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Dirty Little Secret: My Son Is A Loser! · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Get it off your chest.
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  Speaker 2: It's Dirty Little Secret with Billy the Kid in the
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  Speaker 2: at Billy on the radio. That's probably the easiest, whatever
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  Speaker 2: that secret may be.
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  Speaker 3: And you got one.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And I already, I already know how it's going to sound.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to sound like a horrible person when I
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  Speaker 4: say it, but I have two kids and one of
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  Speaker 4: them is great.
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  Speaker 1: She's amazing. Does everything like is, is a, got a
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  Speaker 1: great job. It's driven. She's like a responsible, great human being.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: But my son is, for lack of a better word, like,
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  Speaker 4: my son's kind of a loser. Hold on.
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  Speaker 3: Hold on, Dad.
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  Speaker 1: You can't do him like that.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know why I didn't expect that.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do him like that. He did himself like that.
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  Speaker 3: I know, but wait.
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  Speaker 5: Why do you say that?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you mean.
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  Speaker 3: He's a loser?
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  Speaker 4: So, OK, so like we've raised them the same in
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  Speaker 4: the same house with same values and work ethic. And
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  Speaker 4: my daughter did all that. But my son, like he
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  Speaker 4: dropped out of college. He's just right now he's living.
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  Speaker 4: He's still at home with us now. Oh, like he
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  Speaker 4: just stays in his room and plays video games most
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  Speaker 4: of the time.
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  Speaker 1: He doesn't have a job. Maybe goes out with his friends.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like he's like he's living
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  Speaker 1: a loser lifestyle.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so he's going through a phase right now. How
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  Speaker 2: old did you say he was? He was 19?
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  Speaker 1: 19.
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  Speaker 4: And that's what my wife says. He's going through a phase. No, see,
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  Speaker 4: that sounds like what my wife says. I feel like
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  Speaker 4: that's the problem, is that like... He's not being forced.
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  Speaker 4: And every time I try to, my wife is like.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, he's, he's, he's mental health. He's going through
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  Speaker 1: a phase. He needs to, you need to be easy
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  Speaker 1: on him.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm like, well, at what point will he have
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  Speaker 4: to take responsibility? Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I'm hearing this a lot though, that a lot of
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  Speaker 5: people this age, yeah, are struggling mentally.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Things are harder than they realize or they weren't prepared.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, they, But I'm trying to look back, and
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  Speaker 2: I mean, things weren't easy for me when I was 19.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, we didn't have it easy. It was tough
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  Speaker 2: back then, too. I think every generation faces its challenges.
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  Speaker 1: For sure.
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  Speaker 3: I was out the house at 17. I left.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you were in jail.
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  Speaker 3: No, not then. Oh, never mind.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so, but this is obviously causing friction between you
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  Speaker 2: and your son, but it sounds like it might be
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  Speaker 2: causing some friction between you and your wife yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Well i mean she babies him like i'm trying my
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  Speaker 6: best to like be a good dad and and be
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  Speaker 6: responsible and teach them life lessons and help them grow
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  Speaker 6: to be adults that you know can function in society
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  Speaker 6: but my wife is like she babies them you know
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  Speaker 6: he needs time uh to grow you know like in
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  Speaker 6: fact and.
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  Speaker 1: Say how much time does he need Right. How many
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  Speaker 1: times do you need to figure this out?
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but a lot of people think, oh, my kid
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  Speaker 5: turned 18.
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  Speaker 3: They're ready.
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  Speaker 5: Their brains aren't fully developed. We just push them out like, hey,
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  Speaker 5: you're 18 now.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but how old are they?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to push them out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you got to do something.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to push them out.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, you can't let them not be motivated.
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  Speaker 3: But here's the deal. 19 turns into 21, then turns
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  Speaker 3: into 30. Right. If you keep babying them.
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  Speaker 4: It can.
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  Speaker 3: I see what this guy is going through.
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  Speaker 2: Like Enzo, your son, Candace, I have a feeling like
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  Speaker 2: obviously he's going to be a successful kid.
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  Speaker 4: Of course.
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  Speaker 2: But if he wasn't, you're going to be like, baby,
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  Speaker 2: come here. Mommy's got you.
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  Speaker 5: I'm always going to have his back, but I'm going
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  Speaker 5: to push him to be motivated and try to help
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  Speaker 5: him through whatever he's going through so that he can
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  Speaker 5: be self-motivated.
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  Speaker 3: And I believe that.
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  Speaker 2: But I think that sometimes people do that differently. And
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  Speaker 2: I think, you know, you're like you got to do something.
