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415: Your Purpose & Answering "The Call" · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable With Human Design, everyone.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and it's just you and me.
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  Today we're gonna have a little intimate conversation just between
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  the two of us about purpose.
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  So this is obviously a topic that comes up with pretty much
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  everybody that I work with.
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  You know, we wanna feel pulled by something.
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  And I've been talking to so many people recently, um, just all around discovery
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  calls, you know, clarity calls that I do with people inside my programs.
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  And certainly when I do readings, people are always like, you
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  know, what's my purpose?
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  And, and really the thing that.
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  There's, there's so much to that, that what we're really doing with
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  human design is it's a framework for discovering ourselves and for
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  stepping into the version of us that we have felt was calling to us.
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  And if you're listening to this show, you probably are somebody
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  who has heard a call, you hear a whisper, you feel a calling, you
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  feel pulled in a direction and.
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  Sometimes we can get a little bit thrown off the path and we can get confused
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  because we're looking at the outside world and we're trying to gauge whether we're
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  living our purpose based on like our quote unquote success with very material things.
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  Now.
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  What I teach and what I help people do and what I try to help
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  myself do as well, is, you know, how can we monetize your purpose?
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  How can we build your life in whatever way you wanna, whatever, whatever it is
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  that you do, whatever it is that feels right to you, how can we build this where
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  it feels like it's in alignment with your purpose, where it's in alignment with
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  what you are called to do in this life?
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  I feel like I've been called my whole life.
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  And there have been times I have listened and there's been many more times that
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  I haven't, I can remember going back to, I mean, I was, I was called to and,
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  and, and, and this is what I think is so interesting, um, about human design and
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  answering this calling that we have is, you know, when when we get the call, we,
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  our mind tries to connect it to something.
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  So it says like, I'm meant for more.
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  I'm meant for something big.
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  This is what I think that means.
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  So for me, I remember growing up and, and feeling like I was called to be an actor.
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  Like that felt like my calling.
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  That felt like what I was supposed to do.
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  And the more I look back on it, you know, I had a really
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  hard time answering that call.
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  I did, I had a very easy time studying acting.
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  Uh, I could get lost in the art of it.
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  But trying to make that my career, that was hard.
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  I did a lot of things that qualified to other people as being brave
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  and courageous and going after it.
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  But the truth is, if I look back and I look at that journey, I know I
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  did not commit to the level I needed to to make my world that world.
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  I studied, I did.
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  I did all the good Virgo things.
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  I showed up to classes.
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  I did the work I, the art of it, I immersed myself in, but the business
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  of it and making it happen for me, I half-heartedly showed up to that.
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  I did not commit to that fully.
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  It pushed my buttons, it triggered me.
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  I'm not great at selling myself.
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  I don't enjoy doing it, and I never have.
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  I've never liked putting myself out there and saying like, here, pick me.
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  It puts me in a really vulnerable, uncomfortable place because I
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  know that I really hate rejection.
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  It would strike a lot of nerves in me, and the minute I got a no, I took it.
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  So personally, I did not have the thick skin that you need to develop in
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  that world in order to be successful.
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  Right, and here's where this kind of ties back to you.
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  And if you're sitting here and you're, you're looking to answer the call,
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  um, this is in entrepreneurship.
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  It's the same thing.
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  It pushes our buttons, it causes us to shrink when we should, when
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  we should shine, and, and that's.
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  It's those errors.
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  It's those moments when we always have a choice.
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  We choose to shine despite the fact that it's scary, despite the fact that we are
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  stretching ourselves despite the fact that we might get slapped in the face
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  or told to go away or nobody responds.
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  And then when we get triggered in that moment, we don't shrink and hide.
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  Or we don't go into frantic action, freaking out over the fact that it
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  didn't work, and what else can we do?
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  We have to show up, we have to answer the call, and it's not
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  something you do once you answer the call over and over and over again.
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  And that's something I wish I could go back to my teenage self and tell
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  her, like, that was a, a question at an event that I just went to.
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  My, my, my, my best friend Ti Grinspan hosted this amazing event
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  in Las Vegas called BU Brand Live.
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  And we went, and one of the questions that they left us with at the end of
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  the first day was, what would you say to the younger version of yourself?
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  What would you tell her?
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  And for me, I, I had a couple of things that I would tell her, but one thing
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  that I would absolutely tell her is you have to keep answering the call.
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  If you keep looking at the outside world wondering if they've, if
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  they're going to answer back, they only do when you keep showing up.
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  And I didn't do that and it's one of the great regrets of my life, however.
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  What I've realized is, and this is where, this is where I think human
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  design is so helpful because what I wanted to do, the thing that called to
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  me was not necessarily the acting part.
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  I. It was the message part.
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  It was the story part.
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  It was the, it was the, uh, the possibilities.
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  It was different aspects of it.
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  It was the, it was the wanting to have an impact on people in a way that I
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  shaped the direction of their lives, which was what movies did for me,
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  which was what theater did for me.
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  It changed who I was.
