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Balance Masculine and Feminine Energy Masterclass · Mindful Success Path

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  If you stumbled upon this video, chances are you have been trying to really bring more feminine energy into your life and live your life from a place of feminine energy.
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  Now, you may also know that the problem that a lot of women are experiencing, particularly in the Western world, it is that they've gone overdrive into.
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  Masculine energy for lots of reasons, and in this video I'm gonna be explaining what those reasons are and how to balance those masculine and feminine energies so you can have a life that has more ease and flow so you can attract a masculine partner so you can inspire your partner to become more masculine.
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  Where this information is very useful.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda aeo.
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  Okay, so let's get into how to balance the masculine and feminine energies.
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  Now, this is particularly for women, uh, particularly women in the western world and particularly very high achieving women.
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  Uh, hey, hello me.
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  Because what's happened to a lot of women in the western world is that they have gone overdrive into their masculine.
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  Energy.
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  And a lot of people think that this actually started when feminism started coming into play, but it actually goes further back than that.
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  'cause a lot of people don't realize that the stereotypical 1950s housewife that most people think of when they go into these femininity spaces online, she was actually quite masculine.
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  She was not putting any of her needs first, and she was managing.
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  Everybody around her all the time, and that's not femininity.
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  That was hardcore masculine energy that the 1950s housewife was using.
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  So this is actually goes further back than most people realize, and it's caused a lot of confusion, particularly in Western culture.
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  I think what a lot of people also don't realize about the 1950s housewife is that that was a pretty uniquely American thing.
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  And it is a very tiny blip in human history where ancient cultures, where spiritual traditions of all kinds all around the world have been talking about the balance of masculine and feminine energies pretty much since the beginning of time.
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  So if you think that femininity is the 1950s housewife, you would be wrong.
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  And if you think that the problem started when feminism started coming into play in the United States, you would also be wrong.
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  It's just.
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  Way more complicated than that.
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  And what I wanna do in this video is I wanna take more of those spiritual traditions and those spiritual practices, different cultures and more of human history into account.
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  So even though this video is probably made more for the Western woman, one interesting thing to note, I'm currently living in Latin America.
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  Uh, traditionally it is a more conservative culture in Latin America, it is more traditional in a lot of ways.
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  However, there is a lot of influence in terms of feminism and those kinds of things.
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  That are starting to, uh, infiltrate.
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  And what a lot of my Mexican female friends have told me is that it's actually starting to cause a lot of problems in the dating scene here in Mexico, particularly in the bigger cities, uh, and also in other parts of Latin America.
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  So even though this is made for the Western women, the reality is that that Western influence is kind of starting to go all over the world, even to cultures that are more, are, are seen as more.
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  Uh, traditional, and it's starting to cause some problems there as well.
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  So I want this to be more of a global perspective and more of a, taking more of human history into account and different cultures into account.
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  So women in the West and now other parts of the world have gone overdrive into the masculine energy.
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  Uh, they, it's in my opinion, it probably started with the 1950s housewife because like I said, she was.
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  S overdoing it for everybody but herself, which is not a feminine thing to do at all.
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  Then you had the first wave of feminism that came through, which we, we absolutely needed that.
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  Uh, and then it just kind of started going off the rails, and a lot of people think that whatever wave of feminism we're on right now, third wave, fourth wave, I don't even know, it's gone completely crazy to the point where a lot of women won't even identify as feminist anymore because it's become kind of a dirty word and.
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  Part of what's happened over the last few decades is a lot of confusion and us humans tend to do this thing where we go to extremes, right?
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  So we, instead of finding the middle way, right, we tend to go to extremes when it comes to these things.
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  So on the one hand we have this extreme of thinking that femininity is like the trad wife, 1950s house housewife, which I've already said is not true.
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  And then on the other extreme, a lot of people think that the, uh, response to the 1950s housewife who was oppressed and all these kinds of things is to go all the way in the other direction and compete with men and have the same opportunities, uh, as men and do the same things that men do.
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  It's caused chaos and confusion all over the west in terms of relationships.
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  And a lot of women are feeling very burned out after a few decades of this because a lot of women are finding themselves in situations where, number one, they're picking the wrong men to begin with to get married to, uh, but part of the reason why they're picking the wrong men is because, um, our filters are way off, uh, in comparison to how they used to be for picking a good match for a partner, uh, a long-term partner who would be a provider, who would be a good father, who would be a good husband.
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  Our filters are just all the way wonky.
