
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I was ready to show everyone the dance moves.
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I was ready to perform any line. And if I missed
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a line or step, well, you want to be able to
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tell me because me miss a line or step? Not even
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possible. As a kid though, people would tell
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my mom how prideful I was, like my teachers,
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my friend's parents. I remember my mom telling
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me this and at first I was really upset but then
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I also got really embarrassed. My mom did her
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absolute best though as I got older to really
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help me with it and I appreciate that. She put
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in like the actual hard work as a parent and
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I eventually like started to be really quick
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to apologize whether I was wrong or wasn't wrong.
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I made sure I wasn't on the front of the stage
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anymore. I took a back seat. I was careful with
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my words around adults. I stopped dressing like
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I needed to be the center of attention, like
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I was on a fashion show. And I learned to take
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criticism. Well, as I got older, eventually turned
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into feedback. You know, it happens with maturity.
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Was it an easy process? No. I would say for anything
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that I felt prideful about, it definitely got
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beaten out of me. Not physically. I kind of did
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it to myself. Like say I was prideful about one
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thing, I'd bring up two things to myself that
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I was insecure about to prove that I wasn't all
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that and a bag of chips. Because I spent a whole
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lot, I spent the majority of my childhood thinking
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I was all that and a bag of chips. I do remember
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though I got to a point where there was pretty
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much nothing left of me that felt that way about
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myself. um i did cheer when i was you know in
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my tweens to my teens i remember it was my first
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season as a cheerleader and my coach came up
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to me and told me she wanted me to be the head
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cheerleader and i asked her if she was sure because
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i definitely was not sure about myself at this
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point i remember i was trying to be at the bottom
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of the pyramid i was trying to be in the back
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of the group um and the problem with that is
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i'd gotten rid of all my pride but i also got
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rid of all of my confidence as a kid and it led
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to a long season in my life where I kind of just
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stopped speaking up for myself. I stopped standing
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up for others, much less standing up for myself.
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And I was always worried about what others thought
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of me, especially adults. Like every time I wore
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something that was just outside of the normal
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for our inner circle, I questioned it. If I was
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going to speak up on a subject that I was really
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passionate about, I just chose not to because
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I second guessed myself. I really second guessed
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everything about myself as a person, even in
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private. Like I would question myself on any
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choice that I made as I got into my teams because
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I just had lost any certainty that I'd had for
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myself. It took me years to learn to rebuild
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my confidence and in my mind keep my pride at
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bay because it felt like it was gonna be a never
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-ending struggle that I was gonna have to deal
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with. I became very aware that I wasn't confident
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anymore so I wanted to build it up but I also
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knew I couldn't let my pride get the best of
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me because I didn't want to have adults or am
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I honestly yeah adults. i didn't want to have
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adults speak about me in that way anymore. it
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became a big insecurity of mine and i didn't
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want to embarrass my family like my parents or
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myself in that way as i got older because i've
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met really prideful adults as a kid aka my dad
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and i was embarrassed about it so so i just knew
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i did not want to be that way when i became a
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grown up. in my early 20s though a different
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conversation was being had. something new had
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been spoken into me. and one of those conversations
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was had in one of my monthly meetings with my
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boss. We would typically go over our numbers
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and our goals and he mentioned to me one time
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that I was one of the most humble people he knew
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and I didn't know what to think about that because
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I had been telling myself at this point in my
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life the opposite for so long and I really sat
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and pondered it because I valued his opinion
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so much. I felt like he really saw me up until
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that point and I couldn't figure out why he thought
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I was humble when my whole life. I had told myself
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differently and I'd been told differently by
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others. So I ended up going home that day. I
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remember this very vividly. I ended up going
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home one day and I told my roommate who worked
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with me at the salon and she laughed. Like she
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actually laughed and said, well that's just not
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true. You are one of the most prideful people
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I know. Like truly. And I I'm not gonna lie,
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I was kind of butt hurt because I was kind of
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proud of myself. I was like, wow, I have made
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strides. I'm no longer a prideful person. People
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don't see me as a prideful person. And I was
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really excited that I felt like I had beat that
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side of me, beat that problem that I had had.
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And to be told that actually... I was one of
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the most prideful people someone knew really
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hurt. It really really hurt. I remember thinking
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oh my gosh like I need to fix this. So I sat
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on it for a long time because when people tell
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me things about myself, I really take it to heart
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and I want to work on those things. So I dwelled
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and thought on it for days and weeks and months
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and I'd have conversations about it with my friends.
