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112. Ally Love, Peloton Instructor, Founder of Love Squad & Boss · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: We get so caught up in what someone should look like,
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  Speaker 2: Hang Hurdlers. Emily Abadi bringing you another installment of Hurdle,
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  Speaker 2: a wellness focused podcast where I sit down with inspiring
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  Speaker 2: individuals to talk about everything from their big wins to
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  Speaker 2: with everyone from top athletes to aspiring entrepreneurs on what
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  Speaker 2: simple to inspire you to be your best self, move
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  Speaker 2: with intention, and have some fun along the way. This
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  Speaker 2: want to amplify and we share their stories and my
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  Speaker 2: commitment to being an ally to the black community. And
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  Speaker 2: first Up is one of my all time favorites with
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  Speaker 2: Ali Love. She is a Peloton instructor founder of Love Squad,
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  Speaker 2: and we'll get into what that is in today's episode.
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  Speaker 2: As well as a total boss lately, I have just
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  Speaker 2: so so, so so much appreciated Ali's perspective and positivity
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  Speaker 2: and openness with her community, and you can check her
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  Speaker 2: out over on Instagram. Her handle is at Ali Miss Love.
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  Speaker 2: That's a l L y msslov e what you need
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  Speaker 2: to know about Ali. She is a do it all
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  Speaker 2: kind of woman. In today's episode, she tells me all
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  Speaker 2: about the hurdle moment which framed her I can mindset,
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  Speaker 2: a horrifying car accident at age nine which landed her
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  Speaker 2: in critical condition with a broken femur. We talked about
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  Speaker 2: how she came back from the unthinkable, rising up as
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  Speaker 2: a dancer and making her mark on New York City.
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  Speaker 2: She tells me about how she discovered her voice with
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  Speaker 2: the help of hosting classes, the three books that she
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  Speaker 2: read to help guide her in her career, and the
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  Speaker 2: unexpected text message that landed her in the saddle at Peloton.
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  Speaker 2: If you are looking for a little motivation to go
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  Speaker 2: after your passion, seriously, look no further. Allie is a
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  Speaker 2: ball of energy and she just wants to empower you.
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  Speaker 2: To be everything you dream of being and more. Allie
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  Speaker 2: also wanted me to pass along that she is looking
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  Speaker 2: to fill two internship spots. They are unpaid and e
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  Speaker 2: comm intern and a social intern she's hoping to mentor
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  Speaker 2: young women. If this sounds like something that appeals to you,
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  Speaker 2: definitely reach out by emailing high at lovesquad dot com
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  Speaker 2: I do want to say one other thing. I have
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  Speaker 2: been having more convos than ever, which I didn't know
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  Speaker 2: was really possible with individuals I may not know in
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  Speaker 2: real life, on social media and over email, and especially
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  Speaker 2: when it comes to what's happening in our country. With
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  Speaker 2: that said, I will be the first person, the very
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  Speaker 2: first person, to admit that I don't have all the
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  Speaker 2: answers and I'm not perfect. I am learning and listening,
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  Speaker 2: and I am here again to have in constructive discussions.
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  Speaker 2: And just like I truly believe that black lives matter,
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  Speaker 2: I have no zero tolerance for bullying, So please be
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  Speaker 2: kind to one another. I firmly believe that you inspire
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  Speaker 2: individuals to take action rather than shaming them to say
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  Speaker 2: or do a certain thing. That is when that action sticks,
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  Speaker 2: and that is what.
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  Speaker 1: My goal is.
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  Speaker 2: To inspire lasting change at Emily Abadie at Herdle podcast
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  Speaker 2: always over email at Emily at Hurdle dot us I'm
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  Speaker 2: here for you. We're building, we're moving.
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  Speaker 1: We should be in with that.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get to hurdling today. I'm sitting down with Ali Love.
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  Speaker 2: She is a and that's host. She's the founder and
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  Speaker 2: CEO of the Love Squad. She's an instructor at Peloton
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  Speaker 2: and also an Adidas Global ambassador. Hey Hey, what's up.
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  Speaker 2: I love introducing people with a laundry list of accolades.
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  Speaker 1: It's like I always say, I'm a part of the
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  Speaker 1: slash generation, if not like forging the way for it
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  Speaker 1: where it's like you're this slash, this slash you give
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  Speaker 1: you many things in life.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's fun, especially in the fitness world, when
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  Speaker 2: people start to concept their own ideas and grow businesses
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  Speaker 2: and things. I remember in episode two, I interviewed Alex
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  Speaker 2: Silverfagan and she calls herself a fitness entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I love her byway, She's exceptional.
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  Speaker 2: A jem. First of all, tell me how did you
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  Speaker 2: get into hosting?
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  Speaker 1: So? Actually, I started off in New York City modeling.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be a model, signed with Wilhelmina. After
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  Speaker 1: modeling for a couple of years, it was this moment
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  Speaker 1: where it was just like I want to use my voice.
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  Speaker 1: I love the fact that we're taking photos and I'm
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  Speaker 1: you know, doing these campaigns, but I want to have
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  Speaker 1: a point of view. I want to have a POV
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  Speaker 1: and the only way to do that was to maybe
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  Speaker 1: do commercials where you're like learning to get familiar with
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  Speaker 1: a camera in a different way. And it was from
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  Speaker 1: there I took some classes on camera classes and they
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  Speaker 1: offered hosting as another as to go in tandem with
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  Speaker 1: these commercial classes, and I was just like, Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going I'm taking these. I'm taking all the classes I
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  Speaker 1: can take right now. And it was my first hosting
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  Speaker 1: class that I fell in love when I was like, ah,
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  Speaker 1: this is what I was made to do. I thought
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  Speaker 1: it was me doing like an oil of the late commercial,
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  Speaker 1: like your Skin's clear, you know, like chras like absolutely
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  Speaker 1: favorite teopaste. No, it was me sitting down discussing topics
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  Speaker 1: that were meaningful and learning about people through conversation.
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  Speaker 2: I love that And is that kind of what triggered
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  Speaker 2: you to want to do a lot of the live
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  Speaker 2: events with love Squad and we can also break into
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  Speaker 2: what love Squad is as well.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, totally. It was one of those things where I
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  Speaker 1: enjoy sitting down having conversation. I think conversation changes people's lives.
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  Speaker 1: It gets your thought processes going. It really puts you
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  Speaker 1: in a position to reconsider or sometimes to consider where
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  Speaker 1: you are your life, and it's a catalyst to many changes,
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  Speaker 1: great changes for most people. And I knew that after
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  Speaker 1: doing this hosting a basic hosting class where I was
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  Speaker 1: just like interviewing fun people on the street as our
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  Speaker 1: end of this hosting class challenge. And it was just
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  Speaker 1: in this moment that I realized, like, Hey, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot to have in conversations with people that
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  Speaker 1: are doing things in their lives, both personally and professionally.
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  Speaker 1: And it's one of those things that when Love Squad
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  Speaker 1: was birth, it was like, Hey, in order to get
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  Speaker 1: better at hosting, I got to get better at writing.
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  Speaker 1: In order to get better at writing, I got to
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  Speaker 1: get better at like talking to people about the things
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  Speaker 1: that I'm writing about. And so I created love Squad
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  Speaker 1: where we it's an inclusive collective around encouraging and inspiring
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  Speaker 1: and empowering people specifically around things that affect women through conversation,
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  Speaker 1: having those panel discussions, giving tools and tips on how
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  Speaker 1: to be effective in your personal.
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  Speaker 2: Pros And is Love Squad a collective that's obviously New
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  Speaker 2: York City based but nationwide international or how are you
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  Speaker 2: activating in that way?
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  Speaker 1: So we're young, we're Strappie. It's two other women that
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  Speaker 1: work on the team. And yes, we are based in
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  Speaker 1: New York. And since we're a small team and we're
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  Speaker 1: still growing, our hands really reach the backs of New
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  Speaker 1: Yorkers and those that are coming and visiting. We've done
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  Speaker 1: some of it in Chicago. We've done some things. Ideally, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I would love to think of us as a global brand,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't want to get too big for my
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  Speaker 1: britches in a sense being honest of where we are
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  Speaker 1: and what we do. So, yeah, we're mostly in New
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  Speaker 1: York and I'd say most of North America would know
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  Speaker 1: us a little bit more given the reach of what
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  Speaker 1: I have going on personally.
