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I Was Used By Mr Ibu's Family - John Okafor's Adopted Daughter Jasmine · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of battered
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  Laurencia. How are you all?
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  Do you know if you're doing great?
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  Now for today's episode, I want to talk about Jasmine
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  Miserables. Adopted daughter.
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  Jasmine is raining fire and brimstone on Mississippi.
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  And in fact the whole family and her first of our friends.
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  Now for some of you don't know Mr Ibu.
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  John Okafor, the legendary comic actor.
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  He has been sick. He lost one of his legs.
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  Jasmine came online, cried out, singing for assistance because
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  according to her, she's the only one foot in the medical bills.
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  She's tired, she's broke. So Nigerians rallied around,
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  helped raise money, and at the end of the day, one of his legs
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  was cut off because Mr Abel had blood clots in one of his legs,
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  and he was taken to a traditional medicine kind of
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  people who made incisions caught on his legs, and that court was
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  infected. He was flown to Lagos and his
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  adopted daughter Jasmine took responsibility of the whole
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  thing. Before then, Mr Iqbal and his
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  family were having issues, which they came online.
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  They added that then in public, before he even became sick, but
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  when he became sick, they came together.
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  Jasmine was kind of trying to help him revive his career.
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  She was on TikTok, YouTube, Instagram.
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  She did a lot. I mean, I I give kudos to her.
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  She did a lot because anybody creating content would know how.
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  It's not easy. Even if you see two minutes
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  video online, it's not easy. A lot goes into that content
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  before you see the finished product.
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  So she did a lot for him and for the family.
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  Now when he became sick, she said, according to Jasmine, She
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  was one taking care of him and everything.
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  And then she cried out online. Plus with the support of the
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  wife, the braised lots of money according to Jasmine was over
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  100 million naira that was raised and he couldn't, they
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  couldn't fly. He said go abroad because they
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  said he had his, you know, heart condition was they couldn't
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  really fly him abroad because of the whole health challenges.
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  When this whole thing was going on, Mississippi wanted access to
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  the account. Now according to Jasmine, even
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  before the whole thing they had separated, they were living
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  apart. Mr Abel was living for over 2
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  years. He never lived at home.
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  He was in Abuja, sporting from one place to the other.
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  People were taking care of him and the wife was just in Lagos.
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  She was in the house. She was selling off all the cars
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  in the house, in the house to raise funds to send their kids
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  to school. According to Jasmine, one of the
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  reasons why they were having issues was because Mr Abel was
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  no longer working, so he wanted the kids to go to a less
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  expensive school. But the woman was like, no, my
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  kids will have to attend the school, get the money, she was
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  telling off cars, selling off properties.
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  At some point she sold the land she saw the launch was even
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  demanding to sell the house that they were living in because
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  according to her there was water leakage and everything.
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  Anyway that was the whole issue going on online even when he
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  said he was in the hospital. So when that money was raised,
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  the money was paid into Mr. Evans account but his son was in
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  charge of the account. Now the wife who they have
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  according to me Jasmine, they they were already living
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  separate but she came into the picture and wanted to have
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  access to the account beside who said no that's the son should
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  have access to the account. The wife was not happy about it
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  because according to Jasmine she wanted taxes because she needed
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  money, she need to do BBL. She needed to buy Brazilian
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  hair. She dared to leave a baby girl
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  life like she she said she's young and she needs to live her
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  life and she needs money to do that.
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  In fact at some point they said she wanted them to sell the
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  house and settle her with 20 million or is it 25,000,000 so
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  that she would just go on her own and he will go on his own.
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  More like a divorce settlement. Basically Mr Abel, she would
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  have sold the house according to the story but because she didn't
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  have the the documents of the house she couldn't sell the
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  house. She was trying to convince Mr
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  Able to sell the house. At some point they wanted to
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  sell the house before this whole health challenges started.
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  Anyway, according to Jasmine she was doing everything she was
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  feeding the family. The more the whole money they
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  got from TikTok was sent to Mississippi.