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I remember one time I was at one of my favorite
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coffee shops in my hometown. It was basically
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my second home during my ever -going never -ending
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coffee addiction and I brought this topic up
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to one of my closest guy friends at the time.
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We had unspoken weekly coffee dates where we
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would talk about his school problems and all
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of my problems in general. He was one of those
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friends that would give me the hard truths and
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a few of my girlfriends would even ask me why
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I was friends with him because his hard truths
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were just that. They were hard, but I really
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valued his opinion. I was not ever into him in
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that way. I never saw him in a romantic way,
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but I knew he had a lot of qualities that I admired
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and I wanted to end up with someone who had similar
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qualities to him, so I listened to what he would
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say in hopes to grow into a person that someone
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with his character would want or look for, if
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that makes sense. As we sipped our coffee and
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I asked where he saw Pride of My Life show up,
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he looked me straight in the eyes and I remember
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like a deep breath and being ready to take the
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punch. I remember mentally, emotionally, and
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physically like preparing myself for what he
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was going to say so that I could, you know, write
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it down on my heart and be ready to work on it
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so that I could be the best version of myself.
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And as he looked me in the eyes and there was
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a moment of silence between us, he took a breath
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and he said, Hannah Drain, you are not prideful.
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You're one of the most humble girls I know. People
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mistake your confidence for pride. And y 'all,
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that's when my view shifted, because I learned
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something. Confidence looks like arrogance to
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unconfident people. Webster's Dictionary defines
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confidence as the quality or state of being certain,
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while Webster's Dictionary describes the word
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pride as the quality or state of being proud.
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Exaggerated self -esteem, ostentatious, or a
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showy display. I think it's pretty plain and
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simple. Pride's definition has so much more to
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say about itself, and it reminds me of the world
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around me. always trying to prove something,
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but confidence doesn't have to prove a thing,
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and it doesn't feel the need to. Today we see
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a lot of pride, self -centeredness, and arrogance.
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I scroll TikTok and Instagram a lot. Not as much
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as I used to, but definitely still way too much.
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And I see a lot of posts of how great others
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are, or bragging about what they have or have
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done. Often I don't give it a second thought,
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mostly I just you know, heart it and move on
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with my day. But I started to see it in a lot
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of conversations too. You know, it's one of those
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things like if you're shopping for a red car,
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you see them all over the road. When something
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kind of sits in your heart or in your head, you
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start to see it everywhere. I started to hear
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so much about, I did this, I said that, I bought
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this. Insert whatever you want because we've
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all been in a conversation like that. You're
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telling someone about a trip you took or a new
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restaurant you checked out and they find a way
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to make the conversation about them. I'll never
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forget this I was in a convo with a girl I was
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meeting for the first time she was a friend of
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a friend and we were just minutes into meeting
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when she started to tell me the most crazy friend
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story I've ever heard mind you brand new to Wilmington
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my friend tempted me to the beach she said let's
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go take cute photos it's one of the prettiest
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days we've had all winter and I was really trying
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to make friends with this girl so I was like
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yes I'll be there let's show up so I put on my
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cute beachy outfit she told me this friend was
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coming and oh boy did this friend show up she
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instantly started telling us how she slept with
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the guy her roommate asked her to stay away from
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because her roommate had had a crush on him.
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Well, this girl went out drinking with him and
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a group of other friends and brought him home
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and slept with him. And the roommate found out
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the next day when she woke up and he was leaving
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her house. That girl was saying, So the girl
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with us is telling me how her roommate had confronted
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her about it, but she told her roommate that
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all they did was sleep. They did not do the deed.
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but the roommate found out from the guy that
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her friend had lied. This girl continued to tell
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me how she couldn't understand how her roommate
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didn't want to be around her anymore because
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she didn't do anything wrong. It's not like her
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roommate was dating the guy. I was so shocked
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by her lack of awareness or accountability, whatever
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you want to call it. Y 'all, I didn't even try
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to correct this girl, because she didn't know
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girl code, or at the very least how to be a good
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friend, and put her own desires first over the
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heart of a friend. Trust me, there was no enlightening
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her on this one. The last time I really remember
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struggling with my pride was when I called off
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my engagement. I was so freaking worried about
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what everyone would think if they found out why
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we broke up. I was encouraged by my family and
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friends and pastors to tell others bluntly the
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truth, but instead I spent months avoiding answers
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and left all outside my closed circle in the
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dark. But it really shot me in the foot. People
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started to think I did something wrong, that
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I had messed up, and that's why it got called
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off. All because I was too embarrassed to say
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he chose to pursue a relationship with another
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woman while we were engaged. embarrassed to possibly
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give anyone the idea that I wasn't enough for
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him, or that I was dumb enough to get played
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in that way. Man, my pride really got me there.
