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The Power of Small Habits in Family Life (S4) S53:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey guys, good evening, it is John
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C.
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Morley here, Zero Entrepreneur.
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A little bit crazy this last week or
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so.
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Happy holidays to everyone, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa,
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Happy Hanukkah, whatever you celebrate.
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I really do hope you're having a great
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time with friends and family and creating some
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amazing memories.
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So this is Saturday, which means we start
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with a brand new master topic, but a
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little bit of a pivot this week, which
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is different than what we normally do.
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You know, because the new year falls on
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Thursday, which is next week, we can't really
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have a series, I thought about this, that
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goes all the way through the week.
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So what we have to do is do
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one series basically that just does, I'm going
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to say now through Wednesday and then another
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series that just does Thursday and Friday.
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Okay.
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I know a little crazy, but that's how
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we're doing it because this is still in
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series four and that's going to be in
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series five.
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Okay.
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All right, guys.
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So welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am your host, John C.
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Morley here, Zero Entrepreneur.
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So you guys know that I'm for real,
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By the way, it's available 24 hours a
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day, and you can do that right after
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the show.
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So this is, yes, series four, and it's
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show basically 53, episode one.
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But I told you it's going to be
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a little crazy because of the way the
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New Year's falls, and I want to make
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sure that our series five starts clean.
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That's why I did it this way.
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All right, guys.
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If you're hungry, if you're thirsty, you're parched,
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I don't want you to pass out here.
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So make sure you get something, whether it's
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healthy, whether it's a fruit, whether it's candy,
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whether it's snacks, whether it's a juice, a
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drink, I don't care.
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Just go get it and come on back
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to the show.
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All right, guys.
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Without any further ado, I'm going to kick
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the show off.
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All right.
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So welcome, everyone.
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Yes.
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To the ever popular Inspirations for Your Life
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show.
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That's another uplifting episode here of the show
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of you guys know so well, the Daily
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Motivational Show that helps you and many others
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become the best version of ourselves every single
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day.
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Now, I am your host.
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In case you didn't know, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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By the way, today is December 27, 2025.
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It is a Saturday, which, again, as I
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said, we normally start off a brand new
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master topic, which we're doing, and we usually
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go Saturday to Friday.
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But because of New Year's, I decided that
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we're just going to include this through Wednesday.
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And then we're going to start just a
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small show segment on Thursday and Friday and
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Saturday.
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We'll start another segment.
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It just makes it a lot cleaner.
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All right, guys.
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So not only am I a serial entrepreneur,
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I'm also a I'm also the engineer, marketing
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specialist, video producer, podcast host, a coach, a
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graduate student, and yes, a passionate lifelong learner.
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And you know that from watching and following
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me for so long.
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Learning is my passion.
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People say to me, John, you know, you
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should check yourself in the hospital because you
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just learn so much.
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I enjoy learning, right?
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Is that a crime?
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I mean, I really love learning.
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I'm probably going to live and earn and
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probably educate myself every single day of my
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life.
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So today's motivation is simply interesting because it's
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powerful.
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And here it is.
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You don't have to fix their whole life.
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Just show you care today.
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That's a very, very powerful statement, guys.
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And I think it's one that a lot
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of times I think Hallmark and the stores
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get wrong, right?
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We often get so caught up in our
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busy lives and worlds, chasing success and balancing
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responsibilities that we forget one simple truth.
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You know what that is?
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Our parents, because they don't necessarily need us
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to solve their problems.
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They just need to feel seen, valued, and
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loved.
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So today I'm sharing 30 ways to show
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up for your parents.
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Actions that take just minutes, but can strengthen
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bonds for a lifetime.
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So guys, let's get started.
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Number one, text your parent one specific thank
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you.
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Now maybe they're not in the grouping to
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want to text back.
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That's okay.
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But they still can read your text.
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Nine out of 10 parents can actually read
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text very easily.
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Seven out of 10 parents actually can not
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only read text, but actually can text back.
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So yeah, that's pretty cool.
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A thank you for today.
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A thank you for anything.
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Don't overthink it.
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Just send the message and say, thank you.
