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Hard Work Can’t Fix an Unhealed Inner Child: Are you ignoring it? · Business Energetics® with Lenka Lutonska

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  Welcome to the Business Energetics podcast, where we dive deep into the new way of growing your business using the most powerful currency on the planet, your energy, not effort alone. My name is Lenka Lutonska. I'm a creator of Business Energetics and best link author of Energetic Selling and Marketing. And after losing my first business, I went from £7.30 on my bank account to creating millions on repeat, by doing what I love, using the power of energy.
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  And now I want to show you how to do the same. In each episode, we'll dive into the different aspects of your energy so you can activate the next level of your business, revenues, life, and even that sense of aliveness. Welcome, and let's dive into today's episode.
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  Let's talk to the wounded child aspect of you. An aspect of you, because it's not that you are a wounded child, but there is this aspect of you, we all have it, that is crying to belong, that is crying to be seen, that is crying for more play.
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  And some of us think, well, I have more things to do, more important things to do than to attend to my inner child.
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  I'm busy. I'm responsible leader and individual.
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  I've got bigger responsibilities than my inner child. But I'm here to tell you that there is nothing more important than you becoming your best and most supporting divine parent and parent yourself to greatness. Give your inner child as much attention as it needs, because it's your inner child that holds your golden shadow, holds your entire potential, where things, whether it's in life or in business, can come to you with so much more ease, so much more grace, so much more fun, so much more play, so much more pleasure. It's the basis of magician consciousness. And the inner child is, paradoxically, the mother of all other archetypes. So your inner child is precious and it deserves all the attention it can. We all have the little us.
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  So let's talk to that part of you, okay? If the inner child is not attended and its wounds are left wide open without healing them and alchemizing them, this can show up in your business as going in a circle, you feel like you do something, you take some steps forward, and then something happens that perhaps even disintegrates you for a while because your nervous system may be quite fragile, not fully developed, and yet to hold the full power that you already have, the full power of your full leadership, entrepreneurship, success, money and so forth. So that's how it can show up, going in these circles. A few steps for us, but then few steps Back similarly, sometimes it shows up as feast and famine. So yes, you can go, you can put a lot of energy into something, but then your system literally gets fried up. And so you need to really, really rest and integrate system again.
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  So it creates this feast and famine, big months, but followed by more small months or. Or inadequate financial months and so on. It also shows up for instance, as you avoiding visibility that you deserve. Your inability, I'll say it as that to claim the world stage. Because you're so scared of judgments. Because your inner child so wants to belong. Your inner child so wants to be seen, so wants to be liked, so wants to be appro.
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  So you unconsciously avoid the bigger exposure just in case somebody will judge you or misunderstand you, or will not give you that approval that your inner child so wants. On other occasions you might find yourself getting really, really really really angry and things don't go well. Just so much emotion brewing at you. That too is wounded child. And that's okay. So hey, I give you just some expressions of wound child, but that's not what you're here for. That's the detail. What's most important is the invitation and how to go about that invitation. Because here is what you're invited to step into. To move yourself from wounded child to divine parent. And through standing in a role of divine parent, help to alchemize, help to heal your inner child so you can really take tap into your golden shadow and bring so much more ease, play, flow and abundance into your business and life. So divine parent is the other side of this polarity. And it's obvious what in a divine parent is, is that aspect of you that will give yourself and your inner child all the space you need. The love, but also the truth. Some. Some powerful parenting, so to speak. While in few minutes that we'll spend with each other here, it wouldn't be fair to give it to you all. After all, I could overwhelm you with that. There's no point what I'm going to give here here it's three words, or if you like energies that will be your guiding principles and mantras that will support you in embodying fully your divine parent within and help your inner wounded child to heal and to mature. Because yes, one of the greatest responsibilities of change makers, solid entrepreneurs and leaders across the world is to become our best parents. And here are those three words, three energies and three mantras. Let's get started. Well, first and foremost is presence.
