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EP 473 Breaking Free from Your Mental Cage: Tools for Personal Growth · Celeste The Therapist

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All right. Hi, let me get on the screen. Hi,
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beautiful people. If you're watching me on the replay, thank
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you so much for watching me. I just
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want to make sure I'm logged in here. And okay, I
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am. All
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right, so if you're watching me on a replay, thank you so much for watching
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me. I appreciate you. Let me get set up
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because, you know, I'm like not always set up
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properly. So yeah, my name is Celeste, I'm a therapist. Hey,
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excuse me, and I come on Wednesdays to
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talk about things. Hey, how are you, Crystal? To
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talk about things that we go through, and hey, P-Love, and
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think about ways that we can work through it. My
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goal behind this is to help you shift the way you think. So these episodes are
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also uploaded on my podcast. So if you're
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like an audio podcast person, this is a pretty cool
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way to go to work, especially if there's traffic, to kind of
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I like to think about what I do as giving doses of medicine on
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how to live life, because a lot of us
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And so today, that's what we're talking about. Actually, we're talking about this
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mental cage that so many people find
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themselves in and unsure, unclear
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how to get out. So when I think about a mental cage,
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I think about the fact that when we were born, we were a blank
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slate, right? We were babies. Over time, things
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happened, right? Whether there was explicitly where you can
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easily identify them. There are some people they can identify, yep, that was abuse
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or that happened, that caused X, Y, and Z. Some people are able
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to identify it very clearly. There are other things that you
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may not be able to identify clear. There's people, when
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I work with them, and they'll say, well, you know, I was never hit, never
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talked down to, certain things like it seemed like things were
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fine on the surface. But then maybe outside of the home, or
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maybe when things happen, some of your self-dialogue
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about the situation starts to change, right? A
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lot of times, we don't realize that some of
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the way that we're framing things can cause our mind
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to start thinking of the fact that maybe we can't do certain things.
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A lot of our limiting beliefs are brought on
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by circumstances, but they're also brought on by the
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way we're framing things. I just want to make sure I'm on
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the mic really quick. And I am not because
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when I edit this and it's not, okay, I'm
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on the mic now. So some of the things that we struggle with and
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the way that we think about things is because of how we frame it. And
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a lot of us haven't been taught, how do I process this
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thing that just happened? You know, sometimes something happens at
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school and you get home and you don't really think about it, but guess
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what? The experience is still there just because that thing that
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happened long ago is no longer happening. doesn't
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mean that your body hasn't calculated it. Your mind, this
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is the amazing thing about the mind, right? It does what it's
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supposed to do, as crazy as it may sound. When something happens,
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let's say the teacher embarrassed you
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and You didn't do well on a test and
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called you out. And maybe it wasn't intentional, but maybe you felt embarrassed
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by it, right? And you start to think that like, maybe
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I'm not a good test taker, right? Because I got, I
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didn't do well on this particular test. And then you start to
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believe that you're not able to do certain things because of that experience.