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  And part of the reason why our filters are all the way wonky is because, uh, we, because of this equality conversation, women are seeing men as basically other women.
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  Men are starting to see women as.
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  Uh, other men and it's just created this big old mess.
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  So a lot of women in the West are finding themselves in situations where they're partnered with men who are not masculine or don't wanna step up, um, or they're just picking the wrong dudes to begin with.
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  Uh, they're also finding themselves in situations where men are like, you have to pay half the bills.
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  Uh, so, and then they're finding themselves in situations where not only are they working and paying half the bills, they're also taking care of kids at the same time.
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  They're doing a bunch of household tasks.
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  And in addition to that, a lot of them feel like they are raising their husbands because their husbands are once again, not stepping up into that masculinity.
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  So the balance of the masculine and feminine is totally off, and we see it very much in relationships.
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  In fact, nowhere are we seeing it more than in relationships, although there are other areas where this comes out as well.
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  So it's really important to understand what these masculine and feminine energies are, so you know which energies to use when.
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  So for example, in relationship, I definitely lean a lot more into feminine energies.
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  I'm married to a very masculine man.
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  Pretty easy to do that when you're married to a masculine man.
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  But even before I met him, I had already started living my life from a more feminine place, which was the exact thing that was able to attract a masculine man.
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  To begin with.
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  So that's one thing.
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  Another reason why it's important to keep these things in mind is because there are just differences between men and women.
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  And I know it's like super controversial to say that right now, but it is what it is, right?
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  It's not, it's really not that controversial when you think about it.
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  And we've known all throughout human history.
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  Now, when I say masculine and feminine energies, it's not necessarily tied to gender, however.
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  The majority of women would feel better in their feminine energy, and the majority of men feel better when they are exercising their masculine energy.
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  So yes, I am generalizing here, but ask most men and women where they feel better and more comfortable and more at ease, and that is what they are going to tell you.
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  Um, now that, so because of that, right?
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  It's important to understand.
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  That men and women operate very differently, and I could do whole other videos on the psychological differences between men and women.
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  I could do other differences between, you know how, for example, like we are more cyclical with our hormones.
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  Our hormone cycle is totally different than that of a man's.
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  I could do other videos on like the very specifics of that for right now.
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  Just understand that men and women are totally different, and understanding which energy to use when is going to be very helpful to you in every.
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  Area of your life.
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  And the other reason that I want that, the other thing I want the women to understand from this video is that you were already born with feminine energy.
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  In fact, it's very innate in you.
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  You just may have been conditioned out of it like I was.
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  And then now you might be on a journey of, uh, coming back.
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  To it.
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  But the reality is that it already exists in you.
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  This is not like some strategy that you have to go figure out.
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  It's more of an unlearning of your conditioning so you be, can become more of the feminine woman that you already are.
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  So a lot of the things that I'm gonna be talking about, you already innately know how to do.
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  You've just been conditioned out of it and you've been conditioned out of it for several reasons.
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  In my case, it was for my safety, uh, and because of getting this equality conversation, it's caused a lot of confusion.
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  In relationships all around the world, um, mostly in the west, but now infiltrating to other parts of the world.
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  Um, and again, it's just important to understand which energy to use when.
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  So let's talk about the, what the balance of masculine and feminine looks like in relationships.
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  So, like I said, in relationships is where you can see this playing out probably the most.
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  Um, and it's why there's so much strife in relationships and why there's a relationship crisis.
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  You have a lot of women out here acting like men and a lot of men out here acting like women, and they all keep attracting each other.
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  Isn't that interesting?
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  So the women who act like men keep complaining that the men act like women and, and men who act like women keep complaining that the, the women are acting like men and they just keep finding each other on all the dating apps.
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  Why is that?
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  Because of something called polarity.
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  So think of polarity as two magnets, right?
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  When you have opposing poles, that's when magnets are attracted to each other.
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  And if you have a woman who's behaving more in her masculine, she's going to attract more feminine men.
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  If you have a man who's more in his feminine, he's going to attract more masculine women because of that whole concept of opposites attract.
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  The other area where you're seeing issues is you're seeing women who are like, I just want a really masculine guy.
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  Um, but then because she's so much in her masculine, then whatever guy she's with, because he's masculine, is not attracted to her.
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  Uh, so that's where you'll hear a lot of things about, you know, couples who've been together.
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  But now, uh, we actually have a, a client, um, who's like a, a really well known marriage counselor in the United States, and she was telling us some really shocking statistics of how little intimacy couples are having.
