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- 0:36Jennifer Johnson: A motivational mindset is a belief that you can achieve your goals and that you're willing to put in the work to actually achieve them.
- 0:42Jennifer Johnson: It's a positive and growth-oriented mindset that helps you stay focused and motivated even when the things get tough.
- 0:49Jennifer Johnson: Now, motivation isn't always easy and it can be challenging, especially when things are tough.
- 0:54Jennifer Johnson: However, it's important to remember that motivation is a choice.
- 0:57Jennifer Johnson: You can choose to be motivated even when you don't feel like it, and motivation is a choice.
- 1:02Jennifer Johnson: You can choose to be motivated even when you don't feel like it, and motivation is contagious.
- 1:03Jennifer Johnson: Surrounding yourself with positive and motivating people can help you stay motivated yourself, and it can be considered a skill.
- 1:10Jennifer Johnson: Actually, it's a skill that can be learned and developed.
- 1:13Jennifer Johnson: The more you practice being motivated, the easier it's going to become.
- 1:17Jennifer Johnson: Developing a motivational mindset is essential for success in all areas of life.
- 1:21Jennifer Johnson: Today, we're going to become.
- 1:21Jennifer Johnson: Developing a motivational mindset is essential for success in all areas of life.
- 1:22Jennifer Johnson: Today, we're going to sit down and talk with an expert in HR, where we're talking about how you can actually motivate your team and how that looks to the overall effectiveness of your organization.
- 1:35Jennifer Johnson: So let's get started.
- 1:38Jennifer Johnson: Today, we welcome into the studio author and and HR expert, karen Shepard.
- 1:44Jennifer Johnson: I love saying author, me too, I love hearing it.
- 1:47Jennifer Johnson: So Karen is the author of the book Lead with Love, which you'll be able to see on the video here shortly Lead with Love 10 Heart-Centered Strategies to Build a More Profitable Business, and she has over 15 years of experience in HR and is always described as genuine, passionate and creative by her peers.
- 2:07Jennifer Johnson: She's the partner that you want to take your business to the next level.
- 2:11Jennifer Johnson: She wants to work together with you to change the why not you to why not us.
- 2:16Jennifer Johnson: Welcome into the studio.
- 2:19Karen Shepherd: Hello, this is so fun to be back again with you.
- 2:23Jennifer Johnson: Thank you, we had you on last season and since last season you've become an author of your fabulous book.
- 2:28Jennifer Johnson: Yes, and that I mean I've been.
- 2:30Jennifer Johnson: You know, we've been authors Together.
- 2:33Jennifer Johnson: We kind of hit the scene together, and it's been exhilarating, hasn't it?
- 2:36Karen Shepherd: Surreal, I keep pinching myself.
- 2:38Karen Shepherd: Have I woken up from my dream?
- 2:42Jennifer Johnson: It wasn't a dream all along my dear.
- 2:44Jennifer Johnson: I know Reality.
- 2:47Karen Shepherd: No, but sharing this stage with another leader who exemplifies everything that I have been talking about in my book is a beautiful thing.
- 2:57Jennifer Johnson: Well, and I could not agree more.
- 2:59Jennifer Johnson: And if you've not gotten her book, you can get it on Amazon, correct?
- 3:03Karen Shepherd: Yes, amazon or my website, if you want an autograph copy.
- 3:07Jennifer Johnson: And what is your website just at the top here, so we can.
- 3:10Karen Shepherd: Sure wwwhrbykarencom.
- 3:16Jennifer Johnson: Oh, that is awesome and this is so perfect for our topic today, because I know you have some stuff in your book that that speaks to this.
- 3:22Jennifer Johnson: But motivating our teams I know a lot of times it comes from the top up, right, or is that not true.
- 3:31Karen Shepherd: You mean top down.
- 3:32Jennifer Johnson: I mean top down.
- 3:33Karen Shepherd: Yes, definitely Top down.
- 3:34Karen Shepherd: You know, she just gave me was like what are you talking about, lady?
- 3:37Jennifer Johnson: You know the chair that she just gave me was like what are you talking about, lady?