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  Speaker 2: I love the term you just use. Our hands reached
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  Speaker 2: the backs of New Yorkers. Yes, I'm a fuel that
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  Speaker 2: you know what. I actually got to give a shout out.
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  Speaker 2: That's one of my friends, my friend's Christine. She is
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  Speaker 2: her instagrams, I am, I can't, I will.
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  Speaker 1: I do, And she always says that like, let me
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  Speaker 1: put my hands on your back, and I'm like, please
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  Speaker 1: do them while you're there, massages please.
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  Speaker 2: I love something that you posted a few weeks ago.
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  Speaker 2: You put up this post it that said, put your
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  Speaker 2: ego aside and ask for help. No one has ever
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  Speaker 2: made it to the top alone. Obviously, we just listed
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  Speaker 2: a ton of accolades. You're a busy, busy lady. I
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  Speaker 2: feel you very hard. So is that what you do
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  Speaker 2: when you get overwhelmed? Do you reach out to people?
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  Speaker 2: Do you ask for help? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. One of the things I do often in my
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  Speaker 1: personal life is that I'll take a feedback session, internal
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  Speaker 1: feedback session, take note of like who my friends are,
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  Speaker 1: take note of how I'm spending my time outside of work,
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  Speaker 1: take note of like how's my boyfriend and I doing?
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  Speaker 1: Like how am I doing with my family? And I
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  Speaker 1: kind of ask for feedback from those people that I
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  Speaker 1: am affecting that I'm building relationships with. So I'll ask
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  Speaker 1: my friends, like how do you feel about this relationship?
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  Speaker 1: Like how can I support you better? And then do
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  Speaker 1: the exact same thing I would say bi annually professionally,
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  Speaker 1: I'll reach out to my community at Peloton and say
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  Speaker 1: how can I service you better? What am I doing
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  Speaker 1: that you love? What am I doing that you don't
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  Speaker 1: particularly like? You want a crowd source information about what
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  Speaker 1: you're offering and who you are. And I think that
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  Speaker 1: the same thing goes for love squad. What do you
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  Speaker 1: like at these events? What do you love talking about?
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  Speaker 1: And so when asking for help, I have to ask
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  Speaker 1: for what I'm doing well so I can continue to
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  Speaker 1: do that, but also what I'm not doing well. And
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  Speaker 1: I think when I to a point when I get
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  Speaker 1: that information, I end up reaching out to friends or people.
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  Speaker 1: I always say it's low hanging fruit, not to kind
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  Speaker 1: of make it sound less than what it is, or
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  Speaker 1: reach out to those people that are easy to connect
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  Speaker 1: to you that I may have not connected with yet
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  Speaker 1: and asked them advice. I just sat down with someone
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  Speaker 1: I slid in their DMS who I respect and was like, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: you do a lot of writing, you do a lot
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  Speaker 1: of media. How can I get more people to editors
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  Speaker 1: to write about me? How can I set myself up?
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  Speaker 1: Self up? What are you looking for? And it's one
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  Speaker 1: of those things. In a feedback session that I got
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  Speaker 1: with a friend, was like, you need more press, girl,
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  Speaker 1: people you're working hard people need to know about you.
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  Speaker 1: So again taking that crowdsourcing information that I've crowdsourced that
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  Speaker 1: information and putting it to work and reaching out, sliding
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  Speaker 1: into those dms to say, hey, can you help me?
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  Speaker 1: Because again, yet no one's made it to the top alone, Like.
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  Speaker 2: Have you gotten to a point? Sometimes because I'm sure
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  Speaker 2: when you first started asking for the feedback and sometimes
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  Speaker 2: it was negative, it was hard for you to deal
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  Speaker 2: with it. So how did you kind of flip the
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  Speaker 2: script to be okay with getting that negative feedback and
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  Speaker 2: then proactively doing something about it instead of internalizing it
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  Speaker 2: and maybe feeling kind of hurt about it.
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  Speaker 1: I have to say, it is a skill set. It's
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  Speaker 1: not about getting thicker skin. It's just switching the lens
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  Speaker 1: to which you receive information. You're gonna meet sitting down
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  Speaker 1: with someone, maybe you respect them, maybe you know them,
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  Speaker 1: maybe you don't, and they may be a little brasher
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  Speaker 1: than other people and give it to you straight. But
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  Speaker 1: the reality at the end of the day is this
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  Speaker 1: person's offering time and insight that you didn't have otherwise.
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  Speaker 1: So I look at it as personally, I respect their
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  Speaker 1: time enough to say what they're telling me they've thought about.
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  Speaker 1: And then number two. Oftentimes we hear follow your heart.
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  Speaker 1: Most times I'm confused about that. I'm like, my heart
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  Speaker 1: wants to popel and donuts. I'll follow it. But it's
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  Speaker 1: like knowing the difference of following your heart and getting
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  Speaker 1: feedback that may not be applicable to you at that moment.
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  Speaker 1: So differentiating and distinguishing feedback that you can apply right
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  Speaker 1: now and some things that you may need to just
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  Speaker 1: put a pin in for later. And that's when I
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  Speaker 1: would say yes, in that moment, gut check, take inventory
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  Speaker 1: of where you are physically, emotionally and spiritually where you
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  Speaker 1: want your business or your personal life to go, and
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  Speaker 1: then make sure that that information is applicable at that time.
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  Speaker 2: I also think it's important. So have you ever had
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  Speaker 2: like a typical nine to five job?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I needed a moment. I did have a college job,
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  Speaker 1: a job in college and it was actually overnight. I
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  Speaker 1: worked at CVS. It was one of my first Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: homegirl had to make a living and talk about hustles real.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Fordham University and I studied. I got
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  Speaker 1: a bachelors in Fine Arts, and through that you have
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  Speaker 1: to do academics and you have to dance, and so
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  Speaker 1: your ballet classes are used ye at seven am in
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  Speaker 1: the morning, sometimes six am. Wow. And you needed to
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  Speaker 1: have a job because you needed to be able to
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  Speaker 1: do school work to pass your classes. You need to
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  Speaker 1: be there for rehearsals for any of the additional dance
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  Speaker 1: pieces that you're part of, and of course your curriculum
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  Speaker 1: for dance. So I needed to make money and the
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  Speaker 1: only other time was to out a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: sleep and work at CBS from eleven to six am.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I know, it's like a twenty four hour pharmacy
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  Speaker 2: or yeah, wow.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of like your duane read like your yes.
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  Speaker 1: And so I work the counter there and I would
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  Speaker 1: bring my laptop sit there because obviously it's not as
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  Speaker 1: much traffic at night, and I would sit there doing
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  Speaker 1: writing my papers and waiting, like you know. People would
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  Speaker 1: come in and purchase whatever they're to purchase. I ring
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  Speaker 1: them up for whatever how many hours that was. And
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  Speaker 1: I did that a few days a week because I
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  Speaker 1: needed to make cash. I think that was my closest
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  Speaker 1: to a nine to five and I'm not mad about it.
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  Speaker 2: So again, well, you've been like an entrepreneur for quite
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  Speaker 2: some time is like what I'm trying to get at
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  Speaker 2: here because a lot of people, I think they step
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  Speaker 2: into this path of entrepreneurship are going out on their
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  Speaker 2: own or being our contractor, and they just expect to
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  Speaker 2: have a lot of these insights that you are just
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  Speaker 2: kind of throwing down right now. And what I think
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  Speaker 2: is important to drive home is that it's a lot
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  Speaker 2: of trial on error.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yes, and it's.
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  Speaker 2: Taken you a lot of time to learn and obviously
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  Speaker 2: every single day to grow and to be better. It's
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  Speaker 2: not like it just happens overnight when you're like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to go and do all this stuff on my own.
