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You Are Not Alone In The Quiet Moments · Voices for Voices®

• 0:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi everyone, it's Justin here, Voices for Voices.
• 0:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much for joining us.
• 0:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether you're watching and listening here in the United States or across the world, thank you so much.
• 0:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether this is your first show or whether you've been with us since episode one, we thank you and are grateful for you.
• 0:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You can give us a thumbs up, like, follow, subscribe, share, reshare, repost, and maybe pull out that phone of yours if it's not already out, and share the Voices for Voices podcast and TV show with uh maybe 25, 50, 100 contacts, all free to do.
• 0:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it would greatly help us reach more people, help more people, and get closer and closer to reaching and helping at least 3 billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 0:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, we're just uh incredibly thankful to have a have a platform and have a tiny microphone to be able to talk to you.
• 1:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh whether you are watching, whether you're listening, you're all part of the Voices for Voices family.
• 1:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And just wanted to let you know and everybody know that uh there's no prerequisite to be part of our our family.
• 1:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh come as you are.
• 1:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all have quirks, we all have we all have things.
• 1:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh yeah, I say where skeletons in the closet.
• 1:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all have things, and we shouldn't let those things get in the middle of coming together as a human race, as human beings, as people who want to see not only themselves survive and thrive, but others survive and thrive as well.
• 2:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Go through the easy, the comfortable times and go through the controversial, challenging times.
• 2:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Life is not easy.
• 2:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's one of the things that I it's in my mind a lot of times, but at times that it amplifies a little bit more is when the new school years start.
• 2:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if we have children, if uh children are in their family, and then they go to school, and we see them growing, getting bigger, getting taller, getting wiser, getting more caring, loving, kindness, and just being just being a human being that is soaking up so much information to learn, and so it's at times like these and other times where we start thinking maybe a little bit about our legacies of what are people gonna remember us by because we're we're not getting out of this life alive.
• 4:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wish I had better better news than that, but we aren't.
• 4:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so since we aren't, what do what do we want people to remember about us?
• 4:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't I don't know if it's for some it may be money, some may be possessions, being a good person, trying to be a good person, because we falter, we all falter at at differing times, and it's okay, and so when that new school year comes around, and we you know sometimes we'll take photos and then we compare them from you know maybe the previous year just to see how much our children have grown, and it it's just we can't stop time.
• 5:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's the that's the one part that you know, growing up making a lot of bad decisions.
• 5:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I thought that life would always be like that, that it would always be that type of a lifestyle, you know, the partying lifestyle and not being the best person, or not even close to being the best person, not even trying to be a good person.
• 6:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then I I don't know where exactly when it hit, when it fully hit, it was November of 2017, but there were clues and signs and symptoms for many years.
• 6:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I just didn't want to hear it.
• 6:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I didn't want to I didn't want to think that I couldn't handle life.
• 6:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And there's some some of us watching, listening that may feel that way.
• 6:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like I can't handle life.
• 6:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's just too hard.
• 6:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's too much time spent without hearing maybe congratulations, a pat on the back, a thank you, an award, something.
• 7:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whereas when we're growing up, we get that for the most part, positive reinforcement of you know what's nice at school today, help the friend.
• 7:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, we can go down the list, and so we might get a might get a sticker next to our name, we might get a certificate, we might get we might get something from our teacher, and we you know, we feel good about that.
• 8:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's like, well, I was recognized in a good way, a positive way.
• 8:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then we think about how that feels.
• 8:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, that feels good to be recognized, and to have that positive reinforcement.
• 8:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Not everybody gets that, no but not everybody has that opportunity.
• 8:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, I consider myself lucky, and that I did get positive reinforcement growing up, doesn't make life any easier.
• 8:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe for that short periods of time, you know, makes us feel good and we're being recognized in a positive way.
• 9:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we go through our formative years, we go through our education, and then we get grades.
• 9:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A A plus, awesome, couldn't do any better, or F.
• 9:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have a lot of work to do, and then time continues.
• 9:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We complete degrees, we earn diplomas, may get a certificate here or there.
• 9:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then it gets to the point where Alright, schooling's done.
• 10:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I gotta find a job.
• 10:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Gotta find find a way to put food on the table.
• 10:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I haven't I haven't been the best at this for a period of time.
• 10:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So definitely hits me hard.
• 10:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so as days go by, kind of to quote you know the Keith Urban song a little bit.