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Thank you for teaching me how to keep
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going.
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Keep on things and, you know, keep on
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with things, have tough days.
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That small moment of appreciation carries more heart,
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more character, than elaborate gift you ever could
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get.
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Okay.
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Number two, guys, call for three minutes.
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I know I call every day, but call
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for three minutes.
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I talk to some people and they've never
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called their parents.
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I mean, I think it's part of a
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custom you get into.
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Some people say, gee, I'll call them once
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a month.
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That's really terrible.
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I mean, my day starts, I pretty much
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call.
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I have some days that I have to
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do something and then I'll call, but I
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usually call by 12 o'clock unless something
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gets kind of crazy.
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Call for three minutes.
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If it runs longer, that's a bonus, right?
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We often assume calls have to be long.
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Well, guess what?
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They don't.
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A quick, hey, just wanted to check in
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and say hello, can be enough to make
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their day.
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Hey, my schedule is really crazy.
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I just want to call and see how
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you're doing, or I just wanted to wish
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you well today, or have a good day.
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That's all you need to do, all right?
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Number three, ask what's something you wish more
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people knew about your life.
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Now, that sounds like an oxymoronic question, but
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it's not.
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See, that question actually opens up a window
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into their world.
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You'll be surprised by what they share when
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you show a genuine curiosity.
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Now, we learned this from Dale Carnegie a
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long time ago.
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And he was somebody all about genuineness, right?
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And I said this when you build relationships,
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whether it's in business or personal, you need
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to become genuinely interested in the other person.
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Number four, guys, send an old photo and
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write, remember this day.
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Nostalgia is love's language.
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So recalling a shared memory can reunite warmth
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and closeness instantaneously.
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Number five, guys, ask for advice on one
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tiny thing, even if you know the answer
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to it.
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I don't really care.
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This signals respect and trust.
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It says your wisdom still matters to me.
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And I think that's something a lot of
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people sometimes get out of, whether they're out
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of school or something.
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So be kind.
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I know sometimes that might not be easy,
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but be kind.
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Number six, drop a quick, may home safe
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message.
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It's small.
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Maybe you don't say, I made it home
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safe.
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Maybe you just say, hey, I just got
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off the plane or, hey, I just got
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home.
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Maybe you don't use the word safe, but
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it's implied, OK?
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It's small, but it's a comfort.
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And you remind them that they're still part
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of your safety life and life.
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And that's important.
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Number seven, let them tell a story without
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correcting the details.
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Now, parents repeat stories because memories are their
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way of staying connected with their children and
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with people around them.
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So letting them have that moment in the
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spotlight honors their voice.
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Number eight, guys, ask them to teach you
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a recipe.
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And how about this?
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How about filming it?
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I know that sounds crazy.
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You're not just cooking, guys.
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You're capturing a legacy.
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One day that video will mean more than
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any amount of gold in the world.
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Number nine, offer help with one annoying tech
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thing.
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I'm an engineer, but maybe some of you
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are not tech people.
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You can obviously read up on the stuff
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that maybe you want to help them with,
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whether it's updating an app or setting up
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Wi-Fi.
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Those small acts can remove daily friction and
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show supportive patience.
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Maybe it's reprogramming their garage door opener because
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they got a new car and they had
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to erase all the codes from the rolling
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door opener and you had to add them
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in.
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And it's not a hard process, but it's
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time consuming, right?
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You can you have to get up on
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a ladder, OK?
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You hold the button down for so many
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seconds if you want to erase all the
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codes, if you want to put a new
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code in.
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Well, it's a little more challenging than that,
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because first thing what you have to do
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is you have to have the door opener.
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OK, so the door opener already is coded
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to the door.
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Now what you need to do is you
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need to be in the car.
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So it's best to have two people.
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I always want to be up on the
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ladder.
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That's the easiest part.
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And what I do is I take my
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hand, OK?
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And when I take my hand and go
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down, I'll explain this a little more.
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So first thing you want to do is
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you want to take the door opener, OK?
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And I know this is a tech show,
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but I want to just give you some
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advice.
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So you're going to take the door opener
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that you have.