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You know, pride is what got us here in the first
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place, separated from God. Adam and Eve being
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convinced that God was holding out on them, Satan
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and his pride wanted to be worshipped like God,
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and then he had to go and introduce the feeling
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of pride to Adam and Eve. Satan even tried to
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test Jesus with pride, but obviously he failed.
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Like, what a loser. To try and test God's confidence
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and test his pride, the all -knowing creator
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of you, me, and Satan? That's hilarious. God
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has actual words to say about pride. In 1 Samuel
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16 -7, we see him say to Samuel, Do not look
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on his appearance or on the height of his stature,
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because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees
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not as man sees. Man looks on the outward appearance,
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but the Lord looks on the heart. In Proverbs
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16, 18 it says, Pride goes before destruction
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and the haughty spirit before the fall. Then
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in Psalms 10, 4, In the pride of his face the
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wicked does not seek him. All his thoughts are,
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There is no God. Basically, pride hardens your
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heart towards God and I don't think that's a
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space I want to live in. There are so many Bible
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verses and stories of how pride is so obviously
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negative to you, your health, and your walk with
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Jesus. Let's have a real talk about how pride
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might show up in our lives. Pride is a heart
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problem and a head problem. It holds us back
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from living. I wish I could count on one hand
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the amount of times I avoided telling a whole
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story just to save face, but unfortunately, I
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cannot. Pride is what we place value in about
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ourselves. Some of us might be how we look. We
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might take pride in, compare ourselves to others
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based on our bodies, clothes, face, or hair,
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think to ourselves, thank god I don't look like
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that. Pride can cause us to lash out. It makes
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us want to be recognized, the need to prove something,
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that we are too good for serving others, or small
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jobs. or if you're Heyman in the book of Esther,
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it can get you killed because you don't see your
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heart clearly and you want too much that actually
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is not yours. I have friends that judge others
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for how long they've been single and say clearly
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something is wrong with them when me, Hannah
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Liz, their very chronically single friend is
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sitting right there next to them. So clearly
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they take pride in being in a relationship. And
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now I'm wondering if they think I'm weird for
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being single. You might be holding back for fear
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of sharing or showing a weak emotion, so you
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take pride in being strong. I know I used to.
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I would never cry in front of people. I was the
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strong sister, the cold sister, because I didn't
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let things bother me or hurt me. I had my emotions
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in check. The first few times I did finally break
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in front of people, I felt so weak and would
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curse myself about it later on. But now I cry
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what feels like all the time. And I don't care
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anymore if people have any thoughts or feelings
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about it. Ben Stortz says, pride is not a yearning
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for what you don't have, it's arrogance about
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what you do have. So maybe you're a braggart.
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You talk about where you're traveling to next,
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what new car you're going to get, the newest
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designer bag you just bought. And don't get me
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wrong, I love to talk about those things, but
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it's about where your heart is. Are you talking
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about it to make yourself feel cooler, or better
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in the conversation with the person you're talking
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to? Or are you sharing it out of true joy and
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excitement? I mean, it's fun to talk about those
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things, but if you're talking about it… to make
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a point or make yourself feel some type of way,
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then you need to take a closer look at that.
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I have friends that are prideful about their
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Christianity. It's, oh I serve in church, but
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I also know the pastor of this mega church and
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he gave me this XYZ compliment. And don't you
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think he's right? And oh boy, when that friend
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gets convicted about something, all of a sudden
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it's everyone else's problem too. And it's, they
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should really consider working on that. Because
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Sally stopped doing it or started doing whatever
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the hell it is and everyone should too, it really
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would help with their relationship and their
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life with Jesus. I'll be so real, that friendship
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keeps my pride in freaking check. Like regularly,
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I have to check my heart posture after talking
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with that friend. Whenever I find myself getting
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annoyed or judging how they're judging others,
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I know that irony. Or telling people how to live,
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I take a moment I pray over my heart and sometimes
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send a quick text to my bestie to be praying
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over my heart as well before I let my thoughts
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spiral about whatever the latest thing they said
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or did. And sometimes if it's in text, I have
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to just put my phone down and walk away while
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I take a couple deep breaths. Oh my gosh, I also,
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y 'all, I knew this guy who was like fake humble.