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  They're having such little intimacy'cause they're not attracted to each other because they're in these weird dynamics like, um, you know, the, the man being the child and the woman acting like his mom.
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  That's one of the reasons why, or they're in these weird dynamics because, you know, a woman's not gonna wanna sleep with her child and her man's not gonna wanna sleep with his mom.
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  So that's like an interesting dynamic that's going on where a lot of women are mothering their men.
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  And a lot of those women who are mothering their men, it's because they're controlling and they're too masculine.
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  So we have to learn how to.
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  Uh, change these energies.
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  Another thing that you might see is a lot of women complaining that men don't step up and solve problems for them.
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  Well, they don't step up and solve problems for you because you're the one solving all your own problems.
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  There's no space for a man to go solve your problems.
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  So, as I mentioned, nowhere are we seeing kind of this disharmony.
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  More than in romantic and intimate relationships.
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  So let's talk about how we can start balancing out these energies in relationships, and then I'll give some other examples as well.
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  So in order to understand how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, we really have to learn how to balance these things out within ourselves first, and for most women, like I said, particularly in the western world right now, they've gone overdrive into the masculine.
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  So the goal would be how do I bring in more feminine energy principles?
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  Into my life, and then you'll start seeing all the other problems that you're experiencing in your life.
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  Kind of start to solve themselves in a lot of ways, or things are gonna become a lot more harmonious.
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  And more easy and more importantly, you're gonna feel better, right?
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  So in relationship, right?
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  Feminine energy looks like receiving where masculine energy looks like giving.
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  So receiving, uh, we can see this physically in acts of intimacy, right?
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  Woman has a yoni, a vagina.
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  It's internal, it's magnetic, it's receiving, and man has.
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  A penis, which is outward focused.
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  Um, so it's literally in our bodies we can actually see a physical representation of it, but it's also energetic.
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  Um, so for example, right, A lot of women have a very difficult time receiving.
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  They have a hard time receiving gifts from men.
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  They have a hard time receiving compliments from men.
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  They have a hard time receiving period.
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  And the thing is that men, particularly masculine men, want to give to you because that's what helps them feel like.
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  Men in a lot of ways, they're like succeeding in life if they are doing that for their women, but a lot of women are shutting that off.
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  A lot of women, right, are solving all their own problems instead of having the men in their lives help solve problems for them.
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  A lot of women feel like if some, uh, if a man gives them something, then they automatically owe something back in return rather than just accepting.
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  Uh, the gift and a, and then also there's a bunch of self-worth stuff that comes up.
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  Like, am I really worthy of receiving this thing?
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  So that is an area, uh, where a lot of women who feel like that they are gone overboard in the masculine.
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  This is the first area to start is receiving.
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  And I'm thinking of something I saw on YouTube the other day.
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  I went down some rabbit holes and I was watching like the, one of the richest families in India and like a wedding that they threw last year.
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  And it's like a husband and wife, uh, who basically built this empire.
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  And I was watching interviews, uh, of the wife and, um, just some other inter like things about how they made their money and the wealth and all that kind of stuff.
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  'cause I thought it was interesting.
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  And one of the things that they said was that the husband and for one of, uh, his wife's birthdays gifted her an Airbus.
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  In case you don't know, an Airbus is an airplane.
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  And it's a passenger plane, uh, on top of that.
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  And then he refurbished the inside of the plane.
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  It had these beautiful dining tables.
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  He added a spa to it.
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  And I was thinking, imagine this woman's level and capacity to receive that.
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  She was gifted like a$50 million plane for her birthday from her husband, and she graciously received it.
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  Most women are not even comfortable with receiving a compliment from a man.
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  You think they're comfortable with receiving an airplane?
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  As a gift, probably not.
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  So that's, uh, to put it in in perspective for you, we really have to get good at our capacity to receive.
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  Another thing that we have to be mindful of is the hyper independence and the hypervigilance, right?
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  So a lot of women we're programmed into thinking, well, in order for me to be safe.
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  I have to be hyper independent.
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  I don't need no man mention it, be solving my problems, so on and so forth.
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  If you wanna start balancing out the energies and you want men to step up in your life and you just want to have more ease and flow in your life, you're gonna have to let it go.
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  Like completely let it go of the idea, um, of hyper independence.
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  And the reality is that hyper independence doesn't work in relationships anyway, because of course, you're depending on each other.
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  You're in a relationship, particularly if you're married, you're depending on each other all the time.