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You're going to hold it pretty much very
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close to in front of the the home
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link that you have in your car.
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By the way, if you want to erase
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the codes of your home link, maybe there
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was something else programmed there accidentally.
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Just hold the two end buttons on a
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lot of home links.
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This is for most of them.
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Hold it for a few seconds.
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It'll go bleep, bleep, bleep, and then it'll
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be cleared out.
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So now you can take the opener.
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You hold it there.
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And what you're doing is you're going to
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press the button down and you're going to
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press the one you want to program it
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to.
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When you see the button on the home
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link actually changing ability to blink or go
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solid, when that happens, that indication changes.
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It can either go solid or some will
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go will start blinking flat fast.
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That means that you have programmed the home
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link.
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But wait, you're not done yet.
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That just means that you programmed the home,
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the door opener in the home link.
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So it's ready to work.
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Not quite.
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So door openers don't just work like that.
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They're rolling codes.
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So now we have to program that device
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into the actual opener.
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So now we're done with the door opener
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that we use to get the first part
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done.
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So now what I do is I get
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up on a ladder.
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All the codes are all good.
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I just want to add this brand new
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car.
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Right.
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So what I do is I take my
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hand and I leave it up like this.
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OK, when I go and put my hand
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down like this, that's their key to press
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the button.
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All right.
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Pretty easy to do.
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Right.
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Again, so hands up here.
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When I go down, just press the button.
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And then if I go back up, release.
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Right.
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So you could do it another way, too.
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You could say when I raise my hand,
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press the button and then drop it and
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then release the button.
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So that probably works better.
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So raise your hand.
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When I raise my hand, press the button
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off the screen.
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Drop your hand.
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And that's when I go ahead and I
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press the button.
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So so when when I go ahead, basically
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here and I start up here and I
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drop it, as soon as I drop my
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hand, as soon as I I as soon
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as my hand drops, I press the button
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on the open on the back of the
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controller.
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The code gets taken.
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I see the light changing.
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And then when I change the position.
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So again, I'm here.
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So as soon as I raise my hand,
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press it.
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And then when I drop, that's when they
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need to release the button.
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OK, that's important.
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And now you program your door opener.
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And that's not a hard process and you
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could do it for free.
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But if you call the door opener, they
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probably charge a hundred, one hundred fifty, one
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hundred sixty dollars.
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And if you don't know how to do
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it, you could read up and do that
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step pretty easily.
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And it could save a lot of frustration
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and aggravation.
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Another good one is that they have a
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problem with a printer or Wi-Fi or
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something like that.
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You know, you can be a guiding light
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for that.
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Number ten, mail a handwritten note instead of
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sending another text.
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In a world, oh, overly proportioned with full
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screens, handwriting feels, well, a little more intimate.
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It's tactical.
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Love proves you took a moment for them.
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I still to this day send cards.
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You might say, John, why?
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I think there's still something nostalgic about sending
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a card.
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Now, you don't have to spend a fortune
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to go to the dollar store and get
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something.
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But what I do is I get my
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cards early and this way I'm ready.
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And it's not like I'm behind the eight
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ball and I have a schedule and it
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really feels good to send out those cards.
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You can put a personal note if you
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want.
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Number eleven, guys, ask what was your dream
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at my age?
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This may uncover a part of them you
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never knew.
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It bridges generations and reveals shared ambitions.
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Number twelve, guys, let them retell a classic
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story.
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Ask one new follow up question about it,
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but let them finish the story first.
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They'll glow when you lean in.
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It transforms a simple recollection into a deeper
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connection.
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And I think that's important.
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A lot of times teens and and kids,
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they all want to go ahead and speak
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about something.
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Why?
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Because they want to quick get the answer,
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but they're not really interested in someone's genuineness.
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So when you really show genuineness, people can
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tell that you actually give a darn, right?
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Number thirteen, say I see it differently, but
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I still care about you.
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So there's nothing wrong with that.
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I think something I learned after getting out
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of college, you know, you have to say
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I agree to disagree or I respect your
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decision and I see it a different way.
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And I think that's a challenging time for
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kids, their children and also for parents, because
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that's the point of them growing up, right?
