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Men Helping Men Video Podcast Episode 1 · Men Helping Men

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Welcome to MEN Help You MEN. I mean, it's Kevin Anderson
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here. This is our first episode of our
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podcast series here going live. We have our executive producer,
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Brandon Ortiz joining us tonight and Pastor Doug Chong, pastor of
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Christville Ministries and the founder of Men Helping Men.
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Tonight's topic of a discussion for us is relationship with God.
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And what does it mean to have a relationship with God going back
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to the very beginning, right? Doug?
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Talk about our relationship with God starting way back in the
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creation of who God created us. Right, Kevin.
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And The thing is, it's it's I was missing the mark a large
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portion of my ministry in life, about 25 years walking when God
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thought I was. I started off as a Catholic 1st
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and not really knowing how to build a relationship, just
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following the rules. You know, growing up, my dad was
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a retired police officer. So it's basically do what he
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says or else and transferring over to God.
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It was the same thing. Obey, obey, obey.
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But the difference is you're supposed to do it by faith.
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We're saved by grace, your faith, not by work.
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See the works is what really confused me.
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What does that mean? You know I'm working.
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I don't know. Do I not work?
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Do I do nothing? And they say Jesus paid for it
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all. So when they throw the word free
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in there, free means that to order something from Amazon,
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they drop it in the garage, you pick it up, put it in my hand,
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it didn't cost me anything. I didn't do anything that's
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free. So very, very confusing though.
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What is my role? If I'm digging A trench out in
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the back because God says to do it, how do I know I'm not like
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doing it when I was working for my dad and doing it by works,
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I'm doing it by faith. How do I know the difference?
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Is it just by saying I'm doing it by faith or do I have to feel
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chicken skin or what do I what? How do I know that I'm I'm not
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one of those guys on the Broad Rd. doing?
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Things by works and. Matthew 721 through 23.
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Jesus. Says I never made.
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And I couldn't understand and I was confused because every
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single church I go to, every pastor I talk to, he says the
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same thing. They don't know.
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And I didn't know so until I had to figure it out.
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Right. And you know, that narrow road
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and that 791314 you know there's a way which you know, you know
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where to walk. And a lot of the churches today,
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you know, talk about who said free gift at some nation and it
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said that say for everything somehow that's the that's the
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opportunity for you to have your life right before God.
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And somehow just saying that for everything, it's going to be
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hung the door from there and your life is going to be
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magical. Somehow you're going to crunch
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your way into heaven. But of course, we know that's
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not the truth because subsequently after it 13 it
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talks about the broad globe goes into 14.
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Then the road to heaven is an arrow, and few that be that find
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it right. Yeah.
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So why is it that few to be to find it?
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Out right, going, going to back to the basics, but back to
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creation. Why did God create Adam?
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Now he had legions of angels saying holy, holy, holy as the
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Lord. So he had people to worship him.
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He had people to do whatever he wanted them to do.
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So I couldn't understand. You're in, you're out.
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Do this, do that, do this for a creative God that created my
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fingerprints. Another 8 billion people.
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I'm the only one with the finger, His fingerprints, taste
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buds, my colored HD vision. Where I can enjoy His creation.
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I can enjoy the food he created. That's a creative creator.
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So why did He create us in his own image?
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He didn't create the angels in his own image.
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Same reason why we were children, because the person I
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love the most, my, my wife, Lilia, half of her, half of me,
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part of God is in us. We're not God's, but part of
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God's characteristics, his character is in US.
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So he wanted to spend time with Adam in in the garde of Eden and
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that's why he created Adam. So he spent according to God's
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Word every day with Adam, face to face.
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Now when sin came into the world, what happened?
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That relationship was broken like that.
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And from that moment on, we've been separated from God because
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of that sin. We haven't had that relationship
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with God. And there's, you know, coming up
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to, of course, you know, why Jesus came here for that, for
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that reason was to make the sacrifice for our lives too,
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build that up, have that opportunity for us to build that
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relationship with God again, wiping away our sin and dying in
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the crossroads. So, you know, Doug used the word
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free when we first started talking.
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So certainly if we're going to call ourselves a Christian, we
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can assume identify that you can get this very free.
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Correct, correct. And the, the free gift when they
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say the word free in the new Living Translation that is not
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in the original Greek text. The translator's added that.
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And to me it's overkill because gift already it's not earned.
