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222. Games To Play Naked.. The Benefits Of Implementing "Naked Game Night" Into Your Relationship · The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You are listening to the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, where we discuss how to find ultimate intimacy in your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: We believe that, no matter how many years you've been married, you can achieve passion, romance, happiness and ultimate intimacy at any stage of your life.
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  Speaker 1: Join us as we talk to not only marriage experts, but couples just like yourself and people who are just flat out fun.
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  Speaker 1: The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast is for couples who have a good relationship but want to make it even better Naked movie night, but naked game night.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, this is something we've done for a very long time.
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  Speaker 2: I admit we haven't done a whole lot lately, but we used to do it all the time, yeah before we had kids, before we had kids, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: It's maybe a little tougher to have naked game night when you have kids running around the house.
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  Speaker 3: It is.
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  Speaker 3: You have to play it later when they're all asleep.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's harder, but it's okay.
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  Speaker 3: But you still can.
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  Speaker 2: It's one of the great benefits of naked game night.
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  Speaker 2: Amy and I just when we played naked game night, we're just laughing and talking and joking and having the time of our lives, so we're going to share those with you of why you need to do it in your relationship.
• 1:44
  Speaker 3: I told Nick that we needed to take a break from the serious topics and do something a little more fun, Because he's got a list of all these serious things and I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to lighten marriage up a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and she does this in our relationship too.
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  Speaker 2: So right, we lighten things up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes I get a little too driven and just a daily structure.
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  Speaker 2: I'm definitely more structured, Amy's more of like let's do this.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go play golf.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go.
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  Speaker 3: We need to get out, we need to get out.
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  Speaker 2: That is true.
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  Speaker 3: So, jumping in, you want to talk about why first, and then we're going to give you some game ideas.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's great.
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  Speaker 2: So here are the reasons why Naked Game Night is such a good thing to do in your relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously, first of all, increased intimacy.
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  Speaker 2: When you're naked together and staring at each other, feeling comfortable and vulnerable around each other, that's going to foster a deeper connection and deeper intimacy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's a tough one because I know a lot of wives that probably were on their eyeballs.
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  Speaker 3: I am not visual like my husband.
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  Speaker 3: Some of these games are going to be kind of comical because the guys are like yes, yes, yes, yes, I love this idea.
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  Speaker 3: And the women are like really, you haven't birthed children.
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  Speaker 3: I have stretch marks all over.
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  Speaker 2: I was just going to say.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's just as vulnerable for a guy sitting there naked, like I mean.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, what.
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to say, though, is most women don't really want to see that, and that's why it's more vulnerable.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe these ideas that we're going to give you, maybe, if you feel more comfortable, it's lingerie game right Until a certain point, of course.
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  Speaker 2: So the clothes are coming off.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, well, I guess we're going to jump into body positivity in a minute, so I won't jump into that.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, being vulnerable and just I don't know, of course that's going to light some romantic sparks.
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  Speaker 3: If you're playing a game naked, right, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And being vulnerable is obviously going to help with your communication, which is the next one.
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  Speaker 2: So you're going to have better communication.
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  Speaker 2: When Amy and I are playing you know, naked game night, like, we're talking a lot, we're having fun, we're joking around, like yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It's fun, right, and if you haven't tried it like the first time, you might feel really awkward, especially if you're not used to being naked in your marriage.
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  Speaker 3: Like I think there's a lot of couples that are like walk around naked like no big deal, Like us, Like that doesn't bother us because we're used to it.
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  Speaker 3: But if you're not used to that like I've had some friends that are like my husband hasn't seen me in the light in years it's really sad because a husband would do anything for that right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're right.
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  Speaker 2: I mean the more you do anything, the more comfortable you're gonna become.
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  Speaker 2: So it is a great way just to kind of like just be out there and feel comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: Like Amy said, we we see each other naked all the time, right, the more we see each other in a comfortable and fun setting, the more comfortable we kind of become, right.
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  Speaker 2: Then it's like no big deal.
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  Speaker 3: Well, unlike you said.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 3: You said you be vulnerable in that way and you can be vulnerable in every other way.
