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Break free of frustration and negative thinking · Inside Strategic Relations

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  Subscribers of Inside Strategic Relations want to achieve peak performance so that they can accomplish
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  more and produce greater results in their business and personal life. Now, what
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  exactly is peak performance and why is it so important? I'm justin hit from
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  Inside Strategic Relations. You are the result of the books you've read and the
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  people you meet. I've heard that many times. Charlie Tremendez Jones used to
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  say that. But it's more than that. Because you've read certain books and
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  because you've met certain people, you now have the opportunity to connect individuals to
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  achieve certain outcomes. Peak performance is being able to create outcomes bigger than ourselves,
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  results for other people, for our community, for our family. Peak
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  performance is able to do that with the minimum number of resources and in a
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  time effective way to get that result or to get that outcome out. Peak
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  performance is as much the things you do not do as it is the things
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  that you do. This is very important, especially in a society today that
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  can monetize your attention. Think about this political system is used to dominate your
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  beliefs, behaviors and gain blind compliance. That statement is a claim and it's
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  exhibited in the media where they're constantly talking about the political parties and this candidate
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  did that, and there's this controversy, and that party did this, and
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  that party did that. It's designed not to inform you about civic matters.
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  It's not designed to help you make better decisions in the voting booth. It's
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  designed to control your attention and draw you into a dialogue. Then, in
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  the long term, really doesn't impact your day to day activities. Now,
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  for most people, if their day to day life is good, it doesn't
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  really matter what the politicians do and flows every way possible. It doesn't matter
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  if you're in the United States, doesn't matter if you're in Russia, doesn't
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  matter where you're at unless there is a war, in which we can sometimes
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  avoid and sometimes we can't. Wars tend to be motivated by things that are
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  above and beyond individuals. But the conflict created in that conversation, especially in
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  the media, sucks up a lot of resources in time, and from a
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  strategic relationships perspective, reduces the amount of time you have available to do those
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  things that would be contrary to the political beliefs and systems. Now we take
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  away the political side, we put in the corporate side, Big tech tries
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  to keep your attention about the latest and greatest gadgets so that you focus energy
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  and attention on the gadget rather than on the needs of your day to day
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  life. If you decide to leave either of those out the political news the
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  drama of everyday politics, and you decide to leave out the drama of everyday
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  technology or whatever that drama is in your life, you're going to free up
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  time to do the things that are more valuable and more beneficial to you as
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  an individual. Substitution and elimination of those distractions, as well as other distractions,
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  can help free your mental capacity, clarify your thinking, and ultimately help
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  you make better decisions. Peak performance isn't necessarily about doing more. It's about
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  achieving those things that have greater value and meaning to your life. It's being
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  able to achieve a peak state where you have enhanced mental clarity and internal control
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  over your mind. Think about this now. The drama in the two examples
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  I give in were political, and it could be the marketing campaigns, it
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  could be economic, could be emotional within your family. But the clarity of
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  focus in the ability to guide your mind towards meaningful plans is what we call
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  peak performance. So are you too busy in daily life to recover from previous
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  stresses and you start building up this trauma and you have this frustration it you
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  just can't let go and you don't know what to do. Well, remove
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  the attachment to the drama, find a meditative state. Maybe it's prayer for
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  you, maybe it's meditation, and walk away from it for at least five
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  minutes. Can you let that leave your mind for five minutes or is it
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  gonna live rent free in your head for days on end. What if you
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  have a state of brain fog and you're always slowed down on your progress and
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  you have anxiety because you fear facing the boss because you got a little distracted
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  today, Well, how do you reinvigorate yourself to focus back on key tasks
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  that matter so that you can live life with joy and meaning without fear and
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  frustration. What if you have one bad day that ruins the whole week.
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  Do you have the skills necessary to get back on track so that you can
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  end that month strong? Well? Some solutions tell you just to give up
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  on your dream and you know, live like a monk and through my intentional
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  thrift program. I am giving up every physical thing that I have within reason.