• 10:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: As days go by, we we might not get that positive reinforcement, right?
• 10:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because if we're done with school, who who's gonna be the one that gives us that positive positive reinforcement?
• 11:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A manager or you know, somebody at the organization?
• 11:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, well, what if they don't?
• 11:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Then that how does that make us feel?
• 11:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It makes us look really hard at ourselves.
• 11:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Really hard at ourselves.
• 11:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like am I doing something wrong?
• 11:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Can I be doing something better?
• 11:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I haven't I haven't I haven't earned my sticker or star or certificate.
• 11:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You name it.
• 11:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I haven't earned that, I haven't gotten that in such a long time.
• 11:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then we look back and and it's almost as if, and I'm speaking for myself here, I'm speaking for myself, and then I look I look back at all those years before for me.
• 12:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Alright, yeah, there's ups and there's downs.
• 12:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I go.
• 12:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm gonna have to do a lot of this myself because people at work doesn't automatically mean that they are kind individuals that they know how to give positive reinforcement.
• 12:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They could have come from a place of you know, the the tough love, well, just gotta get through this, you should have done better, gotta get through this, should have did better, should have done better.
• 13:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You missed this, you missed that, you missed this, and then we start thinking, why am I even here?
• 13:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why am I here?
• 13:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why am I here when all I'm getting is negative feedback?
• 13:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then it begins to be like, why am I here?
• 13:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it worth it?
• 13:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is life worth it?
• 13:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that sometimes takes people to very dark places.
• 13:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if you're there, life is worth living no matter what.
• 13:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Matter how bad things think, no matter how bad things seem, life is worth living.
• 14:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There are contributions to the world that you have to be here because we need those contributions from you and everybody, and so I look back, and it's almost like I forget that I went to college.
• 14:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I forget that I earned an undergraduate degree, I forget that I earned a master's degree, I forget a presentation that went really well.
• 14:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because I'm not getting those those signals of that positive reinforcement.
• 15:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm not getting it, and if you're not getting it, it gets pretty scary sometimes.
• 15:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I've been there, I've been to those dark places, those points where there's not a whole lot between wanting to live and wanting not to live.
• 15:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So if you're watching and listening and thinking, oh, he's just saying this, he's never been there.
• 15:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've been there a lot of times.
• 15:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Too many to count.
• 15:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And for some reason, I still come back.
• 16:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I still give it another try.
• 16:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We film another episode.
• 16:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Somebody gets inserted inserted into our lives, like one of our past guests with me, and go, wow, the way the prayer went, one of our previous guests.
• 16:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It was just so emotional because, especially when you're doing things, start your own organization, start your own whatever.
• 16:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do something for the first time in your family history and your family bloodline.
• 16:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's going to be uncomfortable times, as well as we hope, the good times where people, yeah.
• 17:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: People are going to question, people are going to hate that that comes with anything.
• 17:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But it's what's inside of us, and when we look at ourselves in the mirror, can we can we sleep at night?
• 17:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, I if you're sick, and I I get that.
• 17:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The sleeping at night part.
• 17:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But if we if we're able to, if we're able to be at peace with what we did for the day, what we accomplished, no matter how small.
• 17:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Justin Bieber's song, everything hallelujah.
• 17:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: One line is brush my teeth, hallelujah.
• 18:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'll tell you what, brushing my teeth, it is like a hallelujah when I do it.
• 18:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, some of you say, Oh, yeah, that's eat that's something easy to do.
• 18:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: He's just making no.
• 18:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I have major depression, and so that means there's some things, brushing my teeth, certain times, where it is like I accomplished something, because I did.
• 18:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because I went through the days, the days of despair, real days of despair, really despair.
• 18:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Where I'd sleep in, and I I was at that brink of life or no life.
• 19:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Being here on earth and not being here on earth.
• 19:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Same with taking a shower.
• 19:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What seemed to be simple things and what were simple things at a period of time, a lot a lot of my life.
• 19:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But there are times where I still don't feel like it.
• 19:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to do it, and so I don't.
• 19:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it does take from above to get me to that point at those certain times to do the hygiene steps.
• 20:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Sometimes our past isn't the greatest.
• 20:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: For me, there were there are parts that were great and there are parts that weren't.
• 20:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And for a majority of the parts that weren't, they were my fault.
• 20:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's hard to come to grips with that.
• 20:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No matter what age we are.
• 20:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's very hard.