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  According to Jasmine, after they sold the land she needed some
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  money to. I think after they gave out Evil
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  over 1,000,000 naira she next 12,000 naira.
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  So miserable was like why would you need 12,000 naira after I've
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  given you 1,000,000 naira. That was when Miscible came out
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  and cried online that Jasmine is dating her husband Jasmine.
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  It was crazy. At the end of the day when we
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  said he was in the hospital, they raised all this money.
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  She wanted access to the to the account.
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  She couldn't get access to the account.
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  That was where she started making all those stories about
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  Jasmine sleeping with him in Sibiu.
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  Jasmine married Mr Ibu son. According to Jasmine, she said
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  she was she wanted to travel so she was processing her visa.
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  So she wanted to help the son. So they had to do a dependent
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  visa. And for them to do a dependent
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  visa, they have to, you know, Nigeria.
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  Like anybody travelling in Nigeria, they know all these
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  things. So even though the Mississippi
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  wanted her to take one of her child, but she said the girl is
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  grown, that there's no way she can convince people that this is
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  her daughter. So I think that's kind of robbed
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  Mississippi some kind of way. And then she came out online and
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  was saying everything. Mississippi arrested Jasmine,
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  saying that she stole, was it 300 million from the monies
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  donated? According to Jasmine, all
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  miscible wanted was access to the money because Missus, Mr
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  Abel's son's second son, is the one in charge of the money, but
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  she wanted full access so that she can be taking money out of
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  the account. But they went to the police
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  station. They can't.
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  The police people kind of said, OK, we are going to be in charge
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  of the accounts. Any money you want will give you
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  the money from then on. According to Jasmine, Miscible
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  has received over 25,000,000 from that money.
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  She said she wanted to rent a place.
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  They gave her 20 million. She rented a place with for 4
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  million and then she used that money to buy Brazilian hair.
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  Ohh God she she wasn't money began life.
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  So now she she just said that she does not know why
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  Mississippi is trying to blame her accuser of anything because
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  she is not even the one in charge of the money that
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  Mississippi brought police to arrest her.
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  At the end of the day they checked everything.
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  She did not take any. They couldn't trace any money
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  into the account. But according to News Online
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  police fear Rose said that they chased some money.
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  Like I don't even know who is telling the truth.
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  I think the police will come out and give us a public
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  announcement, kind of what is going on.
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  You know what is going on with this money, Who is to blame?
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  Even Jasmine said that the police are tired because
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  everyday Mississippi is going to the police to demand one thing
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  or the other. Even when they were now in
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  charge of the money. All she wants is just to have
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  access to the money. According there is a phone where
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  the online app is, where you could have access to that money.
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  She wants to have access to that phone and that phone is with Mrs
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  Mr Ableson. But she wants that phone.
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  That is just what she wants. Anyway.
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  What Jasmine is now saying is that they used her, they used
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  body, do this, they did that. I am just going to play a clip
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  from that video for you to see how she was ranting, raving and
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  screaming. Now watch this.
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  He was. He was sleeping.
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  He was using crutches when he came came to Lagos.
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  Even among my entire family were afraid when I brought him to the
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  house. But I still took batteries.
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  I think that was I asked him because the wife was talking
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  about selling the property that he was supposed to sell before
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  he travelled to Abuja. But you said you have.
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  I said to her I was the one that called the best friend.
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  I said please, if daddy is selling this house as the wife
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  won't let him selling house. Let him and his wife reconcile.
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  Let me come, let's reconcile these two people in our best
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  way, because I am myself. I have plans to travel.
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  I wanted to travel, already started processing my travel.
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  I already done everything that they need to do for me to
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  travel. Even before that he was sick.
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  I think he said I cannot continue taking care of baby,
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  that he cannot, but I cannot sit down and do it.
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  The, the, the, this is what we're supposed to do.
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  Look after him, cook for him what she's cooked and all of
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  that. But I'll be friend with myself
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  and his wife. Friend.