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  So this whole idea of like, I'm over here and you're over there.
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  A lot of times what that does is that just breeds, um, competition between married couples and that competition will take down your marriage and take down your relationship.
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  And in reality doesn't make a whole lot of sense.
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  And that's also what creates a lot of fights because.
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  A lot of people who see themselves as hyper independent, but in relationship, they will start seeing the man as the problem, right?
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  Like, oh, it's because of you that I am feeling this way.
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  Uh, you are the enemy because you are the man.
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  Rather than seeing as, okay, we have this problem and we're gonna tackle the problem as a team, it's you and I against the problem.
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  What happens in a lot of couples who haven't balanced out these energies is they keep fighting with each other.
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  They keep seeing each other as the enemies, um, because of that hyper independence or because they're competing with each other, um, rather than working together toward common goals, which is essentially, uh, what relationship is in a lot of ways.
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  So those are some ways to start balancing it out.
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  Another thing that you can do when you're letting go of the hyper independence is something that you've probably heard, which is lean back.
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  Lean back means stop solving all the freaking problems in the house.
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  Right.
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  Stop overextending yourself for everybody but your little children, right?
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  If you have small kids, that's a different story, right?
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  But if you don't have small children stopping, overextending yourself for everybody else, uh, because it's not gonna work for you, right?
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  And you're not gonna be respected for it.
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  And then you're going to be complaining of how tired and burned out you are.
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  So stop doing it.
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  And one of the ways in which this comes up, particularly in relationship, and it's, it's.
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  Is figuring out how to balance that masculine and feminine energy is a lot of women will get very upset over the tiniest things that their husbands do.
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  I saw this insane TikTok, uh, the other day.
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  I wish I could find it and I would put it here, but it was a woman who went on TikTok to publicly talk about how her husband, um, used the wrong toilet cleaning thing and she was like having a whole tizzy over it and blasted him on the internet for it.
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  And I'm like, this is the dumb stuff that women do that drive and.
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  Has them end up in divorce where it's like, why don't you just be grateful that your husband cleaned the toilet bowl to begin with because that's what you were complaining about, and who cares if he used.
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  The wrong one.
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  The point is he did it and you didn't have to do it right.
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  You can say what your preference is later, but you didn't to go blast him on the internet or be super controlling about it.
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  That's insane.
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  But that's what a lot of women, um, are doing, right?
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  They're like nitpicking everything or they're mothering or they're over controlling.
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  Because things weren't done the way that they wanted it to be done.
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  Therefore, they do not have control over the situation.
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  You cannot control a grown man and you cannot control a masculine man'cause he won't allow it.
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  Right?
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  A feminine man will allow it.
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  Or a man who's been consistently ated will allow it, but a masculine man will not, and he will put you in your place if you're doing stuff like that.
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  So that's another thing, um, to keep in in mind in terms of having these harmonious.
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  Relationships is give up the controlling, give up the hyper independence.
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  Give up the overdoing it for everybody except yourself.
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  Give up the proving, uh, energy.
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  Give up the, the, you know, give up the competing against your spouse.
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  Give that up as well and give up trying to solve everybody's problems all the time.
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  Let them start solving some problems for you and give up the shame and guilt.
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  That you feel around receiving, uh, particularly receiving from men.
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  And it will help start to harmonize and balance those masculine and feminine energies in relationships.
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  And if you are already in relationship, uh, what will likely end up happening is that polarity and that attraction will start coming back.
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  If you are not in relationship, what will likely happen is the type of men who are attracted to you.
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  Are going to change and they are going to be more masculine, which is what happened to me.
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  So that's relationships, right?
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  Money a little bit different, right?
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  Because a lot of the women that I'm talking to here are high achievers, high performers have careers, right?
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  And I'm in an interesting stage in my life and my career where I've been through so much transformation, um, that I am.
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  In this in-between stage where I'm figuring out kind of what the next move is.
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  I also got married to a very masculine man that obviously changes things and I let go of the boss babe thing, uh, already.
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  That doesn't mean I'm not gonna go do stuff.
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  Obviously I'm filming this video right now, but it does mean I'm in that transition phase, uh, where I'm not worried about survival anymore like I used to be, um, which was making me very hypervigilant and controlling and overly masculine.
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  Now I'm thinking more about purpose.
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  So I'm in that interesting space when it comes to making money.
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  That being said, right, I did run a very successful business for a very long time, uh, before I met my husband.
