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Go Ahead And Tik Tok Just Be Safer With Cathy Pedrayes · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: your exploration. Hi, how are you doing today? Kathy?
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  Speaker 2: How are you?
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely? Very excited to share a conversation with you. But
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  Speaker 1: right away I want to let I want listeners to
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  Speaker 1: know that as much as we're going to talk about
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  Speaker 1: internet safety for kids, I think there's a lot of
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  Speaker 1: blue haired people that need to be listening to this
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  Speaker 1: as well, because they're taking i mean directing like kids
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  Speaker 1: on the way we all are and we need you. Kathy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say it's funny because.
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  Speaker 2: My signature color is blue. I'm wearing blue right now.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, you're right, you're right, there's definitely you know, we
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  Speaker 3: have to understand that this is.
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  Speaker 2: A digital or digital lives, right, and so we want to.
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  Speaker 3: Present ourselves in a certain way.
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  Speaker 2: We want to make sure that we're following all the
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  Speaker 2: safety test steps.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it's not an open world, it's it's something
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  Speaker 3: that we kind of need the training wheels on. And
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  Speaker 3: I think maybe you mentioned some adults that might need
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  Speaker 3: some training wheels too.
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  Speaker 2: We all do, We all do well.
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  Speaker 1: We all do only because there's a lot of con
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  Speaker 1: artists out there that know how to handle every age group,
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  Speaker 1: and especially with the older adults in the way of
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  Speaker 1: the they'll sit there and they'll try to come over
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  Speaker 1: and they'll they'll get money orders, and I'll say, do
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  Speaker 1: you know who you're sitting this to? Yeah? Do you
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  Speaker 1: know that person? No, you ain't getting this money order?
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  Speaker 1: And see you see what I mean. That's what I
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  Speaker 1: have to deal with on my end for these uneducated people.
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  Speaker 1: For the internet and little ones are the same way.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what this is about?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 1: I do not. You're not going then, and we've got
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  Speaker 1: we've got to be able to stand together on this.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I think I think you'd love my account
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  Speaker 3: because I talk about this stuff every single day. But
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  Speaker 3: one way that you can block those kind of, you know,
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  Speaker 3: unauthorized access kind of situations is by doing a security
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  Speaker 3: checkup on your account.
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  Speaker 2: So right now, it's true it's Internet.
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  Speaker 3: Safety Month, and this is really a good time to
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  Speaker 3: review our settings right and do the check in when
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  Speaker 3: it comes to all of our accounts, but specifically with TikTok,
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  Speaker 3: since you know that's what I was focusing on today.
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  Speaker 2: You can do a security checkup. And basically, so what I've.
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  Speaker 3: Done for this month is I've launched the Safety Starter
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  Speaker 3: pack for families, and the first step within that is
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  Speaker 3: the security checkup, so that would include updating your apps,
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  Speaker 3: but also within TikTok.
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  Speaker 2: There are settings and again a.
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  Speaker 3: Lot of this applies to other places as well, but
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  Speaker 3: where you can do it'll prompt you to do a
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  Speaker 3: security checkup, which will include things such as enabling two
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  Speaker 3: factor authentication or sometimes it's called multi factor authentication.
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  Speaker 2: That blocks a lot of those fishing.
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  Speaker 3: Attempts that you're referring to, because then you know it
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  Speaker 3: has a second verification. So even if your password if
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  Speaker 3: you accidentally shared it with someone, it would be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: well do you have the second password?
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't, And so you know that helps with that.
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  Speaker 3: And also you can review unauthorized that access to the account,
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  Speaker 3: like maybe you logged into a device and you forgot.
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  Speaker 2: That's the place where.
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  Speaker 3: You would do that in the in the security checklist.
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  Speaker 3: And this is all in your privacy and settings. And
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  Speaker 3: then the next step is security permissions and that's where
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  Speaker 3: you'll find all of it. It's quite a few, I
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  Speaker 3: want to say, like eight different steps to help secure
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  Speaker 3: the accounts for yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And again you know for families as well.
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  Speaker 1: And moms and dads. You need to understand that I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what goes on inside that smartphone to their computer,
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  Speaker 1: but those settings will change without you knowing it. You've
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  Speaker 1: got to make that at least a monthly thing to
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  Speaker 1: get in there and check out those settings.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes you want the settings to change, right. So one
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  Speaker 3: of the things that I always encourage parents to set
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  Speaker 3: up is a family pairing tool. So this is how
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  Speaker 3: you do the parental controls within TikTok.
