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Winning the War in Your Mind: Master Your Thoughts, Master Your Life · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: On the other end of suffering is a life that
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  Speaker 1: many people don't not even exist.
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  Speaker 2: It's a beautiful world because we because.
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  Speaker 1: Like the forty percent rule, we all live in this
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  Speaker 1: world where our brains are keeping us in this box.
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  Speaker 1: Outside that box, on the other edge of suffering, which
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  Speaker 1: is all the other of that forty percent, is a
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  Speaker 1: world that's endless of opportunity.
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  Speaker 2: But we are.
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  Speaker 1: Afraid to go outside that box because in that box
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  Speaker 1: it's comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: That's where all of our nice stuff.
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  Speaker 1: You know, that's where the nice four lane highways at.
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  Speaker 1: I know where the restrooms are at. I know where
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  Speaker 1: the gas stations are at. Outside that box, man, God
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  Speaker 1: gives you a shovel and says, man, start digging. That's
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  Speaker 1: not fun. But when you dig, you dig your own
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  Speaker 1: path to all kind of stuff that's unknown. And that's
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  Speaker 1: where I started realizing, man, like, on the other end
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  Speaker 1: of this it's some beautiful stuff. So I got outside
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  Speaker 1: my box andiese man, three hundred pounds now looking at me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a hunding eighty five pounds. On the other side
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  Speaker 1: of the box was all this stuff, and I know
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  Speaker 1: it was over there. So I climbed the wall and saw.
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  Speaker 2: I hated the water.
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  Speaker 3: Hated the water, and that was about being in that box.
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  Speaker 1: If I didn't give over my fear of being, you know,
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  Speaker 1: being in the water, I never be sealed. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: be up here right now. I have no story to
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  Speaker 1: share by me saying okay, ma'am, I'm afraid of the water,
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  Speaker 1: and that's kind of shackling my mind. It's by facing
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  Speaker 1: those things that's how you open up.
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  Speaker 2: Different doors of your life.
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  Speaker 1: Because all these things that we're afraid of the are
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  Speaker 1: doors that can possibly lead you to a whole of
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  Speaker 1: the world, but we keep them shut for fear, for insecurities.
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  Speaker 1: And that's one thing about tripling down on your weaknesses,
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  Speaker 1: so then those weaknesses end up becoming your strengths. No
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  Speaker 1: matter what I'm doing or which arena I'm engaging in,
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  Speaker 1: I will always aim for greatness because I know that
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  Speaker 1: we are all mere mortals, and greatness is possible for
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  Speaker 1: anyone and everyone if they were willing to seek it
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  Speaker 1: out in their own soul. In gogless terms, greatness is
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  Speaker 1: a state of letting go of all your faults and imperfections,
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  Speaker 1: scavenging every last bit of strength and energy, and putting
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  Speaker 1: it to use to excel at whatever you set your
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  Speaker 1: mind to, even if some mother were out there told
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  Speaker 1: you it was impossible. It is a feeling pursued by
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  Speaker 1: those rare souls willing to extend themselves beyond reason and
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  Speaker 1: pay the cost. In the late nineteen fifties, Captain Joseph
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  Speaker 1: Kiddinger was a pilot in the Air Force, tapped for
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  Speaker 1: experimental aviation and skydiving duty in New Mexico.
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  Speaker 3: He wasn't a household name.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, hardly anybody knew the first thing about him
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  Speaker 1: until August sixteenth, nineteen sixty, when he.
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  Speaker 3: Donned a red duct tape pressure suit.
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  Speaker 1: And boarded and open sided gondola tethered to an onion
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  Speaker 1: shaped helium balloon. He flew that rig nearly twenty miles
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  Speaker 1: high until he reached the thin atmospheric line where everything
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  Speaker 1: goes from blue to black. He traveled to a place
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  Speaker 1: where the horizon did not exist. He was above and
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  Speaker 1: beyond all previously known limitations. Suspended at one hundred two
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  Speaker 1: eight hundred feet, he unclipped his harness and stepped into space.
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  Speaker 1: His free fall lasted nearly five minutes. His maximum velocity
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  Speaker 1: with six hundred and fourteen miles per hour. He plummeted
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  Speaker 1: over eighty thousand vertical feet before his primary chewed opened.
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  Speaker 1: This was no Red Bull sponsor party. It wasn't a
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  Speaker 1: television show. Kiddinger wasn't an entertainer. He was an explorer,
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  Speaker 1: a seeker of a.
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  Speaker 3: New realm for the world.
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  Speaker 1: His flight and his jump helped make man's spaceflight possible,
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  Speaker 1: and also for himself.
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  Speaker 3: I don't jump to.
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  Speaker 1: Earth from outer space, but I know that atmospheric line
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  Speaker 1: between blue and black. It is the glimmer of greatness
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  Speaker 1: that runs right through the human soul.
