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Elderly Neighbors · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mama's. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: why do we dismiss our elderly neighbors so easily? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask our American mamasa and joining us now, our
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  Speaker 1: American mama is Terry Neediville and Kimberly Burlison. You know,
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  Speaker 1: there is a thing in American culture where, for for
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  Speaker 1: quite a long time decades, I would say, we do
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  Speaker 1: not honor our elders as they do in other countries.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you look at Latin America. Honoring your elders
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  Speaker 1: is a huge thing Italy. You know that you've got
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  Speaker 1: multiple generations your elder multiple generations living under the same roof.
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  Speaker 1: That's not the case in the US and has not
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  Speaker 1: been for a long time.
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  Speaker 3: Why is that.
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  Speaker 2: We're the only We're really the only culture that does that.
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  Speaker 2: We put them away, we dis them where and it's
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  Speaker 2: it breaks my heart. You know. Just recently there's a
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  Speaker 2: lady that lives in the city that we live in,
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  Speaker 2: and she doesn't talk to any of her family members,
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  Speaker 2: and she asked my little sister Lindsey, if she would
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  Speaker 2: help her clean out her garage and get some thing. So,
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  Speaker 2: of course, one of us does it. We all do it.
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  Speaker 2: So Lindsay and I so I, you know, we're cleaning
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  Speaker 2: out her garage. Well, that same lady, she's in her
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  Speaker 2: late seventies, called Lindsay and she said, Lindsay, would you
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  Speaker 2: just come over so I can just like, I have
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  Speaker 2: like this dream, so I can just talk about it
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  Speaker 2: and just talk it out. So Lindsay went over there
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  Speaker 2: and they had a long conversation and she said, Kimberly,
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  Speaker 2: she was so excited and really her dream was to
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  Speaker 2: move to Montana to be closer to her son, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: and so she's just trying to figure out how the
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  Speaker 2: pieces would work, how she could make that happen very well,
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  Speaker 2: and she's trying to plan just talk it out. So
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  Speaker 2: they did, and she is so excited and she's feeling,
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  Speaker 2: you know, giddy. And Lindsay came home and she was
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  Speaker 2: so sad about it. She's like, just to see that
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  Speaker 2: joy in her face. Talking dreaming. We're never we never
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  Speaker 2: outgrew dreaming. Right.
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  Speaker 3: There's endorphins I think that are kind of released in
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  Speaker 3: your body when you're when you're so full of hope
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  Speaker 3: or you're dreaming about something. And you know, this made
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  Speaker 3: me think about something that we were so fortunate to have.
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  Speaker 3: We had a dad who was a dreamer, and I
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  Speaker 3: you know, you know before I'm kind of glad we
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  Speaker 3: didn't have phones and iPads when we were growing up
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  Speaker 3: because we did a lot of talking, a lot of
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  Speaker 3: dreaming in the car rides after church. Dad was one
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  Speaker 3: of those that wanted to hear our ideas about the future.
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  Speaker 3: So this is one thing that he did. He would say,
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  Speaker 3: I want y'all to tell me what when we have
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  Speaker 3: our mansion. We're going to have a mansion. Everybody's gonna
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  Speaker 3: have their own room, and we're going to have a compound,
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  Speaker 3: and we're all like dreaming about it. I want you
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  Speaker 3: to tell me what. What do you want your room
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  Speaker 3: to look like? And everybody was like, oh, well, I
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  Speaker 3: want you know, Kimberly would say, I want a disco
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  Speaker 3: ball with a jukebox, I want a stage, I want
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  Speaker 3: I want to counter that sells milkshakes, you know, and
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  Speaker 3: we're like and he's like, oh, that's fantastic. We could
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  Speaker 3: do that. We could definitely do that. You know, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not as creative, so I was like, I.
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  Speaker 2: Want what she said, a disco I don't.
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  Speaker 3: Like killing once and what I've noticed is because I
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  Speaker 3: didn't marry a dreamer, he's become more so one being
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  Speaker 3: married to me. Because when we started first started out,
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  Speaker 3: I was like, you know, I really want like a
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  Speaker 3: Zbo out here. I want this. And he was like, well,
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  Speaker 3: I may be working till ninety all these things that
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  Speaker 3: you want. And I said, Kevin, you have to understand
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  Speaker 3: when I'm dreaming, I know that probably not gonna end
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  Speaker 3: up having a lot of this stuff. It's so fun
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  Speaker 3: to dream. I just want you to listen. So now
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  Speaker 3: we do that. We talk about, oh, we're gonna have
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  Speaker 3: a cottage here for these grand babies, you know, that
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  Speaker 3: kind of thing. But it made me think about our elderly,
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  Speaker 3: especially the ones that are in the nursing homes. They
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  Speaker 3: don't These are people who have lives, full lives. They
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  Speaker 3: had dreams and aspirations. That sound like Kamlin when I
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  Speaker 3: say that, but they had dreams, they had hopes, they
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  Speaker 3: had families, they had values, they had a purpose, right
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  Speaker 3: and now they're laying in this bed and they don't
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  Speaker 3: feel like they have a purpose. If somebody would just
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  Speaker 3: listen to them, listen to their story, tell me, what
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  Speaker 3: did you do I talked to a man one time,
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  Speaker 3: and he was this engineer for this big company and
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  Speaker 3: he was an invalid and he could barely talk, and
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  Speaker 3: I thought, my gosh, he was with this company for
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  Speaker 3: thirty five years. He was one of the ones they
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  Speaker 3: looked to for answers. He was brilliant. All we have
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  Speaker 3: to do is take a minute and listen to their stories,
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  Speaker 3: validate that what they did had purpose that was beyond them,
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  Speaker 3: and imagine how that what that does for them on
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  Speaker 3: the inside, you know, because just I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: be that. I don't want to be there, to be
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  Speaker 3: living in a bed and a nursing home and not
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  Speaker 3: have anybody care who I.
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  Speaker 2: Was, just being home. Like this particular lady I'm talking about,
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  Speaker 2: she looks so forward to Mills on Wills because Mills
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  Speaker 2: and Wills is her only interaction with somebody every single day,
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  Speaker 2: and she gets so excited. Yes, but she said a
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  Speaker 2: lot of times to come in. She'll just sit and
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  Speaker 2: visit with her for a little while. So it makes
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  Speaker 2: me think that's probably an area that we should look at.
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  Speaker 3: Talk.
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  Speaker 2: If you know somebody that's older, just call, just talk
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  Speaker 2: to them, ask them advice. They love to give their advice,
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  Speaker 2: just do that part, that selfless little part.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love that story. If you like to ask our
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  Speaker 1: American mama is a question, go to our website americancou
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  Speaker 1: the Mama's button turning out of a Kimberly Brothers and
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you,