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Exploring Resilience: Endurance & Toughness: (S5) S23:E4: Tuesday · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, everyone, this is Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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It's Tuesday, like I said, June 2nd, 2026.
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This is series five or season five, however
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you look at it.
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It is show 23, episode number four, and
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we're talking about understanding discipline, self-control, and
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consistency, and exploring resilience, endurance, and, of course,
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toughness.
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Who am I, guys?
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Oh, sure.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a passionate lifelong learner.
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So great to be with you, and now
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very grateful to be an author.
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So welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life,
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So thank you so much for sitting back,
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All right.
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So this is the master build, your life
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with discipline, growth, and ownership.
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Now, as I was saying before and today,
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I'm diving deep into understanding discipline, self-control,
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and also consistency with a sharp focus on
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exploring resilience, endurance, and toughness.
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If you've ever felt like, I don't know,
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quitting, like the pressure is just too much
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for you to handle, or like motivation just
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isn't enough right now for you, this episode
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is exactly what you've been waiting for and
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you need.
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I'm going to break down 28 powerful principles
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today that will transform how you handle challenges,
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stress, failure, oh, and of course, adversity.
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All right.
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So this isn't theory, guys.
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This is my real-world discipline that builds
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unbreakable resilience.
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Are you ready for point number one?
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Are you sure you're ready for number one?
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All right, let's get into it.
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Number one, guys, this is the point where
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you accept challenges without hesitation.
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Because see, every great success starts when you
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step into the unknown instead of waiting for
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the perfect conditions, the perfect moment.
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We all know those perfect conditions, those perfect
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moments, they don't happen, guys.
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They don't happen.
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Number two, this is the point where you
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stay calm under extreme stress.
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Because you see, your ability to control your
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emotions determines whether you rise or fall when
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everything hits hard, or like a lot of
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people like to say, when things hit the
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fan.
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But I know that a lot of you
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out there are saying to me, John, you
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don't get my life.
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And I said, I'm not here to get
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everybody's life, but I am here to understand
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that we've all had challenges, okay?
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And everyone thinks their challenges were harder than
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the next, and I'm not going to compare,
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but I'm going to tell you that we've
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all had it challenging, okay?
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And so this is where, let's say, the
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actual thing hits the rubber.
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And number three, this is the point where
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you don't quit early, and you push through
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because most people fail, not from lack of
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skill, but from quitting before the breakthrough actually
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happens.
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Then they're like, oh, it didn't happen to
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me.
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I spent all this time and nothing happened.
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You know, you were so close.
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You were so close.
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Why'd you give up?
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, the only difference
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between success and failure is that successful people
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just have learned to hang on just a
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few seconds longer.
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That is the only difference between success and
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failure.
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That's it, guys.
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That's the only difference.
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Number four, this is the point where you
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adapt quickly to any situation because, you see,
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the world changes fast.
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And I don't know if you know this
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or not, but your ability to pivot determines
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whether you survive or you get left behind.
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And you might say, well, gee, John, somebody's
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going to take care of me.
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Yeah, but you can't rely on that, guys.
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You need to have your own way.
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You need to have your own system.
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Number five, this is the point where you
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push through discomfort daily because, you see, growth
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happens in the uncomfortable zones.
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Avoiding pain, discomfort means avoiding progress forever.
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And a lot of us say, you know,
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I'm just going to stay comfy.
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I'm going to stay here in my chair.
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I'm going to stay here nice and warm.
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Or I'm going to stay here nice and
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cool with the air conditioning or whatever it
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is.
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I'm going to stay right where I am
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because I know I'm comfortable.
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I know I'm safe.
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OK, great.
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But you're also not going to grow.
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Well, that's OK.
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I really don't need to grow.
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I've grown enough.
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The question I ask you is, are you
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happy with where you are right now?
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And by happy, I mean, have you created
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what you want to create?
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Or are you still like, I'm working on
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it.
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It'll happen eventually.
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No, it won't.
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Not if you have that attitude.
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OK.
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Number six, this is the point where you
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build emotional control now because your reaction to
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stress, failure, and pressure define your character more
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than your wins ever will.
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Number seven, this is the point where you
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stay solution-focused always because focusing on problems
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drains you while focusing on solutions empowers you
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to move forward.
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You know, it's how we look at something,
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right?
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So if we see that the solution is
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actually in the problem itself, we're going to
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go far.
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If we don't see that, then you know
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what's going to happen?
