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- John Adams: can get into the other stuff. ⁓ So I would like to say welcome to another week of the Health Tech and Wellness podcast, but just before this episode, which won't be airing this week, so ⁓ it'll come out in a couple weeks, but I just got a call that a friend of mine passed away. So this is going to be a tough one, so I apologize. ⁓ The good thing is with this episode is it's heavy crystal general, so hopefully your connection stays good and Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: You can carry a lot of this, but for this episode, I just want to talk about ⁓ it's summer, right? And sometimes summer feels great for most people, but for other people, depending on your life and depending on the situations, depending on deaths, depending on your job, ⁓ summer doesn't always mean vacations or time off or relaxation or cookouts for everybody. For some people, summer means it's time to get really busy. And a couple of weeks ago when we were talking off air, Crystal was talking about summer gets really busy for her and this is her busy time of the year. And for her summer really means survival mode, right? ⁓ You're going into some really long hours. You're going to be dealing with a lot more people, a lot more chaos, a lot more pressure to just make sure that your store, ⁓ this is when you're making the money that gets you through the winter when things slow down, when Vermilion just kind of goes to sleep. ⁓ So Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: Crystal, just kind of want to ask you, I know that for you going into summer, it is exciting because summer is kind of when you're going to be ⁓ busy, but there's a lot of chaos and stress that goes along with that. You're kind of watching everybody else talking about relaxation. You're kind of coming out of that phase. You spent the winter doing a lot of travel, going to Puerto Rico and over to Europe and stuff. And then now, Crystal Nevedale: you Right. you John Adams: you're getting into, you're gonna be busy. So let's kind of talk about what that's gonna be like for you, what that transition looks like, because a lot of people are dealing with that same thing. We talked about that with the roofers and stuff last episode, ⁓ but yours is a little different. Why don't you kind of jump into kind of what your expectations of busy looks like during the summer? Crystal Nevedale: So for me, work becomes seven days a week in shop. It's always seven days a week when I'm ordering and doing all the things at home. But in the shop seven days a week is a lot. I have a lot more customers coming in. So it's a lot more interactions, a lot more being drained at the end of some of the interactions. But I will say too, like my customers help sometimes kind of level that out when know, a family will come in and share some good news or I mean, there's a lot of other things that help offset the stress of it. And I also will really work on trying to find other things like when I get off like, Managing being off at exactly four o'clock is extremely hard to shut a door when people are trying to constantly get in. So I mean, I think this year my goal is going to be really to kind of put my foot down and say, okay, like, I don't care what's going on at 430, I'm locking that door. So just knowing that I'm going to have a couple steps in place where I'm not going to stay over till five or 530, because when you're working seven days, it's too draining. Like I need that little bit of time after work. to kind of decompress ⁓ and have some time for myself. And that's another thing too, like I really want to focus on decompressing every day after work, you know, like a short walk to the beach or yoga or stretching or all the things that I like to do that kind of bring me back and ground me and get me back in my own space again. I'm dealing with people's a lot. John Adams: No, yeah, that's something that, you know, even in the rideshare world, it kind of gets busier. know, people are out more in the retail space of anywhere, right? You know, that's when all hands are on deck. You know, if you're hiring like at a Lowe's store, you know, they're hiring part-time help because it's going to get busy. And in your situation, it's you. I mean, you have some vendors and stuff. ⁓ But the good thing with you... Crystal Nevedale: All John Adams: is you do, like you said, you have that customer base and it kind of helps. But you've got other people who, know, this is their busy time with production, right? And they can kind of feel disconnected from everybody else. They're putting in 12 hours behind maybe ⁓ an assembly line because while everybody else is prepping for summer mode, summer sales mode, they're prepping for... Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: Christmas season already. They're ramping up production and stuff, so they're stuck behind an assembly line. ⁓ They're going to have more overtime, which might mean good money, and it helps them with Christmas, but now they're away from the family more. ⁓ They come home. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: Right. Yeah, it means missing your family. It means missing all the events. means. Those things that do get you, keep you grounded and happy are hard to manage. It is a tough season, I think, for so many people, especially in my town because it's ⁓ a tourist town. Like I'm sure other retail places that aren't touristy don't feel that influx of people, ⁓ the demand. And it would be different, I think, too, if I wasn't making a lot of my products. Like I have to, even when I'm not there, that's why the door has to be closed at that time because I need that time to make things also. I mean, there's a lot of different factors that caused me a little bit more stress at this time of year. Nothing that's not manageable with a good structure. I mean, I have good structure and make sure that I'm finding time for myself and my family. John Adams: Yeah. And that's the huge thing is making sure during this time of the year, if you're one of the people that work in an industry where, you know, this is really when things are going to start peeking up for you, make sure you find that time with your family. ⁓ Because you don't get it once it's gone, right? And ⁓ that's why I'm struggling right now. I kind of touched on it at the beginning and I'm trying to just get through it and then I'll make a couple of phone calls. But yeah, definitely when you're in that mode, of push, push, push and things gotta get done. You gotta make that time for the people you love, whether it's your significant other, your kids, your grandkids, ⁓ friends. Crystal Nevedale: I want to say this too, like in the serving world, like I'm not a server, but I'm in touch with a lot of people that serve the community and stuff. And, you know, there are all kinds of hours they're available in the summer, but sometimes you really need to say no. Because there's some events that cannot be your place. I mean, if you're just going for like a baseball game or an event, okay, you can say yes. But when you're like going to somebody something special that can never happen again, practicing yes to yourself and no to the job. It's not always important to line your pockets. Sometimes those events, locking that door. I did that this Sunday. I locked the door. I probably should have been open, but this was my opportunity, my very first opportunity to meet Emily's dad. So we traveled out and saw him. So I did what I needed to do that was for my mental health and me feeling good. and lock the door. So sometimes I want people to take a step back and remember like it's okay to say no to your job and yes to yourself. It's really difficult though because if you're know you're only got this little bit of time to make money, then you want to shove all this in here. But if you die tomorrow, that money doesn't really matter. It's the time that you miss with your family, your friends, your loved ones that it's that's What matters at the end of the day? John Adams: Yeah. Yeah. And I'm going to say something that's going to sound really harsh and I, you know, trigger warning to a lot of people, but even your job, you're just a number. They don't care. Listen, I, when I worked for enterprise, I, know, I was a yes man, know, John, can yep. John, can you, yep. And at the end of the day, didn't matter. I was just another number. I was easily replaced and you're easily replaced unless you own your own business. And even then you're, you could technically close tomorrow and people might go, oh, wasn't this where Crystal's treasure box was? But they're going to go on to the next store, right? So, yeah. Crystal Nevedale: And that's something you have to learn in business too. Like the storefront business. ⁓ I have been in, I've been doing this for 13 years, so I didn't just start last week. But in that time, there's been times where I did, in the beginning, I did pick my job over things that I would have liked to have done with my family. Now that was a different point in my life because I was building, I was trying to make something be. So... There are different stages and sometimes you have to put other things behind you and work for. There are these, I mean, we're not talking from a stance where everybody can always say no and yes yourself. There are going to be times where like you have to weigh out your priorities and hey, if I do this, this means, you know, I'll have enough money to feed my family this week. Like there are going to be times where you have to juggle and figure things out. But if you are able and you're just putting a couple extra 50 bucks in your wallet, it's It's just not worth it to me. John Adams: No, no. Listen, if your company would fire you because you didn't say yes to overtime, then they don't care about you anyway. know, yes, you're required to put in your work hours. If you took a job, you're required to be there on X, Y, Z day. Okay? But if they're going to fire you because you won't put in an extra three hours, four hours of overtime, they don't care about you. You know? We have to do what our responsibility is. I'm not saying call off a work every day, okay? We all have worked with that person who calls off every day. It makes it hard on everybody. But what I'm saying is if there is that true once in a lifetime thing and you don't want to miss it with your family, there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with saying, no, I can't do the overtime this week. Take it when you can, right? That's the whole prop, know, living 95. When things are great, when you can do it, put in the extra 110 % and get her done, right? Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: That's what's going to make life easier for you later. But it doesn't always work that way, right? And, ⁓ you know, we're already talking about it and I'll bring it up right now. You know, this is your busy time of the year and you've got your new relationship and you got a lot of things going on. So I already committed to Crystal, we're going to take the next four weeks off. We'll come back and I'll repeat this at the end of the episode, but we're going to come back ⁓ on July 16th and we're going to, you know, get through ⁓ Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: a couple weeks and you know it'll be a four week hiatus it'll give everybody a chance to go back and catch up on some episodes that they might have missed with me and Crystal or before even Crystal came on board some of the old episodes and just hear me ramble to you know myself and by the way if you don't enjoy times with your family right but there I promise you there's things that you'll learn. Crystal Nevedale: This is a prime example of putting ourselves first. Like what we're trying to teach everybody else. You know, it's not that I couldn't manage the podcast and the rest of my life. The point is I don't want to because it would cause me to be less than my best for all things in my life. So instead of, know, being the best at one thing or being able to manage one more thing, being able to be good across the board is more important for all of us, you know? And so hopefully what's... John Adams: Yeah, and think our biggest goal with this, Crystal, and to everybody listening, is to give you guys something every week that helps you to make your life better. And, you know, like this is probably one of the hardest episodes I've ever done, because I'm already thinking about a call that I'm going to make as soon as I get off this episode. But if, you know, we go through this summer and you're burned out and I'm burned out, we're not doing our listeners any justice, right? So we're, like you said... We're doing exactly what we're practicing what we preach. We're gonna take a four week hiatus, let you kind of get your summer started, get things going, get things rolling, and we'll come back energized. We'll come back with some great episode ideas. And ⁓ I've got a few guests kind of lined up too for when we come back that ⁓ I think everybody will enjoy listening to. But the biggest thing is this, if this is your busy time of the year, ⁓ do it, take care of it. earn your money, do things, know, priorities come first, but also remember that family priorities and people that you care about and friends that comes first over everything. Crystal Nevedale: And maybe a little structure allows you to do both. Maybe sitting down and making the plans. I'm going to work this amount of hours and then I'm going to go do this event for this time along. Just having some structure to make sure that you have a balance. John Adams: For sure. Crystal Nevedale: instead of being overwhelmed in one area or the other. John Adams: Yeah, because structure is going to help you keep your smile during the busy times, because it's really easy to lose that, right? And if you don't have that structure, we talk about it on a regular basis, you know. You'll quickly lose your smile, you'll quickly just ⁓ get stressed out and burned out in life if you don't have that structure. And that's what's going to keep you through it all. ⁓ Here, some people aren't resting, you know, because they are lazy. They're resting because they're performing in survival mode. They're pushing and pushing and pushing and pushing. It's okay to rest, right? You're not lazy when you rest. Sometimes you need to recharge your battery. ⁓ I'm getting lost, guys. I apologize. This is a tough one. I'm gonna wrap this one up. I just want everybody to enjoy your summer. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: ⁓ We'll be right in the thick of it when we come back on July 16th, but ⁓ I just want everybody over the next couple of weeks to just hug the ones you love, be with the people that matter the most to you, spend some time with the people you love, get out and enjoy. If you're in an area where it isn't summer right now, maybe you're listening from across the world, welcome and thank you. But if you're over here in the US and we're getting ready to get into summer, enjoy it, be with the ones you love. ⁓ and just enjoy everything. ⁓ Anything else from you, Crystal, before we wrap this one up? Crystal Nevedale: That's it, just keep going. trying to make sure our priorities are aligned with our wants and our needs. John Adams: Yeah, that's it. I am going to end it the way we always do though because it is very important to keep driving forward. So as always, stay healthy. Crystal Nevedale: Stay balanced. John Adams: and keep driving forward. We'll see you next time.