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Expanding Perspective: Noticing the Signposts · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, authentic self. Well, last week,
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episode 47 was called Your Body, Earth and Source,
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Remembering Connection as a Highly Sensitive
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Woman. I spoke about honoring that depth of processing
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that we carry, which is an innate survival strategy,
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and how it becomes our true brilliance when we
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are aligned. remembering the essential relationships
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that most of us were never raised to truly nurture.
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And what's coming, you know, up for me to just
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speak about is how, you know, this awareness,
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this recognition is really important for us to
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give attention to, you know, each of us were
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raised by those who were also navigating their
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own journeys. And sometimes, you know, we may
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have had people in our lives, whether it's family
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members or schools, right, society, whoever,
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that, you know, maybe it didn't feel like they
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were doing their best. Maybe it actually, you
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know, caused a lot of turmoil. a lot of heartache,
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pain, whatever that may be. And what it's been
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coming up for me to notice is like, realizing
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what the generations before us were exposed to,
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you know, in their nurturing, you know, early
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life. Oftentimes, I know for me, during my awakening
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journey, there were times, you know, where I
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was like, gee, you know, I think my parents were
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too lenient with me. Maybe I wouldn't have gotten
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into XYZ, you know, if that wasn't the case,
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right? But then other points in my journey, I
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could say, well, wow, that really helped me cultivate,
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you know, my own independence and, you know,
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discovering, you know, who was actually the people
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who are very supportive to me, and who are the
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people that I really didn't want to be around,
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right? As far as peers and places that I, you
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know, would go in my free time, right? But, you
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know, when we do, when we look back at, you know,
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even a, gosh, 100 years ago, right? Like, I mean,
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so much has changed, right? But when we think
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like, our parents or our grandparents were raised
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in the early 1900s. And what might that have
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looked like? What might that have felt for them?
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Right? And then they're having kids and then
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they're raising our, you know, our parents or
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depending on your age, right? But like, it gives
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us a bigger, broader perspective to see how those
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earlier generations had their own challenges
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that were really difficult and so even if we
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look back on our parents or our grandparents
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and you know kind of say like geez that was pretty
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messed up or you know why did they do it that
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way it's hard for us to gain a true perspective
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because we are totally unaware of what that must
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have felt like what that might have been like
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for them So anyway, just again, it's always about
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understanding our perspective, right? And so
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when we have a very narrow perspective of, you
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know, like this is happening to me, you know,
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why are they doing that to me, right? Like it's
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a different type of experience when we shift
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into that more curiosity, right? Curiosity around
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our own connection, again, to our body, to...
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the source, whatever we choose to call it, right?
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To those who raised us in that maternal and paternal
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way, right? And again, Mother Earth, Father Sky,
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again, whatever words feel most true for you.
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But again, we have a very different perspective
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when we're actually slowing down and allowing
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our view to expand. You know, I went to get an
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eye exam yesterday and I was with the, I don't
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know what the assistant is called, but after
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you get the exam with the doctor, they give you
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your prescription, you go to get your glasses,
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you know, but that gentleman, like he spent so
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much time with me. And I don't know if it's because
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like I was. asking a lot, right? Like three different
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prescriptions and like wanted my bifocal line
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in a certain place because I'm really, you know,
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I'm super sensitive. Like if that bifocal line
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is too high, like, but what I realized, I was
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like, wow, like having this much space, right?
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And patience to go through this process. Like,
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I felt like I learned so much about what he does
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on his side of the table. You know, where when
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I reflect on the multiple other times I've gone
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to get prescriptions, right? Like, I didn't understand
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what they were telling me. I didn't feel understood.
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I got prescriptions that didn't work for me.
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Like, I'm literally wearing glasses that are
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like six years old because I'm like, each one
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after that just didn't work well, right? So it
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just... it helped me see that broader perspective
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of, wow, like when we really have time and space
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to be with another person and to communicate,
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you know, in an unrushed manner, like there's
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so much more clarity that comes from it, right?
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So much that we learn about it and so much that
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we can appreciate about the exchange. Um, so
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I definitely, definitely want to just keep pointing
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out how you know, when I lived as what I call
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the high strung person, like, I did my best to
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be patient, to be kind, you know, to be present.