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  Speaker 1: And it doesn't work like that, And I think, yes,
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  Speaker 1: it's one of again quoting a Malcolm Gladwell book, is
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  Speaker 1: like ten thousand hours before you become an overnight success, right,
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  Speaker 1: you have to put in the work. But the reality
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  Speaker 1: of the situation is on those and I set you
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  Speaker 1: birth an idea. I would strongly encourage someone to make
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  Speaker 1: sure every day you're having a meaningful conversation with someone
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  Speaker 1: that you do not know, or reading something that you
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  Speaker 1: haven't read or that you would normally read, of implementing
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  Speaker 1: some advice that you wouldn't normally implement, or you wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: you would in most cases disregard because you don't feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's fitting for you. Trying something new every day
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  Speaker 1: is really important. It's not about just I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: try a new food or I'm going to do bungeon
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  Speaker 1: jumping something like that, but trying something new in terms
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  Speaker 1: of let me read, let me pick up the economists
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  Speaker 1: and read it. Even though my business has nothing to
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  Speaker 1: do with numbers particularly, but hey, growing a business affects
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: the economy. The economy affects a growing business as an entrepreneur,
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: so having some of those elements of trying something new
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: every day does help your business, does help your idea
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: of potentially creating a business or becoming an entrepreneur. Because
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: it scary.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's it's scary, that's all right. It's like
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: I get a political newsletter in my inbox every day
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: and I only subscribed to the first time because a
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: man that I went to summer camp with when we
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: were like eight is one of the names on the masthead,
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, I'll subscribe to this newsletter. I
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: read it every day on the subway. I know, like
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: twenty percent of what actually any of the means, and
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I'm like better for it, Like maybe I'll learn something,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: maybe I'll start to understand something that I didn't know before.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: A politics. Man, it's a tough world out there. It's
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: a tough world out there. Okay. So what I'd love
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: to do with you now that we've gotten so many
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: good nuggets of wisdom in the first ten minutes is
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: to kind of dial it back and hear a little
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: bit more about where you come from and then how
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: you you know you mentioned going to Fordham, so how
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: we even got there? So where did you grow up?
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I grew up in Miami, Florida, three h five all day,
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: super proud of it all day. Yes, yeah, I grew
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: up there.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Okay. And did you always know that you wanted to
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: go to school and relocates New York?
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: I always knew that I wanted to become a New
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: Yorker absolutely, so growing up before I became a dancer,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I got hit by a car at the age of
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: nine years old and broke my left femur and almost died.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: So I was in a hospital and I remember like
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: the doctor was like, oh, she'll never really run telling
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: my parents like she'll walk, but she will never be
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: as an athlete, Like, so make sure you're positioning her
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: for a lane of success that's possible. So almost I
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: came out of the hospital seven days later, and the
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: next summer of my mom's best friend put her daughter
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: into this summer camp where they offered dance, and I
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: was like, I want to get into that summer camp.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: And I was home school for a year, so I
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: was really in need of socializing at the age of ten,
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: and so I went in this summer camp they offered dance.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: I started dancing. Nothing's too serious, and I remember the
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: teacher was saying, to help my mom at one of
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: the performances, like your daughter is really talented, and my
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: mom was like, absolutely not. She has no rhythm. She's
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: not going to be a dancer. And I was like, actually, Mom,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I love this thing. I want to do it more.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: And so when I was younger, every summer after that,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I went to a ballet school where they sent a
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: group of girls and young boys to New York to
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: dance to get a scholarship in one of the schools.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: So like Alvin Ailey to like dance here of Harlem
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: sab So I went to dancing of Harlem every summer
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: growing up up until high school. Throughout high school where
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I came here, I lived six weeks in New York,
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: maybe it was eight weeks in New York with a
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: group of girls at my age, and we got to
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: experience New York relatively young, and I fell in love
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: with the city.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: So regardless of running after the accident, you must have
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: been moving fine.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: I was. When my mom said to the dance teacher
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: that she was not a great dancer. I think at
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: that moment she was right. I couldn't really move as
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: well as everyone else. But it was one of those
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: things where I was super determined. I fell in love
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: with dance, and I was like, this is what I
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: want to do for the rest of my life. And
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: it wasn't a matter of of being the best one
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: in the class, who or anything like that. It was
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: just like I loved so much that this was it
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: for me moving my body, especially when someone said I
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: would I couldn't, and that I wouldn't. At that age,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I was pretty resilient, and I mean my mom insilled
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: it in me because I remember laying in the hospital
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: bed in the hospital and after the accident had just happened,
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: and I was losing a lot of blood. I might
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: needed it a blood transfusion, and you know, think about
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: your parents, like your little girl got hit by a car.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I like a hit by a car, flew up in
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: the air, landed on the hood of the car, and
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: rolled off, and my hip was broken, broke my teeth.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: It was just one of those things that you don't
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: see at that age, or just you don't see in life.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: And I remember having this conversation. Some things you never
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: leave you as a kid, as we all know, having
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: this conversation, and my mom told me, there's nothing I
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: can do for you at this moment in life. I
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: wish I could trade places. There's nothing I can do
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: for you at all. However, there's something you can do
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: for yourself. And we were religious people and we believe
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: in God. And she's like, you have to pray to
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: God to save your life, and you have to trust
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: him and believe him that he's going to and you
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: have to have a you need to have a will
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: to live. So if you want to live, it's possible,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: but you are going to need that will and you
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: have to make that decision. So giving life or death
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: to a nine year old in a bed after being
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: going through something that was devastating was a huge responsibility
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: and undertaking. And it was something that my mom offered me.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: And it's something that I will never forget because decisions
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: like that at nine years old has never left me.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: When you come to New York, think about where you
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: are in life. You have to make huge decisions, and
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: making decisions aren't easy, and making no decision is still
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: making a decision. So at nine years old, I had
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: to make a decision and I never stopped. I never
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: stopped making that decision to choose the life, so choose
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: to live.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: So choose to live, and then choose to dance. And
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: so absolutely you knew from those summers coming up to
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: New York that you wanted to come here as soon
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: as you got the chance. For a much longer period
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: of time.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Well, as you can tell, do you speak fast? I
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: do a lot of things fast, and so does New York.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I've found a rhythm that
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: match is my heartbeat. And I was like, this is
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: where I belong. I found my tribe of go getters,
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: of people that are determined that yeah, we get down.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: At times, we cry, you know, we eat a lot
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: of donuts, and then we move on. We boss up
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: after that, you know, and I think that's that's something
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: that I truly love about this city.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so you did you know you wanted to go
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: to Fordham or how did that?
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I didn't know that I wanted to go to Fordham.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: But my mom did the right thing. My parents did
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: the right thing. My mom and dad was like, you
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: have to go to college. You can do dance, you
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: can go be a dancer, you can move to New York,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: you can do whatever you want, but one request is
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: you have to graduate. And they were right. It gave
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: me a safe haven, a safe bubble to experience a
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: big city in so you know, you're protected. In college,
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: you have things to do, their structure, instead of moving
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: up here alone and saying, oh my god, what do
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: I do? Do I keep auditioning and things like that.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: A lot of people do that and they do very well.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: I am very grateful that I.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: Went the route of Okay, so in school, when you
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: move to the big city, what's different when you move
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: your full time versus when you're coming to like visit.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Does it hit you in this big way that you're like,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: oh my god, this is actually my home.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: It was the yeah, it hit me that way, but
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: it was actually the opposite in terms of, OMG, I
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: have a shot, like this is my shot. I truly
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: felt when I got I came one way ticket. Your
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: family drops you off at the airport, tries not to cry.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: You're like, mom, stop cry. My dad's the worst. He's
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: the one that cries the worst. He cried, and he
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: was just like, you can do this, and I think
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: you were built for this. And so one way ticket
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: to New York City came here, and I was just like,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: no one's going to stop me. No one's going to
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: stop me. And I think that no one has I've had.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: I've had some rough times like we all have, and
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: just like being hit by a car, I would never
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: change that in a million years. But I one of
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: the things that I always say, like, there's something truly
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: beautiful and being basic and going back to the basics.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: And it's humbling to think of that experience in times
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: that I'm sad and overwhelmed, and times that I get
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: those no's and times that I have to start over,
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: in times where I feel like nothing's working out for me.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: When it of course rains, it pours, it floods. I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: have to think of that moment of just being grateful,
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: like there was a moment you could have died and
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: you're living and yes, it's hard, but you keep pressing forward.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: So when you're in college and you're dancing, are you
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: firm on the idea that you're going to graduate and
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: do this full time?