- 3:41Jennifer Johnson: The top down Just keeping it real, Karen, I'm sorry I got confused myself for a minute.
- 3:50Jennifer Johnson: I clearly walked into this confused, but what are we?
- 3:55Jennifer Johnson: I mean, it's got to start from the top right.
- 4:02Karen Shepherd: So do you remember playing the game as a kid called follow the leader?
- 4:05Karen Shepherd: Yes, okay.
- 4:06Karen Shepherd: Well, it never stops being played, right, what happens at the top, everyone follows.
- 4:12Karen Shepherd: And when I worked with my boss for 21 years in the legal industry worked with my boss for 21 years in the legal industry she led with the compassion, empathy and heart I mean.
- 4:27Karen Shepherd: Think about what happens to an employee's life cycle.
- 4:31Karen Shepherd: A lot happened in 21 years.
- 4:33Karen Shepherd: My poor boss had to deal with me single, married, pregnant, single mom, because even when I was married, my ex-husband was in the military and I had to play single mom.
- 4:50Karen Shepherd: And then there was the divorce and being single again.
- 4:54Karen Shepherd: So there's always this life cycle that an employee has and a leader has two choices when dealing with that.
- 5:05Karen Shepherd: They could either get frustrated or they can allow flexibility and lead with compassion, empathy and heart, which I defined as the heart-centered approach.
- 5:17Karen Shepherd: Which I defined as the heart-centered approach.
- 5:20Jennifer Johnson: And I like that because it says what it is that you're laying out.
- 5:24Jennifer Johnson: It defines a strategy.
- 5:27Karen Shepherd: Yes, and you could apply this strategy.
- 5:31Karen Shepherd: I don't care if it's motivating an employee, inspiring an employee working a conflict with an employee.
- 5:40Karen Shepherd: It is all about leading with compassion, empathy and heart, because when you bring that magic of the heart-centered approach, you allow your employee to be an adult, manage their own pace, their own speed, their own accountability.
- 6:05Karen Shepherd: Okay, that is how you motivate by empowering.
- 6:12Jennifer Johnson: Let's talk about that.
- 6:12Jennifer Johnson: How can you, okay, if you're motivating by empowerment?
- 6:17Jennifer Johnson: How, how does that look?
- 6:19Jennifer Johnson: I, you know, give me an example of at work, okay.
- 6:24Karen Shepherd: So empowering the employee.
- 6:26Karen Shepherd: Let's say they made a mistake in something.
- 6:30Karen Shepherd: Employees make mistakes.
- 6:31Karen Shepherd: We all do.
- 6:33Karen Shepherd: We all do, right, I mean.
- 6:35Karen Shepherd: But when, when an employee leader sometimes tend to get a little frustrated and instead of getting frustrated, you know, ask the question why?
- 6:48Karen Shepherd: Why did the mistake happen?
- 6:51Karen Shepherd: During my presentation, some of my leadership presentations, I give an example of a driver going to a client to deliver something and his tire blew.
- 7:05Karen Shepherd: And the company has an on-time reputation, so he wasn't on time.
- 7:13Karen Shepherd: So the employee whose fault really was that Okay, was it because he wasn't trained properly?
- 7:24Jennifer Johnson: No, okay.
- 7:25Karen Shepherd: To make sure the car got inspected and the tires checked regularly.
- 7:33Karen Shepherd: Did he not know, you know, or did he just go over a tire I mean life or over a nail?
- 7:41Karen Shepherd: Life happens and we just have to learn to what's in our control and what's out of our control.
- 7:51Jennifer Johnson: Isn't there that circle?
- 7:53Jennifer Johnson: There's a circle of like this is in my control.
- 7:55Jennifer Johnson: This is out of my control.
- 7:57Karen Shepherd: Yes, I deliver that during the drum to your own heartbeat presentation that I do.
- 8:05Karen Shepherd: It is.
- 8:06Karen Shepherd: They're really the out.
- 8:09Karen Shepherd: That's an outside thing we cannot control, so why be frustrated and ruin your whole?