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It could have been the way the teacher taught. It could have been maybe you have a
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learning disability that was never tapped into, right? And
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so you grow up starting to think that you're not capable of
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certain things, but maybe if you had the right supports, it
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would look differently. And so you're not realizing that
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that incident that happened where you felt embarrassed by the
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situation, how it sits in your spirit and sits in
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your mind. So what is your mind going to do? It's going to help you. So, hey,
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you're about to take a test again. We're not really good at that,
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right? It's not going to go well. And so we start to feel anxious about
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taking a test. Literally, that's what happens to the mind. So
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a lot of these experiences that you may say, but that was 20 years ago, that
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was 10 years ago, Please understand that regardless of
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how long something happened, it can still affect you
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greatly. You'll be surprised even some of the smallest things
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that you may not even think of is happening because
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your mind has that experience. So
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when we start to think that we can separate from
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what's happened, when we try to numb some
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of the things through work through relationships, through
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having more kids, through trying to find somebody that will
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love us, when we start to mitigate, or we
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think we can mitigate some of the pain by some of the things that
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we're doing, it doesn't work. You can never change your
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experience. Your experience is your experience. And so a
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lot of those limiting beliefs, unfortunately, starts to affect
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your self-esteem, your confidence. And how do you move forward? get
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out of your comfort zone when that's happening. So I want to show
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you a diagram. And then I want to talk about, because I think
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people understand what mental cage is. I think
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people understand that when they really think about it, some of the ways that
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they're thinking about things is holding them back. So we're
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going to talk about solutions. How can we work on
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changing that? Because when you think about an actual cage,
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an actual cage, it's really hard to get out of a
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metal cage. And so when I think about
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the mental cage, it's not, we can literally like
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walk out of it, but we need the right tools to do that, right? The
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same thing with a metal cage, you need the right tools to cut through. Without
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the tools, you won't be able to do that. But with the mental cage, I'm
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gonna help you think about the tools that you need to be able to
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break free from what you're experiencing mentally. So
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when you look at this diagram, the comfort zone where
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you feel safe and in control, you know, it's
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going to take some time to get to the growth zone. But
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in order to do that, like this next step, right,
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you're affected by others' opinions. This is the fear zone,
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right? And then this part about finding excuses, you
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know, that's the the mind is amazing. And
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it's easy for us to give ourselves excuses not to do something we
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can try to become a little bit comfortable with not
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going for that promotion, we can become a little bit more comfortable with
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like, not healing in the way that we want to
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heal because we start to give ourselves reasons why it
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can't happen. Let's just use, um, let's just think
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about like weight loss or, um, working out or moving
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your body. We can say, well, I can't afford a gym. Uh,
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so I'm not going to be able to, lose weight, right?
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And so that zone right here, where we're finding excuses, and
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if you've been following me for a while, I'm big on like,
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yeah, you don't have money for a gym, but what can you do, right?
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You can walk in your neighborhood. So I start, one
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of the things that I do is I help people get out of the habit
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of looking at excuses as a reason why
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they can't do something. Acknowledge the barrier, but also look at what
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you can do, right? So this fear zone and
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finding excuses, unfortunately, is very common. And then
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the self-confidence you struggle with. And then we move into
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the learning zone, dealing with new challenges and
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problems, gaining new skills and experiences, and
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expanding your comfort zone. Being able to do that will get
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you into this blue area right here. For people that are listening on
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the audio, I have a visual up. Achieving objectives, you
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start to set new goals, finding your purpose,
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making your dreams a reality, self-confidence and belief. And
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I know people want to skip to here really quick,
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but it's gonna take some stuff to get there. On Instagram,
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Sophia says, some of us don't. No, we are in a
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cage. That is so true. That's actually, you're
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100% right. Some people don't even realize that they're holding themselves
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back because a lot of times we'll look at it, well, it's because
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of this thing that happened 10 years ago is why I can't do
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this thing. And I'm here to tell you that that's not true.
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It may feel like it, It may feel like because your parents
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weren't around. It may feel like because you experienced abuse
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growing up that you're not able or capable of doing certain things. The
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feeling may feel there, but what do we know about feelings is
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that feelings change. Feelings do not stay the same. Um,
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and so my goal and like when I'm talking about
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these things is to help you acknowledge the feeling because I
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get it. They're real, they're real feelings you're experiencing, but
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not allow that feeling to stop you from pushing forward. The
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reason why it feels that way is because remember the mind doesn't
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have concept of time. And so any feeling that
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comes up that mimics some of the past experiences, some of the
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past trauma, some of the past abuse, some of the past experiences,
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anything that mimics it, the fear starts to set in
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because you feel like you're back there. And so your mind wants to
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protect you. And so you have to engage with your thoughts. And
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that's why I'm big on making sure you understand you
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can choose to or not engaging your thoughts, but they're going to
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still happen. And those are the reasons why you might find yourself feeling
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stuck. So let's go into solutions.
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What does me getting out of this zone,
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what is that going to look like? So first,
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identifying the cage. So in these moments,
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your interactions with people, with yourself, consider if
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you're misinterpreting signals from others or if
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you're allowing a situation to drain you. A
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lot of times we do misinterpret situations from others. You
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know why? Because that's our mind trying to protect us,
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right? So let's say I'm always thinking, when
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you have a negative thought process pattern where maybe
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the day went good, but then somebody cut you off, right? And so
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now you're only thinking about, oh my gosh, I can't believe they cut me off. Or
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another example is you had an interaction at work that was negative.