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And it's OK to see things differently.
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They may not like that, but it is
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a part of growing up.
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All right.
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Agreeing to disagree is completely respectable.
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I like to say that I agree to
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disagree.
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It means I understand what you're saying, but
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I don't agree with what you're saying.
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So I agree with I agree that you're
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saying it, but I don't necessarily agree.
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So I agree to disagree.
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It's kind of cool.
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And it doesn't weaken guys love.
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It strengthens maturity.
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And I think when you can get past
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that point, I remember the first time I
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had a disagreement.
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It doesn't have to be nasty.
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It doesn't have to be messy.
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In fact, it shouldn't be.
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But the first time can feel a little
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daunting, as you know, like, how dare you
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like disagree with me?
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And you're allowed to disagree.
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All right.
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If you would say like, I don't know,
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you like chocolate popcorn and they like butter
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popcorn.
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It's OK.
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You know, the world's still going to go
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around because there's different likes.
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Right.
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You get my point.
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Number 14, send a song that reminds you
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of a good memory you've had together.
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Music can revive emotions.
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No words ever could.
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My great my great grandmother, my grandmother on
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my dad's side.
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We actually had a song.
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It was actually my grandmother's idea.
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We we we chose a song.
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It was called You Light Up My Life
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by Bette Midler.
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You probably know the song.
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So I'm not going to sing it, but
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I want to let you know that we
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picked the song and then we actually gave
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her a music box that actually plays that
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song.
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She's not alive anymore, but she always would
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say that I was the light of her
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life.
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And every time she heard that song playing,
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it made her feel younger.
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It made her feel just so like accepted
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and so really part of this world like
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she really belonged.
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Number 15, guys, ask how they're really feeling.
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Then stay quiet for 10 seconds and just
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shut up.
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That silence gives space for truth.
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Listening deeply is one of the purest forms
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of love you're ever going to have.
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I know it might be hard to keep
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your flap shut for even 20 seconds, even
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10 seconds.
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Try it.
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You can do it.
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Trust me.
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Number 16, share one of your week just
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to include them.
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That could be anything, but make sure you
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do that.
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You're saying you're still part of my story,
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and that's important for anybody.
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Number 17, ask for a childhood story you've
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never heard, and maybe you've heard tons of
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them, but maybe there's one that you have
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not heard of before.
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You might learn where your resilience or your
18:05
humor actually came from.
18:08
And this would be pretty remarkable to learn
18:09
about.
18:10
Number 18, offer to handle one errand they
18:12
keep putting off.
18:15
Pick up that prescription or drop off that
18:17
package.
18:18
A small burden lifted can make their day
18:22
a lot easier.
18:24
Number 19, guys, tell them one thing they
18:28
did right that shaped you.
18:30
This is pretty cool.
18:32
Acknowledgement fuels their heart.
18:35
We all need to hear we made a
18:38
difference.
18:39
I think it doesn't matter what age we
18:42
are or what discipline we're in.
18:44
Everybody wants to hear we made a difference,
18:46
whether it's parents, whether it's teachers, National Teachers
18:49
Day.
18:50
Teachers and professors love to hear that they
18:52
made a difference.
18:54
Even your friend, when they say, you know,
18:56
you made a difference, you held them like
18:57
I had somebody the other day.
18:59
I'm not going to mention the person's name,
19:01
but I do want to say thank you
19:02
to them.
19:03
Starts with a K.
19:04
And I want to say thank you, because
19:06
apparently I was the inspiration before our show
19:11
even got our full wheels yet.
19:13
We were just getting on the air that
19:15
I motivated this person to start their own
19:17
channel for a disability type group, which was
19:20
kind of cool.
19:21
And just the other day, they made a
19:22
comment in one of the shows saying, you
19:25
know, it was John that actually motivated me
19:27
to get my show started and going, and
19:29
that was pretty amazing.
19:31
And I'm very grateful for them for doing
19:32
that.
19:33
Number 20, guys, ask what's something you're proud
19:37
of this year?
19:39
OK, this invites them to celebrate themselves, something
19:43
parents rarely do enough of, right?
