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Autistic Parent: The Part You Don't See · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  Heads can explode watching Joseph Park level.
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  We're also watching Philippi on an iPhone and this thing is
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  doing. I put a post about like how, you
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  know, parenting was being an autistic parent for kids is
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  difficult, right? And it has its kind of like has
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  its moments at the time. So I realized that like I should
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  just vlog it, right? Like why not?
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  So today is let me have a look at those glasses.
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  Here comes one of them. So today is Saturday.
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  Hey baby. And and this means that I have
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  my kids in my house because they're with their mum on every
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  other day and then I have them on Saturday.
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  We go home tomorrow. So I've got them, but this is
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  much really interesting. I also have a dog.
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  So I'm trying to like juggle the dog and the baby.
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  And there's also a what is all more tornado.
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  What's it called? Storm.
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  And so that's like a tornado. It's kind of like a tornado.
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  Yeah, but check this out. Right.
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  So we've got stuff on the TV, but look, check it out.
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  It has ripped a fence apart. It's taken one of my sheds and
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  then taken the door of this one. And this, we think this fence
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  might pull over Rosario. Kind of a bit crazy.
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  Anyway. Oh, that's the update over so
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  far. And we're just kind of hanging
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  out out with you, babe. Yeah, we're just trying to see
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  what we're going to do. Are they NHS pajamas?
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  No, shine bright. Look, look at these pajamas.
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  It says shine bright, shine, shine bright.
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  Whoop, whoop, whoop, shine star. Oh, and then, yeah, he's decided
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  to play with that. So anyway, the, the difficult
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  pies, I'm actually really sick as well.
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  So I have like a chest infection.
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  I've always come from probably gone from the kids and oh, by
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  the way it goes. I haven't, I have suspected bad
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  ADHD. There's no way of ever going to
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  decorate a tree, so I let the kids decorate it.
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  Yeah. I mean, it does look a little
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  bit like a crackdown, but I assure you my house is nice and
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  tidy. But yes, that's The thing is
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  like staying on top of, like, tidying things because I have to
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  have, I can't have cluttering mess everywhere.
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  So keeping the kids apart. What is that?
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  Oh, the bottle opener. Yes.
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  Because that's like, oh, careful.
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  Hey, it's OK. Look at the doggy.
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  Just want to make sure he doesn't get.
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  Yeah, Yeah. Nice and gentle.
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  Nice and gentle. Yeah.
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  So it's that and juggling, trying to get food ready, trying
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  to keep the house tidy once the kids are here.
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  And I know it's hard, right? It's constant noise.
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  Like the baby, they want to play games, they want to the
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  television and like, so I might have to wear my headphones, but
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  I don't want to because, like, I feel like that kind of like,
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  weeds them out. But anyway, what?
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  Yeah, I'm trying not to show their faces because I don't
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  know. I don't do something anyway
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  regards to that. I can be challenging.
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  Anyway, I'll update you in a bit once we're once we're a bit
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  more. I don't know what we've got to
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  do next. We've got dinner time in 20
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  minutes and then it's bath and bedtime.
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  Here's a classic example of how my head's going to explode
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  watching Joseph Park 11 and also watching Lippy on an iPad and
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  this thing is going, somebody else is sick.
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  We just have big words. So one of the things I find
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  really difficult with is that like getting these down for bed
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  and bath time always really difficult.
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  So excuse me, bye bye. So I have to kind of have extra
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  help. Look, look, look at this.
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  So I have some extra help to my parents come over to help.
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  So right now I'm going to put I've got this vegan pizza, which
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  the little guy loves. And so I'm going to put a vegan
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  pizza in. So I'll have some of that with
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  him. And then my eldest, there's such
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  food that he will hardly eat anything.
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  I'm getting really sick and worse and worse again.
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  Oh, I'm not feeling good. Yeah.
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  And I can't go to get any medicine because I have to go to
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  the emergency room. That means I have to take both
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  boys to me. And that's not a place for kids.
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  And no way am I taking them there.
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  Guys, hear that? Silence.
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  Boys are eating. And oh, left my kitchen window
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  open. Great.
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  Boys are eating, I've noticed the Michael Bublé's Christmas
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  album worth cooking. It's all quiet.
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  Look at this. My thing that I dislike most is
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  that I just like things to be in their place over time.
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  I don't like a mess on the clutter.
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  Don't like disorderliness, kid. OK guys, both boys are in bed.
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  I've got a cup of tea because I'm British and I drink tea to
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  chill me out before bed. I feel like garbage guys.
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  Like honestly, my youngest took forever to put down.
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  Like you just wouldn't go to sleep.
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  And then me and my eldest stayed up for a little bit.
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  Anyway, I'm in bed, little boys on camera.
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  I'm going to watch some stuff on my iPad, some training videos
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  about how social media messenger apps, because my brain is always
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  kind of like active, right? And, and I'm doing stuff like,
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  you know, like that is not my field of special interest.
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  And I get really like a lack of dopamine, like dopamine like so
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  like, you know, certain kids aren't doing a bath and bedtime
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  and food and stuff like that really doesn't do anything
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  dopamine wise. But watching training videos on
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  how to use social media apps is dopamine fulfilling.
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  So I need a bit dopamine to fall asleep and also drinking
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  caffeinated tea before bed really helps, especially for
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  ADHD people, right? Oh I don't if you know, I had a
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  tattoo there of the infinite symbol for autism.
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  Anyway, that means said my mum came up with helping with the
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  boys because I just need a little bit of help, you know,
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  executive function wise, like tidying up and getting my stuff
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  cleaned and, and dealing with the boys, especially when
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  there's like a lot of noise, you know, it's, it's so difficult.
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  So a big salute for all the parents out there who can kick
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  ass. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  checking out this podcast. Make sure you are subscribed
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  because there are people listening right now who are not
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  subscribed to this podcast. I can see you.
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  Make sure you subscribe. OK guys, see you in the next
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  one. Peace.