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  I wanted to do that for people.
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  And now I do.
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  I do do that for people, and I do that in a different way than
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  I thought I would do it before.
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  Now, these are themes of my cross.
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  These are themes of my chart.
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  These are themes of, of what I am here to do according to my human design.
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  Now, the interpretation of it, when we get really rigid with our
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  interpretation, where we're like, oh, this means I will be a lawyer.
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  Hmm, no, that, that, that's no one's chart says you'll be a lawyer.
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  There are things in your chart that might say, I could see why law might appeal to
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  you, and there are aspects of that that I think you are very well suited for.
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  Do you want that?
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  Is that what excites you?
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  There's so many other questions to ask and there's so much nuance
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  to it, but we can get really stuck on what am I supposed to do?
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  What's my job supposed to be?
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  What's my career supposed to be?
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  And I have a lot of compassion for that.
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  'cause I, I, everybody starts there.
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  Everybody starts in that place of being like, right, cool, but
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  tell me what I'm supposed to do.
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  Tell me how I live this.
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  Tell me what I do.
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  And the truth is, is that you answer the call and you answer it, and you answer it.
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  And you answer it.
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  And the most important time to answer it are the days where it
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  seems like nothing is happening or the days where you fall down.
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  You have to answer it and answer it bigger.
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  If this interests you, I am hosting We start today.
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  If you're listening to this on the day that we drop this.
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  Um, I am hosting a little mini mastermind around answering the call.
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  It's around your incarnation, cross exploring your human design.
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  It's 14 days in a telegram with me.
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  Um, we drop a, a lesson or, um, lessons, action items.
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  It's all about getting you into alignment, around your purpose, taking
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  action, and actually answering the call.
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  To stop intellectualizing it.
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  'cause this is my mission in life at this point.
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  My mission in life is to get you to realize that you are a
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  sovereign being that you have a divine purpose in this life.
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  And, but in order to live that purpose, it's going to require
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  you to get uncomfortable.
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  It's gonna have to, it's going to require you to understand yourself
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  on a really deep soul level.
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  And to let go of some of the logic around it to let go of needing
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  to know what it is and have it all be perfect and figure it out.
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  'cause that's just your way of, of keeping yourself safe.
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  It's the reason that I'm not a famous actress anymore.
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  Right now, it's, it's because I, I couldn't see past that.
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  I couldn't see past the rejection.
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  I couldn't see past the logic.
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  I couldn't see past the, like, just doing the stuff.
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  I couldn't show up and be worthy of it, not consistently.
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  And what entrepreneurship is great about is that it gives us a chance every day.
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  It gives us the, the playing field is open.
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  Show up on social media, go to a networking event, do the things
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  that you do to start exploring this.
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  The people who have the greatest success with human design, their
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  purpose and in this business and in entrepreneurship, are the ones who
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  allow themselves room to play, who aren't afraid of rejection or failure.
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  And who move through this and realize that by moving through all of this
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  and exploring themselves and be being curious, opens all the doors.
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  One of my former clients actually just released her podcast.
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  Um, it's called stillness is strategy.
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  Um, my, one of my former clients, Carrie, she's amazing.
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  Go listen to it, especially if you are a projector, a manifester, or a reflector.
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  She released this.
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  Um, it's, it's an amazing podcast.
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  I'm so incredibly proud of her, and the reason that I am is because
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  she's such an example of this work and what it can do for you.
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  When she came to me, you know, she had all these things that she wanted to do.
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  She wanted a podcast, she wanted a business, she wanted to be
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  coaching, she had a partnership.
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  She had all of these things going on, and she's a mental projector.
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  And what she allowed herself to do was to follow her path, be
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  curious, allow the steps and the path to unfold as she walked it.
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  And, and I'm not saying that that was easy.
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  And now where she is, she's again, just showing up and seeing what happens.
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  And that's where the magic is.
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  And I get lovingly frustrated with people because I see so many people
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  sitting on the fence waiting to be ready, waiting for some sort of formal
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  invitation, like from the universe.
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  Or they're waiting for some, some guarantee that it will work.
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  And the only guarantee that is, is that you will go nowhere
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  if you are waiting for that.
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  I am living proof of that while I have shown up bravely
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  and more than most people.
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  The truth is, is that I know I have played small throughout my life in comparison to
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  what I am capable of and what my potential is, and I've had to deal with the shame
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  and the guilt of letting myself down.
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  But it's also allowed me to have that, that to hold onto to say
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  I'll never let it happen again.
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  And I'm at a growth point right now where I'm answering the call again, that if I
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  am really going to step into my potential, into my purpose, into what I believe it
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  to be at this moment right now, if I'm honest with myself, I am not playing
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  full out to the level that I could.
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  And I see what that path is, and I see what it is, and it's very
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  scary, and I'm going to have to try things and I'm not going to have
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  guarantees that they will work.
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  But I know that if I don't put myself out there and I don't start walking in
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  the direction of what I know my purpose is and allowing it to change, if at
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  some point as I'm walking I get a new aha, a new moment, a new opportunity, I
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  don't know what the path will look like.
