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Where is SHE? New Dump Truck Savior, Tidbits and Headlines, and more | S14E21 · Live! with Fefe and Freddy

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  Oh Lord, sorry about that y'all, I didn't know that wasn't going
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  to do that that's weird. Anyway, hey, what's up?
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  Welcome to live with Fifi and Freddie.
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  We are on episode 4, season 14. Sorry episode 21.
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  Can you tell that I wasn't 100% prepared?
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  It's it's fine. We're fine.
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  We're just going to roll on, you know, we're we're going with it.
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  We are going with it. I was just excited that our
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  video intro video actually worked this time.
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  For some reason. It hasn't been working, but it
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  actually worked. It didn't stutter and did all
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  the things. So now I just have to figure out
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  why it went back to the other thing afterward.
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  It's fine. Felicia isn't currently here.
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  Obviously she had work stuff that she had to do this evening
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  because I don't know, Normie job didn't realize that, you know,
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  she has things to do on a Wednesday that did not include
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  being, you know, at work. So I'm flying solo.
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  She might be able to join us a little bit later and I think she
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  will be on for the after show. So fear not.
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  But welcome back to your Wednesday night conversation.
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  This is live with Fifi and Freddie.
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  I am not Felicia Minor, but I am Freddie Prinze Charming and
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  we've got all sorts of fun stuff to talk about tonight.
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  Privilege is one of those things that we sort of revisit every so
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  often because things pop up and it looks like it's one of those
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  times. So tell me in the chat if
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  there's what do you, what kind of privilege do you feel you
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  have? Because I promise you that you
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  you can tell they're not wigs of a kind.
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  But you know, sometimes I need a cheap wig for some stuff.
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  So you know what? Not having Felicia here is
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  weird, so I'm going to see what I can find on some background
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  there. Here we go.
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  Get some chill hop or whatever the hell this is called.
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  well. That's totally fine.
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  We're, you know, we are not picky.
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  So I didn't do anything last weekend, I don't think.
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  I swear I looked at my calendar and I, I have to do this every
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  so often because literally I don't remember.
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  I don't remember what I did. I'm like, did I do anything?
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  And I'm like, I don't think I did.
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  I hung out. Oh, I hung out at, at a work
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  thing with my wife, which is, that's always amusing.
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  What always cracks me up and see I went with my boot on because,
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  you know, I was supposed to be wearing a boot, which I just
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  realized I literally forgot to put my boot on today, which is
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  OK, nobody's going to get mad at me.
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  I go to PT tomorrow. I was APT on Tuesday.
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  It's fine. But you know, there were every
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  so often somebody would ask me what I did to my foot.
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  And just because I'm me, I'm going to change the story every
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  single time. So sometimes my partner ran me
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  over with a car, push me down the stairs, you know, it was
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  great. So it's, it's, it's, it's how I
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  amuse myself because somebody's got to do it.
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  And if people aren't going to amuse, you know, I have to, you
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  know. There we go.
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  Hey, Felicia's joining us on the chat.
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  Monica is watching this evening, and of course, of course Monica
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  is watching on the one night when I have to do this by
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  myself. Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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  Felicia is going to try and join.
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  Oh Lord, let's see if she's able to do it.
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  She's going to try and join on her phone, which Restream
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  doesn't always likes, but that's all right.
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  We're going to, we're going to. We're going to figure out.
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  We'll see. Maybe.
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  Let's see. Felicia, are you there?
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  Nope. Felicia is not there.
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  Never mind. We tried.
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  It's fine. Oh, so it's you know what?
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  It's it's good. It's good.
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  We're just. We're just gonna kick back.
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  We're just gonna chat and you know, what the hell?
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  So let me go over to. Oh, hang on.
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  We're gonna try, Felicia. Gonna try and get back on again.
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  Fingers crossed. Let's see what happens.
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  Felicia, are you there? Am I there?
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  I can hear you, but we can't see you, which I guess is.
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  Well, I'm, I'm sitting in my room.
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  I don't want people to see you. I just worked a 14 hour day.
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  I am not letting you look at me. That's fine.
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  We appreciate that. We appreciate that.
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  Here. We'll just, we'll just do that.
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  We'll just make you little. Yeah, but that is completely.
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  Can I make you even littler? There we go.
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  We'll just there. There you go, there you go.
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  She was there in spirit, that. Is, we'll call her excellent.
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  Well, I'm glad that you know, you were able, you're able to
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  jump on even if you're, you know, just here.
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  So since you worked a 14 hour day today, did you do anything
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  fun over the weekend? We didn't, we didn't do much.
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  We always take the girls to like these jump parks.
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  And when I say jump parks, it's not like 21 Jump St. or
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  anything, but like the there's one called Elevate or altitude,
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  one of the two. And I love jumping on the
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  trampolines. So that is pretty much our
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  weekends and to whine. Jump Street like a jump park or
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  because you say 21 Jump St. and I immediately think of like
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  Johnny Depp back in like the 80s.
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  So. No, it's just, it's just what I
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  call it because Elevate Jump Park does not sound.
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  Got it at all? To me, but anyway.
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  But that's about it. I didn't really.
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  Do anything like this? Weekend.
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  I've been using like Pinterest to find like activities to do
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  with them while they're here. OK so real talk I I there's
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  finally uninstalled Pinterest from my phone because I never
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  fucking use it. I have tried to use it.
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  No, you're you should be there. I can hear you.
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  Well, there goes Felicia again. Never mind.
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  I've never I, I've I have attempted to use Pinterest for
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  things in the past. I don't get it.
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  Like trying to create I, I feel like I'm just old.
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  I don't know. I've I've tried it.
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  I'm like, this is dumb. I don't like it.
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  So I just give up. So me and Pinterest, not so
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  much, but you know, again, this is your I, I put notes in my
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  phone for literally everything. So I guess that counts as
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  something like a vision where I don't know, I don't know.
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  But let me move right on into my tip for tonight.
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  All right, y'all. So every so often and it usually
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  happens around like politics and things like that.
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  If there are elections coming up, if you know, potential new
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  candidates and things are being tossed around, blah, blah, blah.