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We're going to be left out and saying,
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gee, why isn't this working for me, right?
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Why isn't this working for me?
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And I can tell you that it's about
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who you are and what that means to
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you.
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OK.
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And I can tell you that it's not
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about just today.
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It's about everything in your life.
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Everything.
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And everything causes you to either feel drained
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or empowered.
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Something as simple as putting things down digitally
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and taking them off a piece of paper
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can really help you stay untressed.
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John, what is that going to do?
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We see the more we take off of
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our mind, you know, and there's so many
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people out there, lots of other coaches out
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there, and they want to charge you a
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fortune.
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But you know, the thing is, they don't
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really know what it's about.
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They think they know what it's about, but
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they don't know what it's about.
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And they're hoping that you're just going to
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do whatever you need to do and just
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keep paying them.
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But how can that happen when they don't
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even know themselves what to do?
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I call that a con job.
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Number eight, this is the point where you
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learn from setbacks fast, because every failure contains
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valuable data.
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And the slower you extract it, the longer
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you stay stuck.
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The longer you stay stuck.
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That's a problem.
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And you might say, well, gee, John, it's
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not going to last very long.
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See, it's the pattern that you set in
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motion.
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That pattern is what determines where you're going
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to go next.
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It's your mindset that's affecting your success or
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lack thereof.
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Number nine, you see, this is the point,
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guys, where you don't take failure personally.
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It's not personal.
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Because failure is information, not identity.
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And taking it personally steals your power to
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grow.
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I say in my book, Drain to Driven,
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that really, it's about data.
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And failure is just data.
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If we haven't quit and we're taking a
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pause, we haven't quit.
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But if we don't do any more and
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we put it totally away, then that's quitting.
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Nobody wants to quit.
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You're not going to get any further by
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quitting.
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In fact, you're going to get more frustrated.
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Number 10, this is the point where you
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stay grounded in chaos.
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Because when everything around you is falling apart,
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your ability to stay centered, guess what, ladies
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and gentlemen?
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It becomes your greatest strength.
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Number 11, this is the point where you
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keep perspective clear.
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Because seeing the bigger picture prevents you from
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getting trapped in temporary problems.
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That, well, they feel permanent.
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But is that an illusion?
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Illusions can seem real.
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Perceptions are real.
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Remember, we create our reality by our perceptions,
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by our thoughts.
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Number 12, guys, this is the point where
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you strengthen mental endurances.
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Because the mind that can go longer wins.
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And most people quit before their competition runs
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out.
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Your competition is eventually going to say, you
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know what, I can't do this anymore.
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But you're the one that needs to hang
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on just a little bit longer, right?
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Just hold on a little bit longer.
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And by holding on a little bit longer,
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you're going to wow yourself.
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You're going to build confidence in yourself.
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But you know what else is going to
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happen?
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The competitor is probably going to go away
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because they think it's not possible.
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They think it's not possible.
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What's possible is things that may be improbable
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to others.
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But it's your belief that's creating this reality.
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I mean, that's the most important thing I
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want to share with you.
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And this is the point, ladies and gentlemen,
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where you control your reactions.
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Because the person who controls their emotions, controls
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the outcome, and losing control, loses everything.
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You know, you want to win an argument?
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Don't try to win it.
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Just be calm.
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Just listen.
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The other person is going to burn out.
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And you just listen.
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And that's going to like drive them crazy.
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Like really, really drive them crazy.
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That's what I want to tell you.
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Number 14, guys, this is the point.
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Where you avoid negativity spirals.
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Because one negative thought leads to another.
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And jumping out fast prevents the entire day
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from collapsing.
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I'm going to give you a perfect example.
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How many of you have ever gotten up
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in the morning?
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Maybe you've either bumped your head.
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Or the big one is that you've maybe
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kicked your foot, like stubbed your toe.
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And you say a few choice four-letter
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words.
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And before you know it, the rest of
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your day is kind of spiraled down.
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I don't care whether you stub your toe,
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you hit your head, your elbow, whatever.
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Or maybe you broke a glass.
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What you need to say is, OK, I
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broke a glass.
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I'm going to clean it up.
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And the rest of my day is going
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to be great.
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OK, I stubbed my toe.
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It happened.
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Now it'll go away in a few minutes.
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And the rest of my day is going
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to be great.
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But too many people are looking for things
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to hang their hat on and say, you
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know what?
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This isn't happening.