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  Speaker 3: Our friends at Transparen couples gosh, we need to get them back on the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: He gave a quote one time that says you have to get naked to get naked, and what he meant it was deeper than that.
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  Speaker 3: Like you have to be vulnerable and get naked to really have that open, naked kind of marriage.
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  Speaker 3: Right when it's, where you're comfortable with each other, where you're vulnerable, where you can be honest with each other because you're you're both you and you both love who.
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  Speaker 3: You is right, does that make sense?
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  Speaker 3: So I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I love that quote because I'm like you really do have to like, let everything out in order to be fully vulnerable in your marriage.
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  Speaker 3: And when you get to that point, that's when the sex talks and the romance, that when when you could start really expressing what your needs are and your fantasies or emotional needs.
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  Speaker 3: If you can start, if you can get naked together, you can probably discuss stuff right.
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  Speaker 3: It just helps.
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  Speaker 3: It just helps.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love the next one.
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  Speaker 2: So enhance sensuality.
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  Speaker 2: Many of you have heard from our experience like that, when we created the app and we were playing first, testing and playing the games not not only then, but obviously the the first couple times, playing the intimacy game on the app like was the best love making we've ever had at least I would say that Because we have gotten comfortable doing the same thing, right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly we haven't stepped out of the box to try other positions or try other things to spice it up, so it was a little bit like whoa.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're exploring, depending on the game, you're exploring each other's bodies.
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  Speaker 2: You're getting to know each other on a much deeper level.
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  Speaker 2: You're going back and forth while you're playing the game, so you're you know there's different things going on, you're changing things up, and so when you're playing games and doing these things, it creates a different way or different sensuality, which can be really amazing for sure depending on what game you're playing.
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  Speaker 3: So well, and obviously game night is going to be super visual, right.
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  Speaker 3: Correct, yeah like the biggest sensual.
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  Speaker 3: But I had a lady the other day that was like I don't really feel comfortable doing that, like I just I don't have great body image, which we'll get into, but I was like sometimes game night can be played by candlelight too, if you're not like I don't want full lights on doing this kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 3: You know like there's always a way to tone the lights down or start somewhere and maybe lights can increase for sure, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, the other thing it does is it builds trust.
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  Speaker 2: I mean kind of getting back to when you're very vulnerable with each other, you're playing games naked like it's gonna build a lot of trust with each other and we're not just talking bedroom games, we're gonna get into just having fun games and turning them more sexual, right like just the everyday games that can be sexual.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: There's a fun way to spice up pretty much every game that you own, for sure, right for sure, and and that's the whole point, like you said, spicing up the relationship, playing a game, doing something new, trying new things, something that's different, can really spice up the relationship.
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  Speaker 2: For sure, and, and you need to, you need to spice up the relationship, but getting into body positivity, okay, yeah, what are your thoughts on that?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, and I think, I think this goes both with men and women.
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  Speaker 2: I agree like if I'm feeling like I'm packing a couple extra pounds on or things like that, like I'm obviously gonna be more conscious about my body and how I look, and things like that.
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  Speaker 3: And that's the thing is like I think a lot of women are like, oh, I don't have the best body image, like I kind of want to hide behind my clothes, but sometimes your husband's kind of feeling the same way.
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  Speaker 3: I think that men can be just as hard on themselves as women can be, don't you think?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's amazing when, like when you kind of drop that issue, so to speak, like if you're naked in front of each other and you're like, hey, this is who we are, and you start feeling comfortable around each other, it's amazing how much better your sex life will get and just many, many other aspects.
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  Speaker 2: Right, because you feel more comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: And when you feel more comfortable around each other, it's going to impact a lot of things in your relationship.
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  Speaker 3: And that's what I wanted to talk about was confidence, and self-esteem is very attractive, right?
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  Speaker 3: So when you kind of rock the body that you have, you're like this is me, you picked it, you committed to this, like I'm awesome, like heck, yeah, check this out Pounds or not, pounds or stretch marks or whatever you've got on that beautiful body you've got.
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  Speaker 3: Just rock it and I think that you'll find that your spouse is super attracted to that confidence and probably the fact that you're willing to be intimate and be naked is going to be way more attractive to your husband, I would think, because men are very visual.