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Who earns a gift? That's like me giving you a car
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that's a gift and the car's worth 50,000.
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And I say, OK, you, you, you got to work off 60,000.
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It's no longer a gift, right? Right.
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So a gift is, is exactly that you don't earn it.
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It's a given item, right transaction.
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So when they say the word free, what does Americans think free
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is? We don't do anything to receive
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it. But in Luke 14, Jesus says hunt
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costs. Whoever wants to save their life
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will lose it. Whoever loses their life for my
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sake will save their life. So it costs us our life.
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Rich young ruler Matthew 19. They said I, I, I didn't murder.
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I honor my mother and father. I don't lie.
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I don't steal. You want to be perfect, give
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away everything you have. And he walked away sad because
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he had much. Why not just say the prayer?
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Why didn't Jesus say, just say this prayer?
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Just believe I did it all. I'm going to do it all so you're
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safe. No, he had to sacrifice
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everything just like us. And the sacrifice isn't just
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giving it away and not not being attached to it.
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It's being attached to Jesus more than we're attached to
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anything else. Anybody else?
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God, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely.
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You know, we were talking this morning, Doug and our fellowship
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about, you know, if a husband and wife is having a problem,
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you know, in their marriage, you know, you know, typical
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counseling, you know, pastors counseling or regular counseling
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would say, you know, you know, take your wife on a date more,
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you know, love her more. Do all these things, these
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works, as it were. But in reality, Doug, you know,
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the, the, the aha moment for me this morning was, was not by
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doing all these works things was actually Doug, was by having
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that intimate relationship with God, getting our love source for
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men first. And then when we're equipped
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with that love and our relationship with God first,
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then we can actually have to love our wives like Christ loves
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the church. Correctly.
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Correct. Because we're born with a
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defective heart. It's like I grew up when I was
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born. I had asthma when I was younger.
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Not because I was a chain smoker in my mother's womb.
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It's because I inherited it, right?
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It was in the family line, so I was born with it and we're born
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with sin. It's in the family line, so when
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we're born with sin, the sin needs to be purged from us.
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Well, you can't purge all the sin, but the foolishness in our
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hearts needs to be purged from us.
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Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child with a rather
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disciplined legit far from Proverbs 2215.
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Train a child in the way they should go and when they are old
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they will not turn from the Proverbs 22/6.
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So our parents are supposed to set the boundaries according to
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God and keep us, encourage us, teach us the value of staying in
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the boundaries. What's the purpose, what's the
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reason? Do we have a a dictator of a God
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cracking the whip? Or when I sideswiped the
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guardrail and it scratched my nice black car and I'm kicking
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the guardrail and then I look over it's 100 foot Cliff on the
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other side of that guardrail. That guardrail just saved my
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life. I'm now hitting the guardrail.
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So it looks like it's doing a lot of damage, but it actually
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is saving our five spots. The man spots, boundaries, so to
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speak. Until what?
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Until our heart is changed because our heart is deceitful
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above all things and beyond pure.
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Jeremiah 17, nine. So until we're transformed,
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Romans 12/2, do not conform any longer to the pattern of this
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world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, heart,
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innermost thoughts and feeling. Then you'll be able to test and
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approve God's perfect will. So as His word starts to
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uncalled, the arteries of our hearts remove the hurt from our
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hearts because our parents did teach us how to guard our
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hearts, not blaming them, just recognizing no mark 721 through
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23. The heart is wicked, it's evil.
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You can't trust your heart. When the people say trust your
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heart, don't trust your heart, trust God's.
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Word trust God's word exactly right and so Doug, it's one of
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the things that Christ built ministries is that we don't just
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have a random way of actually building a relationship with
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God. We actually, there's a strategy
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by which to follow to actually develop that daily intimate
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relationship with God because you know, as I have mentioned
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before in our fellowships, you know how I used to approach
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reading God's word was I open it up and you know, O Holy Spirit,
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lead me to the word that I need to hear for today.
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I think I pointed my finger out and read, well, of course that
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didn't do any hard change at all for me, but I didn't do any hard
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transformation and it certainly didn't build any trust for me me
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to have a daily relationship with God.
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So, Doug, talk to us about the actual strategic way by which we
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have a daily routine to do that. I know just just like reading
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any book or listening it, it, it's there's a strategy behind
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it. For instance, if I say trunk,
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you don't know what I'm talking about.
