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Your Attitude is Everything: Unlock the Power of Self-Discipline · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: There are many ways to get the things that we
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  Speaker 1: want for ourselves in our lives, but basically it all
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  Speaker 1: begins with how we choose to think as you think?
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  Speaker 1: So shall you be?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why you do what you do? What
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  Speaker 2: is your motive for action? What is it that drives
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  Speaker 2: you in your life today not ten years ago? Or
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  Speaker 2: are you running the same pattern or your web? The needs,
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  Speaker 2: the beliefs, the emotions that are controlling you for two reasons,
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  Speaker 2: so there's more of you to give. They're achieved too.
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  Speaker 2: We all want to do that, but I mean give
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  Speaker 2: because that's what's gonna fill you out. And secondly, so
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  Speaker 2: you can appreciate, not just understand that's intellectual, that's mine,
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  Speaker 2: but appreciate what's driving other people. It's the only way
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  Speaker 2: our world's going to change.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone's gonna hit adversity. Everyone's gonna hit adversity. It's how
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  Speaker 3: you deal with adversity. And a keyword is you not
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  Speaker 3: letting somebody else deal with adversity. You have to deal
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  Speaker 3: with adversity and how you deal with it. Are you
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  Speaker 3: going to fight through it or are you gonna curl
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  Speaker 3: up and just roll over into the corner. It's gonna
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  Speaker 3: pretty much determine how the rest of your development from
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  Speaker 3: a mental standpoint is going to carry you.
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  Speaker 4: You cannot win the war against the world if you
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  Speaker 4: can't win the war against your own mind. But it
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  Speaker 4: first starts with a sound. Right, there's this sound that
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  Speaker 4: I hear, and that sound moves, all right, that sound moves.
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  Speaker 4: So this was a sound that I heard years ago.
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  Speaker 4: And there are times in my life where I just
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  Speaker 4: stopped and I play this sound because it does something.
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  Speaker 2: For me internally.
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  Speaker 5: It moves me.
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  Speaker 2: Write that down.
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  Speaker 4: The very first thing that needs to happen to you
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  Speaker 4: every single.
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  Speaker 3: Day is you need to be moved.
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  Speaker 2: You need to be moved.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever it is that you can do literally to incite it.
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  Speaker 4: Listen to me very close to me when I say
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  Speaker 4: find something that moves you.
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  Speaker 2: What most of you do wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Is you're waiting for something to move instead of creative
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  Speaker 4: thing every day that move.
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  Speaker 2: And the reason why I say find.
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  Speaker 4: Something that moves you, because what separate.
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  Speaker 2: Humans is our effort.
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  Speaker 4: There some of us we give seventy percent of what
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  Speaker 4: we do, some of us.
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  Speaker 2: Eighty percent, some of us ninety percent.
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  Speaker 4: There's one of us one hundred percent, some of us
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  Speaker 4: one hundred and three percent, And so when you move
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  Speaker 4: and you are moved, it allows you to operate at
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  Speaker 4: a whole different level.
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  Speaker 6: We kind of have this idea that while you're free
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  Speaker 6: as a child, and then you if you have a
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  Speaker 6: certain delightful, wonderful, positive freedom as a child, and then
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  Speaker 6: that's given up as you approach adulthood. But the truth
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  Speaker 6: of the matter is is that you have a lot
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  Speaker 6: of potential as a child, but none of that is
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  Speaker 6: capable of manifesting itself as freedom before you become disciplined.
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  Speaker 6: And discipline as a matter of the imposition of order,
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  Speaker 6: and the order is necessary especially for people who are
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  Speaker 6: hopeless and nihilistic. And lots of people are hopeless and nihilistic,
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  Speaker 6: more people than you think, And part of that is
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  Speaker 6: because no one's everbody encouraged them. And so the book
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  Speaker 6: is in part a matter of encouragement. It's like, lay yourself,
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  Speaker 6: lay a disciplinary structure on yourself, get the chaos in check,
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  Speaker 6: and then you can move towards the state that's freer
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  Speaker 6: because it's disciplined. First, Like, look, if you're going to
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  Speaker 6: become a constant pianist, there's going to be several thousand
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  Speaker 6: dollars of extraordinary disciplined practice. That's the imposition of order
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  Speaker 6: on your potential.
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  Speaker 2: Let's say.
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  Speaker 6: But what comes out of that is a much grander freedom.
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  Speaker 6: And so virtually every freedom that you have in life,
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  Speaker 6: that's true freedom is purchased at the price of discipline.
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  Speaker 3: At some point, you got to start winning. You can't
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  Speaker 3: always look for other people to help you. Other people
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  Speaker 3: got their own problems, they got their own they got
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  Speaker 3: to deal with. They're trying to achieve their own goals.
