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What's Really Holding You Back? How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs That Keep You Stuck · The Inspired Speaker Network

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  You are listening to The Awakening Woman On The Rise.
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  If you are a woman who is seeking to live a more authentic life,
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  but are feeling not enough to step out fully just yet, you are in the right place.
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  If you are a woman who is looking to live your personal truth
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  and make the impact you truly desire, you are in the right place.
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  I'm your host, Wendy Yacboski. Let's step out in this together.
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  So what is an Awakening Woman? One thing about an Awakening Woman is that she's willing to question
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  what she's always believed makes her successful, makes her confident,
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  makes her a part of everyone else, that she belongs to what's going on.
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  But the thing is, is that if we don't question what we believed up until now,
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  we can't have a different experience. So I want us to be able to look at Awakening as
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  seeing what it is that we are believing that is stopping us from going forward,
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  stopping us from listening to that inner voice that says,
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  Honey, this is for you to do. You can do this. But oh my God, do I have the time to do it?
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  I'm so busy. I just can't stop right now. But what if whatever you're feeling called to do
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  or to start could be started in 10 minutes? Not in 10 minutes, but with 10 minutes,
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  with five minutes. Imagine how you'd feel if you could give yourself that portion of time.
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  How would you feel mentally, do you think? Do you think, Oh my God, I started. Oh my God,
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  I had a good thought. Oh my God, I can do this. That's what I want you to look at.
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  Sometimes I know for myself, being transparent here, sometimes I think I need to do the whole
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  thing at once. Do I start? Not likely. As a matter of fact, hardly ever. But there's something
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  called the Pomodoro Method. You may be familiar with it. And that is where we give ourselves,
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  it could be a half an hour, it could be 10 minutes, it could be five minutes. So we do it
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  for that amount of time that we've made an agreement with ourselves to do. And after that
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  10 minutes or five minutes, we can stop if we need to. But what I have found is that when I give
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  myself that time, I want to go further. I get on a roll. Ideas start coming. It's amazing how it
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  happens. So time does not have to be the barrier that it feels like for us. And here's another one,
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  money. Do you ever believe that money is a barrier to doing what you want to do?
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  Now that can be a little bit tough. It's definitely something that I have struggled with.
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  I grew up believing that there was never enough money. And that money doesn't grow on trees.
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  That money, you have to, oh gosh, this is a tough one to say. But I found that for myself,
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  it seemed like to have money, I needed to not be myself. Now, I don't know if that's anything that
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  you have ever experienced or had the idea of. But it's something that I'm needing to
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  to question now. This is one thing I've learned. If I don't ask for what I want,
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  it is never going to happen. I have had so many experiences lately where I have said,
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  I can do this right now. But I can't do that right now. And what I found is that whoever I would be
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  working with is willing to support me, knowing that we've got a plan. Sometimes we just don't
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  have it all at once, all that money. But it doesn't mean that the goal, that the dream,
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  that the initiative is not possible. So let's question our beliefs about money.
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  Another one, the third one that I'm going to talk about is risk. I can't afford the risk.
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  What if I fail? What if I feel humiliated? What if I don't know what to say next?
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  You know, here's the thing I'm learning about risk. I really attribute confidence to risk as well,
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  because it's very risky to not feel confident. And I always used to expect that confidence
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  comes first. When I'm confident enough, I can risk. But here's the deal. Without risking,
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  without taking the action first, I don't have the confidence. And the risk does not happen.
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  So again, let's chunk it down a little. What if we don't have to do the whole thing
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  confidently at once? What if there's one thing in the scheme of what it is we want to do
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  that we feel confident about doing, and we do that, and we build the bridge forward?
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  Building our confidence, building our risk resilience, because we're learning to trust
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  ourselves. These risks, these obstacles to growth are key to be willing to look at, to question,
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  and reframe, because you have a purpose. You have a mission. You have a heart's desire
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  to be able to give yourself in such a way that I'm not going to pretend I know what you want to do,
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  but it's something that's really important for you to do. And I can only tell you that
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  if you don't do it, life will never change. Risk won't change. Money won't change. Time won't
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  change. You'll continue to feel stuck. And I can tell you that from my own experience.
