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EPISODE 1: You Can Change Your Thoughts · Parent's Talk with Francine Juhlin

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  Speaker 1: Those thoughts of being less than, those thoughts of being ugly,
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  Speaker 1: those thoughts of being not worthy, are only thoughts, and
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  Speaker 1: you can change those thoughts.
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  Speaker 2: Because as I started changing myself, as I started fixing
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  Speaker 2: what was broken inside of me, I realized that the
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  Speaker 2: majority of it came from society's programming. You might think,
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  Speaker 2: You might think that I'm saying my parents did something wrong,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm not. They did the best they could with
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  Speaker 2: the knowledge they had based on their societal programming. It's
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  Speaker 2: time to break the cycle. Yes, yes, parents, welcome to
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  Speaker 2: parents Talk. We just want you to know you need
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  Speaker 2: to be careful what you say to your children. My
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  Speaker 2: friend Joanne Duftin is going to tell you a little
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  Speaker 2: story to demonstrate this point. Joe Anne, can you tell
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  Speaker 2: us how your mother made you feel when you were
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  Speaker 2: growing up?
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  Speaker 1: Please. I was about eleven and we went to visit
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  Speaker 1: my grandmother and a prior babysitter was walking down the street.
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  Speaker 1: She was about seventeen. My mother took one look at
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  Speaker 1: her and this face. Ah, look at her againancasting look
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  Speaker 1: at those whiteheads. That's awful. Two years later, when I
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  Speaker 1: looked in the mirror and saw my own pimples, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to ever have that expression from my mother,
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  Speaker 1: and so I got in the mirror and I poked
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  Speaker 1: and I poked. Unfortunately it didn't work. I went into
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  Speaker 1: the room where my mother was sitting and she gave
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  Speaker 1: me that same look. That look followed me for years.
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  Speaker 1: I remember two or three years later, a young boy
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  Speaker 1: came up to me and said, you're pretty. And I
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  Speaker 1: remember thinking, are you blind? If my own mother thinks
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  Speaker 1: I'm disgusting, how can I possibly believe that anyone else
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  Speaker 1: would think that I was attractive?
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  Speaker 2: Wow? What a story?
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  Speaker 1: What a story. I had a problem with that until
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  Speaker 1: I was sixty. Sixty sixty, after my husband died, I
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  Speaker 1: picked up a book by Alex Lloyd called The Healing Code,
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  Speaker 1: and one of the chapters talked about phrases that you
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  Speaker 1: would say to yourself. And I remember when I said
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  Speaker 1: to myself, as my heart heals, I am learning to
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  Speaker 1: believe that I am worthy, that I have value, and
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  Speaker 1: that I can love myself for who I am. That
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  Speaker 1: saying that to myself spoke to my whole body, spoke
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  Speaker 1: to my soul, spoke to my spirit. As a parent,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want you to go through sixty years of
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  Speaker 1: feeling that way. And I know you don't want your
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  Speaker 1: children to go through any time feeling that way way,
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  Speaker 1: So let them know that those thoughts of being less than,
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  Speaker 1: those thoughts of being ugly, those thoughts of being not worthy,
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  Speaker 1: are only thoughts, and you can change those thoughts. Pick
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  Speaker 1: up this book. I like the way he describes it.
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  Speaker 1: He has you directing energy to various parts of your
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  Speaker 1: face as you say those sentences. He initially says, only
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  Speaker 1: do it five minutes, three times a day. Well, my
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  Speaker 1: husband had just died. What did I have to do?
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  Speaker 1: Accept that? And it felt so good that I kept
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  Speaker 1: doing it. I remember two or three nights in a
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  Speaker 1: row I'd be saying it, maybe for an hour at
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  Speaker 1: a time, as I directed energy towards these various areas.
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  Speaker 1: I had debilitating shyness. I always wanted to hide in
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  Speaker 1: a corner. Maybe I could be invisible. Now I'm a
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  Speaker 1: public speaker, and.
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  Speaker 2: A good one too. Wasn't that a great story?
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  Speaker 1: Now?
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  Speaker 2: Parents, wouldn't it be wonderful if we could grow strong,
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  Speaker 2: confident children today rather than fits, broken adults later. The
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  Speaker 2: Confidence Club for Kids will give your kids tools and
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  Speaker 2: resources to grow up strong and confident today, ye,