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03 15 2026 Husbands and Wives · Your Daily Portion with L. David Harris

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  Speaker 1: Most of us eat every day, some of us too
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  Speaker 1: much because yesterday's food is not enough to supply energy
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  Speaker 1: for today's needs. Why then, do some of us expect
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  Speaker 1: yesterday's portion of heavenly manna, the word of God to
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  Speaker 1: keep us through today's challenges. On this program, we are
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  Speaker 1: going to change all of that. Let's experience God's words
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  Speaker 1: today and receive the power we need to live healthy,
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  Speaker 1: vibrant lives. Welcome to your Daily Portion with your host,
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  Speaker 1: author speaker, Elle David Harris.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning, good morning, Good morning. It is Sunday, March fifteen,
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  Speaker 2: twenty twenty six. Hello, my name is El David Harris.
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  Speaker 2: I am your host, and this is your Daily Portion
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  Speaker 2: where we give you God's word every single day and
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  Speaker 2: today is no exception. We are continuing in our Lesson
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  Speaker 2: study series uniting Heaven and Earth, christ in Philippians and Colossians,
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  Speaker 2: and our caption for today is Husband's and Lives Husbands
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  Speaker 2: and Wives. Before we get into that, I'd like to
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  Speaker 2: say welcome to everyone joining us, especially those joining us
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  Speaker 2: Your Daily Portion Life application Guide. I know I'm speaking quickly,
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  Speaker 2: and fellowship. Let's go ahead and pray and then we
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  Speaker 2: will get underway. Father, We thank you for the privilege
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  Speaker 2: of prayer. Thank you for giving us the Bible to
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  Speaker 2: guide our lives. Will you teach us to live like
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  Speaker 2: we must under you with our family relations, especially our marriages.
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  Speaker 2: In Jesus name, I pray, Amen and Amen again. The
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  Speaker 2: divorced statistics are really really crazy, even inside of the
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  Speaker 2: quote church and so and so man, there are so
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  Speaker 2: many reasons. There are so many reasons. And some of
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  Speaker 2: you may remember that I used to be a marriage coach,
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  Speaker 2: a romantic relationships coach. I seldom do it anymore these days,
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  Speaker 2: but that was my life for a while. And it's
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  Speaker 2: because I love marriage. Simon does two. I love marriage,
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  Speaker 2: and I remember when Ron and Daria Gadsden. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if they listen to your Daily portion or not,
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  Speaker 2: but somebody ping them for this one. I remember they
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  Speaker 2: took some own and I on a date our first year.
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  Speaker 2: We were just weeks old, I think, and we had
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  Speaker 2: a double date, and these elders said that that marriage
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  Speaker 2: is a ministry. Marriage is a ministry. That is the
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  Speaker 2: number one best guidance that I've ever gotten. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if Simone would agree, but that was the number
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  Speaker 2: one best advice that I had ever gotten where marriage
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  Speaker 2: is concerned. I've heard all kinds of other stuff about
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  Speaker 2: how hard the work is for marriage. Okay, fine, maybe
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  Speaker 2: it is right. Maybe it is I've heard all kinds
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  Speaker 2: of other stuff right. And then the second best advice
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  Speaker 2: that I got was from Pastor Henry Monroe Wright, who
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  Speaker 2: who pastored Simone and I and gave us our premarital
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  Speaker 2: counseling all of those years ago. And he, among many things,
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  Speaker 2: he said, I don't know why this one resonates with me,
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  Speaker 2: but he said, neither of you is the other one's parent.
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  Speaker 2: Neither of you is the other one's parent. And I
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  Speaker 2: knew what the words meant back then, but those words
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  Speaker 2: really resonate with me when Simone is doing something that
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  Speaker 2: I disagree with, or I don't know if it resonates
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  Speaker 2: with her when I'm doing something she disagrees with. We're
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  Speaker 2: not talking about principal stuff that's obvious, like little stuff
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  Speaker 2: you feel me like somebody like me. I like to
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  Speaker 2: put the toilet paper roll with the paper going from
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  Speaker 2: under because it makes sense to me, and maybe she
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  Speaker 2: likes it for to go over like in the hotels.