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  Why? Because we have the conversation
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  of the film. I still have that conversation.
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  Even if I don't have that conversation, I'll follow you
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  and change that conversation and get it.
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  You got friend was not like, OK, I will talk to her, but she
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  hasn't really told me that she's done with the marriage even
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  though that he came back in that condition from Abuja station was
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  not going to listen. I'm telling you, it's not so
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  many months ago this was. Just tell me how many months ago
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  this was on October 31st. Sick.
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  I've already. I'm done with my travel.
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  They know that my travel has nothing to do with this
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  donation. Really.
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  You know you don't need to travel with your own daughter.
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  I told you that my child, he said he wanted to talk and I
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  think I'm going to help you. If you interested you can be
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  able to do that. I'm trying to use the initial
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  money and travel where you know the truth and you have children
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  and you know the truth guys. It was the person that didn't
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  show. I took my husband to Abuja and
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  took us back to where they used something and cut his life,
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  anything about it. They didn't show you, did not
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  give you one there. They've never come out and say
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  ohh really lucky even funny show we are dragging me.
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  We were chatting. Everyone remembers in the
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  hospital he sent me that took him to the hospital.
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  Really. One that took him to the
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  hospital. When Boris came back from Abuja,
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  you said you wanted them to sell their house and said to you I
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  was going to discuss with. I thought that you and daddy we
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  said to I took the house that he used to come to his own house.
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  I took him to his house. You know that he begged that he
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  didn't say OK, he has forgiven you.
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  That was my days. All I can say is I understand
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  the fact that Jasmine feel indebted to Mr Ibu according to
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  how she lost her dad when she was very young and Mr Abu
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  stepped in and really treated her like a daughter.
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  Even the family knew because according to her, her dad and Mr
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  Ibu, they are very good friends and the mom came from Enugu
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  state. So they they think the same
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  village. I don't know.
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  But she said they they, the whole family, they kind of knew
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  each other. But Mr Abbott stepped in and
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  stepped up when her dad passed away.
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  So when he started having challenges, according to her,
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  she was in Cyprus and that was in 2019.
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  So she was there and started asking her for 5010 thousand,
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  15,050 thousand. He was thinking, you are Mr Abu,
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  are the legendary actor, why are you needing all this, you know,
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  small, small, like 5000, like seriously.
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  She said she was in school but she could sometimes she would
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  borrow from people. When she doesn't have that money
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  to send to him he got to a point where she wanted to get married
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  to her ex-husband. He came back to Nigeria.
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  She was like thinking OK let her stay and set up some things and
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  she said she took responsibility.
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  She was feeding the family. She was taking care of the kids
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  Mr who was living with her then she didn't have any problem with
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  missus symbol because according to her even at that point the
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  marriage was over. They they they were talking
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  about divorce. What held the whole thing
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  together was because of Mississippi wanted Mr able to
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  sell the house and they shared the money as divorce settlement.
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  But Mr was refusing to sell the house because he said that is
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  his property, you know. So even before this whole thing,
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  according to Jasmine, this whole marriage was over.
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  So she stepped in as his stepdaughter or adopted daughter
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  to help the family because she felt that Mister Able helped her
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  when she she was in need, when her father passed on.
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  I understand feeling indebted to somebody, feeling, feeling
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  that's OK This person helped me when I was in my lowest.
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  I have to help the person. But helping people, you have to.
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  It's not about giving. You know, a lot of people think
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  I am helping because I am giving money.
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  I am helping because I am taking care of certain bills.
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  I am helping because you called me and said you don't have rent
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  and I give you rent. Helping goes beyond that because
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  if somebody is asking for help, if somebody is calling you
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  asking for 5010 thousand, the problem is not that 5000, OK?
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  You give the person 5000 today, they're going to come back and
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  ask for 10,000 tomorrow. And then you're going to create
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  like a enabling behaviour where that person will not go out to
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  seek 5000 or to look for each job that will give them 5000.
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  They would rather sit down and depend on you to give them that
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  5000 and then it becomes you, a habit.