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So if I just say the word trunk, you're going to lean on your own
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understanding to add in the rest of the words and you could say,
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OK, he's talking about a tree trunk.
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He's talking about a trunk from a car.
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If I don't put context around it, you won't know what the
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meaning of a word is. Point I'm making is that's what
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people do with scripture. They take pieces of scripture
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and they have it stand alone and then they add around, which is
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how they misinterpret scripture, myself included, a time back in
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the day. Now, what is Satan's biggest
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weapon? Reception.
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Reception, he's going to make you think you're interpreting it
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correctly and you're interpreting it wrong.
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So it's learning how to interpret God's word properly.
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Going back to the basics. So Brandon has a Bible basics.
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Hold that up, Brandon, the Bible basics.
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So the Bible basics is the start of our, of our, our training.
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This is to teach you how to interpret the Bible properly and
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read the five the five points. The five points are #1 Find the
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right Bible. So it's finding the right Bible.
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There's different translations. There's the the literal word for
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word for literal for literal flesh.
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Flesh means sinful nature. Then there's the dynamic, the
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NIV, the ESV is is the NISB is the is the literal, the dynamic
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NIV where they go instead of fruit of the womb, pregnant
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flesh, sinful nature. So they changed the words into
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today's terminology where we can understand it.
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And the last? Type.
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The last type is free. Is free or paraphrase.
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So free or paraphrase the message, the living Bible.
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Some people say that's not a translation because we're adding
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more human words onto God's divine words, which is can be
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dangerous because it can change the meaning if you put in too
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much words. And again, they're translating
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it to learn. To teach is to cause to learn.
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So we read the Bible to learn. So if we have thou shall not,
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you know, and and fruit of the womb, we don't know what that
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means. We don't speak in that old
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English type of language and it's a struggle to just read and
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you're going to have a dictionary next to you.
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It's like, forget about it. So you want a translation where
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people can understand, you can understand and it's still
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accurate. So those are the different types
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of translations that we teach you what each one is for and how
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to pick the right one, so to speak.
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Two. Yeah #2 is know the Old
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Testament versus the New Testament.
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And what's the difference between the two?
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Old Testament, Old covenant, old agreement?
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Primarily we're watching and looking at God, how he interacts
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with his people, what he loves, what he hates, how the people
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turned on him, worshipped other gods.
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Even King Solomon, who was the wisest person at the time,
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married into other other cultures, other nations and
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worshipped their gods. So we pull our lessons too of
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make sure we don't do that. Watch out when when we're around
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other belief systems, so to speak, and how God must have
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felt when they turn their back on you, not just turn their back
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on him, but worship other gods, other false gods.
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It's just like adultery. You're a spouse cheating on you.
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I mean the pain. I'm saying level so I can feel
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the pain and I see the grace where he didn't just wipe them
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all out and start again, wipe them off, start again, wipe them
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off, start again. You have a lot of grace and
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mercy. So New Testament is so God is
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the hero of the Old Testament, New Testament, Jesus, Gospels,
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Holy Spirit, the books, the the letters of epistles, Romans,
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First Corinthians, Second Corinthians.
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So you see different Jesus saying he's the Messiah, he's
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God in the flesh giving up his attributes now coming as a man
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and showing us how to walk through this sinful world.
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Being sinless and dying on the cross was taking our place.
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Now take me my place for what? So we can build a relationship
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with God? What was lost?
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Adam and Eve's relationship with God.
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Why 'cause he's holy. It's like having a A federal
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judge has his home and if he has a drug dealer living with you,
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what will people think? They would they would they would
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fire you. You cannot cohabitate with a a
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criminal when you're supposed to be the pillar of justice.
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God cannot change himself. Can God do anything?
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No, no, no. He cannot lie, He cannot sin.
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See, that's the catch. That's the con.
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Yeah, buddy. Yeah.
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You can do anything. You cannot lie.
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He was 618. It's impossible for God to lie.
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They say. Oh, he just.
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He just wouldn't. No, no, he can't.
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He can't change who he is. He can't change His Holiness.
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So he can't slide people in the back door because he cares about
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them. That's why it's so important.
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The cross is so important to remember why he sent Jesus.
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It's to build a relationship with them now.
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It's not because I read my Bible.
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That's how I build a relationship.
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Listening to His word is why I get into heaven.
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It's when I love Him with all my heart and mind, soul and
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strength. That's where the trust comes.