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  And, uh, I had to learn a lot of principles of masculine, feminine energies in order to make that money ojo, as they say here in Mexico, Ojo, which means that.
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  Literally means eyeball, but it means I, but it means like pay attention to this thing.
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  So, oh.
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  Um, I have a very un probably unpopular belief that there are certain levels of feminine energy that you will not be able to access unless you are partnered.
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  That being said, right, you have to start tapping into these feminine energies in order to attract a masculine partner to begin with.
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  But I will tell you there are different levels.
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  Because once you are with a masculine man who is a provider and is a protector, then you're not worried about survival as much anymore.
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  Um, and if you don't have that in your life either through partnership or family members or brothers or a father or what have you, then it's very difficult to get out of that survival mode.
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  And it's actually negatively affecting, uh, women's decision making abilities and their ability to discern who makes a good partner and who doesn't.
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  That being said, as I said, you can start tapping into these feminine energies in order to attract a masculine provider, uh, protect your man.
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  It's just gonna be, it might be a little bit more challenging, right?
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  Because once you have the provider protect your masculine man, and once you are in relationship with a masculine man, then it becomes way easier, right, to, uh, go into your feminine energy, particularly when it comes to areas.
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  Like money because you are no longer worried about your own safety and survival.
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  Somebody's got your back for safety and survival and that's on them to figure out.
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  You can now figure out how to multiply the money in the household.
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  You can now be creative.
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  Uh, you now have a lot more space and flexibility than you might have had before.
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  So I just wanted to say that as a caveat because it does change.
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  Um, depending on whether or not you are partnered with a very masculine man or not, I'm gonna give examples of both, right?
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  So let's say you're single, you're a boss, babe, you're a high achieving woman, right?
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  And you're like, oh my God, how do I start tapping more into this feminine energy in order to make money?
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  Okay.
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  Well, YouTube is a really great example actually.
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  So when I started tapping into more feminine energy in my business, and this was prior to meeting my husband, I had to start looking at more leveraged ways of making money.
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  Right.
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  So the feminine is about multiplication and leverage really at the end of the day.
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  Um, and it's actually true in relationship as well, and I will explain that momentarily, but the feminine is the multiplication of money, right?
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  So if we're looking at multiplication of money in a business, we are looking at leverage, uh, leverage looks like, okay, well how can I take this one action, but I'm gonna get like 10 times the result.
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  And what a lot of women are stuck in is they're stuck in careers and business models where they're trading time for money, where they're constantly putting out the fires where they are not properly supported by team or the people around them.
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  Where there is still a lot of proving energy to try and get the money where there is a lot of, uh, give overgiving and expending of energy without receiving.
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  Enough in return.
• 27:16
  And by the way, I've done all of these so I know what that feels like.
• 27:20
  Um, so those are things to be mindful of from a business structure perspective.
• 27:24
  What that might look like is going back to YouTube, can I do something like YouTube where people are attracted to me and then automate the majority of the rest of my business so that I'm not overextending myself?
• 27:36
  Can it look like.
• 27:37
  Uh, can I do group coaching programs rather than working with people one-on-one where I have to trade time for money, uh, can I hire support?
• 27:46
  It's things like that from like a structural perspective, from an energetic perspective, it looks like becoming very magnetic, right?
• 27:54
  So it's not actually that different from being in relationship.
• 27:57
  And how does one become magnetic by no longer feeling like they have to prove themselves?
• 28:02
  And that's why I'm saying that.
• 28:04
  If you're single, it might be a little bit harder to tap into that because you're going to be worried about your safety and your survival.
• 28:11
  Um, whereas if you are partnered with a masculine man, it's easier to tap into that thing because you are already more relaxed.
• 28:18
  I'm not saying it's not doable, right?
• 28:20
  In fact, you have to start doing it now in order to attract the masculine man to begin with, and then it'll go to a whole, um, other level.
• 28:27
  But energetically, it's not proving yourself.
• 28:30
  Energetically, it looks like surrendering to your intuition and whatever is happening there, uh, energetically, it looks like, um, making sure that you're not constantly overgiving and that you are receiving in return and that you are actually taking care of yourself and that you are nourishing and filling your own, cup.
• 28:51
  And there's lots of other things that I can talk about in terms of making money.
• 28:54
  For example, female biohacking, which is.
• 28:56
  Going according to your cycle.
• 28:58
  Um, if you're not cycling for some reason, you can go according to the moon phases because women are more cyclical in nature than men are.
• 29:06
  So that would be another example of how to do that.
