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Why 5 million men took their own lives in the past decade · Council of Kings

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  SPEAKER_00: Five million men on earth took their own lives in the last decade.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let that land for a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Statistics estimate that five million men on earth took their own lives,
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  SPEAKER_00: wiped themselves off the planet in the last decade,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the last 10 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five million.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five million.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are men in such deep despair?
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  SPEAKER_00: To put it simply, it's because they are disconnected.
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  They're disconnected from themselves,
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  from nature,
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  from other men,
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  from their families.
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  And most foundationally,
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  they're disconnected from their own heart of hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're disconnected from God.
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  They are disconnected from a transcendent and imminent love and
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  grace that is
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  SPEAKER_00: all-pervading,
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  SPEAKER_00: that is here with us now,
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  SPEAKER_00: that is with each one of us in our hearts,
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  SPEAKER_00: the home in our heart of hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men have been systematically disconnected in countless ways,
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  disconnected and alienated from themselves and from the truth
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  of their being.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is what has resulted in such widespread masculine despair.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's many other reasons too,
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  SPEAKER_00: but this foundational disconnection,
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  SPEAKER_00: this foundational disconnection from life,
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  truly central from life and from divinity and men lack role
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  models that can show
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  SPEAKER_00: them how to restore this connection and
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  This is why men need spaces where they can be in a space of
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  unconditional love,
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  SPEAKER_00: unconditional trust,
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  SPEAKER_00: and unconditional safety with men who they respect,
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  SPEAKER_00: with men who can truly be loved.
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  Role models for them can be brothers for them,
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  can be loving sparring partners with them.
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  Men remember what connection feels like by truly connecting to
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  other heart-led men.
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  Men remember what connection to God and their own heart of
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  hearts and grace feels
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  SPEAKER_00: like by connecting
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  deeply connecting to men who are embodying and incarnating that
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  connection to
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  SPEAKER_00: grace,
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  SPEAKER_00: to love,
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  SPEAKER_00: to divinity,
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  SPEAKER_00: to infinity through their own heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why men are desperately in need of good,
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  SPEAKER_00: solid men's spaces,
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  SPEAKER_00: men's circles,
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  SPEAKER_00: and beyond that,
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  SPEAKER_00: men's training grounds,
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  SPEAKER_00: men's
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  SPEAKER_00: Leadership incubators where men can be, yes, held in love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes,
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  witnessed as they share the full spectrum of their life and
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  truth and the skeletons
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  SPEAKER_00: in their closet.
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  And they let it all out into the light of pure love so it can
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  all be alchemized,
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  SPEAKER_00: released,
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  SPEAKER_00: relinquished and transfigured.
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  SPEAKER_00: but then taking it a step further,
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  SPEAKER_00: not stopping at merely sharing and witnessing,
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  SPEAKER_00: but then developing a sense of a collective mission with one's brothers,
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  SPEAKER_00: a collective build,
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  SPEAKER_00: a collective purpose,
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  SPEAKER_00: a sense that,
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  SPEAKER_00: yes,
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  SPEAKER_00: we as men are here on earth at this time for a reason,
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  SPEAKER_00: and we've got our work cut out for us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Brothers, look around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our civilization is in disarray.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's plagued by countless travesties of war,
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  SPEAKER_00: of mass abuse,
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  SPEAKER_00: of mass torture,
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  SPEAKER_00: rape,
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  SPEAKER_00: and other things too unspeakable to even name here.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is an ungodly sum of rot and sewage and cancer
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  in the underbelly of your society,
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  and you know it,
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  you feel it,
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  you sense it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we as men are called to help bring the purest love into those spaces,
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  SPEAKER_00: into that calcified gunk,
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  SPEAKER_00: that rot,
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  SPEAKER_00: to bring it all into the inferno of pure grace,
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  SPEAKER_00: which knows what to do with all of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: can be offered up to the inferno of pure grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything can be alchemized, can be transfigured, and we physically can
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  SPEAKER_00: also help in direct, tangible ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can help by cleaning up our local communities.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can help by volunteering.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can help by serving.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can help by being there for our families.