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Now that type of trust through love is what gets me into the
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door of heaven, so to speak. How do I how do you love
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somebody? How do you love your spouse?
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Why do you love your children? Is because the time you spend,
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yeah, knowing their character, their personality, you get, you
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know, people more by listening, not praying, not talking.
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So again, the main bullseye focus is relationship.
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Don't you have one of the comments you you make up a lot
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of the time, but really, really, really made sense to me as I
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started approaching building my daily relationship with guys.
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He asked me, though, because I had the opportunity to sit with
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somebody who I deeply admired and looked up to and was like,
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wow. And I had an hour with them.
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What would they give me? More talking with them or would
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I do for? Listening.
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Of course, the answer is a fear of listening.
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And that is what reading God's word is, is we're not to take
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and, and and and talk to God. Would it read and let him talk
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to us that that word speak to us and, and, and how do we do that,
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though? We have a a process by which we
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learn how to accurately interpret that.
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So we're not saying what does it mean to me, but what does God's
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word say in a relationship and how to build 1 daily
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relationship with. Right, so Old Testament, New
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Testament 3. And three is identify the genre
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and theme of the book. Different types of of 66 books,
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different type of genres, just like watching TV, drama, action,
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comedy. So there's different ways to
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interpret different books and remembering that's not directly
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written to us, it's written to the Israelites, the Gentiles,
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the Jews. And do does it?
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Is it for us too? Yes, it is, but we have to take
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the step exegetically to go back in time and see who he's
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communicating to and what he's communicating about.
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For instance, works when you interpret the word works.
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Who is he talking to? He's talking to the Jews.
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What is he talking about in Galatians and Ephesians?
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He's talking about them thinking the Old Testament Old covenant
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or agreement law and blending in with the New covenant or
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agreement circumcision certain foods.
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You have to do this in order to be saved and Paul is saying it's
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not by works. It's not by the circumcision or
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why you're not eating. You cannot earn your way to
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heaven. So when we don't know this the
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600 laws they had in the Old Testament we think of works as
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I'm not to do anything. Wow, what a deal.
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That's not it. Paul is saying don't put more on
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top of God's commands, faith in Jesus, don't try to add works
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and like don't drink coffee, you know, stand on like click your
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hairs together, your heels, your heels together three times and
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say, I want to go to heaven, I want to go to heaven, I want to
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go to heaven and then total. And and so it's not a a
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performance, it's the relationship with God because
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remember, who would you let live in your house?
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You wouldn't have to trust the person.
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You wouldn't just let let anybody live in your house with
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you. Wait, let's say you got kids,
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younger kids, you know, with all those molesters out there, you
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know a lot of people going with your daughters and you know, you
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need to trust him. Heaven is God's house.
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Who's he going to let live with him?
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People that love him. What does heaven represent to a
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Christian 24/7 full time relationship with God the
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Father? And if that's not what we want
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to do here, we will not go to heaven.
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We will go we cannot live with God.
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The only other place to live, unfortunately, is with Satan in
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hell. And that's an ugly thing to say,
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but that's the that's the truth. If we don't know the severity of
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not sacrificing our life now we're going to find out the hard
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way. They'll be weeping in hell and
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say I wish I knew. Why didn't Christ build men
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helping men? Tell me we are.
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Yeah, exactly. That's what we've done.
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And exactly, Doug. And so going with the, you know,
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the spiritual team, you have a very structured way by which to
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do that. It's not just a random approach.
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And again, it's our sacrifice. It's us laying our lives down,
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going back to economy about being free.
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There's nothing about this. It's a life for life Jesus that
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died for us. It's it's now our life for his
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life. And so that's what we at Christ
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both we do here is we we we build that relationship knowing
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the house to accounting what it takes to actually build a
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relationship with God through our daily spiritual team.
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Doesn't want to expand on that a little bit more.
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With what daily spiritual team is?
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Yeah. And before we, before we go back
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to the spiritual routine to, to, to touch on what Kevin is saying
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about free. It's like if we, we have type 2
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diabetes because of eating that food.
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So the how we reverse type 2 diabetes are our doctor tells us
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if we change our diet, let's say she says to go, let's say it's a
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sheet. Well, vegan.
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See, I had high blood pressure. I have a commercial driver's
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license. So your blood pressure got to be
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below 135 overnight if it's over or over 100 if it's over that
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you can't, they'll take your license.