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But that's really difficult to do when we're
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spinning on, you know, a list of tasks or to
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do's or, you know, deadlines or appointments
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that we have to get to. And that's just been
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the culture that a lot of us have been navigating.
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I can remember, and I don't remember how long
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ago it was, but I remember when I first heard
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about, oh my gosh, his name is escaping me, but
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he's the one who wrote the books, Rich Dad, Poor
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Dad. And I just remember him talking about like
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the rat race. And I just really appreciated that
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perspective because when we're living in that
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rat race, Like you don't have that broader perspective,
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right? Like in one of my earlier episodes, I
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talked about that high rise building, right?
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Like when we're literally living on the ground
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level and we're the ones, you know, on that hamster
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wheel or in that maze, you know, whatever you
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want to call it. You, we can't really see the
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bigger picture. We can't see all that's really
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happening. So the more that we take a break and
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breathe love, as I like to call it, you know,
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the more space we're creating for ourselves to
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be not only fully present, but to notice what
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is going on within us, around us, with others,
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you know, like that's so healthy. That's so essential
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that we have that kind of rest, right? That spaciousness.
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That's what allows our nervous system to shift
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out of sympathetic dominance, right? Or the stress
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response, right? And again, the stress response
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and sympathetic activation, they're not bad things
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that we want to avoid. They're part of living
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a human experience here on planet Earth. But
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we do have that parasympathetic, which is that
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rest, digest, and That is really essential to
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our well -being, our physical health, our mental
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health, like really, really important. But many
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people are living lives where they're just kind
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of adding more to their list of to -dos, right?
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And many people think like that's the way to
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live. I was recently, well. I have a dear friend.
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She is my youngest son's, one of my youngest
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son's godmothers. And she was also a minister
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and a dear, dear friend of mine. And she... was
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somebody who was very busy. Like she lived a
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really full life. She, I don't know that she
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said no to many things or many people, unless
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she just truly couldn't show up. You know, she
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really liked to be everywhere, you know, with
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family and friends. And that's not something
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that I can do. perhaps I used to live that way
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too before I had this awakening 18 years ago
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and started to realize like oh I'm kind of living
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in my head you know and not in my heart um that's
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really important so you know that's when my whole
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world started getting turned upside down and
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what I'm sensing you know with more of the women
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that I'm supporting um and of course what I just
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see in in the outer experiences of others is
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a lot of things are being turned upside down.
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I don't know how much you're seeing because again,
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we all don't see the same things because there's
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too much to see. So what we do see is more around
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what vibrational frequency we are operating from,
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right? So like to give you an example, like you
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could be somebody who You know, you travel certain
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path, you know, like say going to work or loved
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ones or, you know, just whatever roads you take
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and you never notice this certain, you know,
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signpost, whatever it may be, you know, and then
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something happens that shifts you and your life.
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And then all of a sudden it's like, oh, wow,
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I never saw that before. Right. But it was always
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there. But. where you were living from that vibrational
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frequency, it just wasn't something that was
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in your field of vision in a sense, right? And
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so that's what's really important to understand
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is that we don't all see the same things. We
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don't all feel the same things, right? We have
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very unique journeys. But the more we can Again,
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bring more presence and allow ourselves more
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patience and space to breathe, to relax, to rest,
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and to be curious, you know? The more things
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have the opportunity to shift, because when we
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stay in that fast -paced, you know, go, go, go
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mentality, it's like being on that hamster wheel.
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It's like being... immersed in that rat race
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where you don't see all the other possibilities
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that there are to see. And so I think that it's
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really cool. The variety of experiences that
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there are, you know, I, um, I'll often tell people,
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you know, all of our dreams and visions, you
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know, I believe are absolutely part of our own
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heart and soul guidance, we're not in charge
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of the timeframe. So I kind of see it like, say
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you have this buffet table and all your dreams,
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right? Your visions are on that table, but you
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don't know when you're going to be experiencing
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which ones, right? So we want to keep alive,
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right? Our connection to our dreams, to our visions,
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and know that they are truly possible, even if
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It doesn't look like we're sitting down at the
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table to next have that experience, right? Like
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just know your visions, your dreams, they're
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part of your journey. And to stay connected to
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them and feel the excitement for them while you
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navigate whatever weather, you know, is coming
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your way. But definitely always going to, you
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know, recommend. Take a break and breathe love
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as often as you can in each day. And remember,
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I say take a break and breathe love, whatever
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breathing practice works for you. It doesn't
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have to be the ones I guide you through, you
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know, on an episode here or in a session with
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me, like just every day, take a break and breathe
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love. Because what I want to remind us all of
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is that most of our parents and grandparents,
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right, like we're raised in a frequency of fear.