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  Speaker 2: But little stuff like that, so neither one of us
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  Speaker 2: gets to tell the other one, well, this is the
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  Speaker 2: way it has to be done. I don't like when
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  Speaker 2: people squeeze the toothpaste tube from the middle. I needed
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  Speaker 2: to be squeezed from so that it's you understand what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying here. So we have these preferences in our marriage,
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  Speaker 2: which now I know is a ministry, and that there
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  Speaker 2: are young people and elders alike. There are people that
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  Speaker 2: are older than me by over a decade I'm fifty
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  Speaker 2: something who are looking at our marriage and they're encouraged
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  Speaker 2: by it. They're seeing it as a standard because we
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  Speaker 2: choose to live according to the biblical principle. And so
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  Speaker 2: I'll stop with the personal discussion here, and we'll jump in.
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  Speaker 2: We'll jump in right to the Bible, Book of Colossians,
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  Speaker 2: chapter three and verse eighteen. The Bible says, why submit
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  Speaker 2: yourselves to your own husbands, as it is fit in
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  Speaker 2: the Lord. Now I know that the people normally go
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  Speaker 2: there first, and forget about the loving part, where the
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  Speaker 2: husbands are are to love our wives as Christ loved
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  Speaker 2: the church and gave himself for it. But let's start
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  Speaker 2: right here. Let's talk about what this ain't right. So
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  Speaker 2: Paul does not present submission as a blind compliance or
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  Speaker 2: a loss of identity. That is not the case. In fact,
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  Speaker 2: In fact, Auntie Ellen taught us that Eve was taken
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  Speaker 2: from the rib of Adam. So that means that she
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  Speaker 2: wasn't taken from the foot to be trampled upon. She
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  Speaker 2: wasn't taken from the head to lord over him. She
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  Speaker 2: was taken. She was taken from the rib so that
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  Speaker 2: she could help complete him. They are side by side,
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  Speaker 2: both equally valued by God, and neither to be subordinate.
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  Speaker 2: That's not the same as submission. Neither is subordinate to
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  Speaker 2: the other one. So I don't command simone to do
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  Speaker 2: nothing like that is not the case. That is not
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  Speaker 2: the same as submission, and so he places a clear
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  Speaker 2: boundary around it. It said submission is in the Lord.
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  Speaker 2: A wife's highest allegiance remains with Christ. There are so
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  Speaker 2: many abusive relationships out here because some brothers get this
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  Speaker 2: thing mixed up. This means submission never includes sin. I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to take my time right here. It never means
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  Speaker 2: cohersion or the surrender of conscience. The instruction assumes spiritual
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  Speaker 2: maturity and not domination. And so this means this submission.
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  Speaker 2: Look at the actual word that Paul used. Who I
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  Speaker 2: can't pronounce it. I won't try to. But the word,
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  Speaker 2: the word actually means to align willingly under proper order,
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  Speaker 2: never forced or coerced. That's what the word means. I'll
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  Speaker 2: try it. I'll try it, I said I wouldn't right,
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  Speaker 2: it's who pot taso, who pote taso? Theologians let me
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  Speaker 2: know if I pronounced it correctly. But now you know
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  Speaker 2: the word I'm working with to align willingly under proper order,
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  Speaker 2: never forced or cohersed, coerced. So that means that we
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  Speaker 2: need to be reevaluating whether our understanding of submission reflects
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  Speaker 2: Christ's lordship rather than cultural habit or personal control. Now,
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  Speaker 2: the Bible says here in Colossians, chapter three and verse nineteen,
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  Speaker 2: this is the one I love the most. Love defines headship,
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  Speaker 2: not authority. The Bible says, husbands, love your wives and
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  Speaker 2: be not bitter against them. So Paul places the burden
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  Speaker 2: the greater burden on husbands. Love is not optional, bitterness
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  Speaker 2: is forbidden. Ephesians expands this stem by anchoring marital love
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  Speaker 2: in Christ's self giving love for the church, and so headship,
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  Speaker 2: spiritually speaking, is expressed through sacrifice. Brothers, are you sacrificing
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  Speaker 2: for your wives? Are you sacrificing for your wives? Care? Faithfulness,
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  Speaker 2: not control? This mean this love actually means to act
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  Speaker 2: for another's highest good with self giving commitment. So ask
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  Speaker 2: whether your decisions and marriage consistently protect honor and serve
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  Speaker 2: your wife's well being. I think we have enough for today.
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  Speaker 2: Make it a great day. Peaks for joining us listening. Friends.
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  Speaker 1: Always remember we cannot live by bread alone, but by
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  Speaker 1: every word that comes from the mouth of God. This
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  Speaker 1: has been your daily portion with el David Harris. Make
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  Speaker 1: it a great day. Yeah,