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  Speaker 2: And obviously you and wife, you're not on the same page.
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  Speaker 2: I have a feeling you were probably raised way differently.
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  Speaker 1: My dad would have kicked me out of the house
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  Speaker 1: if I was doing this kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 4: I would have hated him for it, but I would
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  Speaker 4: have also figured it out.
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  Speaker 1: And I would have eventually understood that. Oh, right.
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  Speaker 4: I was messing up. I was the one that was
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  Speaker 4: being lazy. Like I would have figured that part out.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like my wife won't let him like
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  Speaker 4: I'm literally I'm really close to being like, hey, he
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  Speaker 4: gets a job and contributes or he's got to go.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I think he does need to be in
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  Speaker 5: the workplace at some level. You can't just sit home
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  Speaker 5: and play video games.
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  Speaker 3: He ain't lying. You wake up and then you go
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  Speaker 3: by his room and all he's doing is in there,
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  Speaker 3: fire mission, talking to everybody online. Yeah, that's not okay. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I ain't trying to hear that. My son is only 15,
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  Speaker 3: so I'm not dealing with this yet.
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  Speaker 2: But at the same time, I've had a roommate back
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  Speaker 2: in the day where I was working my butt off.
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  Speaker 2: And grinding and just doing everything I could to hustle.
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  Speaker 2: And I watched this roommate just be lazy and complain.
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  Speaker 2: And I started to build resentment. I was like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: out here doing my thing, hustling and trying to everything
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  Speaker 2: I can. So I don't want to hear it from you.
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  Speaker 2: You're watching people's court all day.
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  Speaker 3: I'm jealous.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But so you and your wife, you're like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you're at odds right now.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, because she's like, he's going through a lot right now.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, he's not going through a lot
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  Speaker 1: because he's not working. When you work, you go through
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  Speaker 1: a lot. He's not. He's just being at home.
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  Speaker 4: So I feel like that's my like I'm at my limit.
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  Speaker 1: Either he goes or like they can live together. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: I'll go figure something out.
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  Speaker 2: See, ultimatums are weird, though. Like, if you tell her that,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how, Candace, I don't know how you
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  Speaker 2: would react. Like, to an ultimatum, I don't think you'd
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  Speaker 2: do well with it. No.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, no one does well with ultimatums.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, Eric would be out the house. You and Enzo
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  Speaker 3: would be chilling.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You'd be like, sorry, Eric. Well, here's your bags.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: I'll help you pack. No. That would never happen.
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  Speaker 2: Well, and I know, like you said, if someone is
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  Speaker 2: going through a mental health crisis, then that's different.
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  Speaker 3: But I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: This doesn't sound necessarily like a mental health crisis.
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  Speaker 3: I sound like he's lazy.
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  Speaker 2: You don't feel like he really genuinely needs help mentally,
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  Speaker 2: do you?
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  Speaker 3: Or maybe you do.
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  Speaker 1: I do. I understand mental health. I don't know. I
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  Speaker 1: don't think he needs it. But if he did, I
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  Speaker 1: would get it for him. Like I would help. I
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  Speaker 1: would do whatever I needed to to make sure he
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  Speaker 1: got the help.
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  Speaker 4: That he needed if he really needs the help.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't know if that's exactly what's going on.
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  Speaker 5: Well, you have to find out.
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  Speaker 2: It might be.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe he's hiding it from you.
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  Speaker 3: But you also know your kids. I hope so.
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  Speaker 2: Well, some people do. I feel like I can look
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  Speaker 2: at my son if he's lying to me, and I
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  Speaker 2: know he's lying. And I know if I feel like
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  Speaker 2: he's going through something, he doesn't have to say anything
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  Speaker 2: to me. And I know when he's just being lazy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: for sure. Well, Dad, good luck, and I hope it
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  Speaker 2: works out. And I'm sure it will. And I think
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  Speaker 2: one day you'll look back at this, and you'll be like, well,
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  Speaker 2: it all figured itself out, but... I know when you're
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  Speaker 2: going through it, it's not easy.
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  Speaker 1: I hope so. I do.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 3: Well, good luck.
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  Speaker 2: Some kids know what they're doing at 19, and they
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  Speaker 2: have it all figured out, and they're, like, driven, and
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  Speaker 2: some kids aren't.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: I knew what I wanted, so I was going for
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  Speaker 2: it right away.
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  Speaker 3: Same. Yeah, same.
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  Speaker 2: I was lucky.
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  Speaker 3: Same. You knew what you were doing, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That's why I ended up in the Army. Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it all worked out.
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  Speaker 3: Look at you now. You're thriving. You're thriving.