• 29:09
  So that's if you're single right now, if you're in a relationship or you're married, those things continue, of course, right?
• 29:17
  If you choose, uh, to continue working, some of you choose not to continue working, and that's.
• 29:22
  Totally acceptable as well.
• 29:24
  Some of you would rather be like, no, I'm gonna be have babies and be home and raise them.
• 29:28
  And that's completely fine.
• 29:30
  Um, and acceptable.
• 29:31
  But some of you are going to choose to continue working.
• 29:35
  Okay.
• 29:35
  Same principles apply.
• 29:37
  Uh, the only difference now is maybe your husband's helping you a lot more and providing a lot more structure, which is kind of what happened to me.
• 29:44
  Um, or the other thing that happens is now as a unit.
• 29:48
  Normally what ends up happening a lot of times, particularly if these energies are balanced, is the feminine multiplies the money that the masculine makes.
• 29:59
  So what does this look like when you're in a relationship?
• 30:01
  Well, if you're married to a masculine man and you're mostly in your feminine pole, oh man, he's really going to step up and start making a lot more money and being a lot more ambitious and a lot more active, uh, because smart men know.
• 30:17
  That if they get with the right women, they're going to make more money and they are going to be more successful and they are going to have, uh, more status because they have a motivation to, they have a reason to right now.
• 30:31
  And the women need to understand that just how much they influence the men in their lives, not by telling them what to do necessarily, because then you're mothering him, but by perhaps being the oracle.
• 30:45
  Uh, maybe he comes to you for counsel, your very existence.
• 30:49
  Basically, if you're in your feminine energy, we'll motivate him to do better.
• 30:54
  And smart men know that that's where the concept of the muse comes from.
• 30:58
  How many artists have been around throughout world, uh, world history, where they're like, I had the muse, or, you know, we had Helen of Troy having people with a war over her, you know, and, and Cleopatra, you know, had leaders of the Roman Empire.
• 31:13
  Basically like at her feet.
• 31:15
  So, and she was influencing them very, very much.
• 31:20
  So women who are married need to realize how much influence they have over their men, and they need to learn how to communicate that influence in a way that doesn't cut them down.
• 31:33
  Because what a lot of women do is that they cut men down all the time.
• 31:37
  Like the toilet cleaner example that I used.
• 31:41
  Earlier in this example.
• 31:42
  And then they wonder why men don't do anything for them or don't step up or why they gotta solve all the problems, or why they gotta go make all the money, or why they gotta go pay half the bills is because you're cutting them down all the time.
• 31:53
  And men are actually very sensitive, uh, to women.
• 31:56
  They're sensitive to our tone, they're sensitive to our energy, they're sensitive to everything about us.
• 32:02
  Very sensitive actually.
• 32:04
  And women need to learn and understand that.
• 32:07
  So a lot of times in relationship, uh.
• 32:10
  Married men make more money and live longer.
• 32:14
  And smart men, uh, know that and they will take care of the women that allow them and inspire them to be able, um, to do that.
• 32:25
  And again, this requires you not to be in competition with each other.
• 32:30
  There are lots of couples out here, particularly high achieving ones who are in competition with each other, which makes zero sense for a relationship.
• 32:38
  And then.
• 32:39
  I'm gonna end up by giving an example, like a, a silly practical example of everyday life of the difference between a woman who's in feminine energy versus one who's way too much in her masculine.
• 32:50
  Because the reality is that this is a way of life, um, and it's a spiritual practice at the end of the day to decide to be more in your feminine pole most of the time.
• 33:00
  Um, and you're gonna get examples in everyday life where you're going to be able to exercise these skills.
• 33:06
  So here's like a very kind of almost silly example.
• 33:09
  That happened to me, uh, today.
• 33:11
  So one of the differences between masculine energy and feminine energy, and this is a great way to balance it out, is the masculine is a lot more about structure and the feminine is a lot more flexible.
• 33:22
  There's a shadow side to both of these things.
• 33:24
  The masculine can become very controlling and the feminine can become very, um, easily influenced.
• 33:32
  Um, but for now we'll talk about like a, a healthy example of structure.
• 33:36
  Versus, uh, flexibility or for example, uh, a healthy version of flexibility in a woman.
• 33:42
  So, um, I have an errand that I have to run context.
• 33:47
  My husband and I were both born and raised in the United States.
• 33:50
  We are not currently living in the United States.
• 33:52
  We're currently living in Mexico, and we like to travel and we do the expat life thing.