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  Speaker 3: That doesn't mean visual, that it has to be like a perfect, perfect body.
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  Speaker 2: They just want to see you.
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  Speaker 3: They just want to see you naked.
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  Speaker 3: Like they probably have different eyeballs than you think, they're probably not judgmental eyeballs.
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  Speaker 3: They're probably like I love you for who you are.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, and I love that you want to be open and naked and intimate with me, like that's what most men find attractive.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, totally agree, totally agree with that.
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  Speaker 2: The next one is stress relief.
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  Speaker 2: I know when Amy and I were going through some of the hardest times in our marriage and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: This obviously is a great way just to forget about things, have those lighthearted moments, playing games together.
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  Speaker 2: It can be a great stress reliever, especially as so many of us are going through stressful things like just in life right now, right With the economy, a lot of people are struggling.
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  Speaker 2: It's so important to pull yourself out of those things and do some fun things together that can really help stressful situations.
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  Speaker 3: And playing games is cheap.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to go anywhere, you don't have to pay any money, right?
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  Speaker 3: You pick something out of the board game closet and you make it sexy.
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  Speaker 3: That's really what you're doing, right?
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  Speaker 3: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: You're just creating a way to spice up any game that you already have.
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  Speaker 3: So, yeah, it's super important, especially after you have kids and everyone's going to be like, well, how do you do that with kids?
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  Speaker 3: Well, you adjust your schedule.
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  Speaker 3: You play games later, maybe you don't have to play them naked, but you make some naked dares for after the game, when the kids are asleep, like you.
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  Speaker 2: Definitely it's about it's about intention, right?
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  Speaker 2: Amy and I would always have bets.
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  Speaker 2: We'd be like all right, the winner gets to pick what they want tonight, whether it's a massage or so on many of the nights that Amy would pick a massage, she miraculously would just win.
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  Speaker 2: And then I found out she was cheating all of it, just wants, just wants.
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  Speaker 1: No but we played.
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  Speaker 3: We had a game night the other night.
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  Speaker 3: It was just a card game at friends and none of our friends knew that there were some intimate bets going on between me and Nick.
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  Speaker 3: But when we got home we knew the whole night of fun was going to actually end up being a little passionate, which which is fun, Like sometimes, you have to adjust to the circumstance.
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  Speaker 2: So they were wondering why Amy was getting so competitive.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, I'm not typically a competitive person, that's right?
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  Speaker 2: Well, the biggest benefit, in my opinion, is the fun and laughter Like we've heard we've talked about this before in past episodes, but that laughter is the best medicine Like there is nothing better for your life than laughing and having fun.
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  Speaker 2: There really isn't.
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  Speaker 2: And if you're playing naked game night, you're going to have a lot of laughter, a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, keeping the spice in your marriage really comes back to doing fun things like you used to do before you got into a routine lifestyle, right Before you had kids and big careers and stress and lots of things on your plate.
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  Speaker 3: You probably played some games when you're dating and falling in love and when you first got married.
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  Speaker 3: If you were like us, we played a lot of games when we were first married and it was fun.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like it's just important to remember to add those little simple things into your marriage at all stages.
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  Speaker 3: So this one's just really simple to do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And then the final one is great foreplay.
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  Speaker 2: Like how can this not be like the funnest foreplay ever?
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  Speaker 2: Like sitting next to each other by the fire or whatever, playing naked game nights, laughing, having fun, tickling each other, just having a great time I hate being tickled.
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: Well for some people tickling each other yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: It's all about intention, so what are some fun game nights that we recommend, amy and I?
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  Speaker 3: Well, some of these we looked at, we had to like get some ideas from other people because, yeah, we're kind of like.
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: The people are like oh, I like my three games.
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: I'm not big on expanding, but the first idea that popped up was make a twister, which sounds a little.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know about that one.
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  Speaker 2: The guys might like that more than the women.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think the women want to see that hanging in places.
• 14:20
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, man, you're attractive, but that area is not super attractive to women mostly.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, maybe you played in some boxers and laundry, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know like twister, though like I'm old enough now to be like.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: I don't know if I could twist myself like that anymore.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: That's true.
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  Speaker 2: I might just like end up on the floor, that's true, might end up injured.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: Anyways, make a twister.