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  Yes, as a divine parent you will be present for yourself just like you would be present for the child you dearly love. How about practicing this presence for yourself? This is about giving yourself that sense that I will always be there for you. Now look, I'm inviting you here, almost take that double perception with yourself. Because yes, there is an aspect of you that is the inner child. So let that aspect of you perhaps even sit in one chair. But that there is another aspect of you that you can connect to and it's your divine parent. This is the aspect of you that is connected to your higher self, to your soul, to what the most powerful parent would have access to. I know more my dear, than you, little child. I love you, but you don't know it all. And I'm here to daily support you. So first and foremost, what you want to practice is presence for yourself. What this can look like. When you feel like you want to cry, you allow yourself to cry. When you feel like you want to shout, you allow yourself to shout. When you feel like you want to play, you allow yourself to play. When you feel like you want to complain, you allow yourself to complain without judgment. Because I bet you did this. But judging yourself, oh, I complained again. I need to snap out of it. Oh, I have more important things to do than play and so forth. So practice presence for yourself so your inner child can learn that you will always be there for him or her. It's impossible to express in words what's the value of this, tangible value of this on your business, on your abundance and so forth. But if I were to wrap it up in a few, few sentences or words, it would be this. If you cannot be fully present for yourself, how can we then ask our clients to be present for our materials? How can we ask our clients to be present and listen to what we've got to say? How can we ask the universe to be present and be there for us when we ask something the universe to co create? You see, we've got to practice the depth of presence for ourselves. The same depth of presence. Then we would love to experience in our relationships, in our audience, in our business, in our teams and so forth. And the mantra that will help you to practice that presence for yourself is this. I am here.
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  I am here for myself always. I'm not leaving me. I'm here. I'm here for myself fully, no matter what. Something like that.
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  Create that mantra for yourself and say it to yourself. Just feel the energy of it. And that presence will open up relationship between you and your little you. And even that can be life and business changing now, before we continue, some of you might not know about this beauty, my best selling book, Energetic Selling and Marketing. And if that's the case, you need to know about it. Not only you need to know about it, you'll probably love reading this. I mean, if you enjoy and benefit from this content that I'm sharing, you might end up saying what one of the readers said about this book, that it's the book I will be buried with because that's how many notes she made and reread and reread again. Well, Energetic Selling and Marketing is what it says it is. It's about how to use the most powerful and asset in the entire world.
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  Your energy to magnetize your marketing, your selling and create extraordinary growth in your business more effortlessly, meaning with far less effort than usual. It's well loved around the world. It's full of exercises, principles, aha moments, goose bumpy moments perhaps. And yes, also some of the personal shares from my life and business journey. And I hope you'll be one of those who will love this book and benefit from it tremendously. You can get it on Amazon or head over to the link we will share in the description below where you can get PDF version or Kindle version of this book and some powerful resources.
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  So that's all I wanted to say and now let's continue with the video. Now the second energy, or a keyword if you like, that will be your powerful guiding principle. Forward is choice. What I mean by that is that as divine parent you will start to make for yourself the harder choices, those that the inner child in you would not make. Because it's always the parent that will need to make the harder choices for the benefit of the child. As a inner child, and especially the wounded child wounded aspect of ourselves, we avoid those hard decisions, those decisions that take us too far out of the comfort zone. But it's through those choices that are not the easiest or most convenient for you, but right for you, aligned with that next version of yourself, aligned with that fullness of who you really are. It's those choices that are going to change your life full stop that they're going to really revolutionize your business and help you to make an impact you were born to make and to experience abundance of money and everything else that you were born to experience through those hard choices. Now what this may look like. It may look like that intuitively if you feel called to make a choice or movement forward that is completely aligned with your vision, but you will maybe freeze acknowledge that it's your inner Child, being active, it's your nervous system that is. Can be quite fragile, is at the threshold of stepping into the next level. Identity and breathe through it. Reassure your inner child, reassure yourself. But slowly but surely walk through more and more of those thresholds. And every time you do, every time you do, make that step forward, that next step, regardless of discomfort, this is what I need you to do. Breathe immediately. Calm your nervous system down. After you've done that powerful choice, which can be hard. Choice, powerful choice, calm your nervous system down. Breathe deeply as long as is needed to calm your nervous system down. And to send a message to your mind, to your nervous system, and to your inner child that says, I am safe in making the most powerful choices. I am safe in this version of me, okay? And the mantra that will help you to practice these powerful choices is this. I always choose myself, even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard.
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  So say this with me again.
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  I choose myself. I always choose myself, even when it's hard.