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  Speaker 3: Will they are willing to assist. But after a while,
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  Speaker 3: if you constant looking for a system, constantly looking for help,
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  Speaker 3: it's on you and your failure and your success is
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  Speaker 3: on you.
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  Speaker 7: You wouldn't be having that opposition if you didn't have
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  Speaker 7: something great in you, if your dream wasn't alive and
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  Speaker 7: on track, right on schedule to come to pass, you
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  Speaker 7: wouldn't have so many things coming against you. But when
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  Speaker 7: the enemy looks at you, he says, oh no, here
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  Speaker 7: comes another dreamer. Here comes another person, full of faith,
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  Speaker 7: believing that they have seeds of greatness, not moved by
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  Speaker 7: their circumstances, not upset because they.
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  Speaker 8: Have a delay.
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  Speaker 2: They're a dreamer.
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  Speaker 7: They know they have the favor of God. They know
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  Speaker 7: because they believe all things are possible. They know God
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  Speaker 7: can make a way when they don't see away friends.
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  Speaker 7: When you're a dreamer, you're dangerous to the enemy. You
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  Speaker 7: give him a nervous breakdown. He knows you're headed to
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  Speaker 7: a new level. He knows you're coming into overflow. He
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  Speaker 7: knows you're gonna set a new standard for your family.
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  Speaker 7: And here's the most important thing. He knows. There's nothing
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  Speaker 7: he can do to stop you. The forces that are
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  Speaker 7: for you are greater than the forces that.
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  Speaker 2: Are against you.
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  Speaker 7: But he will work over time trying to convince us
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  Speaker 7: to settle, to give up, to stay where we are.
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  Speaker 7: You have to remember this principle. When negative things happen,
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  Speaker 7: that's not stopping your destiny. That's a sign that you're
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  Speaker 7: on your way to your destiny. Every delay, the setbacks,
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  Speaker 7: the disappointment that didn't stop your dream, it's all a
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  Speaker 7: part of the process.
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  Speaker 9: See birds of a feather flock together.
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  Speaker 10: You run around with losers, you will end up losing unconsciously. Unconsciously,
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  Speaker 10: you will pick up their weights, you will pick up
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  Speaker 10: their habits, You'll pick up, most importantly, their attitude about life.
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  Speaker 10: If you around cynical, negative people all the time, you
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  Speaker 10: will become cynical.
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  Speaker 9: And so you got to watch yourself. Many of us
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  Speaker 9: are living out the lives of other people, living out
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  Speaker 9: their conclusions, living out of their consciousness. The other thing
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  Speaker 9: is that you begin to look at looking at your
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  Speaker 9: life and looking at what it is that.
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  Speaker 2: You want to achieve.
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  Speaker 9: Another crucial thing that you must do is align yourself
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  Speaker 9: with powerful people.
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  Speaker 2: Align yourself with people.
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  Speaker 9: That can encourage you, people that can empower you, people
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  Speaker 9: that you can learn from, people that you can grow from.
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  Speaker 2: That's very important.
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  Speaker 9: See if you have people around you that can contribute
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  Speaker 9: to your growth. When I wanted to become a speaker,
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  Speaker 9: I join the National Speakers Association.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to be.
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  Speaker 9: Around the doctor Norman, Vincent Fields, the Zigglers, the Dwayne Dyers.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to be.
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  Speaker 9: Around people that were doing what I wanted to do.
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  Speaker 9: I want to learn from them, and you want to
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  Speaker 9: do that too.
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  Speaker 11: You want to align yourself with people who think like you,
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  Speaker 11: people who dream like you, people who want more out
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  Speaker 11: of life, people that are stretching and searching and seeking
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  Speaker 11: some higher ground in life as opposed.
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  Speaker 9: To the majority of people somebody said, always strive to
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  Speaker 9: get on top.
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  Speaker 11: In life, because it's the bottom that's over prowding. I
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  Speaker 11: see you don't want to be on the bottom. See
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  Speaker 11: it's easy to be on the bottom. It doesn't take any.
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  Speaker 9: Effing to be a loser, doesn't take any motivation, any
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  Speaker 9: drive in order to stay down there at.
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  Speaker 12: A low level.
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  Speaker 9: But it calls on everything in you, ladies and gentlemen.
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  Speaker 9: You have to honess your will to say, I'm going
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  Speaker 9: to challenge myself. Sometimes I have to pull myself out
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  Speaker 9: of bed to come on less things I know I
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  Speaker 9: should do. I don't do things I shouldn't do.
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  Speaker 2: I do.