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: Make a twister if you're in your 20s, if you're in your late 40s, like me.
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: You've had a bunch of kids, maybe not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Another one people like is strip connect four.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't played connect four since I was a teenager, or maybe younger.
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  Speaker 3: That's a fun game though.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: I agree.
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  Speaker 2: That's a fun game you can make it funner, though.
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  Speaker 3: That's the whole point.
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: Funner is not a word.
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: You can make it more fun.
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  Speaker 2: More enjoyable.
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: You can make it sexy.
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: You can make lots of games more sexy.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: That's right, amy, and I have talked about developing a flash card positions match game.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: So that would be a fun one.
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you could actually use our cards card deck that we have and do that, yep.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: So you do flash cards and pick a, get the positions to match.
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: Our favorite is probably rummikub.
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you said it right I did, because I've said it wrong so many times.
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: For 22 years he's called it rummikub.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: I'm like I don't know who's right, but I shouldn't say I mean, that's our go to game.
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: I shouldn't say it's my favorite because I lose 99% of the time, but that's a fun one.
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  Speaker 3: But if you lose, you're still winning, that's true, if you make it a sexy game.
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  Speaker 3: You lose, you still win.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: You obviously have the ultimate intimacy truth or dare game.
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  Speaker 2: The reason why we like this game so much is because it incorporates everything right.
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  Speaker 2: Like you're sharing your deepest, like dares, You're sharing things maybe you don't normally share.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: You're laughing.
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  Speaker 3: It's emotionally connecting.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're combining both the sexual and the emotional, so that's absolutely one of the great games.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: Strip golf.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Now, we're not talking about going on the golf course and playing naked.
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: However, you can do that, no don't do that.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: You just might get arrested.
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: Don't do that.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: But strip golf, that's a card game, right.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: If you haven't played the card game golf, look it up, maybe on YouTube.
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: It's really simple.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: Even our youngest has been playing it for a year, since she was.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: I think she was like probably five when she learned it.
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: But it's easy to learn, it's easy to pick up.
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: You can play it with a couple people, just the two of you, and you can make it sexy by, I mean, the rounds go really quick, so you can make it a strip game.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: Yep, obviously you have strip poker or strip UNO.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: Strip UNO.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: Everyone knows how to play UNO.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: I don't know how to play poker.
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: That's embarrassing.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: I don't think I'd do either.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: That's embarrassing.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: Anyways, or a lot of you know those are.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: Those are kind of the games you could pretty much.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: Take Candyland.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: Of all games, you could take any game and make it sexy.
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: You either play it naked or you make it into a strip game.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: You win that round.
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: You take off a piece of clothes, I mean, or maybe you lose, I don't know.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: However, you want to play it, or you can add a bet, you pick the position, or you pick a massage or whatever you want to do intimately tonight.
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: The winner gets to pick, like things like that.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Exactly the best part about it is have some sort of bets right To make it fun, to make it enjoyable.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: And for those of you out there rolling your eyes and saying, OK, this sounds lame, just give it a try, Give it a try.
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: One night.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: Let us know what you think.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: One night.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: Just be like.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: We're going to act like newlyweds again.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: We're going to play a game tonight.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: I guarantee if a wife would tell a husband we're going to play a strip game tonight when the kids are asleep.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: That would make his life.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Would make his life.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: He's like I'll play freaking Candyland.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: I don't care, yeah Right.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Exactly, exactly.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: So, like I said, instead of rolling your eyes, give it a try and, most importantly, see how you connect as a couple in all the ways that we talked about.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Like we really think that this is going to be a lot of fun.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Bring a lot of fun and excitement and passion and connection vulnerability into your relationship.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: I can guarantee that you're going to get done and you're going to be giggling because you're like that is either amazing or really stupid, and your husband or wife are going to be like let's do it again.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Let's do it again, and then it's going to turn into a tradition, like Friday nights.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: That's right, right, absolutely.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: So let us know what you think.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Don't be shy, send us some emails, just not any details, but just let us know how it helps your marriage.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: So we hope you enjoyed the podcast.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Until next time.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: We hope you find ultimate intimacy in your relationship.