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Season 3 - Episode 281 - Be kind to yourself · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the noisy chicken coop with
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  these girls laying eggs. My goodness, you're going to
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  hear it go off because she's got a lot to say today.
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  Anyway, talking about Samantha, she is absolutely going to town
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  right now. Anyway, today we are talking
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  about kindness. This came up recently in a
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  conversation I had with a client about how she is so kind and she
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  literally is so kind to everybody around her except
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  herself. And I said, well, do you think
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  that kindness, having a rule of kindness, because she has high,
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  high integrity values and rules around kindness should exclude
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  yourself? And she couldn't answer the
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  question. And she kept saying, what do you
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  mean? And I said, well, you have to be
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  kind to yourself. And she said, I, I don't know
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  what you mean by that. Like she couldn't think about
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  what did kindness mean in reference to yourself.
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  So because these things are such teaching moments for my clients,
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  they're also teaching moments for all of us here.
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  So when you are kind to yourself, you take a break.
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  I'm not always good at doing that, but that's when you are
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  being truly kind to yourself. When you listen to your body and
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  say instead of sleeping for six hours or seven hours, I need to
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  sleep in. I need to allow myself to go to
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  bed early. You know, that's always the big
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  one for me. I don't like to sleep in in the
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  morning, but I like to go to bed really early.
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  I'm talking like toddler early 7:30 and I love being in bed
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  early so I can read, so I can watch a show or I can just fall
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  asleep, whatever I want to do. That to me is the space for
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  healing and I love it. So that's kindness.
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  Being kind to yourself is taking the time so that you can say,
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  you know what? I want to take my dog for a
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  walk. Not only is that good for my
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  dog, but it's good for me. Being kind to yourself might
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  say, hey, you know what? I've been not eating bad food
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  for three weeks straight. And I really feel like, you
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  know, I just want to have a pancake for breakfast.
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  And I don't have to have a big one.
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  But I'm going to be kind to myself and I'm not going to be
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  so rigid. Now, I know that flow, you know,
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  that flies in the face of goals sometimes.
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  But when you know the difference, when it's just like
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  this would make my soul feel better.
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  And that's the kind of the way I measure it for me.
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  Is this just a habit? Am I skirting something or am I
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  just allowing myself to be kind to myself a little tiny bit?
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  That is what I mean by this. Kindness to yourself really
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  genuinely matters. And it feels good to know I was
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  kind to myself today. And I bet you everyone listening
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  is not asking themselves that question.
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  Was I kind to myself today? Did I compliment myself today?
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  Did I say, hey, great job? I mean, how often do we say
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  great job to ourselves? I know I do it, but I've been
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  conditioned to do it. I've trained myself to do it.
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  So you have to ask yourself those questions because when you
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  start doing it, it's a fundamental difference.
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  So have you been kind to yourself today?
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  Was I sweet to myself? Did I compliment myself?
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  Did I treat myself like I would treat others?
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  And believe me, it is not easy because we are so much harder on
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  ourselves than we are with other people.
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  We'll see somebody doing something and we'll be like,
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  they're like, oh, it's not where I want it to be.
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  And we're like, yeah, but you're almost there.
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  Stick with it. You got this.
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  Like, we'll give them the pop pep talk, but we don't give
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  ourselves the pep talk. And giving yourself the pep talk
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  is so necessary. Having your your, the awareness
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  that you are not just one entity, but you are a
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  conglomerate of the emotions, beliefs, all of that stuff.
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  That's part of you that needs to be pumped up that you need to
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  have those conversations with yourself.
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  We all know that because we say little phrases like, well, I'm
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  beside myself or, you know, we, we give the clues, you know, I
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  need to clear my head so I move my body.
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  We know we have all these different elements.
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  So when we start to care for each of the elements
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  independently, we start to feel a lot better.
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  That's why we go to church because it's good for our soul
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  for some of us. That's why we go make art
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  because it's good for our hearts for some of us.
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  We all have these little keys to the Kingdom, so to speak, but we
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  have to execute them in kindness and being kind to ourselves,
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  being aware, so super important. So super important.
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  So I want you to think about how you are going to express
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  kindness to yourself this week. What kind of questions are you
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  going to ask yourself to keep yourself in line and on track
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  with that piece? You're going to really work on
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  that by asking the right questions because once you do
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  that, everything changes and you start to feel better.
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  You're more productive, you can get more done because your soul
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  is like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because it's feeling lifted up.
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  And we all know how great we feel when somebody's
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  complimenting us. It makes us just feel like we're
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  ready to burst. Well, do it for yourself.
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  Don't wait for other people. They don't need to understand
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  anything to to do that for you. If you're doing it for yourself,
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  is it nice to get it from other people?
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  Absolutely. Do I love it?
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  Yes, I do. But do I need it?
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  No, because I do it myself. Remember that we are a
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  self-contained unit when we choose to be.
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  All right my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will
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  see you all tomorrow. Bye.