- 8:15Jennifer Johnson: day?
- 8:16Jennifer Johnson: Right, exactly so.
- 8:17Jennifer Johnson: Empowering your employees is one way to motivate.
- 8:21Jennifer Johnson: What other ways can we motivate our employees to do better at work, or to maybe it's do more numbers, or to be more positive, or to encourage other team?
- 8:33Karen Shepherd: members.
- 8:33Karen Shepherd: So it goes with the accountability piece that.
- 8:37Karen Shepherd: I mentioned so a lot of times.
- 8:40Karen Shepherd: Our employees.
- 8:42Karen Shepherd: They may make a mistake and we just correct it.
- 8:45Jennifer Johnson: Of course.
- 8:45Jennifer Johnson: And no one learns from that right, no one learns from that.
- 8:48Karen Shepherd: You cannot empower your employees if you continue to pick up their messes.
- 8:56Jennifer Johnson: You can't empower when you enable.
- 8:57Jennifer Johnson: Yeah, that's awesome.
- 9:01Jennifer Johnson: I'm the enabler mom, so I understand.
- 9:04Jennifer Johnson: Yes.
- 9:08Karen Shepherd: Yes, it's the truth.
- 9:09Karen Shepherd: No one can learn unless they make a mistake.
- 9:13Karen Shepherd: I don't make mistakes.
- 9:15Karen Shepherd: I have lessons learned and that's all it is.
- 9:19Karen Shepherd: I'll never forget.
- 9:22Karen Shepherd: You know how many times I had to give a piece of paper back to my assistant.
- 9:31Karen Shepherd: Right, this needs to be changed, and it might have just been one word, but I'm not going to change it, because she needs to see it and recognize it.
- 9:42Karen Shepherd: That's hard, it is so hard, so hard.
- 9:44Karen Shepherd: But when you, when you do it compassionately, then you just have to.
- 9:53Karen Shepherd: You know, when you lead that way it may be hard, but you're doing it with a hug, right?
- 10:00Karen Shepherd: It's like I'm just showing you a lot of time.
- 10:03Karen Shepherd: You know, I remember one time I had to ask my employee, you know, where is the miscommunication?
- 10:10Karen Shepherd: You just have to be curious and ask questions.
- 10:14Karen Shepherd: It is so important to be curious and ask questions when the miscommunication is.
- 10:21Karen Shepherd: How can I do better?
- 10:23Karen Shepherd: Right, it is because it's never about us, it's about the other person.
- 10:29Karen Shepherd: Is there a perception that's off?
- 10:31Karen Shepherd: Is there a communication barrier?
- 10:34Karen Shepherd: Are they really not understanding?
- 10:37Karen Shepherd: And if you continue to ask the questions, you open up an environment that is safe, that allows them to come ask questions.
- 10:51Karen Shepherd: There's too often times the reason why employees continue maybe to make a mistake is because they're not in a safe environment.
- 11:01Karen Shepherd: Yeah, that would make sense.
- 11:04Karen Shepherd: Yeah, because they don't want to come and ask a question, because then they may have the perception that my leader, my manager, my supervisor, the boss man, he's going to think I'm dumb that I'm stupid, but there's a learning process.
- 11:25Jennifer Johnson: But again, this all kind of ties back to the.
- 13:54Jennifer Johnson: It starts at the top the culture that is, which is was something I wanted to talk about.
- 13:59Jennifer Johnson: Well, we're already talking about it.
- 14:00Jennifer Johnson: It's it's the culture that you create when you're at the top that infiltrates the entire business.
- 14:08Karen Shepherd: It's a ripple down effect, total ripple effect.
- 14:11Karen Shepherd: You know if, uh, total ripple effect.
- 14:14Karen Shepherd: You know if I was going to ask you, can I say that word?
- 14:17Jennifer Johnson: What.
- 14:18Karen Shepherd: That I was going to call my book.
- 14:23Jennifer Johnson: Sure Brace yourself.
- 14:29Karen Shepherd: But yes, you can, because it's important here, it's funny, so I really wanted to call the title of my book Don't Be an Asshole.