• 33:56
  We actually have a whole other YouTube channel about that.
• 33:58
  If you are interested, and one of the things that's very different from the United States, from Mexico, and not just Mexico, but like Latin America and lots of other cultures actually, is that in the United States, right, everybody's used to being very efficient and overscheduled, right?
• 34:17
  Uh, United States culture is very hyper, uh, masculine, which is probably another, the reason why the women there are so burned out.
• 34:24
  Um, but as a general rule, everything's very efficient.
• 34:27
  Everything's very structured.
• 34:28
  It's all about what you can produce, so on and so forth.
• 34:31
  In Mexico, it's not so much like that, right?
• 34:33
  Mexico is a lot more laid back than the United States, and I have an errand that I have to go run that errand is I have to go renew my passport, um, from within Mexico, which is actually not that complicated.
• 34:46
  Thank God.
• 34:48
  It's actually sometimes faster to do it outside of the United States than in the United States as a US citizen.
• 34:53
  But the, the errand that I had to go run is I had to go take passport photos.
• 34:58
  Now, usually in the United States, you go to a pharmacy and you go do passport photos.
• 35:02
  Apparently that's not really a thing here, at least not in the pharmacies near us.
• 35:07
  So my husband found a photo studio for me to go to, and, he told me this on Wednesday.
• 35:13
  My plan was to go Friday.
• 35:15
  A couple things happened right where I had to learn to be very flexible.
• 35:20
  The first thing that happened where I had to readjust everything and be flexible because as the feminine, that's part of what we do and what we're good at, we're adaptable and we adapt to the situations around us.
• 35:32
  Is, uh, on Thursdays usually I have help in the house for, uh, cleaning and cooking, right?
• 35:39
  Mostly just cleaning the downstairs and cooking for the weekend.
• 35:44
  That help was not able to come because there was a, a medical situation with her daughter.
• 35:49
  Okay, totally fine.
• 35:51
  Not a problem.
• 35:52
  But what that means is, now I, Amanda wife, uh, needs to figure out what we're eating through the weekend and has a little extra cleaning to do, uh, which is completely fine.
• 36:03
  Not a problem.
• 36:04
  So what happened, right?
• 36:06
  Was like, okay, well maybe I can't go to the place Friday because I'm just gonna like batch what we have to eat.
• 36:12
  Uh, throughout the weekend on Friday.
• 36:13
  'cause I have to prepare some food.
• 36:15
  Anyway, let me see if this place is open on Saturday.
• 36:18
  And then I'll just batch our food, uh, for on Friday.
• 36:21
  I'll prepare meal prep and all that kind of stuff through the weekend until help is able to come back on Monday and I'll do that right.
• 36:30
  That way I'm not running back and forth like a crazy person because of what a lot of women are doing is they're running back and forth like crazy people because they are not taking this skillset.
• 36:38
  Into account.
• 36:39
  So I Google it and I'm like, great, this place is open on Saturdays.
• 36:43
  No problem.
• 36:44
  No big deal.
• 36:45
  So I'm gonna meal prep on Friday and then Saturday morning I'll get dressed, I'll look super cute, I'll go to the place, I'll get the passport photos done, boom.
• 36:53
  And it's done.
• 36:54
  So I did just that.
• 36:56
  Went to the studio and it's closed, right?
• 36:59
  Uh, and one of the things that sometimes happens.
• 37:01
  In Mexico and other countries outside of the United States is, Google will say one thing, but reality is another.
• 37:08
  So Google said it was open, but I went there and it was not open.
• 37:12
  It was closed.
• 37:13
  So I was like, oh, okay, well that's derailing my day, uh, a little bit.
• 37:17
  I'm not gonna be able to get this done.
• 37:19
  Like I thought now I'm gonna have to go Monday.
• 37:22
  Oh, but wait, Monday's usually the day that I film, uh, for my.
• 37:27
  YouTube channel.
• 37:28
  Um, and now I'm not gonna be able to do that.
• 37:31
  What am I gonna do?
• 37:32
  Right?
• 37:32
  So then I was like, well, you know what, I'm already dressed and I'm already cute.
• 37:36
  I'm just gonna go home and film, uh, today on Saturday'cause I'm already dressed.
• 37:42
  Might as well just turn on the camera and do it right and then I can go handle the passport photo thing on Monday.
• 37:49
  Right.
• 37:50
  Old Amanda a few years ago who was overworked, overstressed, and way too much in her masculine energy.