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And then after work, you're calling your coworker about it, you're talking about
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it, you're getting yourself riled up. Besides that interaction at
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work, everything else was fine. You are literally
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training your brain to commiserate and complain and
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feel down about work. That's what happens, right? And
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so sometimes you're misinterpreting your life based off of
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only looking at the negative things and not bringing in the positive to
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your life. So in that scenario that
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I just gave, when you think about it, you're actually allowing a
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situation to drain you because now you're at home. And let's
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say that it was your boss that you had that interaction with.
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Your boss is at home eating dinner with their family. while you
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are feeling miserable about the thing that happened at work, right?
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So just be mindful of that is to ask yourself, is
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this something that I'm allowing to drain me? Am
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I misinterpreting it? Just because somebody texts
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and put an explanation mark, does that mean that they're mad at me? Right?
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Stop telling yourself stories about things. A lot of times when
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you don't have the information, you don't realize it, but you start filling
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in the blank with stories that aren't true. Right? So asking
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yourself, like, where is the evidence is something that's important to do.
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The next thing I want you to think about is taking responsibility.
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So asking yourself why you did something, what could
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have been done differently, and then take responsibility for your
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actions. This is hard to do. Let's
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say you've been harmed. Let's say you realize
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your friend screams at you or takes advantage of
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you, or they're always asking you to be the person that
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drives. Let's just use that example. You
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can sit there and say, why are they always asking me to drive?
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Why do they only ask me? because you always say yes,
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right? But you're thinking, like, I would actually
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switch up. I wouldn't make my friend drive all the time. But
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they're not you, right? And so, yeah, it does suck that
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they're not taking your needs
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into consideration. Or why do they always ask me to watch their
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kids? And then you feel bad for saying no, so you say yes
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all the time. When you think about those scenarios,
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you have to take responsibility for what you allow, right?
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And it's not that you did anything wrong, but when you start
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taking responsibility on what you choose to do and not do, when
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you take responsibility of what you say yes to and
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not, and granted, I understand saying no could be hard to
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do, but understand like when you're constantly saying yes to
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everyone else, you're essentially saying no to yourself, right?
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And doing that, it's not like self-love. You're not taking care
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of yourself when you do that. So we said, one,
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identify the cage. Two, we said, take responsibility. Three,
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practice awareness. Observe your thoughts without believing
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them. A
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lot of people, you don't want to be still. You don't want
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to be with your thoughts. A
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lot of people struggle with being with their thoughts because it feels negative.
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It feels really hard. So you know what they do? Distract, distract, distract.
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Sometimes you don't even realize that you're distracting. If you
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start working on practicing self-awareness, observing
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your thoughts, you'll be able to actually reframe them
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and change what they're saying, right? I
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can't pass this test. Actually, I can pass this test because I'm
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going to start studying, right? I'm going to reframe that. And
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then what's going to happen is my mind will start to
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have a new narrative. If I don't change the
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way I'm thinking about things and what I'm saying to myself, I'm
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not going to give my mind a new narrative. So you give your mind a
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new narrative by reframing it. But how could you reframe your
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thoughts if you're not engaging with them? They're going to come. They're
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going to come from the past experiences that may mimic something in
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the present, right? So if you want to
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really work on getting out that mental cage that you're noticing is
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happening, you're really going to have to work on engaging
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in the thoughts. And sometimes you could feel sad about it. You can grieve
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about it, where you start to think, like, I can't believe I'm
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talking to myself like this. When I work with people and
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they say certain things and it's negative, and I
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repeat it back, they actually feel really sad. And
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I'll say things like, would you say that to your daughter, to your niece? And they
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get really emotional. So a lot of times, they're not
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even aware that it's happening, because it's not happening on
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a conscious level. So really be mindful of
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that. The next thing that
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we're going to think about as we are practicing awareness
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is meditation. I've talked about meditation different
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times on the podcast. And last time
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when we talked about it here, I said, remember
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that as you're meditating, there's no right or wrong way to do it.