- 14:38Karen Shepherd: You know, I mean it basically.
- 14:40Karen Shepherd: Essentially that's it, but it doesn't fit my brand right.
- 14:48Karen Shepherd: Or you, it doesn't fit you right, because you know, heart centered is more.
- 14:50Karen Shepherd: Karen.
- 14:51Karen Shepherd: Yes, I mean, it really is.
- 14:51Karen Shepherd: However, I do have my boundaries and I will tell you it really is.
- 14:53Karen Shepherd: However, I do have my boundaries and I will tell you you will.
- 14:55Karen Shepherd: I don't have, I'm not uncomfortable saying you've crossed the boundary and I don't value you anymore and you're being disrespectful at this point, and I don't.
- 15:08Karen Shepherd: We only have so many minutes and so many moments.
- 15:11Karen Shepherd: Right, every minute is a moment and we have a choice on every one of those moments.
- 15:19Karen Shepherd: So how do you want?
- 15:21Karen Shepherd: I have a quote that I say in my book that I really want to share.
- 15:28Karen Shepherd: It's from Maya Angelou.
- 15:29Karen Shepherd: She is one of my favorites that I quote a lot, and my favorite quote is people will forget what you said, People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
- 15:47Karen Shepherd: That's so true.
- 15:48Karen Shepherd: And let me tell you my boss of 21 years, no matter how many mistakes I made, no matter how many times I had to be out of the office because of my daughter, and no matter how many times I wasn't really present because I was preoccupied about other things, she took the time to talk to me and she always, always made me feel human and I have a definition of human, and that's leading with that heart-centered approach.
- 16:23Karen Shepherd: Yes, everything is leading with it.
- 16:25Karen Shepherd: So 21 years ago, I wasn't thinking heart-centered approach?
- 16:28Jennifer Johnson: No, of course you weren't.
- 16:29Jennifer Johnson: I didn't even know what that was.
- 16:31Karen Shepherd: As a matter of fact, I was left almost every HR position I've had, because I'll never forget my first boss was like there's this line, we cannot be friends with the other people.
- 16:49Karen Shepherd: And it's like, why not the other side, the other side?
- 16:52Karen Shepherd: Why not the other side, the other side?
- 16:54Karen Shepherd: You know why not?
- 16:54Karen Shepherd: We have to build those relationships, because the relationships we build also empower our employees to say, oh look, I'm human too, right, you know?
- 17:06Karen Shepherd: Just because you know, I truly believe that there is no organizational chart chart.
- 17:18Karen Shepherd: The only reason why an organizational chart really should exist is to help employees understand who they need to talk to.
- 17:23Karen Shepherd: But it's not because and should not be ever perceived that someone higher on the chain of the organizational chart is more important, because I'm going to tell you, the receptionist, the janitors, they are the most important people on that organizational chart.
- 17:42Karen Shepherd: Your phones wouldn't get answered, your place would not be clean if it wasn't for them.
- 17:48Karen Shepherd: So I do have a paperclip story you want me to share.
- 17:51Jennifer Johnson: Yes, we'll share that as soon as we come back from break paperclip story, do you?
- 17:54Karen Shepherd: want me to share?
- 17:54Karen Shepherd: Yes, we'll share that as soon as we come back from break.
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- 18:22Jennifer Johnson: All right, friends, we are back in studio with Karen Shepard.
- 18:26Jennifer Johnson: She's an author and HR expert, and she's going to share with us the paperclip story.
- 18:32Karen Shepherd: Is that what it's called?
- 18:32Karen Shepherd: Yes, the paperclip story.
- 18:34Karen Shepherd: I learned this very early on in my HR career.
- 18:37Jennifer Johnson: I'm leaning in yes.
- 18:38Karen Shepherd: So a CEO was having a meeting with all his top leaders and he was standing outside his office looking at his notes and his vice president is coming down the hallway and he notices, he stops and he looks down, sees something and then keeps walking and says hello and good morning to me.
- 19:08Karen Shepherd: And he proceeded to say that he'll see him in the boardroom.