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: Her faces lit up. It was Christmas morning.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: I yes, I love dancing. I loved it so much.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: It was not until so I had that like, yes,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: this is it for me. It was not until I
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: was about to graduate my senior year and I was
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: doing like these internships with companies and performing that I
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: realized how hard and challenging it was to live in
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: New York City on a dancer's salary. I we need
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: to change that one two dancers are not wrecking their body,
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: but putting their body through so any challenges to do
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: what they love and not being able to afford sometimes
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: their apartment alone, like you have to have a roommate,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: and not all dancers. Everything's different, but for the most part,
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: once I realized that, I was just like, you know what,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: I don't think that I need to. I want to
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: go down that path of being a starving artist. It
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: can be fulfilling, but it's not I don't think it
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: was my lot in life. And so I found I
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: met someone who was like a friend of mine who
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: was like, models, make this, this and this. And I
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: was like, you're telling me that not moving my body
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: but using my body to take photos not necessarily have
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: live art, is going to yield me more income to
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: be able to live in the city and continue to
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: create the life that I want and to continue to
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: dance on the side. And they were like yes, And
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: so I went down the modeling route. I went into
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: a friend of a friend recommended me. I went into
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Ailhelmina and they gave me a contract and it was
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: one of those things like not that doesn't happen all
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: the time. But I also reached out to like a
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: ton of agencies get my research and was like, hey,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I'm this not model, trying to be a model and
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: make money, and somebody said yes, after really knocking down
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: a lot of doors, do.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: You remember your first modeling job?
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. I actually went into fitness modeling because one of
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: the things when you're building a brand and building a business.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: One of the things that I didn't realize that I
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: did at that age, but was great that I did
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: was find a pocket, find an area and a niche
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: that worked for me. So I didn't have this dream
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: of becoming like a Victoria's Secret supermodel, because there was
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: an aesthetic that went along with that. Whether right or wrong,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: there is you know, a way to get there. It's
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: not impossible. But I knew that because I was a dancer,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I was athletically built. There was a new arise of
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: athletic modeling, of sports modeling, and I was like, you
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: know what, this is a this is an area that
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I could potentially make a market. It's something I could
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: potentially flourish at. And so I went in to become
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: a fitness model and that was how I found my Yes,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: it wasn't like I'm going to all of a sudden
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: it become some high fashion model or hands model or whatever,
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: which I really want to be one day. But my
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: first tid I went in. I remember going into it
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: was my first casting, just got signed to an agency,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: went into the agency. There were legit one hundred and
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: fifty models in this room, stunning people like you walk
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: in and I was super blonde at the time. I
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: had big, blonde, curly atro and it was under armor.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: And I remember sitting in this meeting and I guess, again,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: it's like brandings. Some of the things you think about
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: you don't think about when branding are so essential. I
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: went into an area of fitness that I knew that
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: I could do well in. I sat in that room
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: and I said, what makes me different than these people
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: sitting here? Everyone's super nice most of them. People are
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: probably nervous. Everyone looks good, everyone's a model. What's the
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: outlier here? What is the one thing they don't expect
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: from models? And it was to have a great personality.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: So I had sat there for an hour and a
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: half and I was like, I'm going to go into
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: this meeting and I'm going to be human. I'm going
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: to introduce myself and talk to them like they're real people.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: That's going to sit on the other side of the table.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: And I remember walking in into my first casting and
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, everybody, how are you? How are
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: you doing today? And then I kind of made it.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know how you are handling
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: looking at all these beautiful people and making a decision
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: so like, God bless you, and they started laughing, and
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: it was that moment. And I will later find out
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: they became my longest client I've ever had in my career.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: I've probably worked for under Armour for five six years
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: modeling with them, but it helped me live in New
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: York financially. And I remember having a conversation maybe a
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: year or two later with those same women who hired me,
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: and they said, you were different. You walked in, you
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: had a personality. You looked at us like we were human,
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: and that's why we wanted to work with you. Everyone
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: looked beautiful and was fit the type we wanted to
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: work with, someone who was easy to work with and
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: that we did enjoy working with.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: And I think a lot of the time when people
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: walk in for some sort of interview that they're like
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: so scared, and it's hard to put that fear to
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: the side, and that can also then mask a little
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: bit of your personality. So to be so open and
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: just treating them like it's a normal conversation, that's nine
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: times out to ten again in your situation, especially going
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: to give you a light up, which is absolutely critical,
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: all right, So we book under armour and then we
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: book other things and now we're just modeling and dancing
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: and where so where are we?
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: I was dancing for the next I got. I went
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: to a casting an audition five hundred girls. I wanted
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: to continue to dance. And while I was trained in
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: concert dance and it wasn't necessarily trained in like this
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: commercial world, I went into the audition and booked the
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: job and it was about twenty two women on the team.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: Was amazing because I created friends once I was out
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: of college, created friends during college and out of college,
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: and lifelong friends from there. And then I was performing
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: at Madison Square Garden, one of the biggest stages in
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: the world, one of the best arenas in the world,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: and that too afforded me an opportunity to do what
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: I love, continue to model because the games were at night,
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: continue to model and shoot during the day and make
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: some money. So I found that that was a hybrid.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: And during that time I would dance for Beyonce, I
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: danced with Pitbull, I danced with Why Cleth. I would
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: pick up these odd jobs commercially dancing doing what I loved.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Wow, Yeah, what was it? Like to dance with Beyonce.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: It home speechless, given that is how songs you write.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: But I've never one of the things that I remember
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: being in a room with her, having a one on
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: one with her and the choreographer. Choreographer and watching Beyonce
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: work is unlike anything I've ever seen. She came in
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: the room in the morning at eight am and didn't leave.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: This is by herself. She didn't leave the rehearsal space
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: and until like eleven o'clock at night rehearsing. And it
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: wasn't like we stopped for lunch. It wasn't she ate,
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: but it was like, oh, someone brought in food. She
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: ate and she got back and it was like quite
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: like she I've never seen someone so hard working in
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: a personal space that up close in my life.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: It's really special, very special. And it's like when someone
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: you can see truly brings like makes their passion their purpose.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: And I'm sure you can relate to that in so
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: many levels with what you're doing with the Love Squad,
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: but it's like when you see that in someone, you
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: see like the light in their eyes and so much
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: different than someone that's just going through their day to
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: day on autopilot.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: And I mean she allowed me in that space with
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: her as a young woman. Like as a young girl
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: trying to create my career. She could have been like, no,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: I just need the choreographer. She was like, no problem,
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: Like Ali can come in. It was just like she
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: was human. It was that human, approachable element of Beyonce
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: that also gave me that wow factor of her. And
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: that's something that I do try to remind and how
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I navigate Love Squad. It's that approachability. No matter how
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: big we are, we need women to sit on a
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: stage and give you those tools and concepts that you
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: can and how to most importantly, how to do some
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: things so that we can help other women and other
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: people in general find their path and continue to create
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: their space. I think.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: And that's a really important note to hit on as well.
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: It's like, how can I help build up other people?
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: And how can I offer what I know to enrich
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: somebody else. It's never a going to be about oh
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: well if I offer this to someone then they might
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: do X, Y Z. Well you're looking at it the
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: wrong way. Then it's like, all right, I'm willing and
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: ready to help someone else, not because I'm necessarily looking
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: for anything in return or scared of what they might
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: do with that intel. I'm doing it because I know
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: that I have the opportunity to do so that's so powerful.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: It's a gift, and it reminds me I'm going to
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: really break like butcher this a little bit. But there's
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: like some parable in the Bible where like God gives
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: this guy some talents and he instead of using the talents,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: he buries the talents, and it's when you bury the talent,
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: you are talentless. And then he gives other talents to
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: another person, another guy, and he uses those talents and
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: from using those talents, he gains greater talents. So his
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: talents only multiply and he creates a life for himself.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: And I think that that is the reality helping others.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: The art of helping others. Is that a true art?