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  I'm not going to give up my books, or my computer or my
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  intellectual property. But there are times where I have something that I have to
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  disconnect from because it has no meaning in my life today. When I first
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  brought it into my house, yeah it had some meaning. It was something
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  nice. I have a vase on the counter I'm looking at right now that
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  it probably hasn't been dusted in years, but ultimately is not adding any value
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  except a little color to the room. But if I move, why do
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  I need to take it with me? There are things like that in your
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  life now. It could be people, it could be places, it could
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  be things. It could be bad habits, but whatever it is, I
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  like to give you permission to not give up on your dreams. You don't
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  need to give up on your dreams, but to give up on those attachments
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  that are not adding value to the achievability of those dreams. See, there's
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  a lot of spectators around you. They're gonna look at your life and say,
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  well, that dream's too big for you. That desire you want is
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  not going to happen. But how do they know? They don't and in
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  fact they're probably living vicariously through you. How do you gain clarity? And
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  sometimes it's giving up things to distract a lot of folks talk about taking performance
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  enhancing drugs, taking psilocybin to get into a more meditative state, marijuana,
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  there's a monopinil, there's a bunch of tropics. There's drinks, there's potions
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  and formulas. What if those things are meant to extract money from your pocket
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  more than to actually help you. Now, there is science in those areas
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  that I mentioned where those things can enhance your performance. But what if you
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  become dependent on that drug or the manufacturing of that drug, and now you've
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  lost that freedom that comes with a clarity of mind and a strong mental state.
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  Now, some people will tell you got to join a winning team.
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  Now, of course it always seems to be their team, their opportunity,
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  their company, what they're doing. Again, peak performance isn't necessarily about what
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  you do. It's about the choices you make. And so, what is
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  it that you want to achieve in life? What is your direction that you
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  so desire? Now, again, you may not know it's entirely possible.
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  You've been listening to podcasts all day now, because you're searching for some thing
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  and you just don't know. I would impure you. I'd ask you very
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  strongly to grab a piece of paper or to grab a journal. One of
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  the exercises that we use with clients is journaling to kind of find out what
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  it is that you would like to achieve. Now. It could be as
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  small as something that you like to achieve today or this week. And so
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  let's say you have two or three objectives. You can develop a clear,
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  focused plan. You can start building a mental state. You can start looking
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  for methods for implementation, and that might move you forward. It might be
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  giving up some things and realizing that you really like those things and bringing those
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  back. It could be reflecting on your life and deciding what's important and what's
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  not. But we don't want to beat ourselves up over these habits or these
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  frustrations. And there's a good book called Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and actually
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  talks about packaging these things up, putting them on the shelf, and then
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  revisiting them later within a framework of the outcomes that you want. See the
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  real tangible cost of not being able to achieve peak states and what is your
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  well being? And when you have worry, you have anxiety, and you
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  have frustration, it interrupts your sleep. It causes this brain fog, it
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  distracts you. Now, I will admit right up front here, I'm not
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  always in a peak state, and there are times where I have to reset.
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  I have to lay in bed at night and say, all that shit
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  that's happened today, all that frustration, all those dumb dumbs at the office,
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  all that irritating client, all that political stuff that's going on, can
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  wait till morning. I'm going to sleep and my body's going to do what
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  it needs to do to regenerate, to relax so that I wake up healthy.
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  So that's kind of a an affirmation to tell my mind that I'm in
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  charge whatever it is that is my consciousness, that I'm in charge, and
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  that I'm going to sleep. Now. Does it always work? Well,
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  most of the time it works if you have the routines that we talk about,
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  and you have that meditative state and you use it could be a mnemonic,
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  it could be a sound, it could be a prayer that you do,
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  but it's allowing yourself to regenerate, and in this particular example, setting
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  aside the problem until morning. A lot of times the journaling works really well.