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  Speaker 3: We all have it.
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  Speaker 1: Most of us will never see it because it get
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  Speaker 1: there requires a willingness to extend yourself to the limit
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  Speaker 1: without any guarantee of success. Then again, success is just
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  Speaker 1: another mile marker on the journey. Landing the jump and
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  Speaker 1: walking away while lighting a cigarette as if it were
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  Speaker 1: a typical day on the job.
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  Speaker 3: May ken your look cool, but it didn't make him great.
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  Speaker 1: His willingness to do it in the first place, knowing
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  Speaker 1: that the chances of failure were high and everything it
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  Speaker 1: cost him, made him great. It wasn't a stunt to
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  Speaker 1: garner fame or publicity. It was merely an attempt to
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  Speaker 1: see what was humanly possible. Just as words can be redefined,
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  Speaker 1: never doubt that we can redefine ourselves. It can feel
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  Speaker 1: impossible at times, because we live in a world filled
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  Speaker 1: with arbitrary boundaries and fixed social lines that are as
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  Speaker 1: thick as the walls around a fortress.
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  Speaker 3: Worse, we allow those walls to limit us in too
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  Speaker 3: many ways.
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  Speaker 1: The brainwashing starts early, and it starts at home, the
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  Speaker 1: people we grow up with and the environments we grow
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  Speaker 1: up in, to find.
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  Speaker 3: Who we think we are and what we think life
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  Speaker 3: is all about. When you're young, you can only know what.
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  Speaker 1: You see, and if all you are ever exposed to
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  Speaker 1: are lazy people content with mediocrity, or who convince you
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  Speaker 1: of your own worthlessness, greatness will remain a fantasy.
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  Speaker 2: So this is where the forty percent of rule comes in.
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  Speaker 2: People worst shape my entire life.
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  Speaker 1: I've been through Ranger school, Delta Force election twice, three
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  Speaker 1: hell weeks. All this crap. This is the worst pain
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  Speaker 1: I've ever been in to this day. I'm forty three
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  Speaker 1: years old right now to twenty one years in the military.
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  Speaker 1: I've done sixty ultra races. Pull up records all kind
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  Speaker 1: of stuff. This is the worst pain of my entire
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  Speaker 1: life to this day. But this is what I had
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  Speaker 1: to realize.
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  Speaker 2: One thing.
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  Speaker 1: I had to break this humongous thing down to be
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  Speaker 1: very small. All I put in my mind was, let's
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  Speaker 1: not quit yet. I'm gonna quit, but not yet.
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  Speaker 2: So I sat there. I can't stand up, so let's
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  Speaker 2: get some nutrition.
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  Speaker 1: All right, I'm not dizzy anymore. Let me clean this
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  Speaker 1: crap off me. Okay, I need some food.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna quit.
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  Speaker 3: After eat a pen and burns jay sandwich. All right,
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  Speaker 3: but not yet.
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  Speaker 2: Let me see if I can stand up, stand up,
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  Speaker 2: maybe I'll quit. Let me see if I can walk
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  Speaker 2: to the car. There's a car.
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  Speaker 1: It's a one mile track. I'll walk past the car.
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  Speaker 1: I'm justna get back to the chair. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: quit yet. I kept this mindset the whole time. I
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  Speaker 1: end up doing thirty more miles. Did thirty one miles.
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  Speaker 4: Truly.
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  Speaker 1: After that, I did one hundred and one miles and
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  Speaker 1: nineteen hours. If you drive the car, the car may
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  Speaker 1: say one hundred thirty miles an hour. The factory puts
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  Speaker 1: a governor on it, so you won't to go ninety one.
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  Speaker 1: So he's sitting there and erase somebody. They have no governor,
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  Speaker 1: They're fine.
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  Speaker 4: Boom.
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  Speaker 1: You can't because every time you get ninety one, the
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  Speaker 1: car starts doing this, starts doing this.
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  Speaker 2: We put a governor on our brain, and the second.
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  Speaker 1: We get to that governor, our body start doing this.
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  Speaker 2: Oh this sucks, this is uncomfortable. No no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: let's go this way, let's stop.
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  Speaker 1: It starts giving you all these questions that we cannot answer.
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  Speaker 1: If you can't answer the questions your brain's asking you,
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  Speaker 1: you quit.
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  Speaker 2: If you have the answers to those questions of why.
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  Speaker 1: The hell am I out here, and you give it
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  Speaker 1: a quick answer, the brain starts shutting up because it
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  Speaker 1: knows why we're doing what we're doing. I started figuring
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  Speaker 1: these things out in my life. So we have this
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  Speaker 1: governor on our brain, and how you start pushing past
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  Speaker 1: that governor, start realizing your brain has the tactical advantage
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  Speaker 1: over you. Why because it knows your insecurities, It knows
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  Speaker 1: when your line, and knows your fears, knows everything about you.