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: And the more you help others and get information out there,
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: the more your talents will increase. The more you know,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: opportunity said you get from that.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: So let's talk about adding to the talent roster for
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: you then, because you're modeling and you're dancing with the
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: next and then when does fitness become an even bigger
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: part of your life.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: It's the moment that everything gets hard. It was the
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: moment where, at this time, a part of what I
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: was doing I kept my night job, not necessarily at CVS,
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: but I also did bottle waitressing in New York City.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I kept the night hustle. It continued, like outside of
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: modeling and then dancing for the Knicks, I was a
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: bottle waitress. I was able to kind of like stack
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: my paper and make sure I was living a comfortable
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: life to continue to pursue the things I loved. But
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: it came to a point in my life where you
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: can no longer and I'm sure some people can identify
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: that are listening. You get to a point in your
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: life and you're like, why am I doing this? And
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: you no longer have an answer, and if you don't,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: you can't answer the questions of why and how when
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: it comes to what you're doing in life and who
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: you are. That's a moment you got to stop. So
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I had to make the decision where I stopped dancing
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: for the Knicks. I had to make the decision where
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: I stopped bottle waitressing. And it was a moment where
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: I wasn't doing anything. I was still modeling, but as
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: you know, modeling seasonal, so there were weeks where I'd
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: have one casting, some that i'd have none, you know.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: So it was one of those moments where I had
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: a lot of time on my hands. I was confused
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: on what I wanted in life, who I was, And
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: there's a difference between being busy and being productive, and
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: I knew that, and I had to take a moment
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: where I was saying, there's no longer, this isn't the
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: season to continue to be busy. I need to produce.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I need to be productive, and the only way to
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: do that is to sit still for a moment, be sad,
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: struggle a little bit in terms of asking myself these
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: questions that were super answerless, and I didn't have the answer.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: So I O, I'm all about the how to. I
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: got three books around three people that I looked up
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: to that I ultimately wanted to model my career. After
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: I read their books, I read articles. I sat home
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: a lot, I looked up a lot of information. At
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: that time, podcasts were just coming in, but not to
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: the extent they are now. But I listened to a
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: lot of speeches, a lot of Ted talks and I
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: ended up getting into yoga. I started praying a lot,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: and during this I don't necessarily meditate. I pray and
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: doing my prayers, I started wanting to move a little bit.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: So I started going to hot yoga and it was
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: a time of stillness in the time of movement and
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: finding that stillness internally that I figured out, wait a minute,
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: there's something here. I love this. So I started running
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: with a friend and through running, I was just like,
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I love moving my body in a different way. How
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: can I do this? And I was still hosting. I
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: was still putting myself out there. I was taking That
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: was when I started taking hosting classes. It was getting
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: being still that I was like, I want to do
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: on camera work. I want to have a voice. I
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: want to I want to magnify, I want to be
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: on a bigger platform. And I created a real that
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: was really janky and sent it to everyone. It was like,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I will host your kids' birthday parties. I will, and
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: this is all These things would come to me while
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: I was doing yoga, while I was running, and I
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: was just like, I gotta do things for free, to
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: get something for money, and I don't have this skill set.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Yet I can practice all day, but doing it for
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: real is doing it for real is experience as a
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: friend who said they're looking to Brooklyn. Nets move to Brooklyn.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: You were just in the NBA. You stopped dancing for
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: the next you know how this works. They're looking to
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: Phillis Spot because the girl that's currently doing it their
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: first season wants to change. And she's like, I'm going
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: to move your resume and reel along to our senior
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: vice president of entertainment. And I was like, yeah, go
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: for it. Yeah sure, like I could do that, absolutely terrified.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: She sent it along and they called me in for
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: a meeting and they were like, okay, great, we want
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: to offer you the job. And I was like, oh no, no, no, no,
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: like I don't have any experience and that. They're like, yeah,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: that's okay. You know how the NBA works, You've done
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: your research, you have a great personality. Let's give it
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: a go. It's only like half a season left. Let's
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: bring you in. And I went from speaking to zero
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: people to speaking to eighteen thousand people at Barclay Center.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: And it was because and I really it was because
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: four months of just being by myself of being productive,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: of getting the word out, of figuring out, answering those
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: questions of what I want to do, taking those hosting classes,
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: finding the aha moment after my first hosting class and
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: saying like, oh no, no, no, this is it. This is
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: what I'm meant, this is what I'm born to do.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: And I know it wasn't the only thing, but it
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: was one of those things that I was like, I
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: have to pursue this to make sure and I encourage
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: anyone that in this moment of just being busy. I'm
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: not telling anyone to quit their nine to five. You
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: got to pay your bills. What I am saying is
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: taking moment to scale back on going out, scale back
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: on doing the odd jobs, still, scale back on just
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: doing things because you just said yes and saying no
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: to a lot of things and saying no to yourself,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: sitting home and finding that moment of stillness or those
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: moments of stillness, maybe through yoga, maybe through fitness. And
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: it was like fitness that brought me to first follow
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: up question, what are the three books? Oh? So it
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: was Ryan Seacrest, because I was like Ryan Seacrest's host Extra. Yeah,
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: I read his book. I read I always pad Me
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Lashed Me book because she was a TV host from
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: a model, so Ryan was a host. I wanted to
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: be a host. Padima was a model turned TV host.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: She did cooking more so like food was her lane.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: And then of course Oprah and I knew you knew
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Obrah was in there, like everyone should read everything about Oprah.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: And it was one of those things where I was like,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: this is the hybrid of everything that I want to
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: do or want to be. So and I remember my boyfriend,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: who is very pivotal in my store. I always say,
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: you have to find an Andrew. There's this thing of like,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I read a book and the chapter
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: was find your Andrew, and I was like, oh, I
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: found mine, but it was someone who changed that person's life.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: But find your Andrew is truly a part of my story.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: Find that person that's going to give it to you real,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: give it to your right and not back down. And
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: he's that person still in my life. And he was like,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: you got to stop doing what you're doing. It's okay
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: not to make money right now. It's okay to not
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: have an answer when your friends say, so what are
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: you up to? It's okay to say nothing that you're
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: figuring it out. It's okay. So, yeah, I found my
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: Andrew and that where he was just like, this is
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: the first You're not the first person to be lost.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: Read a book on someone who's doing what you want
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: to do.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: When did you guys meet?
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: We met? I think it was me when I first
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: started dancing for the Knicks. We met. We met in
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: a club. I get that because people are just like,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: how did you meet? I stay in the club. Let
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: me keep it real. We met at a club, and
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: that's how funny enough, that's how my mom and dad met.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Really, yeah, I know I knew it was okay, that was.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So we met in a club and yeah, we've
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: been slumming it ever since.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: Okay. Then the second follow up question is, talk to
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: me about that feeling you got when you walked out
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: on the court for the first time, because I'm sure
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: with a microphone in your hand, it's very different than
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: when you were dancing with the Knicks.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: So dancing from the Knicks, I was chop boss. I
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: was like, you walk out, you have the comfort level
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: of being with like sixteen other women. In my mind,
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: everyone's just in all of our minds. Everyone's just watching us,
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: but like, if you miss the step, you can follow
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: someone else, but when you're on, when you're alone, you're
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: truly alone. I walked out, and honestly, it was the
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: worst ever. It was probably the worst hosting anyone has
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: ever done. But I remember having an earpiece in and
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: someone saying you're going in ten, You're going in five
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: and four. And I walked out on that court and
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: I was terrified, extremely scared, but I knew I had
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: to do it. And of course Andrew's advice. Right before
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: I went on, he had texted me, this is the
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: worst I don't and this could be good or bad.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: It was great to hear this is the worst you're
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: ever going to do, that's okay. And I was like, Okay,
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: this is going to suck. I'm going to be bad,
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: and that's okay because I'd never done it before. And
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: obviously the first time you do anything, it's your worst time.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: Most times, it's your worst time, and it can only
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: grow from there. And that's what you want, truly, you
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: want to come in doing anything average at best, so
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: that your story is like I was the comeback kid.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: I did okay, So I did absolutely terrible, and I
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: was terrified, and I was reading this paper. The paper
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: was covering my but my shoes were cute and my
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: outfit was nice and my hair was laid. So I
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: will say that made me feel better about the pictures,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: not necessarily the video.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: That shures looked great. I looked fabulous doing you gotta.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Find the upside of it. My risks are my wrists
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: are pretty today? I don't know. I mean this.
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: Morning, I walked out of the house and I opened
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: my airpod's case and one of the air pods was missing.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: And in my head, I was like, it's been three
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: years and I haven't lost an AirPod. So I mean,
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: love's find upside upside. Maybe it's time for me to
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: pay my dues seventy nine dollars single AirPod replacement fee.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: I google that real quick. Okay, So you're hosting, yes,
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: and things get better because they have to.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: They do they they have to. Things get better. I
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: practice a skill. I fall in love with it even more.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: The Brooklyn Nets couldn't give them more of a shout out.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: Afforded me the comfort without being breathing down my neck.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: In terms of every time I'd come up the court.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: They were like, great job, good job. Like they they
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: build me up. They allowed me space to build my
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: confidence and something that I had never done. And it
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: was a unique and it's still unique because I still
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: do it to this day. I'm one person in New
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: York City that does that. I own a court, I
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: own an arena. I'm the only woman on that court.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: I walk out with heals every single time, and I
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: speak to the arena. I do in game hits, live
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: hits every time out. Whether it's marketing plug, interviewing someone,
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: interviewing a coach, interviewing a player, interviewing a celebrity, or
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: just doing a fun game with some of the fans.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: That are happening. That's happening. And it's just like it
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: gave me experience and it put me in positions to
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: get jobs. People are like, oh, Allie, does that here?