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  Speaker 9: I found that the biggest enemy you have to deal
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  Speaker 9: with is yourself. As an old African proverb that says,
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  Speaker 9: if there's no enemy within, the enemy outside can't do
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  Speaker 9: us no harm.
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  Speaker 13: I need to practice. Remember, before the day comes, you
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  Speaker 13: gotta practice. You cannot be standing at the free throw
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  Speaker 13: line playing professional basketball in the seventh game of the
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  Speaker 13: NBA Championship and to hope right then you're going to
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  Speaker 13: be practiced. Practice is too late. Larry Bird used to
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  Speaker 13: put the great basketball player he used to shoot whatever
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  Speaker 13: one thousand free throws eight in the morning. My friend
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  Speaker 13: a Don Ravine trains a lot of the pro basketball players,
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  Speaker 13: Lebron James, he trains, He trains Durant, Kobe, Chris Paul,
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  Speaker 13: and he says, these guys are up when everybody else
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  Speaker 13: is sleeping. They're practicing. So everything you want is going
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  Speaker 13: to entail a good bit of practice.
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  Speaker 5: So many people come up to me and say, gary's
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  Speaker 5: so hard to I look at their Instagram and they're
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  Speaker 5: not posting any of their content with hashtags, which is
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  Speaker 5: a by accident way to pick up exposure in a
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  Speaker 5: world where they have no money. When you have no money,
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  Speaker 5: when I took over my dad's business and did three
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  Speaker 5: million dollars a year, ten percent gross profit, three hundred
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  Speaker 5: thousand dollars before expenses, my first year marketing budget was
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  Speaker 5: fourteen thousand dollars when you have no money, and I
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  Speaker 5: built that business from read to a sixty million dollar
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  Speaker 5: business in five years. I had to make every penny perfect.
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  Speaker 5: So I was right about email marketing in ninety six,
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  Speaker 5: and I was right, and because of that, I had
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  Speaker 5: ninety one percent open rates when Google AdWords came out.
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  Speaker 5: The day it came out, I paid five cents a
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  Speaker 5: click for words before anybody bid me up. And I
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  Speaker 5: was super right and that worked.
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  Speaker 6: If it does that luck versus preparation.
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  Speaker 8: And do you ever get anything wrong?
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  Speaker 2: What do you do?
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  Speaker 5: I can make a miss. I get everything wrong, it's
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  Speaker 5: just that I can't recall it because once it's wrong,
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  Speaker 5: I'm moving on to the next thing. Like dwell Dwelling
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  Speaker 5: on what you up on is the quickest way for
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  Speaker 5: the next thing not to work.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, So like so I think I do everything.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you know this.
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  Speaker 5: This is a fun thing to say. Some people in
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  Speaker 5: the back know this. I was a breakout YouTube star
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  Speaker 5: in the first year two thousand and six. I decided
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  Speaker 5: that the right strategy was to leave YouTube completely and
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  Speaker 5: go to Viddler because Viddler offered me equity in their company,
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  Speaker 5: and I've left an enormous amount of attention. I deviated
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  Speaker 5: from my intent thesis to do short term economics in
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  Speaker 5: equity in a company, and I lost.
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  Speaker 8: I lost.
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  Speaker 5: When Deebroth finally came in my life two years ago,
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  Speaker 5: we started to try to build up my YouTube for
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  Speaker 5: the first time. I was sitting on forty thousand user
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  Speaker 5: followers in a world where I could have had millions
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  Speaker 5: if I just stayed the course. So I make mistakes
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  Speaker 5: all the time. I'm reorging vainner media every day because
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  Speaker 5: it's based on a mistake I made the prior year.
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  Speaker 5: I just don't give a fuck about my mistakes. Everybody
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  Speaker 5: else cares about your mistakes. If you're worried about your
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  Speaker 5: own mistakes, you've already lost, you know.
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  Speaker 8: I'm always looking for new ways to explain the power
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  Speaker 8: of the five second role and the power of five
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  Speaker 8: second decisions. And I read something that Tim Ferriss said
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  Speaker 8: that really resonated with me. And he had this one
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  Speaker 8: line buried in a podcast somewhere that just jumped out
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  Speaker 8: and it's stuck. And what he said is he said
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  Speaker 8: something about how there's a gap between the world and
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  Speaker 8: the things that trigger you and your response and your
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  Speaker 8: entire life. Is that gap when you start to So
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  Speaker 8: this is not what he said, I kind of identified
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  Speaker 8: this gap, and I, of course, intrinsically, was like, well, absolutely,
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  Speaker 8: that's the five second window between instinct or stimulus and
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  Speaker 8: your reaction. And when you start to understand that your
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  Speaker 8: whole life plays out in this five second gap, and
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  Speaker 8: that there's a gap that's five seconds long between fear
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  Speaker 8: and courage, And there's a gap that's five seconds long
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  Speaker 8: between self doubt and confidence. That is your life. And
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  Speaker 8: what's super cool about understanding that your whole life is
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  Speaker 8: inside this gap is it's so small everybody that you
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  Speaker 8: have the ability to control it. Life's always gonna throw
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  Speaker 8: triggers at you, and there will always be all kinds
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  Speaker 8: of cool things that inspire you your wisdom, and you
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  Speaker 8: get to choose what happens in that gap. Do you
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  Speaker 8: succumb to an excuse or do you push yourself forward?