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So I went, I changed my diet, I went vegan and my blood pressure
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dropped. I, I went back to the gym.
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So if I had a billion dollars, let's say, and I said, OK, I
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want to buy the cure. You can't buy the cure.
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It's not my work. It's not my, it's not my
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payment. I'm talking works it's by a
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lifestyle change, changing what I eat, changing my activity or
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my lack of activity, going to the gym, that'll reverse the
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process or the the disease so to speak.
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Same with sin. Sin is like cancer, you can't
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pay for it. Bezos can't give 2 billion and
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OK, I got salvation. It's the relationship.
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You can't pay for it. Well, some people can buy love
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for. That right?
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Now you can't pay for genuine love.
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It's spending that time, that quality time with somebody.
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You know when people go through hard times like in Vietnam or
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Iraq when they go through life altering times, the people that
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they were there through the bad or hard times when they create a
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pot. So imagine husband and wife
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going through the hard Financial Times, having their first, their
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third child. Your child was sick, crying
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together, hugging each other, going through those hard times.
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That's where the love deepens and spending time with God every
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single day when the problems arise, clinging to Him and
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nobody else can help us and change us internally how we
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feel. We start to build an obscene
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ball and. That and that kind of mends to
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one of your great stories. You tell me about the blonde and
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told me about trusting to the point where we trust him without
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an idea and that can only come truthfully.
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Of course, Doug, whether we actually have that deep into the
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relationship with God, we can't say that we trust God and we
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have no idea who it is right. Building that relationship.
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We build that trust. We build the idea of building to
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understand the the bigger idea, the bigger picture of some
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mistake of the magnitude of God's love for us.
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Correct, correct. And there's three IS and Randy's
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going to read that in a little while.
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Be ready. So the three IS, is intellectual
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faith. It's understanding why we need
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God, why we need Jesus, so to speak.
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What what happened? What did we do, what, what, what
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did we inherit? And when we understand that sin
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atonement, repenting veracity and enlisting like a like in the
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military, we start to at least comprehend why we go to the gym,
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why I do cardio. When I do cardio, it's, it's not
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like I get off the treadmill, my shoulders, everything, you know,
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my stomach gets flatter. It's, it's like an investment.
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You know, you got to know the science behind it in order to
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get on that treadmill and walk and not move, not move, not, not
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go anywhere. You just keep walking in the
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same area, you know, So it's you got annoying intellectually.
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Same thing with with faith. We have to know why we're
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following by why we're we're repenting, turning from our sin.
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What is sin? Where's the where's the lines on
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the road? And we need to know the lines in
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the world where they where they are so we can avoid them.
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We need to know our job description, so to speak.
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Job, what makes God happy, what what hurts him and that comes
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from reading his word. And then the next one is
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intimate. Now the trust, we can trust
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people, but there's only a, a small core of people that you
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would trust with your life, with your finances, with your
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children, you know, so with your car, it's not everybody.
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So it's, there's different levels of trust.
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It has to be a deep trust where you love him and hate everybody
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else in comparison, even the closest people to him.
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How do you do that? Spending time with him?
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So go ahead Brandon, and read the read the rest of the Bible
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basics. You left prophets up.
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Yeah, we were on #3 the genres, now we're on 4 is reading
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context and apply only when applicable.
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What it says. This is God's word.
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Remember that He is doing the talking.
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Always read no less than a paragraph so you can get the
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whole thought of what the author is telling us.
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You never want to read into the Bible and have it say what you
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want it to say. Questions to ask yourself when
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reading the Bible? Who is the author talking to?
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What is happening at the time? When is the right?
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When is this written? When was this written?
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Where was the intended audience? Does this apply to me?
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If so, how? This is practical.
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Example, drive the car out of the garage and paint it.
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Paint the garage or paint the car.
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Then it says reading context. After we are done painting the
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kitchen and the living room I need you to drive the car out of
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the garage and point and paint. Correct answer.
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Paint the garage so. Yeah.
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And then the last five is is the accurate?
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And Yep, understanding accurate doctrine and sound doctrine.
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So doctrine. That's good.
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So those are the topics that the Bible basics will go over and
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that's a bookmark that's back in the day when we read our Bibles.
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So we the spiritual routine. The spiritual routine is
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actually what we do. So to start our day in prayer,
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read our Bible daily and we have a reading plan and talk here
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here talk ask. Those are acronyms H is his word
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E exegesis are explained and how do we apply the passage or
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request the help of the Holy Spirit.