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: Who's that girl? Let me hire her for this or
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: let's find out more about her.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: I offered your name to someone the other day who
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: asked me to do a hosting job that I couldn't do.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: We'll talk about it.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: We'll talk about ass Thanks for the flow, thanks to
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: the but yeah, seriously, it's like it's the same thing
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: like with podcasting or like with moderating panels, like you
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: do it once and someone's like, well this person does
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: this thing, so maybe they can do this thing for
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: our thing that we need to do, you know, so
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: to your testament of do it once and get it again.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you might have to do it for free,
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: and that's okay.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I remember when I sat down with Gunnar Peterson,
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: he said, he said, never do something for free, and
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: I said, I asked to him, well, what about when
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: someone asks that of you? He's like, well, then ask
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: yourself a beyond money, what are you gaining from this opportunity?
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: Because it's not always like someone's going to hand you
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: a stack of hundo's and be like, thank you so much.
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: But who do you get to meet from this opportunity?
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: What do you get to do? Like, what do you gain?
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: What do you learn? Think about it that way before
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: you think all money.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: And that's exactly That's exactly how I weigh options to
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: this day. When I mentioned earlier about making a decision.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: In making decisions, the upside is either a capital gain
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: where you're saying, like I'm going to make some income
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: from this, this is justifiable, or it's a platform game
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: where it's like I'm going to get exposure to new people,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: I'm going to get to practice my craft, I'm going
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: to get more experienced. I'm going to like you're able
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: to leverage this in two ways financial gain or platform
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: gain gain, and that is really important. So nothing is
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: necessarily free because you're getting that platform.
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  Speaker 2: the nets and it's going really well. When does Peloton
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• 46:06
  Speaker 1: So hosting for the nets? What ends up happening first
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: was I started getting into the Instagram game and was like,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: you know what, I want to continue to brand myself
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: as fitness model, and I would I remember doing a
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: shoot doing some Adidas wearing some Adidas. I was like,
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: I want to play the angle of Adidas. I've never
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: worked with them in any of my modeling jobs, and
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: I'd like to get in with them. So I got
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: a guy to take some photos of me and Adidas
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: posted them. Adidas reached out and they had it. Kind
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: of was a trifecta. At this point, Adidas reached out
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: in terms of, we want you to build some content.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: I had created Love Squad in order to be a
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: great host. As I mentioned, I wanted to make sure
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: that I was expanding my vocabulary and gaining writing skills.
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: So I started writing about fitness, writing about my yoga sessions,
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: writing about running, writing about you know, waking up early,
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: getting these things done, being a boss at that moment
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: or in that time. And it was then that they
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: hired me for a campaign. Their office is in Germany.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: At that point wanted looked for an host in New
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: York City, a woman, and they hired me for a
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: soccer event to host, and then on top of that,
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: they reached out for me to do some content. They
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: started out what I was doing on lovesquad dot com
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: asked me to do content for Adidas, and so I
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: started creating content for them. So it was one of
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: those things where I shot their campaign in Miami shortly
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: after it, created some content for their California team, and
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: hosted an event for their Germany team in New York,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: and we had that conversation of like, we want you
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: to be an ambassador, a global ambassador for us. It
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: all ended up working out where I was the perfect
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: one of the perfect persons to represent the brand globally.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: And it was from there that I met Robin Arzon
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: and I became fast friends, very close friends to this day.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: And she saw what I was doing love Squad and
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: I was hosting co hosting an Adidas event in the Hamptons,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: and I had invited her. She was on the list
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: of like invites because we each ambassador, she was a
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: global ambassador at the time, will get these one off events,
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: and so she was like sitting next to me on
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: dinner and she was just like, you have to do
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: Peloton And I was like, oh, nope, I'm good girl.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna take these shots and dance like we were
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: having like a party at that point. And she was like, no, no, no, no.
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: What you're doing with Love Squad and how you're empowering
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: the community and how you are athletic in terms of
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: you run, you can host, you have on camera skills,
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: you're athletic, and you're empowering the community. People need to
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: hear about Love Squad and what you're doing, and Poloton's
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: a platform for that. And I was like, I'm good,
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: don't want to cycle. Sincerely, thank you, but no, thank you.
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: And of course, if anyone knows Robin, she doesn't really
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: take no for an answer. So get back to New
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: York going to one of I was fit modeling at
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: the time for Victoria's Secret. Going to my job and
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: I get a text from someone at Peloton was like, great,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: we have you for an audition. We have you set
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: up for an audition like next week. We want to
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: meet you before and I was like, wow, thanks Rob,
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: thanks my girl. That no did not really happen. So
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: I was like, you know what why I know that
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: I know in life you get your career or of
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: finding out what you want to do in life comes
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: through two ways. Either you know it since you're born
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: and no one can deviate, no one you don't deviate
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: from that plan, or someone tells you what you're good
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: at and what you should be doing. And so I
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: trusted the instinct, and I trusted her and more so
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: and said, you know what, she's my friend. I do
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: trust her. And I went in for the meeting, went
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: in for the audition, got on that bike. Was not
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: a cyclist, was not a fitness instructor. Now mind you,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: I was running and taking some fun yoga hot yoga
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: class looms and that was it. And of course I
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: took dance, and I was a dancer. Was not teaching
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: anyone anything, and nor did I want to. But I
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: got on that bike, and I realized in that moment,
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: or shortly after that moment, there were four cameras, there
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: was a producer downstairs. It was live. It was broadcasted
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: to thousands of people at that time. And I was like,
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: wait a minute, you're telling me I can empower, I
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: can work out, and I can do things where their
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: cameras involved such a most option, yes, And I ended
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: up realizing the opportunity he set and what they were offering,
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: and I said yes to it, and I was like, Okay,
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I need an assistant now because I'm not giving up anything.
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: I'm doing Love Squad, I'm hosting for the NETS, I'm
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: keeping Peloton, and I'm going to be a DIDAS Global
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: Ambassador continuously. And that's kind of how it all came together.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: One of the things I will say before your next
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: question is, I get this often. What do all those
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: things have in common. One of the things that I've
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: always wanted to do was be in the limelight. Hints
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: being a dancer. There's nothing wrong with them in any
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: of that. If that, if you are that person, own it.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: I'm always want to be front and center. I love
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: on camera work, I love being in front of the camera,
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: and I love speaking every one of those things. Whether
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: it's a DIDAS Global Ambassador, I'm moderate panels, I'm in campaigns,
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about my story of how fitness has influenced
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: and changed me. Peloton instructor, I'm empowering real time through
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: fitness while you're on the bike. I get to say
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: the things that are really truly inspirational to thousands of people.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: NETS live on camera that eighteen thousand people. You can't
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: take that back. Love Squad panel discussions around imperilmpowerment, building, businesses, things, giving, offering,
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: how tos. All of those things have those things in common,
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: live on camera. Encouragement I love it.
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: Where do you gain your inspiration from When you're inspiring
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: so many other people.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: It's really important that you listen to other people's journeys
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: so you cannot This is why I say, sit down
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: with people, ask them, not only ask them for help,
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: but ask them what you can do for them. So
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: whenever you're feeling in those moments of feedback, when I
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: have those bi annual feedback sessions that I have with
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: internal and externally personally and professionally, I sit down with
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: those people and I learn about their stories, I ask
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: them for advice, I take their advice, and then I'm
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: truly inspired by them. And so in those times where
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: it gets stuff, I'm overwhelmed, I'm ran down, I'm tired.
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: I remember those words of wisdoms, just like you quote it.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: You quote someone that has truly touched you because they've
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: afforded you time. That's really important. So when I think
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: of how I'm inspired. I do listen to a lot
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: of podcasts. I do listen to a lot of sermons.