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  We can help by being good friends and sons and brothers and
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  grandsons and fathers and husbands.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are countless ways that we can help.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can help by creating mission-driven, purpose-driven organizations.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what men need,
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  SPEAKER_00: first and foremost,
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  SPEAKER_00: it can feel overwhelming to contemplate all the possibilities.
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  SPEAKER_00: So men need role models.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need to be in spaces with other brothers together.
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  SPEAKER_00: who have done the things that they're being called into,
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  SPEAKER_00: or similar things,
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  SPEAKER_00: or are walking the same path alongside them,
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  SPEAKER_00: are walking the path of courage,
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  of consistently meeting one's edge and stepping beyond one's
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  comfort zone to bring
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  SPEAKER_00: forth the next layer of one's calling,
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  SPEAKER_00: of one's purpose,
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  SPEAKER_00: to say,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  what this world needs is a lot more important than my own sense
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  of fear and my own
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  SPEAKER_00: sense of
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  what will people think and will people judge me if I speak my
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  truth and if I live
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  SPEAKER_00: this mission right now?
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  It helps so much to be in a field of courage with fellow
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  brothers who are taking
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  SPEAKER_00: those steps,
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  SPEAKER_00: taking the steps to walk the path of truth,
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  relinquishing any care or concern about whether someone might
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  think you're crazy or
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  SPEAKER_00: whether someone might judge you because your mission is
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  The children are so much more important than whatever somebody
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  might think or some
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  SPEAKER_00: social media comment or some relatives whispering behind your back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just go for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go for the damn thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever your heart truly calls you to do, take steps in that direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take steps to be the medicine this world needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: This world is crying out for good brothers, crying out for good fathers,
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  SPEAKER_00: shepherds, stewards, guardians, and really true kings.
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  SPEAKER_00: The king archetype has been massively distorted in our culture.
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  SPEAKER_00: A true king is not a grandiose,
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  SPEAKER_00: egoic man who fetishizes fame and riches and casual sex and grandiosity.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, a true king is a humble servant, a humble servant.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why Jesus Christ is called the King of Kings.
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  SPEAKER_00: He put everyone else before himself.
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  SPEAKER_00: He made the ultimate sacrifice for everyone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: He was a humble servant, a good shepherd.
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  SPEAKER_00: He gave his life to service.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a great man, Remy Delon, once told me, freedom is the fruit of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: True freedom is the fruit of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: As men,
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  SPEAKER_00: we are innately drawn to freedom,
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  SPEAKER_00: but our culture has hoodwinked us into thinking that freedom is
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  SPEAKER_00: is to simply be able to do whatever you want,
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  SPEAKER_00: whenever you want and gratify your personal desires.
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  But that is a fast track to despair because when we're only
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  focused on ourselves
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  SPEAKER_00: and gratifying our personal desires,
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  SPEAKER_00: we're missing the whole point.
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  Freedom is when we give our lives over to something greater
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  than ourselves and we
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  SPEAKER_00: feel the joy of being in true alignment,
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  SPEAKER_00: being breathed by divinity,
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  SPEAKER_00: being breathed by grace,
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  SPEAKER_00: being breathed by love,
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  SPEAKER_00: not focusing on ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: focusing on everyone else who needs us,
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  SPEAKER_00: everyone else who needs the medicine that only we can bring forth,
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  who needs our masculine solidity and uprightness and honor and
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  inner nobility and
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  SPEAKER_00: integrity.
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  giving your life over to the all-pervading love that God is,
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  that is what true freedom is.
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  SPEAKER_00: To give your life to that, to be breathed by that, to be devoted to that.
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  And for all my love for men's circles and men's work and men's
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  spaces on the earth,
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  SPEAKER_00: this is something that I've seen missing in men's work.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of it is too...
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  secularized it's too psychologized it's too modernized it's
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  missing that element
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  that ancient element of true faith and true devotion truly
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  giving your life over to
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  the almighty it's missing the very clear unmistakable statement
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  that yes god is
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  SPEAKER_00: real the one infinite creator is real
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  God's love is the answer we're looking for and giving your life
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  over to that love,
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  SPEAKER_00: giving your life over to that grace,
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  SPEAKER_00: dying to who you've been,
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  letting who you've been burn away in the inferno of that loving
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  grace such that you
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  SPEAKER_00: are sanctified,
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  SPEAKER_00: you are transfigured,
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  SPEAKER_00: you enter into ever deepening communion,
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  SPEAKER_00: participation,
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  SPEAKER_00: divinization,
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  SPEAKER_00: revelation,
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  SPEAKER_00: where you
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  SPEAKER_00: God is inexhaustible.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is no final attainment.