- 19:13Karen Shepherd: So, out of curiosity, the CEO goes over to see what he was looking at and it was a paperclip.
- 19:21Karen Shepherd: And he goes to the boardroom, he calls his vice president out and he says while we are meeting today, I want you to clean out your office.
- 19:33Karen Shepherd: Whoa, and he goes why?
- 19:41Karen Shepherd: Because this is a home.
- 20:02Karen Shepherd: And why didn't you pick up the paperclip?
- 20:03Karen Shepherd: And he said you know so no one should ever feel where they are in the organizational chart, that they are too big for their britches, that they can't clean their house.
- 20:07Karen Shepherd: Right, I like that.
- 20:09Karen Shepherd: That's a great analogy.
- 20:10Karen Shepherd: It is one of my favorite lessons learned that I learned right in the beginning, and I recently attended a John Maxwell training and he kept saying the entire four days that I was there, it was nonstop.
- 20:34Karen Shepherd: We live in the United States, yet we are so divided, true, and so in my book I wrote you know an acronym to human, and I say just that, I say it just like it is hearts unite, making aspirations nourish.
- 21:03Karen Shepherd: We should never be divided, we should always be united.
- 21:05Karen Shepherd: We are never in competition, we should always be in collaboration, and that is how we empower each other.
- 21:14Karen Shepherd: I love that.
- 21:15Jennifer Johnson: Your acronym is great and that kind of leads into my next question.
- 21:21Jennifer Johnson: You know, when there is conflict or when there's challenges or setbacks, people's propensity to be motivated, I you know, goes down like oh well, we just just you know this is a setback or this is a challenge.
- 21:40Jennifer Johnson: How can the leaders take that and change that balance back to the positive from the oh I'm you know I'm feeling heavy.
- 21:49Jennifer Johnson: This is, this is just not so great.
- 21:52Jennifer Johnson: How can they change that?
- 21:55Karen Shepherd: The biggest way is to listen, because nine times out of ten, leaders don't want to listen to the problems, they don't want to listen to the issues going around.
- 22:08Karen Shepherd: They push it back on them and they say you deal with it.
- 22:12Karen Shepherd: So I got a lot of lessons learned in my very first HR job, and one of the best lessons I learned was never come to me with a problem, always come to me with a solution, but leaders don't even want to hear that, they don't want to take the time.
- 22:34Karen Shepherd: Why?
- 22:35Karen Shepherd: Why do you think that is Because they have so much on their plate.
- 22:41Karen Shepherd: You know, I mean, god gave us two ears and one mouth, and even in the word heart, you see the word ear.
- 22:53Karen Shepherd: Oh, you are right.
- 22:56Karen Shepherd: Okay, yeah.
- 23:01Jennifer Johnson: I'm looking at her book right now.
- 23:02Karen Shepherd: I'm like oh yeah, you're right, and we have to learn to listen and stay completely focused, because unless you are completely engaged with the person that you are talking with, you're looking at them, you're not thinking about where else you need to be, you're really truly focused, you're not going to hear and the conflict is just going to continue to build and continue to build, because you just don't want to deal with it and you just have to make the time you have to make the time.
- 23:40Jennifer Johnson: And you know, I think a lot of our problems in life in general could be solved by just listening, because people just want to be seen and people want to be heard, and I mean be seen.
- 23:50Jennifer Johnson: But here I am Please listen to me kind of seen.
- 23:54Jennifer Johnson: People just want to be seen and heard and valued, and valued, Seen, valued and heard.
- 24:01Jennifer Johnson: And that goes a long way.
- 24:02Jennifer Johnson: I'm having a conversation with you but, yes, I'm not over here checking on my phone, checking my email, doing 10 other things.
- 24:14Jennifer Johnson: I'm here looking at you, like you said, giving eye contact, letting them know that they matter, because if I'm over here checking my phone or doing something else, I'm sending you that message that I'm only halfway here with you, Right, exactly.
- 24:24Jennifer Johnson: And then why send a message at all?
- 24:25Jennifer Johnson: Because that's worse than sending nothing at all.