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I mean truly fake humble. He would walk around
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all sad like freaking Eeyore from Winnie the
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Pooh and could never take a compliment. You would
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tell him like, oh, you did a really good job
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on that. And he'd be like, oh, thanks, you know,
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it was all really Jesus. It has nothing to do
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with me. But then behind closed doors, he would
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brag about how humble he was, like actually brag
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about his humility. OMG, it drove me nuts. As
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soon as I saw through the BS, which I'm not going
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to lie, it took me a while to see through the
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BS. But once I did, oh, I couldn't even stand
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to look at him. It's like, you know, when you
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get the ick. I got the ick. Okay, but the Bible
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has a lot to say about confidence, too, though,
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but it all leads to the same place. In Hebrews
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10 verses 35 -6, it says, Basically saying, living
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righteously will bring boldness, which will have
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us naturally live confident. You know who was
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known by God, by name, for living righteously?
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That led to his boldness and his confidence,
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not just in his God, but in his own character
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as well? Job. Job knew himself. In his actions,
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in his heart's dance. So well, and was so confident
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in it, that when his friends, his closest besties,
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told him he clearly did something wrong and sinful
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in God's eyes and that's why he was being punished,
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he was able to say to himself and his friends
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how wrong they were. Like gosh, think how powerful
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that is. Psalm 139, 13 -14 says, So you're telling
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me I get to just walk around this earth knowing
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God formed me, knitted me together, heart, soul,
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and body, and you want us to go walking around
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instead in pride that is a false confidence and
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a true insecurity, trying to make myself feel
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better than others, smarter than others, worth
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more than others, to what purpose and what end?
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Instead, we're going to continue to walk around
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this earth knowing we were formed, thought of,
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and knitted together by confidence, and with
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confidence, knowing we have nothing to prove
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to anyone around us and loved by our Father.
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Now, you don't become confident overnight. I
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certainly did not. It took years of personal
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work. Think about David from the Bible. He didn't
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just face Goliath before facing lions and bears,
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and low -key, probably the torment of his brothers.
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Let's be so for real. Anyone who has a brother
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knows what I'm talking about. Those boys are
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next level. I mean, I cannot tell you the amount
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of times I was held down while one dangled a
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loogie over my face. If you know what I'm talking
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about, you know my pain, okay? One time, I was
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quote unquote asleep in my room and my brothers
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went outside the house to make animal noises
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scratching on the walls to make me think a giant
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animal was outside trying to get in and get me.
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Crazy. oh my gosh and another time actually my
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brother got into so much trouble but another
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time we had this attic door that would open up
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by itself because of i don't know circulation
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and pressure depending on the time of season
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and he told me that a ghost was coming to get
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me i happened to be 12 and in that moment he
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did ask me how old i was and when i said 12 he
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goes That's terrible. This ghost only goes after
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12 year olds. That's why we keep moving. Mom
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and dad have been trying to protect you guys,
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but it's here now and it's too late. Needless
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to say, I did not sleep that night and my parents
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definitely made him sleep with me until I got
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past my fear of the fake ghost. Okay, sorry,
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not to get too sidetracked. Anyways, you have
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to take on small battles within yourself. Fight
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and change your mind trash. Maybe it's comparing
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yourself to others or speaking harshly to yourself.
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Ask yourself why. Process your why, and then
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find a healthy way to reframe that thought. From
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thoughts, then start to speak it out loud over
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yourself. Because words are powerful, God will
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give you confidence when we don't rely on our
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own personal strengths. Put our values in our
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strengths or what people think of us. When we
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have confidence, we are not scared of new challenges.
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Because we don't hold our value or compare it
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to one or anything, we will lose the fear of
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losing it. I want you to take some time this
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week and do some inward reflecting. Look at where
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your pride is, where are you placing it, or what
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is it? Then find out the why, and let's hold
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it captive, meditate on it, find scripture to
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read over it, journal about it, or write on it.