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  Speaker 1: And whenever those things started, like right now, I'm scared
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  Speaker 1: to death up here. Why when I was in sixth grade,
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  Speaker 1: I was in the play, and I stood it from
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  Speaker 1: a whole bunch of white people that probably didn't you
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  Speaker 1: know I was being judged in my mind. Scared the
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  Speaker 1: shit out of me, and I stuttered severely bad. Now
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  Speaker 1: I knew I started bad. My line was this long,
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  Speaker 1: it's like hello or some shit, and I stood up
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  Speaker 1: for everybody.
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  Speaker 2: I was like this, and I walked off stage.
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  Speaker 1: So when I walk up in front of it, twelve
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  Speaker 1: percent of people, it's still there. My mind's telling me,
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  Speaker 1: go run off the stage. I have to tell my
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  Speaker 1: mind something different. I have to remember my resume, what
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  Speaker 1: I've been through, that all of you.
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  Speaker 2: In here are just as stuff as me.
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  Speaker 1: We post our real life, never on Instagram. We post
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  Speaker 1: the life that we want to have out there. That's
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  Speaker 1: not me anymore. I'm gonna tell you exactly about me
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  Speaker 1: who I am. That's how you get better, that's how
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  Speaker 1: you fix it up, that's how you grow. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: move on real quick, to the very end of my story.
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  Speaker 1: I could be up here for a long time, but
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  Speaker 1: I need some questions. I did everything I talked about
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  Speaker 1: up here. I ran two hundred and five miles. I
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  Speaker 1: ran seven thousand miles and two thousand and seven to
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  Speaker 1: rates two million dollars for special operations Warrior Foundation. I
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  Speaker 1: did it all with a hole in my heart the
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  Speaker 1: size of a dime.
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  Speaker 2: So basically I was sick as hell and I ain't
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  Speaker 2: get into all of this.
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  Speaker 1: Once again, all these stories in my book, with all
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  Speaker 1: these takeaways that I have, that you know, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: a theorist.
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  Speaker 2: People. There's a bunch of people who are theorists who
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  Speaker 2: go to the library study the mind. They study it
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  Speaker 2: in a book. I studied it by being a practitioner.
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  Speaker 1: I put my mind in hell, and I realized how
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  Speaker 1: it was thinking, and I figured out tools and tactics
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  Speaker 1: on how to get through it by being in it,
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  Speaker 1: not by studying it, by being in it.
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  Speaker 2: And literally that's how I started callousing over real house.
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  Speaker 1: So I did what I did, sixty seven thousand pull
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  Speaker 1: ups in nine months, and it callossed my hands. It
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  Speaker 1: counts my hands real good to protect my hands against
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  Speaker 1: the bar. I started learning how to callss my mind,
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  Speaker 1: to callous over my victim's mentality.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what I did.
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  Speaker 1: If you live in the ghetto or in a dying
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  Speaker 1: industrial or farming town where buildings are boarded up, addiction
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  Speaker 1: runs rampant, and the schools are a mess that will
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  Speaker 1: factor into the possibilities. Others envision for you and you
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  Speaker 1: envision for yourself. But even privileged people can feel shackled
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  Speaker 1: by their circumstances. The vast majority of parents don't know
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  Speaker 1: what greatness looks like, so they are ill equipped and
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  Speaker 1: afraid to encourage big dreams. They want their children to
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  Speaker 1: have security and don't want them to experience failure. That's
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  Speaker 1: how limited horizons get passed down from generation to generation.
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  Speaker 1: Should we really be surprised that almost everybody has a
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  Speaker 1: knack for twisting their story to work against themselves.
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  Speaker 3: I hear it all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Privileged kids say I have too much, so I cannot
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  Speaker 1: develop the skills that you have. The kid that came
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  Speaker 1: from nothing will tell me I don't have enough, therefore
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  Speaker 1: I cannot.
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  Speaker 3: Develop the skills that you have.
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  Speaker 1: No matter where someone is in life, they never fail
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  Speaker 1: to confess why they can't get where they need to go.
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  Speaker 1: The minute they open their mouths, I see how limited
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  Speaker 1: their horizons are, and their sob stories come with the
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  Speaker 1: expectation that I will deliver a become great package to
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  Speaker 1: their front door.
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  Speaker 3: But that's not how it works.
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  Speaker 1: Identity is a trap that will keep you in blinders
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  Speaker 1: if you let it. Sometimes identity is what we are
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  Speaker 1: saddled with by society. Other times it's a category we claim.
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  Speaker 1: It can be empowering to associate yourself with a particular culture, group, job,
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  Speaker 1: or lifestyle.
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  Speaker 3: But it can also be limiting.