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But when you think about meditation, especially if you're trying to practice awareness,
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it can help free you from mental blocks like anxiety, fear,
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uncertainty. You can sit comfortably and allow thoughts
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to pass through your mind without engaging in them. So,
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you know, as you're listening to this or watching this, if you're somebody that
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struggles with being still and it feels hard and
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starting feels hard, I want you to really think about your goals, especially
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if you struggle with a lot of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty. And let's face
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it, so much is happening in the world that it's easy to
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get consumed by the world, right? And the
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circumstances that are going on, that a lot of it that we can't change, And
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so to live your life day to day in fear, to live your life day to day
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with so much uncertainty is a hard way to operate
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in life. And so if you want to work on practicing this
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awareness that I'm talking about, I really want you to think about
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using meditation as a resource. And YouTube
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has plenty of meditations. And if you've never done it
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before, You can even just start with like a two-minute breathing
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circle meditation. I'm going to pull one up really quick just
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so you can have an idea. So I'm going to type in breathing
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circle two minutes. We're not going to do the full two minutes, but I
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do want you to understand what
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it. So let me change
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this and share
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screen. All right, so we're
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going. So if you see this breathing circle, this
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is a great way to just
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breathe in and breathe out. And
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if you go on YouTube and type in breathing circle for two
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minutes, this is a great way to start with just learning
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how to be still. Stop sharing. A
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great way to learn how to just work on being still. Because it
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can be draining. going
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on. And you know, when you get ready for bed, you're wondering why you can't
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sleep. It's because your mind is looking for answers, right?
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It's just going, going, going. Donald says,
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don't be consumed by the world and don't let the world consume you. Yes,
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so important. And, you know, when you think about
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society, it's so chaotic. And when I talk about being intentional, the
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reason why it's powerful and important to be intentional is because if
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you choose not to be intentional about what you're exposing your mind to,
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that means you're choosing for society to lead your mind. And
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do you really want society to lead your mind? I don't,
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right? If you do, then continue to go with that choice. But 10 times
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out of 10, people will say, no, they don't want to be consumed by the world. The
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next step is conquering your emotions. While
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you can't eliminate negative emotions, even though I don't like saying negative, I
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know sometimes you look at some of those hard ones as negative, right? You
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can't eliminate those emotions entirely, but
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you can minimize how they have an effect on you.
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A lot of times we are so consumed by our emotions, and
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it feels impossible to work on
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change. One way to work on that is grabbing yourself
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a feelings wheel. This is a feelings wheel from an organization called BEAM,
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really great organization. But if you Google feelings
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wheel, that way you can start
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working on naming what you are going through. It's hard
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to conquer something if you can't even identify what it is that
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you're feeling. And a lot of times, especially kids
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too, let me just pull up this kids emotion chart. I did it last week, but I
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always, I want to help parents so they can feel like they have the tools
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to work with their kids too. They have, this is another example on
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feelings. Well, Being able to equip
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kids with the knowledge of what they're feeling is powerful. We
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are adults and we don't even understand our feelings sometimes.
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So of course the kids are gonna be struggling too, right? And
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so if you can work on conquering your emotions so they're not controlling you,
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right? Cause we allow our emotions to control us. If you can work
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on doing that, life starts to look differently because you're
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not gonna be so consumed by it. Two more things. Expand
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your horizons. This is something that can be really challenging and
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hard, and I understand. But trying new things are
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uncomfortable at first. Eventually, it becomes easier. I'm
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like the queen of this specific thing.
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When I tell you I wanted to get a state job, they didn't hire me. But
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I wanted to get a state job and call myself retiring. And
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when life started to take a different direction, and I realized I wasn't equipped
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to be in spaces where, you
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know, I'm an advocator, that people don't want that when you're in high positions.