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  But it happens probably maybe once a season, once every other
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  season, give or take a little bit.
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  But it always happens that we end up needing to talk about
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  privilege. And this is we talk about it
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  because it's important and to recognize your own privilege and
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  what it you know what, what is privilege?
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  What does privilege mean? What does it look like?
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  Breakdown the different types of privilege, the folks that
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  benefit and privilege blindness, all sorts of things.
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  All right, this is a thing. And if nothing else gets taken
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  from this episode, hopefully y'all can, you know, whatever.
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  So Felicia is still trying to join.
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  She's trying really hard. She's trying really hard.
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  I'm going to try and add her again.
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  Here we go. Did it work?
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  Felicia, are you there? I don't know what goes on with
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  my Internet, but it does not like me being on this phone.
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  Well Restream doesn't like connecting via phone anyway, it
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  has issues with it. So we all, I mean, we know this.
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  So due to their recent updates that did say that they do like
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  to they would like for people to be on mobile but it does not
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  seem to be mobile phone. Call bullshit on that.
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  I don't. I don't believe me in that.
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  I I believe absolutely no, I think that's complete horseshit.
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  So. But you're just in time.
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  I got to talk about my tip. We're going to talk about
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  privilege. Yeah.
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  Wow. Yeah.
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  All right, so when we're talking about privilege, usually the
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  first thing that immediately flips into people's minds is
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  money. Right.
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  And that's probably one of the most, that's why when you talk
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  about privileged, people are like, I'm not privileged.
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  I grew up poor. No, Which is why we need to
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  break it down a little bit more than just you have money, you're
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  privileged. Like it's, there's more to it.
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  It's more nuanced than that. Privilege refers to unearned,
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  often unconscious advantages, communities, or rights held by
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  specific individuals or groups. There are different types of
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  privilege. It's not just one type of
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  privilege, which is why everybody always immediately
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  goes to wealth. But there is so much more than
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  that. So you've got racial privilege,
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  which, let's be real, it's generally white privilege all
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  right, which is often allowing white individuals to navigate
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  institutional systems without race related barriers.
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  Think about things like racial profiling.
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  Never heard of it. Right.
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  You know, that's one of the the most basic types of like racial
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  privilege. OK, we have gender and
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  sexuality. So male identified individuals,
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  cisgender individuals, regardless of sexuality tend to
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  have quite a bit of privilege. Class is where you come into
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  wealth, stability, social status, ability.
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  So being able bodied and not having any like mental health
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  issues or anything like that. Religious and cultural privilege
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  that benefits those who are practicing the.
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  Did we freeze? Did I freeze?
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  What happened? Well, hell, are you there?
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  I'm here now. What is going on with restreams
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  tonight? This is like there's always
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  something. So you have religious or
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  cultural privilege, right? So that benefits those
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  practicing the dominant religion or cultural norms.
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  So heterosexual people, right? You know, white Christian men.
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  Passing quotes. Right.
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  Passing privilege, which generally when people hear
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  passing, they immediately start thinking about like trans folks,
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  but it's not always trans folks. So passing privilege is being
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  able to pass as the dominant cultural group.
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  So there have been over history, there have been plenty of like
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  black people, people of color who have been able to pass as
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  white, being able to pass as cisgender, being able to pass as
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  male, being able to pass as straight.
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  So it's not just. That was never me.
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  Trans people, it's all these different types of passing
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  privileges. Like we've, we've seen stories
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  of slaves who were very light skinned, who are, who were able
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  to escape because they were able to pass as white, you know,
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  mixed folks of, of, of mixed ethnicities who were able to
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  pass as white and thereby save themselves a hell of a lot of
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  headache, especially during like the Jim Crow era and earlier.
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  So it's not just about trans folks passing, which I hate that
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  term in terms of trans folks anyways.
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  So, but that's a whole nother anyway, citizenship.
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  It's a privilege. Benefits of like being a
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  citizen, including like think movement, traveling, legal
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  rights. Oh and yeah, see, Monica talks
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  about a straight passing person planning a wedding for a queer
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  couple. It's interesting to see how the
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  industry just immediately assumes I have a husband
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  because, you know, you don't look like a lesbian, whatever
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  the fuck. That means you're not wearing
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  flannels. Whatever the cinema told them
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  that it is. Right, you know, so it's, it's,
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  it's, it's it's interesting. Now when talking about
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  privilege, I always acknowledge the privilege that I have.
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  And one of the big things is I have I I'm I'm always sis
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  assumed nobody ever looks at me and goes, Oh my God, they're
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  trans. Like I'm I'm always sis assumed
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  I am white and I have male privilege.
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  So stacking on that, however, I always say that I'm sis assumed
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  I am never hetero assumed nobody ever looks at me and goes, Oh
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  yes, no, that is a heterosexual white man.
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  Not one single person has ever. I'd never.
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  Never. If that ever happens to you, I
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  need to know. I need to know the date, the
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  time, the. Place I don't if someone ever
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  like legitimately assumes that I am like a straight cisgender
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  dude I'm going to be like I really OK your gaydar is really
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  off but that's fine the the thing to remember is that
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  everyone. Benefits from some sort of
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  privilege regardless of social status.
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  And that is a big thing because whenever you hear, especially
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  when you call out white people on their privilege, pretty much
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  the first thing that they say is I was born poor, I grew up in a
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  trailer, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Yes. Well, now that's now people are
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  saying like that we're being harmful to their culture and
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  we're harming their privilege because, you know, they, they
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  don't get the things that they used to and we treat them
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  poorly. Rights.
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  Rights. Being born white, first of all,
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  regardless, regardless of gender, we take gender out of
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  it. Being born white or even white
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  passing is a privilege. What it means is that you will
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  never be racially profiled if you are pulled over.
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  You will never be like if you go to apply for a job and you, you
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  know, you don't have an ethnic name, you know.
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  I don't. You know, your name is Robert
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  Johnson or David Smith. No one is going to look at that
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  and think, oh, that's a black person.
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  I'm going to go ahead and move that.