19:47
But they should do more of it.
19:49
Number 21, show them one simple shortcut on
19:52
their phone.
19:54
It's not about tech.
19:55
It's about empowerment.
19:58
Sharing patience is an act of love.
20:00
And a shortcut can be hard because you
20:03
don't necessarily know which one they're going to
20:06
use, but find one that you think they
20:09
would use.
20:09
Maybe something with their phone.
20:10
Right.
20:10
Something pretty cool.
20:13
Number 22, send a selfie from your day
20:15
with the caption thinking of you.
20:18
Tiny moments of visibility can brighten an entire
20:21
week.
20:21
I know there's some clients that we text
20:25
even on our commercial chat.
20:27
And a lot of times I'll just send
20:28
a smiling face and just saying, enjoy the
20:32
rest of this day.
20:33
It's another wonderful day.
20:35
And some people say to me, hey, John,
20:37
you know, thanks so much for the smile.
20:38
Thanks so much for the positive gesture.
20:41
And what it costs me nothing.
20:43
OK.
20:44
So these emojis that we send or these
20:47
animated emojis can really brighten somebody's day, not
20:51
just for the holiday.
20:52
Number 23.
20:55
Ask how you can make their week one
20:58
percent easier.
20:59
Now, that sounds crazy.
21:00
You don't have to say one percent.
21:01
You could just say a little bit easier.
21:03
That number seems small, but the heart behind
21:07
it is huge.
21:08
It says, I see you and I care.
21:11
And I think when we can make a
21:12
sacrifice for ourselves to help somebody else, which
21:14
is not always easy to do.
21:18
We're going to feel good.
21:19
They're going to feel good.
21:20
And it's just another great way to keep
21:22
building the bond.
21:24
Number 24, guys, invite them to try a
21:27
new place or activity together.
21:28
I know a lot of times adults and
21:31
parents, they don't necessarily want to try new
21:33
things.
21:34
They're stuck on the old restaurants.
21:36
They're stuck on the same menu items for
21:37
100 years, right?
21:38
They don't want to try anything new.
21:40
So I get it.
21:41
So novelty can be a challenge.
21:43
But novelty does fuel connection, laughter over new
21:47
food or fun.
21:49
And it can rewrite old patterns.
21:52
So maybe the person doesn't want to try
21:53
new food.
21:53
Maybe you can just suggest a new type
21:55
of drink or maybe it's getting them used
21:59
to a certain type of water or maybe
22:01
it's getting them used to a new appetizer.
22:04
I know that might be hard or maybe
22:05
just getting them used to a new daily
22:07
routine.
22:08
Right.
22:09
OK.
22:10
Number 25, guys.
22:11
Let one small disagreement go without a lecture.
22:15
You see, peace is sometimes the best gift.
22:20
Silence chosen with love speaks volumes.
22:24
And, you know, we a lot of times
22:26
don't analyze why we're silent, but silence has
22:30
a lot of great attributes and factors for
22:34
us.
22:34
One, when we're silent, we're able to listen
22:37
better.
22:38
We're able to show the other person that
22:40
we actually give a darn about what they're
22:41
saying enough to be quiet while they're talking.
22:45
Number 26, thank them for something you only
22:48
appreciate now.
22:50
Gratitude delayed is still gratitude, right?
22:53
And often more profound than you probably ever
22:56
thought was possible.
22:59
So these are all simple things to do.
23:02
And the question you might say, John, is
23:03
why don't people do it?
23:04
Well, people think, well, they're too small, too
23:08
young.
23:09
I'm too old.
23:09
It wouldn't matter.
23:10
Stop judging what could be and give it
23:14
a try.
23:15
Right.
23:15
Won't hurt.
23:16
Number 27, ask about their best friend growing
23:19
up and what they learned.
23:22
You're going to gain a new understanding about
23:24
their heart and their values.
23:26
Number 28, guys, record a short voice note
23:30
instead of typing your tone, your laughter.
23:35
Those things comfort in ways text never can.
23:38
So you might say, John, you know, you
23:39
could use a text.
23:40
It's great.