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  Once you don't give them that money, it becomes a problem.
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  I think this was the situation with Miss Abu and the family.
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  Mr Abu felt that he's been telling the wife to take the
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  kids to a less expensive school, but she was not listening.
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  She was busy selling cars, selling everything, and she was
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  able to afford that money. But when he was getting 12,
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  Miss, I was borrowing 5010 thousand from everywhere to be
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  able to to, to, to take care of the family.
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  So when Jasmine came back, she stepped into that shoe.
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  She was not the one looking for money and Mississippi was just
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  sitting down. Before you help somebody, ensure
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  that that person is ready to help themselves.
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  If somebody is telling you, give me money for school fees, my
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  children, they are, they are home.
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  Check that. OK.
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  How can they afford the next one?
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  If there's no way they can afford the next one, then tell
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  the person. Is it that you start work, or
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  you start a business or you do this or you do that?
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  If that person is not willing, if that person is not willing to
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  adjust their situation, come to the realisation that OK, we can
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  no longer afford this or we can no longer afford that.
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  If that person does not do some adjustments, then you're just
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  going to be giving your money and then one day you're going to
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  come out and be crying like Jasmine online saying that she
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  was used or saying that somebody is ungrateful.
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  The reality is anybody that is not willing to help themselves,
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  regardless of how much you help them, regardless of how much you
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  give them, regardless of how you think you're you're saving them.
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  You cannot save anybody. That person must be willing to
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  save themselves because it will get to a point where you will no
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  longer be able to do that. Maybe not because you don't want
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  to help, but because maybe your situation change, your financial
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  condition changed, and you may not be able to give the way you
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  were giving before. What happens at that point?
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  Before you start helping people? Let's say somebody is coming to
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  me and say I want I I don't have rent.
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  Ohh, look at the situation. OK?
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  Why? Why don't you have rent?
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  Why can't you afford rent? Is it that something happened to
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  to make you not to afford the rent?
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  Or what happened? You have to just found why we
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  all have all had financial challenges.
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  That is not what I'm saying. But there are people who are who
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  are just dependent on people. Let's say you know that your
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  financial situation has changed and you're living in a
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  particular area you know you cannot afford.
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  Instead of you to adjust, adjust to the current financial
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  situation. You will call people, Bring
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  money. Help me, Help me, help me.
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  You pay that the next day. Help me, help me, help me.
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  You pay that ohh school fees. So help me, help me, help me.
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  You pay school fees and the child is sick.
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  Help me, help me, help me. At what point?
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  Because that person is not going to stop asking for help.
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  It is now you that is the helper or the enabler or the person
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  with the saviour complex. I need to now sit down and say
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  am I being used? Am I being used or am I actually
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  helping this person? Is this help?
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  Because Mrs Sybil, she's never walked.
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  She, she everything they were taking.
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  Even when her husband was in the hospital, she still felt that he
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  needed to take care of his responsibility.
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  Jasmine stepped into that role. She was doing it.
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  But now who got burnt? She got burnt.
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  She is the one crying online. She is the one saying that she
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  was being used. She is one being accused of
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  everything under the sun. She, Mississippi, is the wife,
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  regardless of what she has done. That's her husband.
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  So before you start helping people, make sure that the
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  person you are helping is willing to help themselves.
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  So Jasmine, lick your wound, move on from it.
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  I'm very sure that you learnt your lessons.
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  Tomorrow, if somebody is asking you for help, even if that
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  person sacrificed everything for you, you have to be able to say,
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  OK, I am willing to help, but how are you helping yourself?
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  If you can they can answer that question.
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  Then go ahead, help as much as you want or if you have enough
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  money, that's OK. You know that regardless of
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  whether they are helping themselves or not, you are able
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  to do that as long as you know you will not resent that person.
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  As long as you know, say Ohh, you're graceful or as long as
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  you will not say Ohh. After everything I did for you,
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  if you know that you will not see all those things, go ahead
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  and help people regardless of whether they have a plan to help
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