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  You know what I mean? Your name is Ashton McAllister.
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  You know what? I no, you, you, no one is going
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  to look at your application or your resume and put you at the
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  bottom because you sound black, quote UN quote, you know what I
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  mean? So being born white or white
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  passing in of itself is a privilege.
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  Yes. You may not have had the
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  generational wealth or you know, whatever it is to be able to get
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  you out of the less than ideal, shall we say, situation,
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  situation. But you would have had a better
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  opportunities than you know, someone who was not born white.
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  It's for some folks, it's really hard to like really understand
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  the concept of privilege and kind of how it sounds when you
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  talk about privilege and people just kind of dismiss it.
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  So when I do like my, my, my trainings on being a trans ally,
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  one of the things that I always like to talk about is the the
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  boots and sandals analogy. And so I'm going to, I'm going
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  to use that tonight. We're going to talk about the
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  boots and sandals analogy and we're going to break it down.
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  So imagine privilege as a boot heavy, you know, when you're,
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  they're designed for you to not feel like things, right?
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  So steel toed work boots, they're designed to protect your
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  feet if you drop stuff, right? So you have this, your foot is
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  in this pretty solid thing, right?
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  You are unable to feel when you are stepping on someone's toes
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  when they're wearing sandals. And we've all we, we've, I'm
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  pretty sure we've all kind of actually experienced this actual
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  thing. You know, you've been at a
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  concert or you've been somewhere crowded and somebody with, you
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  know, large shoes has stepped on your foot.
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  And they have. No, or you're performing like
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  you step on somebody's foot. Right.
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  And like, and you don't, you don't notice it if you're the
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  one wearing the boot, but if you're the one with, you know,
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  open toed shoes, you fucking feel that shit, right?
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  So when you tap the person and you're like, Hey, you just
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  stepped on my foot. Common responses that we see
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  when you are calling someone out on their privilege are things
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  like, I can't believe that you'd think I'd do that.
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  I'm a good person. Nope, no one has said that you
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  are not a good person. Also, bad people do things too.
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  Right, like what we're saying is you literally just stepped on my
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  foot. You stepping on my foot has
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  nothing to do with whether you are a good person or not.
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  The fact of the matter is you stepped on my foot or we hear,
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  well, you know, some people don't even have toes.
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  Why aren't we talking about them instead?
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  So we're we're going to deflect and we're going to make it about
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  something completely different. We've all seen that happen,
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  right? That that goes into the like, Oh
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  my God, when someone is talking about the accomplishments of
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  either a maybe a black scientist or a black astronaut or a black,
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  you know what I mean? Something along those lines.
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  And somebody's like, yeah, that's great.
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  But don't forget about all of these other people over here
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  too. It's like, no, no, no, no, no,
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  no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  We're not talking about them. And talking about this does not
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  diminish them. That's the thing.
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  I never. Understood.
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  Like why do people think that celebrating others diminishes
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  the value or tarnishes the reputation of who they are?
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  I've never understood that. I don't, I don't.
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  It's like, so you can't you, you have you, you can pat this
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  person on the back. You can celebrate this person.
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  Like it's like why people get mad.
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  Be like, well, Freddie one the crown and then be like, well, I
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  guess I I guess I deserve it too.
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  I would never do that. It's like people getting mad
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  about like Black History Month or Pride Month or whatever.
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  And it's like you, you, you unders, like you, you white
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  people get all the other fucking months.
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  You understand this, right? Like.
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  It's kind of implied. Like, just because there's one
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  month that celebrates, you know, the achievements of the black
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  community or the achievements of the LGBTQ plus community does
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  not diminish the fact that you white people are still fine.
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  Like, that's not that's not how that goes.
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  Or we hear this a lot too. All toes matter.
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  Oh. So that that's fine.
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  We're not. Yes, you're, you're right.
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  Like all of these people that are standing here, all of their
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  toes also matter. But the fact of the matter is
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  you are stepping on my toe. My toe is the one that is
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  currently being stepped on by your boot.
• 27:41
  Again, it it doesn't, yes, you're right.
• 27:45
  All of these toes do matter, but right now the one that matters
• 27:49
  the most is the one that you are currently stepping on.
• 27:53
  Then there's we. We hear this a lot too.
• 27:55
  Well, I'd move my foot if you asked more nicely.
• 28:01
  No, no, no can. We talk about the the over
• 28:08
  proving yourself because you don't have the privilege.
• 28:12
  You have to over prove yourself because.
• 28:16
  Right. You you right.
• 28:20
  Here again, did I just? You're Nope, you're there, so.
• 28:29
  Restream is just having a problem because.
• 28:31
  Yeah, it could be. It could be.
• 28:34
  But when when people like well, if you if you've been nicer to.
• 28:38
  In bed. OK, I'm tired.
• 28:41
  OK. Thank you for jumping in.
• 28:47
  So when people are like, well, if you would ask me more nicely,
• 28:51
  then maybe I wouldn't have done this or maybe I'll apologize if
• 28:55
  you ask nicely or whatever. It's like, no, no, no, I, I
• 29:00
  shouldn't have to be nice for you to acknowledge that you are
• 29:06
  standing on my foot. You are standing on my foot.
• 29:08
  I, I, I shouldn't have to be like, hi, excuse me, I can hear
• 29:14
  you. Yes.
• 29:16
  I can't hear you. Oh, I don't know where you go.
• 29:19
  I don't. OK.
• 29:20
  Felicia went away again. Nope.
• 29:23
  Nope. There she is.
• 29:24
  Nope. She's gone.
• 29:25
  Nope. She's here.
• 29:26
  I don't know. Now your volume is up, it's
• 29:28
  probably something with a restream.
• 29:32
  I'm gonna refresh the page. OK.
• 29:36
  Or you hear like the excuses like, well, you know, toes
• 29:40
  getting stepped on happens. Just deal with it, which
• 29:44
  basically completely dismisses the the experiences of the
• 29:52
  person whose toes you're stepping on.
• 29:55
  It's like, yes, you're right. It it does happen.