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They just want you to be, Yes, ma'am. No, ma'am. I
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started this practice and then I started this podcast and
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I wrote two books, published two books. Now
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I'm starting a group practice. Literally all those things I just named, even
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though people just see the finished product or see it being come
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out, you just see that part. You don't see the other parts, this
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part right here, the learning zone and
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the challenges, right? Because I continue
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to challenge myself, right? I start to
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gain confidence and some of the things that I've started I've changed
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or some of the things that I've tried on this journey, this
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entrepreneurship journey didn't work out. I went back to the
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drawing board. I learned from that experience. Right?
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So a lot of times, you struggle with trying
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new things, because maybe when you tried something years ago,
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it didn't work out. And your thought, because that's what happened. Your
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thoughts would be like, oh, Celeste, you really think you could do that? You really think you could be a therapist? You
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really think you can host a podcast? You know what I mean? Let's
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say that you start a podcast. When I first started coming
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on video years ago, when there was a platform called
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Periscope, there were people. in here that had been
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following me since those days. I used to come on five
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days a week. and talk about a subject like I'm doing now,
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and then ways to deal with it. I used to do that. I said, OK, my
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goal is I want to help people work on healing. Therapy
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is not cheap. It's expensive. Some of
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the tools that can help is not easy to get to. And
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when I first started, it wasn't like people came into my lives. But
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I was like, OK, it's cool. I'm going to be consistent. Little
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by little, people started coming in. boom, boom, boom, to the point where
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it was like normal. People was looking forward to this 12 o'clock,
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five days a week, literally. And then Fridays, I
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would allow people to ask questions. It was a free-flowing thing, right? I
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was able to build that. But when I was starting, before I pressed play
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or record or whatever on the video,
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my stomach would drop. It would be scary, right? If
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I said, oh, well, nobody came on day one, If
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I said, nobody came on day one, and then the thoughts go in
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like, do you think you could do this? And if I don't challenge that thought
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and be like, yeah, I could do this. I just got to keep going. If
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you build it, they will come. I'm literally answering those
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negative thoughts. That's literally what you have to do. But
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again, you're not taught. Sometimes you don't even realize other people are in
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the same cycle. You think you're alone. And then you start to
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see other people doing stuff. not realizing that they're
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having the same experiences that you're having. The difference is
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that we're challenging those thoughts. I'm not allowing
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it to be a system that
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just has free reign in my mind. I'm not allowing thoughts
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to just flow. I'm definitely engaging in
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them. I have the same negative thoughts you have, but
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I don't allow it to have dominion in my life, right? That's the
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difference. We really have to work on not
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allowing those negative thoughts to have dominion in our
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life. So expanding your horizons. The
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last thing is breaking through limiting belief. So these
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are some common statements that I hear people say, well, I'm too lazy to
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do that, or it's not possible. I
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also hear people saying, well, I'm just not a consistent person. OK,
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you're claiming not being consistent. You're claiming that you're
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too lazy. You're claiming that it's impossible. Guess
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what your mind is doing. Your mind is going at what you're telling
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it. You're telling your mind you're lazy. You're telling your mind it's not possible.
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Your mind's not going to help you look for the possibilities. I started
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this podcast in 2018. When
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people were like, everybody has a podcast. Do you really want to do that? When I
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opened my practice, do you really want to do that? You got this like salary job
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with benefits. Do you really want to do that? And
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so I could have let those thoughts from people or infiltrate my
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spirit and then not have done it, right?
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I would have never known the possibilities. And so as you're thinking
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about these limiting beliefs, you have
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to acknowledge that you're having them and you have to actually work
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on reframing them. If you don't reframe them, what's
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going to happen? Your mind is doing what it's designed to do. it's designed
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to go at the direction that you're taking it. So I'm too
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lazy. So I'm going to show ways that I could continue being lazy.
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If it's like, I'm not lazy, I'm powerful, I can do all
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things, you know, and if we start naming it
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that way, my mind's going to start to show me the ways that I can
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make things happen. Someone says, wow,
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I came in right on time. I struggle really bad with
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self-sabotage and feel like I'm on a hamster wheel daily.