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  I just know that my North Star is pointing me in a particular direction,
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  and I'm not going all in, going for it.
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  I am now, but I'm, look, I, I've looked at this and I've been like, I know
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  there's another gear I could get to.
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  I know there's another level that I can get to, and I'm not, if I'm
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  being honest, I'm not fully doing it.
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  So I'm stretching myself.
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  This is what we do at every level.
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  This is new level, new devil.
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  That is such a true saying that I don't play small for a lot of people
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  to, in comparison to a lot of people.
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  I play quite big.
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  I take a lot of risks.
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  I put my neck on the line.
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  I put my money where my mouth is.
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  I show up, I invest, I move.
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  But for me, at the game that I know I could be playing, that I,
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  that I know that I am destined for.
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  I have been, I've been stalling, and I've had to call myself out on
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  that and decide that that's no more.
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  It's the inspiration for this mini mastermind that I'm hosting because
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  I am lit on fire at this moment, and the one thing that I am so committed
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  to is making sure that the people in my world who desire to truly live
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  their purpose, answer that call.
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  That they understand what their purpose is, that they have the enough of an idea
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  to recognize that's my North star, and these are the things I have to accept
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  and step into, and to start moving in that direction to activate their purpose,
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  not just like get it and then make some logical choices and get stuck in their
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  mind, know to follow their body and to follow their purpose and to follow this
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  connection to something even stepping, you know, to step into the unknown.
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  Because that's where the magic happens, and it only happens if
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  you have the courage to do that.
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  It only happens if you have the courage to be seen.
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  If you have the courage to be heard.
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  If you have the courage to really look at this and say, oh my God, this is really
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  big and, and it's mine, could it really be that I have this kind of potential?
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  What could that look like?
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  These are the type of things that we are going to be diving into inside the
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  answering the Call Mini Mastermind.
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  Everything that you get with this is you get we, I'm dropping.
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  There's a secret podcast where I drop an episode every weekday During
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  the podcast, I will drop an episode.
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  Um, the episode will be some sort of action item.
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  It will be some sort of lesson or contemplation for you to get either
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  deeply integrate your purpose.
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  Put it into action.
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  Put your voice out in the world.
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  So this is very much about changing you in a short period of time.
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  Lots of action, short period of time, big transformation.
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  We're going to shift you from the identity that you're in now, to the new identity
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  that you have to hold in order to reach this next level for you in order to start
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  to activate this purpose within you.
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  So, so this is what we're doing.
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  We're doing it through the Secret podcast.
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  There are three live calls with me that you can join and ask questions,
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  but I'm gonna be there giving lessons live just so that we have
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  some interaction there as well.
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  And then a telegram chat for you to ask questions, connect with the
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  rest of the group and activate each other to share your experiences just
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  like we do in the larger high ticket masterminds that I'm a part of.
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  Being part of that community is life changing, so getting into
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  the energy with everybody else.
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  There's safety in numbers, and we get momentum when other people are
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  in momentum with us, and that's what we're creating in this.
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  If you wanna join us, go to Nicole Laino dot com slash answer.
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  And you'll, you'll be taken to the, to the sales page for that
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  or DM me purpose on Instagram.
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  I'm at Nicole Laino official and we will send it to you there and
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  we'll get you all registered.
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  This is a paid mini mastermind.
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  It is not free.
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  Um, but it is under a hundred dollars, which is kind of, I, I don't even know
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  what I was thinking when I phrase this, but it is, this is really high touch
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  with me for a, a. Short but impactful period of time and you know, and
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  you're gonna have a big transformation.
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  And this is like a, a, a big level of really stepping into really answering
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  the calling that has been on your heart.
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  I don't want anyone going into 2026 wondering what they're gonna
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  do or how they're gonna do it.
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  Now is the time we either make these decisions and make these shifts now.
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  Or if you're looking to do it when New Year's hits and you make a resolution
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  and you decide like, oh, this is what I'm calling in for 2026, girl,
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  you better be ready on January one.
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  You better be ready to take action and have your plan in place.
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  Otherwise you're gonna be behind and it'll be March before you get anything going.
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  Now is the time, not after the holidays.
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  It's now.
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  It's now, and then you can go into the holidays feeling
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  like I know where I'm going.
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  I feel activated.
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  I'm ready.
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  This is what I'm calling in for 2026.
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  That's what I want for you.
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  So if you want help, if you want to really step into that now, I
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  seriously suggest getting in on this.
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  I will probably never run anything like this again unless we love it so much.
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  I can't, this is a lot of work for me for a very short period of time.
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  This is a really big lift for me.
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  So this might be your last time to get in at something at this type of price
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  point and something like this with me.
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  Okay?
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  So I, I highly recommend, I hope that I see you inside that group, inside that
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  Mastermind, so that we can get activated together and we can start to reach for
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  our purpose and answer the call together.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design.
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  We'll see you next time.