• 29:57
  That doesn't make it right. So no, I'm not going to just
• 30:02
  deal with it. I'm going to speak up because if
• 30:05
  I don't speak up, then it's just going to keep happening.
• 30:10
  So yes, stepping on toes happens, but if you think that
• 30:18
  someone should just sit back and be like, Oh well, it's fine.
• 30:21
  That's not going to, it's not going to fix anything.
• 30:26
  It's not going to fix anything at all.
• 30:28
  So no, I'm not going to just deal with it.
• 30:31
  And then of course there's the well, you shouldn't be wearing
• 30:34
  sandals around people with boots.
• 30:36
  Why the fuck not? Like what you're saying is I
• 30:42
  shouldn't be who I am when I'm around people like you, and
• 30:51
  that's not OK either. Like when you, you know, see
• 30:59
  someone that you know, someone's like, you know what?
• 31:05
  Can you just be less gay or, you know, can you not, can you not
• 31:10
  be so black or, you know, things like that?
• 31:13
  It's like, whoa, what? I'm, I'm, I'm not going to
• 31:17
  change who I am just so you feel better about yourself.
• 31:23
  So I'm going to wear fucking sandals wherever the fuck I want
• 31:27
  to wear them. Maybe you should just be more
• 31:30
  mindful of where you put your fucking feet.
• 31:32
  Like that's it's so to when you have someone that doesn't
• 31:38
  understand how damaging privilege can be, the boots and
• 31:44
  sandals analogy is a great way to kind of demonstrate it.
• 31:49
  And if they agree with any of it, then it's like, OK, see that
• 31:53
  right there is the problem. Right there is the problem, also
• 31:58
  a problem, privileged blindness. This is the inability to
• 32:07
  recognize privilege. And we see this.
• 32:11
  Within yourself. Within yourself, it's it's
• 32:17
  within yourself and sometimes kind of outside, you know as
• 32:22
  well. And with the privilege within
• 32:24
  either your person or your group, right.
• 32:27
  So, you know, we, we see it all the fucking time with, you know,
• 32:35
  I again, I use the example I didn't have privilege.
• 32:38
  I grew up poor you. You're missing this whole other
• 32:42
  chunk of privilege that you do in fact, have.
• 32:46
  Another example of privileged blindness that we hear all the
• 32:50
  fucking time is I don't see color.
• 32:53
  Oh, hang up that phone. Immediately that is how, how
• 32:59
  often do we have people and it's always fucking white people that
• 33:02
  say oh, oh, I'm not, I'm not racist.
• 33:05
  I don't, I don't see colour. I don't see colour during the OK
• 33:09
  well. I felt like I was becoming like
• 33:12
  a civil, I don't know what to call it, like a civil architect
• 33:17
  where I had to explain to people like you may be just a little
• 33:22
  bit racist and they would be like.
• 33:27
  If, if you if you don't see color, then you are completely
• 33:34
  ignoring these, this group's lived experience.
• 33:41
  You have to see color. You have to and you have to
• 33:47
  acknowledge your, you know, implicit bias when it comes to
• 33:54
  that. Like you have if if you say you
• 33:56
  don't see color, then you're ignoring the systemic racism
• 34:00
  that happens. You know you are are ignoring
• 34:05
  the fact that people are are still dealing with this shit
• 34:08
  like this is so that's I. Would say a good a good example
• 34:14
  of this is when dump truck takes away the What is it that like
• 34:20
  slavery statues and. All the memorials and things.
• 34:27
  Yeah, and then and then tries to put up like a Robert Elise and
• 34:32
  put them back up and doesn't acknowledge any of the struggle
• 34:38
  acknowledge any he this is like a pure case of that is that he's
• 34:44
  like, no, I don't I don't think that they I don't I didn't
• 34:49
  February. No, I don't think so.
• 34:51
  That's because he's. Probably in the camp where he's
• 34:54
  probably in the in the camp where, you know, he's like, no,
• 34:56
  it wasn't slavery. They asked to come over.
• 34:58
  They were lining up. It's like, well.
• 35:01
  That he's that he's Jesus at the moment, so no.
• 35:04
  We're going to talk about that in a minute.
• 35:06
  So other examples of, of privileged blindness, right?
• 35:11
  So there's this, the economic things where you're like, anyone
• 35:18
  can succeed if they work hard enough, right?
• 35:21
  We hear this all the time from folks, especially folks that
• 35:23
  have money or who are in higher positions.
• 35:27
  And by saying that, like you're ignoring your own safety Nets
• 35:33
  or, you know, things that help get you to where you are because
• 35:38
  not everybody has that ability. Not everybody comes from
• 35:43
  familial wealth. Not everybody comes from
• 35:45
  inherited wealth. Not everybody had the
• 35:48
  opportunities and advantages that you had that allowed you to
• 35:55
  like, maybe go to school full time without having to have a
• 35:57
  job. You know I'm not.
• 36:01
  Saying that, I acknowledge that I well, well, somebody jokes
• 36:09
  around that I was a a black suburb kid.
• 36:13
  I was not a black hood kid. Don't go around saying that just
• 36:19
  'cause I said it, folks. Thanks so much.
• 36:27
  But I acknowledge that I had privilege that others didn't
• 36:33
  because my parents, you know, provided those opportunities.
• 36:40
  So I don't know. I mean, I, I, I, I always tell
• 36:45
  folks that like on the, on the surface, my, my adolescence, my
• 36:50
  childhood was very privileged. I grew up overseas, I spoke
• 36:53
  multiple languages. I was able to do all these
• 36:56
  different things and experience all these different things.
• 36:58
  And there was a lot of privilege in that 100%.
• 37:03
  There were a lot of other things that were also that weren't so
• 37:06
  privileged, but like that part of it.
• 37:10
  Absofuckinglutely. My life was very privileged up
• 37:14
  until I was like, after I graduated from high school and
• 37:18
  started college, Like that was, you know, so there's also like a
• 37:24
  systemic blindness. So when people kind of
• 37:29
  underestimate the wealth gap between different racial groups,
• 37:34
  well. They're sure learning about it
• 37:36
  now. They are and that is, but that's
• 37:40
  like that is that's the thing as well.