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So that's more for intellectual knowledge, but talk is more
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intimate telling God how we feel like ladies you when you journal
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guys journal too. I'm just saying I remember the
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Diaries and so when you write things in your diary of how you
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feel and that's what the tea is. Sometimes we we're going through
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things nobody's around to talk to.
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You're right to God. And then he asked him, how, how
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do I get to this father? What am I doing?
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And Ellen, listen, you look for Scripture, the flow of his word,
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his character. What do you think he would tell
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you? And then Kay know that he's with
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you. Thank you.
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So these are acronyms that help us deepen our relationship with
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God and parents. When you if they're getting
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enrolled. What if what if you write down
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for your admit your sins? I get it, you don't, you don't
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think you should. So that's when you know there's
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no lines on the road. They have their license, but
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they don't see no lines on the road.
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That's dangerous. So we need to know where the
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lines are. Dessert.
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Have some dessert. That's that's the biblical
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books. Pastors writing books.
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Not all the books are the same. Some of them are false teaching.
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A lot of them, I get it.
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I get that fear. So we can relate to others
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having a hard time walking with God because of see.
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And that's how we deepen our roots with God and we we depend
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on him. It's in the hard times.
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He purposely puts us in the areas that we cannot do on our
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own. Just like a good personal
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trainer, a good partner in the gym, they'll tell you to go to
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failure and then the, the extra 3 or 4 rems after failure where
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they got to help you a little is where you grow the most.
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So God will make it'll be in a, you know, we're going through
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storms where we can't handle on our own for a reason.
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So we come to Jesus when we're, we're, we're reinberting so he
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can give us rest. But it's how that's what we
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learn how to do. So the reading plan very
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important and that is the spiritual routine that we follow
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here in Christ build right, Kev. Absolutely, Doug, absolutely,
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and that you know, for for me and and building, you know, I
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remember coming and sitting with, you know, Brandon and Doug
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at the beginning and saying, you know, I'm so excited that I get
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I I get to rebuild my without renew my relationship with God
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and Doug Kev, I hate that I got bad news for him.
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You know what's that you've never had a relationship with
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God. Yeah, I hate to say being there
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a bad news and and I realized of course I didn't have a
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relationship. I had AI had my own as in Romans
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10 week before my own idea of what it looked like to have a
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relationship with that. But that's the point about
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price, though, I said it's not a Mystic way of building a
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relationship and having a daily fellowship about knowing him
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into me. It's a very, very structured and
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very and, and when I say structured, it's it's hold, it's
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it's holding us accountable, you know, because our sin nature
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doesn't want to do this. Our sin nature wants to, you
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know, you know, go, you know, do whatever, but we got it.
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We have to come to that every morning.
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That's our start into the foot across, knowing that without
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without that or without coming before the foot across knowing
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that that we desperately need every day.
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And when we come to that place, we realize that our everything
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life is sustained and how it gives us then, you know, that we
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just referred back to, you know, having problems with marriages,
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having problems with their children, having problems in
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their life. We can deal with those things
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now, but we always say that what's the first two fruits of
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someone who you know is truly about relationship?
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With that love and forgiveness, those are those are the 2 main
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main traits the reason why God St.
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Jesus right? Thus he loved the world, he was
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only without his Son that whoever believes in and trusts
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in you intellectually, intimately and initiate is the
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last sort of applying it saying I do, I will be my wife's
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husband and I will cherish her till till death was smart you
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and be faithful to him in my group.
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Not to say I will never. I don't think other women are
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pretty contracting me, but my love is different from you.
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I only have eyes on her. That's the difference when we
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commit to God. Jesus takes our place on the
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cross. What is the covenant or
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agreement? I take Jesus place and I live
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for him. I live for God the Father,
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building my relationship, picking up where Adam left off.
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So not go do this, do this, don't do that.
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If you don't come through the Father, that's works.
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You're trying to do it on your own strength or with your own
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strength. The whole purpose of not being
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able to do it is why so we need a spotter.
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We need God. If we don't have God, we're
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dead. We can do nothing good.
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The point is, everything goes through Him.
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And a really critical element to all of this also is not as and
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how we read God's Word is actually having the Holy Spirit
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help us. Jesus, Jesus said, you know, if
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John 1426, the comfort show teach, you know, comfort you,
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but teach you all things. The Holy Spirit is the one that
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teaches us to really understand what the word of God says about
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our Father and how to build our relationship.