23:41
But when somebody hears your voice, especially when
23:44
I get a text like a starting text,
23:46
hi, I understand you're concerned about this right
23:49
now.
23:50
I'm in a meeting at the moment.
23:52
I understand the severity of it.
23:53
I have it assigned to one of my
23:55
members and I'll be getting back to you
23:57
as soon as I finish this meeting, which
23:59
will be in about 45 minutes.
24:00
That puts somebody else off the defense.
24:03
And then we'll say, hey, you know what
24:04
person was busy, but they at least took
24:06
a few seconds to send me a personal
24:08
message.
24:09
That's huge, guys.
24:11
I think business today doesn't do this because
24:14
they feel that those few seconds is going
24:16
to take away the potential million dollars they
24:18
can make.
24:19
And that's really a sad thing.
24:21
But sometimes companies cut back because they think
24:24
we don't have time to be personal.
24:26
I think we need to be more personal
24:27
in our life.
24:28
I think that's the problem.
24:29
Things are getting too automated and we're losing
24:32
the personal touch.
24:33
We said there's problems.
24:34
I mean, we've had kids that have taken
24:36
their lives because of different text messages that
24:39
went across, but and then chat systems that
24:41
gave the wrong advice.
24:43
I mean, come on, we need to get
24:45
back into personal touch.
24:46
I'm just being honest.
24:48
Technology is great for information, but we never
24:50
should make it be a replacement for human
24:53
or personal touch.
24:54
I don't know if you know this, but
24:55
just being around somebody, even if not touching
24:57
them, that whole bit of you being around
24:59
them is considered personal touch just because of
25:03
how close you are with the energy.
25:05
All right, number twenty nine.
25:08
Ask what's one thing you still want to
25:11
experience in your life?
25:13
Dream with them, remind them life isn't over.
25:16
It's constantly evolving.
25:19
Some people might feel that, you know, they
25:21
haven't got to where they want.
25:23
Maybe their kids can actually help them reach
25:26
that goal.
25:26
Maybe I mean, sometimes some goals are meant
25:29
to be shared.
25:30
They're meant to be worked out together.
25:32
I mean, I think that's a powerful thing.
25:33
All right.
25:34
And number 30, guys, end the day with
25:37
love you or I love you.
25:39
Even if that's not your family's usual phrase,
25:43
it might feel awkward at first.
25:45
But words grow powerfully when spoken often.
25:49
Let's love and let it become a habit.
25:52
Maybe it's simply on a phone call.
25:53
I love you.
25:54
Do something like that.
25:55
Now, when you consistently show up for your
25:58
parents, OK, even.
26:01
Through the simple, heartfelt gestures that I've shared
26:04
with you here this evening, like these, you're
26:07
going to build bridges that time can never
26:11
erode.
26:12
And I think that's the difference between working
26:15
on a relationship long term and just doing
26:18
something quick and fast for the moment, the
26:20
quick and fast doesn't really have that much
26:24
fuel to it.
26:25
Somebody goes and buys an expensive gift.
26:27
OK, great.
26:28
Right.
26:28
But that really doesn't come from the heart.
26:30
It comes from the wallet.
26:32
I mean, I know the thought they always
26:34
say the idea, the thought.
26:36
It's the thought that counts.
26:37
Right.
26:37
But we have to do a lot more
26:39
than just give from our wallet.
26:42
We have to give from our heart.
26:44
OK, it's OK to give my wallet, too.
26:46
But we need to give more heart.
26:48
Remember, guys, love doesn't demand grand gestures or
26:52
solutions.
26:53
It doesn't.
26:54
No grand gesture needed.
26:56
Just daily signals that say, hey, I care
26:59
about you today.
27:01
And you might think that this is really
27:03
wacky, but I'm encouraging you to please give
27:06
this a try.
27:06
Hey, guys, I'm John C.
27:08
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
27:14
podcast host, coach, graduate student and a passionate
27:19
lifelong learner, and I'm devoted here to help
27:23
you and remind you that every moment of
27:26
compassion you give will ripple forward.
27:29
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27:58
And remember, things start small and they will
28:01
grow big.