• 37:42
  You know, you have communities in states that have been
• 37:48
  basically segregated for years. They get, you know, they're
• 37:51
  they're the black neighborhoods, right?
• 37:54
  So they get less city funding it it it there less opportunities
• 38:03
  for growth and improvement within that community.
• 38:07
  At one point, we weren't approving loans so that we
• 38:10
  couldn't buy new homes, right? If we started to become
• 38:15
  affluent, they were finding ways to make the neighborhood value
• 38:20
  go down. Black Wall Street was burnt down
• 38:24
  practically not once, but like two or three times so.
• 38:29
  There were, I mean, even in the, the early part of the century,
• 38:34
  you know, there were numerous thriving black communities
• 38:39
  where, you know, folks were able to start, you know, accumulating
• 38:45
  wealth and owned property and things.
• 38:46
  And we've every single time we've either burnt them down or
• 38:51
  buried them under a lake because that's a thing.
• 38:55
  Look it up. And there is privileged
• 39:01
  blindness when it comes to daily life.
• 39:05
  And I think these are things that a lot of folks don't think
• 39:10
  about. And when when you think about
• 39:13
  like privilege in your daily life, right?
• 39:15
  So a lot of times folks kind of overlook the time and financial
• 39:22
  flexibility to allow people to do things like go to the gym in
• 39:25
  the middle of the day. Oh wow.
• 39:29
  Not everybody is able to do that.
• 39:32
  Take time off. Just the simple.
• 39:36
  Part of my privilege. Like there, you know, if, if
• 39:41
  people like, why don't you, well, why don't you just take
• 39:43
  time off and, and do this, especially when it comes to like
• 39:45
  protests and things, people get very well, just take the day
• 39:50
  off, OK, But not everybody can do that.
• 39:53
  Some people work two or three jobs and taking a day off means
• 39:59
  losing a really good, like a big chunk of your income that you
• 40:03
  can't afford to lose, especially right now with groceries, gas
• 40:07
  prices, everything going through the roof.
• 40:09
  Like people can't just be like, I'm just going to take it off.
• 40:14
  I was talking to myself. My partner and her other partner
• 40:19
  went to dinner the other night. We were talking about how like,
• 40:23
  the French really know how to protest.
• 40:25
  And get results. They've been doing it forever.
• 40:28
  They know how to do it. Like they when they decide to
• 40:32
  protest something, they fucking protest.
• 40:34
  The problem is here we are not set up to be able to do that
• 40:40
  properly. And that's unfortunate because
• 40:43
  in France they're like, the farmers are like, oh, OK, well,
• 40:46
  we're not going to work period until this gets fixed.
• 40:50
  We are not working here. We can't do that.
• 40:56
  We are set up for failure here. So maybe you are in a position
• 41:01
  where you can, you know, take extended PTO.
• 41:04
  Maybe you have a bunch of you're, you're working a job
• 41:06
  where you can take 3 weeks of PTO.
• 41:09
  You know what I mean? Not everybody is in the position
• 41:12
  to be able to do that. People aren't able to take the
• 41:17
  time to go protest and still be able to feed their families.
• 41:22
  You know what I mean also. Some of that privilege too is
• 41:27
  like some of us work for places where you can't do that kinda
• 41:36
  because then, you know, the politics of it all become a
• 41:40
  thing and so right. I would acknowledge that
• 41:43
  sometimes the the privilege is in like, oh, your boss is very
• 41:48
  liberal and but you, you know, be a part of the protest or
• 41:52
  shoot, shut down the whole office and take everybody with
• 41:55
  you. And you know, right.
• 41:57
  Because I did see some of that where people are like, Oh yeah,
• 42:00
  my boss like closed the whole place down.
• 42:02
  And we were like outside. And I was like, wow, that is
• 42:06
  great. And you know, Arizona being a
• 42:13
  right to work state, they can just be like, OK, cool, we're
• 42:17
  just going to replace you. We don't care.
• 42:20
  Like there's, you know, so being able to take time off, being
• 42:24
  able to do those things and not, you know, and that's one thing
• 42:30
  I, and that's another type of privilege that I acknowledge for
• 42:33
  myself is that I have AI, have a job where I hate my job, but the
• 42:38
  perks are good. I have a fuck ton of PTO, you
• 42:43
  know, like we, we, we talk about this like my job is fucking
• 42:47
  dumb. I hate my job so much, but I
• 42:51
  can't justify leaving yet. You know what I mean?
• 42:54
  Like it doesn't, it doesn't make sense for me to be like, OK,
• 42:57
  well, I'm just going to peace out and leave my like 300 hours
• 43:00
  of PTO that I get a year, you know what I mean?
• 43:02
  It's like, why, why? And then start over like, you
• 43:05
  know, so I acknowledge that I have, I have good benefits where
• 43:10
  I work, but not everybody has that.
• 43:15
  People struggle to take time off for doctor's appointments.
• 43:20
  You know, people take their sick kids to daycares because they
• 43:25
  can't afford to take the time off work to stay home with their
• 43:28
  sick kid. You know what I mean?
• 43:30
  So they'd rather go to work, get in at least a few hours until
• 43:33
  the daycare says, hey, you got to come pick up your fucking kid
• 43:35
  because they're throwing up everywhere.
• 43:37
  You know what I mean? Like, because we have to, we do
• 43:41
  what we can to be able to support ourselves and our
• 43:46
  families. And that is definitely, I think
• 43:49
  something that people don't think about.
• 43:52
  Like it's very much like out of sight, out of mind.
• 43:56
  Well, if I can do it, then everybody else should be able to
• 43:58
  do it as well. And that's definitely not the
• 44:00
  case. That's privilege in itself.
• 44:05
  So how do we do things like overcome privileged blindness
• 44:11
  and start advocating and supporting marginalized
• 44:19
  communities? Active listening is a big one.