• 37:56
  Actually, even Amanda two years ago, who had just gotten to Mexico from the United States would've been irritated, right, because of the American mentality.
• 38:05
  Now I'm just like, whatever, par for the course, and you adjust accordingly.
• 38:09
  But old Amanda, even a few years prior to that, would've been extremely stressed out.
• 38:14
  Uh, really upset that her schedule had gotten kind of, uh, rearranged because Amanda back then was in survival mode and Amanda back then was way too controlling.
• 38:24
  And Amanda back then was overscheduled because she didn't understand the flow of masculine and feminine energy.
• 38:31
  Amanda back then was also single, uh, and you can see why, because she was too controlling.
• 38:37
  So what happens to a lot of women is because they're overscheduled.
• 38:41
  Because they're not flexible enough, which is a, a, a superpower of the feminine, then tiny little things derail them.
• 38:49
  Tiny little things like, oh, I couldn't get my passport photo, uh, done today.
• 38:53
  This is where you get the Karen, right?
• 38:55
  Uh, or, you know, my husband didn't do this thing exactly the way that I wanted him to do it, and now I'm upset.
• 39:00
  I'm gonna be upset for the rest of the day because now it ruined my whole day.
• 39:03
  That is overly controlling and very masculine.
• 39:06
  Women need to learn to chill out.
• 39:08
  And be more flexible and more adaptable.
• 39:10
  It's one of our superpowers.
• 39:12
  You can also see this, for example, and, and, you know, most careers and things around the world don't allow for this, but a conversation that's going on right now online in these femininity spaces is, for example, a woman's life is very cyclical, and it, it goes through massive changes because, you know, she goes from single to being married, from being married, usually to being a mother, so on and so forth.
• 39:37
  And, um, her life has to adjust in some very big ways.
• 39:42
  And the way that most work is set up is that it's in a very masculine way where it's like you're gonna show up every day, you're on the same 24 hour hormonal cycle, and you don't have a kid like grabbing your leg.
• 39:57
  Right?
• 39:58
  That he is like, mommy, mommy, mommy.
• 39:59
  All the time.
• 40:01
  So there's a conversation going on right now about women business owners who have to learn how to adjust their businesses for the stage of life that they're in.
• 40:09
  I remember having, uh, business coaching clients many times who, for example, may have just, may have small children, uh, or maybe they had newborns and they were like, yeah, so I have to do this when my kid is napping, right?
• 40:21
  Or I had colleagues who would do that because women have to be adaptable and adjustable, and that's one of the reasons why, and that's one of the ways in which it shows up is work.
• 40:30
  So for example, if you have small children, you may, you may need to have a conversation with your spouse or your significant other where it's like, Hey, I want to be with my small kids.
• 40:37
  This is a season of life, um, that I'm in right now because let's be real, corporate America isn't gonna be too easy, um, for you as a mother of small children, and it's not gonna be easy on your family and it's not gonna be easy on your kids.
• 40:50
  So that's another area where women have to learn how to a, a, adopt flexibility, particularly those of you who run your own businesses because you have the power.
• 40:59
  To do that when you run your own business, and for those of you who are single, maybe you know, partnering up with men who are totally cool with you not working when children are very small.
• 41:13
  But what happens is a lot of you keep ending up with dudes.
• 41:15
  I saw this on Facebook the other day.
• 41:17
  A woman's like, I had three kids.
• 41:19
  My husband made me go back to work within six weeks of having each child.
• 41:25
  And I'm like, that's crazy.
• 41:26
  No, like healthy, masculine man is really gonna force women to do that.
• 41:30
  Lo and behold, later she finds out that he had a whole other family on the side from a woman he met at the gym and he was paying all her bills, but she, he was making his wife who had three kids for him go to work.
• 41:45
  Right.
• 41:46
  So choosing men and learning how to, that are okay with you being home.
• 41:53
  Uh, or not working when you're going through these, uh, serious seasons of your life.
• 41:59
  So that's another way, in a practical way in which we can start applying some of these things In terms of this happening, you know, on a mass scale in corporate America and stuff like that, unlikely, especially anytime soon, it doesn't really take women's into account, uh, or the feminine into account.
• 42:19
  And that's why a lot of women end up running their own businesses so that they can design.
• 42:23
  The businesses around those different seasons of life, and they can adjust accordingly and they can be flexible and adaptable.
• 42:30
  So these are just some of the ways that you can balance those masculine and feminine energies in different parts of your life.
• 42:36
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• 42:41
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• 43:03
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