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  SPEAKER_00: You remain forever humble because God always has more to show you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every moment is a revelation.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the true ignition of a man's soul and spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what brings a man to life, what brings him to the true freedom to
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  SPEAKER_00: Choose to give himself,
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  SPEAKER_00: to surrender himself,
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  SPEAKER_00: to give himself to the world through self-giving love,
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  SPEAKER_00: to give himself to his kids,
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  SPEAKER_00: to his wife,
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  SPEAKER_00: to his family,
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  SPEAKER_00: to his friends,
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  SPEAKER_00: to his community,
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  SPEAKER_00: to this earth,
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  SPEAKER_00: to this earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is what, in men's heart of hearts, that is what they're longing for.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're longing for that peace of devotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're longing to find something worth devoting their lives to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's sitting right in front of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's in the forest.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's in the churches.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's in their families.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's sparkling in their children's eyes.
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  But men have been systematically disconnected from their hearts
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  and from their own
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  SPEAKER_00: sensitivity and systematically traumatized.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we need spaces where we can peel back the layers,
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  SPEAKER_00: where we can get radically honest,
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  SPEAKER_00: where we can be in the field,
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  SPEAKER_00: in a field of embodied presence with other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: inspiring men,
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  SPEAKER_00: masculine leaders,
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  SPEAKER_00: men you respect,
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  SPEAKER_00: men who embody principles that you yourself are called to embody.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is how we can learn these things.
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  This is how we as men can begin to open our hearts and activate
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  our power,
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  SPEAKER_00: our primordial primal power under love,
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  SPEAKER_00: under God,
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  SPEAKER_00: give it all to God,
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  SPEAKER_00: give it all to love,
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  SPEAKER_00: God-led power,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the name of truth,
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  SPEAKER_00: to bring forth our legacies,
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  SPEAKER_00: our missions,
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  SPEAKER_00: our projects,
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  SPEAKER_00: our purposes,
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  for the highest good of the children and of all beings on this
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  earth and in all
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  SPEAKER_00: worlds,
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  SPEAKER_00: for the end of all wars,
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  SPEAKER_00: and for the realization of our true potential as a species.
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  SPEAKER_00: God became man so that man might become God, as they say in Christianity.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are invited to
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  walk the path of becoming godlike it's a gift beyond fathoming
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  a gift beyond
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  SPEAKER_00: fathoming that we are invited to be sanctified to be transfigured in the
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  all-pervading loving light of pure grace the highest light
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  which has no opposite
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  the inmost light which has no opposite which holds transcends
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  and includes both
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  SPEAKER_00: light and dark which when all polarities are held within that love they
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  SPEAKER_00: They harmonize.
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  They become akin to twin dragons spiraling like a DNA helix in
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  harmony with one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: All aspects,
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  SPEAKER_00: all polarities,
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  SPEAKER_00: all of life,
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  SPEAKER_00: we are being called to hold it all in the silent love,
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  the pure loving presence of God which is always with us and yet
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  which we've become
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  SPEAKER_00: too distracted to see.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've become so desensitized and so
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  addicted to thought and addicted to our mundane concerns and
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  living a life fixated
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  SPEAKER_00: on the past or future that we are missing the eternal now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: We found it.
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  We are missing this sprawling,
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  ever-present Eureka,
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  this God-gasmic jubilation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's here.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's here, the now.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's here, the kingdom of now, the kingdom of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what we as men are being called to reconnect to,
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  SPEAKER_00: to feel in our hearts,
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  to learn how to hold all of life and everything within
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  ourselves within that field
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  SPEAKER_00: of ever-present divine love,
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  SPEAKER_00: divine grace,
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  SPEAKER_00: all-pervading infinity.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the deepest work that we as men are called to do on this earth.
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  And we are called to find compassionate sparring partners who
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  can help us to
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  shape ourselves and embody the virtues and values of true
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  humble Kings on this earth.