• 44:24
  What? What, what I always try to say
• 44:29
  is I don't need you to speak for me, but sometimes it's nice to
• 44:35
  have you hold the mic while I'm talking so you're not speaking
• 44:40
  for me. But you are supporting me in
• 44:45
  what I am saying. Listen to what people are
• 44:48
  telling you. And I'm not talking about one
• 44:51
  random person over here. Listen to the general consensus.
• 44:54
  Right. If 'cause you always have that
• 44:58
  one, OK, there's always that one person in every marginalized
• 45:05
  community that you're like, what the fuck is wrong with you?
• 45:09
  Like, you know, you know, like it's that, it's that one, you
• 45:14
  know, that, that one trans person that's like, well, yeah,
• 45:17
  men shouldn't be competing in women's sports.
• 45:19
  What what the fuck? Like, you know, or they're,
• 45:23
  they're like, yeah, we don't want, you know, men in dresses.
• 45:25
  No, no, no, no, no, just just stop, just just stop.
• 45:30
  You know, there's always that one person in the marginalized
• 45:36
  communities that you're just like, OK, no, but if you listen
• 45:42
  to the other people, the general consensus within that community,
• 45:48
  that is your best bet. Like actually listen to what
• 45:52
  they are telling you. Self reflection is a big thing.
• 45:59
  And that's one of those like when you know, when when we talk
• 46:03
  about privilege, it's about knowledging and recognizing the
• 46:11
  privilege that you have. And parts of why I kind of I do
• 46:20
  what I do, why I still am a very outspoken out trans man is
• 46:28
  because of the privilege that I do have.
• 46:32
  I was privileged enough to be able to get my name changed
• 46:36
  early, get my documents all changed, everything.
• 46:40
  My birth certificate has been changed over my Social Security.
• 46:43
  Everything has been changed. Everything has been changed.
• 46:48
  And part of that was I was like, I'm not going to sit around and
• 46:54
  wait for this shit. I'm going to get this done as
• 46:55
  soon as possible because what the fuck?
• 46:58
  Like, what's the point otherwise, right?
• 47:00
  But part of it was I had the financial privilege to be able
• 47:06
  to get my name changed early. I had the ability to be able to
• 47:10
  take time off work to go and, you know, go to court for the
• 47:12
  name change and do all these things.
• 47:14
  But it's still a fucking privilege.
• 47:17
  Still a fucking privilege. Educating yourself.
• 47:23
  That is a big one. People have a tendency to use
• 47:30
  people in marginalized communities as their own, like
• 47:33
  personal Google or you know, as soon as this happens a lot when
• 47:42
  it comes to like trans discourse and stuff like that, people will
• 47:45
  just be like, let me tag all of these trans people on the status
• 47:49
  so that they can jump in. First of all, don't fucking do
• 47:51
  that. That's dangerous.
• 47:52
  Don't, don't do that. But there, yes, there's a lot of
• 47:57
  misinformation on the Internet, but there's also a lot of good
• 48:01
  information on the Internet. There's a lot of information
• 48:04
  that comes straight from the mouths of marginalized
• 48:10
  communities, people in marginalized communities.
• 48:13
  Those are things that you should be looking at and I'm happy to
• 48:18
  talk about my own experiences, but I can only speak to my
• 48:25
  experiences and sort of, you know, in general terms, you
• 48:30
  know, so I can't, I can't speak for everyone and I won't speak
• 48:34
  for everyone. But I mean, general consensus
• 48:39
  is, you know, XY and Z is usually not looked good, you
• 48:43
  know, whatever, but educate yourself.
• 48:48
  Don't make somebody else do all the emotional labor for you.
• 48:52
  And if you're going to do that, for fuck's sake, send us some
• 48:55
  money. Like I will happily give you my
• 48:58
  cash app, my Venmo, whatever the fuck.
• 49:01
  Because if I'm going to do all the emotional labor for you,
• 49:03
  then you better pay me for my time.
• 49:06
  Just say it. And another big one.
• 49:09
  And this is something that I think a lot of people don't do,
• 49:13
  honestly. That's examining your own
• 49:17
  bubble. That's the people around you.
• 49:20
  So it's not just looking at yourself, it's looking at the
• 49:24
  people that you have in your, your, your friend bubble,
• 49:30
  whether it's, you know, your coworkers, your family, you
• 49:33
  know, are, are you, are you surrounding yourself with people
• 49:38
  that don't see color? You know, with are you, are you
• 49:43
  surrounding yourself with people that are like, well, you know, I
• 49:47
  don't care what they do, you know, behind closed doors, but I
• 49:49
  don't really want it in my face. You know, who are you
• 49:52
  surrounding yourself with? And are you, you know, oh,
• 50:00
  Felicia can't get back on now. Like she's there, but she's not
• 50:03
  there. It's fine.
• 50:12
  Are you calling people out on their privilege?
• 50:15
  Are you calling your bubble out when they say something that is
• 50:22
  problematic? You know, and if they keep doing
• 50:25
  it, are you still keeping them in your bubble?
• 50:27
  So examining your bubble is a big thing to do.
• 50:33
  It's and I think that that is something that a lot of folks
• 50:37
  don't do more than pretty much anything else.
• 50:40
  So that is something to think about.
• 50:42
  All right, I'm a move ahead. I'm going to go ahead and play
• 50:47
  it even though I'm not Felicia. But we're going to go ahead and
• 50:48
  do it because we're going to just touch on some quick current
• 50:51
  events before we before we end the show here.
• 51:15
  Well, things are definitely interesting over on Capitol Hill
• 51:18
  these days. James Donald Bowman.
• 51:21
  I'm sorry, my bad. JD Vance has told the Pope that
• 51:30
  he needs to be careful when he talks about theology.
• 51:38
  And again, JD Vance has told the Pope that he needs to be careful
• 51:47
  when talking about theology. Now, the context of this is the
• 51:52
  Pope basically said that Jesus was not about violence and Vance
• 51:59
  was like, Oh yeah, 'cause God was on our side when we dropped
• 52:03
  the bombs on Hiroshima. I don't know about that.
• 52:13
  I don't, I don't know about that.