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  Speaker 2: And if TikTok.
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  Speaker 3: Has fifty safety and privacy settings, automatically built into the app.
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  Speaker 3: It's by default when you set up a teen account,
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  Speaker 3: which is great, but to change. So one example might
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  Speaker 3: be screen time. You know, maybe during the week the
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  Speaker 3: screen time is a little bit different than on the weekend,
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  Speaker 3: or maybe at thirteen the screen time is a little
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  Speaker 3: bit different than sixteen or eighteen. Every family is different,
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  Speaker 3: but in the Family Pairing Tool is how you would
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  Speaker 3: be able.
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  Speaker 2: To customize that.
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  Speaker 3: You can also customize the content they're seeing. You can
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  Speaker 3: block hashtag so if there's certain things you're like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: this isn't right for you, this doesn't align with our
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  Speaker 3: family values, or you're too young for this topic, wait
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  Speaker 3: till you're this age, or you know, whatever it is.
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  Speaker 3: That's where you can adjust all of that. And I
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  Speaker 3: think you know, as you kind of mentioned, it's something
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  Speaker 3: that progressively changes. You know, the settings for a thirteen
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  Speaker 3: year old might be very different than an eighteen year
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  Speaker 3: old who's going off to college or you know, experiencing
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  Speaker 3: different things now they're an adult. So you know, those
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  Speaker 3: are just different things that families can adjust over time.
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  Speaker 3: But the Family Pairing Tool is the starting point.
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  Speaker 1: Please please, please don't move. There's more with Kathy Pedreas
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  Speaker 1: right around the corner. Hey, thanks for coming back to
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  Speaker 1: the conversation. We're talking Internet safety with Kathy Pedreas. We
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  Speaker 1: all love TikTok. I love sitting there. I am entertained
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  Speaker 1: by TikTok. I gotta have my TikTok because it gives
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  Speaker 1: me content to talk about. And the thing about it is, though,
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  Speaker 1: is that it does make me cringe though when I
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  Speaker 1: see the little ones watching a video, and that's exactly
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  Speaker 1: what I want to do, is I want to go
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  Speaker 1: to those settings. And I do. And that's why we
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  Speaker 1: need people like you, Kathy teaming up with TikTok to say, hey, look,
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  Speaker 1: we can all enjoy this moment. It is our Beatles
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  Speaker 1: moment for this generation.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that.
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  Speaker 3: I've never heard that analogy, but you're right, it has
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  Speaker 3: changed so much. I mean, like you, obviously, I love TikTok,
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  Speaker 3: But if I think of Eve, the things I purchased,
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  Speaker 3: the things, the trend, the music.
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  Speaker 2: I listen to the things I've learned.
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  Speaker 3: Even by the way, even as a parent, the way
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  Speaker 3: I've been exposed to new theories and new information and
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  Speaker 3: new things that I've implemented.
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  Speaker 2: In my own home. That has made my parenting easier.
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  Speaker 2: It has all come from TikTok.
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  Speaker 3: So you're right, there's a lot of just great content,
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  Speaker 3: but then there's you know, the scams or things that
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  Speaker 3: you're like, well, this doesn't really align. I don't really
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  Speaker 3: want you going down this rabbit hole or whatever it is.
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  Speaker 3: And so it really is an ongoing conversation. The parental controls,
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  Speaker 3: which are called family pairing in TikTok is a really
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  Speaker 3: great place to adjust that. But then the conversation part
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  Speaker 3: is I know something also that you know parents may
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  Speaker 3: struggle with. They don't know where to start, and so
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  Speaker 3: TikTok also has a guardian's guide and you can use
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  Speaker 3: this again across the internet. But you know, we're talking
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  Speaker 3: specifically about TikTok. But what I like about it is
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  Speaker 3: that they they had input from teenagers.
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  Speaker 2: As well as input parents.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, both, So it really was too you know, two
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  Speaker 3: different sides of the conversation here saying, Hey, what do
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  Speaker 3: we need to hear from our parents? What do we
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  Speaker 3: need to hear from our teams, Because you know, there's
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  Speaker 3: a lot that our teens can teach us about being online,
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  Speaker 3: and then there's a lot that we can teach our
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  Speaker 3: teens about you know, just general world safety. It's what
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  Speaker 3: I want I think parents to really understand is that
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  Speaker 3: sometimes it feels daunting and overwhelming. It's really not. You
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  Speaker 3: have the skill set to do this. Parenting stays. You know,
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  Speaker 3: things may change, the technology may change, but your skill
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  Speaker 3: set as a parent really remains.