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: So Stephen Ferdick is a pastor of Elevation Church, and
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: I would say, at this point in my life, he
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: has been outside of Andrew, my boyfriend, has been the
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: most influential voice. And he doesn't know this influential voice
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: in my head when it comes to inspiring people, he
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: just he gets it. He gets it. He's truly blessed
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: by God. He gets it. And whenever I'm down, whenever
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: I'm up, I listen to him. He reminds me of
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: what God has done for me. He reminds me of
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: what God is doing, how God is moving in my life.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: And one of the things I learned is it's not
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: always how do you say fun or welcoming to maybe
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: talk about religion or spirituality. But I think it's my
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: lot in life is that we get so caught up
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: in what someone should look like, or what a religious
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: person might sound like, or I mean, what someone with
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: curly hair acts like, or what a black person should
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: do or what a white We get so caught up
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: in these stereotypes, and it's important that we break those
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: stereotypes down and so yeah, I'm religious, and yeah I
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: believe in God, and some of the things that we
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: hear aren't truly what it looks like to be a
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: religious person. Those are just tigmas, Those are just stereotypes.
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: So I think that it's important that I that's a
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: part of my journey and a part of my conversation
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: because yeah, I think we get caught up in what
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: these people look like or what they believe, and how
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: they hate us or hate that, Like that's not who
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: I am. I'm inclusive.
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: I mean parallel that to the social media life, like
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: I mean the highlight reel that is Instagram, Facebook, whatever,
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: wherever you're consuming that kind of content. It's you see
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: that and it's like this is how I should be
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: or how I should act, or what I should do.
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: Like if I'm not doing this much running or if
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: I'm not doing this much whatever it is, then you
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: have this inferiority complex that you're messing something up. But
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: the beauty is is that you get to define every
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: day who it is that you are, and by offering
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: your authentic self to the world, like there's only one you,
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: So then why like if you're spending all your time
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: trying to be somebody else or trying to fit some
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: type of mold that you're perceiving for somebody else, Like
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: you're wasting your time.
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: And also getting caught up and being nervous to be
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: who you are, because I know I did deal with
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: the fear of like should I tell people that I
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: believe in God? Did I even say Jesus is the name?
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: And it's like, at the end of the day, people
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: are going to love me and some people aren't gonna
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: love me, and they're gonna love me whether I am
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: myself or not. It's just like that's just the nature
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: of life. And I truly encourage anyone who's listening own
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: all areas of you. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I'm
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: not saying I will ever be, because I subscribe to
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: being real beyond being perfect. I'm not saying I'm the
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: perfect this, or that I'm not the perfect peloton instructor,
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: just like I'm not the perfect like Christian, Like I'm
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: not any the perfect anything. I'm not the perfect girlfriend.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: Like However, I'm okay with being basic sometimes i am
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: and I'm okay with bossing up and other times and
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: I think that if you're ever struggling with not only
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: just what it should look like, but struggling with exposing
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: who you are completely, I really encourage you to think
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: about it and and.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: Do it.
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: Take a risk on yourself, because no one else is.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: I think also, it's like that important saying that says,
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: if you try to be a leader or a person
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: for everyone, then you're a leader or a person for.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: No one, no one, for no one, not at all.
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: Noo. Okay, So how do you then, when you're taking
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: so much time to give back to your partner, to peloton,
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: to the host, in to everything you're constantly giving and
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: giving and giving, how do you give back to you?
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: What do you do for you?
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: Oh? I'm glad you didn't ask me. What's self care?
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: You just do something for you?
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah? What do I do for me? I think all
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: of those things are pretty selfish. I'm gonna be honest,
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be super real and transparent. I think that
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: everything that I do is selfish, and I'm okay with
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: admitting that. I just talk about being your whole self.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: I think when you can admit who you are and
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: what you're doing and why you're doing it, you get
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: yourself to people love you more in terms of they
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: feel safe. They love you more because they feel safe
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: with you, because they're like, she's not hiding, she's not
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: living in this false reality. So for me, all of
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: those things are for me. I do these things because
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: I love them. They feed me. They are a part
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: of who I am since I was a kid. They
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: afford me the best opportunity set to bring a family
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: into this world to live a comfortable life. I'm truly
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: going to be honest in that, and I think so
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: when I think of it, what am I doing for me?
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: I'm doing those things for me. I'm doing those things
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: because if I didn't do those things, I'd be doing
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: things that were for everyone else.
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: And right now, when you're on the biker obviously on Instagram,
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: you have a great following there. When you take a
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: second and step back, the people that follow you, they
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: see who you are from that lens. They see this
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: business woman and a peloton instructor and a Brooklyn Net's
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: host and all the things. But when you look in
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: the mirror, what is it that you see?
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: I see a woman who's ready to change the world,
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: and I don't have all the answers on how to
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: do that, but I know one of the things that
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: I speak about is bossing up, creating a standard, establishing
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: a tone. You can walk in any room and change
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: the tone, whether for good or for bad. You can
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: create a standard. No need to worry about the rules
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: when you're setting standards. And it's one of those things
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: where I truly subscribe to that. Personally, I truly believe
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: in the good, the bad, the unknown about myself, listening
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: to feedback from people implementing those things. But when I
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: look in the mirror, I do see myself as a
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: game changer. I do see myself as someone who is
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: going to blaze a trail of redefining and recreating what
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: an entrepreneur looks like, what a woman of this century
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: looks like, and what it means to really inspire the
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: next generation. Again, don't have all the answers, but that's
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: that's who I see myself as when I look in
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: the mirror. Not easy comes with a lot of responsibility,
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: but I don't choose easy.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: So on the days where you wake up and maybe
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: you've gotten like a no or some one has like
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: really knocked you down, what do you do or what
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: have you changed to be able to still see that
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: person in the mirror, Because I think that's what a
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: lot of people struggle with, right, It's like, what one rejection,
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: that one problem, that one person that makes them feel
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: lesser than or without? What do you tell that person
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: who feels without at that moment?
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, it's not always like cotton Kenny, drummon, whatever'
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: is it? Cotton Kenny, rain, drafts and doughnuts in my
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: life on those moments that I am sad and that
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: when I do look in the mirror and I can't
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: find that girl, I can't find that woman, I can't
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: find that person, I allow myself to just be. I
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: know that sounds so crazy, but I always say, feel
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: all the feels. So if you want to cry, cry,
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: and I do cry. I cry a lot. Actually I
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: don't cry because I'm always sad, but I cry because
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: I need to get it out. I don't want to
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: hold it in. I don't want to like pretend. That's
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: also a form of pretending. Like if I keep practicing
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: this and preaching like be your full self, like be
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: who you are, it's like I have to be that
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: person too. And some days when I feel lost and
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: I definitely want to give up a lot of times
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: I feel that way, I get into that mood and
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: allow myself to feel that way, and I also reach
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: out to friends, like I need to vent. I'll send
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: a voice note quick to somebody like here's a vent,
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: here's a rant. Feel free to turn it off at
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: any point, but I need to get this out. Obviously
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: someone that I feel safe with or that I built
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: a relationship with. But I tell anyone around me feel
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: all the feels. Yeah, allow yourself. You can't. The worst
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: advice is when someone says you should just feel confident,
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: you should just be this. I'm like, if I could be,
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: if I could feel that, I would. So it's like
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: I can't push myself to a point to feel something
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: or be something that I'm not ready to feel or be.
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: So sometimes, yeah, I'm going to get out of the slump.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: Maybe in a day. Sometimes it's gonna take me a month.
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm going to Sometimes I mean this year, earlier,
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: this year I dealt with it was month of February,
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: six weeks I would say February to March anxiety AF
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: I could not get myself together. Imagine running a business
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: having two women, like two employees, so what should.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 2: We be doing?
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: I'm like, honestly, I can't even answer. I don't know.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: I didn't brush my teeth today, I can't roll out
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: of bed right now, like and then have to do
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: that where yeah, I do push through when it's on peloton,
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: but even in that, when I'm on that bike, I'm like,
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: anybody in this room suffering right now, please put your
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: handu because I'm gonna raise my hand. I want you
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: to know that. And there's it breaks down that wall.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: Let's be real about it. I don't have the again,
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: I don't have the answer. Is there gonna be days
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: I feel strong and powerful, and there's gonna be days
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: where I'm just like, okay, you are strong and powerful,
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: just not right now, you don't feel that way. So
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: I encourage myself to feel the feels. I don't push
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: myself to be something or to feel something that I don't.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: And I do get a little antsie when I do
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: have those bouts of like anxiety or mild depression or sadness,
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: I do get a little antie like, and I do
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: tell myself, I'm like, well that when you get on
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: Instagram you're like, well, that person's always doing well, and
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: this person has everything going for them and they're so
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: skinny and pretty in their hair is gray and they
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: know all the right things to say. And then it
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: like stop. And one of the things you said earlier,
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: you were like, you should do this. I get the
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: head you should do this, you should do this. And
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: I always tell myself stop shooting on yourself, girl, stop.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: Stop it, stop it.