- 24:27Karen Shepherd: Right, right, exactly and there are so many ways to show value that you really care about an employee, but you're not going to know what that employee values until you ask them.
- 24:40Karen Shepherd: Because you can't assume that's right, because you know what that means.
- 24:46Jennifer Johnson: It leads back to your beginning of what you were going to call your book.
- 24:49Jennifer Johnson: That's right.
- 24:51Karen Shepherd: Right, that's right.
- 24:52Karen Shepherd: So you really have to be present.
- 24:56Karen Shepherd: I remember a of weeks ago I got some feedback from someone that was watching me talking with someone and go wow, you are just so present.
- 25:09Karen Shepherd: Is there any other way to be?
- 25:12Karen Shepherd: I mean, if someone's talking to me or you have to be present you have to be present.
- 25:20Karen Shepherd: I can't think.
- 25:20Karen Shepherd: Yes, I have a million things on my to-do list right now, but I am definitely having more fun sitting here talking with you, but you know I have a question.
- 25:30Jennifer Johnson: So you talk about being and I know it's not, it still relates back to this but being present, like what can you do?
- 25:37Jennifer Johnson: Is that a practice that you learned, or is it just how you are, how you are, or or how how can we make ourselves more present when we're talking to someone?
- 25:50Karen Shepherd: Well, I don't have an iPhone watch and she's looking at my wrist Is one thing I mean.
- 26:00Karen Shepherd: Technology has consumed our lives when we have to learn to self-care and set our own boundaries and know that this is my time with you and I am not interested in anything else.
- 26:21Karen Shepherd: I don't care about.
- 26:22Karen Shepherd: You know, even if it was at home having dinner with your family, that is dinner with your family.
- 26:29Jennifer Johnson: Sacred time.
- 26:30Karen Shepherd: It is sacred time.
- 26:31Karen Shepherd: Leave the dishes dirty in the sink?
- 26:33Karen Shepherd: Oh God, I can't do that.
- 26:34Karen Shepherd: Who cares?
- 26:34Karen Shepherd: No, yes, you can.
- 26:36Karen Shepherd: You can do them in an hour.
- 26:38Karen Shepherd: They're not going.
- 26:40Karen Shepherd: They're still going to be dirty, but you're not going to get that hour back with your kids.
- 26:44Karen Shepherd: Very true to think of it that way.
- 26:46Karen Shepherd: Okay, I mean, or that special someone maybe all you have is five minutes with someone.
- 26:53Karen Shepherd: Enjoy that five minutes.
- 26:55Karen Shepherd: And who cares?
- 26:56Karen Shepherd: Because I grew up with no cell phones playing in the streets.
- 27:01Karen Shepherd: Going home, when the lights came on, I rode my bike wherever.
- 27:08Karen Shepherd: I have that same mentality.
- 27:12Karen Shepherd: I feel blessed that I grew up in that situation because it left my spirit free, it left my creative mind, it allowed me to have a heart-centered approach.
- 27:27Jennifer Johnson: Who knew, and that's the name of your book Lead with Love.
- 27:30Jennifer Johnson: It has been such a great time having you on our conversation today, thank you for having me.
- 27:37Jennifer Johnson: It's always wonderful.
- 27:38Jennifer Johnson: You are always the brightest smile in the room.
- 27:41Jennifer Johnson: Oh, thank you, I will say that If our listeners would like to reach out to you, how can they do that?
- 27:46Jennifer Johnson: How can they buy your book?
- 27:48Karen Shepherd: Yes, they can either call me, because I am a human optimization, I like the conversation.
- 27:57Karen Shepherd: I am a human optimization, I like the conversation.
- 27:59Karen Shepherd: 239-776-5919.
- 28:02Karen Shepherd: Or you can learn more about me by just going to my website at hrbykarencom, and all my email and phone number and contact information is there, so they can get your book there or on Amazon.
- 28:15Jennifer Johnson: Yes, fabulous.
- 28:16Jennifer Johnson: Thank you again.
- 28:18Jennifer Johnson: Thank you for having me.