• 52:14
  I I anybody that has any knowledge and this regardless of
• 52:21
  what religion you are, regardless of what religion you
• 52:24
  are, right? I think that or what you believe
• 52:29
  or you know, whatever, everyone knows the most of the stories
• 52:36
  about Jesus that you find in the New Testament, right?
• 52:41
  He was not about money lending and taxation, flipping the
• 52:48
  tables temple. You all remember that, right?
• 52:50
  Yeah. He was also a fucking pacifist.
• 52:54
  No, he was, he would not have been OK with people dropping
• 52:57
  bombs. He was not like that was not a,
• 53:00
  not a thing. So, but This is why when we talk
• 53:04
  about Christians, they're Christians, but they are not
• 53:07
  Christ like it's they're not, they're I don't know what
• 53:13
  they're teaching. And now you're telling the, the
• 53:15
  you're telling the so. And also keep in mind that JD
• 53:19
  Vance is Catholic, right? So you are literally telling the
• 53:23
  like most Catholic of all Catholics, hey, maybe you don't
• 53:28
  know what you're talking about when you're talking about
• 53:30
  theology. OK, OK, that's fine.
• 53:39
  Whatever. And I think everybody, I'm going
• 53:44
  to call this like Jesus gate. All right?
• 53:45
  So we all know that twitler posted a picture of himself as
• 53:49
  Jesus, right? And then deleted it after the
• 53:54
  backlash and said it was him as a doctor?
• 53:57
  Because that makes it better. Sir, you are neither.
• 54:05
  You are not Jesus and you sure as fuck ain't no doctor.
• 54:10
  You you are. You are literally nothing.
• 54:14
  You are a useless piece of fatty tissue that sits in a gilded
• 54:25
  throne surrounded by minions who are just like, OK grandpa,
• 54:34
  whatever. You say grandpa, like no, you.
• 54:39
  No, no, you saying no, no. It wasn't me as Jesus.
• 54:45
  It was me as a doctor. You, you are.
• 54:47
  You are. You are neither.
• 54:49
  You are neither, OK? You are not cosplaying as Jesus
• 54:53
  and you are not cosplaying as a doctor.
• 54:55
  There is there? You're not.
• 54:56
  You're just not OK. So no, don't do that.
• 55:01
  But I found this amazing because this is going to come back and
• 55:07
  bite her in the ass so many times.
• 55:09
  So Carolyn Levitt, press secretary, right, has assured
• 55:13
  report reporters, and she said this at a press conference, that
• 55:16
  if you see it on Truth Social, it comes straight from the
• 55:20
  horse's mouth and should be viewed as official
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  administration policy. I'm gonna let that sit for just
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  a second. The horse, of course, in in this
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  instant being the Cheeto in charge, although I'd say more of
• 55:40
  a horse's ass than horse, but you know, potato, potato.
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  And that basically solidifies every fucking lie that Twitler
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  has said when he's posted something like racist things and
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  said it was an intern who basically took my phone in the
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  middle of the night and posted racist stuff.
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  I didn't do it. Yeah, no, complete bullshit.
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  And it comes straight from the press secretary, who says that
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  if it is on true social under Twitler's account, then it is
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  from the horse's ass mouth, our horse's mouth.
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  Sorry, sorry, sorry. And should be viewed as official
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  administration policy. Let that part sink in.
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  Official administration policy. Like when he's telling Iran to
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  open the fucking straight. We're just we're you know what,
• 56:47
  that's fine. It's you know what?
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  At this point, nothing surprises me anymore, But you know damn
• 56:59
  well that that shit is going to loop back around and bite her in
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  the ass and bite twitler in the ass.
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  And I am so excited for this because people are going to
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  throwback and she's going to try and, and, and back at double
• 57:17
  back around and flip it and then Nope, it will be thrown back at
• 57:22
  her in sound bites and sound clips and all of these things.
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  And it's going to be glorious and I can't wait for it.
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  So when talking about politics, in just about 100 hours, Eric
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  Swalwell went from the California governor frontrunner
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  to abandoning his House seat in disgrace amid the open secret of
• 57:48
  his womanizing and allegations of sexual assault. 100 hours and
• 57:57
  yet the Cheeto in charge is still seated on his golden
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  throne, overseeing this regime. Make it make fucking sense.
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  And so this is this is interesting to me.
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  So is this is this evidence of Twitler's cognitive decline or
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  just idiocy? So bear with me here, right?
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  There's been speculation that he's confused what his advisors
• 58:42
  are telling him, right? So every time there's a press
• 58:45
  conference or every time, you know, he talks about literally
• 58:50
  anything, he open anytime he opens his mouth basically,
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  right? His advisors are telling him,
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  hey, make sure that you say this about this thing over here,
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  right? They're giving him like
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  buzzwords, they're giving him like clues.
• 59:07
  They're like, hey, you should say this thing over here, right?
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  So, and, and this is when he's talking about anything from the
• 59:15
  AI images that he posts to the war in Iran, right?
• 59:19
  So think about it, right? So someone's telling him, just
• 59:24
  say that the image was doctored. Say the image was doctored.
• 59:29
  That becomes, oh, it was me as a doctor and you know, his
• 59:34
  advisors are going fuck, that's not what we said.
• 59:39
  That's not what we said, you dumb fuck.
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  The incursion in Iran becomes a little excursion.
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  No, no, no, we're not booking a cruise.
• 59:54
  We're not booking that. That's people attempting to come
• 1:00:00
  to the US to seek asylum becomes people are coming here from
• 1:00:04
  asylums. You see where there's like
• 1:00:13
  there, you can see the link, but it's like the the the synapses
• 1:00:18
  just aren't, they're not quite connecting.
• 1:00:21
  If they're just they're not. They're so close, they're so
• 1:00:25
  close they're. So it's that they're just not
• 1:00:29
  it's like you're trying to it it you're trying to high 5 someone
• 1:00:34
  and you're not looking at the elbow and you just keep missing,
• 1:00:37
  right. Like this is you can see the
• 1:00:41
  like that sort of connective tissue because you know, the
• 1:00:46
  people like no, no, no, you need to say this.
• 1:00:47
  Say that. Say the image was doctored.