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You can write it down and then tear that paper
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so we can tear the chains of pride that are holding
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us down and work on our confidence. If you have
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a trusted best friend, then let them know the
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challenge you're taking on. Someone you trust
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to know your fears. Someone you trust to point
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out your pride if you can't see it in yourself.
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Someone you trust to speak confidence and boldness
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into you. For example, Queen Esther wasn't bold
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or confident or even a queen overnight. She had
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Mordecai speaking truth and boldness into her.
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He also called her out and told her reality,
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and I think you need someone you trust to do
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the same for you. So what does confidence look
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like? For me, it was learning to be bold in my
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truth. I was and have always been honest with
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who I am. I've always shown up the same, for
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the most part, from my core. Obviously, things
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used to shape or shift from group to group when
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I was younger, but my core of who I am stayed
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the same, but I've learned to be bold with my
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truths and with myself. I don't hide anything
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from my peers in fear of their opinion or judgment,
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to think I'm of less value, because my value
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isn't found in that anymore. I can't be pulled
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down by others' thoughts of me because my value
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is found in my character and who God called me
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to be. As long as I'm aligned with that, then
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there is where I'll find my confidence. I don't
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avoid truths anymore. I speak truths no matter
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how it might affect someone's opinion of me.
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If someone makes me second -guess or doubt myself,
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I take a beat to dive deeper as to why. I process
23:10
it now, and depending on the outcome, I'll either
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proceed or change course, whether I'm comfortable
23:16
or not, because I have to be uncomfortable to
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grow out. When you find your pride, find your
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why to your pride. Break the chains of your pride
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by finding the character value God has knitted
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into you. And let's take small steps up and into
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your confidence. Y 'all, let's be so honest.
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Isn't it so much more fun to be around a confident
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girlie than an insecure one parading around with
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pride as a false confidence? Have you ever been
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in a bar bathroom, if you're old enough, and
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you have that pretty girl looking at you sideways
23:47
in the mirror giving you that up and down look?
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You know the look I'm talking about and instantly
23:52
you wonder if something is wrong with your makeup,
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maybe your lipstick is on your teeth, possibly
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your outfit actually doesn't look good on you
24:01
or as good on you as you thought, or Maybe the
24:04
toilet paper followed you out from the stall
24:06
and you didn't notice, so you check under your
24:08
shoe and there's nothing there and you're thinking,
24:10
what is up with this girl? Why is she looking
24:12
at me like that? Then you have the other girl,
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the girl who lights up when she makes eye contact
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with you when she walks in, instantly tells you
24:20
how good you look or that she'd die for your
24:22
shoes and y 'all end up spending an extra 20
24:24
minutes in the bathroom fixing each other's makeup
24:26
or talking about your exes, and it's decided
24:29
that you both were way too good for them in the
24:30
first place. The girls that walk around with
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pride treat doing life with you as a competition.
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You never really feel like they have your back,
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actually mean their compliments, or produce any
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fruit in your friendship. First is the confident
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ones are always in your corner lifting each other
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up, have you feeling loved and cheered on, excited
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for new challenges, and ready to take on the
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world. Which girl do you want to be? Which girl
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are you? How are you showing up? How do you want
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to be showing up? And how are you getting there?
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I once heard it said, and I can't remember by
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who, but I wrote it down in one of my little
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side tabs in my Bible next to first John. And
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it said, a change of head can have a change of
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heart, and a change of heart will have a change
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of action. So how do we become confident? Well,
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let's start with our head. Let's change our head.
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And eventually, you'll change your heart. And
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when you change your heart, it will show up through
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your actions. Let's pray. Father, thank you so
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much for anyone who's listening to this. I ask
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that you set them free from their pride, whatever
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pride is holding them down, from whatever pride
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is allowing them to live freely in you and their
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confidence in you. Wherever they're placing their
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value, wherever their insecurities might be sitting,
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ask that you free them of it. Show it to them.
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Have them become familiar with it, but have them
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release it and live for you. Live their life
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for you and be a light in this world. In Jesus
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name, Amen. Alright, that's all I have for today.
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Thank you so much for listening to the Living
25:59
Free Podcast. Let's get connected on Instagram
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any feedback or a subject you'd like me to cover,
26:16
please email or DM me on Instagram. And again,
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I want you to remember, Competence can look like
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arrogance to unconfident people, so be careful
26:26
who you allow to speak it to your life. Thank
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you so much for listening and I hope you feel
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encouraged, lighter, and more confident today.
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Bye y 'all!