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Yeah, like literally in a cage daily. And like Sophia
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said earlier, a lot of times you don't even realize it's you
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holding yourself back because your mind will show you other ways that it's holding
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back. Yes, you need to speak positive to yourself always. There's power
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in the tongue. Yes, so important. So
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sometimes when you're saying things and you may not realize the way you're
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saying it, your mind is listening. Your mind is literally listening
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to everything. I seen a Five Guys
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shirt on somebody, and all of a sudden, I wanted a burger. In
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that moment, I knew that my craving for the burger came from
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what I saw. So if my mind is that powerful where something
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as simple as an advertisement on somebody's shirt can
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make me crave a burger, imagine what else can happen when
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we're watching these things, when we're scrolling on social media. Remember,
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a society, especially if you live in America, It wants you
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to spend money. It wants you to feel like you're not enough, right? I
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found out that the TikTok in China and America looks
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different. The stuff that they allow that we see here, they
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don't see there, right? Because they understand the power of the mind. And
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so we don't understand that we can actually work
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on changing the way our mind is operating by changing what
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we expose it to. It's not just people in our lives,
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because a lot of times we say, oh, who's in your tribe? And
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that's a big thing. People are a big factor. But also, it's
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what we are using with our time. How are we
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utilizing our time? A lot of us are just in
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a fog, right? We go to work, we go through the motions, right? We're surviving,
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right? Most people are just surviving life. A lot
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of people aren't living life. But in order to work on living life,
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you actually have to engage in something, teach yourself something new.
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I know a lot about mental health. If somebody asks me to
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speak, these things that I do here on Wednesdays, Like
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10 minutes before I'll like just jot stuff down and create these slides.
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Like this is nothing for me. I know this stuff like the back of my hand. Just
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because I know it doesn't mean I don't still allow it to infiltrate my spirit.
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I'm still listening to positive motivational videos. I'm still reading.
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I'm still learning. I know a lot, but I'll never
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stop learning because I understand the society that I'm in. If
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I stop learning just because I know this stuff, I can easily stop
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practicing it, regardless of what you know. There's a lot of
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people that know a lot of things. They're very smart, but they make
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very poor choices. So it's not about the knowledge
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that I have that keeps me at a space of feeling peace. It's
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literally the way that I engage in life. I
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needed this today. Yeah, you're welcome, Crystal. It's nice seeing you. So
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I hope this was helpful. I hope this makes sense. Answer
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challenge, negative thoughts, that's something to put into practice. Yes.
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Yes, Christy, answer. the thought challenge it. I
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always tell people our mind is
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just looking for answers. Literally, I don't want to minimize it
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to be like, oh, it's just looking for answers. But I really try to make things very
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simple and easily digestible so that it doesn't feel complicated.
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People are always selling things around wellness. And it
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feels like, oh, I got to get that in order to start this process. When
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I buy Celeste's journal, you could buy my journal, but I'm using
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my journal as an example. If I buy Celeste's journal, then
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I'm going to be able to do X, Y, and Z. The journal is just one tool that
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I have that you can use. It's more than
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just the journal, right? It's the daily practicing of
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it, right? And so if we can work on practicing, like
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what are we thinking and challenging those thoughts
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because they're not real, that's important. Consistent, constant
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practice daily. Yes. So yes, trailblazing
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mom. So constant practice daily, right?
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So if you can, you know, the same way you're hungry, And
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you go to the refrigerator. This is the last thing I'll say. You're
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hungry. You go to the refrigerator because your stomach is hungry. Guess
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what's happening? Most of our spirits are hungry. Our spirits are
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wanting more. They don't want this junk. They don't want this crap. When
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you eat crap, don't you feel like crap when you eat crap? Don't
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get me wrong. I have a really healthy way of eating. But sometimes, I
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want that burger. I just told y'all. I see the burger advertisement. I
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want the burger. I want the cake. And I enjoy it.
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But also, I feel it. I could feel it. I could feel the heaviness. Literally,
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we are consuming so much of society. We're
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consuming so much negative content. Of
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course, our spirit is starving, right? And so we got to give
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it a new narrative. So give your mind a new narrative. If you want to break free
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from that cage that you're feeling and experiencing, give your
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mind a new narrative. So thank you so much. If you're not following me, follow me.
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