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  Speaker 2: So you went to Harvard and you dropped out.
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  Speaker 13: Have you ever thought how your life could be better
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  Speaker 13: off if you had gotten your Harvard degree?
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  Speaker 12: Well, I'm a weird dropout because I take college courses
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  Speaker 12: all the time. I love learning company courses and things.
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  Speaker 12: So I loved being a student. And there were smart
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  Speaker 12: people around, and you know, they fed you and they
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  Speaker 12: gave you these nice grades that made you feel smart.
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  Speaker 12: So I feel it was unfortunate that I didn't get
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  Speaker 12: to stay there, But I don't think I missed any knowledge,
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  Speaker 12: because you know, whatever I needed to learn, I would
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  Speaker 12: I was still in a learning mode.
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  Speaker 14: I came up with a slogan and I tell it
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  Speaker 14: to my kids all the time. I say, there's no losing,
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  Speaker 14: only learning. There's no failure, only opportunities, and there's no problems,
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  Speaker 14: only solutions. So to me, what failure is. Failure is
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  Speaker 14: the mother of all success. If it wasn't for Michael
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  Speaker 14: Jordan getting cut from his ninth grade basketball team, he
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  Speaker 14: wouldn't have became Michael Jordan. You know, if it wasn't
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  Speaker 14: for I seen an article the other day where they
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  Speaker 14: were talking about Oprah Winfrey and how she got fired
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  Speaker 14: because she wasn't good for television. You know, you got
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  Speaker 14: people like Walt Disney who got fired, if I'm not
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  Speaker 14: mistaken from a newspaper saying he had no imagination. These
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  Speaker 14: are the same people that I got to deal with.
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  Speaker 14: Tell me, what's not a hit rackor.
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  Speaker 12: So?
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  Speaker 2: So what do you tell them?
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  Speaker 14: You tell them, you know, you know that that all
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  Speaker 14: they can do is learn and come back bigger, better, stronger,
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  Speaker 14: because all that's going to do is lead you in
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  Speaker 14: the right direction. See, if you're always winning, then you
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  Speaker 14: don't really understand what it is to win. You got
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  Speaker 14: to take those losses, you got to take those hits.
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  Speaker 14: That's got to be the valleys, the peaks, the ups,
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  Speaker 14: the downs, in order for you to when it does happen,
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  Speaker 14: you go, wow, you know this is what it's all about.
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  Speaker 14: And not only that, it's never about making it, guys,
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  Speaker 14: it's always about maintaining it. That's the toughest part.
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  Speaker 15: Patience is for the impatient that in fact, when you're
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  Speaker 15: getting started and your in laws are making faces at you,
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  Speaker 15: and you're not sure if you're going to be able
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  Speaker 15: to pay the rent, and you don't know why you're
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  Speaker 15: living in Brooklyn to begin with, and you're going to
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  Speaker 15: have to move back to Florida, it's easy to say,
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  Speaker 15: you know what, I need to go faster to pick
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  Speaker 15: up these scraps, to pick up these scraps. And sometimes
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  Speaker 15: what that does is it gives you the foot up
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  Speaker 15: to get to the next level. But sometimes what that
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  Speaker 15: does is it just makes your scrap collector. And that
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  Speaker 15: one of the things that we see when we look
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  Speaker 15: at the work of people who have put really big
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  Speaker 15: ideas into the world, who have built online platforms right
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  Speaker 15: is that they got there by being patiently impatient or
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  Speaker 15: impatiently patient, whichever way you want.
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  Speaker 3: To juxtapose it.
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  Speaker 15: That if you look around at the blogs you read,
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  Speaker 15: or that the people you respect online or the organizations
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  Speaker 15: you want to work with the myth of the overnight
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  Speaker 15: success is just that, a myth that you know. The
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  Speaker 15: much vaunted Twitter was a failure, complete failure. For two years,
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  Speaker 15: nobody used it, and if they took the mindset of well,
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  Speaker 15: if it doesn't work in two weeks, we've got to
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  Speaker 15: go do something else, you never would have heard of it.