• 20:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because sometimes we like to put ourselves on a pedestal and go, oh well, I'm I'm up here, and all these other things are over there or down there.
• 21:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When in fact none of us are on pedestals, we're just human beings doing the best we can.
• 21:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's it.
• 21:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when we have these deep episodes, it's about you know, why am I here?
• 21:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why am I still alive?
• 21:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You heard me say none of us are getting out of this life alive, we're just not.
• 21:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So then that gets us thinking, well, why are you why are we here?
• 21:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why are we even here then?
• 21:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it the money?
• 21:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it the thing?
• 21:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What is it?
• 22:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's where I landed at Voices for Voices.
• 22:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wanted to do something to impact positive positivity.
• 22:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Positivity.
• 22:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wanted to help a lot of people in a positive way.
• 22:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether it's through our episodes, our shows, being able to uh do any number any number of things.
• 22:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's become me.
• 22:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's why you see my face.
• 22:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm far from the prettiest person.
• 22:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I say a face for a radio.
• 23:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's the reason I feel and I get validated at certain points from God.
• 23:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm here to help people.
• 23:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've had I've helped myself more than a lot of people over the course of many, many, many lives.
• 23:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so this has been a great way to humble myself.
• 24:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And you know what?
• 24:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It feels pretty good to help people.
• 24:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Feels pretty good to share stories.
• 24:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Good and bad and all in between.
• 24:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Feels pretty good to have guests on and have them share.
• 24:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And to know that they have a voice too.
• 24:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not just me.
• 24:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm only one person.
• 24:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's it.
• 24:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm only one person.
• 24:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We gotta do this together to help to reach the three billion threshold.
• 24:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And we want to go for more.
• 25:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So wherever you're at in life, know that there's better times ahead.
• 25:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Some of it we just need to turn off the phones, sit in some quiet, some silence, and just let our mind take over.
• 25:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when we're constantly getting fed information, that's impacting a lot of our decision making.
• 25:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We gotta do it from the heart.
• 25:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so somebody's social media posts another another podcast, or turn it off.
• 25:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Turn it off for five minutes.
• 26:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Five minutes every day, or every other day, or five minutes once a week.
• 26:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Start small.
• 26:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But make sure it's coming from your heart, not somebody else's heart.
• 26:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's coming from your heart, not your roommate's heart.
• 26:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: From your heart, not your brother, or your sister, or you get the idea.
• 26:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because if you're not in it for the right reasons and you aren't in it all the way, how can you expect others to come with you for the for the journey?
• 26:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's one thing I've had to learn.
• 26:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because there was a point to begin with, I didn't know if I was going to be all in or not.
• 27:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it got to the point of well, Justin, either you're all in or you're not.
• 27:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like there's no in between.
• 27:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if you're all in, you have to really be all in.
• 27:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's one thing to say it, but you have to actually do it and exhibit it to others.
• 27:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because that's the only way people are gonna watch, the only way people are gonna listen.
• 27:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The only way people are gonna want more shows and more shows and more guests and more guests and diversity doing different different product units, I guess we'll call it.
• 28:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Are there gonna be tough financial times?
• 28:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yes, there is.
• 28:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yes, there is.
• 28:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This doesn't negate any of that.
• 28:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All this does is confirm to others as well as yourself that this is what I'm meant to do.
• 28:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Join me.
• 28:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let's help.
• 28:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's too much division in the world.
• 28:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We need the help.
• 28:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So let's help people, and that's what Voices for Voices is, what voices for voices does.
• 29:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And we every single night pray for every single one of you.
• 29:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Pray for ourselves and the whole world.
• 29:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whole world needs prayers, they need good vibes, whatever, whatever your thing is, whether it's God, whether it's doesn't matter.
• 29:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's always room for you here with us at Voices for Voices.
• 29:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So until our next episode, let's celebrate all the voices in the world.
• 29:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then let's bring it, bring it back and say, let's share our voice in the voice of maybe somebody else that's not able to share their voice.
• 29:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because everybody should have that opportunity.
• 30:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let's leave politics out of it.
• 30:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let's talk about human beings.
• 30:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you very much for joining us.
• 30:12
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• 30:17
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• 30:19
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• 30:30
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• 30:32
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• 31:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We are reaching over 120 countries.
• 31:05
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• 31:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you.
• 31:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We love you, we support you, and we'll see you on the next episode.
• 31:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Life's worth living.
• 31:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Life's worth living, life is worth living.
• 31:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Bye bye for now.