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And so when fear dominates, right, our view is
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constricted. Our possibilities are limited. But
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that's not a frequency that we have to live in,
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even if we still visit it, right? I like to say,
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take a break and breathe love so that you're
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reconnecting with your heart, with your dreams,
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with your higher self source, right? Father sky,
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mother earth. Again, you're just connecting to
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the something greater than yourself. Whatever,
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however you interpret that or view that. Because
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there's no one right way. I can tell you what
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my way is, but it's... probably will shift because
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as we continue to do that, we're just, again,
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as our frequency rises, what we have access to,
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what we see, what we experience changes as well.
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So just honor yourself and your journey for sure,
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because that love, that light that's within you
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is yours to cultivate, to nurture. And whatever
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those old messages are that came from our ancestors
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being incubated and nourished in the frequency
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of fear does not have to rule our lives. It really
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doesn't. And we are much healthier when we recognize
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that true power comes from our connection with
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ourself, with our source, with our heart, with
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that love frequency. That is way higher. Love
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and light. Way higher and way more powerful than
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fear. But many of us just still live in fear.
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But you don't have to stay there. You don't.
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Let's take a break to breathe love now together.
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And again, you can choose however you want to
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do it. If you're driving or doing anything that
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you need to stay focused on, please stay safe.
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Wherever you are, if you can, gently close your
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eyelids or at least lower them. Feel the support
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beneath you. Bring your attention to your breath
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that's already moving. Just notice how it feels
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as you inhale. The air touching your nostrils.
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Maybe you sense it on the roof of your mouth.
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Then a nice long exhale out your mouth. just
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signaling to that nervous system, it's okay.
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You can relax. And just continuing at your own
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pace and rhythm. But maybe, maybe it does feel
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nice to take a nice long inhale through the nose
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and lengthen your spine. Maybe top it off with
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another inhale, quick one, and then long exhale
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out your mouth. Just release, relax, let go.
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Another nice deep inhale through your nose, again
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opening your chest, take that second inhale,
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and then long and slow exhale out your mouth.
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Just release, relax, let go. And I invite you
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to continue, if you'd like to do that double
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inhale, a nice long exhale, as long as feels
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comfortable to you, or just allow your breathing
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to do what it naturally wants. Just bring your
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attention to your heart. It can be helpful to
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place your hand on your heart as you're just
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again focusing on that heart space. I invite
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you to connect with a vision or a dream that
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maybe you haven't thought of in a while. Maybe
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you want to rekindle that connection because
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that vision or dream is coming from your heart.
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Feel what that feels like. There is great power
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in that feeling, in that connection. And then
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whenever you feel ready, you can come back to
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the room, open your eyes, but again, honor you.
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You know where you are. If you can continue to
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stay with that slower, deeper breathing, I certainly
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support you in that. Something that I, you know,
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want to expand on too is that as I was saying,
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you know, we're all having very different experiences.
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And those of us who have that awareness of the
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spirit world or the quantum field, and we're
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all having our own experiences, even when we're
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aware of that, right? But what I want to say
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is that really trust what's coming up for you.
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Trust, you know, If your curiosity for the spirit
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realm is strengthening, you know, follow that,
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you know, that connection is absolutely beautiful
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and amazing and life changing. And sometimes,
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you know, we have a strong impetus to why that
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happens. I didn't feel that I did, you know,
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my brother passed when I was 19. And I'd say
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that threw me more into fear. definitely some
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deep fear. And shortly after, gosh, probably
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two years later, I think, two or three years
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later, a priest who I had been feeling really
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comfortable with told me something that was unbelievable
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to me. But the point is, is trust yourself and
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what you are feeling, because there are going
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to be others who cannot relate to what you are
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experiencing just because they've never seen
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it. So think about that scenario where I said
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you're like driving down a road and you've driven
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down this road a gazillion times and you never
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noticed this one signpost, right? But then all
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of a sudden your frequency shifts and you see
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it, but you didn't see it before. But what happens
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is you now see it. But the other people who have
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been traveling in the car with you or in neighboring
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cars, they still don't see it, right? So I really
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approach, you know, that spirit realm and that
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quantum field in that way. Like you can't talk
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about what you can now see with people who don't
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see it because they may be skeptical. They may
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just completely doubt it and don't believe what
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you're saying at all, right? But that's not supportive
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to your expanded perspective and curiosity and
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interest, right? So I love to... you know, share
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this podcast each week, because seriously, when
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I had my spiritual awakening, I just felt so
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alone. Like I didn't have anybody who I could
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talk to, who related, um, to what I had experienced.