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  Especially when it's hard. And the third energy I want to leave you with just for today is this. Play, play, play, play. Because the chances are, if you experience lots of this, if you like, symptoms of wounded inner child in your business and life, the chances are that you're not allowing yourself to play enough and it's time to start. So start with even cuddly toy or ask yourself, how could I expand my capacity to play and enjoy and feel that pleasure, enjoy and adventure. Try new things. Even if you think, I don't know, I don't know what I enjoy. Try it. Try and go. Do something new. Go and play. Ask yourself this question. Your inner child will love it. This is how you will start really releasing fully that magician consciousness, full creative consciousness that is the source of of your creative genius. That is the source of the most wild, profitable ideas for your business. For those ideas that will make a huge impact not just for your business, not just for your bottom line, not just for your life, but for the world. So go there with the play. Go there with the pleasure. Allow yourself to experience what you're meant to experience anyway. Because play and pleasure and adventure and all these kinds of feelings, this is actually our divine nature. So this is about coming back to yourself. And the mantra that will support you with this is this one. I let life delight me. I let life excite me. I let life surprise me and let it be so. Let life delight you and excite you and surprise you. Okay, now here's what I need you to hear while Many of you will feel immediate internal changes and shifts as you start working with your inner child.
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  This is also a process. You will want to give yourself a grace and patience when you work with your inner child. This is why instead of Business Energetics Academy, we have got year long embodiment containers. They are not your quickies one week or one month. These are year long programs that will help you to fully embody not just the divine parent, but your limitless creator and change maker. Limitless millionaire, legacy leader, the sovereign self, the full version of the leader, woman, man, change maker you were born to become. So please with this work, give yourself a little bit of grace and patience, okay? Because ultimately it's so worth it. I could share with you story after story how leaders inside of Business Energetics Academy literally revolutionized their businesses and lives because of this deep work. One of them comes to my mind who actually stepped inside of Business Energetics Academy. Depressed? We didn't know.
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  Nobody knew. Oftentimes as the most powerful leaders, we hide some aspects of our life and personality and so forth. So this particular woman, and I'm going to change the name just this time, let's call her Lucy. Yes, she was heavily depressed. She just shared that later. And she really didn't like herself. She really didn't like her life even though she was running pretty successful business.
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  Anyway, instead of Business Energetics Academy, she learned, hey, slow down. I know we want to chase, chase, chase that next goal. Stop chasing. Give yourself that time. Be present for yourself. Choose yourself. So she did, she, she did go through all those powerful materials inside of Business Energetics Academy. She started Body, her divine parent and her queen and so forth and so forth. She started to trickle it into her choices in a business and life more and more. And four months on she went on to create another campaign in her business as she would normally do. But this time she decided that, you know what, I'm not going to change a thing. I'm not going to create anything new for this sales campaign because I'm in a season where I am most important.
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  So I'm happily do exactly what I did last time and you will know what happened.
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  She did exactly what she did last time. Just repurposed emails, sent exactly the same amount of emails, same amount of visibility, just did exactly what she did before. But this time 4 times bigger results. This was her first 100k cash month and from there she grew more and more. But here is what is the best part of this incredible story.
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  Lucy went from really disliking herself and life to saying that I now genuinely love myself and my life. I wake up every morning full of joy and I'm looking forward to the day and I sing a lot. And that is worth more than anything else in the world, more than those 100k. Right? So this is the power of working with your inner child. So for today you have got your three beautiful mantras and three keywords that will guide you on this journey. Money. It's so worth it and I'm so looking forward to hearing from you. What impact did this make on your life and business? Okay, after this video, what you might want to do, apart from perhaps re listening if you're taking notes and if you want to absorb even more of this, what you might definitely want to do is to book your energetic recalibration session. Because now you know, okay, inner child is creating a little bit of slowing down or it needs attention for me to get to the next level of my business and life. Fine, but now you want to really embody that next version of you. You want to really become her, become him. And that energetic recalibration session with one of our incredible business energetics mentors will be the beginning of that. You'll go into more depth of the quiet patterns that might be slowing you down and how to shift them and you can explore what is your next step in business, in life. Which of the four business energetics academy rooms or pathways is best for you? If you're thinking, oh, will I be sold to put your mind at ease, please. Because that's really old paradigm that convincing and you got to buy and we don't do any of that. We'll just lovingly guide you to be there for yourself and for you. To become, to become the version of you that already holds the level of abundance, level of impact and freedom you're dreaming about. Okay, so we'll put link to booking your session, your energetic recalibration session somewhere below. May you benefit hugely and I will see you next time.