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  But the key is is if we don't handle these things, we end
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  up with the unnecessary consumption of food or material things, or we find yourself
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  entertaining ourself to death. Is that what you really want? Now? Again,
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  I'm as much on this journey as you are because I've gained weight before
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  being stressed out and frustrated about a situation. I've gotten worked up about stuff
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  that I probably shouldn't have got worked out. But in hindsight I can see
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  that I had the skills which I can teach you to reset, refocus,
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  and get back on track. That's the biggest thing. If your life's not
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  where it needs to be today, if you're frustrated about something that's happened,
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  if you're not achieving the results that you're looking for, the ability to recognize
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  that is the first step to change and to performance into adjustment. So what
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  we end up doing is is rather than falling into these states of disrepair,
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  rather than being frustrated and worried about and losing energy and losing strength and losing
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  drive, we are able to recognize something's going on and to stop and change
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  our state to get back on track. Now, I'm not Tony Robbins.
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  Most of the time I put together not mental states, but I put together
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  procedure and systems and habit that help reset and move me back on track.
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  So, just like any high achiever, if I recognize them off track,
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  I have a tool to put me back on track. Now it's not an
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  app, it's not anything. It's usually just the routines for journaling or prayer
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  or meditation. It's that reset period. So instead of my mental energy is
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  being scattered everywhere, and if I notice they're scattered everywhere, I can draw
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  them back and focus by doing something of use. Instead of draining my energy,
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  I'm now able to do an activity that recharges me. So instead of
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  escaping from the problem, I can face it head on with the confidence of
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  methodology that we've developed in our peak performance program that brings me up on track.
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  I'm not going to take a giant Tony Robin's hand and smack you in
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  the head with it and tell you to get better. I don't have big
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  events to get you going, because I find that in the solitude of our
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  mind is where we need to be clear, in where we need to have
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  control. And I have a lot of background in martial arts, I have
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  a lot of background in psychology, and I don't necessarily think you need to
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  go out and spend, you know, twenty thousand dollars on a big program
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  or go to a one time event, because it's really the skills of peak
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  performance. So, for example, stop doing those things that are causing the
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  frustration. And then when you realize that it's difficult to stop, like I'm,
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  you know, cleaning the house, and I don't want to get rid
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  of something I know it's difficult, then I have a secondary approach, which
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  could be acceptance of that item. And if I'm going to accept it,
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  then how is it going to serve me? So that where's the profit in
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  this? And so I learned these techniques through millionaires and folks that were able
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  to really demonstrate control over their life and not only have control of their life,
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  but it seemed like just things were magically happening in their favor and it
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  tended to be their ability not to have zero problems. But then when the
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  inevitable problems came up, wealthy and successful people just think differently. And so
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  I've learned these things over time, and it's a practice. It's not a
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  one time fix. Okay, So it's a practice. You've got to get
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  back up on the horse after you fall off, and then ultimately you'll develop
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  the plan and then the peak performance to implement the plan, and then as
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  you move forward the outcomes and achievement. Any artificial means to keep you in
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  peak performance creates a dependency that you cannot carry around with you. So the
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  last thing I want to leave you with is that the philosophy here is a
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  meaningful introspection that reguides your focus onto the outcome you desire and the reasonable path
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  for performance while eliminating everything else. If you like help doing that in your
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  life as a business owner or executive, then write us with your questions at
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  www dot inside Strategic relations. We can help you limit your analysis to focus
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  on actual solutions, identify problems that you didn't know you had, but solutions
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  that you can implement quickly and easily. To identify ways to reset thinking to
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  get back on track when the inevitable happens that things go wrong and problems come.
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  But also to help your team develop ways of self healing your organization or
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  your environment so that you get maximum results with minimum inputs. Peak performance to
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  me sometimes doing less and achieving more, and we can help you do that.
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  I'm Justin Hitt with inside Strategic Relations. If you have questions about what
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  I've covered here in this program, or questions that you have in general about
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  achieving more in your business or your career, that visit www dot inside strategic
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  peak performance, and get the results that you're looking for. Again, I'm
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  Justin Hit and our website is www dot inside strategic relations dot com. Thanks
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  for listening for this segment on achieving peak performance.