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I mean, it was so, so deeply grateful. My, at
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the time, husband, um, he could absolutely hold
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the space of what I was sharing. Um, and it felt,
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Wonderful to share that with him. And what I
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actually experienced, though, was so deep and
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expansive and confusing, right, that there were
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a lot of things that he just couldn't help me
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understand or or navigate because that wasn't
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what he had experienced so again i really want
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to say that our family our friends right our
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loved ones or even professionals that we may
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go talk to may have our best interest at heart
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but if they don't have that awareness of it they
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haven't seen that signpost that you now see I
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just want you to know, like, you're not alone.
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You're certainly not crazy. It's just a smaller
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pool, perhaps, of people that you can actually
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explore that with. But do trust and know that
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you are being guided and supported. And whether
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that comes through a book, whether it comes through
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a friend mentioning something, right? Or a dream,
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right? Oh, I just, I just have to say within
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this last week, the dear friend that I mentioned,
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that is one of my son's godmothers, she actually
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passed in, I think, January of this year. And
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I was so grateful that, you know, I was able
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to visit her in the hospital and just shower
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her with my love and appreciation for the amazing
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friend and woman who she had always been in my
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life, especially. But she came in a dream and
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not in the kind of dream where it was like, you
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know. she's a spirit visiting me. Like she was
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in a dream that I was just having this, you know,
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seemingly normal experience, but it was, it was
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wonky like dreams can be right. And then the
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very next day I got a message on my phone from,
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you know, Apple saying that my voicemail was
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like 95 % full. And it's just like, I've had
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an iPhone for How many decades? I don't know.
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I've never gotten that message. But I was like,
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oh, I guess I better start deleting old messages.
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And when I went through, I actually had several
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voicemails from her. And it just brought so much
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love and appreciation and tears to be able to
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hear her voice again. This is just my own personal
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share of how, you know, we are connected to something
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greater, even if we don't understand it yet,
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even if we haven't had an experience yet, right?
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So honor wherever you are on your path, whatever
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you have experienced. And if others doubt you,
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question you, or mock you, or just don't say
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anything because they totally can't relate. Just
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know you're not alone and you're always being
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supported. Just again, create that space. Take
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a break and breathe love every day so that you
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have more space to start noticing the signposts.
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So, well, if anything resonated in what I was
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sharing today and you'd like... to keep walking
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this path with me, there are four pathways and
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you can check them all out at realignwithmelissa
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and it's for women in Massachusetts, California,
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and Arizona. I also offer weekly holistic psychotherapy.
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If you're someone who's more interested in getting
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like your physical health and your lifestyle
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and all of that aligned with, you know, more
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quantum biology for health and maybe organizing
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things to bring to your PCP, I do integrative
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health clarity consulting. That's not psychotherapy
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though. And so that's a more global offering,
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as is any of my spiral guide work for sensitive
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women. The Realign Circle for women in their
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20s meets twice a month now. And then we have
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the Seasonal Sensitivity Realignment Spiral.
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But again, you can check any of this out at realignwithmelissa
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.com. And I am regularly on Substack. That is
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where my Podcasts will get posted in addition
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to emails and notes. So love to see you there
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as well. So before we close, I just want to remind
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you and invite you to return to your breath,
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to your body, right? To your heart, to what feels
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true for you right now and each and every day.
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There's nothing you need to fix. Just notice
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what's here. Where the heart leads, the body
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remembers, and the soul awakens. So we are here
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together to rise, reclaim, remember. And as always,
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I am so deeply grateful that you're here. You
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are so very important. Your voice, your presence,
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it all matters. So take good care of you. Much
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love and light.