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And he reveals what's in our hearts so we can come to God and
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say, God, you know, sometimes we say, you know, God, help me, I
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love you. You know, yeah, all the time.
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All that exactly right, Doug. So, but Doug, anything else you
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want? Yeah, and just remember first
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John 514 and 15 ask if we ask anything along the lines of
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God's will, his promises will give it to you.
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So when we ask if we come to the foot of the cross, everything
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meaning listen building our relationship, Ask me and help me
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to love you put all my heart minds over this year.
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Help me to to love my wife like Jesus of the church wives, love
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my husband like you would want me to love.
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Help me to help me humble. Every time I read God's word, I
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pray for him to implant that in my heart.
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Thinking of others better than myself, laying all my life for
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my brother or sister, loving my enemies.
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Help me, help me to forgive. And that's little by little 1%
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like we said it did. We start to change.
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And. Just like we can have when God
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does this, he gives us Karate Kid moments that wax on wax off
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Denison. Yeah, wax stuff, sand the floor
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and then he kick it and he blocking wall.
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We don't realize what God is doing in us until we we come to
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these these moments that we can recognize.
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Let's say for instance, somebody that couldn't do it, and even if
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they gave me a billion dollars, they didn't know how to forgive
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him. That guy hurt me so deeply.
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Every time I saw him, I wanted to do something sinful, lay
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hands on him, not in a good way, but when I keep praying for him
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and really asking the Lord, help me to mean the prayer of your
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mother. Help me to ask Him to bless him
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and change his heart and have Him to love you Father, so He
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can go again. As well.
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Tell me to mean that that prayer little by little you did.
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And I saw a guy right after. Coincidence.
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No, that's The Karate Kid move. The guy said, hey, what's up,
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man? He didn't recognize me.
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And I said, hey, what's up? I find it was free.
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Free to what? Free to follow God, free from
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Satan telling me you're a, you're a you're a wimp.
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You're going to let that guy walk away after what he did to
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you? Are you scared?
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You're a coward. I like Jesus becoming like
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Jesus. I can love like him and forgive
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like him. Thank you, Lord.
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And that's from a daily relationship.
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And so guys episode. 1. Why were we created?
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Created for relationship and we've got some great resources
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for you to tap into we've got our YouTube channel with some
44:38
hazing music you'll we'll have some of the music playing for
44:40
you here after we close off but YouTube channel men helping men
44:45
YouTube station we on our platforms of Spotify Pandora,
44:49
iHeartRadio even our music on Apple music so be sure to tap
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into those resources. This is just the beginning of
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something that I think you and I grant we'll both all the three
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of us agree that this is going to be something that's going to
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help you the one that listeners and watching here how to really
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build your relationship with God.
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How do you heal your honors for those that are out there that
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needing those resources. We're here for you.
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God loves you and got one of the ticks to take the closest off.
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Yeah, and that's the thing. It's it's guaranteed guarantee
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if you apply yourself. God says when you seek me,
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you'll find me when you seek me. And we're not going to want to.
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One of the hardest thing you're going to do.
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Anybody wants to come after me? This is taking my place.
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What is my part to deny myself and take on my cross daily,
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daily, every day. What does that mean?
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Dying to sell? What does that mean?
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First, making the time to spend, sacrificing my time and spending
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listening and learning. Father teaching.
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I need you every single day. Praying for Him to change your
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heart. Guarantee this is last thing.
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There's twins. There's let's say Brandon and
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Kevin. The names don't matter.
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They're twins. So Brandon reads for two hours a
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day, praying and begging the Lord to change his heart, help
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his heart to conform to God's word.
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Let the psalmist says Psalm 119. Kevin goes to church, he has a a
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big prosperity gospel ministry and he goes to Bible study in
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the middle of the week. So he so let's say 4 hours a
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week, right in two hours a day, every day, 365 days a year,
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seven 2 * 52 weeks in a in a year.
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So at the end of the year, if you got $20,000 so we bet we
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won't God more than to do Kevin Abraham yes, you don't have to
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be a math major to understand that I'll have been my 20,000
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Abraham especially with the Holy Spirit as the master teacher and
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he's praying help me please, Lord always pray help me.
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I need your help. Guarantee, Guarantee.
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You're going to change. Guarantee.
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Can we meet again? God bless you to.
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