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  uprightness clarity honor vision devotion integrity strength
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  courage groundedness
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  rootedness being like the mighty sequoia rooted so deep to the
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  earth to the molten
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  core of Gaia so that you can extend your mighty branches unto
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  the highest heavens
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  SPEAKER_00: centered in the heart of hearts bridging
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  SPEAKER_00: imminence and transcendence,
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  SPEAKER_00: bridging earth and sky,
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  being that solid pillar of divine luminosity on this earth for
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  the highest good of
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  SPEAKER_00: all beings,
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  SPEAKER_00: for the highest good of all beings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each man in his heart of hearts,
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  SPEAKER_00: I would humbly suggest,
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  SPEAKER_00: is called toward his own unique expression of that,
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  SPEAKER_00: his own unique expression of being that pillar,
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  SPEAKER_00: being that mighty sequoia,
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  SPEAKER_00: And that,
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  SPEAKER_00: brothers,
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  SPEAKER_00: is the work that we do within Council of Kings,
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  SPEAKER_00: the men's leadership organization that I founded in 2022.
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  SPEAKER_00: I spent about 200 hours this winter.
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  evolving and building the next chapter of this organization i'm
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  proud of what's
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  come through i'm excited about what's come through i've now sat
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  in 500 men's
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  circles myself i've led 350 of those myself along with several
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  men's retreats in
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  different countries this work is sacred to me this work means
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  so much to my heart
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  I can't tell you the love I have for these brothers who sit in
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  the fire with me,
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  SPEAKER_00: who sit and cultivate this bonfire of ever innocent love together,
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  week in and week out training to give everything to the bonfire
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  and to sharpen each
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  SPEAKER_00: other,
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  to embody the virtues and values that allow us to truly live
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  and actualize our
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  SPEAKER_00: mission,
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  SPEAKER_00: our purpose on this earth for the good of all.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the nature of the work that we do, gentlemen.
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  SPEAKER_00: So thank you for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for contemplating.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this sparks something in you,
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  SPEAKER_00: brother,
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  SPEAKER_00: if this sparks something in you,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: you have an option here.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could forget this video.
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  You could go open another social media app or open Pornhub or
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  something and just
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  fall into further distraction or you could take action on this
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  you could drop a
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  comment and let me know what you felt you could say send me the
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  vision i want to
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  SPEAKER_00: see the vision for the new chapter of council of kings you could go start
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  researching other men's circles other great men's spaces
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  there's many of them out
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  there if you don't feel that our space is for you feel welcome
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  to ask me and i'm
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  SPEAKER_00: happy to refer you and recommend you to
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  SPEAKER_00: other beautiful men's training spaces that are out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's something out there for every guy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't just listen to this and just make it just another thing you saw.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take action on this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look for a men's space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look for a space with good men to help in your formation,
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  SPEAKER_00: to help in your training,
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  SPEAKER_00: to give you role models of men that you respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take an action today after watching this to further your own growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do a set of push-ups.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a cold shower.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go for a jog in the woods.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do something to invigorate yourself.
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  a pattern disrupt to start signaling to your system that
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  something is changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: A new chapter is emerging.
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  SPEAKER_00: This year is a new chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the year that I transform.
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  This is the year that prior identities fall away and burn away
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  and are offered to
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  SPEAKER_00: the kiln,
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  SPEAKER_00: the bonfire,
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  SPEAKER_00: the forge,
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  so that I can give my life over to my deepest truth on ever
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  deepening levels and
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  SPEAKER_00: become the man who I am meant to be on this earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is my challenge to you, brothers.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is my call to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Much love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peace, infinity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hallelujah.
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  May we set the kids free for the highest good of all beings and
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  all wars in all worlds.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peace be with us all.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: God be with us all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peace be with you,
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  SPEAKER_00: brethren,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the name of the Father,
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  SPEAKER_00: Son,
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  SPEAKER_00: and Holy Spirit,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the name of nameless infinity,
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  SPEAKER_00: nameless infinite divine love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go forth in peace to love and serve the Lord of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks be to God.
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  SPEAKER_00: God bless you.
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  SPEAKER_00: God bless you.