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So now I believe that I can't do
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this the way I want to do it.
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OK?
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And that's hard for a lot of people.
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Right?
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I love the fact when people are able
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to change where they are.
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And when people change where they are, big
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things happen.
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It's not because of just that one shift.
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It's because that shift allows you to now
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perceive things differently.
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The best example I can give you guys
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is if I asked you what kind of
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car you drive.
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And I've used this example before.
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And I drive a white car.
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Let's say you drive a blue car.
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So I might say to you, gee, I
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bet there are a lot of blue cars
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on the road.
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Oh, yeah, that's all there are, blue cars.
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And you ask me, I bet there's a
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lot of white cars on the road.
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And it's like, wait a minute, there's more
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blue cars.
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No, it's my perception.
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It's what I'm looking at.
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It's what I'm paying attention to.
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See, whatever I think about becomes reality.
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Wherever my thoughts go, that's where the energy
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is going to flow, hands down.
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This is the point, guys, where you stay
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focused on goals.
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Because clarity on what you want keeps you
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moving forward.
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When distractions try to pull you off course.
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Remember, we talked about two different things the
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other night.
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We talked about something very interesting.
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We talked about a promise.
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We talked about a commitment.
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A promise is something you agree to keep
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because of someone else.
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A commitment is something you keep because of
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yourself, because you want to do it.
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And a lot of times, those get confused,
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right?
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People say, oh, I'll make it a promise.
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But it's not something you really believe in.
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But yet, you wind up promising something.
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Number 16, guys, this is the point where
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you keep moving forward.
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Always, because progress, compounds, and even small steps
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taken consistently beat massive efforts taken rarely.
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And I think a lot of people that
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hear this are like, oh, wait a minute,
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this doesn't apply to me.
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Well, the question I'm going to ask you
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is, why not?
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Why does it apply to you?
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Well, because I'm different, because I'm better, OK?
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How are you different?
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How are you better?
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I just am.
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And so denial is not a river in
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Egypt.
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Denial is.
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And so when somebody admits that they're denying
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something, they first got to admit it to
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themselves, OK?
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They've got to admit it to themselves.
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And I figured this is a very important
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thing that I want to talk about tonight.
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It's a real important one.
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And it is denial.
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First, we have the shock and the numbness
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from it.
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There's the denial and disbelief.
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There's a little of a partial disbelief.
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And then there's a little bit of more
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grief.
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And there's a purpose that comes about.
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But if we break it down to five
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simple stages, it's really, really, really simple.
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We have to understand where something goes.
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First, sometimes someone will get angry, OK?
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And then they may get depressed.
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Then hopefully, they'll get accepted.
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But understanding this can be hard.
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So to break it down again, the five
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stages, in case you didn't get them, anger,
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bargaining, trying to find a little bit of
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hope, depression, acceptance, and then
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getting help.
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But a lot of people don't want to
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admit that.
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Number 17, guys, this is the point where
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you build patience daily.
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Because the fastest way to success is often
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the slow, consistent path.
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And impatient people quit too early.
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And when somebody's impatient, they quit early.
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Guess what they miss?
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They miss the rewards of success every single
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time.
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They just didn't hold on a little bit
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longer, right?
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That's all they have to do.
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Number 18, this is the point where you
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handle pressure well.
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Because you see, pressure reveals who you are.
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And your ability to perform under it separates
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winners from everyone else.
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You know, you want to tell someone's character,
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don't show up when they're doing well.
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Show up when they're having a challenge.
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And you'll get to see their real, truthful
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character.
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Number 19, this is the point where you
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don't rely on motivation.
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Because you've learned, motivation fades.
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But discipline lasts.
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And building life on feelings guarantees failure.
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So we have to have discipline.
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Number 20, this is that point where you
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stay disciplined in adversity.
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Because when things get hard, discipline is the
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only thing that keeps you going when everything
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else stops.
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It keeps you on track.
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It keeps you in alignment.
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But a lot of people don't figure that
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out for a long time.
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Like, oh my gosh, what am I going
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to do?
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Nothing.
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Nothing.
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And then nothing is something hard for people
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to understand.
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Because they don't really understand the why.
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So they question everything.
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They question it.
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Number 21, this is that point where you
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accept what you can't control.
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Because wasting energy on trying to change something
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that you can't control just drains you.
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And the things that you could actually change
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would have been a lot better use of
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your time.