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  I am now starting to move forward in being willing to have questioned what I have thought
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  was necessary to feel successful, to feel fulfilled, to feel confident. And I'm realizing
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  that it's so much less onerous than I thought, because I can chunk it down now. And it takes
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  actually so much less than I thought it did. And one of the things that is really helpful
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  is having at least one person who believes in you, who is experienced in
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  challenging their beliefs and finding a new way to do it, so that you can go to them and say,
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  you know what? I just really need to talk right now. I'm feeling this is impossible.
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  I don't know which way to turn. And that you can feel so safe to talk with them, hear their
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  thoughts, and know that they are not only believing in you, but they are with you in this.
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  Your community is really, really key. I am finding that community is really, really key for me.
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  I want to share something with you that feels a bit vulnerable, but really important for me to
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  share with you. I didn't realize the belief I had that I needed to do everything myself.
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  If I didn't do it myself, the credit was not mine. But what I didn't realize at that time
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  except that I believed I should do it myself, is that I can't do it myself. And that can't
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  is not a weakness. Let's look at this. How much do we really do ourselves?
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  We can do things ourselves, but with the help of others. Sometimes we don't even realize how
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  others are helping us. But when I came to realize that I can't do everything myself,
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  and that when I take action, even with somebody else helping me, we both get the credit. It's
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  not that I don't get any credit. I'm willing. I'm ready. I've reframed it. I am getting the credit,
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  and I acknowledge who has helped me do it. Please, please, please remember that we do
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  nothing alone. You do nothing alone. We don't need to do anything alone. And this is part of
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  the reframe in terms of moving forward with our dream. Because when we can't ask for help,
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  and there is help, it stops us from going forward, or it stops us at that same place every time.
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  I know that place, and I want to support you to move over that place or through it,
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  whatever is working for you. There can be a tendency for women to self-isolate.
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  In speaking for myself, when I self-isolate, it's when I'm not believing in myself.
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  Sometimes women will feel unvalued, unappreciated, unsupported by women or men,
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  and they look at it as, I shouldn't do what I want to do. And when I feel poorly about myself,
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  when I feel like I'm not enough, and I'm not seen, and I'm not heard, it's like I internalize.
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  It's not safe to be out there in what it is that I want to do. And this is where I believe that
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  finding our people, finding our community is really, really important because there are people
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  that see us and hear us and want to support us in going forward. That self-isolation is a behavior.
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  It isn't something that needs to be an ongoing reality in our life. Yes, sometimes we need to
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  go in and think or whatever, but isolation, self-isolation is an old behavior that we can
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  change by finding our community, finding our people one at a time. Don't think you have to
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  have 30 people for you all at once. One at a time works. I have found personally that there is such
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  a huge cost in not going for what matters to me, for going for my dream, for listening to my soul.
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  One of them is lack of self-confidence. It feeds on itself. The other is depression.
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  It's a natural, I'm thinking that it's a natural reaction when some part of us is saying,
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  hello, hello, and we're going, no, no, that our mind and our bodies are connected.
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  So, we can't be thinking one thing and having a different experience in our body. The same as if
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  our bodies experience something, if our mind's not acknowledging it, then the circulation is not
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  happening. So, depression is one of the results. Sickness can be another result. I find that when
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  I'm not following the soul prompts, I'll call it that, that my immunity lowers. I can be not well
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  just for that very reason, I will experience sickness. And, you know, honestly, and I think
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  that everyone on this call not only cares about their soul dream, but they care about others in
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  our life. So, when I am really struggling with who I am, it impacts my relationships.
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  You know, we don't have to be pleasing everyone all the time. It's not about that, but we do want
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  to be happy within ourselves and with those that we love by being ourselves, but also accepting
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  ourselves in such a way that we're showing up in our greatest vibe, let's say, our greatest energy,
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  our greatest light. My hope for everyone listening to this podcast is that you will be willing to
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  not only question what you believed up until now, but to feel safe in being able to question yourself.
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  I want you to feel safe to be who you are because the truth is, is that it's us we see in the mirror
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  every morning. And as you continue to listen to this podcast, I want you to know how supported
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  you are in this community, that you have something valuable and essential to offer, and that
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  every day in every way, as the old saying goes, I know that you are becoming more and more
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  your soul identity, that soul that wants you to grow, that wants you to express,
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  that wants you to love, that wants you to be light in every area of your life. You've got this.