• 1:00:49
  Say the image of doctor. Yeah, it was me as a doctor.
• 1:00:51
  Oh, you fucking somebody's going to like if, if he had a Mexican
• 1:00:56
  like Abuela there, she would have taken off his fucking or
• 1:01:00
  her fucking chocolate and chucked it at him for being a
• 1:01:02
  fucking idiot. Like, no, that is not what they
• 1:01:06
  said. But, and this happens quite a
• 1:01:10
  bit if you look back on things, it's like if you it's like, oh,
• 1:01:18
  oh, they told you to say this, but you said that.
• 1:01:24
  OK. It's like, you're so close.
• 1:01:27
  You are so, so close. But this isn't horseshoes.
• 1:01:33
  So I listen, it is. He complained about Biden being
• 1:01:43
  old all the fucking time. And Biden was by no means
• 1:01:47
  perfect, not even remotely. But this shit never happened.
• 1:01:52
  Personally, I think it's time that we'd take Grandpa Cheeto,
• 1:01:59
  put him in his rocker and put on his stories for him so he can
• 1:02:03
  just watch and yell at the TV. Or we can put him in a nice
• 1:02:10
  facility where he can live in his delusions all day long.
• 1:02:15
  And occasionally someone will come by, give him some meds,
• 1:02:19
  check his blood pressure, pat him on the head and say, mm,
• 1:02:24
  hmm, yeah, you're a doctor. Yes, you are.
• 1:02:28
  Absolutely. Because listen, I the fact that
• 1:02:38
  one representative can essentially just lose his entire
• 1:02:45
  career in a matter of hours, but a 34 time felon who has
• 1:02:52
  literally been convicted of sexual assault is still and who,
• 1:02:58
  who is suffering from obvious cognitive decline, obvious
• 1:03:02
  cognitive decline is still in charge.
• 1:03:05
  Like come on y'all 25th amendment, let's do this Article
• 1:03:07
  4. Come on, I'm, I'm, I'm right
• 1:03:10
  here with you. I can I'll, I'll even break it
• 1:03:13
  down for y'all anyway, I don't know this shit is, is if we were
• 1:03:22
  looking at if we, if we were on the outside looking at this
• 1:03:26
  happening in like another country, we would just, we would
• 1:03:30
  be shocked and appalled that this was happening that they
• 1:03:33
  would allow this to happen. Instead it's happening here.
• 1:03:40
  And this is the worst episode of Black Mirror ever.
• 1:03:48
  That it is what it is. And our choices for potential
• 1:03:55
  candidates are not great, especially who is kind of a
• 1:04:02
  front runner right now. But we'll, we'll, we'll talk
• 1:04:04
  about that at some point because this is, this needs to be, it
• 1:04:08
  needs to be talked about because anyway, what we are up to over
• 1:04:15
  the next couple weeks or so, so drag bingo and cats is sold out.
• 1:04:22
  As we told you it was sold out. It was going to sell out.
• 1:04:24
  We told you it would Friday night.
• 1:04:27
  It's happening sometimes. Sometimes a ticket may open up
• 1:04:33
  if someone cancels or requests a refund.
• 1:04:36
  Occasionally that happens, but not very often.
• 1:04:39
  Do not assume that this will happen.
• 1:04:42
  And next time, get your tickets early like we tell you all the
• 1:04:47
  time. But yes, we are sold out.
• 1:04:50
  But it's still happening on Friday.
• 1:04:51
  If you got your tickets fan fucking Tastic, we will see you
• 1:04:54
  there on the 23rd. Felicia is doing her Alice in
• 1:05:01
  Wonderland theme drag bingo at Drink Me Tea Room.
• 1:05:04
  I believe there are still tickets available for that.
• 1:05:06
  So go take get your tickets for that while you can.
• 1:05:11
  Don't come bitching to Felicia or meetings and not my gig about
• 1:05:16
  you know things. So you know, if you don't get
• 1:05:18
  your tickets for that, that is completely on you.
• 1:05:21
  I don't know what to tell you. On May 2nd I will be at
• 1:05:28
  Southwest Love Fest. I will be on 2 panels on that
• 1:05:31
  Saturday. You can get your tickets for
• 1:05:34
  Southwest Love Fest at lovefestevents.com.
• 1:05:38
  I highly recommend checking it out.
• 1:05:40
  It's a great little convention, regardless of whether you're a
• 1:05:45
  Poly, whether you're a monogamist, there are a lot of
• 1:05:49
  panels and workshops that talk about communication,
• 1:05:51
  relationship styles, all sorts of things that could be helpful
• 1:05:56
  to you regardless of what kind of relationship you're in or
• 1:05:59
  even if you're single. Who the fuck knows?
• 1:06:01
  It's about self help and self improvement.
• 1:06:02
  Yay. So go do the thing there.
• 1:06:08
  I have a couple other things that are coming up my radar, but
• 1:06:14
  I don't have stuff for it yet, so I will wait and do that
• 1:06:18
  later. But Felicia and I are both
• 1:06:21
  available for, you know, things like office parties,
• 1:06:25
  circumcisions, funerals. We put the fun in funeral.
• 1:06:29
  Hey, neither one of us is Jewish.
• 1:06:34
  But you know what? I we could still be fun at
• 1:06:37
  things like bar mitzvahs, botanizvahs, you name it.
• 1:06:41
  I will, I will, I will do whatever, mostly.
• 1:06:46
  And I need gigs right now. I need the gigs.
• 1:06:51
  So, you know, office parties, whatever we got you.
• 1:06:53
  We can pretend it's Christmas, whatever.
• 1:06:57
  What, what holidays do we have coming up?
• 1:06:59
  I don't even know. Holiday parties, You name it, we
• 1:07:02
  got you. Bingo.
• 1:07:04
  You want an office bingo, you know, But yes, but thank you all
• 1:07:10
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• 1:07:13
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• 1:07:18
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• 1:07:22
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• 1:07:27
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• 1:07:40
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• 1:07:42
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• 1:07:46
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• 1:07:50
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• 1:07:53
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