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I know so many people that literally spend
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so much time trying to figure out how
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to control something.
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Does that make sense?
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It does, doesn't it?
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And I can tell you guys that the
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more you can accept what you can't control,
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the more things you'll find you'll wind up
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controlling because of your alignment.
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Number 22, this is that point where you
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act on what you can because action creates
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momentum.
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And momentum, guys, creates results.
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While waiting creates nothing.
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Just procrastination, more fear, more worry, more stress.
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Number 23, this is that point where you
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stay consistent through the hard times because consistency
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is the bridge between the goals and accomplishment.
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And most people quit right before it opens.
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Right before it opens.
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That's when they quit.
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Why?
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They claim they've had enough.
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They haven't had a timeout, right?
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I think that's hard for some people.
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I think that's hard for a lot of
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people to understand that that can be done
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like that.
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But again, having that awareness and changing your
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perception really will change your life every single
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day, hands down.
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Number 24, this is that point where you
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use stress as fuel because stress is energy
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and channeling it turns you from taking that
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pressure and converting it into power.
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Instead of letting it break you, you figure
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out how to turn the lemon into lemonade
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or orange into orange juice, right?
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Number 25, this is that point where you
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maintain clarity always because confusion kills progress.
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And clear thinking leads to clear action.
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And that creates real results.
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Number 26, this is the point where you
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keep confidence steady.
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Because self-belief is the foundation of action.
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And without it, you'll never take the risks
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that change everything.
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Number 27, guys, this is the point where
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you build inner strength.
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Not easy to do because external circumstances will
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always change.
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But the strength you've built inside will never
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leave you.
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It takes some courage to do this.
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It takes some belief.
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John, where do you start if you have
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nothing?
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Start with what you have, okay?
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Something is better than nothing.
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And when you can learn how that one
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thing that you believed in suddenly can compound
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into something else, more positive energy will snowball,
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right?
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What happens with a snowball when it rolls
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and rolls and rolls, eventually it gets so
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big it could be a dangerous threat to
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somebody because a little tiny snowball can roll
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into this huge 12, 24-foot snowball or
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even larger.
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It rolls and it gets momentum.
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But at first it had nothing.
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It was just a little tiny pebble, right?
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Number 28, this is the point where you
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avoid giving up ever.
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And stay persistent.
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Always because every single person who achieved greatness
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did it by refusing to quit when everyone
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else did.
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So you're saying when I want to quit,
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I need to just not.
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I'm saying you need to have discipline why
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you don't want to quit.
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And the why, I can't tell you.
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Everybody's why is going to be different.
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I use the example that your why needs
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to be loud.
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And what that means is that your reason
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needs to be so tied to your core
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values that it's like why you get up
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every morning out of bed.
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If it does not align that deeply, your
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discipline is going to just fall apart before
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it even starts.
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Discipline is not an easy thing.
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But I can tell you once you've learned
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how to build it, you'll get better at
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it every time.
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It's a practice game, right?
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When your mind and body sees, oh, this
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is working.
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And guess what?
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You're going to start doing more of it
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because you notice now that it's working.
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But in the beginning, it's like, is this
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really going to work?
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What have you got to lose?
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It's not working for you right now, is
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it?
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Okay.
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So my question for you is, what do
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you have to lose?
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Nothing.
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Time.
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You haven't got where you want it to
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be now.
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So why not give this a shot?
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You know, a wise person once told me
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a long time ago, John, when you let
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go, you get control.
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And I didn't understand that.
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The more you let go, the more in
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control you become, which is really interesting because
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by letting go, you get more control.
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I know that's very hard to believe.
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And I didn't believe it at first either.
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But I have to tell you, by letting
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go, you get more control.
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Try it.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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My name is John C.
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Morley.
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I hope you have enjoyed this segment of
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Inspirations for Your Life tonight.
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And I hope that you'll choose to implement
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some of these tactics in your life immediately.
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Because like I said, what do you have
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to lose?
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You can only improve the quality of your
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life.
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And ladies and gentlemen, I am so grateful
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that you're all here and you're with me.
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And by implementing these 28 principles, at least
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a few of them, they'll be the foundations
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of resilience, endurance, and toughness that will master
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your life.
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Discipline beats motivation.
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Consistency beats intensity.
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Ownership beats excuses.
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And I thank you so much for tuning
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in, listening, or watching.
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And I'll see you guys tomorrow with a
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brand new episode.
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Take care, everyone, and be well.
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