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, it's not I don't again, don't have the
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: answer for it. It's not a pretty like read this
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: book and you're gonna say this, say this mantra and
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: you're gonna be fine. Look in the mirror and spend
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: around three times. Don't have the answer. But what I
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: do allow myself to do is take the time that
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: I need to be in the place that I need
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  Speaker 1: to be at.
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  Speaker 2: That And you mentioned the worst piece of advice. But
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  Speaker 2: when you look back on your career so far in
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  Speaker 2: this like mini empire, let's call it, oh that's as
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  Speaker 2: let's call it an empire empire that you are building, boss,
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  Speaker 2: what would you say, has been one of the best
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  Speaker 2: pieces of advice that someone has offered you?
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  Speaker 1: So many Oh my gosh, I could. I think that
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  Speaker 1: one of the things I remind myself, and I guess
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  Speaker 1: I'm having like a brain freezone on like the best
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  Speaker 1: advice that I have ever gotten, because I I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I've getten gotten so many great things. But one
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  Speaker 1: of the things I do remind myself of is that
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  Speaker 1: most times, no one knows what they're doing. Yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: makes me feel better about it. In a room where
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  Speaker 1: decisions or conversations are being had, no one knows what
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  Speaker 1: they're doing. Running a business, no one knows really what
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  Speaker 1: they're doing title sweet sea sweet people c sweet level.
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  Speaker 1: They don't know what they're doing. Like even the most
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  Speaker 1: expert of them of all don't always know what they're doing.
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  Speaker 1: So it makes me feel good that I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to know what I and.
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  Speaker 2: Someone had to be the first to set the president anyway, right.
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  Speaker 2: I hate just this idea that like, well, this is
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  Speaker 2: the industry standard for this, or this is how much
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  Speaker 2: someone should be paying you to do X or Z,
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  Speaker 2: or this is how you should act in this situation.
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  Speaker 2: Like No, so many times I'm just like, well, this
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  Speaker 2: is where I'm at. So if you want to work together,
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  Speaker 2: if you want to do this, if you want x
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  Speaker 2: or Z this is where I'm coming from. So we
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  Speaker 2: can either meet there or meet in the middle. But
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  Speaker 2: if you don't want to like take my fork in
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  Speaker 2: the road, then like take yours and find somebody else.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I think that's I think that's a
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  Speaker 1: great approach. I also think, like in that moment of
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  Speaker 1: just realizing that no one knows what they're doing, it's
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  Speaker 1: really important that you articulate why. So one of the
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  Speaker 1: things that I realized, like going to a lot of conferences,
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  Speaker 1: speaking on a lot of panels and building a business,
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  Speaker 1: is people do it and they always say, oh, because
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  Speaker 1: I love it. It's not a reason. It's not the reason why.
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  Speaker 1: The reason why is deeper than that. You can love
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things. So I think that when you're
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  Speaker 1: asking yes for more money, set in precedence when you
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  Speaker 1: are when you realize that no one has the answers,
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  Speaker 1: if you're able to album solve, offer a solve and
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  Speaker 1: say that this is what you think should be happening.
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  Speaker 1: You need to articulate why, and you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: have that answer right away.
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  Speaker 2: So what is it that you're not doing right now
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  Speaker 2: that you want to do?
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  Speaker 1: So I'm not running for President. I'm so sorry everyone,
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  Speaker 1: not just yet Love twenty twenty the throw on my
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  Speaker 1: hat in the ring. Now, Oh, I came on your
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  Speaker 1: podcast to announce my presence.
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  Speaker 2: Platform that national news.
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  Speaker 1: That would be awesome. So there's so many things and
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  Speaker 1: I have to I really do have to reule myself
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  Speaker 1: in sometimes. I got to like wrangle my my imagination
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  Speaker 1: in sometimes. One of the things that I really want
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  Speaker 1: to do is I do want to write a book.
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  Speaker 1: So I have started, but again, asking myself the why
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  Speaker 1: is really important, So I know that I want to
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  Speaker 1: do this. So I have started the process and it's
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  Speaker 1: going well, and there's entries and it's awesome and it's
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  Speaker 1: helping me to refine what I believe and I'm articulating
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  Speaker 1: it better. So it is helping. But I don't know
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  Speaker 1: exactly why I'm doing it just yet outside of oh
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  Speaker 1: I love it and I could help people. There has
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  Speaker 1: to be a deeper why. So I am doing that
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  Speaker 1: and again, so working out the why so when it
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  Speaker 1: is or if it does get published, there's a story
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  Speaker 1: of like, here's why I really did this. Yeah, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: there's so many things that I really want to do
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  Speaker 1: at this point. Yes, I want to have a podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I'm working on that, but it's like a mini mini podcast,
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  Speaker 1: nothing like really amazing that you're doing. So congratulations by
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  Speaker 1: the way, and heard how this is exceptional and thanks
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  Speaker 1: for having me.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I should have said that sooner. So we just started off.
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  Speaker 2: We'll just start all over right now.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, so I do want to do book and podcasts,
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  Speaker 1: but I think right now my focus is I'm in
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  Speaker 1: that feedback session that I talk about. I'm in that
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  Speaker 1: stage of getting advice taking my brand to another level personally,
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  Speaker 1: professionally and with love squad. So I've been in this
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  Speaker 1: feedback session where I'm asking people for advice and how
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  Speaker 1: do you see me? How do you see my brand?
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  Speaker 1: What am I doing? What am I not doing? Because
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the answer to that yet. Outside of yes,
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  Speaker 1: everyone wants a book, everyone wants a podcast, and not
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  Speaker 1: that saying everyone shouldn't get what they want. I just
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  Speaker 1: got to be able to answer the why a little
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  Speaker 1: bit more. In order to do that, I need more
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  Speaker 1: information than I outside of my own head.
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  Speaker 2: It's really special that you understand the value of asking
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  Speaker 2: for that. Thank you. Really special. Okay, So the last
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  Speaker 2: question I ask on the pod every time. If you
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  Speaker 2: had the opportunity right now to offer the alley post accident,
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  Speaker 2: in that Hurtle moment, a little piece of advice when
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  Speaker 2: she's going through that tough time looking back on it now,
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  Speaker 2: something maybe you wish you knew then, or maybe you
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  Speaker 2: know as the years have gone on. You offer her
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  Speaker 2: something when she's going through those tough times. What do
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  Speaker 2: you tell her?
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  Speaker 1: This might sound. I don't even want to judge how
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  Speaker 1: it's going to sound. I wouldn't tell her anything because
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  Speaker 1: her mindset was way better off than sometimes my mindset
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  Speaker 1: is right now, knowing all the things I know, I
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  Speaker 1: think sometimes we get into this thing of like we
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  Speaker 1: should have done this sooner or faster, and Homegirl at
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  Speaker 1: nine years old, like, I don't know who that was
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  Speaker 1: sometimes and I know that was me, but she was boss.
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  Speaker 1: And I say that because she was fearless, she relied
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  Speaker 1: on her own intuition, she trusted herselves, her ability, and
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  Speaker 1: it really has carried me to the point that I
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  Speaker 1: am now. So I wouldn't mess not necessarily mess that up.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't tamper with that. And I think that I
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  Speaker 1: try to get back to that space a lot. I
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  Speaker 1: don't I'm not always successful, but there are moments that
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  Speaker 1: I am. I get back to that trusting my gut,
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  Speaker 1: trusting that that inner boss, trusting that fearlessness, that without consequences,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going forward. Mentality that most times youth the youth
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  Speaker 1: possess and I think I possessed that at nine years old,
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  Speaker 1: and I wouldn't I wouldn't tell her anything.
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  Speaker 2: Your story is really special, Ali. Oh thanks, thanks so
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  Speaker 2: much for having to hang out with me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, thank you for thanks for working this
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  Speaker 1: out because the schedule is pray and thanks for having me.
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  Speaker 2: I truly agree it, of course. Thankase take a moment
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm sure if they've gotten to this point in
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  Speaker 1: Oh, just a little.
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