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  Speaker 1: If you stick with your own too closely, you will
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  Speaker 1: be susceptible to group think and you may never learn
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  Speaker 1: who you really are or what you can accomplish. I
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  Speaker 1: know people who were so obsessed with landing a specific
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  Speaker 1: job that once they settled into that role, they clipped
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  Speaker 1: their own wings. They never moved on or attempted to
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  Speaker 1: try anything new, and that blocked them from evolving developing news.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes we are misled by others who categorize us based
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  Speaker 1: on what they perceive as our identity. When I met
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  Speaker 1: with Navy recruiters, several tried to steer me away from
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  Speaker 1: seal training and into a different opportunity because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: fit the mold. I was overweight, my ASVAB scores were low,
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  Speaker 1: and there was my skin color. Remember I was only
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  Speaker 1: the thirty six black Navy seal. The recruiters weren't trying
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  Speaker 1: to hurt me, and I don't believe they were racist.
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  Speaker 1: They honestly thought they were helping me by presenting more
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  Speaker 1: realistic options. Usually, however, we mislead ourselves. Those of us
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  Speaker 1: who are struggling with our self worth like I was
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  Speaker 1: as a child, often build identities around the very things
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  Speaker 1: that haunt us the most, not because we want to,
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  Speaker 1: but because subconsciously we are convinced that.
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  Speaker 3: Is how everyone else sees us.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot allow what someone else may or may not
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  Speaker 1: think about you or the issues you're dealing.
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  Speaker 3: With to stop your progress.
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  Speaker 1: My environment and my history made me over anxious and
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  Speaker 1: stressed out.
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  Speaker 3: The color of my skin made me a mark. I
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  Speaker 3: was prejudged and.
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  Speaker 1: Vulnerable at almost every turn, and it was my job
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  Speaker 1: to defy all of that.
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  Speaker 3: No matter how troubled or hopeless or sheltered your.
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  Speaker 1: Environment is, it is your job, your obligation, your duty,
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  Speaker 1: and your responsibility to yourself to find the blue to
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  Speaker 1: black line that glimmer buried in your soul and seek greatness.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody can show you that glimmer. You must do the
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  Speaker 1: work to discover it on your own. There are no prerequisites.
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  Speaker 1: To becoming great.
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  Speaker 3: You could be raised by a pack of wolves.
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  Speaker 1: You could be homeless and illiterate at thirty years old
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  Speaker 1: and graduate from Harvard at forty. You could be one
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  Speaker 1: of the most accomplished individuals in the country and still
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  Speaker 1: be hungrier and work harder than everybody else you know
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  Speaker 1: as you attempt conquer new field. And it all starts
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  Speaker 1: with a commitment to looking beyond your known world, beyond
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  Speaker 1: your street, town, state, or nationality, beyond culture and identity.
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  Speaker 1: Only then can true self exploration begin.
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  Speaker 3: After that comes to real work.
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  Speaker 1: Fighting those demons every morning and all day long is
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  Speaker 1: maddening because they only ever.
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  Speaker 3: Want to break you down.
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  Speaker 1: They don't encourage you or make you feel good about
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  Speaker 1: yourself or your long odds. As you fight through all
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  Speaker 1: the toxic mold and crust that is self hate, doubt,
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  Speaker 1: and loneliness, they want to limit you. They want you
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  Speaker 1: to surrender and retreat back to what you know. They
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  Speaker 1: want you to quit before you get to pliability, where
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  Speaker 1: the sacrifice, hard work, and isolation that felt so heavy
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  Speaker 1: for so.
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  Speaker 3: Long become your haven.
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  Speaker 1: Where after struggling to visualize greatness for years, it is effortless.
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  Speaker 1: That's when momentum will gather like an updraft and send
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  Speaker 1: you airborne and spiraling towards the outer limits of your
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  Speaker 1: known world.
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  Speaker 3: Time to level up and seek.
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  Speaker 1: Out that blue to black line, the line that separates
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  Speaker 1: good from great.
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  Speaker 3: It is within each one of us.
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  Speaker 2: I believe that we are our own hero.
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  Speaker 1: And if you have a culture, let's save right now,
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  Speaker 1: you guys, idolize me, and then tomorrow I go outside
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  Speaker 1: and I.
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  Speaker 2: Have some kind of issue. I can let you down.
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  Speaker 2: I'm human, all your mentors, everybody you like, we're human.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta put yourself on that pedestal, hold yourself to
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  Speaker 1: a higher standard, hold yourself accountable, and then look up
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  Speaker 1: to yourself. I'm not saying kiss your own ass, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, hold yourself to a standard and look with
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  Speaker 1: inside yourself and try to be the best you can be.
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  Speaker 2: We start trying to mimic somebody else. Don't be them,
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  Speaker 2: be you.
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  Speaker 4: And that's kind of my mindset.
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  Speaker 2: No, no,