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  Speaker 2: Consistent, and so you have the skills. There's tools that
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  Speaker 2: can help you.
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  Speaker 3: But then also be open to learning from our teams
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  Speaker 3: because you know they're spending maybe more time on these apps.
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  Speaker 3: They hear their friends talking about things, and so they
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  Speaker 3: can teach us a lot too.
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  Speaker 1: See, I have no problem sitting down with my grandkids
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  Speaker 1: and saying, you're going to play the part of me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be you. I'm on TikTok. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to watch this. Now, you tell me if I'm watching
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  Speaker 1: a good one or a bad one for my age.
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  Speaker 1: In other words, i am I'm in their shoes, and
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  Speaker 1: it really does build up their understanding of where I'm
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  Speaker 1: coming from and that I'm not being a total butt
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  Speaker 1: heead with grumpy old man syndrome, that I really do
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  Speaker 1: care about what they're doing on TikTok. You can watch it,
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  Speaker 1: but let's make sure it's safe.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that perspective of I care, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm not trying to you know, take this away or
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  Speaker 3: you know, control or block or you know, all of
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  Speaker 3: these things. I do this because I care, And I
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  Speaker 3: think that starting from that perspective of this is from love,
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  Speaker 3: This is from caring and I and you can start
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  Speaker 3: this very young, but you know, and I'm looking out
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  Speaker 3: for you because I want you to be a responsible
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  Speaker 3: digital adult in the future and I want you to
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  Speaker 3: be able to manage you know, I have the training
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  Speaker 3: wheels right on right now, but we're going to graduate
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  Speaker 3: from the training wheels. And so how do we you know,
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  Speaker 3: establish as a family? What is the next step? When
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  Speaker 3: do you get a little bit more freedom? What happens
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  Speaker 3: if you abuse that freedom? What do you think is
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  Speaker 3: an appropriate you know consequence? And that's something that you
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  Speaker 3: can discuss as a family so that way, you know,
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  Speaker 3: there's no surprises.
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  Speaker 2: And also you know, like an appropriate.
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  Speaker 3: Consequence, you know, like what's what's a relative to the
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  Speaker 3: you know, like say you don't want your kid saying
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  Speaker 3: a curse word or something like that. A curse word,
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  Speaker 3: like is that a prompt to completely take away the phone,
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  Speaker 3: or is there some other kind of.
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  Speaker 2: Thing that you can do to, you know, give a
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  Speaker 2: consequence to that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, my consequence is you're gonna think I'm really weird here,
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  Speaker 1: and I know we're losing out on time here. But
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  Speaker 1: I'll sit there and I'll say, here's the consequence. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna punish you. You're just gonna sit down and
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation with a professional interviewer. That means I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to sit down and ask him real damn questions
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  Speaker 1: with you, kid, And and they go, no, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want that, dude, I don't want that. Okay, then you
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  Speaker 1: got to play by the rules, and I love that
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  Speaker 1: because we can keep that relationship growing. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: them to you to push a TikTok away because oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, my grandfather's upset about this. No, that's what
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  Speaker 1: we love about you, Kathy. You're making it safe.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm where they are right like I'm I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I started on TikTok early.
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  Speaker 2: When it was really just teams and the adult kind
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  Speaker 2: of died on.
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  Speaker 3: But from the beginning, you know, you meet them where
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  Speaker 3: they are, and so I create content that parents approve of.
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  Speaker 3: I always think about that, but you know, content that
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  Speaker 3: just reminds people every single day like this is not
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  Speaker 3: a big, scary, fearful you know whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Safety is fun. Online safety is fun.
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  Speaker 3: This is like our second world, right, we have our
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  Speaker 3: real world and we have.
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  Speaker 2: Our world and I and I'm very excited by it.
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  Speaker 3: And so yeah, I try to really, you know, just
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  Speaker 3: instill daily.
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  Speaker 2: Do the security checkups. Parents.
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  Speaker 3: Those family pairing tools are you know important because sometimes
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  Speaker 3: we think, oh, yeah, I'm gonna do that tomorrow, and
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  Speaker 3: then tomorrow never comes, right, So and then have those conversations,
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  Speaker 3: talk about it every day.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, you got to come back to this show anytime
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  Speaker 1: in the future. Internet safety is every day, So you
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  Speaker 1: come back anytime you want to. Okay, all right, thank
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  Speaker 1: you brilliant today.